#am i bias?

[inkskinned]

he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you're young and you're kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don't like bad boys, per say, but you don't really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.

except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn't learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you're going. he's just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn't he eventually soften? can't you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?

at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you're fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you're not going to punish him for his personality type.

except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn't get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you're the single exception.

about a decade from this experience, you'll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.

he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you're learning what he's actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.

#i used to think it was romantic too and then i was like. now i see it as a HUGE red flag #writeblr #it is also almost EXCLUSIVELY said by immature ppl who think this is normal #fyi even if u think it's funny and ur like 'im an introvert it's just TRUE' like. you need therapy (ily tho) #healed introversion is just ''i would prefer to be by myself'' not ''i hate every person'' ... hate is not normal. that is not healthy #im sorry. i know it feels accurate. but if you're walking around with that kind of rage.... #1. you're making a LOT of assumptions about every single person u have ever met. which is often unfair and unkind #and also usually involves judging people based on their worst moments or little mistakes #2. you are being unfair to the person who is ur ''exception'' #3. there is a VAST difference between ''ur my favorite person'' and ''the ONLY person i like.'' #idk i think this is just a personal bias thing tbh #im sure there are people who have this experience normally #but i have YET to find a man who thinks like this and ISNT absolute DOGSHIT. although tbh.... like. im sure he exists #when u hit like 30 some of the things that were once kind of hot now just sound fucking exhausting. like ''im in a band'' #edit in the tags: i used to kind of be like this too. but the thing is that like. my life became so much more peaceful #once i started believing that people are generally good. like yes i am mad at the world at large #but it's just.... a very hard way to live. you're not a bad person or wrong for the ways other people hurt you and taught you to be angry. #but that anger will continue to hurt YOU. it will punish YOU. it will prevent YOU from making new deep connections. it will protect you yes #but it will also cause MASSIVE blowback. bc if you lose the One Person... your life will fall apart. i know this personally. #i really recommend just trying to be... cautiously optimistic instead. like. yes #people can be horrible and cruel and there are some communities (incels for example) that aren't worth that optimism #but i think like... most people will hold a door for you . most people want to help you find your wallet . #i hope one day you are able to find peace. i hope that rage eventually smooths over. i know how hard it is PERSONALLY #and i know what must have happened to you. and im deeply deeply sorry we share the same wound. #but i promise - sometimes we all need someone else to help us carry the weight. eventually the rage has to die so that we can let help in #i had to spend years biting at outstretched hands. i still often do. im still very wary . and my heart breaks that you flinch too. #here's the thing: i don't blame you. but we were both acting out of fear and pain. .... not out of healthy behavior. and ... change #was needed. i needed change too. rage was useful for a while. then it just left me isolated and bitter. i had to (with effort) #choose to let that rage go. and let people in . VERY SLOWLY THO LOL

[strayklds]

HAN / ‘락(樂)’ (231110)

#han jisung #forhanji #bystay #stray kids #createskz #meltracks #usersa #userwilliam #anialook #mygifs #maja when you see this..... just know i caved because i am weak. #coloring? bad. jaist? good. #1k #bias

[otiksimr]

Death song from HTTYD?

Race to the Edge is quite literally one of the best media to come out of HTTYD.

#Yes I am extremely bias #my art #fanart #HTTYD #how to train your dragon #race to the edge #rtte #httyd rtte #httyd dragons #httyd fanart #httyd death song #death song #rtte fanart #dragon #dragon art

[fuck-hamas-go-israel]

Ethnic cleansing? Genocide? Apartheid?

Throwing around these buzzwords to describe the Israel-Hamas war because you’ve seen them on social media doesn’t make you right, and it doesn’t make you an activist.

It makes you ignorant, intellectually dishonest, and lazy for parroting biased talking points with no concept about what these terms actually mean.

What is apartheid?

Well, it was first used to describe the political system in South Africa and today’s Namibia whereby racism was institutionalised. This manner of governance meant that clear racial segregation would occur, in a manner that benefited the white race and would actively oppress those who had darker skin.

This meant that there were white-only spaces, white people would get prioritised when it came to education and jobs, and relationships/marriages between white peoples and coloured people were illegal.

Is Israel objectively an apartheid state? There are no laws that actively favour one group over the other. There is a sizeable population of Israeli Arabs that can thrive in the same way as the Israeli Jews can. There are laws against discrimination on the basis of gender, race/ethnicity, and sexual orientation.

Palestinians from Gaza are allowed to work in Israel through a work permit system. There are about 150,000 Palestinians working in Israel, most of which live in Israel and some come from Gaza/the West Bank. They aren’t denied rights institutionally.

Is it harder to get a job or education in Israel if you’re a Palestinian from Gaza? Sure, because of different governments. It’s like how it’s a lot easier for you to find a job in your own country (in terms of paperwork and bureaucracy) than overseas. But you’re not denied the right to apply.

Of course, if you have a history of violence, a criminal record, or your family has ties to terrorists, then it’ll be a lot harder to get an approved work permit. But that’s not apartheid. That’s common sense, and a regulation practiced by all countries that minimally desire to protect their own population from danger.

Ethnic cleansing and genocide

These two concepts can go hand-in-hand. Ethnic cleansing refers to the mass expulsion or killing of a group of people based on their ethnicity. Similarly, genocide is the purposeful killing of a group of people solely with the intention of annihilating them.

Famous examples? The Holocaust, of course, where the Nazi regime believed in the superiority of the Aryan race and decided to declare genocide on the Jews, Romanis, the LGBTQ+ community, people with disabilities, people with “Asian features”, and many many other groups. Anyone who they didn’t think was “pure”.

Their aim was to ensure that the Aryan race propagated without having “impure” blood affecting the bloodlines. They even started a eugenics programme called Lebensborn to ensure that more pure Aryan babies were born.

More recent examples? The Rwandan genocide where the Hutus attempted to wipe out the Tutsis on the basis of ethnicity. They mandated that Tutsis mention their ethnicity on state-issued ID cards in order for the Hutus in power to be able to identify them and then kill them.

Or the Yazidi genocide which happened so recently, in which ISIL killed, raped, and sent thousands of Yazidis into conversion camps on the basis of their ethnicity. They also took Yazidi women as sex slaves and raped and tortured them.

Or the Rohingya Muslims in the Rakhine State in Myanmar, and how there was a mass killing and expulsion of them from the country, forcing them to flee to Bangladesh to take refuge, crating the world’s largest refugee camp.

Or how ISIS killed thousands of people from Christian groups in Iraq, Syria, Egypt, and Libya because of their faith, leading the US, EU, and UK to label this as religious genocide and condemned their actions.

Has Israel been practicing ethnic cleansing and genocide on Palestinians all these years?

Well, the birth rate of the Palestinian population in Gaza, the West Bank, and in Israel has been steadily increasing all these years.

So, no. No ethnic cleansing, no genocide. They are free to have as many children as they desire.

The UN Genocide Convention

The United Nations has 5 actions that constitute genocide.

1. Killing members of a target group

Israel is targeting Hamas officials with the aim of wiping out the terrorist group and ensuring that such a deadly attack on Israeli soil doesn’t happen again. I suppose you could call it genocide against Hamas, but they’re killing Hamas because they’re terrorists, not because they’re Palestinian. Shouldn’t everyone believe in genocide against terrorists?

But look at Black Saturday. Look at Hamas’ rhetoric. They repeatedly call for the annihilation of Israel and genocide of Jews. When will the media start believing what they say, word for word, instead of trying to spin it into “hmm maybe they want to kill all the Jews because they’re freedom fighters!”

War has collateral damage. Of course the innocent civilians don’t deserve to suffer just because of the actions of their government, but there have been warnings given to the Palestinian civilians prior to Israel striking the areas. There are consequences of attacking a country first, and then having that country attack you back.

2. Causing people of the group serious bodily or mental harm

The UN refers to sexual violence as the prime example of non-fatal harm.

Sexual violence has occurred. Hamas have kidnapped and raped women and even paraded the bodies of half-naked women around. But I f Israel had done the same, it’ll be the first thing appearing on everyone’s BBC push notifications (without even being confirmed as true).

3. Imposing living conditions intended to destroy the group

Many people refer to the blockade that Israel imposed around the Gaza Strip as an example of this.

This blockade was imposed by both Israel and Egypt in 2005. Its aim was to prevent smuggling of weapons into Gaza, and isolate the reign of Hamas to the region. This was to ensure the safety of Israel and Egypt.

Did this blockade pose serious challenges to the Gazan civilians? Of course. But that’s a consequence of having a terrorist government. If you have a terrorist group running your country, don’t be surprised if neighbouring countries are extra careful about who or what they allow in or out of the borders.

Many authorities from other Arab nations have also expressed approval of Egypt’s border restrictions, and even encouraged Egypt to flood the terror tunnels that Hamas has dug under the city. As a side note, other Arab nations have not historically been very kind or welcoming to Palestinians. Syria has killed over 4000 Palestinians, and many Arab countries are now refusing any refuge for Palestinians. But no one cares about that because it doesn’t make Israel look bad. All they do now is use the images of dead Palestinians under the hands of Syria and reuse them to propagate fake news.

The blockade has been labelled as a human rights violation because of collective punishment. Many humanitarian organisations believe that the blockade has caused the Palestinian civilians disproportionate harm.

Contrary to popular belief, Israel isn’t disallowing humanitarian aid from coming through the borders. Fuel, food, hygiene products, clothes, and shoes have been coming through the borders regularly for years. The Gaza Strip also has electricity and internet access and water.

Do all these items reach the Palestinian civilians? Well, there has been evidence that Hamas has been intercepting a lot of the supplies sent by humanitarian groups. This is not surprising since the UNRWA tweeted that Hamas has stole fuel from hospitals in Gaza in order to launch more rockets at Israel (but quickly deleted it after realising that it goes against their agenda to paint Hamas in a bad light.) In addition, the returned hostages have mentioned that there are many aid supplies hidden in the terror tunnels by Hamas. Instead of giving them to the civilians, they are hoarding it for themselves.

There has also been video evidence that some people are reselling these aid items in stores at exorbitant prices in order to turn profits. This has been well-documented for the last 10 years.

Is blockading the region to mitigate terrorism a disproportionate response? Well, it’s like asking if heightened security and stricter border control at airports is a disproportionate response after 9/11. Is being cautious and worrying about the security of your country an irrational reaction to the constant threat of terrorism?

4. Preventing births

Gaza’s population growth rate per annum is about 1.99%, which is the 39th highest in the world! Their population is allowed to propagate freely.

Israel isn’t preventing births of Palestinian babies.

5. Forcibly transferring children out of the group

No, Israel hasn’t been taking Palestinian children and forcing them to convert/keeping young Palestinian girls as sex slaves. Like I said, if this was truly happening, all the news outlets would be so quick to publish the story before verifying it.

Can we trust the UN Genocide standards?

The UN is known for corruption and have been exploiting the Palestinian people by selling them the humanitarian supplies instead of distributing them for free, which they should because these supplies literally are donations.

The UN also has differing standards of what they would label as genocide. For example, they refuse to call what China is doing to the Uyghurs in Xinjiang as genocide, even though the situation does fit many of their own criteria.

Hence, to all of you out there overusing these terms without knowing what they mean, make up your own mind about things. No one can force you to believe anything and no one can force you to change your mind.

But at the very least, do your due diligence and educate yourself before spouting tired buzzwords. Repeating misinformation doesn’t help anyone and can be very harmful.

#i stand with israel #israel #palestine #gaza #stop hamas #pro israel #am yisrael chai #hamas #​fuck hamas #hypocrisy #i support israel #using buzzwords doesn’t make you smart #do your homework #do your own research #unrwa is a scam #make up your own mind #reading Al Jazeera headlines isn’t education #media bias #call out fake news #stop fake news #stop anti semitism

[krazieka2]

me scrawling through my twitter, trying to decide what doodles are worth the effort of putting on here: yes this must be shown to everyone

#I have a strong golden deer bias and I am not ashamed #I LIKE THE SILLY GUYS #fe3h #if you like the sad anime boys this is fine #I'm putting a hand on your shoulder #it's fine and I support you #but you will never know my joy #and I will never know yours #we are different ppl and we walk different paths #it just so happens I walk the better path heyo #blue lions #golden deer #2022 art #carrying over my posts from twitter choo chooooo

[starscelly]

it's that time of year again... new fans! old fans! general inquiring minds!!! i present to you this year's dallas stars primer!! as always, based more on Vibes and Personality than the cold hard facts (but there are cold hard facts). slides last updated as of April 3rd, 2024 (:

huge huge huge thank you to @oetter @saltandpepperbox and @stickypucky for constantly reading over my work and helping add to this <3 <3

as always if there's any further questions do not hesitate to send me an ask or message!! enjoy!!!! slides below + small blurb about starsblr community for those curious/interested

(click to make the images larger/easier to read)

AS OF APRIL 5th 2024: MAVRIK BOURQUE HAS BEEN CALLED UP FROM THE AHL, LIKELY DUE TO AN ON-AND-OFF INJURY SUSTAINED BY TYLER SEGUIN. CURRENT AHL LEADING SCORER (SINCE STANK HAS BEEN CALLED UP) AND VERY FUN AND FRENCH CANADIAN (:

If after reading all of this, you're interested in becoming more involved with the stars and stars community, please know on starsblr we are sooo insanely welcoming!!!! the lb tag is extremely active and has some of the funniest, nicest people you'll ever meet. we also have such a blessedly large gifmaking community, some great artists, and of course phenomenal fic writers, so there's no shortage of silliness and vibes. I really encourage you to scroll the tags and consume all of this work because it is truly SUCH a fun, lively place here!!

and again, as always, my dms and inbox are always open <3

#ITS HERE... FINALLY..... #my magnum opus returns #again... everything is made with a dash of bias and personal opinions so. i am just a guy. take it all with a grain of salt and such #so excited to share this all with you!!! i hope you enjoy!!!!!!! #i did consider making a slide for gifmakers and artists in the fandom but i didnt know if everyone would feel comfortable being added #and it just fit weirdly? but if that's something ur interested in for next year definitely lmk and ill start on it earlier #dallas stars #stars lb #dallas stars primer

[woe-is-tuli]

Coachella 2024 P.2 - Ateez: Seonghwa

#ateez #seonghwa #coachella #chellateez #i present to you all again this man that is my bias #i am so normal right now totally normal ahhhhhhh he killed it they killed it #just one runway thats all i ask for i just need to see it one time #i am looking respectfully oh so respectfully #park seonghwa #kpop #에이티즈 #atiny #ateez gifs #kq entertainment #에이티니 #8 makes 1 team #성화 #seonghwa gifs #coachella ateez

[usereddie]

also i know people are assuming tommy is the same age as lou (39) but that would mean he was 18 in chimney begins which seems silly and impossible.

also sorry for spamming you ik we don’t know each other i’m just super high thinking about him

he COULD be lou’s actual age (39) if we assume he was 20 in 2005 during chimney begins. he would’ve probably gone straight into the academy after high school and finished his probationary year by 19 which means by the time chim joined he would’ve been relatively new to the station but already part of the crew.

which, honestly, is a headcanon i can get behind. tommy was a bystander and ignored a lot of the shit that was going on in the firehouse under captain gerrard. knowing now that he’s gay, if he was 20 and just barely out of his probie year, it makes his behavior way more understandable and also makes the shift in it after gerrard leaves and bobby comes in a lot more honest and just a little heartbreaking. (especially now that we know tommy is jealous of how the 118 is a family. he was a kid looking to belong, too.)

tommy being 39/40 now would make him barely an adult when we first saw him. and the layers to that are incredible. the tommy we knew before s7 was kind of a douchebag and we had basically nothing on him at all. knowing that tommy must’ve been a 20 year old gay kid who joined the academy fresh out of high school just trying to fit in and not get harassed by his boss and his coworkers?

like, it doesn’t excuse the behavior, but it explains a lot.

so personally i’m a fan of the idea that tommy is lou’s age………..buuuuut i’m also never opposed to an age gap ;)

#also dw about spamming me lol!!!! sometimes i don’t answer cuz i don’t feel like talking/am overwhelimg but it never bothers me :) #bia gets mail #911 abc #tommy kinard #safeashousepdf

[eledsart]

Pacific rim au ft. the love of my life, 69 interactions, and the other love of my life (sad version)

#tlt #gideon the ninth #harrow the ninth #gideon nav #harrowhark nonagesimus #palamedes sextus #camilla hect #the locked tomb #yes i used rhea ripley as ref for gideon she’s perfect and i am in love with her #pal went missing :( im imagining that cam doesn’t know if he’s alive or dead in this scenario so she’s. understandably. sad #ele’s art #artists on tumblr #also thank you Bia @lepusrufus for the text on gideon’s shirt. simple but straight (?) to the point

[strayklds]

just your average minjeong interaction

#yang jeongin #lee know #1k #inniesource #linosource #bystay #createskz #stray kids #meltracks #melontrack #userlau #usersa #userjinnie #mygifs #LOMLS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #<- wrote that tag the other day when i had a ton of energy. i am running on empty rn but i still love them so much #happy tuesdayyyy #bias

[myseungsunglove]

I hereby name April 6th Global Seungchest & Seungarms day. Thank you.

#stray kids #kim seungmin #seungmin #skz fanmeeting #skz toy world #skz #my bias #my ult bias #I am unwell #here lies Mia #in need of rescue #unable to breathe #send a respirator #*see what I did there 🤭😉

[anxiouspotatorants]

Rory liked Dean but she didn’t love him. She liked going on dates with him. She liked that he’d spend time with her and watch movies with her and get along with her mother. But there was no fire, no matter how much she wanted there to be one. She couldn’t burn like she did for exploring the world and the written word. She couldn’t burn for him.

Rory loved Logan but she didn’t like him. She loved his freedom, his adventurous spirit, his lust for life. She loved how she could let herself go with him, put faith in something dangerous and not shatter. But she didn’t like how cruel he could be to others. She didn’t like how dismissive he was, of responsibilities, of consequences, of people’s hurt. She didn’t really like him.

Rory liked Jess and she loved him. She liked that he liked the same stuff as her, liked that he’d help out his uncle without bragging, and talk with her friends, and throw literary challenges at her because he genuinely wanted her opinion. She loved his honesty, his integrity, how he’d leave her speechless with his gaze and breathless with his kisses. How he looked at her, all of her, and never made her feel like she was lacking. She liked and she loved him. And it scared her shitless.

#REMINDER: THIS IS MY INTEPRETATION OF THINGS AND NOT OBJECTIVE WHAT SO EVER #AND I AM AWARE OF THAT AND MY SHIPPING BIAS #really I do think it’s more complicated than this and that she liked and loved a little of all of them #I ​just like the sad poetry of this take ya know how the one she felt it all with was the one she couldn’t handle being with #gilmore girls #jess mariano #rory gilmore #literati #the potato rants #gilmore girls meta #my meta

[analogboii]

so today someone drove by yelling "law sucks!" and i had completely forgotten I had law's jolly roger as a sticker on my car and thought they were saying like, the law sucks and i just "yeah! fuck the government!" why am i like this

#like first of all not a lot of people even notice my sticker or know what it is #so y'all really a hater or just wanna brawl #second goddamit why am i stupid #one piece #heart pirates #trafalgar d water law #trafalgar d law #trafalgar law #ALSO WHY TF YOU SAY LAW SUCKS??? #Y'ALL WATCHING THE SAME SHOW I AM??? #LIKE BIAS OPINION ASIDE #BE FR RN

[front-facing-pokemon]

#scorbunny #YEEEEAAAAAAAH WOOOOOOOOOOOO BABY BUNNYYYYYYY YAAAAAAAAAAAAAA HRSGRHSGSHAGGRAHRAGRAGH #oh sorry. am i cheering way more for scorbunny than i did for grookey? am i showing my bias toward the bnuuy more than the monky? #i don't care 'cause it's SCORBUNNY TIIIIIME YAAAAAAAAY BABY WITH A KRAFT SINGLE ON ITS FACE WOOOOOOOOOO #this isn't even the starter i chose personally in my swsh playthrough. i kinda went into swsh blind and i didn't know what the #final evos were gonna look like. if i'd known about cinderace in advance i would've chosen this thing. i am a furry. we all are #and this thing's final evolution gets a whole paw-shot animation on its signature move are you KIDDING me. are you KIDDING #but in my first run-through (technically the run that got me back into pokémon as a hyperfixation/special interest) i chose sobble #so i have a soft spot for inteleon too #but SCORBUNNYYYYYY WO

[hungerpunch]

too much public focus on the reader's experience of a fic. too much framing the reader as the expert. the fic is for the writer. the writer is the expert on their work. you don't like it? zip your lil lid and hit the back arrow. it's like. so simple 😐

#the way people get off on like criminalizing trends in writing or #insisting on positioning themselves as the arbiter of quality #you are the reason writers dont wanna write and fandoms die lol #bitch in the gc like someone with manners and move around ! damn #now pls don't construe this as me saying we should not address bias and prejudice in fic. #bc that is not what i am talking about. #y'all do not even leave enough comments to complain like this. what do you do around here. #fandom talk #driveby post

[fluffalpenguin]

#arc-v #yugioh arc-v #yugioh arc v #im getting too lazy to tag these by character now #re: the touhou one yuri also works as yuuka and yugo as alice because bias but ALSO their abilities line up so well i am a genius #in this essay i will #yuto could be reclassed into myon #the green matches #not to mention the very obvious joke #i thought about finishing the hamtaro set but all you need to know is ruriham has a giant (life-sized really) falcon she rides