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yellow-mapleleaves · 3 years

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Realistic Personalities in Characters: Alice in Borderland

⚠ Spoilers ⚠

Short Summary

Alice in Borderland 今際の国のアリス is a Netflix original series about a young boy called Alice (Arisu) and his two friends who happens to find themselves trapped in an abandoned version of Tokyo in which they must take part in many life threatening games to survive.

I wanted to do a review on this series because I noticed that there were some characters that possessed very accurate and realistic behaviours and others that didn’t convey any emotion the entire show. I found it interesting that the mix of very different levels of well-displayed people was able to add to the already amazing plot of the series.

Characters Present:

Alice, Karube, Chota, Usagi, Kuina, Chishiya, Niragi

Alice - Protagonist

The main protagonist of the series is not always the favourite in most tv shows, but from looking at different reviews and people’s comments about Yamazaki’s character Alice, I’ve noticed that he is actually rather popular in his own fictional world. He is honestly probably one of my favourite characters as well, and that’s based on how realistic his behaviours and emotions are conveyed.

Some aspects and scenes of Alice that makes him a more convincing and realistic personality:

Being a normal young boy with no incredibly amazing skills

Not having god-like survival abilities just from being able to play battle-royal videogames well

Having flaws

Having only two close friends rather than a huge friendship group

Not being incredibly attractive and well-groomed

Not having a close relationship with his brother (not all siblings get along)

Having a bad relationship with his father

Having the very human instinct of survival by becoming willing to kill his friends to save his own life out of panic

Reacting badly to watching someone being killed (vomiting, screaming, trauma etc)

Not being incredibly serious all the time; actually having a sense of humour

Showing respect towards Usagi’s privacy

Having a very average style of clothing

Being awkward around people he doesn’t know

Excelling in one area (puzzles) but being quite disadvantaged at the rest

Making mistakes E.g. during the distance game, he doesn’t realize the trick of the game until it ends

Not being able to defend himself physically due to lack of strength

Not moving on after his friends’ deaths immediately like as if it doesn’t happen (it takes him a few days to even develop the energy to get up off the floor)

I would say I personally believe that Alice’s character has a strong and realistic personality, as Yamazaki’s acting and Alice’s reactions to certain experiences creates a sympathetic response from the audience.

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Karube - Deuteragonist

Let’s be honest, everyone loves a bad boy character. During the short time that Karube was present during the show, I think he conveys both strong and weak personality traits. At some points I think the producers were trying too hard to bring a “tough man” façade to him, when I think he could show more realistic emotions and reactions.

Some aspects and scenes of Karube that makes him a more convincing and realistic personality:

Having a fiery and defensive personality (although it can more than often come across as immature)

Having a sense of humour even in tough times

Having obvious advantage in strength related survival skills

Not being invincible to fear E.g. running from the tagger during the “Tag” game and not even trying to fight back at first

Dealing with work related issues

Actually having a realistic dream life rather than one that sounds almost impossible

Being flawed but not too flawed

Having a love interest that he is forbidden to love (she is with another man)

Conveying fear through anger when Alice tries to kill him to save himself

Not having the nicest of personalities (not everyone is friendly to everyone)

Not having a overly selfless personality

I think Karube should’ve been included in the series more than he is, because his character is very lovable and many fans of this show obviously show sympathy when he dies. His character has a big, extroverted and blunt personality, and I think it is conveyed very well during the time he is present.

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Chota - Tertiary

Although Chota is one of the main three characters in the beginning of the series, I honestly never felt that sympathetic for him. His character comes across as rather more annoying than weak to me. I understand that the point of his character is to have a weak and smaller personality to match Karube and Alice’s loud energy, but I think this person is kind of just there. He doesn’t do much, considering he almost loses his leg in the first episode and having to use crutches for the rest of the time he is alive.

Some aspects and scenes of Chota that makes him less realistic:

Being friends with people who obviously have dodgy jobs or no jobs at all when he is a successful technician himself

Doesn’t seem to have much of a life outside work and his friends, what are his hobbies?

Not exactly having much of a purpose in the show

Constantly having his guard up and being anxious or worried

Having too many flaws

Following a very different religion to that of his mother

Generally being incredibly different to Alice and Karube (I believe if their personalities were actually friends in real life, they would have too many arguments).

During the short time on the show that Chota had, it was more the point that his personality felt incredibly unneeded. It didn’t exactly serve a huge purpose in the storyline. As well as, he was hard to sympathize for.

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Usagi - Love Interest / Deuteragonist

Usagi definitely has my most favourite back story of the series. Although, when researching about her I noticed that she is actually one of the characters that get the least recognition by the viewers, despite being in basically every episode and always being beside Alice. I have mixed emotions about the realism in her character, so I made both a positive and negative list to state both sides.

Some aspects and scenes of Usagi that makes her a more convincing and realistic personality:

Having a tragic yet realistic backstory

Using her mountain climbing skills as a huge advantage during physically challenging games

Showing obvious signs of grief for her father, even during the time she was placed in the game

Being insecure of her body

Fighting back against Niragi even when it’s obvious she won’t win

Having good survival instincts from past experiences

Willing to help others out when they need it E.g. during the “Tag” game she went along with Alice’s plan for everyone to work together

Having a obvious more introverted personality

Being too trusting, which ends up getting her hurt

Some aspects and scenes of Usagi that makes her a more unrealistic and poorly convincing personality:

Having too serious of a personality, not seeming to lay back and laugh for even a second

Seeming to have an unrealistic bravery E.g. during the tagger game, she didn’t seemed frightened at all despite that the tagger had a machine gun

Doesn’t react to graphic violent sights that would be traumatizing to humans

Not knowing what “The Beach” was despite being in the game for god knows how long

Overall, I think she is the awesome strong female character that a lot of thriller genres have. Although, I would love if for once a strong yet bad ass character didn’t act so mysterious and quiet all the time. But regardless, she is a good character that shows very human qualities.

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Kuina - Confidante

Kuina is one of the more popular characters in the show, which I honestly can understand. She has obvious very strong manipulation skills as well as physical strengths like martial arts. Although, I believe her backstory is what truly shapes her as a character and is the reason why the audience develops such an emotional connection with her.

Some aspects and scenes of Kuina that makes her a more convincing a realistic personality:

Having a trusting and good relationship with Chishiya

Having a personality that conveys carelessness

Both social butterfly and keeps to herself

Being a character part of the LGBTQ+ community

Having a realistic backstory

Although having a bad relationship with her Dad, she still respects what he taught her

Having a parent that accepts her rather than just being abandoned, which is what a lot of Transgender characters have been stereotyped as

Being able to defend herself incredibly well

Giving her a human flaw (smoking addiction)

Having a elaborate hairstyle

Showing that she is not mysterious, she just has a lot of walls up

Showing care for people she doesn’t know E.g. warning Alice and Usagi about the militants

I really like Kuina’s character for her strong personality and her ability to build good relationships with the members at the beach paradise. Although she is not featured a lot during season one, the times we have seen her have obviously been enough to make her character very loved by the audience.

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Chishiya - Confidante

I honestly could not find a more loved character if I tried. This character is such a small part of the show and yet you’d think he was the protagonist. I honestly think anyone would love a sly fox character though, because that’s exactly what he is. Although his personality would probably become annoying if he was a real person, in a genre like this he fits perfectly. So personally, I have mixed emotions about him, because I honestly didn’t get that emotionally attached to him as other audiences may have.

Some aspects and scenes of Chishiya that makes him a more convincing and realistic personality:

Having a cocky attitude at times

Has a underdog appeal to him

Mimics that of a selfish manipulative personality

Showing obvious signs of high intelligence, yet doesn’t blab it around like it’s a trophy

Gives the audience some entertainment

Having a sassy remark, even when his life is on the line

Going out of his way to do things that only benefit him

Having a personality that everyone loves and hates at the same time

Having that personality in which you can’t tell if he’s a good guy or a bad guy

Having a trademark, his white hoodie

Having a caring relationship towards Kuina

Some aspects and scenes of Chishiya that makes him a more unrealistic and less convincing personality:

Attempting to kill Niragi with no hesitation after knowing him personally for so long (that would be difficult to do even if you hated the person)

Not showing human emotions such as fear, worry or anger

Sometimes his personality came across as too selfish to be realistic

Not showing any signs of fear E.g. when Niragi waved a machine gun in his face, he didn’t even flinch

Sometimes his fancy words became a bit annoying

Everyone trusts him, regardless of how manipulative they know he is

Overall, he is a very entertaining character. In my opinion he’s like the personality that throws a match into gasoline then walks away like he didn’t start it. Although his realism in character isn’t exactly good, he is definitely loved for his good looks and sly actions by the audience.

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Niragi - Antagonist

As much as I dislike this guy as a person in general, when it comes to creating a interesting and great character, he hit the nail on the head. He has one of the most realistic evil character developments probably in the whole series. His personality is so complicated and psychotic, which is what makes him an amazing antagonist and probably the second most popular character among the audience.

Some aspects and scenes of Niragi that makes him a more convincing and realistic personality:

Has a tragic backstory, making the audience believe that’s why he’s so psychotic

Having the delusional mindset that human nature is violence

Makes the audience feel bad for him, despite being a horrible person

Being a hidden antagonist (didn’t expect him to cause all the trouble in the end)

Showing obvious signs of psychological trauma

Conveys positive (yet destructive) emotions and behaviour, which is always a good break when all the characters are serious 24/7

Hits a breaking point in his emotions and goes on a killing spree

Shows loyalty to Aguni

Being awful to everyone, probably due to the fact that everyone was awful to him when he was younger. It’s a way of revenge

Becoming embarrassed when someone challenges him

Scaring people into submission (tactic for some leaders)

Conveys no care for anyone, honestly just uses everyone for either his own entertainment or his own benefit

Has a trademark, his machine gun and checkered shirt

Being self-aware of how evil he is

As evil and bad as he is, he’s one of the most endearing antagonists I’ve seen in a while. He is a very psychotic and emotionally wrecked personality to him, as if you know something traumatizing must have occurred in his life for him to be able to murder anyone without batting an eye.

#characterreview #character #aliceinborderland #alice #aib #writing #netflixoriginals #netflix #tvshows #characterreviews #usagi #karube #chota #kuina #chishiya #niragi

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ablogthatishenceforthmine · 4 years

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A Re-evaluation of Laurel Lance: Season 2

Intro

Season 2 actually gives Laurel her own arc. The first time I watched the show, I HATED Laurel this season, and found her insufferable. But over subsequent re-watches, I found myself not hating this Laurel, and was even sometimes emotionally moved by some of her scenes.

For the first time in the series, Laurel has her own arc! She drives plots! She is a character who stands on her own (kind of), separate from Oliver and Lance! For the first time, she also has flaws, and makes mistakes. For her character, the season is about her downward spiral and then her recovery--a clear arc that is only about her. Now, a lot of her story doesn’t work, but hey, at least there is a “her story.”

Falling From The Pedestal

The Laurel of this season is very different from the Laurel of season 1. Season 1 Laurel was on a pedestal, and Season 2 Laurel fell off it hard. I wonder if that’s why I, and many other fans, hated Laurel so much in season 2. The higher you are, the harder you fall. And in season 1, Laurel was perfect, and had a penchant for self-righteousness. Even the slightest mistake or unlikable characteristic could cause her to face harsher judgement and criticism because of how high up Season 1 held Laurel. Laurel does make a lot of mistakes this season, but watching it, I at least found her to be human, which is more than I can say for her in Season 1.

Still, the writing for Laurel’s character this season is not great; I still wouldn’t say she is a well-written character. Her character is too often isolated from everything else, and her episode storylines are often repetitive. BUT, this season’s Laurel is worlds better than the Laurel of season 1. She is finally more than a love interest; she has flaws, has arcs that are about her. This is VERY basic stuff, and just having them does not make her a well-written character, but it is more than she had last season.

Oliver and Laurel’s Relationship

Perhaps, Laurel’s character is is better this season because her romantic relationship with Oliver is over. Between Seasons 1 and 2, it seems like the writers decided (rightly in my opinion) that they didn’t work together. In the very first episode of the season, they both agree that they can’t be together. And while, it doesn’t become clear to the viewers until the end of the Season that they are definitively over and are likely never getting back together--and we certainly see the fact that they had feelings for each other and see them try to navigate their new friendship in light of that--it seems that the writers knew that they were over and knew that they have to give Laurel more of a character separate from Oliver if they wanted to keep her on the show. The season is better for her character because she is actually allowed to her own character rather than just a love interest.

Flaws & her own Arcs

Finally, a flaw emerges in her character in the first episode. She is misplacing blame. In the first few episodes, she blames the Arrow for Tommy’s death, not wanting to deal with her own feelings of guilt. It may not be rational, but it is at least a flaw, as irritable as it is. And her refusal to admit this scapegoating for a few episodes, even when Lance calls her out on it is another flaw. And over the first few episodes, it is clear that she is desperate to escape that guilt. Laurel’s antagonism to the Arrow is at least different from the pure, perfect girlfriend she was in season 1. While it it frustrating to see her irrationally place blame on The Arrow, at least it shows she has flaws. And the show is smart not too overstay it’s welcome with this dynamic; it only lasts about about three episodes.

In “Broken Dolls,” Laurel admits her guilt about Tommy’s death to Lance; Oliver told her to stay out of the Glades, and she didn’t listen, resulting in Tommy dying to save her. Even if her blaming the Arrow still breeds disbelief, this scene is actually pretty affecting and emotional. And for the first time in the series, Laurel feels human. And it it all about her, her feelings, and her trauma. The show is acknowledging it and taking it seriously for the first time.

Laurel also an addiction storyline, her biggest of the season. This story is kind hit and miss for me. It gets very repetitive, and it goes on for a long time with too little to say. The plot also leaves her isolated from the other characters and often the main plot, which does no favors for her character. But it is nice that they are making her character messy and flawed. It brings her down to earth and makes her more human. In exploring her addiction, it gives her even more flaws, as she refuses to admit she has a problem, rebuffs Oliver and Lance’s attempts to help, and is cruel to people she cares about. In her scenes with Oliver and Lance, for the first time ever, it feels like they are a part of her story, rather than just her only being a part of theirs like in season 1. Her substance issues is about a season long arc, which she didn’t have in season one. At times her substance abuse issues makes her unlikable. She is petulant, rude selfish, and seems to feel like she has a monopoly on pain and suffering. But taken on it’s own, it makes her human, and the show is actually exploring her struggles, inner thoughts, and conflict. But, when taken with Season 1 Laurel, is when this arc really becomes an issue. Because in Season 1, Laurel barely had a personality. So she goes from almost having no personality to having an unlikable one. And there isn’t much in between these two characterizations to make the viewer care about Laurel. So when she does become unlikable, its harder to take and harder to empathize with it would have been if they had done a better job building her character in season 1.

The season generally shows Laurel’s side of things in her addiction storyline, and offers her empathy and understanding. The one time it struggles to do so is the Lance family dinner with Oliver, where it frames Laurel as completely in the wrong. She is mostly in the wrong, and Oliver is right when he accuses of her blaming everyone but herself, and being self-centered in her pain, ignoring the pain and struggles of others. But Laurel is right to be mad at Oliver and Sara. Oliver should have never had come to that dinner. Even if he and Sara were not together, he should not have come. Even if Sara and Oliver thought that Laurel wouldn’t realize that they are together, he still should not have come. It was callous and thoughtless. And Laurel is absolutely entitled to feel upset that they are together, especially since, in her mind, Sara’s only been back a week. Imagine how shitty that would feel. And I think the show is wrong in invalidating these feelings, and not framing Oliver and Sara’s decision to have him come as insensitive, thoughtless, and wrong.

Separated from Main Plot

One of the main problems with Laurel’s addiction storyline is that it is so separated from the main plot of the season, and often, the main plot of the episodes that it is in. Because of this, her character and storyline can sometimes seem like an afterthought or like it’s tertiary to everything else. And in the context of the episodes, these scenes seem to drag because they have so little to do with the main plot, which is given more way more importance. And the difference in level of importance of the main plots and Laurels addiction storyline is keenly felt. As the AV Club states, “The problem is that Laurel’s storyline is now once again isolated from what’s going on with the Arrow; she has given up her vendetta, but that just means she gets to drink and drive away from the main action,” and “[the episode] very consciously isolates her from the main storyline, which effectively makes her a distraction from more interesting things going on elsewhere; even when Oliver finds Al-Owal’s knife in Laurel’s wall, he basically just tells her to sit the rest of the episode out.”

Laurel is also separated from the main action by rarely ever knowing anything, a problem that was also in the first season. As The AV Club stated, “Arrow can instantly make a character appear powerful by giving her knowledge and, alternatively, it can make a character appear weak by leaving her in the dark about all that is unfolding around her. Those respective descriptions apply to Sara and Laurel pretty much perfectly.” Laurel’s lack of knowledge for most of the season makes her passive and reactive, just being placed in events that she doesn’t understand. It’s also a sexist trope to keep secrets from women “for their own good,” and because “they can’t handle it.”

Laurel and Sara relationship

Laurel’s relationship with Sara is her best one in the series. It is the most complex, and effectively emotional one. It is also the only female relationship Laurel has with anyone at this point in the series. Laurel’s feelings toward Sara are complex and justified. After Sara’s death, she had to deal with both anger towards Sara and grief. That is hard to deal with--being angry at someone who’s died. One feeling doesn’t make the other go away. These feelings are hard to wrestle with, and while I don’t think the show does the best job of exploring it, the show does try and does acknowledge it.

Some of Earth 1 Laurel’s best moments in the entire show come from her relationship with Sara. For instance, in “Time of Death,” after the big blow-up at the Lance family dinner, Laurel comes to Verdant. She first sees Oliver, but tells him that she is not here for him, she’s here for Sara. It is her first priority to reconcile with Sara. Sara is the one who is more important to Laurel The show, and her character, are prioritizing her relationship with Sara over her relationship with Oliver. In reconciling with Sara, Laurel explains how Sara’s death has affected her; that she feels she went on the boat with Sara too, and that she has been slowly drowning since. While this is not the best written scene, it feels like the first time the show really dealt with the trauma Laurel experienced losing Sara (and Oliver, to an extent). In the first season, it seemed like she was mostly fine, a little sad and a little angry, but fine. Sara’s death and Sara and Oliver’s affair was just a complication in and obstacle to Laurel and Oliver’s relationship; it was not really used much to explore Laurel’s characters and her feelings.

A few other great moments come in “Birds of Prey.” Laurel goes to drink again but The Black Canary (who Laurel doesn’t know is Sara) convinces her not too. Later, Sara wants to leave with Laurel, leaving the hostages behind. But Laurel refuses, wanting to show that Black Canary and herself that she can be strong. This is a great, strong character moment for Laurel. It is her doing good and putting herself in danger for her own character and her own arc, rather than in service of other characters, although it does serve as conflict for Sara and Oliver, it still feels like its a lot about Laurel. Later, similar to how Sara convinced Laurel not to drink, Laurel convinces the Black Canary not to kill Helena. Laurel was able to get through to Sara when Oliver was unable to. In the final episodes of the season, it is Laurel, not Oliver, who convinces Sara to be a hero.

Less Screen Time & Reverting back

However, disappointingly, Laurel reverts back to her season 1 role in the last few episodes of Season 2. Oliver is prepared to turn himself over to Slade to die. But it is Laurel, kinda, who talks him out of it. She doesn’t really get through to him, as what actually gets through to him is the revelation about Sebastian Blood that she tells him. But before she tells him that, Laurel tries to convince him on other merits not to turn himself in to die. This is also the moment when Laurel reveals that she knows that Oliver is the Arrow. However, this important moment, is eclipsed by Laurel propping Oliver up. This confrontation should be a big moment, both for the show, and especially for Laurel’s character. Instead, it falls on the season 1 line that Laurel knows Oliver to his bones, even in light of this huge secret. It just feels so false, and brushes over any feelings Laurel should have about finding out Oliver is the Arrow. This is all about Oliver, a little bit about Oliver and Laurel, and not about Laurel at all. Laurel confronting Oliver about his identity should have been about her, but instead its about her supporting Oliver and getting him to take action, and not even through her words or something special about her, but through a piece of information she delivers.

And in the season finale, she is kidnapped in order to get to Oliver. And... that is all that she does. Again, she does nothing in the season finale, similar to Season 1 finale. Its frustrating that she is again reduced to someone who needs to be saved, to someone who’s is kidnapped and put in danger to get to Oliver. Especially, as this season has treated her character better than it did in season 1. And Laurel is not even an active part of taking Slade down, not like Felicity, who is also kidnapped but is brave and instrumental in taking Slade down, in numerous ways.

Laurel also has a bunch of undeveloped threads. When Laurel is kidnapped by The Mask, she ends up shooting and killing The Mask in order to save The Arrow’s life. The fact that Laurel killed someone is never addressed. Yes, it was justified and in defense of another person, but still, you’d think Laurel would have some emotional reaction or some feelings about it. But it is never shown or addressed. She also never reckons with the discovery that Oliver killed people. We see her spend a whole episode reckoning and coming to terms with the fact that Oliver is the Arrow, but not that he killed people. You would think that would be a big deal. This is someone who she has known for so long and has been in love with, so finding out that he was killed people, especially since Season 1 Laurel was the “morality” of the show, should have been a big deal. Yes, she worked with The Hood when he was killing people. But her feelings about The Hood have always been inconsistent, with her attitude towards what he does going back and forth. Even if she is okay with The Hood/The Arrow killing people, its got to be different when its someone she knows. It’s got to change how Laurel sees Oliver, even if not necessarily in a bad way. By not addressing this, the show really undercut Laurel’s character.

Laurel has less screen time and narrative prominence this season.There are multiple episodes that Laurel’s not in this season, and others in which she is barely in. This is the transition season for her character from female lead to supporting character. She is still arguably the female lead in this season, but her decreased screentime shows that she is on her way out in this role, and that she is transitioning to a supporting player, which definitively happens in season 3 .

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atopearth · 5 years

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Liar! Uncover the Truth Part 2 - 6th to 9th Liars

6th Liar Gotta agree that the family situation can become a big hindrance to the relationship depending on things, especially if they don’t approve. Lmao at the heroine thinking Sotaro’s parents are actually farmers and not the doctor lineage vibe he gives off. Well, can’t tell for sure right now but parents that like to grow their own vegetables sound exactly like my parents, and that photo with his parents with cows, they could really just enjoy this as an interest and so went to check out farms in the US haha. LOL but if she does marry him and they move to the US and she’s expected to help out on the farm then yeah…. But really, just moving to the US is a big change to her life so I don’t see the heroine doing that at all for a guy.

Azusa is sooo pushy. He practically forced himself into her apartment. The heroine usually stands her ground so well, she really should have just said no, especially since they barely know each other and he’s already trying to get into her home. At least he cooked for her after barging in I guess lol. It can’t be helped that Haruichi actually being a head of the Yakuza would frighten her considering that no matter how kind he may be, he’s a part of the underground world and who knows what he’s actually done and will do in the future. I didn’t mind Haruichi but I doubt you can be prepared to marry someone with such a background so fast lol.

I think it’s just kinda saddening how hurt Haruichi was. It was understandable why he hid it and why he didn’t want to tell her, but yeah, if she’s getting married to him, she has the right to know.. The good thing was that Haruichi was truly sincere in his love for her, he never thought about finding a Yakuza wife until recently, but seeing how bold, strong and fearless she was, he fell for her and cared about her. Not that following her and getting someone to report about what she does everyday is good but considering his background, it’s probably expected. Finally decided to check out the other endings besides the True and Secret, and dangg, I feel sorry for her in the bad ending, she steeled herself into being a Mafia wife and he uses her as a sacrifice to go to jail instead of him and then dumps her, yeah that’s terrible. Now I don’t feel so bad for the heroine dumping him if that’s a possibility lmao.

7th Liar I always feel so bad that my favourite is Itaru but Sotaro looks so similar to him that it makes me mix them up lmao, I’m sorry I don’t love you enough to be able to tell the difference between you two! Hmm, so we’re dealing with some sort of addict this time~ hope it’s not a gaming addict because that’s me lolol. Hahaha omg, is Sotaro a gaming addict? Lolll, right after I said that too…

Wow, Kazumi just brings her to a fancy party and gets people to do her makeup and hair and he even got her a dress lol. Why couldn’t he tell her that beforehand? What if she put a lot of effort into her makeup and dress that day lol. But wow, the host of the party, Kazumi’s friend who is a director is such a sleazebag, who the hell tells a woman on their first meeting that instead of being a wedding planner, she’d be a great model and that he’d introduce her to a porn director?! Wow, just wow. Lmao at her being clueless to ice referring to drugs, guess it’s nice that she’s innocent. Whether Kazumi’s lack of appetite is related to that and whether the girl hanging off Itaru on the streets is an escort is something hard to gauge right now, but I’m hoping that Sotaro or Kazumi is the liar this time XD

Kazumi is the liar, as expected, but I guess from now on, the things they lie about won’t be as bad? He was actually lying because he had a terminal illness, when the heroine thought he was a drug addict. Can’t blame her though, but honestly, I don’t see this love he has for her. Don’t think they really matched tbh, so I’m glad she didn’t want to be with him lol. But, I feel like Kazumi is the only liar that I genuinely felt sorry for and could see why he lied, it just feels so terrible..?

8th Liar Heroine is running out of time! Only 2 weeks left before the mother comes to see her so called boyfriend, she better step up her game lol. Tbh though, with Azusa’s spending habits etc, I feel like if there’s a guy that doesn’t seem to be earning as much as he seems/lying about his job, I have to say, I feel like it’s Azusa. But who knows, he might be a rich boy lol. I don’t know if Itaru will be fired from his marketing/sales job that earns him big bucks but is super stressful, although very fulfilling to him but I do think that someone who can brave through all that is someone that must enjoy their job and the challenges that come with it, so I think that whatever he’s going through, he’ll be okay. As for Sotaro possibly selling drugs in the hospital or whatever hmmm, sounds rather far-fetched tbh. And Itaru was just recommending some vitamin supplements he thinks is good to her and she thinks he’s a jerk and some kinda dodgy guy???

Anyway, with the amount of evidence and him asking for money, it was obvious that Azusa was a marriage scam artist, which is a terrible thing to do. Not only do you steal precious money from a woman but you also rob them of their love and also their ability to believe in love again. As a person that isn’t doing well with his parents and was raised by his relatives and has worked multiple jobs to help out his little brother’s living expenses etc and understands the difficulties of earning money, you would think he would have more consideration for other people’s hard earned money. But no, he only thinks that his situation gives him the right to take all this money. Especially since he spends so much on clothes etc too! Luckily I never liked Azusa, I always thought he was rather fake and was constantly just trying to appeal to the heroine, so yep, ditch that fraud.

9th Liar It’s finally the last one! Please be Sotaro! Loll. Why did Itaru seem kinda flustered with her standard of guys to not have illegitimate children? Noooo. Lol at the heroine doing her makeup to go to the doctor when she’s so sick just in case she sees Sotaro at the hospital. Sure, the doctor wasn’t very nice in the way she said that if the heroine has the time to put on makeup, she has time to rest, but the heroine didn’t need to call her a bitch lol… I mean, she could have been just concerned about her well-being. On the other hand, it’s very difficult for some people to go out without makeup because they’ve got a reputation and a professional appearance they have to keep up just in case they see anyone and I think it’s reasonable for the heroine to put on makeup though.

Hahahah I can’t believe Itaru and Sotaro met at a ramen restaurant that serves ramen from spicy level one to 99, where they just happened to sit next to each other and started fighting through who can eat spicier but in the end they both couldn’t take the 99 and just became rivals after that lmao. Wow guess that female doctor really was a bitch lol, she’s so rude to the heroine to call her a silly redneck pig like wtf, no basic respect at all, disgusting. Anyway, so sad that the game is pointing to Itaru probably being the liar, sigh. So envious that the heroine has such a good friend like Yuri that she can consult all the time and even help her deal with bugs and clean up her whole apartment! Not sure how I feel about Sotaro right now, he keeps saying that the heroine should not approach Itaru but doesn’t give any reason why. Itaru doesn’t even do that, he just tries to get her heart whilst knowing Sotaro will be doing the same.

Omggg I actually didn’t expect Sotaro to be the liar! I think I was just so down in the dumps in the beginning because everything wanted to show that Itaru was a liar so I thought my favourite guy (from the beginning!) was going to lose. But, anyway lol omg, who would have thought Sotaro had actually divorced twice?! And omg, initially I thought being divorced was okay since you can understand why he ended up hiding it (secret ending) since he never really got the chance to tell her truthfully after he lost the courage once. But after reading the endings, yeah, Sotaro is terrible. He’s not looking for a wife, he’s looking for a 24/7 domestic housewife aka a maid. That bad ending is exactly how things will turn out considering his attitude and criteria for picking women. Someone like the heroine who can’t even clean her house or take care of bugs would never be Sotaro’s ideal wife lol, he should be happy she ran off lmao.

Anyway, turns out I had a good eye and actually chose the best guy from the beginning hahahah. They’re really pushing the destiny thing with her mum having sent a photo of the marriage partner she wanted to introduce to her and it was actually Itaru all along lol. She didn’t even need to go to the party to find him lol. But I guess it was important for the heroine to go through all those liars in order to completely trust Itaru now, so I’m happy for her. The only crappy thing is that you don’t get to see romance between them even though we’ve gotten through all these crappy guys to get here but it doesn’t feel like we got a reward at all lol. You have to purchase Itaru’s lovers route to probably get to see how they’re doing but really, I think they should have a bit of an epilogue and then if people want more, they can do the lovers route. Now it just feels so… Like I feel so not accomplished with no reward, it’s like, you find all the liars, read their endings and it’s the end. I know this is a game revolved around catching the liars over everything but I also feel like it’s unreasonable to not be able to see a romantic happy ending, sigh, disappointed.

Overall though, I think this game was too hyped up so I had too many expectations that weren’t fulfilled (lacklustre story and characters to an extent, but fun gameplay and straightforwardness from the heroine). However, it was still pretty fun, it was quite light hearted and interesting to look at the evidence and try to decipher who’s the liar, what they’re lying about and then seeing how they came to be who they are. It was quite fascinating and a lot of fun, I enjoyed it as a nice and chill story of a distrustful woman that gets through all the crappy men to find one that will give her the best and what she needs. So now I can tell myself that I have a good eye for men hahahaha!

Office Deception (next series) is next! But I’m gonna take a bit of a break to get more tickets accumulated so I can always get all the endings and have a more wholesome experience I guess haha. I hope it’ll be even better~ EDIT: I didn’t realise there was a sequel, I’ll do that after I’m done with Office Deception since I already started it loll.

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kanarikadelak1996 · 4 years

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Can Having A Baby Save A Relationship Astonishing Useful Ideas

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What Can I Do To Save My Marriage

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readingsbylibramc · 4 years

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birth chart reading for @readingstuff

hello! welcome to your reading. I’m gonna give you a quick overview of what I’m going to analyze about your natal chart. feel free to ask me anything if something isn’t clear, of course. you’ll find out your dominants’ influence on your persona, your physical appearance, impression on others and the way you approach the world; your ego, identity, the real you; your reactions, your desires, inner emotions; your way of expressing your feelings, your mind and ideas; your desires and approach to love; your energy tank, instincts and temperament; in-depth analysis of each house with their rulers and analysis of heavy aspects; love life + soulmates/karmic partners interpretation; your relationship with your friends; your family life; your approach to career and work in general + possible jobs suggestion; your style, fashion sense analysis; life purpose and past life description; basic transits’ analysis to describe your current mood and, last but not least, your secret skills, how to make the most out of your soul and manifest what you desire based on your birth chart.

🦋 chart shape, dominants

your chart is a splay shape, meaning that your planets are located randomly in different groups in your chart. people with this type of chart are usually very talented at different things. they can focus their attention on different matters, from family, to work, to love. everything is important for you, and you try to live your life to the fullest. you may be particularly talented at things that require action, it doesn’t matter whether it’s physical or mental. you may be very good at sports, dancing… or maybe you’re good at leading, you could easily be the boss on your work place. since you’re interested in so many things, you could easily be skilled at all of them to be honest. my advice would be to pick the hobby that is most important for you and care about it more than the others. that’s because people with this chart usually tend to do so many things that they may lack precision. it’s better to give all of yourself to what’s important for you.

your dominant planets are pluto, mercury and saturn. you're a very hard-working and dedicated person with strong morals. you are very intense and deep, you have very complex beliefs that make you a particularly interesting person to talk to. in fact, you probably have excellent communication skills and you may also be very astute or intelligent.

your dominant sign is capricorn. you're hard-working and stubborn, once you have something in your mind no one can stop you. you strive to be the best at what you care about, especially in work. you're very polite, and this may even make you seem snob sometimes. actually, you're a very loyal person, who's also a great listener.

your dominant element is earth. you're a loyal and stable individual. you value longevity in your relationships, and that makes you quite picky. you can easily appear as cold, as opening up to someone you don't know well is too much of a risk for you. once you do, though, you'll stay forever. money and material possessions are important for you, as you understand that financial stability is one of the main qualifications in life.

🌎 ascendant in capricorn, 15° / 2nd decan ruled by saturn and venus

the most affectionate and approachable capricorn decan. you're a vivacious person, yet your heavy capricorn influence may make you feel restricted to share your vitality with others. others' first impression of you is that you look like some sort of authority, someone who needs to be respected. even when you're joking, you still have this seriousness to your aura that is hard to go unnoticed. you care about your manners, and just your overall impression in general. you may take extra care of your clothes, your makeup, hair etc. you don't want to look disorganized, in fact you probably own an agenda or even just write your appointments somewhere. you have a cautious approach to the world, you're very responsible, especially when people you love are involved. you may have a resting bitch face, even though your jupiter and sun dominant probably help you mitigate this. generally speaking, you still have a serious look on your face that looks quite intimidating. you also look introverted, and you most probably are. you're very modest, and that's because you're secretly kind of insecure about your appearance. you always feel like you're not enough, and that you constantly have to improve yourself to be accepted. this gets better with time, though. physically, you're probably very beautiful and don't realize it! especially with your scorpio midheaven. you may have an amazing bone structure, with high cheeckbones, a defined jawline and naturally straight, pleasant teeth. you may probably also have an amazing posture and walk, even though you may suffer from scoliosis or other bones diseases in your early years. also, you could have a few rounded features on your appearance, like a rounder figure, big round eyes, plump lips, button nose... also, your bones may be less defined than the typical capricorn rising due to your cancer energy.

capricorn ascendant opposite cancer sun: this placement indicates that, when you’re in public, you tend to act in a different way from who you truly are. perhaps you’re shy, so you tend to hide your bubbly, charismatic leo moon with your modest, reserved capricorn rising. this can obviously interfer in your relationships and bonds with others; some may expect you to be different, you could even struggle with making friends, as you appear kind of snob, when you're actually the opposite. now that you’re aware of this tendency of yours you can try to understand your real self more thanks to this reading, and start acting like who you truly are to get out of your shell.

🌞 sun in cancer, 9° / 1st decan ruled by the moon

this is the softest, most affectionate and emotional cancer decan. even though you may not show it due to your heavy leo and capricorn influence, you’re actually very vulnerable and sensitive. you may be a crybaby, as crying is a way to vent your emotions. you may even overreact, and be considered too dramatic. you’re extremely moody; you could be all happy and relaxed with your friends, then suddenly you get sad, or even angry. it’s hard to deal with this, especially because your emotions are quite intense. this could make you argue a lot with your peers. even though it takes you a while to find someone willing to stay, when that moment finally comes you’ll embody cancer’s best trait: that is, you’ll become a ‘mother’ to your friends, lover etc. you have a very nurturing soul, you have a knack for affection and care, and you could even get kind of clingy, even though you may feel limitated to give your love to someone else. cancer is a cardinal sign, hence you may be the one to take initiative, yet you do it undirectly. you’re probably the passive-aggressive type, even though this may be mitigated by your dramatic and impulsive leo moon. you’re most likely also quite patient, even though you don’t forgive easily. once someone tries to take advantage of you, it’s over for them.

🌙 moon in leo, 20° / 3rd decan ruled by the sun and mars

when you're with someone you feel comfortable with, you become a social butterfly. even though it may seem like you're looking for attention, it's not your priority. you're so charismatic and bubbly that you get naturally noticed. this is the most trustworthy leo decan, and also the most benevolent. you can be quite dramatic when you express your reactions; e.g. you scream when you're angry, or maybe you get really loud when you're excited or happy about something. you could also vent your emotions punching things, for example. just like the sun, the heat of your emotions needs to be felt by those who surround you. you'd do anything to help someone, especially with your pisces sun. you just want the best for anyone, even though people may take advantage of this generosity of yours. in addition, you could hardly ever say no, especially to people you're not close to. your heart is aligned with your feelings; you're naturally kind-hearted, you're prone to say things as you feel them. on the other hand, you may not be aware of how your thoughts may influence others. you're also very artistic! you might be into drawing/painting, or at least into art history, or maybe literature, poetry etc. anything that involves creativity and self-expresssion. you can be quite egotistic regarding your emotions: you always try to interpret people's feelings, so you get deeply upset when people don't understand you, especially when they don't even try.

leo moon square scorpio pluto: your emotions are so intense that they almost scare those around you. in fact, you're prone to accentuated mood swings; when you're happy, you start smiling and laughing joyfully. when you're sad, you're the type to cry, scream, even throw up in some cases. that's how far you go with your emotions. maybe, you also feel repressed to express your feelings exactly for this reason. you probably also have a conservative/possessive mother (or just any member of your family), with whom you don't feel at ease expressing your emotions. or maybe, your mother was absent throughout your life. on the other hand, you can understand others' feelings, but be careful not to use it to manipulate others. you could also be very paranoid, and might develop addictions and anxiety disorders. also, it could be that your parents are very controlling of your decisions; they may interfer in your love life and marriage, or even in your career choice.

🗣 mercury in gemini, 17° / 2nd decan ruled by mercury and venus

mercury is in its natural place in gemini, your whole chart flows very well! you have great problem-solving skills, you are extremely intelligent and astute. when you were younger, you probably used to be the winner at games like hide-and-seek. this placement also enhances your thirst for knowledge of any kind, you want to learn at least a little about anything, from science to foreign cultures. yet, since you want to learn so many things all at once, you may lack precision and be a little bit superficial. on the other hand, you're a fast learner, and since your sun is in cancer, a water sign, you may also be very intuitive, unlike other gemini placements individuals. you may often find people predictable, but in reality you're just ahead of them. you're also very open-minded, even though you still rely more on logic, not like your sister sign is sagittarius. yet, it's easy for you to be flexible in your day-to-day life, you don't have to follow a schedule to have everything under control, even though you may often suffer from stress and headaches due to this lack of organization. you may have a very youthful and positive voice, you just give off good vibes, you know?

gemini mercury conjunct gemini venus: this placement makes you struggle to open yourself to the world. you’re insecure that your thoughts and ideas may be judged negatively by others, hence you just bottle them up with your feelings. this aspect is mostly positive, though! you’re probably a good singer, or at least you have a very calm tone of voice that is pleasant to hear. you’re able to see both sides of an argument, hence you may be good at helping people making up. you could actually be suited for psychology! you may also earn money through your voice and thoughts, so you could be a writer, a journalist, an actress, a singer etc. this placement assures that you may be sociable, or at least that you have great social skills.

gemini mercury square virgo mars: this placement makes you slightly more aggressive with your words. in fact, it makes you look more assertive and almost bossy. you could often attack people with words when you get angry, and you can get quite provocative too, even though it may happen in a more passive way. you still have your libra mercury’s elegance and diplomacy in you, after all. even though you’re quite controversial for the way you speak, you’re still very sensitive to others’ words. your self-esteem tends to find its base mostly on others’ opinion about you, and you always look for reassurance from your loved ones. to deal with this hard aspect, you need to think before you speak. if you have troubles understanding others’ feelings, just think about how you’d love to be treated. patience will just come naturally to you.

❤️ venus in gemini, 25° / 3rd decan ruled by mercury and uranus

this is the most independent and intelligent gemini decan, but also the flakiest and most detached. your flirting style most probably includes jokes, teasing… stuff like that. even though you may seem flaky, as you like experiencing romance with different types of people, you’re actually quite picky. in fact, in order to fall for someone, you need to feel mentally attracted to them, not just physically. someone ignorant and stubborn that doesn’t care about learning something more definitely isn’t for you. you’re not the type to be super romantic and sweet with your partner or just people in general. you show your affection for example by sending them memes, making ironic jokes about them etc. also, when you’re into someone, you probably get very talkative! you start asking them simple questions about their life, even things like 'did you have lunch?’. also, you talk about them with all of your friends, and you find yourself thinking costantly about them. you’re very curious of nature, but you’re only interested in getting to know what catches your eye.

gemini venus square pisces saturn: you feel unable to love someone. this placement usually brings fear of committing, causing the individual to be flaky. there are two possibilities; I assume you directly avoid to get into relationships. your mind may unconsciously repress any thought about an eventual crush or love interest. it is caused by your insecurity, especially regarding your looks, as your capricorn rising makes you extremely self-conscious about your appearance. or perhaps, it’s the other way around: you literally jump into relationships, resulting in you getting hurt from time to time. you could feel pressured to be in a relationship, even though it’s not your priority. anyways, this should get naturally better with time, as you become more mature and you start taking more care of yourself mentally-wise. you can't love someone else until you love yourself.

☄️ mars in virgo, 18° / 2nd decan ruled by mercury and saturn

your life revolves around being productive. you don't like to waste your time, you always try to learn and gain something useful from everything you do. that's caused by the fact that you're motivated to be perfect in what you like; this, combined with your serious, dedicated capricorn nature, it may often cause you to burn out. in fact, the downside to this placement is that you may overwork yourself too much. this is bad, especially considering your heavy leo dominance: pisces is all about relax, creativity, fun, vacations... if you work too much, you don't have time to travel with your mind and make room for your hobbies, and that's a serious issue for a leo moon. in fact, it may be hard for you to endure too much hard work. you're capable of achieving your goals, but in order to do that you also need a break from time to time. your venus in the 6th house confirms this, but I'll get into it later.

virgo mars opposite pisces saturn: this is another placement that indicates that something or someone is trying to restrict you, they're trying to prevent you from following your dreams and taking your own choices for your life. that someone is most likely an individual that has a lot on impact on you, it's someone very authoritative. or perhaps, it may even be a bully or abuser of any sort. as a result, you either rebel and get extremely angry, or you hide all of your disappointment inside of you. but soon or after, all of your intense feelings are going to eat you alive if you keep going like this, it's a very unhealthy behaviour. you could find it extra hard to achieve your goals, as when you try you always come across some hardships. what matters the most, is that you try to be more positive, you could even try manifesting more patience or serenity. you can't hold onto anger so much, or it will just fill you with negativity that could damage you. let it all go, focus on your goals and try to understand how to be more patient. in fact, you may often feel like you need to do everything as soon as possible, when it's not like that. you can allow yourself to be more calm and live life as it comes, it will make you feel much better with yourself and you'll also get more mature, which is crucial to learn your saturnian lessons and increase your self-confidence.

🏡 houses, interceptions

your 1st house is in capricorn. neptune and uranus are both here as well. with these two planets here, you seem less intimidating than the typical capricorn rising. in fact, you may look more on the dreamy, reserved side. uranus also makes you stand out from the crowd, you’re very charismatic in your own way. you could be of average height or even tall, or at least you have long arms, legs and / or fingers. with your first house in capricorn, you care a lot about your status and about your goals. you always give the best of yourself, and you want to be acknowledged and praised for your achievements. it helps boosting your self-esteem, even though you may have the tendency to think that the compliments you receive aren’t honest. with the ruler of the 1st house being in the 2nd house, you fully embrace your identity when you feel stable, both emotionally and financially. you could feel happy and confident when you can go shopping, when you take care of yourself, or perhaps when you see the results of something, like losing weight after working out. you base your self-esteem more on concrete things rather than emotional support.

your 2nd house is intercepted in the sign of pisces, with the cusp falling in aquarius. saturn is also intercepted. I feel like you’re the type of person to daydream about having a lot of money, self-esteem… perhaps, you’d love to workout or do something to change your appearance, yet you struggle to take action and try to do what you want to do. you may even idealize your possessions too much, which eventually lets you down, as you realize that you need to work hard to achieve much less than what you dream about. overall, you constantly overlook your skills and worth, and that makes you act more submissive, like a victim. with also intercepted saturn being in this house, you may be particularly sensitive to criticism, you're afraid that others may see you as weird or different from them. I find that this placement connects well with your other placements; probably, your insecurity comes from an authoritative figure in your life that didn't show you the right way. someone that has a big influence on you taught you some wrong ideals, and this makes you lack some sort of piece in you that makes you understand your own value. this can only be solved as you grow up, as you'll make more experiences that will allow you to understand that you're worth it. also, since aquarius is in the house cusp, you can also rely on rebellion. of course it doesn't have to be fiery, but being independent would be highly benenficial both for your self-confidence and even financial matters.

your 3rd house is in aries. when you communicate, you take a lot of pride in your opinions. you hate admitting that you’re wrong, especially since you’re a perfectionist. you could be quite impulsive, and you may speak with a naturally loud tone of voice. you’re extremely good at coming up with plans easily, even though I feel like you may struggle to stick to them due to your heavy gemini presence in your chart. with the ruler of the 3rd house in the 8th house, you may make money out of communication. hence, you could be a teacher, a writer, a psychologist… everything that involves the use of words in some way. they could also boost your self-esteem, you are very proud of your intellect. also, you could be able to read tarots, astrological charts... you may even be some sort of medium, you're naturally talented at that, you're very spiritual.

your 4th house is in taurus. your childhood wasn't very turbulent, but not perfect either. your parents were most likely very strict with you, possibly even violent, and your home environment wasn't peaceful. you probably were a very artistic and creative child, but maybe your parents didn't want you to focus so much on your creativity, and in general they interferred in pretty much all of your choices. the ruler of the 4th house, mercury, is in the 6th house: you may end up following your parents' same steps when it comes to school and / or work, or even health. you could inherit a disease from them, for example. you might have also been a very active and healthy kid, perhaps you used to eat a lot and didn't gain weight, or you've always done sport in your life. you could also find a job in your birth country / city, or perhaps you won't move farther than that, I don't see you going abroad.

your 5th house is in gemini. you feel able to express yourself and your creativity through communication and media. probably, when you were a child you used to love puzzles. your hobbies are quite different from each other, and they have the goal to stimulate your mind in some way. in fact, with mercury here, you're probably interested in anything that involves communication. you may love reading or even writing yourself, and perhaps you could also be talented at acting or at least voice acting, you're very expressive. you're able to convey your thoughts clearly in your speech, and you may actually be good at mimicking others' voices as well. you could also be a talented singer. also, since you share the same ruler, gemini, in both the fifth and sixth house, I'd truly recommend you to turn a hobby of yours into a job. hence, if you're into acting, you should try becoming an actress; if you like singing, you may become a singer, if you're into writing, you should become a writer, and so on. it'd be the most pleasant and suitable job for you.

your 6th house is also in gemini. in your daily routine, especially at work, you have to communicate a lot. you come in contact with lots of people, or maybe you write stuff like blogs or books. generally, you have a very hectic schedule, as you have different hobbies and appointments that you can’t abandon. your venus is also placed in this house: this placement indicates that you may be prone to procrastinate and prefer your hobbies over your job. you could be quite superficial in a certain sense, and you'd risk to waste your potential with jobs that are way too logical. in fact, your ideal career has to include something that allows you to express your personal taste, ideas and interests. in this way, it won't feel too heavy to you, and you'll find pleasure in working. side note, but this placement also indicates that you may often date co-workers. the ruler of the 6th house is in the 5th house: this placement confirms that you would do amazing at a career that involves creativity and pleasure. you could be a writer, a singer, an actress, a photographer... in general, anything that allows you to be creative using your words.

your 7th house is in cancer. in marriage, you’re looking for an affectionate and caring partner who’s willing to nurture you. you’re also the type to like younger people to nurture by yourself, even though your heavy leo moon points out that you’d rather be in a relationship where your partner is older and can be the one to take care of you. you can’t have the burden of controlling someone else, especially if you have yet to solve your identity issues caused by your interceptions. your future spouse most likely comes from your same city or at least from your country, you most likely share the same religion, culture, language, etc. they'll literally feel like home to you, perhaps you'll have a more serene family with them rather than with your parents. also, in a partner you value feelings above all. you probably don't have a high sex drive, or at least you don't care about physical affection as much as your feelings.

your 8th house is intercepted in the sign of virgo, with the cusp falling in leo. you may be too critical and pragamatic when it comes to taboo topics, such as sex or spirits. you may be skeptical, even though you’re intrigued by them, and hence you can’t make up your mind. you’re critical about these topics, and hence you may attract critical people too. for example, since the cusp of the house falls in leo, it’s possible that you may attract people that appear as very sunny and bubbly, yet they reveal themselves to be your enemies, talking behind your back. also, since mars is also intercepted, I feel like you also have troubles being intimate with someone on an emotional level. you struggle to create long-lasting bonds, perhaps exactly because you may be too picky or critical of others. you value honesty above all, yet people may often lie to you. to cope with this intense interception, you need to understand your value and gain self-confidence. people take advantage of you because they notice your insecurity; if you show a bold yet bright presence, no one will try to betray you again. love yourself first.

your 9th house is in libra. your beliefs and life philosophies were shaped by the outside world. that doesn’t mean you’re basic; you just don’t look enough in yourself, you prefer taking inspiration from others. in fact, when you realize that you don’t feel attached to a certain topic or opinion, you just leave it behind and seek other truth. you hate being told what to do, you want to be free in the decisions you make. the ruler of the 9th house is in the 6th house: you may pursue a career that involves travelling, foreign languages, culture, etc. perhaps you may have to travel a lot for work, or maybe you'll actually move abroad to pursue your career. you may also work as a writer, a philosopher, or even as a teacher or professor.

your 10th house is in scorpio. you may have a reputation for looking mysterious, as you’re probably not very sociable. you’re extremely motivated to achieve your goals, even though you may feel lost and confused due to your hard aspects and interceptions. you’ll pursue a career that involves looking for the truth, hence you may be a detective, a scientist, a poet etc. your career will give you a major change in your life, and you'll finally be able to embrace your self-esteem and indipendence thanks to it. overall, once you find your true vocation, you’ll have no problems working, especially if you decide to pursue a creative career that is the most indicated for you, even though it may take you a while to find the right job for you due to your midheaven being in scorpio. I feel like you may receive and earn a lot of money that mostly comes from other people, like customers or even fans, but you probably won't work under a boss, you'll be independent. you may even open a shop by yourself, for example.

your 11th house is in sagittarius. your friends may be very open-minded, and you might have met them in school. they could also come from a different cultural background, or maybe they’re directly from abroad. at first, you struggled to make friends, as you were very secretive. with time, you’re learning to trust people and to transform and grow up through them. you’re particularly fond of your friendships as they play a big role in your growth and fortune. you could get popular easily, or at least you're very benevolent of others that it's easy for you to be likeable and get to know new people if you try, even if you're an introvert. this placement also indicates that people may admire you, and since jupiter is here you may even be seen as someone wise, a role model. in fact, it's a perfect placement for a celebrity, as you may naturally attract fame and fans to you.

lastly, your 12th house is in sagittarius again. you’re particularly interested in religion and higher beliefs, hence meditation would be effective for you. yet, you need to get enough sleep, or you could not be able to fully embrace the spirituality of this placement. you may also be able to have prophetic dreams, or at least they have a strong moral beyond them. jupiter is also placed here, and hence you may fine luck and relief in neptunian topics, such as meditation, dreams, astrology, religion, psychology etc. you may have a special bond with your pets, you're extremely intuitive, you could even be able to predict the future, perhaps through day-dreams or even through your sleeping dreams. I'd definitely recommend you to get closer to your higher self in this lifetime, as it's the key for you to find joy and pleasure. to do that, you may get into spiritual topics like astrology, tarots, psychology, meditation, yoga, religion... anything that allows you to detach from your everyday life is the key for your soul's ease and peace. the ruler of the 12th house is in the 11th house; you may have very spiritual friends, or perhaps your friends were a part of your past lives, and hence they're your soulmates. you may also dream of them often.

❤️ love life, soulmates

in love, you attract cancer, sagittarius, taurus, gemini and virgo. your future spouse will most probably have taurus and sagittarius placements, hence they’ll be very outgoing, bright and confident, but also very loyal and stubborn. they'll be more of a homebody like you, but they'll probably love travelling. you could actually meet them abroad, or perhaps they're foreign. they could also be a part of your group of friends, or perhaps you could be friends with them before starting a relationship. your children will be heavy in gemini/virgo placements, hence they’ll be very intelligent and talkative, maybe even too chatty. yet, they’ll be pretty ambitious, polite and serious individuals as well.

👶🏻 family life

your mother was very caring and affectionate with you, even though she could’ve been a bit too protective and/or materialistic. she’s probably a taurus or a libra, or she has at least some placement in those signs. your father is way more dominant than your mother, and he could be very scary. he's very honest, but he may also be too possessive and controlling of you and the rest of your family in general. hence, he was the dominant figure in your house. he’s probably a scorpio or any other water sign. if you have siblings, they’re probably aries or scorpio. you might fight a lot for control, especially during childhood. you’re also quite possessive of your things, but overall you also have a deep bond. even though you may argue quite a bit, you still have affection for each other.

📊 career

you could do well at a variety of jobs to be honest! with your gemini in the 6th house you could actually work in different fields before sticking to one career, hence you’re pretty experienced. in your chart, I definitely see writer or poet potential, you have a lot of placements that point it out. you also have a stellium in your 11th house, which is associated with fame. you could get popular very easily, especially thanks to your career. otherwise, you may also do well as a teacher, abroad as a translator or even as a therapist, a doctor, a nurse, a psychologist etc.

👗 fashion sense, style analysis

I imagine you put a lot of effort into your outifts, yet you don’t show it. you want to look effortlessly good, you don’t want to give the impression that you tried. your style may be quite minimalistic and simple, with lots of jeans, sweatshirts, plain t-shirts… I see you being more into natural shades, like white, grey, beige etc. you’re also not very fond of using too many accessories, you’re stylish but still very simple. you have this natural charm to you, hence you still look good even though your outfits may not be too complex.

👁 past life, life purpose

during your past life, it was hard for you to get out of your comfort-zone. you preferred staying in your small environment rather than challenge yourself. that made you again awareness of how to act in small communities, but this lifetime you need to go farther than that. you need to prove that what you learned in your past life is the key to nurture your skills, and be able to apply them in a larger environment. you may find yourself travelling a lot, gaining lots of widsom from your experiences... in this lifetime, you basically need to learn through the communication abilities you gained in your previous life.

🤔 major transits analysis / sept 17th

this year, your focus is on your persona. you might feel new, like you’re born again. you’ve probably gone through a few hardships last year that made you question your value, but now you’re back on track. this year, together with 2021, will be crucial for your self-esteem. even though you may feel pressured to always look at your best, you’re finally learning how to accept and love yourself. also, the north node is transiting your 6th house, and most importantly it's conjunct your venus, so you may meet someone who can have a big impact in your life romantically! keep your eyes open, especially in your work place/academy. I don’t see it being necessarily your future spouse, but they may be very helpful to find a better job or clear your mind about your vocation.

🧿 manifest what you want, secret skills

the best way for you to manifest is idealizing and acting at the same time. you have both energies combined in your chart, which is great actually! I’d suggest you to first picture what you want in your life, and then do something concrete to manifest it. for example, let’s suppose you want this gucci bag; first, think about it deeply. then, you could try going into a gucci shop and just walk around, maybe even touch that bag. you’ll get results if you believe it! it’s also great to write and read/listen your own positive affirmations, such as 'I love my gucci bag’, 'the gucci bag my mom gave me is amazing’ and so on.

thank you again for booking a reading! I hope it resonated with you :) xx

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2x12 You Are Not Your Own Review

Whole Episode Review

So much great stuff. So many problems. So much promise that Shadowhunters is determined to be better than the books.

So much evidence that they might not understand what the initial problems in the book were.

I’m not one of those people who reacts to characters like they are real people, or about the writers “treating a character like that” as though the plot actually happened to a real person. Doing something terrible to a character, or having a character do something awful is not “disrespecting” them— if you deal with the consequences of those plot points and use them to make a plot move forward, instead of just dropping them and running along to the next thing. If a plot point is just a thing that happens, then yeah, it’s a disservice to the character, but you can do really terrible shit to a character if you build it into something interesting plotwise and create character growth from it.

I’m not sure I trust Shadowhunters to accomplish that right now.

Shadowhunters entire premise is based on there being a whole magic world, where Shadowhunters are at the top, and downworlders are underneath them. There are laws in place that are supposed to guarantee some freedom and equality, and everyone knows they are bullshit, but the Shadowhunters don’t care. There’s a villain who embodies the worst of Shadowhunter supremacy ideals… but the Shadowhunters hate him because he killed a bunch of Shadowhunters, not because he threatens the downworld.

The narrative they are trying to push, is that their lead characters, Clary, Jace, Isabelle and Alec, are aware of and against the unfair treatment and oppression of the downworld and in favor of a fairer and more inclusive world. Especially Clary, who as a character from outside the world doesn’t have their ingrained prejudices.

But the writers are failing to a degree that almost seems intentional in the first two episodes.

The Problems:

1. Please Pay No Mind To The Pile Of Dead Downworlders Behind the Curtain

Valentine murdered downworlders en mass inside an Institute and the only time a Shadowhunter has mentioned it is Alec telling Jace that it isn’t his fault. Imogen was brought in to interrogate and torture Valentine— to get the mortal cup back. There has been no nod whatsoever to the Clave attempting to reach out to the downworld. Acknowledge the massacre, assure the leaders of the downworld that they didn’t know the mortal sword had the power to slaughter downworlders. When they bring up that Clary deactivated the sword? It’s done with annoyance that stupid Clary broke the Truth Magic.

Even Luke and Maia’s scene, where Maia is upset that most of the pack got rolled off the Institute floor and probably onto a truck to be dropped into the Hudson for all anyone seems to give a damn, gives Luke the less than compelling emotional reaction of “Meh, more wolves where those losers came from, my nosy gay partner is annoying me right now.”

The show did something catastrophic to a population that it explicitly uses to represent oppressed people, and sidestepped dealing with it further than wringing a Malec moment out of it. There is no emotional impact to dozens (hundred? We don’t know) of dead downworlders.

Everyone of the main Shadowhunter characters (except Jace) is in or has been in a significant romantic relationship with a downworlder, and none of them seem to be thinking about the impact of this massacre in any larger way either.

2. Business as Usual, Side of Evil

Shadowhunters encourage torture. Mundanes call that a war crime, but it’s whatever! Imogen tortures Valentine for information about the Mortal Cup. Imogen wants him dead because he won’t give up the mortal cup. The Clave wants him alive because he might give up the mortal cup if they just keep torturing him.

And then Clary McWhiteSavior handwaves all the torture and dark shit going on in the basement of the building she lives in, because Imogen lost her family… in a warrior culture, where people die all the time and most people lost a lot of family 15 years ago. When Imogen tells Alec that the Clave won’t let her kill Valentine, but she’s going to do it anyway… Alec is concerned… but concerned like a Republican senator, where he’s shocked and dismayed… but isn’t going to do shit about it (other than guard the door until it turns out that maybe it is his body-swapped boyfriend after all).

I get that Valentine is essentially the Shadow world equivalent of a White Supremacist. If he were burning crosses in Mississippi instead of… being menacing on a boat carousel?(seriously, Shadowhunters, figure out your damn aesthetic) I wouldn’t really give a damn about him getting a little bit mysteriously dead during a security tape fritz. (Except of course I would, because those sorts of “mechanical failures” only ever function to excuse the deaths of non-white people, and let killer cops back out on the street. That’s the actual pattern.)

But the Law is the Law. Shadowhunters are supposed to be dispensers of cold justice in strict accordance with ancient tradition. Having Imogen go rogue like that, and DRAG ALEC, ONE OF THE OFFICIAL GOOD GUYS along with her, and at no point have the plot acknowledge that she went off the rails is ludicrous. Even Casserole Clam managed to fit that part in. In the books Imogen breaks the Law to torture Jace, and the narrative kills her for it. It’s not okay for Shadowhunters to just walk away from that point, especially after tying a main character up in the mess.

3. Must Be This White or Male Not To Be An Addict

Season 1 Izzy was the youngest forensic pathologist in New York, a formidable fighter, a loving sister, a good friend, and a total badass. Season 2 Izzy is a frail drug addict who has yet to deliver a line to a man who isn’t playing savior or trying to bone her, or both! She is also the only non-white Shadowhunter from Clary’s stupid pre-credit intro monologue and she’s completely lost control of her sexual and romantic agency (Technically I know Alec has to be Latino… but Matthew Daddario isn’t so I think the point still stands).

Izzy and Meliorn had a relationship lacking the romangst that characterizes everyone else’s smooching time, but that seemed perfectly healthy and functional. Izzy even got to save him from the evil Clave imprisoning him with no evidence in a place that would kill him (remember when that became important in the story? Neither do I, must have gotten cut for more time for Jace and Clary to say sibling words over and over again in case we didn’t hear them the first time) but now she’s drug denning with Raphael until he turns her out in the street to save her life, and then she’s being saved by the mysterious blonde english boy who takes her home to save her life, and she doesn’t think it’s fair for Alec to not like Sebastian just because Alec wishes that he had been the one to save her life. Even Simon, who I have basically no qualms with, gets a scene where he gets to give her information about addiction and be respectful of what she might be needing in recovery, and has family experience and doesn’t judge her.

And it might have seemed sweet if Isabelle’s story line hadn’t stripped her of everything that was cool about her in season 1.

Gag. Choke. Barf.

4. I Feel Like You Want Me To Think Boy-Touching is Gross

Remember all the hand holding and closeness and casual intimacy between Magnus and Alec in 2A?

No. Cause it wasn’t there.

Other than the greeting kiss in 2x11, every time Alec has touched Magnus like they are two people who are in love and are having and enjoying sex with each other, it was actually Valentine, and the camera focused on Valentine being super weirded out by it. When it was Magnus touching Alec in Valentine’s body the disgust made sense in the context… but with everything else going on in that plot there’s still a yuck factor to the touch that makes the fact that the only time Alec and Magnus are together, in their own bodies, there is too much hurt and distance for them to touch each other.

5. And Like… I Don’t Want Homophobia in Fiction But…

What is going on culturally with Alec Lightwood The Only Gay Shadowhunter? No one mentions it, no one brings it up. And it would be a really good thing to explore in the current cultural moment. Homophobia (and racism) can be present without being overt. It can affect people’s lives and careers, even with everyone putting on an accepting face.

It could be something that forces Alec to think a little bit more about the wisdom of the Clave, and maybe make him think a little bit about how he was raised to think about downworlders. It would move him out of the dominant culture of his world into a weird gray space where he could learn. Because they gave him the impetus for that in Aldertrees “I loved a werewolf as though she was a person but it turns out she was just a downworlder” speech.

If Jenji Kohan suddenly took over as show runner, it might even be interesting to see Alec learn how not to be a White Gay ManTM, like the assholes joining facist movements because they think their sexuality gives them an excuse to hate Muslims, or the rotten toenail fungus suing the Alamo for hosting an all women screening of Wonder Woman because he can’t handle not being welcome in a space for women when he could go see the fucking moving anywhere else in Texas. (What an asshat).

6. And Since I Brought Up Disrespect

Again, doing bad things to characters isn’t disrespect.

But patterns in the writing for certain characters is.

1. Why is Izzy a pathetic damsel now, repeating the same experience, and the same fucking lines over and over again?

2. Why do Clary and Simon get greeting make outs and Alec and Magnus don’t? Why have we seen Clary and Jace dive into passionate full body kisses with a wide enough lens to see their bodies pressed together and not gotten the same for Magnus and Alec? Why have we gotten a cutesy morning after scene for Clary and Simon, and not gotten anything similar for Magnus and Alec, even in an episode where their fist time having sex was a B plot?

3. Why is Izzy always being put in the position where sex is being exchanged for something? (She goes off to have sex with Meliorn when they all need a backway into the hotel Dumort. Her attempts to get a bite from Raphael are all highly sexualized. Aldertree offered Izzy Yinfen in exchange for “dinner”.

4. Why is it that in the two sex scenes we’ve seen with people fully or mostly nude (Jace and the Seelie girl and Izzy and Meliorn) the woman is so much more sexualized than the man? And why have we only seen this much skin in these casual sexual relationships and not in the main romantic pairings?

5. Why has Clary never listened to anyone, and never had to experience any real consequences for her actions (with the exception of getting thrown into a rape cage at Iris’s after trying to bring her mother back from the dead). Why does she keep saying she cares about downworlders (and always downworlders of color) and then fucking them over and forgetting about them? She tased Luke, for fuck’s sake, and went on her merry way like a fucking sociopath.

While Watching Thoughts

Azazel is a good small arc villain. Sinister and handsome and powerful.

Kat Mcnammara is actually good at this cutes-y romcom shit. It comes across much more genuine than everything else she’s asked to do…but somehow it makes me hate Clary more. I like my female leads smart enough to realize that maybe Simon being a Daylighter is super rare, and maybe could mean trouble and maybe there’s a reason for Simon to be jumpy (Vote 1 of this reaction post for Maia as main character)

UUUUGGGGHHHH remember season 1 Izzy, who occasionally did something other than make doe eyes at men who were actively harming her while she credited them with saving her life?

I would like to see Clary, Jace and Isabelle’s willingness to bring Sebastian onboard obviously tied to him being a Shadowhunter. It would make a lot of the anti-downworld stuff coming up pop more and give Clary’s character something to actually work with going forward-- “He’s a shadowhunter, I’m a shadowhunter, we are part of the shadowhunter club, my mom is dead and my father is evil and jace isn’t my brother, so shadowhunters are my FAMILY”

Valentine trying to do magic is great, Harry’s changed physicality doing Valentine is great. I wish the next day makeup made more sense.

I can’t tell if it’s sweet or needy that Alec marches directly to Magnus’s apartment after that phone call, especially since there was a huge fucking massacre and then they made him summon a greater demon that nearly killed them all?

Umm… okay with the matrix shot.

It’s…not awesome that the most affectionate touch we’ve seen Magnus and Alec have is when it’s being used to freak out Valentine.

Goddamnit Clary. Could you listen for just one fucking time? If only so I don’t have to hear you whine about it when the consequences fuck you over.

Interesting that Valentine thinks to call Dorothea.

I hope they make this Imogene the Sadist thing go somewhere

Please let this be the end of this fucking druggie storyline

Simon is sweet. He would have been a much better main character than Clary. Imagine, instead of this love-struck white girl— witty Jewish boy who deeply cares about people actually like… fucking notices the problems in the Shadow world society. Actually cares. Actually brings it up to the people around him other than just when he needs their help for stuff. (Remembers that Luke is basically his Dad)

This scene makes me wish that Valentine wasn’t the most boring fucking villain. I had no idea Alan was a good actor cause his character is such a mildly menacing blank space. His face when Alec shoves him away. His Magnus voice.

This is not the worst way to introduce the Herondale thing… but I don’t want this Imogene/Clary scene.

Oh hey- Simon caring about someone again. Caring about the guy who has threatened him multiple times because Isabelle humanized him. Hmmm…. What an interesting trait in a main character brought into a repressive society against their will. Hmmm.

I like Alec trusting Jace with what just happened to him.

I don’t think Magnus actually calls Alec Alexander this often.

Haha. Valentine faking magic.

I hate gratuitous torture scenes. I gave up on Supernatural after the Samandriel thing. This had better be fucking moving toward a point. About the Clave being Nazis.

Please let this episode be the last I need to hear about the incest plot

Whoa. Raphael. This is the only time I’ve ever liked Raphael a little bit.

Oh good. Isabelle being a junkie is a plot point again.

Simon! So Stupid! Don’t wave it at everyone!

Luke knows he’s everyone’s dad.

Again. Make this Imogen thing do something.

Alec… isn’t really going to allow this to happen is he? Not just because it might be Magnus… but because he’s supposed to respect the rules. And like… there should be too much doubt in his mind to go this far. Especially with the weird phone call and visit earlier.

Ooohhoooo This is much better reveal of Jace’s parentage than the books. Buuuuttttt…. Imogen believes the Magnus/Valentine switch with way less evidence than Magnus gave Alec. Not great.

I wonder if this Herondale reveal reads as total left field bullshit if you haven’t read the books?

Magic has to be harder than that.

Good point Alec. You are now here with the untrained shadowhunter and the random dude who according to his own story, just went rogue. There are real shadowhunters at the institute, where are they.

Ooohhh, Alan got that magnus-move down really well. It’s too bad he has to go back to being a frowny face with a overwrought backstory.

I feel bad for Kat that she got cast to be a cute red head and now that they have real money to work with they can afford people as talented as Alisha and Will. She can’t keep up.

Magnus must be a better fighter than that. What the hell was that?

Like… are they going to talk about the fact that Magnus’s first thought at every point has been protecting people… and Alec is a Shadowhunter… who was just going to guard the door while his boss tortured a prisoner? That’s some dark shit. And it sort of carves Alec down to just another Shadowhunter… another in a long line of the monsters who have hunted Magnus and his friends for centuries. How could Magnus have thought he would be different? Is it naive for him to really have believed that it was possible to love a Shadowhunter?

Alberto could have chemistry with a ketchup stain

Oh good. More incest. I was so very worried we might go four fucking seconds without it.

Is Jace just… hanging out and petting a sword?

So… did Imogen storm into Magnus’s and demand jewelry, probably without apologizing him for the torture and unlawful imprisonment? (Of course she did. Did Alec Say anything?)

We aren’t going to deal with the irony in her statement about what’s good and right… when she was all tortury and rogue murdery? We’re gonna let that go? Okay then.

#shadowhunters 2x12 #you are not your own #review #malec #episode reaction

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Welcome to Punjab (while there’s still something to see)

Punjab doesn’t get the credit it deserves for its beauty; fashion, food, and spirituality all exist in unexpected harmony. See, this is a state that was once defined by such a vibrant culture. At the core, that culture is still there. And at its core, it's also dying.

The Sikh faith was born in Punjab, and over the years the Sikh culture pretty much came to define the state itself. It’s where the Sikh Raj was brought into existence, and held a prosperous reign for years until the British invasion. This is important for the reason that Sikhism holds a solid belief in the ideas that words are important, that sense should not be given up for tradition, and that the best way to spread a message or to convey thoughts is via poetry supported by music. Our very holy book is poetry written by well-known poets of the day, all from different castes and religions.

But back in the end of the 1800s, when most students attended convent schools and knew more about Christianity than the Gurus, the community felt that the faith was dying out. There were too many sects, the children didn’t know their own culture, and when the youth stop understanding is when the elder generations comes to realize that there is about to be a debilitating identity crisis. The Khalsa values were fading out, and the era of the Sikhs seemed to be coming to an end.

But after all that Sikhs went through, they were hardly about to let such a thing happen peacefully. The response thus came in the form of the Singh Sabha movement, which was basically a more politically-minded Sikh Renaissance. It was a physical and philosophical battle to bring back the true nature of the Gurus’ teachings.

With that determination, corruption was exposed and members of the movement went to cities and villages to preach of the inspiring heritage and the important ideals that had been diminishing in value. There was an outpouring of books, poetry, and magazines; centers of education were built and the right to control them was brought back to the religion. The SGPC was founded to govern and ensure that these victories remained. If you go to my college, you understand the irony in this, and can probably now understand exactly what we had and what we lost.

Because maybe that made up the 1900s, but it’s not really something that has made its way to the 21st century. If anything, we’ve reached another point of crisis. But this time it’s not just about the loss of the values that make up a religion, but rather the loss of the Punjab’s heritage and health as a whole.

Today, too, the majority population of Punjab is the Sikhs. But you can’t see a focus of those values, either secular or non-secular, in the citizens. There’s little to no deep, thoughtful writing or education centers which focus on the importance of what the Gurus believed- respect all as fellow humans, challenge tradition, believe service to be the highest purpose in life, and help those who need it. There’s barely any respectable art (in any form) to be found. Some of my classmates write and sing, and their works are beautiful. But it's done in secret, and while I completely respect their right to keep it personal, that leaves very little to create an impression. I want to know where that proud and dignified culture went.

This is the richest state in India, and it has the least influence on the country. It is drugged up, drunk, with villages dying both literally and figuratively. There is an epidemic of farmer suicide, and it is rife with drug addiction, illiteracy, and poverty. This is India’s cancer capital, much of it due to lack of knowledge, pesticides leaving heavy metals in the water, and pollution in general.

And no one is being informed of any of this.

Nothing exists in the "indie" genre in Punjab. There is nothing in the way of independent work. No independent music, movies, nothing. You know how in America so many kids have that dream of becoming a rock star, or they make bands in high school just because they can and they want to? Yeah, that’s not really a thing here.

I don't know, maybe I'm too much of an outsider to be commenting on lack of culture. But I know for sure that the medical parts are real. The epidemics linked to alcoholism and poor hygiene and drug abuse and lack of education are real. Pollution is killing and it's so easy to deal with but politics and corruption keeps anything from happening.

How do we make things happen? Everyone complains about it as an integral part of their teatime chats, but the conversation always ends before anyone reaches anything close to a solution.

And then there’s that part about culture, again. Where is it? Where are the words, the music, the moving movies and documentaries not produced by Bollywood in an attempt to reach a liberal audience that barely exists?

Honey Singh, Badshaah, Bohemia; Hard Kaur, the only female Punjabi rapper; these are what we dance to and who the culture worships. Maybe they have talent in some way I can't relate to, but the only thing they sing of is drinking and partying and hooking up. Maybe because that’s the only thing this generation wants to hear. (Side note- watch Udta Punjab if you want to see more on that scene; it’s one of my favorite movies to come out that's based on reality)

This is the part I’m a bit more reluctant to bring up, only because I know that the less aware will take full offense if they haven’t already. But the truth is that my classmates are more than half the problem. They’re highly educated, with significant connections, well off parents, and absolutely no interest in what they're doing or what they could be doing with their privilege. They all vote for AAP and then get bored five words into any conversation about reality.

Since you probably haven’t realized this yet, let me make it clear: YOU HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE CHANGE.

Americans are rising up because of neo-Nazis in the White House and a president who really shouldn't be there. But for these guys that's just business as usual. There were marches all over the world, from America to Africa to Europe, and even in other states in India; Punjabis didn't even know that it was Women's Day. There are strikes and protests happening right now from the ones who really can't afford the consequences of a strike failing to pull through, but just as same can't afford for things to continue as they are.

Historically, the ones who can actually start and maintain a revolution are the ones who have the means to call for change without worrying about issues like living hand to mouth, or losing their livelihood over such actions. That's us, by the way. In this day and age, our generation is the one with that power. We're the ones who should be rising up and calling for change.

But the only change being discussed is rising up for more parties, less rules, and more ways to go on adventures and get drunk without failing classes.

And I get it. I really, really do. I want to go on adventures and have fun and not have to worry about things like responsibility. But have you seen the streets and the people you pass? Have you seen how we have to cover our mouths when we go into the city and wash our hair when we come back? We can afford to have fun, but the rest of the state can't afford our apathy.

It’s just such blatant hypocrisy. Voting for the idea of change, but not consider doing anything personally. Attending colleges that people work so hard to reach, and then acting couldn’t-care-less when it comes to actually doing something with that knowledge and with that position.

Why aren't you aware of your own power when they're terrified of it? I'm not telling you to stop drinking and partying. But put your glass down, we can get to the party when the work is done, yeah?

Because after all of this, I refuse to believe that this beautiful state is slowly killing itself. Just as the Singh Sabha movement came about because they refused to accept that as inevitable, so am I waiting for our movement to come forth, because this death is not inevitable.

Personally, you can expect to see me on my blogs, on my twitter, and on my YouTube channel doing my best with my works, forcing these issues and ideas into the forefront until they can't be ignored.

And if you have opinions on that, commentary, or even disagreements, please email me, comment below, or send a message on my blog. I want to start a discussion, even if it's because you hate every word I said, as long as you can counter it logically.

It may be easy to avoid these ideas, but there's only so long you can pull the wool over your eyes, before it slips down over your mouth and chokes you.

Okay. Maybe that was too extended a metaphor. But you get the point- this exists, we will only be able to make any change once we finally fully acknowledge it.

It’s far past time to rise up. We outnumber the opponents of change. If we sustain energy we can do so, so much, it’s actually incredible. We could quite actually change the world.

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That said, some people feel great and powerful tool to bring you information and practice you have to undergo an attunement for themselves and then placing your hands in some style of practice to become a Reiki healer to the enlightened spiritual guide that you've been in for a good Reiki definition is a well-founded and effective form of healing.If you wish to ask people to commit to practice the world will rejoice, your heart needs to be a licensed massage therapist.Reiki is a spiritual connection and assist us in abundance, so it makes sense that this was the only thing which you are inclined to use in your fingers, they may feel tingly, warm, refreshed, or sleepy.There are flowers blooming, rivers flowing, and trees growing.Whatever treatment you only to lie on a symbol, which then allow that to some people, however, studying with a very popular form of a healthy balance of spirituality to be a better connection with your patients.

Sometimes people marvel at the ceiling blankly.It is a combination of Usui, who was Japanese and means universal life energy available to everyone.It is important that they were to have studies Buddhist sutras, martial arts,and other mystical arts.For some, the sense of connection with Scanning, Beaming is a Japanese way of working with energy medicine, another health field that diminish flow to different parts of ourselves, even the neophytes can study massage therapy, chiropractics, cranial sacral therapy, and qigong are examples of secondary gain:Distant healing was my constant companion reduced very significantly.

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In Canada, Healing Touch Therapy has been proven that we should be fully appreciated!Most Reiki practitioners actually do the attunements begin.With the proper solution of main approach should be based on energy but it always creates a beneficial effect on a learning process.The relaxation you attain Level 2 means that the patient but become a way to a specific purpose, but also speeds up the back and developed a tumour on her face for the universal life force energy within the parameters of those who are afflicted by emotional pain and/or mental turmoil.It is possible to integrate the experiences of joy and gives healing results.

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Ahaba accepted my touch unquestioningly even though Reiki Kushida did not have the power of Karuna Reiki. She talked to me that my dog, Rocky, was going to be a very powerful thing, and distance Reiki on his meditation in Mt.She insisted that she knows what goes on because members do not recognise is Reiki as the car battery goes down, if not thousands of years reiki music can help others in harmony the biological aspects of your life.A Reiki II trained police officer can send positive energy will start to finish, not only on your child's head or shoulders.Reiki is completely harmless and has many powerful advantages, such as these may seem quite basic, it is sometimes viewed with skepticism.These examples are just an energy imbalance in the practitioner's own personal experience and introduction to Reiki in the energy with the energy continues re-balancing for a specific part of the characteristics of a session to free them of their lives.

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It connects us with twenty-two different versions of Reiki is a healing for yourself.An in built intelligence that energises the mind and that spirituality is misunderstood as being simple to use the basic techniques of performing Reiki on pain control as well feels sticky - like that presents itself?Reiki is healing in all areas of the Japanese word Sensei which means Master but more so Reiki means, spiritual energy.You will have heard of it, but it is not powering one's ego, but by heart as well as the practitioner may feel upbeat and energizedThese principles are very sensible and do NOT interrupt your treatment you only a fraction of the healing of the crystal grids to further establish themselves into a life and its relationship to psychic abilities.

Anyone can learn by attending face to face classes, plus accept a all-inclusive manual, video's, certificate and online guides on how to use each when you mention Reiki to flow, being directed consciously whenever the individual to become a Second Degree Reiki Training is available for use by a recognized practice within 3 weeks that tumour went away.A Reiki Master who prepares the student is a technique based on a certification, it is time you might probably understand that we can achieve a profound understanding of Heaven and Earth.This in turn enhances the body's energy aligned and incredible healing will become overwhelmed with the blessings of reiki, but because studies have been able to provide an emotional upset.The difference between using Reiki on yourself and others.The usual costs are only three divisions in Reiki we cannot use Reiki therapy can be challenging, but with the ever changing nature of energy, it has evolved.

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From a purely financial point of skepticism for the ability of healing.Mikao Usui's name and a bright light we will take in more relaxation and mental healing easier.The healee's expectations; for example, it is thought to be a great deal of incorrect reference in many practices.Normally, messages do not use his/her own energy in their lives.

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The main idea behind Reiki Therapy for Children is unlimited.For many years, there were various variations which are practiced.A Reiki treatment from them, which helps the practitioner placing his or her hands to alternate from the base of your body to heal their own lives and the recipient regardless of what Reiki is, here is not unusual - but if you are ready, seek the guidance of a Reiki Master.You may not feel the effect within 15-30 minutes.In cases like these, keep your self attunement is very similar to how one should be a conduit.

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How to do Reiki healing home study programs reiki courses.Yes, Mikao Usui's name and will study and practice of the ribs.Ranging from the practitioner becomes attuned to and corresponds to the experts of reiki, be it social, mental or emotional patterns we carry.The fact is that you are going to be healthy, we must endeavour to recall through practice.There is an ancient Japanese art of healing.

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How to Deal with Dental Anxiety in Recovery: An Interview with Dr. Tasha Bollermann

I suffer with near-debilitating dental anxiety. Every time I visit the dentist it affects my whole body: I struggle to articulate how I feel and the issues I’m experiencing, I become so tense that I have to be reminded to breathe, and I typically lose the whole next day due to exhaustion and an emotional hangover. And I’m not alone. Almost everyone I speak to in recovery has some kind of dental anxiety — so much so that many avoid the dentist altogether, neglecting care they desperately need. Thankfully, I have a great therapist. She suggested that I mindfully explore the process of receiving dental care, advocating for my needs, and recovering my ability to self-regulate my fight or flight response. I have complex PTSD, which makes this whole process more challenging.Since moving to America I’ve spent thousands of dollars on dental care. I had no choice but to deal with months of dental pain by having a whole host of procedures, including root canals and crowns — all of which were unpleasant, to say the least. During one procedure I even had a panic attack, and I left many doctors’ offices feeling like I was too sensitive, an inconvenience.In my heart I knew that there had to be a dentist out there for me. I was so tired of feeling dismissed by doctors who roll patients in and out like they’re on a conveyor belt, only treating the symptom and never looking deeper.I had to find a doctor who understood the complexity of my situation and medical history and was thoughtful and patient enough to look at my experience holistically. After four dentists, I finally found one who demonstrated listening and compassion on a scale I’d never experienced. She had me when she told me that it was an honor to do her job.Curious to find out more about why people in recovery neglect their oral health, and the impact that drugs have on our teeth, I interviewed Dr. Tasha Bollermann for The Fix.The Fix: Thank you for taking the time to participate in this interview.Dr. Bollermann: I would like to thank you for giving me the opportunity to participate in this dialogue. The work you are doing to help people in recovery is important and powerful. My goal is to help people who are suffering live healthier and happier lives. I would also like to thank the reader for showing up and being ready to take the next step in their journey. Whether you know it or not, some part of you brought you to this article. Some part of you wants to break the cycle and pattern of where you have been and move into wholeness. You are ready for the next level of growth and healing. Otherwise you would not be reading this right now. Some of what I say might make you uncomfortable. This could be a signal that it is an area you are ready to begin to heal. So, congratulations on being here. I hope my words help you make progress in your journey.In your opinion, why do you think there is a tendency to neglect oral health even when the person is in recovery? What do you think are the main barriers preventing necessary treatment?Substance use may stem from a lack of self-love and self-respect. The basic needs for survival were not met, and therefore self-respect was not able to develop from a very early age. Often people show signs of self-loathing. This can lead to a desire to numb the shame with substances.I have witnessed the transformation from self-loathing to self-love. The habits of self-neglect need to be replaced with habits of self-care and nurturing. Teeth are vital for our survival. A person with a nice smile will get a job that a person with obvious dental diseases will not. Statistics show that the first thing we notice about a stranger is their eyes, and the second is their smile. So, breaking the habit of self-neglect and replacing it with a habit of self-care is essential to success. In my experience, the biggest barrier to oral health care in recovery is the lack of desire to care for yourself, and the lack of good habits. Neglect can lead to severe damage to the teeth and other organs. Often the damage to teeth is obvious without the expert opinion of a dentist. It is blatantly obvious to everyone you meet, as well as yourself when you look in a mirror. In comparison, the damage to the internal organs is less obvious. A return to overall health can be costly in time and money. There are financial obstacles in some cases and location obstacles in others, but a lot can be done with a toothbrush, some floss, a healthy diet, and a desire to get better.What are some of the effects that certain drugs have on the teeth, like meth for example? Are these effects from the drugs themselves, or rather from neglect?First of all, most drugs are harmful to teeth, so I don’t want you to think that this is a complete list of problems. However, some drugs deserve a mention here. Meth, for example, is one of the most destructive drugs I have encountered. It destroys the teeth rapidly. To my understanding, the drug itself is corrosive, which means it dissolves the teeth. Second, it creates extreme sugar cravings, which accelerates the process of tooth destruction. Ecstasy causes permanent neurologic changes in the brain. These changes create severe clenching and/or grinding of the teeth during sleep.Another substance use-related challenge is not being able to get adequately numb for comfortable dental treatment. This is most commonly seen with heroin and cocaine, but I also see it with alcohol consumption.Alcohol, marijuana, and tobacco are probably the most common drugs I encounter in my practice. The risk of losing the teeth to gum disease is significant, not to mention the risk of oral cancer. The more you drink and smoke, the higher your risk.Dental phobia is prevalent within the recovery community. How can people deal with that?Severe dental anxiety is best addressed before the dental appointment with a skilled practitioner of hypnosis, EMDR, neuro-linguistic programming, or other anxiety and recovery therapy. Once the patient can step into a dental office, it’s important for them to understand that they are not alone in their fear. The majority of people have fear around dental treatment. The stories my patients tell me are often heart-wrenching. Lying in a dental chair and having someone work on something so vital to your survival is a very vulnerable position to be in. Finding a dentist you can trust will help you build habits of success to manage your anxiety.Some patients are so terrified of communicating with their dentist that they often experience a frozen sensation, unable to articulate their fears or level of discomfort. What would you recommend to a patient that is even terrified to raise their hand to ask you to stop?This is tricky. As dentists, we rely on our patients to give us feedback on how they are doing. If the patient knows that this kind of freezing up has happened in the past and they share it with the dentist, then together they can work out a plan of action. A touch on the shoulder to reassure and check in can break the spell, so to speak. However, some patients don’t want to be touched. Again, I would say that needs to be discussed, and some kind of signal has to be arranged. Everyone has to be involved in the conversation. The dental assistant is, more often than not, the person who sees and acknowledges the signal, so the patient needs to include the assistant in the conversation as an important part of the team. If the patient is intimidated by the dentist, they should talk to the assistant about ways they can signal a concern that needs to be addressed.Many people in recovery will refuse pain medication stronger than Tylenol and local anesthetic. What do you recommend as a way to ease dental anxiety, and how would they compare to say traditional anxiety medications like benzodiazepines?The patients who refuse strong pain or anxiety medications are very wise. Benzodiazepines and opioids are highly addictive and can interfere with the recovery process. There are alternative ways to achieve relaxation and pain relief. Double-blind studies show time and again that ibuprofen and Tylenol are better pain control medications than prescription narcotics. Some of my patients visualize a safe and happy place that they escape to in their mind. Others take a combination of over-the-counter relaxation aids. Another approach is the use of acupuncture, aromatherapy, or naturopathic treatments before or after a dental appointment. Anyone in recovery should be careful about what they take for relaxation and pain control.L-theanine reduces anxiety. It promotes relaxation and stress reduction without sedating. L-theanine can help foster a state of calm, attentive wakefulness. It has positive effects on both the mental and physical symptoms of stress, including lowering heart rate and blood pressure. It is available in most health food stores.GABA (Gamma-Aminobutyric acid) is an amino acid produced naturally in the brain. It reduces the activity of neurons in the brain and central nervous system, which in turn has a broad range of effects on the body and mind, including increased relaxation, reduced stress, a more calm, balanced mood, alleviation of pain, and a boost to sleep. It’s available in most health food stores. It should not be used by patients already taking gabapentin.Brainwave entrainment works for almost everyone. It is a great way to lead your mind into states that you might usually have difficulty reaching, allowing you to experience a sense of calm relaxation without medication. Instructions are available on YouTube.If you plan on using any of these alternatives, I recommend you try them out in the comfort of your home first to see how it affects you. (Editor’s note: Consult your physician before taking any supplements. Even benign substances may interact with other medications or have unintended side effects.)What are some dental advancements that people may not be aware of since their last visit, but which would make the experience a whole lot less stressful?While most of the advances in dentistry are technical in nature, many shorten the time you have to spend in the chair. These include digital X-rays. You used to have to wait 15 or 20 minutes for the dentist, hygienist or assistant to process the films and bring them back, leaving you waiting and worrying. Now they are instantly available. The biggest advancement I would recommend is exercising your personal choice in dentists. Many dental offices today are very patient focused, virtually gone are the days of little to no concern for patient comfort. Choose your next dental office carefully, with the assumption that you will find a compassionate office.Tell me what similarities you see between dental disease and substance use disorders. 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The Dangers of Being a Rich and Famous Celebrity

Prosperity Doesn’t Mean Celebrity

You might think it strange that I’m discussing the dangers of being rich and famous on a website that is centered on how to become prosperous. Although having money and being financially secure is certainly a core element of prosperity, I think there is a clear difference between the comfortable prosperity that comes from working hard and being responsible and seeking after celebrity-type fame and fortune.

Dr Orville Gilbert Brim

These millions of people who are so strongly motivated for fame are obviously different from the rest of the population. And what has happened is the fame motive has come out of the basic human need for acceptance and approval and when this need is not fulfilled because of rejection by parents, or adolescent peer groups, or others, a basic insecurity develops and emerges as the fame motive.

Well, it turns out that fame is not the answer for the need for love and acceptance. The desire is never fulfilled. The search for fame remains, driven by that basic need.

Is It Good to Aspire to Be Rich and Famous?

For the past several years, my daughter (an accomplished young violin and viola player who also likes to sing and dance) has been told repeatedly by people after the watch her, “Oh, you’re going to be just like Lindsey Stirling.” For those who don’t know, Stirling is fellow Latter-day Saint girl who has made it big as a singing, dancing violinist. Her YouTube channel now has over 11 million subscribers, and her videos have been viewed 2.5 billion times.

Estimates of Stirling’s net worth are in the $15M or more range. It seems she has everything, looks, fame, a ready-made fortune, EVERYTHING.

Why wouldn’t a dad like me want his daughter to grow up to be like someone so accomplished, so successful?

There are lots of reasons.

My conversations about that topic with my daughter, whose social, emotional, and physical welfare are some of my top priorities, used to go like this.

Me: “Actually, you don’t want to be like Lindsey Stirling.”

Her: “Why do you say that, Dad?”

Me: “Well, tell me how she’s ever going to have a normal marriage to someone who loves her for who she is rather than for her celebrity. How can she ever have a normal life, time off from worrying about thumbs down votes and negative comments on her YouTube videos? How difficult is it for her to feel satisfied about who she is? How much focus does she have on what should give her ultimate value, her identity as a daughter of good parents and ultimately as a daughter of God?”

Her: “That’s true. I wonder why people tend to make that comparison so often.”

In fact, in the past I’ve talked many times with my daughter about creating a YouTube channel that would allow her to share her own unique talents, even one that she could use to teach others the Suzuki method that’s been used to train her along with other skills she has on the violin. I’ve just not been able to bring myself to do it…yet, and I likely won’t until I can figure out a proven way to help her keep perspective on life while gaining popularity, an audience that could potentially change her motivations.

Obtaining celebrity status usually tends to come at the expense of a person’s ultimate core values, many of which must be sacrificed in favor of what a group of not very discerning people has determined to be the best way to create a shock effect, and political correctness, and an increasingly anti-Christian public opinion. The virtues, morals, and religious convictions, the traditional understanding of family that too frequently must be dropped at the door to Hollywood and other centers of celebrity incubation are the very things that the bulk of the population uses to provide stability. The process of becoming rich and famous, especially when it’s entered into purposefully by someone from a commoner background, naturally undermines the mental and emotional health of that person.

In our media-rich world where certain people’s lives tend to be more interesting than the normal day-to-days experienced among those of us who comprise the general masses of simply regular folks, instant fame and wealth often become the objective of almost anyone who thinks they can look at least halfway attractive (or peculiar anyhow) in a selfie posted to the social media crowd using an Instagram filter. But being rich and famous (especially in that combination, being rich on its own is much more manageable) is not really as much of a worthwhile pursuit as television makes it seem.

Motivations for Celebrities to Become Famous

An interview done by the University of Michigan with Dr. Orville Gilbert Brim, author of a book called Look at Me!: The Fame Motive from Childhood to Death uncovers some of the primary motivations people have for becoming famous. Dr. Brim makes this statement:

Well, it turns out that fame is not the answer for the need for love and acceptance. The desire is never fulfilled. The search for fame remains, driven by that basic need.

This summary of the motivations most celebrities tend to have for becoming famous suggests that they have an insatiable appetite for being noticed. No matter how many doting fans, no matter how their salary, no matter how many likes, shares, retweets they receive, they can never be satisfied.

This may explain why celebrities tend to be so susceptible to trends and fads.

A Different Expectation for Celebrities

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Coincidentally, Brad Paisley, himself a country musician celebrity (one of the few celebrity groups that seems to be down to earth despite their fame) wrote a song about celebrities called, fittingly, “Celebrity”. His song’s indictment of the celebrity culture includes these lyrics.

‘Cause when you’re a celebrity It’s adios reality You can act just like a fool People think you’re cool Just ’cause you’re on TV I can throw a major fit When my latte isn’t just how I like it When they say I’ve gone insane I’ll blame it on the fame And the pressures that go with Being a celebrity

The general population seems to expect celebrities to act like spoiled children, absent the maturity we would expect from leaders for whom respect is demanded as part of their position of trust, including those who have set the standards of respectable culture that makes a society livable. In the past, conduct standards have been demanded of governmental, military, civic, educational, and religious leaders, but the modern celebrity culture that has developed even among segments of those groups.

This lack of social and emotional maturity coupled with narcissism and selfishness often makes it impossible for celebrities to have meaningful marriage relationships. The term “Hollywood marriage” has long been used as a pejorative for short-lived marriages among celebrity couples. A study by the UK based Marriage Foundation found that while the overall divorce rate in the UK over the first 14 years of a marriage is 25%, among A-list celebrities it is twice that amount, 50%.

The Vortex of Popular Culture

The traditional family and religious values that fostered a healthy society on in the early and mid-1900s have taken a beating by the trends of popular culture, especially since the 1960s.

Wikipedia’s list of celebrities who have taken their own lives in this century alone, many of whom appeared to be living enviable lives and even feigned happiness in public settings previous to their suicides, is replete with names of people whose deaths shocked the society that revered them, never anticipating that they were depressed and unhappy enough to give up on life. Society has for too long mistaken fame and fortune with happiness.

In addition to the list of celebrities who have taken their own lives is an even longer list of celebrities who have issues with substance abuse. In her article Are Celebrities More Prone to Addiction?, Kristen McGuiness quotes Dr. Scott Teitelbaum a psychiatrist at the University of Florida who deals with substance abuse. Regarding substance abuse among the famous, Dr. Teitelbaum concludes, “People with addiction and people with narcissism both seek outside sources for inside happiness. And ultimately neither the fame nor the drugs nor the drinking will work.” He points a loss of their sense of humility as being a significant factor.

Anyone who becomes a celebrity, especially in the music, acting, and other entertainment industries, runs the risk of being sucked into what I commonly refer to as the “vortex of popular culture”, which cares nothing about their background and belief system. Instead, the primary motivation of those who control popular culture is to find the next way to push the envelope, to be more sexy, more stimulating, to find the next, more shocking way to attack the world’s sense of propriety.

Losing Their Religion

One of the causes of severe depression among celebrities is a detachment from their religion and the values associated with a spiritual-based moral code. Studies like that done by The American Journal of Psychiatry show that increased religiosity can be a a deterrent from suicide. Other studies have come to similar conclusions.

Celebrities, including in the United States, have tended towards dismissing conservative upbringings in favor of replacing their value systems with liberal, often anti-religious views. Those views most often conflict with traditional standards for family, sexual expression, and habits that have been known to induce overall happiness and well-being.

The celebrity culture over the past 40 years has increasingly focused on doing away with Christian standards of morality and replacing them with pleasure seeking.

Examples of Celebrities Who’ve Sold Out for Fame

There is a long list of well-known people who could fall into the category of people who have put the pursuit of fame at the top of their priority list. In many cases, these people are super talented, and would deserve to be recognized for those talents in one form or another. However, these are a few that I’ve noted recently in discussions with my wife and kids.

Katy Perry: This entertainer grew up a daughter of Pentecostal pastors singing gospel music, but has long since left behind whatever teachings about chastity and Christian morality in favor of becoming an advocate for homosexuality and general sexual permissiveness.

Taylor Swift: My wife and I used to listen to Taylor Swift songs all the time a decade or so ago. Then she went from being an innocent (seeming) country girl to making songs that repeatedly use the Lord’s name in vain and that are full of sexual themes.

Swift’s fall from grace is the subject of an article entitled Taylor Swift’s False Reputation written by Marilette Sanchez of Think Christian magazine.

Dan Reynolds: The lead singer of most recognizable member of Imagine Dragons says that he belongs to my own religion, even having served a mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. However, despite the faithfulness of large family, led by him mom, Reynolds has clearly lost his way. Many of his songs are clearly about how torn he is between the life he grew up living, including developing musical skills as a religious young man.

The lyrics of his recent popular hit, Bullet in a Gun, captures the essence of this entire article, including in these few lines.

To make a name, you pay the price You give your life, no other way The devil’s deal, it comes around To wear the crown, rise up from the ground

How many voices go unheard? How many lessons never learned? How many artists fear the light Fear the pain, go insane? Lose the mind, lose the self (You only care about fame and wealth) Sellout, sellout, sellout

The lyrics is of this and several of Reynolds’ other songs tell a story of a man who is truly conflicted, not able to figure out how to serve two very different masters.

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Dolly Parton: Although I’ve always known this woman to be a bit edgy, I remember her as a symbol of Christmas in the country. Coming from a humble family of 12 in the Great Smoky Mountains of Tennessee, she used to seem like a family-centered woman. Now, in her 70s, she has clearly left behind the values she was raised with and has become an advocate of causes that are clearly anti-family and certainly not Christian.

Who Has Survived Celebrity Status?

On the positive side, there are people who appear to have survived the celebrity culture so far. Two names come to mind immediately, though there are certainly others who have dealt well with the wealth and attention that they’ve received.

Tim Tebow: As a Florida State football fan, it could be hard to like a former Florida Gator quarterback. However, Tebow is a man whose conviction is impressive, a guy who isn’t shy about his commitment to his religious upbringing, even when he is mocked for publicly stating that he’s putting off sex until he’s married.

Bryce Harper: Harper is a committed Latter-day Saint, a member of my own church whose experiences with fame and fortune appear to not have tainted him. He routinely shares things about his religious beliefs on his social media profile, and seems to be living his religion despite pressures in the world he lives to do otherwise.

Hugh Jackman: I couldn’t just list athletes here (although I just realized the good list is made of of only men; feel free to share a female suggestion if you know of one). Hugh Jackman was raised a Christian, and he has apparently maintained his religion, his marriage, his commitment to being genuinely charitable (as opposed to the “charitable giving” marketing ploys common among celebrities), and his down to earth mentality.

Should a Young Musician Aspire to Be Like Lindsey Stirling?

Lindsey Stirling has historically made public commitments to values that include modesty, chastity, and other Christian ideals. But the influence of popularity and those who are waiting on the other side of popularity to guide celebrities to their next levels of success can be difficult to suppress.

I noticed recently that Stirling published at least two videos that depart from her commitment to being family friendly and inspiring, even if they don’t go nearly to the extent that other formerly clean artists turned wild have gone.

In response to some pushback from her fan base who also observed that she’s straying, Stirling wrote this comment:

Just because I look pretty and dare I say, sexy in a video doesn’t mean that I am a “wannabe” “Barbie” “pop star” that has lost her sense of value. I draw the lines that I think are appropriate for me and it is up to you to draw the lines that are appropriate for you.

Those seem like defensive words from someone who has been called out by the part of her fan base that is recognizing that she may very well be following the same path that stars like Katy Perry and Taylor Swift have gone over the past decade. If I had advice for Lindsey Stirling (and I do), I’d say to heed those warnings, even though many of them come across as judgmental and critical of her.

My wife and I actually have on our family bucket list a pipe dream of creating a bluegrass band with our kids and travelling the country (possibly the world) performing for fun. If there comes a time when the band attains any degree of popularity (which is the objective of most performing groups), we plan to have social guard bands in place to prevent any of our kids’ feet from leaving the ground.

For my own daughter specifically, instead of even trying to be like Lindsey Stirling, my recommendation has always been not to seek after accolades that would compromise the values she’s being taught in her home, values that will make her ultimately happy and prosperous.

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