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excapethematrix · 6 years

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“Your Behavior Diminishes Your Message”

This past Thursday night was the season finale of Braxton Family Values and we saw the conclusion of their intense family therapy session with Iyanla Vanzant. Over the years the sisters have had squabbles, like most siblings do, but they can never seem to get on a path of true growth and mature communication. We’ve watched them to go counseling multiple times on this show and even go to Bishop TD Jakes for help, but nothing seemed to quite stick. They often say that they’re trying to get back to “where they were,” but after watching the show for years, I wonder how successful their communication was before their issues with each other grew. This time the sisters called on the help of Iyanla to help them, but not everyone was prepared for her brash and in your face type of counseling.

It is important to note that for this particular family, a lot of their communication problems stem from their parents. This is true for many of us, whether we want to admit it or not. A lot of our parents didn’t have the necessary tools or methods to teach us about a number of different things. And it doesn’t make them bad people if they didn’t know. They just didn’t know. No one taught them those skill sets. It’s not to excuse their behavior, or even the behavior we learn from them because at a certain point there has to be accountability across the board. These women, for example, are all over forty years old, and not saying that age guarantees you will be smarter or wiser, but along the way of living you should gain certain tools. A lot of adults still communicate or behave as children – and not diminishing their feelings or their points of view, but the fact that they haven’t matured their ways of thinking is a problem. They can’t handle disagreements without yelling. A dissenting opinion is act attack on their character. Every time someone disagrees or shares their feelings they’re starting an argument. How often do we encounter people that do these things? How often does that infuriate and enrage us that they haven’t learned the communication skills that we have? But, how many of us are these people? Or how many of us don’t use these moments with others to try to show them a better way? Is that even our job?

The Braxtons have and will always be entertaining, at least to me, but we should all remember that one person cannot fix your life. And it shouldn’t be their job to. It’s up to each and every one of us to do our own work towards our own healing. Iyanla can only give them the tools, which she openly states, that the real work begins after she leaves. It’s up to them whether or not they apply they lessons, but for us the viewers, after we finish live-tweeting and discussing with our friends, are we making the steps towards being and doing better? We all have things we haven’t fully gotten over. We all have things that we’ve been afraid to deal with, but what would our lives look like if we confronted those things and attained true peace? Iyanla told Tamar Braxton that “her behavior diminishes her message.” How many of us act out without realizing that we’re hiding our insecurities? How many of us are loud and in your face because we feel like we have to be defensive? When we will tell that little boy or girl inside of us that we don’t have to protect them anymore because they’ve survived? Healing isn’t easy. And it’s not meant to be, but it’s necessary.

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scorpiyogi · 6 years

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A WORD! On Thursdays episode of @thspodcast, @justcallmeotis brought you another awesometastic episode of #cultureofpop. This week he gives his thoughts on the latest episode of @insecurehbo, and he wants to challenge the response from some of its viewers. Where do you stand Misfits? Check out this clip, then click on the link in our bio to get Healed. ******************** Let’s Get Healed Walk with us on social media: THS: - Instagram: @thspodcast - Twitter: @_thspodcast Sensei Raven: - Instagram: @scorpiyogi - Twitter: @scorpiyogi Brandon Harris-Williams: - Instagram: @justcallmeotis - Twitter: @justcallmeotis Subscribe, Write Reviews, Like and Share this episode on: - www.thspodcast.com - SoundCloud - Apple Podcast - Google Play Music - Stitcher - OverCast - YouTube #LetsGetHealed #ImHealing #TheHealingSpace #TheHealingSpacePodcast #THSPodcast #Podcast #TheLoveMovement #Podcastersofinstagram #RavolutionMultimedia #Wellness #Healing #MentalHealth #MentalHealthPodcast #PopCulture #CreatorsofColor #Entertainment #Blackpodcast #BlackQueerPodcast #Meditation #Yoga #PODSbyQPOC #Podsincolor #ApodConnectionATL (at Atlanta, Georgia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BntIS3EB6JC/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=3t8dobofpjth

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scorpiyogi · 6 years

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On Thursdays episode of @thspodcast, @justcallmeotis brought you another awesometastic episode of #cultureofpop. This week he covers entertainment, but also gives insight into some things that matter to him. We’ve all been here before. Check out this clip, then click on the link in our bio to get Healed. ******************** Let’s Get Healed Walk with us on social media: THS: - Instagram: @thspodcast - Twitter: @_thspodcast Sensei Raven: - Instagram: @scorpiyogi - Twitter: @scorpiyogi Brandon Harris-Williams: - Instagram: @justcallmeotis - Twitter: @justcallmeotis Subscribe, Write Reviews, Like and Share this episode on: - www.thspodcast.com - SoundCloud - Apple Podcast - Google Play Music - Stitcher - OverCast - YouTube #LetsGetHealed #ImHealing #TheHealingSpace #TheHealingSpacePodcast #THSPodcast #Podcast #TheLoveMovement #Podcastersofinstagram #RavolutionMultimedia #Wellness #Healing #MentalHealth #MentalHealthPodcast #PopCulture #CreatorsofColor #Entertainment #Blackpodcast #BlackQueerPodcast #Meditation #Yoga #PODSbyQPOC #Podsincolor #ApodConnectionATL (at Atlanta, Georgia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BntIASNh63D/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=178we8d92pfo6

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scorpiyogi · 6 years

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On Thursdays episode of @thspodcast, @justcallmeotis brought you another awesometastic episode of #cultureofpop. This week he talked about The Bobby Brown two night event on BET. Check out this clip, then click on the link in our bio to get Healed. ******************** Let’s Get Healed Walk with us on social media: THS: - Instagram: @thspodcast - Twitter: @_thspodcast Sensei Raven: - Instagram: @scorpiyogi - Twitter: @scorpiyogi Brandon Harris-Williams: - Instagram: @justcallmeotis - Twitter: @justcallmeotis Subscribe, Write Reviews, Like and Share this episode on: - www.thspodcast.com - SoundCloud - Apple Podcast - Google Play Music - Stitcher - OverCast - YouTube #LetsGetHealed #ImHealing #TheHealingSpace #TheHealingSpacePodcast #THSPodcast #Podcast #TheLoveMovement #Podcastersofinstagram #RavolutionMultimedia #Wellness #Healing #MentalHealth #MentalHealthPodcast #PopCulture #CreatorsofColor #Entertainment #Blackpodcast #BlackQueerPodcast #Meditation #Yoga #PODSbyQPOC #Podsincolor #ApodConnectionATL (at Atlanta, Georgia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BntHkaHBsSF/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=mb45s4fsgd9k

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