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quasieli · 3 years

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top six: fictional characters that give you gender envy, flowers, little things that make you happy and d&d moments :D

Ooh lotsa questions!

Gender Envy:

1) Bow from She-Ra (2018). Something about buff athletic dude who wears crop tops and is soft as hell is very Gender to me.

2) Vax from Critical Role. Pretty boy, kinda goth rogue? That’s sexy as hell and I wish that was me.

3) In a wildly different idea of gender envy, I’ve been thinking about it lately and @quantum-lesbian’s character in the Frostmaiden game I’m in with them, Ambrose, is Big Gender. Beautiful non-binary drow with a starry and kinda witchy aesthetic that dresses super grandly and ostentatiously no matter the occasion? Yes please.

4) Pete from The Unsleeping City, specifically season two. I adore season one Pete but season two Pete that works in a queer bookshop and has a teapot arcane focus, is artsy and is unapologetically a trans man who doesn’t give a shit about gender roles? Sign me the fuck up.

5) Beau from Critical Role. Buff GNC lesbian mixed with academia, but like academia from the prospective of a grad student with ADHD trying to learn everything about their special interests? A+, I love her and I’m jealous.

6) I’m gonna cheat a lil bit for this last one. I know the prompt is fictional characters, but Julia Lepetit and Jacob Andrews in their Hitman streams? Simultaneously both of them were Gender for me. Jacob esp felt like that for me, which is weird cause dresses can make me dysphoric, but I am also slightly envious of the Dude in a Dress type of gender presentation.

Can you tell that I’m a confused trans masc enby

Gonna put it under the cut from here cause oof, there’s still a lot more.

Flowers:

1) Big slut for Sunflowers, always have been, always will be.

2) Fun fact, my dad’s family used to own a flower shop (in like the 70s, so I never got to see it :(), and one of their big things was hydrangeas. My dad has always loved them and now I love the snowballs too!

3) A recent favorite, the Baker’s Globe Mallow. It’s a type of flower that only grows from the soils of forests that have been affected by wildfires. It’s a simple little flower but I love the idea of something beautiful rising from the ashes after tragedy. A little dramatic, but I’m queer, ofc I’m dramatic.

4) Roses are another important flower to my family (Rose was a family name for a couple generations), and ya know, they’re a classic.

5) There’s this beautiful magnolia tree in front of my house that blooms with the most beautiful white and pink flowers every spring, and it’s one of my favorite things to see every year.

6) There’s so many different types of Lillies and they’re all very pretty, but the Purple Stargazer is prob my favorite.

Little Things That Make Me Happy:

1) My cat, Maddie. She may be a cranky girl at times, but she is also very sweet and will always be my baby (even though she is 12).

2) Not a little thing really, but my best friend. Just getting a sweet/silly text from her or the two of us chilling in a room, sitting in a comfortable silence because we just like being together, nothing better.

3) Baking, esp if I’m doing it for others. I’m not much of a sweets person myself, a little treat every once in a while type person, but I love baking. It’s a very relaxing process for me, even when it can sometimes get stressful, but seeing people enjoying something I made, especially something that brought me great joy to make, is simply the best.

4) In the same sorta vein, crafting and other art, but that’s a bit more personal. I love making things for others, but art, particularly drawing, is something I do more for me. It’s such a great feeling when you can get into a really good art mood and just sink yourself into a project. I love it.

5) My plush toys. Yes, I am a 23 year old, no I will not stop loving my plushies. I just got a few new friends, which I made a post about recently, and they such good cuddle buddies. However, there is one king amongst them all. I have this old, beat up christmas puppy beanie baby, on his tag named Jingle Pup, but I just call him Jingle. I had one version of him since I was like 6, but he currently lives on a shelf cause he is very beaten up and fragile, but his “brother”, who I got when I was 8, is still in kinda good shape and is currently chilling on my chest as I type this lol.

6) Again, not a little thing, but it’s important to mention; D&D. The game itself is such a joy, but truly the best part of it is the people. I love creating stories and memories with people through this weird little game. Truly one of my favorite things to do.

D&D Moments:

These are all gonna be personal moments, rather than anything from actual play shows/podcasts. RC is Reforged Campaign, where I play Saube, and FM is Frostmaiden, where I play Sparks.

1) RC - Meeting Mahety, Saube’s girlfriend. We met her way back in session 12 and we are now up to like session 73. Saube saw her and was immediately big heart eyes at her but also felt a bit awkward and shy. So, being a game a dice, I decided to roll. 10 or higher, Saube would talk to her, 9 or lower, she’d stay put. I rolled a 17, 17 is now a lucky number for me. I love Mahety and I’d die for her.

2) FM - This was an insane fight that should not have been so crazy, but in a fairly early session, my group went up against an angry druid and her awakened animals. So much batshit stuff happened in that fight, and we unfortunately lost our bread loving bard (RIP Agneyis), but one of my favorite combat turns happened in this fight. Our artificer, Omaren, has a robe of useful items and one of the patches on it creates a large pit. Thinking quickly, Omaren tore off the patch, slid it under one of the dire wolves we were fighting and created a looney tunes style pit under it, allowing us to take it out easily via pot shots. Such a clutch move and such a funny visual, especially because the dire wolf kept failing the checks to get out of the pit.

3) RC - Saube’s Zebrith (I will never remember how this actually spelled RIP). So, for context, Saube ended up with a death curse (long story) that mechanically meant they had disadvantage on any death saving throws. Scary as hell, need to get that fixed! So, Saube and their party had to be smuggled into another country to talk with some religious leaders of a goddess known as The First, the goddess of death. They were told that Saube would have to go through the aforementioned ritual, which included her soul leaving her body for a short period of time. During this ritual, her friends had to call back to her, to say things that would bring her back to her body and I still cry thinking about that game. That ritual was not only important for Saube bodily, but spiritually as well. After that ritual, Saube officially became a cleric of The First!

4) A real sappy one, RC - Saube meeting all of her friends. Anyone who follows along with the rantings on my blog probably knows how important this game is to me. I met this random group of strangers on tumblr and formed a D&D party with them and now, a year and a half later, I honestly think it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I know that sounds silly and dramatic but not only has this game brought me so much joy and comfort, but I also gained a group of really amazing friends who have been nothing but amazing since day one. As much as Saube knows she can depend on SICL, I know I can depend on my group of weirdos lol. We both love our friends very much and even though we’ve all been through some crazy shit, we wouldn’t change it for the world.

5) RC - Just playing Saube in general. I really didn’t intend for it to be this way, but Saube is very much a reflection of myself. She is the first long term character I have ever played and so much of me is in her. I try not to treat D&D like therapy, because that’s unfair to my DM and fellow party members, but playing Saube has allowed me to work through some of my own problems, especially social anxiety, in a lot safer of an environment. It isn’t so much that I’m asking this game to help me fix my life, but playing out these scenarios that, in the real world, would make me anxious or make me freak out, I can stop, take a moment to breathe and work out these issues in a way that makes sense to me. Playing her has led me to understanding myself a bit better, as well, and that’s truly such a wonderfully unexpected gift from this whole experience.

6) Lastly, a silly one: RC - Getting a crit 6. The last session of this game got real interesting. Saube’s party ended up in the ethereal plane and magic got real fucky there. So, any time any of us tried to cast a spell, we’d roll a d20, not look at the result, and then try to guess what number rolled. The closer to the number, the better the result. A few times, a few people managed to get within like 3 or 4 of their roll, but oh the power I felt when I rolled a 6 (on Saube’s die!) and guessed it correctly! So, not only did the spell (Bless) work, but it worked super well. So instead of getting +1d4 to attack rolls and saving throws, Saube and two other party members got +2d4 to attacks, saving throws and skill checks. So powerful I broke the rules of D&D lmao.

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lesblob · 5 years

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Hi! So, I am a lesbian who just came out a couple of weeks ago! I was wondering if you could explain to me what the whole femme/butch sub culture is? I know a little bit about it and I think I might be a femme but I feel like I don't know enough about it to be sure.

So I don’t identify as butch or femme (despite being a gnc/masc-presenting lesbian—but that’s a topic for later), however, I know a decent amount about butch/femme dynamics, as well as the subculture and its history.

TW: homo/lesbophobia, misogyny, and mentions of sex, as well as mentions of rape and police brutality in the links provided.

In general, butch and femme (also spelled “fem”) are two complementary roles that some lesbians take on in their relationships and in society. Most lesbians in current times are neither, and while these roles do involve certain aesthetics (butch is masculine and femme is feminine), they are about much more than just being a feminine or masculine lesbian.

Historically, butch/femme relationships existed as a form of protection for lesbian couples. They were intended to mimic heterosexual relationships on the street and in other public places for reasons of safety. These relationships were born out of pure necessity.

Lesbian relationships resembling the butch/femme dynamic have been documented since the early 20th century (see picture), but because of the secretive nature of homosexual relationships prior to and during that time, it’s not certain in which year the butch/femme dynamic first became a thing.

However, butch/femme as part of a culture emerged later, amongst working class lesbians , in the 1930s-1940s in the United States. Back then, butches and femmes didn’t have their own subculture. They were so prevalent in the growing lesbian community that being butch or femme essentially was lesbian culture. To be accepted into the lesbian community at the time, one usually would have to adopt either the butch or the femme role, and these roles were very strict. Butches had to be dominant and aggressive. Femmes had to be passive and submissive. This was how butch/femme couples presented in public, and at this time, it was still largely a matter of safety.

The private lives of butches and femmes were vastly different from the heterosexual couples they pretended to be on the streets. Unlike heterosexual couples, femmes could have control. Butches were gentle to their femmes, and femmes were active in showing love to their butches—even if they took on “passive” roles in bed. And at home, their relationships were not about performance, or about trying to mimic heterosexuality. They were all women who saw themselves and each other as women.

Things began to change in the 1960s and 70s, when radical feminism started to gain traction. Instead of being roles that lesbians performed in order to be safe and have a sense of community and belonging with each other, so-called “lesbian feminists” started to define lesbianism as a political act instead of an innate sexual identity. They criticized butch/femme couples for replicating heterosexuality, and claimed that butches were trying to be men. Lesbian spaces began to be filled with feminist separatists who often had no desire to sexually or romantically be with women—they just wanted to escape men. Despite somewhat noble intentions, these political “lesbians” pushed butches and femmes to the sidelines, all while misappropriating the lesbian identity.

Since then, butch/femme couples have become a subculture, with only a small minority of lesbians still taking on the butch and femme roles. With the decreased necessity to appear as heterosexual couples in public spaces, the numbers of butches and femmes continue to dwindle, year after year. However, in recent times, with the emergence of the internet, more and more lesbians are learning about the history of lesbian culture and of the butch and femme roles, leading to some younger lesbians adopting the butch/femme relationship dynamic as a way of preserving lesbian culture and history.

That is a brief summary of the butch/femme subculture and what those terms mean in a traditional sense (though some people no longer adhere to the traditional definitions of butch and femme, and use the terms much more loosely). This only touches up on the very basics of butch/femme history and how they existed as a dichotomy. There is also the interpretation of rejection vs subversion regarding how butches and femmes interact with femininity, respectively, and other terminology related to butch/femme culture exist as well, such as stone butch and high femme.

Here are some great resources on butch/femme culture and also some great posts on Tumblr about butches and femmes:

- Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg

- The Persistent Desire: A Femme-Butch Reader by Joan Nestle

- https://femmebabes.tumblr.com/post/185824651157/what-does-being-a-femme-mean-to-you-ive-been

- https://butchfemmelove.tumblr.com/post/183891222157/idk-if-yall-will-know-the-answer-to-this-but-im

- https://lesbiandany.tumblr.com/post/167501816712/there-seems-to-be-this-alarmingly-common

You can also explore my #butch.txt and #femme.txt tags for text posts on butches and/or femmes.

Hope this helps!

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