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rckyclrk · 5 years

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alex turner. 27. cismale. he/him. the black keys | i can’t believe i just saw RICKY CLARK walking out of cadence records. they’re the VOCALIST / BASSIST from the PUNK group HEATSTROKE who have been in the industry for THREE YEARS. the tabloids love to focus on their COLDHEARTED nature , but they’re also pretty CHARISMATIC and they seem to give off a vibe that reminds people of FRIENDS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM BAR FIGHTS, CUNNING SMIRKS, CRYING FROM RAGE WHEN YOU’RE ALONE.

hello !!! i’m jess, i’m 22, reside in the bst timezone and use she/they pronouns !! i literally only found this rp like two hours before it opened for plotting so excuse me if this intro seems a bit rushed, and i apologize for how late it is. this is the first of my muses, king asshole ricky clark. he’s a damaged angsty boi and i hate / love him. please like this if you’d like to plot, or slide into my IMs!

p.s. we can also plot on discord @ aries baby#7087 and you can check out a pinterest board for ricky here!

trigger warnings: heart disease, loss of a parent, ‘daddy issues’, abandonment, drugs & alcohol mentions, violence implication

BACKGROUND

ricky was born to dirt-poor parents in upstate new york. they had pretty much nothing but the basic necessities but it was v much a “they had each other and that was enough” kinda thing

his mother was his hero, ricky idolized her as she would do anything for him & was a kind, honest woman with a good heart who put every penny she earned into trying to give ricky a good life.

but his dad? quite the opposite. he was a distant, aggressive man with violent tendencies. whenever he was home, he was causing conflict. but most of the time, he wasn’t. it was pretty obvious that he was cheating on ricky’s mom, as well as just generally giving zero shits about his son. he was just an all-around asshole.

his mom was a waitress. she worked very few shifts as she wanted to make sure she could spend a lot of time around her son making sure he had a good upbringing.

when ricky was eleven, she suddenly fell ill with heart disease and her condition deteriorated very quickly. she could no longer work and decided to turn to music as a way of coping, learning to play guitar to keep her spirits up. ricky always took an interest in this and loved listening to her play him his favorite songs in the final years of her life

she ended up passing away before she could see ricky enter his teenage years. in their shared grief he and his father bonded and had a better relationship for a short period, before long he was back to his old tricks again never coming home & ricky had to basically raise himself for a little while, before finally he ended up in the foster care system for the remainder of his teen years

this is where he taught himself how to play the bass guitar his mom had left behind for him, as well as singing and songwriting. he quickly realized why she found such escapism in music.

he was a bit of a ‘bad boy’ archetype at school, who was constantly getting into fights etc but would show a softer side to the other outcast kids, especially the other musicians

foster care is also where he manifested a lot of resentment, anger & hostility after everything he had gone through. he kinda felt like life had dealt him such a shitty hand, and he had so many abandonment issues due to his father’s ways. he struggled to bond with any of his foster families and basically hopped around homes for years, still mourning his mom & acting out as a coping mechanism

so pretty much the second he turned eighteen and could leave foster care he got the hell out of town and headed downstate to new york city with pretty much nothing to his name, telling himself he was off to pursuit a career as a solo musician. he wandered around a bit, going about his life as somewhat of a vagabond living out of cheap motels whilst he struggled to settle.

after a few years spent working shitty 9-5 jobs and almost ending up homeless multiple times, he figured it was time to admit defeat and head back home, as his dreams of becoming a musician hadn’t really took off. he returned to his hometown & found that an old classmate from high school had been advertising around town, for a bassist for his band. it seemed like the perfect opportunity, and ricky jumped on board.

before he could even process it, the band were moving to LA to chase their dreams of making it big. after performing in bars & underground venues, they landed themselves a record deal with cadence

ricky LOVES the fame. he’s finally getting the love, adoration & attention he lacked in his life after his mom died. he’s living the rockstar lifestyle, having fun, and doing whatever he can to feel fulfilled and numb the pain and lasting scars left by his past — which by the way, he’d rather die than open up about.

PERSONALITY

so as is mentioned, the whole thing with his past has made him grow extremely resentful as a person and he has a lot of pent up issues that he bottles up. this makes him extremely stand-offish, short fused, arrogant etc? but the better someone gets to know him the more they’ll see a softer side to him. he’s a complex, multi-dimensional and very guarded person

he’s FIERCELY loyal and will protect his friends at all costs ( yes surprisingly he does have friends ) he’s prepared to fight someone if they’ve done something to hurt his friends

hes a really social guy despite the fact he can be quite intimidating. if you’re not on his bad side he’ll be completely fine with you, like? the main thing that’d get someone onto his bad side would be if they just assumed he was an asshole based on his initial demeanor, without getting to know him

Closed Off Emotionally™ - he basically put up a huge wall so that nobody can see how much the abandonment from his past has got to him but there’s definitely a kinder, damaged boy beneath who just needs time tbh

he lives his life pretty carelessly bc he kinda cant resist the whole idea of a rockstar lifestyle. very reckless i know but can you blame him? the issues of his past are still very much there so he tries to numb the pain in any way he can by drinking and taking drugs tbh, which he knows is unhealthy & he’s trying to stop

actually pretty funny when he wants to be

really competitive

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when given reason, he can care so deeply about people. it’s so hard for them to see it because of the way he is, but a dead give-away is that if he really cares about someone he will never lie to them. ever

he’s basically just very intense if you couldnt tell already

#cadence.intro #hmu for plots !!!#this is so long im sorry

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rickyclrk · 5 years

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hello, hello? is this thing on? oh — hi !! i’m jess, an aries & steve harrington stan from england. i’m bringing you my first muse ricky clark, unfortunately he’s a bit of an asshole but not to worry, i promise my second will be the opposite ghjfghjsfkh. get to know him below the cut & hmu for plots!

oh hi there, welcome to holiday, RICKY CLARK. you’ve been here for A WEEK? awesome! you look just like ALEX TURNER, it’s crazy. oh, so you’re a TWENTY-SIX year old BASSIST? and you’re CISMALE and use HE/HIM? okay, just checking! oh, people say you’re BOLD AND CAPTIVATING but SHORT-FUSED AND STANDOFFISH? well, i’m sure that you can prove yourself here. you’re looking forward to the NEW YEARS EVE celebration? that’s a good one, you’ll love it. i have to get going now, bye!

trigger warnings: heart disease, loss of a parent, ‘daddy issues’, abandonment, drugs & alcohol mentions, violence implication

background

ricky was born to dirt-poor parents in phoenix, arizona. they had pretty much nothing but the basic necessities but it was v much a “they had each other and that was enough” kinda thing

his mother was his hero, ricky idolized her as she would do anything for him & was a kind, honest woman with a good heart who put every penny she earned into trying to give ricky a good life.

his mom was a waitress. she worked very few shifts as she wanted to make sure she could spend a lot of time around her son making sure he had a good upbringing.

this is where he taught himself how to play the guitar his mom had left behind for him, and later, bass guitar. he quickly realized why she found such escapism in music.

so pretty much the second he turned eighteen and could leave foster care he got the hell out of phoenix and headed out of the state with pretty much nothing to his name? he wandered around a bit, living as somewhat of a vagabond living out of cheap motels whilst he struggled to find a band but somewhere along the line met the raptors, who coincidentally needed a bass player at the time & he was the perfect fit... and the rest is history

personality

he’s FIERCELY loyal and will protect his friends at all costs. he’s prepared to fight someone if they’ve done something to hurt his friends

actually pretty funny when he wants to be

really competitive

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he’s basically just very intense if you couldnt tell already

wanted / suggested connections

i’m also open to brainstorming something from scratch if none of these fit your muse! hmu!

EX ON GOOD TERMS — the breakup wasn’t anything too dramatic, so there was no hard feelings. ricky might tease your muse on occasion about the pair’s past relationship, but in all seriousness, things are fairly chill between these two.

EX ON BAD TERMS — your muse would call him a heartbreaker. he’d probably agree. ricky broke up with your muse abruptly upon suddenly losing interest, and they didn’t take it lightly.

FRENEMY — nobody can keep up with your muse & ricky. they pretend to get along, mostly to grind each other’s gears. hanging out one minute, and getting into bar fights at the next.

RIVAL / ENEMY — your muse hates ricky. they can’t stand how mean and arrogant he seems, and they would never attempt to get to know anything beyond the surface. they’re sworn enemies and everybody knows it.

GOOD INFLUENCE — your muse can read people easily. that’s how they know that ricky’s hiding some good qualities beneath his tough demeanor. they’re determined to help ricky to make some better decisions, especially when his bad ones are proving detrimental to his mental state.

SOMEONE HE’S A BAD INFLUENCE ON — they’re very different in personalities, but ricky still managed to take a liking to your muse for whatever reason. it’s a shame they fall victim to his bad influence.

DRINKING BUDDY — your muse and ricky are constantly partying together. they have fun, but your muse is starting to see that ricky often takes things too far and gets way too beyond his limits.

PAST HOOK-UP / PAST FWB — it’s no secret that ricky has gotten around a lot in the past. your muse has experienced that first hand, and he’s gotten them into a lot of controversial headlines, that’s for sure.

#holidcyintro #( this is fuckin Long sis )

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cartoonfangirl1218 · 5 years

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Minor EoA character zodiacs

So I decided to go ahead and try some of the zodiac signs for EoA characters. But I really liked @pizzansunshine‘‘s argument for the main six’s Possible zodiac signs so I decided to do minor reoccurring characters. Which was pretty hard I’ll admit. The zodiac signs can be overlapping so you can agree to disagree with what I think is the best fit for the characters. Anyway, enough of my babbling, here’s what I have. https://www.astrology-zodiac-signs.com

Luisa Libra

Strengths: Cooperative, diplomatic, gracious, fair-minded, social

Weaknesses: Indecisive, avoids confrontations, will carry a grudge, self-pity

Libra likes: Harmony, gentleness, sharing with others, the outdoors

Libra dislikes: Violence, injustice, loudmouths, conformity

People born under the sign of Libra are peaceful, fair, and they hate being alone. As we see, Luisa is a very sociable person from being friends with the palace staff to joining the local Olaball team. She’s like an understanding Abuela to everyone she meets.

Partnership is very important for them, as their mirror and someone giving them the ability to be the mirror themselves. Francisco and Luisa have the sweetest, closest relationship in the series. They are equal partners with respect, trust and love for each other.

These individuals are fascinated by balance and symmetry, they are in a constant chase for justice and equality, realizing through life that the only thing that should be truly important to themselves in their own inner core of personality. Luisa stands firm to following her heart and her beliefs and the Abuela-bear claws come out when she faces someone who is a lying, cheating jerk. Lord Elrod from Princess Knight for example.

Francisco Pisces

Strengths: Compassionate, artistic, intuitive, gentle, wise, musical

Weaknesses: Fearful, overly trusting, sad, desire to escape reality, can be a victim or a martyr

Pisces likes: Being alone, sleeping, music, romance, visual media, swimming, spiritual themes

Pisces dislikes: Know-it-all, being criticized, the past coming back to haunt, cruelty of any kind

It’s a sign connected to music, so Pisces reveal music preferences in the earliest stages of life. They are generous, compassionate and extremely faithful and caring. Pisces are never judgmental and always forgiving. They are also known to be most tolerant of all the zodiac signs. I don’t have to say this but I willl, Francisco’s eternal love is music and we have seen that he is such a kind man when it comes to looking at both sides of a problem and never gives an unasked for judgement.

Deep in their hearts, they are incorrigible romantics. They are very loyal, gentle and unconditionally generous to their partners. Pisces are passionate lovers who have a need to feel a real connection. Like I said with Luisa, the two show an absolute loyalty and devotion to each other. It’s clear Francisco only has eyes for his wife.

Inspired by the need to make changes in the lives of others, they are willing to help even if that means to go beyond the boundaries. This zodiac sign is compassionate, hard-working, dedicated and reliable. Pisces are selfless, they are always willing to help others, without hoping to get anything back. As we learned in the last Día de los Muertos episode, Francisco was a secret vigilante at a time when nobles weren’t allowed to be in danger just for the sake of protecting his kingdom.

Prince Marzel and Princess Marisa Gemini

Strengths: Gentle, affectionate, curious, adaptable, ability to learn quickly and exchange ideas

Weaknesses: Nervous, inconsistent, indecisive

Gemini likes: Music, books, magazines, chats with nearly anyone, short trips around the town

Gemini dislikes: Being alone, being confined, repetition and routine

Expressive and quick-witted, Gemini’s are sociable, communicative and ready for fun, with a tendency to suddenly get serious, thoughtful and restless. They are fascinated with the world itself, extremely curious, with a constant feeling that there is not enough time to experience everything they want to see.This is a versatile, inquisitive, fun loving sign, born with a wish to experience everything there is out there, in the world. I swear I didn’t just choose Gemini because they were twins. Marisa and Marzel, Marisa specifically, were interested in looking to the human world and were the most willing to mend the fued. Since the joining, the two clearly enjoy hanging out with Elena and co. and learning a little more about life of the shore.

Daria Scorpio

Strengths: Resourceful, brave, passionate, stubborn, a true friend

Weaknesses: Distrusting, secretive, violent

Scorpio likes: Truth, facts, being right, longtime friends, teasing, a grand passion

Scorpio dislikes: Dishonesty, revealing secrets, passive people

Scorpio-born are passionate and assertive people. They are determined and decisive, and will research until they find out the truth. Scorpio is a great leader, always aware of the situation and also features prominently in resourcefulness. As we’ve seen as commander of the reef, Daria is a take-charge woman and when she puts her mind to it whether it is sabotage or protection, she puts her whole effort into it,

Scorpios are known by their calm and cool behavior, and by their mysterious appearance. People often say that Scorpio-born are fierce. They are excellent leaders because they are very dedicated to what they do. Scorpios hate dishonesty and they can be very jealous and suspicious, so they need to learn how to adapt more easily to different human behaviors. What motivated Daria’s actions in Tides of Change was that she wanted to protect Coronando from the human threat so you can say that is dedication to her work though misguided. Plus we see how Daria is not one to quickly spell out her thoughts, preferring stern glares like when Elena arrived unexpectedly at the palace. Also the grudge she held against humans even when Elena proved that they weren’t out to get them but wanted to be friends.

Princess Valentina Aries

Strengths: Courageous, determined, confident, enthusiastic, optimistic, honest, passionate

Weaknesses: Impatient, moody, short-tempered, impulsive, aggressive

Aries likes: Comfortable clothes, taking on leadership roles, physical challenges, individual sports

Aries dislikes: Inactivity, delays, work that does not use one's talents

Aries are continuously looking for dynamic, speed and competition, always being the first in everything - from work to social gatherings. You'll rarely meet an Aries who isn't capable of finishing several things at once, often before lunch break! Valentina is a fire sign, and as the website suggests, she does look for a competition even if it was really unneeded. Yet Valentina just has a natural exuberant personality and need for action. And as we’ve seen, she has many talents from Olaball to wizardry so she is constantly on the job working for her people. No wonder they call her their savior.

Rafa de Alva Taurus

Strengths: Reliable, patient, practical, devoted, responsible, stable

Weaknesses: Stubborn, possessive, uncompromising

Taurus likes: Gardening, cooking, music, romance, working with hands

Taurus dislikes: Sudden changes, complications, insecurity of any kind, synthetic fabrics

Practical and well-grounded, Taurus is the sign that harvests the fruits of labor. They feel the need to always be surrounded by love and beauty, turned to the material world, hedonism, and physical pleasures. What we often see as stubbornness can be interpreted as commitment, and their ability to complete tasks whatever it takes is uncanny. This makes them excellent employees, great long-term friends and partners, always being there for people they love. Rafa can be stubborn like when she was insistent that she couldn’t help Sofia or that her Navidad traditions were the best or even just passing Avaloran traditions to Mateo under the threat of death. But she is also a very caring individual and a natural leader for her village, and a stable, loving influence in Mateo’s life. And to me, she seems very much a homebody who’d enjoy gardening and the like. Perhaps herbs for magic potions like her father had taught her.

Carla and Prince Alonso Leo

Strengths: Creative, passionate, generous, warm-hearted, cheerful, humorous

Weaknesses: Arrogant, stubborn, self-centered, lazy, inflexible

Leo likes: Taking holidays, being admired, expensive things, bright colors, fun with friends

Leo dislikes: Being ignored, facing difficult reality, not being treated like a king or queen

Leos are dramatic, creative, self-confident, dominant and extremely difficult to resist, able to achieve anything they want to in any area of life they commit to. There is a specific strength to a Leo and their "king of the jungle" status. Self-confident and attractive, and their healthy sense of humor makes collaboration with other people even easier. They are ambitious, creative and optimistic and once they dedicate to their work, they will do everything just right. As we’ve seen that while both are initially very lazy people, Alonso and Carla can be committed to a cause when they put their mind to it. Alonso as he starts to reinvent himself as a better prince while Carla won’t let ghosts or Shuriki or Elena or anyone in her way on her quest for power. And while neither are very joking, both are comedic characters,

Family matters won't be the first thing Leo will think about when they wake up in the morning or lie to bed at night. Turned to themselves for the most part, they tend to become independent as soon as possible. Still, a Leo will do anything to protect their loved ones, proud of their ancestry and roots in good and bad times. As we’ve seen, both are independent but Alonso does have a need to make his dad proud while Carla does care enough about her father to keep following him around and has some sort of admiration for her mother.

The best possible situation they can find themselves in is to be their own bosses or manage others with as little control from their superiors as possible. Leos love to be surrounded by modern and trendy things, and although money comes easy to them, they spend it less responsibly than some other signs of the zodiac. Eh less responsible can be the first thing one thinks of when it comes to Alonso and Carla, for sure. And a love of luxury too. And we have seen that Carla really really hates when people tell her what to do so she is just a Leo to the core to me.

Olivia Aquarius

Strengths: Progressive, original, independent, humanitarian

Weaknesses: Runs from emotional expression, temperamental

Aquarius likes: Fun with friends, helping others, fighting for causes, intellectual conversation

Aquarius dislikes: Limitations, being lonely, dull or boring situations

Aquarius-born are shy and quiet, but on the other hand they can be eccentric and energetic. However, in both cases, they are deep thinkers and highly intellectual people who love helping others. While Olivia is still growing and her personality still developing, I think she could be an Aquarius due to her energetic nature and her pursuit for wizard knowledge. Wizardry takes many years but she clearly has the devotion to studying time. She wanted to learn right away and without delay. Plus she wanted to do it for a good cause and to help people.

Doña Paloma Capricorn

Strengths: Responsible, disciplined, self-control, good managers

Weaknesses: Know-it-all, unforgiving, condescending, expecting the worst

Capricorn likes: Family, tradition, quality craftsmanship

Capricorn dislikes: Almost everything at some point

Capricorn is a sign that represents time and responsibility, and its representatives are traditional and often very serious by nature. These individuals possess an inner state of independence that enables significant progress both in their personal and professional lives. They are masters of self-control and have the ability to lead the way, make solid and realistic plans, and manage many people who work for them at any time. They will learn from their mistakes and get to the top based solely on their experience and expertise. Well I think this sums up her character pretty well as she implies with most episodes that she deserve everything based solely on her expertise and fits with how she made everything she had from the ground up.

Not only do they focus on the material world, but they have the ability to use the most out of it. Unfortunately, this element also makes them stiff and sometimes too stubborn to move from one perspective or point in a relationship. They have a hard time accepting differences of other people that are too far from their character, and out of fear might try to impose their traditional values aggressively. Kinda the whole plot point of Masks of Magic that she wanted the Feast of Friendship her way. More out of her own selfish ego than fear though.

Capricorns will set high standards for themselves, but their honesty, dedication and perseverance will lead them to their goals. They value loyalty and hard work over all other things, and keep associates with these qualities close even when they might be intellectually inferior. Concentrated and resourceful, this is someone who gets the job done, doesn’t mind long hours, and commits to the final product completely. Fits with how she and Esteban built up Avalor’s economic growth and also the only explanation to me on why she had hired Carlos (Sorry Carlos. Maybe you are smarter than I think).

Armando Virgo

Strengths: Loyal, analytical, kind, hardworking, practical

Weaknesses: Shyness, worry, overly critical of self

Virgo likes: Animals, healthy food, books, nature, cleanliness

Virgo dislikes: Rudeness, asking for help, taking center stage

Virgos are always paying attention to the smallest details and their deep sense of humanity makes them one of the most careful signs of the zodiac. Their methodical approach to life ensures that nothing is left to chance. Virgos are excellent advisors, always knowing how to solve a problem. This can make them helpful and extremely useful to have around, but also brings out their need to search the problem in everything and everyone around them. As chief of staff, Armando is the go to person for any problem as we see in All Kingdoms Fair and Model Sister- how handily he fixed everything. He’s very detailed and always has what Elena needs to do her royal duties. Also Virgos are sensitive and critical of themselves just as Armando is, amplified by Santos’ insults.

They will care for people they build a solid relationship with, treasuring them for years and nurturing them in every possible way. An intimate friendship with a Virgo is always earned by good deeds. They are very dedicated to their family and attentive to elderly and sick people. They understand tradition and the importance of responsibility, proud of their upbringing. Armando is such a mama’s boy and an abuela’s boy by how fondly he talks of his time with her in the village. He treats the royal family as his family too and we’ve seen his loyalty to them by reminding Esteban of his roots in Secret of Avalor to saving Elena/Mateo/Naomi/Gabe from chonopos.

Scarlet Turner Sagittarius

Strengths: Generous, idealistic, great sense of humor

Weaknesses: Promises more than can deliver, very impatient, will say anything no matter how undiplomatic

Sagittarius likes: Freedom, travel, philosophy, being outdoors

Curious and energetic, Sagittarius is one of the biggest travelers among all zodiac signs. Sagittarius is extrovert, optimistic and enthusiastic, and likes changes. Sagittarius-born are able to transform their thoughts into concrete actions and they will do anything to achieve their goals. Freedom is their greatest treasure, because only then they can freely travel and explore different cultures and philosophies. Scarlet loves the sea and traveling like she loves air and since she was so adaptable to moving around for work and enjoyed it so much, I think it makes her a perfect Sagittarius.

Because of their honesty, Sagittarius-born are often impatient and tactless when they need to say or do something, so it's important to learn to express themselves in a tolerant and socially acceptable way. Sagittarius is very fun and -born love to laugh and enjoy the diversity of life and culture, so they will easily acquire many friends around the world. They are generous and not one of those who lecture. When it comes to family, Sagittarius is dedicated and willing to do almost anything. In the beginning of Captain Turner Returns, you can say Scarlet was a bit tactless when she was sure that Naomi would get used to leaving Avalor and ignoring all of Elena’s attempts to get them to stay. Yet her family is very important to her like when she tried to get a job at home so she could stay with Daniel and Naomi more and eventually giving in to staying in Avalor.

Now a lot of this is my own speculation. Craig did say that Carla will be revealed to be more complex than she seems. It doesn’t seem like Victor will have the same treatment, but I think Carla’s development will reveal a little more of his character since he was the one who raised her and cares for her.

Victor Delgado Cancer

Strengths: Tenacious, highly imaginative, loyal, emotional, sympathetic, persuasive

Weaknesses: Moody, pessimistic, suspicious, manipulative, insecure

Cancers are very emotional and sensitive, and care deeply about matters of the family and their home. While this is a bit of a stretch, I say that Victor is a bit emotional such as his deep feeling of hurt at Esteban’s betrayal, and his anger towards the world.

Cancer is the sign of family and these individuals care about family bonds and their home more than any other sign of the zodiac. Also a stretch but just based on the fact that he is caring for Carla alone and she is the only one he treats with some decency and very unlikely for him to betray her.

Lack of patience or even love will manifest through mood swings later in life, and even selfishness, self-pity or manipulation. They are quick to help others, just as they are quick to avoid conflict, and rarely benefit from close combat of any kind, always choosing to hit someone stronger, bigger, or more powerful than they imagined. Oh yeah, if we follow this Victor defiantly did not get enough love growing up. He sees himself as a victim even though he committed treason, he is a manipulative thief to his former friend’s family and thinks he can play with the big guns of Shuriki and Fiero.

#zodiac signs #elena of avalor #long post #character analysis #prince alonso #princess valentina #victor delgado #carla delgado #luisa flores #francisco flores #armandk gutierrez #rafa de alva #scarlet turner #olivia #prince marzel #princess marisa #daria #doña paloma

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charminglatina · 4 years

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The Secret Language Birthday Profile for My Dad (Nov. 8)

I've been very interested in The Secret Language Of Birthdays and Relationships concept lately. I’ve been doing them for the Riverdale cast and I’m also currently working on them for The Walking Dead cast. Since it’s so much fun to do these profiles, I’ve decided to do birthday profiles for both my parents as well as a relationship profile for them. My Dad’s (or Papa, as I call him) birthday is Nov. 8 and my Mom’s (or Mama, as I call her) birthday is Jun. 25.

My Papa’s sign is Scorpio when it pertains to Western astrology. But when it comes to The Secret Language concept, he’s a Scorpio II, known as The Week of Depth (Nov. 3 to Nov. 11).

What Is The Secret Language Concept?

The Secret Language scientific personality reports have proven to be over 90% accurate after 21 years in use by millions of people in a dozen languages worldwide. Our data comes from Gary Goldschneider’s 40-year empirical study of the life stories of more than 20,000 people, analyzed by date of birth. Gary looked at 50 people born on your birthday and found the personality traits held in common by 45 of them. Then he created personality profiles from those traits for each day, week, month, season and year and I further combined those profile names into the ultimate distillation of your personality - your Secret Language Name. Combining astrology, numerology, and pure psychic intuition, The Secret Language of Birthdays is a wholly unique compilation that reveals one’s strengths, weaknesses, and major issues while providing practical advice and spiritual guidance. Many have suspected that your birthday affects your personality and how you relate to others. Nineteen years and over one million copies later, The Secret Language of Birthdays continues to fascinate readers by describing the characteristics associated with being born on a particular day. The 366 personality profiles are based on astrology, numerology, the tarot, and Gary Goldschneider’s observations of more than 14,000 people. Your strengths, weaknesses, and major concerns will be illuminated while you are given practical advice and spiritual guidance. After you study your profile, it will be hard to resist examining those of family, friends, colleagues, and even celebrities.

The Personality Periods

The forty-eight personality periods, made up of twelve cusps and thirty six weeks, are units between six and nine days in length. Personology predicts the personality characteristics of anyone born within these dates. In other words, those born in the same period will share certain predictable character traits. While this may not completely represent ever individual, it is sufficient to provide an understanding of his or her basic energies. Extrapolating from the personology periods, it is possible to predict the nature of the relationship between any two people. Thus, The Secret Language Of Relationships combines each period of the year with itself and every other period to predict the nature of the resulting relationship. For example, a person born on March 31 falls into the Aries I period. This is the Week of the Child which symbolizes the freshness and openness of early childhood and of the spring season (lasting from March 25 to April 1). People born during this time are characterized by a childlike, enthusiastic orientation. This in contrast to a person born on November 10, who would be a Scorpio II (encompassing November 3 to 11). Born in the fall, which is symbolically likened to middle age, this week takes Depth as its central symbol. Thus, it becomes possible to consider the theoretical implications of an Aries I-Scorpio II relationship.

The Fourty-Eight Periods & Cusps

1. Pisces-Aries Cusp (Mar 19-Mar 24) – The Cusp Of Rebirth

2. Aries I (Mar 25-Apr 02) – The Week Of The Child

3. Aries II (Apr 03-Apr 10) – The Week Of The Star

4. Aries III (Apr 11-Apr 18) – The Week Of The Pioneer

5. Aries-Taurus Cusp (Apr 19-Apr 24) – The Cusp Of Power

6. Taurus I (Apr 25-May 02) – The Week Of Manifestation

7. Taurus II (May 03-May 10) – The Week Of The Teacher

8. Taurus III (May 11-May 18) – The Week Of The Natural

9. Taurus-Gemini Cusp (May 19-May 24) – The Cusp Of Energy

10. Gemini I (May 25-Jun 01) – The Week Of Freedom

11. Gemini II (Jun 02-Jun 10) – The Week Of New Language

12. Gemini III (Jun 11-Jun 18) – The Week Of The Seeker

13. Gemini-Cancer Cusp (Jun 19-Jun 24) – The Cusp Of Magic

14. Cancer I (Jun 25-Jul 02) – The Week Of The Empath

15. Cancer II (Jul 03-Jul 10) – The Week Of The Unconventional

16. Cancer III (Jul 11-Jul 18) – The Week Of The Persuader

17. Cancer-Leo Cusp (Jul 19-Jul 25) – The Cusp Of Oscillation

18. Leo I (Jul 26-Aug 02) – The Week Of Authority

19. Leo II (Aug 03-Aug 10) – The Week Of Balanced Strength

20. Leo III (Aug 11-Aug 18) – The Week Of Leadership

21. Leo-Virgo Cusp (Aug 19-Aug 25) – The Cusp Of Exposure

22. Virgo I (Aug 26-Sept 02) – The Week Of System Builders

23. Virgo II (Sept 03-Sept 10) – The Week Of The Enigma

24. Virgo III (Sept 11-Sept 18) – The Week Of The Literalist

25. Virgo-Libra Cusp (Sept 19-Sept 24) – The Cusp Of Beauty

26. Libra I (Sept 25-Oct 01) – The Week Of The Perfectionist

27. Libra II (Oct 02-Oct 10) – The Week Of Society

28. Libra III (Oct 11-Oct 18) – The Week Of Theater

29. Libra-Scorpio Cusp (Oct 19-Oct 25) – The Cusp Of Drama & Criticism

30. Scorpio I (Oct 26-Nov 02) – The Week Of Intensity

31. Scorpio II (Nov 03–Nov 11) – The Week Of Depth

32. Scorpio III (Nov 12–Nov 18) – The Week Of Charm

33. Scorpio-Sagittarius Cusp (Nov 19–Nov 24) – The Cusp Of Revolution

34. Sagittarius I (Nov 25–Dec 02) – The Week Of Independence

35. Sagittarius II (Dec 03–-Dec 10) – The Week Of The Originator

36. Sagittarius III (Dec 11-Dec 18) – The Week Of The Titan

37. Sagittarius-Capricorn Cusp (Dec 19-Dec 25) – The Cusp Of Prophecy

38. Capricorn I (Dec 26-Jan 02) – The Week Of The Ruler

39. Capricorn II (Jan 03- Jan 09) – The Week Of Determination

40. Capricorn III (Jan 10-Jan 16) – The Week Of Dominance

41. Capricorn-Aquarius Cusp (Jan 17-Jan 22) – The Cusp Of Mystery & Imagination

42. Aquarius I (Jan 23-Jan 30) – The Week Of Genius

43. Aquarius II (Jan 31-Feb 07) – The Week Of Youth & Ease

44. Aquarius III (Feb 08-Feb 15) – The Week Of Acceptance

45. Aquarius-Pisces Cusp (Feb 16-Feb 22) – The Cusp Of Sensitivity

46. Pisces I (Feb 23-Mar 02) – The Week Of Spirit

47. Pisces II (Mar 03-Mar 10) – The Week Of The Loner

48. Pisces III (Mar 11-Mar 18) – The Week Of Dancers & Dreamers

Profundity in all forms is an irresistible attraction to those born during the Week of Depth. Shunning superficiality, they take a measured and serious view of life, both at work and at home. This is not to say that they don’t like to have fun—far to the contrary. In pursuing their hobbies, pastimes and lighter activities, however, they show the same full-bodied intensity and concentration that they do in the more purposeful parts of their lives. These people are highly competitive in their careers and leisure activities, but they seldom allow this impulse into their private lives. Jealousy and envy are naturally close to their passionate core, but they are generally able to understand and control such emotions to prevent them from running riot. In extreme cases, however, these feelings may emerge powerfully in their personality, threatening to engulf it entirely. One area in which the position of such people is firmly fixed is that of finance. They are well aware of the power of money in daily life, and rarely will they knowingly put themselves at an economic disadvantage. They may even worry unduly about financial matters, and although they are not miserly, they do tend to hold on to what they have. They can get very upset with mates and business partners who are too free with their spending or downright fiscally irresponsible. Yet they must beware of applying a double standard, for they, too, can go overboard, spending money on themselves shamelessly. To allay their own feelings of anxiety, they need to be good earners. They can be empathic with the suffering of others, for they know what it is to suffer themselves. They don’t generally seek out painful situations, but they know that a life without hardship and struggle has little meaning. They will feel, say, the death of a parent, friend, child or mate deeply—so deeply, in fact, that it can have an overwhelming or catastrophic effect on them; indeed, they may never recover from it. They may not ruminate on the subject of death, and usually try to put it out of their minds, but at a deeper level they are often obsessed with the subject. The need to sleep soundly for long periods yet the failure to remember their dreams can be characteristic of such personalities, who need a lot of time for unconscious expression and often cut off the content of such activities from daily awareness. It can be difficult to get them to open up emotionally and to talk about whatever may be bothering them. Even a trusted life partner or dear friend must pass all kinds of roadblocks before getting close to their inner feelings. To listen to what they are finally ready to say requires patience, understanding and nonclaiming love. Any deep bond formed with such an individual obviously cannot be taken lightly; not everyone is ready for such deep and heavy commitment. These people are fascinated by forms of escape. Physical or psychic retreat to a safe haven, and the ability to switch off their mental motor at will, allows them to deal with aspects of daily life that they would rather not face. Television, movies, music and books are healthy habits for them, but addiction, to drugs, alcohol, sex or violence, is always a real possibility, too. When such activity involves others, they are not necessarily the initiators; they often repress their shadow side. Instead, however, they may summon up possessive or violent behavior in their immediate environment, forcing their mates and lovers to act out their own repressed negativity. This may be directed against these people themselves, who then become their own victims. These people are not the best choice for victimization, for they are counter-punchers by nature and can be fierce in protecting themselves and their loved ones. Few who have experienced their anger will seek to arouse it a second time. It is typical of them, in fact, to be occasionally subject to volcanic outbursts of emotion, which, although rarely seen, are not easily forgotten. These people generally make steadfast friends and faithful lovers and mates. This is only partly a matter of morality; being overly flexible and changeable is really not possible for them, so turning from one partner to another, or adopting new methods and techniques in their work, is generally not an option. Being forced to make such switches by circumstances or fate can bring out their worst side. Both lovers and friends can testify to the softer side of these people. Although their presence is often formidable, they can be unusually kind, giving, and even quite sentimental. They are generally kind to animals and small children, who awaken their protective and nurturing instincts, and they can make excellent parents. Those born during the Week of Depth can also be secretive and controlling. Their sexual needs and demands often also run high, but they can equally well go for long periods of time without wanting intimate contact. They are, generally speaking, very physical, enjoying the pleasures of table and bed. As long as they remain sensitive to their partners and capable of moderation, such drives and appetites can have a positive effect on their relationships. Indeed, they are often only able to overcome their strong attraction to fixed habitual behaviors by learning to share true affection and love.

November 8 people are often drawn to areas of the human experience which others would consider dubious, questionable or shadowy. Those born on this day are just not cut out to walk the straight and narrow. Although they may present a “normal” affect or appearance, after a time one discovers that their tastes and interests are quite weird, perhaps even bizarre. Those born on November 8 are concerned with exploring the limits of human experience and continually pushing them back. Their lifestyle or orientation to the world can indeed prove upsetting to those who prefer to live within carefully controlled parameters. Most November 8 people pursue their occupations and interests with a dedication that can amount to a mania. Their powers of concentration are usually great, but they can drive themselves as well as friends, lovers and family crazy unless they learn to temper their intensity and relax. Indeed, November 8 people should more often indulge in the simple pleasures and reduce some of the complexity that they engender in their lives. Those born on this day are usually very good with money and capable of great success in the financial world. They are not overly optimistic and typically display a kind of “prove it to me” attitude when presented with theories or schemes, while at the same time they keep their eyes and ears open and will give ample consideration to ideas that make sense. However, there is a tendency on their part to succumb to power urges, and therefore healthy social and family relationships are an irreplaceable stabilizing influence. November 8 people must resist dark, plutonic forces within themselves and similarly limit contact with “social undesirables” or the criminal underworld. Gambling, drug use, as well as dubious tax schemes are best avoided. Conversely, business or love partners of a more conservative mold seem to bring out their more practical and positive side. Often November 8 people can satisfy their plutonic nature through reading books and watching films dealing with the darker part of human existence. On the other hand, it is necessary that November 8 people confront their own personal demons at some point, since suppressing or ignoring disturbing elements that periodically surface only leads to frustration, unhappiness and even outbreaks of violence. Various forms of self-analysis and psychological counseling may or may not be helpful in this respect, but having a close friend with whom to share experiences is essential to them. Finally, November 8 people should strive to clarify the connection between their inner and outer life, neither cutting themselves off from the world to live in their own serious corner, nor throwing themselves into worldly activity to the detriment of their personal concerns. Although they are blessed with imaginative and progressive minds, people born on November 8 can come across as serious or intense. They tend to be attracted to unusual subjects that others would consider borderline, shadowy or dark. In some cases their interests may even be considered peculiar or, at the very least, out of the ordinary. They are brilliant at concentrating their energy on achieving their goals, and this, combined with their courage and ambition, augurs well for professional success. Many will attract money their way, rise to the top of their career or make a comfortable standard of living an important goal in their lives. Sometimes the desire to achieve materially can be so strong that it becomes overpowering in its intensity; it is important for these people to remember what is truly important in life. It is their curiosity which draws these people to the shadowy aspects of life, and a part of them longs to push the boundaries of knowledge and experience to their limits. If they are able to maintain objectivity they have the potential to be innovating pioneers; but if they can’t keep their distance, there is a real risk of their becoming too closely identified with the darker aspects of the world and the shadow side of themselves. Until the age of thirty-three, the urge for these people to explore the unconventional is at its strongest; during these years they need to remember that, as fascinating as the unconventional is, there is also much to be learned from what is routine. After the age of thirty-four there is a turning point when they start to become more practical, disciplined and goal-orientated in the realization of their objectives. Whatever age they are, however, the key to their success is their ability to confront their inner fears rather than seeking it outside. When they can do this, their hunger to explore the meaning of life will inevitably draw them away from the darkness within to the light of understanding, compassion, love, and what is truly important in life. Although they may come across as somewhat reserved or serious, people born on November 8 have strong and passionate desires. They may be tempted to date people who are unusual or dangerous in some way, but their chances of happiness will increase significantly if they date someone clever and interesting, but also grounded and secure. People born on this day like to spend, and it is important for them to make sure that this doesn’t get out of hand, as being in debt will make them feel anxious and unsettled. As for alcohol, gambling and recreational drugs, they need to avoid them too as they will lead them down a dangerous path. Because they find it hard to open up to others they may bottle up their emotions; this can have a damaging effect, so counseling or therapy might prove beneficial. As far as diet is concerned, the emphasis needs to be on fresh, natural or organic, and the more colorful fruits and vegetables they have on their plate the better. Regular moderate exercise is recommended, in particular yoga and tai chi which can encourage their minds and their bodies to become more flexible. Above all, spending more time relaxing and having fun is highly recommended to help them keep a sense of perspective and be a little less intense. Wearing the color orange will help them feel more spontaneous and encourage them to reach out to others. These people are well suited to careers in which they can express their creativity and indulge their curiosity; they may make superb criminologists, psychologists, writers, musicians, or pioneering scientists and engineers. Other careers that might appeal include administration, education, counselling and law, or occupations of a philosophical or religious nature. The life path of people born on this day is to balance the shadowy and the lighter sides of their personality. Once they have developed a healthy sense of balance and perspective, their destiny is to explore the unconventional and expand the frontiers of human knowledge. People born specifically on the 8th of November are imagined to be quite independent, responsible and intense with the typical Scorpio slightly guarded and sensitive emotions. The ruling astrological planet for this particular day is Saturn guiding you to be an intellectually sharp, ambitious hard worker who is highly inquisitive. If you have this birthday your charming yet fairly reserved temperament is broadminded and usually unwilling to accept help from others. You are likely to possess excellent powers of concentration and a bold approach in addition to a truthful very persuasive manner. A good imagination encourages you to have many interests and an avid enjoyment of relaxing by reading books and watching films. Individuals with a November the eighth birthday are willful and a tad impulsive at times with specific likes and dislikes. You are usually naturally creative and generous with a stylish dress sense but you can be prone to be sometimes critical, secretive, bossy or emotionally demanding too. The exact purpose of a profession is an important consideration to a person born on the eighth of November when it comes to occupation choice. You tend to take your responsibilities seriously and will put lots of effort into being successful in your working life. You are unlikely to be motivated by the financial incentives of a job and seem to find working behind the scenes preferable to public facing positions. Despite your natural generosity you are unlikely to waste money on frivolous buys and like to get real financial value. Your acumen and plentiful amounts of patience allow you to be adept at saving towards sensible investments for the future. For a Scorpio, the person born on the eighth day of November is typically a passionate romantic spirit with a mysterious seductive mien. You appear to fall in love deeply and will be incredibly hurt by a break up or any form of betrayal from a soul mate. You may be a little difficult to get close to and demanding of your independence in a loving relationship as well as high expectations of your chosen partner. Although you may be extremely loyal and devoted and feel profoundly you could sometimes hide emotions and have occasional difficulty with trust. An ideal other half will share your main aspirations and your predilection for a neat organized home. You do not appreciate being rushed into decisions so you are inclined to think really carefully before committing to a long term partnership with someone special. You are likely to favor taking the lead affectionately in and out of the bedroom. Illness experienced by those born on November 8th is usually a rarity as a consequence of your commonsensical mindset regarding health and fitness. A preference for a moderate sensible diet and adequate exercise will ordinarily keep you looking and feeling good. Bottling up your worries can cause a bout of depression once in a while therefore sleep has lots of importance concerning the maintenance of your usual general healthiness. People born on this day have a tendency to every now and again push themselves too much by trying to over exceed their mind and body limits. Learning to pace yourself more effectively to avoid burnout is advised. Your main strengths of character are seen in your serious success orientated sense of responsibility and the sharpness of your intellect. These positive characteristics and your imaginative persuasion, charm and touch of impulsiveness add extra positivity and enthusiasm to your list of favorable traits. Emotional insecurities can soon rouse the personality weaknesses for those born on November 8th. On these particular occasions your proclivities for bossiness and criticism will frequently surface. If the insecurity is not resolved quickly your ability to concentrate could diminish and you may become rather mistrustful, moody and possessive. Being born on the 8th of November means you will have a desire to achieve success without requiring the assistance of others. You will fully utilize all your talents and refuse to take any shortcuts on the accomplishment of a longed for goal. You are amazingly patient as a result of your intensity and willpower and will usually cope well with a delay or disappointment. Your streak of creativity gives your dreams the likelihood of containing inspirational originative and fanciful scenes. As you were born on the eighth day of the month your date of birth is awarded an equivalent Root number of Eight. This numerical reference to your birthday has the keyword 'Leader' referring to your autonomy, rational thought and action plus your persuasiveness. In Tarot the 8th card representing Courage is associated with your birthday. This is an indication of your strongwilled focus and the satisfaction you gain from helping others. The lucky gemstone for November the eighth birthdays is believed to be a Black Pearl. Wearing one promises to block negativity and encourage opportunities for happiness and prosperity. All Scorpion personalities in the zodiac are thought to have their probabilities determined by the influence of the planet Pluto. The actual day you were born on, the eighth of November is governed by Saturn's reign explaining some of your differences to other Scorpio's. Your qualities of inquisitiveness, a broad mind and self sufficiency let you learn swiftly from experience and get the most out of life. Your lively boldness and hardworking sentiment allow you to do a profusion of worthwhile things. If you can conquer the majority of your inner anxieties it could help you grow stronger emotionally and stay focused on your wishes. A closing thought for people born on November the 8th is to practice and nurture compassion and transparency in all you do, as these virtues could reap you the greatest rewards.

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A Conversation about the Border with Local Non-profit Founders

In the past year, there have been record breaking numbers of children crossing the U.S.- Mexico border, with more than 18,700 unaccompanied children and teenagers taken into custody in March 2021. Those taken into custody are then held in prison-like detention centers, until they are reunited with their families.

It’s been four months since President Joe Biden has taken office. During his campaign he promised to tackle climate change, forgive student loans, and provide effective vaccine rollouts for the COVID-19 pandemic, among other promises. While he’s delivered on some of those policies, he has yet to stop the separation of families at the U.S.-Mexico border. Although he has created a taskforce to reunite previously separated families, this has resulted in an increase of unaccompanied minors coming across the U.S.-Mexico border.

Enrique Morones is a local activist and the founder of Gente Unida, a local non-profit that aims to educate and spread awareness about what is going on at our local border. He works with Ari Honarvar, Vice President of Gente Unida and a Musical Ambassador of Peace who conducts dance sessions with refugees and asylum seekers in San Diego and Baja California.

The UCSD Guardian talked to Enrique Morones and Ari Honarvar via Zoom to learn more about the work they do and what they believe should happen at our borders.

How did you come about creating Gente Unida? How did the idea come about? Did you face any obstacles/hardships in creating it?

Enrique Morones: In 2005–06 I formed Gente Unida. And the reason I formed Gente Unida was because 2005, that’s kinda when you started having this really crazy television, [like] Fox News… And you also had vigilantes on the border with guns, shooting people, they were called the minutemen. And I go, ‘That’s crazy, you have these white men out shooting migrants. That’s got to be against the law!’ So I started Gente Unida to expose hate talk, hate actions, saying we can’t be doing this type of thing.

What makes the work worth it? Would you say you’ve seen progress during your work? Is your progress what motivates you to continue?

Enrique Morones: “The reason I do the work is because I was taught to love your neighbor and to promote love and to be respectful to people. You know I’m out there speaking, I get a little worked up and everything but I always promote non-violence. But I do promote, do not be silent. You cannot be silent… Being silent kind of means that you agree with what’s going on. And I’ve never been silent as those values come to me from my parents.”

Over the years have you seen any changes in what is happening at the border, especially with the effects of the wall? More children?

EM: “The last five years, before President Biden, it was the worst. It was the worst ever. Because you have a person that in my opinion wasn’t qualified to be where he was. And for him to openly promote hate and lies and fear is very damaging. And when you sit at that particular spot in Washington DC you have the whole world’s attention. So for him to go out there and say these crazy things, hate words lead to hate actions. So remember when he first started, going down the escalator, he said that we — the Mexicans — were criminals and rapists and not of the best, and all of that stuff. I could not believe it. And then I could not believe how the media, of course Fox News is gonna follow him, but everybody else was following him. And I go why are you covering that? He’s talking bad about the people that come from Africa, the people that come from the Middle East, the Muslims. I go, why are you covering that? You’re promoting it. You gotta stop it.”

“I’ve debated Tucker Carlson and Hannity and Laura Ingraham and Bill O’Reilly. I’ve debated them all. And in my opinion I’ve defeated them all. And I know that when I’m on Fox News, I’m not an idiot. I know that when I’m on there more than half the audience thinks I’m the devil, no matter what I say… I’m not gonna change their minds. I’m not trying to change their minds. There’s about a third of the audience that really, they’re supportive, ‘I like that guy. I like his ideas.’ And there’s about 20 percent or 25 percent that hasn’t made up their mind. That’s who I’m talking to. When I’m on those shows, because people go ‘why do you waste your time?’. Well I’m not wasting my time. I’m not gonna change Hannity’s mind. I know I’m not gonna change it. I’m not even gonna try. But there’s people watching that go ‘I didn’t realize that there isn’t a line for people to come in through the front door. I didn’t realize that all of these people are dying crossing the border, and many more are dying crossing into Europe.’”

In terms of policy, what do you think is the most important law or regulation we could implement? What can we do to improve conditions for those arriving at the border?

EM: “I think one of the biggest things you could do. Let’s stick with the media for a second. When President Reagan was President Reagan he changed the law because there was a law which was sort of like truth in advertising. Where you couldn’t just say something in the news whether it was true or not if you did that you would be punished as a station that doesn’t exist anymore. I think it’d be good if we had that again. When somebody says something that’s a lie, that that would get penalized. That would kind of stop them from saying so many lies. Right? Because it’s very dangerous and so you make up a story and you say it enough, people start believing it and so you start doing hateful acts. That’s one thing that could be done.”

“But in terms of policy and so forth, I think the United States [needs] a more welcoming policy, similar to Canada. There’s about 200 countries in the world, almost exactly 200. If you rank the United States where it is in welcoming migrants, it’s around 25th… There’s around 250 million undocumented people in the world today that’s according to the United Nations. The United States has 11 million so that means 239 million… Those people don’t want to come to the United States. Usually you want to come to a country that’s similar to yours, similar language, culture. That’s only natural. First of all you don’t want to leave, but if you’re forced to leave you go to a country similar to yours. But a lot of American people don’t realize that and think that everybody wants to come here. Oh no that’s not true…”

“So one of the rules that should be changed, is having a more welcoming immigration policy where people can knock on the door, come in through the front door. You can check out who they are. Most of them have no criminal records, they’re coming here to work. That’s the way it should be… And people have to realize that and Canada has more of a system like that. And now we’re seeing it, with all of these children that are coming. The United States needs young people. The older population, [they] aren’t having as many kids, they’re dying off. This country needs young people. Like Germany needs young people. Some of these countries that have been more welcoming, it’s because they want their country to continue. So we need to be more educated about the reality of what’s taking place and let’s have policies that welcome these people. “

Considering that we’re in San Diego, do you think there is enough media coverage about the border?

EM: “When I was younger, there were only three stations: ABC, NBC, and CBS. That was it. And those were real news stations. They weren’t giving you their opinion. Now it’s totally different. All the stations give you their opinion of this and that. And you have the two extremes you have Fox News way over here and MSNBC way over here. I try to stay in the middle. And you have access to more information, but it’s not really information it’s opinion so what happens is if you’re of this opinion you listen to those opinions and if you’re that you listen to that. That’s not healthy… I can see different opinions but there’s not different facts.”

“One of the problems with the community in San Diego or all along the border, or really the country. When people say stuff like ‘Oh I don’t like Mexico.’ or ‘I don’t like Mexicans’ or ‘Tijuana’ or whatever, one of the things I say is ‘how many times have you been there?’ Most of the time they’ve never been there. So I go, ‘Why do you say you don’t like it? You’ve never been there. You don’t even know anybody’… And most of the time they’ll just talk about something they’ve seen on the news …”

“My message is you’re saying these things but you don’t even know the people. You don’t even know … When you have these people promoting hate, people get affected by it and they go out there and they start [acting on it]. Like what’s been happening lately, attacking Asian people. Why would you attack Asian people? It doesn’t make any sense. It’s that ignorance. So the media plays a big role because hate words lead to hate actions.”

So you said that if we are silent and if we’re not doing anything then it means that we’re supporting all of this hate that is happening. What is your advice to others on how they can get involved? What actions can they take?

EM: “If you go to an event and it sounds interesting, maybe they’re talking about the environment or working with the elderly or whatever it is in working with the elderly, or whatever it is. Go to them and say, ‘I had a lot of fun at that, and I’m interested in getting involved in working with the elderly’ for example. That’s one of the things that I learned is that if you see something you like the way somebody’s doing something you know try to find out who that is and maybe that’s something you want to try out. And maybe you won’t like it. That’s fine. Be open to these situations.”

“When people say ‘can one person make a difference?’ I wrote a book and the book is about the power of one and I say yeah one person can make a difference… [It’s] a story about a starfish and it’s about a little boy walking along the beach with his father and he’s picking up these starfish and he’s throwing the starfish into the ocean. So the father says ‘what are you doing?’ And he goes ‘well dad I’m throwing these starfish into the ocean because it’s so hot out here, the sun is so bright and the tide has gone in, these starfish are dying.’ And the father says, ‘yeah son but there’s thousands of starfish, what you do doesn’t make a difference.’ And the little boy picks up a starfish and shows it to his dad, and goes ‘it’ll make a difference to this one. To that one it won’t make a difference but to this one it will.’ And that’s the power of one because by saving that starfish who knows that starfish could become the next Malala. It could become the next Rumi. The power of one. And I’ve always believed in that philosophy.”

Next, The Guardian spoke to Honarvar, to learn more about the dance sessions she conducts with the migrant children.

How did you become involved in working at the border?

Ari Honarvar: “I’m the founder of Rumi With a View and my life is dedicated to making and maintaining cultural bridges across war-torn and conflict borders…”

“When the Muslim ban happened and not a lot of refugees were coming here but at the same time the Border crisis was going on where asylum seekers from Central America were coming to the border but they were being delayed and they were not being processed by the CDP and immigration. So I started interviewing them as a journalist, those people who were coming, and the stories were so similar to what I knew from Middle Eastern refugees and from my own life, you know just fleeing from violence from a terrible situation. So then I was thinking maybe this isn’t, as I got to know more of the families, I wanted to do something more than just report the atrocities. So I started a drum and dance session for the migrants who were stuck and they were seeking asylum to the US. So I started that in 2018 and I’m still meeting with them via Zoom weekly so the pandemic made us not able to travel to Tijuana weekly, so we just switched to Zoom meeting.”

You mentioned your own experience of coming here as an unaccompanied minor. Do you mind telling me a little more about that?

AH: “[In Iran, in the 1980’s] There were crackdowns on dissidents and a lot of people disappeared and were taken away to jail or worse being executed. It was a tense situation for everyone…”

“I was 14 when I left, and my parents brought me to the US and then they had to go back home because I have a sister and she was still in Iran… My parents had to go back but I got a student visa and I was able to stay and that was very miraculous at the time. None of this could’ve happened.”

And have you been able to reconnect with your family since then?

AH: “Yeah so they eventually migrated. It took us 21 years before we were all in the same place at the same time but we were able to unite and then and you know eventually they got visas and Green Cards to come to the U.S.”

Can you tell me more about the dance sessions that you hold for the children? What kind of dances do you do?

AH: “The whole idea is to serve the population that we are meeting with so… If we are meeting with an African group it would be the regional African dances. [It’s something] to mostly make the kids feel safe because they look at their parents and the other hotel around them everyone. So that’s just the very first part of what we do is just try to increase the capacity for joy.

“..[Once] when we were going there, at one point, the shelter pulled me aside and she said ‘even if you don’t bring any donations please do come. This really helps everyone to keep their spirits up.’ And afterwards we stay to chat with people who need a little extra support or they want to talk to us and each time you know, people have told me that they feel so much better after the sessions and the effect of this feeling lasts about sometimes up to a week, when we start the sessions again. Sometimes a few days. And that just really helps with this precarious situation that they’re in.”

Do you have any more memorable personal stories from this? Like seeing someone who is just really moved by the dancing?

AH: “Yeah every every session when we do our session all the kids, they come and say goodbye and we do make the love signs and we hug and blow kisses. And they’re so excited. I was so happy, and it was a bittersweet moment this past time when all the kids you know that some of them had been there for 15 months I had watched them grow up in this shelter every week. I watched them and we danced together and a lot of them got asylum and I was so happy for them and wait so we were all kind of teary-eyed and we were crying and we were laughing. [And I just tell them] ‘please keep in touch!’ And we just keep saying ‘I love you.’”

How did you think of the idea of using dance therapy for these children?

AH: “When I came to the US without my parents, one of the things that really helped me was dancing. It helped my depression and my anxiety but I didn’t have a supportive community that would hold me. And both things are really needed and when I came across Musical Ambassadors of Peace I saw that that’s exactly what they were providing. They were musicians who were into community building, and their form and their message really resonated with me. So that’s how I started… So they’re musicians, I’m not a musician. But I can but I can do something similar and they were very flexible and welcoming on my suggestion that I would just dance with everyone as a way of healing and it worked out.”

Although such local work is being done to help migrants, we still need federal level policies to address what is happening at our borders. An important aspect of this is to stop the media from depicting migrants as “outsiders” or “invaders,” but rather, to share their true stories as to why they are migrating in the first place.

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