#complaints dept

[donnerpartyofone]

We can all agree that pedestalizing people is bad for various obvious reasons, but I think a lesser-discussed subtext of this behavior is the implication that the pedestalized person gains caretaking responsibility as a natural consequence of their alleged superiority. Put differently: If you get turned into Superman, it becomes your job to save people.

I have a dear old friend who has a bad habit of idealizing people. It starts out as sweet and flattering, then it becomes kind of overbearing--any kind of distorted perception of oneself becomes burdensome even if it's positive--and then eventually she starts making noises to the tune of "Help me Obi-Wan Kenobi, you're my only hope!" Like if you accept that you're her hero, the expectation is that you have to do what a hero does, and suddenly you have all these chores and favors and stuff lined up that are not really great for the friendship. In the case of my friend the behavior is not consciously manipulative; anyone will tell you that she's not, like, a bad person. She's just deep into this idea that somewhere out there is someone who can fix all her problems for her, she's really not into resolving things on her own. She's a classic self-help addict (could use more emphasis on the "self" part imho) and, hilariously, she has been "fired" by more than one phone psychic who she wouldn't stop calling. Like those people chose to stop taking her money in order to push her out of the proverbial nest. And of course, like a lot of people with this disposition, she doesn't actually take the advice she's given, just does whatever she wants instead...and then comes back in short order to ask for more advice.

Perhaps ironically, she is a very talented and energetic person who actually CAN do a lot on her own, and a few years ago she started writing a fun, quirky, topical book that we all agreed was a great idea and might actually make money. In a moment of epic stupidity, I offered to give her "friendly feedback" whenever she wanted a reader. Soon I was embroiled in a weeks-long argument about how she could pay me even though I didn't want money, and then when I named a price she couldn't pay it, and if I lowballed her she'd say that was "unfair" to me and my supposedly valuable services, and eventually I had to have this like meeting with her at a neutral location that was mediated by her ex-girlfriend to find some kind of rational end to the conversation. That's how I became her editor, even though as I frequently and forcefully reminded her I am most certainly not an editor and have none of the necessary skills or education other than the ability to read; all I ever offered was the "friendly feedback" thing and suddenly I wound up in this nightmare business relationship that was predicated on her delusions about how I'm the smartest bestest writer in the whole wide universe and I simply must save her poor little book project or it will perish.

It wasn't long before I was getting these late night phone calls telling me I was doing a bad job because I had to be "REALLY BRUTAL" and "TEAR IT APART" and she couldn't figure out why I wasn't doing that. I reminded her over and over that I'm not a real editor and I'm doing only what I am capable of doing and I'm certainly not being dishonest with her, which was the unpleasant subtext. If she's unhappy she should get a real editor, or at least a lit student who could use the pocket change. Then one day she changed her tune and told me I had actually edited her book so hard that it completely removed her personal voice from the text, and she was forced to start the whole thing over from scratch. I was deeply relieved.

...but of course, I've never stopped hearing about it. Once a year or so she comes around to remind me of what a totally radical job I did awesomely editing her super book, and don't I want to come back and finish it with her? I make a civil reminder of the fact that actually she was totally unhappy with everything I did on the book, and I don't think it's a good idea for us to work on it anymore. The response is always something like "hahaha i dont remember that LOL" (I think she really doesn't!), and I just have to back away slowly. This is not even the most fraught thing she's involved me in; hopefully I will not get started on the time I agreed to pick her up from a minor outpatient procedure, which transformed from a simple favor into a plan for an elaborate slumber party in a hotel featuring more and more people including her crazy mother who she was in a vicious fight with...while I just tried for weeks and weeks to get her to tell me where and when the procedure was happening so I knew when to pick her up. And I never even found out the answer after all, somebody else took care of it in the end, for some reason.

Anyway I'm typing all this out now because It Is Happening Again, she's trying to rope me back into the book thing which she somehow remembers as this great experience, and she wants "a friend, not some stranger" to help her finish it. And I'm trying to figure out if I should a) remind her yet again that she was very unhappy with my work on the book, and I am not a real editor, and maybe "some stranger" would be really great for her because the situation will be more professional and there won't be any impact on any of her personal relationships, or b) just tell her I don't have time, good luck! I kind of feel like being more explicit with her might give her a much-needed wake-up call about how she's been mixing business with pleasure, to her own detriment. I also feel like it would be the more respectful thing to do, to treat her like an adult who can hear something tough and make a rational choice with that information. But on the other hand maybe this is a good time to set a boundary and NOT act like it's my job to help and guide and save her, even if it's just with tough love this time. Ugh!

PS There's actually a secondary component to this which is that she's a hairdresser, and that's how I originally befriended her. She's intensely affectionate and emotional, but she's also a huge flake and I almost never get to see her if it isn't for an appointment--which she often has to reschedule several times anyway. A little while ago I told her I need to grow my hair out and save money and she panicked, seeming to realize that if she has to make actual social plans she won't be able to stick to them. So her way around this appears to be getting me back into a business relationship where we're trading haircuts for editing, and I don't want to do any of it. I just want her to like be normal with me, but that is entirely too much to ask of some people.

#complaints dept

[0ccuria]

actually based king

#alsdjkhfgb #bg3 #halsin #dave jones #correction: it's not even his address but a gas company's complaint dept lmaoooo

[hometoursandotherstuff]

#complaint dept. #other stuff

[swordbards]

incredibly evil that i have my end of year review today, a day that i don't want to work even a little bit

#was talking to my friend yesterday who i used to work with at my Most Evil Job who now works at Current Good Job with me #and we were talking shit about how scary eoy reviews are because of how horrible our old deeply cruel and evil boss was. very cool 👍 #the event description is literally just 1) review 2) next yr goals and 3) discuss raise #AND he just told everyone in the ads dept that he's soooooo excited for next year and has like zero complaints. And Yet. #atxt

[bombshellsandbluebells]

speaking as someone who really enjoyed Barbie, I just don't think Barbie is deep enough to warrant all the dramatic takes and arguments on it

#like it's a fun movie! #the production design is amazing #i'm all here to gush about the filmmaking and art dept on that film #but I feel like it's getting hyped way beyond what it is #a fun movie that manages to say something and be entertaining despite being another big studio film only made bc it's based on popular IP #like Greta did make something entertaining and worth watching #she did manage to say something and give it personality when so many IP movies are soulless and meaningless #but it's not the big evil manipulative marketing people complain it is #becuase literally.....everything greenlit by studios nowadays is tied to some kind of IP or brand or intended to sell you something #i didn't see these complaints over the lego movies #it's not to blame for launching a big pointless ip franchise bc even if barbie had bombed you KNOW the other mattel movies would have #probably happened bc IP matters way more than what audiences are actually interested in #but it's also not like a revolutionary feminist masterpiece?? #it says something yeah but it's not really groundbreaking and it's pretty simple #and it's certainly not like....revolutionary enough for all the negative backlash though we all know something doesn't HAVE #to be truly revolutionary or progressive for that kind of crowd to get all up in arms over the Woke Agenda #it's just like #it is what it is #a movie that would have happened whether competent storytellers and filmmakers got on board or not and at least they made something #worth watching which I can't say of a LOT of IP greenlight decisions #it's jsut like #I enjoyed the movie and it was well made and I'm glad it's doing well but every time I see a new argument about it or take #I just want to be like #it's not that deep lol #that doesn't include just analysis and discussion of the movie #that's different #i mean more discussion like it's bad this movie did well bc it's just an overhyped commercial!!! #anyways got that off my chest lol #i still would have killed to work on set dec for that film

[corvidaedream]

this guy keeps asking me about how organizing is going and i keep saying, like, i have been really busy and exhausted dealing with other things at the moment, and i don't think we will be able to unionize at all if it is literally just me doing any organizing & i got written up recently for something minor which im scared could be used as a fake reason to fire me if the museum catches wind of what im up to. and i need other people's help. and he keeps going ok cool well hope u find someone, bc I really need xyz addressed.

which is frustrating bc yeah im not getting anyone to agree to help w the actual organizing part even though it seems like everyone I've talked to wants a union, but this guy specifically is like. real surprised and disappointed that im not Doing More while making it clear he's not gonna do fuck all himself.

and he just dmed me an article about another local museum unionizing and as much as I'm happy for that museum the fact that he sent it makes me want to scream

#messages from the ouija board #sadies day job #hes a friend but also some of his complaints uhhh fucking suck! #doesnt want more pay so much as he wants the one guy in our dept w only a hs diploma (who isnt working toward a bachelors) to get paid LESS #bc hes like well i have a masters and i do think im worth what were getting paid but i dont think its fair this other guy makes just as much #and its like????? that wouldn't improve ur conditions jeff that would just make tims life worse #this isnt a job u need a masters for esp not a masters in fucking dance. tim does his job just as well as u do! #like its just so petty and gross and hes a good guy otherwise but. ugh. #anyway i feel like im drowning every time i try to work on it so! yeah we're never going to get a union #bc 'collective' seems to mean just one chronically ill full time employee ig

[whimsicalparadox]

Y’all think there’s a market for body horror on OF? I may be dangerously close to choosing violence at work today and need a backup plan.

#i have such a variety of choices in my archive af this point. content for months. #was thinking about sending it to like a medical journal or w/e for images for the 7 different infections/reactions I’ve juggled but money?? #already sent a strongly worded email cc’d to a manager about a complaint someone had about me in their dept

[yourheartinyourmouth]

I wish I still had pictures of the most hilariously illegal and lawsuit-inviting employee handbooks I have ever had. It literally said, in black and white font, on page whatever, “Employees are specifically prohibited from discussing their wages. Anyone who does will be terminated.” And a bunch of other illegal shit that I don’t specifically remember anymore but it also included this weirdly passive-aggressive (emphasis on aggressive—the whole thing was written in an intimidating, aggro tone that is probably also illegal in some way 😂) clause about how vacation time is a PRIVILEGE not a RIGHT and employees will GROVEL on their KNEES like the working class SCUM that they are if they want vacation time and the whole company was run by these two kinda douchey old guys who gave me the distinct impression trying to have their glory days of being chads who sell trading cards on the internet and have way more money than sense and one of the guys daughter’s I guess owned the vending machines in the break room but they were dusty and always empty and would eat any quarters you put in them? it was weird

anyway 4sc your employee handbook is full of distinctly illegal labor clauses that were fought and died for by working class scum like myself and I hope somebody sues you lmaooo get fucked you obviously don’t respect the people who work for you

#labor rights #I couldn’t figure out how to report them to the dept of labor and I don’t have the handbook anymore :( #incidentally #does anyone know how to file a complaint with the DOL? #google didn’t help me at all and their website was so convoluted I couldn’t find it #seriously though discuss your wages with your coworkers and discuss them often #it is ALWAYS in your own best interest to do so

[army-of-bee-assassins]

the discord server i made for my masters program has just under half the cohort now which i'm pretty happy with. it is also now a place where people are fomenting revolt against a prof who gives very vague instructions and then grades harshly djdhskf

#they're like talking about contacting other faculty about him lol #which i think is fair but at the same time #it's like a one hour credit course that is only lasting half the semester #AND it's the only class this guy teaches so we won't have to deal with him again #i think we will all survive getting Bs in this class #plus this dude is literally the most tenured experienced dept chair fancy titled dude in the program.... #i'm not sure any complaint on our part is gonna do anything #here is that grad school tag

[deadgrantaires]

finally this office answered their phones and i was like yeah i think i just need to cancel my appointment until i can be sure that everything else is ready. yes its because i dont trust you guys. yeah sorry im not going to call at 7am when you guys open bc every time ive called ive been on hold 20-40+ minutes and i dont trust your office to answer your phones. yes im sorry you closed office 10 minutes ago you see ive been trying to call you since i got off w0rk at 6 but you didnt answer your phones. this is not your fault i dont blame you but im literally too sick to wake up early and be fucked for the entire day on the HOPE you will answer your phones in a reasonable amount of time and i can get this sorted out before the 24 hour mark before my appointment and i get another unnecessary charge. you get it. thank you

#cant wait to go in for this stupid appointment theyre forcing me to have #and make a formal complaint about nobody answering the phones. compleltley insane #like. if we dont answer the phones really quickly at my j0b we will get raked over the colas and get #in huuuuuge trouble. have a whole dept for answering so like. what is doct office excuse. please id love to hear it

[ejacutastic]

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#this is the complaints dept right?

[reallyundistinguishedbitch]

I hate group work. I hate group work. I hate group work. I hate gr—

#personal #I may be an extrovert but I hate writing papers with other people #extrovert socially but introverted academically #college woes #also sorry to my two friends outside of the hist. dept. who keep just getting my complaints

[hometoursandotherstuff]

#complaint dept. #other stuff

[psychosodomy]

this is final girl grindset

#denorah has to live or im calling stephen graham jones at his uni dept w complaints #currently reading

[worstlovesong]

Just had an absolutely horrible experience at a coffee shop involving cockroaches and I still want to cry

#note that my paranoia/hallucinations involve bugs so I am in full blown panic mode #my friend pointed it out to me #they were all over the wall behind us #and the staff acted like they knew #I check and they were recently inspected by the health dept due to complaints #I’m going to cry #never going back there #bug tw #cj.txt

[rene-darling]

Hi hi 👋🏻! After I read your sneaky link fic I got an idea! Can I request those same characters having a realization that they like you more than just a sneaky link and then maybe confessing?

OMG ANON YOUR BRAIN>>>

Gn reader

WHEN- your sneaky links realize they like you more than just friends!

...Cyno...tighnari...xiao...kazuha...

Cyno

You and cyno have been fucking around for a little while but only recently has he started seeing you more often you've been catching some criminals for some quick cash or just for fun to hone your skills!

It's during these times when he meets you while at work that he truly treasures, he sees sides of you that he usually doesn't get to see while fucking. your personality, your interests and a bunch of other things

It's during this time where when you guys do fuck it starts to get more...intimate almost like something lovers would do..

Ever since he started to get to know you better it's like like the fucking has improved too! The kisses you share seem more passionate, especially from his side! They feel more personal and from the heart

one day it wasn't hard fuvking it was soft and gentle with more praise and talking in between it was after you were finished tucked in and asleep did it finally click in his head...was it just him or were you always so- so gorgeous it was like the moon was hitting you just right

You were spooning him when he turned around to face you and sank deep into your hand while he hugged you closer than humanly possible "I- I love you"

It was barely a whisper and he assumed you didn't hear it which is why he was surprised when you pulled him closer by the waist just to whisper "mhm..me to, love you cyno" he felt his heart skip a beat

Tighnari

At first, you would watch him groom his tail and ears or maybe you would go make some food or sometimes even order

But nowadays you insist on helping him groom himself, taking his fluffy tail into your hands as you softly brush it

He's mesmerized by you, staring into your soul by the mirror watching you softly brush his tail cuz you know he's sensitive you follow all the complicated steps of his grooming routine without complaint even going as far as to brush his hair and massage his ears!

It's during one of these times when he's sitting naked in front of you while you carefully brush him, making small talk here and there where he can't hold it in anymore "y/n" "ya-"

"I think I'm in love with you" is all he whispered while pulling you in, his arms wrapped around your neck as you passionately kiss him back

"tighnari" "hm"

"I think I love you too"

Xiao

Oh, xiao sweet and lovely xiao! It takes him forever to even comprehend his feelings let alone accept them!

Even after he realizes he refuses to accept them, he doesn't deem himself worthy of someone as amazing as you

It's the small things you do that make him feel on top of the world! When each morning without fail you make him food! When sometimes instead of having sex you gently comfort him all night your lovely voice putting him to rest when the bad memories plague his mind

After one of your rather rough sessions, his karmic dept starts acting up and he feels overwhelmed and especially tired, its during this when you come and gently pull him into a hug slowly messaging his back while reassuring him and muttering praise into his ear until he can't handle it anymore you're too nice to him no ones ever been this caring towards him before!

He can't help the tears he really can't! He feels soft and mushy he doesn't know if he even likes it or not! "xiao? Are you alright "

Through hiccups and stutters, he can only bring himself to say one line "I- love you, I really l-like you-" which is just followed up by more sobs as he hides his face from you, embarrassed

He gasps as you pull his face from his hiding spot and place a gentle kiss on the purple diamond on top of his head "me too xiao, me too."

Kazuha

It was usually just him making food for the both of you after a session after that he would go and take a bath but.. Nowadays you like to help him

When his legs hurt too much to reach up and grab something you would pick him up so easily si he could

When he starts making a specific dish and there aren't enough ingredients so you run to the store to quickly grab whatever he needs! You don't want to waste something he put so much effort in!!

And especially when you help him take a bath by rubbing soap up and down his supple thighs washing his hair so so gently even going as far as to help him dry it! You don't even question his desire to wear your clothes anymore! You pick out the cutest outfits for him!

It makes him realize how much he treasures you and these moments which lead him to confess "y/n" "yes kazuha"

"Whenever I see you my stomach starts fluttering and whenever I wake up to the sight of you next to me, sleeping calmly, it lights a warmth in me I can't describe, it makes me realize how valuable time is and I want to spend the rest of eternity with you, I love you, y/n" "..I'm not sure I can say such lovely words like yours to describe my love for you, but me too, I love you kazuha"

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