#Mommunity

[mommunity]

It helps parents and caregivers plan a balanced and nutritious diet for their infants as they transition from breast milk or formula to solid foods.

#Mommunity #BabyFoodChart #BabyFood #Baby’sGrowthandDevelopment

[spaceintruderdetector]

"mommune" = mom’s commune

"It's a play on mother and community," Batykefer told "Good Morning America." "It's a community of moms living together under one roof … helping each other raise children together."

No fear.

https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/family/story/moms-open-living-mommune-96346653

#motherhood #mommune #Bene Gesserit #fear is the mind killer

[crazynewsnmemes]

I'm divorced and live in a 'mommune' with other single mothers

#mommune #random azz news #divorce #single mom #daily mail

[bricehammack]

#Mommune

#AtlanticOcean

#NewYorkCity

#Brooklyn

#ConeyIsland

#BrightonBeach

#OceanWaves

#Beach

#BriceDailyPhoto

#Mommune #AtlanticOcean #NewYorkCity #Brooklyn #ConeyIsland #BrightonBeach #OceanWaves #Beach #BriceDailyPhoto

[kat-bots]

thinking so many thoughts about what I want from the future and wanting it all

#my best friend's other best friend has decided shes having children on her own #regardless of if theres a man in her lige #and its making me think a lot about what possibilities i havent even thought to entertain #also she and my best friend have semi seriously decided on living together in the future as platonic forever housemates #and generally making the found family trope real #and i have been included (despite only ever meeting this other woman once in my life) #theyre calling it the mommune #which makes me laugh so much #but i just. i think that sounds like such a full life. what a life overflowing with love and companionship #also on the practical side of things: its the only way any of us are ever affording a house #we gotta become a 4/5 incomes 1 or 2 kid household

[artemisarticles]

[sronti]

Sokkal több hasonló ötletre és ezek gyorsabb terjedésére lenne szükség.

[thatsonemorbidcorvid]

When Kristin Batykefer fell ill with a headache, sore throat and body aches, the other women in her house baked her cookies, served her homemade vegetable soup and took her four-year-old daughter to the park so she could rest.

“Support system like no other,” Batykefer, 33, wrote on a TikTok post that has since been viewed more than one million times. “Shoulda moved into a mommune a long time ago.”

Batykefer had no idea that her video — and the concept of mommunes, a group of single mothers sharing a house, bills, childcare and support, seen in the US for the past decade or so — would go viral. When last year she split from her husband and lost her job, an old family friend with grown-up children invited her to move into her house in Jacksonville, Florida, while she found her feet. Then Batykefer was contacted by an old college roommate, Tessa Gilder, 32, who was also going through a divorce, with two children, aged five and one. “Tessa was, like, ‘I can’t do it any more.’ I said, ‘Come here. You’ll be welcomed with open arms.’ Originally our plan was we’d get our own place together, but once she arrived we became like a little family unit and it’s just awesome. Our friends said, ‘Stay as long as you guys want.’ ”

The 1960s and 1970s saw the rise of communes where like-minded souls joined together to raise families in capitalism-defying self-sufficiency. In a 21st-century version, more and more women are channelling the age-old spirit of sisterhood to establish mommunes, to tackle the ever-rising cost of living and everyday motherhood grind. “We just help each other out,” Batykefer explains over Zoom. “It’s not ‘You do the dishes, I’ll take out the trash,’ it’s more when we see something needs to be done we just do it. As a mother that’s just what your instincts are. It’s so nice having three minds in a house thinking like that.”

Indeed, as the thousands of comments on Batykefer’s posts make clear, many women in relationships — even happy ones — are envious of her mommune’s roll-up-your-sleeves environment. “There are some comments saying, ‘My husband does all this for me,’ but about 95 per cent say, ‘Wow, how do I get part of this?’ So many are from married women asking, ‘Where do I drop my husband off? I’m joining!’ ” Batykefer says, laughing. “It resonates because there are so many what we call ‘single married women’ out there who are not getting the kind of help with the physical, mental and emotional labour of being a parent that we have. I definitely didn’t get this support in my marriage, it all fell on me. If I was sick, I still had to cook for us and make sure my daughter was fed and taken care of and entertained.”

Batykefer, who before her break-up was documenting on TikTok her family’s itinerant life on a renovated bus, is also revelling in living in an environment free of marital bickering. “Whenever I would be driving our bus when I was married, it was such a stressful, anxiety-inducing experience because of the negative energy, but I’ve just been on a bus trip with a girlfriend, driving the whole time, and it was so peaceful and amazing.”

There are 2.5 million single-mother families in the UK, according to the Office for National Statistics, a figure that has more than tripled since the 1970s, as the stigma about divorce has decreased and women have gained more financial independence. But several international studies show that single mothers are at greater risk of physical and mental health disorders compared with their married counterparts, mainly as a result of lack of support — with many women living far away from their extended families.

Financial stresses can also be overwhelming, with a recent marked rise in lone-parent families using food banks or relying on benefits. A report last month by the Institute for Fiscal Studies showed that half of such families are now living in relative poverty.

While there are no official, large-scale mommunes in the UK or US, many single mothers are turning to local mommune groups on platforms such as Facebook (the London branch has 700-plus members) to find others to team up with.

Sara Memba, 34, a restaurant worker from Barcelona who has a one-year-old son, is sharing a house with a friend with four children aged between one and eleven in south London after finding that landlords were reluctant to have her as a tenant. “Many don’t trust single mothers to pay the rent on their own or they think your kid is going to destroy their house,” she says. Memba loves her situation. “We can go to work knowing our children are well cared for and it’s great to find a person with whom to talk and share concerns, joys and different, sometimes contradictory, emotions. It’s fun for the children too — they have more playmates and adventures.”

In an ideal world she’d love to see flats built specifically for single mothers. “There’d be common areas and spaces adapted for children to facilitate socialisation between neighbours. It would make a very difficult experience so much easier.”

The author Janet Hoggarth, from East Dulwich, south London — whose latest novel is Us Two — struggled after her divorce from her husband of 11 years, when she was left to bring up her three children, aged five, three and one. When she discovered that her friend Vicki Hillman, who had a newborn, had split from her fiancé, she invited her to move into her attic bedroom. Another single mother of two who lived around the corner frequently joined them in the evenings and stayed at weekends.

“I was feeling utterly bereft. I was navigating a divorce that took ages while juggling the kids and we were all feeling quite traumatised. It was so nice to have another adult there who knew how you felt, who could help me fill out forms, talk to lawyers and bounce ideas off. Plus, when the kids are in bed at night and you’re rolling around the house alone, you have company, which was such a relief because most of my contemporaries were busy with their own families. It stopped my constant feeling of a racing heart and feeling sick in my stomach. It was like a weird miracle drug.”

After two years Hillman moved out because she wanted a bedroom for her daughter but the women are still close friends. “We rubbed along really well without any bitchiness. It was very reassuring, like being in a family, just a different version of it. It really did stop me feeling broken. There’s definitely a different energy in an all-mothers house — there’s no weird bouncing of egos and someone expecting a medal for having wiped down the sides or polishing their halo because they’ve taken the bins out. Everyone just gets on.”

Not all mommunes are so successful. Elizabeth (surname withheld), 34, tried briefly sharing a flat with an old friend in Liverpool, when both had baby daughters. “We thought it would be perfect, but even though we got along well, our babies’ sleeping schedules were completely incompatible, which made it impossible for them to do anything together. I had no child support and had to work crazy hours with a long commute and my baby in a nursery, while she had a generous settlement from her ex and didn’t work. The imbalance made life so much more stressful than it would have been living alone. I felt guilty I couldn’t be around to do more babysitting. I still think mommunes are a brilliant idea, not least because being a single mum is so horribly expensive, but just as with any housemate, you have to find the right person.”

Victoria Benson, chief executive of Gingerbread, a charity for single-parent families that offers local networks for single parents to connect, agrees that mommunes are one “creative solution to a big problem. But we need to see a better welfare system, an increase in flexible work, and more affordable and available childcare that works for all single-parent families.”

Batykefer’s mommune keeps on giving, as demonstrated by the TikToks of her and Gilder enjoying concerts, karaoke and home-spa days together on weekends when their children are with their fathers. Now they’re in discussions about filming a reality show about their set-up, with the hope of bringing in more income but also inspiring more mommunes.

“I just fell into this but it’s such an obvious idea,” Batykefer says. “Women have always helped women. Let’s make it even easier for them.”

[bighominiglo]

Men who complain about the population birth rate declining are the worst kind. You wanna fix it? Let's give single mothers UBI, make sperm donations free for anyone who wants to be a mother, step up in your own role as father for early child rearing, or pay for women to live without you in mommunes.

Of course they hate all of these options because they all respect women's agency without making us give up our freedoms and become dependent on them. Because it's not about population worries, it's about controlling us and our reproductive rights.

#radfem #feminism #radblr #population

[fivestrandbraid]

I’m only having children if I can live in a mommune

[mommunity]

A baby food chart is a guide that provides information on what and how much solid food to introduce to a baby at different stages of their development.

#Mommunity #BabyFoodChart #BabyFood #Baby’sGrowthandDevelopment

[queenofsquids]

I enjoyed my bestie living with us this summer. She moved out a couple months ago when I finally introduced her to my other bestie (who is going through a divorce too) and they hit it off and decided to be roommates and rent a house together.

I'm so happy how that turned out.

Girl networking is the best.

Our group chat is named the Mommune. The amount of babysitting and task sharing going on in there is just. So helpful.

It's a far cry from raising R for several years in Colorado with no one living nearby.

[german-milfs]

mommunism is when there is a hot m.i.l.f. winning all the elections under a single-party state[1].

#myPosts

[daebelly]

Mommune

Mom commune, 4+ preg people living together,

Big tummy ensues >:3

love this concept

i did have a similar-ish one of like... little social clique of hyperpreg people

[isaidquirky]

it turns out that when a child taps your leg to say hello in the elevator, you immediately turn into lottie matthews. this is our baby now. mommunism is the only way.

[sronti]

Ez eddig elég szerény. A UC housing element újragondolása, például elsőre nagyon hiányzik, meg amit még nagyon szeretnék, az affordable coop jellegű házak fiataloknak és akár lehetne mommune-okat is támogatni. A fiatalok és az egyszülős háztartások a legnagyobb vesztesei ennek a helyzetnek, nekik célzott segítségre lenne szükségük.