#I adore my friends

[feedmeluck]

shes everything kind, shes the deer you see in the woods and makes you think you're fundamentally different now, that something changed in you when she blinked so slow, shes the fresh dew in the morning when you were 7 and everything seemed to be okay, shes the sunrise and the sunset because you can't have one without the other, shes soft lighting in your new apartment because its yours and you get to make it yours, shes that field you pass by during your family's bi-annual road trip each summer filled with tall flowers and even taller grass, shes all things good and simple yet so complicated.

#platonic love #i adore my friends #close friends #platonic soulmates #friendship

[nametakensff]

Autism rant under the cut

Unmasking autism is really fucking difficult. Telling people they can't just spring things on me the day before, asserting my boundaries and saying I don't want to go to things and I don't need an excuse to not go is literally met with the exact same 'don't be difficult/selfish/antisocial' shit I got BEFORE I was diagnosed with a literal fucking disability

It's like neurotypical society is built on misery and obligation. Like why should I have to care about making a person feel bad by pulling out of an event I agreed to under circumstances that have now changed, when they don't give a fuck about how uncomfortable I would feel by going?

I've sat through countless meals, a fucking terrible wedding this year, so many things just to make other people happy and waste my time and it's getting increasingly impossible to pretend that I give a fuck about these events

Why is it that at nearly the age of 29, a grown adult with supposedly all this autonomy and 2 confirmed developmental disorders, am I receiving even more push back?? Am I not my own person??

Sorry if I'm 'making everything about AuDHD' all the time. It is LITERALLY how my brain works!! It affects EVERYTHING I DO and it ALWAYS HAS. I have spent my ENTIRE LIFE trying to figure out why things are so hard for me and why other people don't struggle the way I do. Being 'high-functioning' just means that people feel comfortable gaslighting me about my own abilities, and expect me to continue to hurt myself for them because I can hide it. I can pretend to care, I can show up and smile and talk shit and do it fucking well, but why should I when I get home and sit and stare at a wall afterwards due to total fatigue and sensory overload??

It's like having an identity crisis. How much of me is the mask? Will everyone hate me once I stop masking? I'm not worried about my close friends or my sister one bit because I'm essentially unmasked around them already but everyone else??.....idk man. I almost wish I was less competent in social settings because it feels like people think I'm lying about my disability

#luckily my dad is trying to understand #he just said 'I just don't want you to become reclusive' #but I just need him to understand that going through a situation I know will not serve me in any way #from actual learned experience and not any kind of social anxiety deterring me #will feel much worse than being a recluse #I see the people I want when I want to see them #i adore my friends #but obligations with acquaintances and family bs??? I don't need to be there #if it helps just call me difficult to them. they all saw me growing up i'm already the oddball it's fine #anyway I just had to vent because I know half of you are on the spectrum anyway lmfao #nttalks

[journeytodrawiii]

It was recently my friend's birthday and I made her a painting. She's a very vibrant young woman, filled with passion and the need to live. She loves swords and all things Celtic, Norse and Greek mythology; so, I decided to her as a nymph type creature or perhaps as the lady of the lake. Mostly I drew her like this because of a photo I saw on Pinterest of someone standing in a murky lake holding a sword and I immediately thought of her. She's been with me through thick and thin, since my very first day at middle school and she'll be with me through to my very last day at high school. She's been there through the ups and downs, and I've been there for her. She's much stronger than people realise, and I feel she sometimes aches to let others know that she has seen and felt so much more than she lets on. But, I drew her with a peaceful look upon her face because I feel she really needs a good rest, real peace. We all could, but the way school challenges her is harsh. Yet, she pushes on, building herself a loving future day by day. I see her, and I admire her very much. Having her arms around me feels like home.

#friends are true gems #and the love of a friend is so much purer than that of a partner #they don't care how attractive you are on the outside #not one bit #they're just there for the very soul of you #I adore my friends #to the end #art #artwork #painting #acrylic painting #acrylic on canvas #novice painter #novice acrylic painter #portrait #happy birthday queen #art made with love #my art #my artwork #<333 #queer #yippie #look at her #she's so pretty #she's so precious #love her

[ravenquing]

Did some fanart of Vax and Keyleth based off my friends cosplays~ I actually kinda love how this one turned out.

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IMAGE DESCRIPTION:

Digital art of Keyleth of The Air Ashari and Vax'ildan from The Legend Of Vox Machina.

The linework for this piece was traced from a screenshot of the show and was slightly modified by the artist.

Keyleth is a short, slim woman of Elven descent with warm, light brown skin and long, straight dark ginger hair.

She has some freckles on her face and has short, pointy ears with two gold tattoos of vines around her green eyes.

On her head she wears a headpiece that resembles small antlers and a flower crown made of pink roses.

She also wears a two-toned green slim, sleeveless dress with some gold accents and a pair of matching two-toned green elbow length gloves that are fingerless.

On her outer, upper right arm is a golden tattoo that looks like some sort of hourglass - this tattoo is a simplified design of the Ashari symbol.

Keyleth is seen holding onto Vax'ildan, a man of Elven descent wearing dark clothes.

Vax'ildan is a tall and slim, fair white skinned man with light hazel eyes and long black hair that appears to fall slightly over his left shoulder.

Vax'ildan wears grey fur around, that sits around his shoulders, as well as many belts - one is a white leather belt with red eyes and a black snake tongue, though it's mostly cut off by the frame.

Vax'ildan has several moles, the most notable one being just next to his left eye.

Vax is wearing a miniature lapel pin of the Ashari symbol while he holds onto Keyleth.

Behind them is a dark background with a yellowy gold mist that grows more visible in the centre.

#i adore my friends #and i adore vaxleth #drew this while listening to my vaxleth playlist #otp: 'gosh you guys are good looking' 'we have nothing to lose. i love you' #critical role #cr #the legend of vox machina #tlovm #vax'ildan #keyleth of the air ashari #vaxleth #my art #cr fanart #tlovm fanart #lynias does an art

[daigah]

"Nice characters are boring" to YOU. I love characters who no matter what, will always have genuine love for humanity in their heart. Characters who dance and laugh and sing with sincerity. Characters who believe in others, and are willing to extend a helping hand to people when no one gave them the same luxury. Characters who have gone through so much but believe, no matter what, that humanity and life is something beautiful and worth protecting

#this is not to say i dont love fucked up characters. i DO. but i also adore characters full of love and whimsical joy #aang #<- this post was inspired by a convo i had with my friend about him #Clark kent #samwise gamgee #aragorn #tora olafsdotter #WHO IS WYL RAVENGAURD #izuku midoriya

[jennyyyeeettt]

Loudly greatful for my besties 😭💕

#Besties #Online besties #irl friends #life #Grateful #I adore my friends #May god bless them all

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[bluepandadraws-log]

Bisexual jester save me... save me bisexual jester...

#the amazing digital circus #tadc #tadc pomni #pomni #ragatha #gummigoo #buttonblossom #ragapom #funnygummy #my art #I mostly ship funnygummy as friends but the art is adorable

[circuscountdowns]

Request: Narinder playing with a ball of yarn?

#help him. #brought to u by my oldest friend narinder pencil whom I despise with great adoration. #cotl art

[naswoop]

The regicidal monochromatic time loop games are holding hands

#art #isat #in stars and time #slay the princess #stp #sasasa #start again start again start again #siffrin isat #narrator stp #Link to the Steam bundle page #I absolutely ADORE Slay the Princess #Back when it first came out my friend and I were both excitedly gushing about the game to one another #I'm looking forward to the pristine cut #....Siffrin ''bright one'' indeed. They stick out like a sore thumb in a dark forest

[feedmeluck]

I dont think im a good person but shes never lied to me before. so maybe i can let myself believe i am

#i adore my friends #close friends #besties #platonic love #shes a beautiful fairy

[hobiebrownismygod]

this is like my favorite pic from ATSV

LOOK AT HOBIES STUPID BUG EYES (affectionate) 😭 THEYRE SO BIG AND DUMB AND HE LOOKS SO SHOCKED THEY TAKE UP HIS WHOLE FACE THERES NO MASK LEFT

LOOK AT HOW MILES IS STANDING HE STANDS SO AWKWARD MY LITTLE AUTISTIC BABY BOY WITH ONE EYE BIGGER THAN THE OTHER HES SO ADORABLE

LOOK AT GWEN SHE LOOKS SO HAPPY TO SEE TWO PEOPLE SHE LOVES GETTING ALONG SHES SO SWEET HOW COULD ANYONE HATE HER 😭 😭

#Gwen haters can fuck off #She’s such a girl failure #I love her #She’s so adorable #i want her to be my best friend #atsv #across the spiderverse #hobie brown #miles morales #gwen stacy #spider gwen #spider punk #spiderman #across the spider verse #spiderman atsv

[adaodinson]

I’m shocked at the ability some people have of not being able to understand when they did or said something bad.

I don’t know if they just decide to ignore the responsibility or genuinely can’t see when they do something bad.

#i’m fucking pissed #this dude #who thinks he can make mysoginistic comments #and on top #thinks he’s spitting facts #and get no consequences #we’re two girls in a generation that has like 15 people #and he keeps on saying things that make it clear he’s dangerous #he’s the second oldest #he’s 8 years older than me #I’m 19 #and he thinks he can flirt with me #and thinks that making comments about my friend is funny #jesus shit bernie #I’m losing my shit #in genuinely so angry #but I have to say #I adore my friends #the other guys are so sweet and understanding #and I know that’s the bare minimum #but they’re amazing #mysogyny #sexism #I’m studying film making btw so I have tons of stories of y’all want to get mad

[curemi]

Cure Butterfly poses 🦋

#hirogaru sky precure #precure #pretty cure #cure butterfly #ageha hijiri #my art #ty for voting on the poll a few weeks back #drawing her dress was a ✌ nightmare ✌ #i scrapped some poses so my friend gave me this adorable idea of Tsubasa sleeping in her hood instead

[babyblueetbaemonster]

Mer vs Shroom

Never mess with master wizard of house Telvanni and their Mushroom Tower, ever.

fit my friend, @the-sunlit-earth's adorable Breton OC Brenna <3

#tes #skyrim #tel mithryn #talvas fathryon #neloth #brenna #my friend's adorable oc #tes oc #dovahkiin #oc: jokir #ldb #just in the background #tesblr #i draw a meme #THE mushroom post #i mean it's a level 3 meme #you need to know the tumblr post of mushroom. then the atla take of the shroom post. then my skyrim take of the atla take of the shroom pos #when you threaten the mushroom. the mushroom threat back #we discussed about the potential danger of breathing too many tower's spores and how everyone in house telvanni is crazy XD #i only found out years later after treating the word shroom as a cute shorten nickname of mushroom in every telvanni related post #the word shroom is the street names for psychedelic mushroom #i didn't mean to call all telvanni shroom-ple i'm sorry but not that sorry bc it's kinda funny

[stoneshipper]

when I first started self-shipping: maybe this character would like me back. we’re sorta dating. oh, and maybe I’d be friends with this character? they might find me annoying…

me now: this character would always have my back. we’re friends until the end of the line. multiple characters have unrequited crushes on me. my f/o has dedication to me like no one’s seen before. we’re madly in love. we’re best friends. we’re soulmates. it’s even deeper than that.

#it’s wild to see the growth in how I’ve selfshipped now #because reading some old s/i and lore docs I wrote out is so strange now #I use such hesitant language when it comes to how my f/os feel toward me - romantic and platonic #and now I’m more comfortable making my s/i adored by friends and romantic connections alike #self ship #self shipping #self ship positivity #self ship community #self shipping community