#FAILURE WIFE ALSO

[altschmerzes]

it's just that sometimes you're so... impossibly happy and full of so much incredible joy that you gotta post about it on the internet otherwise you may get on the roof with a bullhorn yknow.

#gav gab #FEELING VERY GOOD ABOUT MANY THINGS RN....... #I LOVE MY WIFE. MY WIFE LOVES ME. WE KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THAT MEANS AND IT BELONGS TO US. #other option is like... dropping the lonely island 'i just had sex' song into my friends' dms lsdkjfs #and they don't need me to be doing that LMAOOOO #it's not just the sex itself that's not even really the point #(though it's. very very good. and i have now learned some ALARMING stats about straight women in relationships) #(ladies if your husband/bf/partner won't take direction that is a failure on his part frankly) #it's like... idk #intimacy. trust. fun. security. safety. etc. all these things i already had with this wonderful person in my life #and being able to decide together what we want to do and what we want it to mean #building something that's just ours. a life a home a relationship etc. #for all that there's no like. blueprint for marrying someone In A Friend Way #and that can be anxiety inducing #(i felt like my heart was gonna pound out of my chest the first time i brought up maybe kissing my fiancee lskdjfs) #it also means we get to make all the rules #we get to make all of our decisions together in whatever way we want to make them and it means what we want it to #and i think that's one of the really wonderful things about like. qprs and committed platonic relationships etc #and it's something romantic relationships could benefit from too tbh #sex ment in tags

[mallgothed]

deeply funny 2 me that tommy shelby spends most of season 1 completely unaware that he's basically cucking his archnemesis

#like not exacty because grace isnt actually in a relationship with campbell #but he does see her as like a daughter/wife/paragon of virtue/extension of himself/etc #and her sleeping with tommy is seen by campbell as a betrayal but also as a failure on his part to protect her from Corruption #so its very hilarious that tommy completely undermines campbell's masculinity without even really meaning to #peaky blinders #tommy shelby

[chibinightowl]

Waiting is the worst part. Logically, Tim knows his husband is in the best possible place for the care he needs. But he's also behind doors that not even the name Wayne will open, waiting alone in a place that has caused him so much trauma in the past.

Well, perhaps not this particular hospital, but other medical centers and other medical professionals have all contributed to Jason's PTSD.

Tim can't even sit with him, hold his hand, and field questions so his husband doesn't have to. He can't tell the staff to speak up, that Jason is half deaf on one side and has damage on the other thanks to an accident years before. He can't give him a hug when he goes back for his scans and offer a smile when he returns.

What's worse, what's tearing Tim's guts up inside, is the guilt that he didn't listen when Jason first mentioned he wasn't well. Admittedly, they both thought the nausea was a side effect of the panic attack Jason suffered two days before. He'd spent the morning vomiting before a doctor appointment he couldn't put off any more. They chalked it up to anxiety and that it would pass once the visit was over.

The appointment might be over but the nausea remains. Chills and cold sweats have entered into the mix and Jason has spent the last couple of nights tossing restlessly in the living room where the floor is paneled rather than carpeted. It's not unusual for him to lie there--he runs warm to begin with and has said he enjoys a nap where the flooring is cool on his skin.

This morning when Tim woke up, Jason was still there, whimpering and restless. His eyes cracked open when Tim sat down in the armchair with his coffee. "Babe, I don't feel good," he'd said.

"I know," Tim had soothed. "When did you last take your nausea meds?"

They both know what a vicious cycle Jason's brain can get stuck in, how his body reacts to stressors and how in turn he'll fixate when there's nothing actually wrong. Many a virtual doctor visit has been had for exactly that.

But today, tears welled up in Jason's eyes when Tim brushed him aside. "I took them already," he'd said. "Nothing is working. I can't eat. I can't drink. I'm cold and hot and I fucking hurt. I know this shit is all probably in my head but I want to see a doctor and have them tell me that to my face."

Tim remembers all too well how he'd felt like he was humoring his husband when he snagged his tablet to look for the closest urgent care clinic. It's at the clinic where the PA prods Jason's abdomen and he curls up tight against the pressure.

"I think you might have appendicitis," she'd said and sent them on their merry way to the ER.

The whole drive, Tim felt like a damned tool. He's had appendicitis himself, he knows the symptoms, and has even gone through the surgery. How did he miss this?

At a stop light, Jason had placed a clammy hand over Tim's. "Don't beat yourself up over it, babe."

"I should have known..."

"You should have known shit--your symptoms were different."

This is true but is beside the point. "I'll stay with you," he says in a rush. "For as long as I can."

It ends up not being for very long. So here Tim sits in the cafeteria, nursing a cup of coffee and fucking around on his phone. Jason's maybe 500 feet away in a triage staging area, but it feels like miles. He has an IV for fluids and has been given medication for pain and the nausea. He's NPO in case he'll need surgery.

All of these things Tim knows from his own experience earlier in the year. He'd done it all by himself because Jason's PTSD wouldn't allow him to even set foot in the ER. He'd tried, oh had he tried, but Tim told him it would be okay, that he'd keep in touch by text and to keep his phone on him.

Jason might be able to walk in here now but he shouldn't be alone. But the ER is crowded and there are no extra seats in triage for guests. Jason had squeezed Tim's hand when the nurse told him he needed to wait elsewhere.

"Keep your phone on you, babe."

"I won't put it down."

And so he waits, gnawing on his guilt and feeling like the worst person ever.

#chibinightowl writes #jaytim #holy personal experiences Batman #I wrote a fic a few years ago #that was also Tim and Jason and unknown health issues #and dick was in it too and there was pie #whatever that fic is titled consider this a sequel #I feel like such a failure as a wife right now #maybe I'll delete this later #but for now it's keep me distracted while I sit here and wait

[babeygirlbuckley]

kinda tired of all these parent redemption arcs tbh. give chimney a gun

#911 spoilers #hey dont mind me im just casually popping in 👋🏼 #but yeah anyway #eddie and ramon last season felt natural/organic but buck and chim in this one felt kinda forced #like im sorry but didnt the buckleys stop going to therapy with him? #youre gonna tell me that 30 years of emotional neglect has been resolved?? like. no lol #the ending was sweet but also. idk. contrived? that might not be the right word #and CHIMNEY #i have NEVER seen mr. han smile. not once. he was cold/distant with albert too but now all of a sudden theres a baby named after his dead #dead first wife and hes sitting on the floor playing?? making faces?? pop pop is funny??? #it just doesnt seem realistic to me. like at all #plus everyone else putting the pressure on chim to reach out and fix things is bullshit #hen was so against him meeting with tatiana again. i feel like she was way too nice about it last ep #yeah its fine to encourage a talk for chim to get everything off his chest but like if it was me? if this was my friend? #idk maybe im a bad person but i wouldve used harsher language than that lol #'maybe its about what you need to say' turns into 'call him out! confront him! let him see what hes done to you! make him take responsibili #*responsibility!' #also didnt like that he wound up having the talk with his stepmom instead of the party actually involved #and maybe im remembering wrong but didnt his first marriage end bc his wife died?? he considers that a personal failure? #ANYWAY #all this to say: it is not the children's responsibility to reach out and reconcile with their parents. stop trying to make chim feel bad f #for being kinda aloof with the guy who literally abandoned him in a foreign country #god my thumbs hurt. im not used to this #chimney my beloved 💖 #i think thats the tag. its been a while

[muu-kun]

"I've been.. thinking on all the day, and.. I've made my pick to be going forward with.. socially transitioning into being a woman Muu."

#which means I have more icons to make smh #but also a more in depth blurb on how main of a verse this will apply to #and of the entire motivations of what would led him to this point and where exactly his desires fall #in regards to socially transitioning versus medically transitioning and whatnot #as well as what gender means to him and how his relationship towards it impacted his life enough go get to this route #such as how his continuous failures as a man attempting to socialize with other men became so lonesome and traumatizing #that becoming a woman ultimately serves as a last resort in hoping having the opportunity to feel like a person and not a contaminant #and how outside of the home muu would then need to migrate to she and her pronouns exclusively #and maybe any pronouns inside the home shared solely with his wife as his dynamic with her is the only one #in which he never has a doubt in his mind that he is loved by her unconditionally

[silverselfshippingchaos]

it's literally them

#ignore my five minute scribbles but. it is very much the key wives #ash rambles 💚 #also I forgot ash's armor but shhh. her design is pretty cool (if i do say so herself) #the main attraction is her long red coat! her and her best friend (eventually wife) are the red/blue couple #she really loves her coat! it was a gift from her adoptive dad! e.raqus! #in her first appearance she only wears one glove on her right hand #but she gets some very nasty burns on her hands while trying to save her best friend #(she fails. it really fucks her up. losing her bffs and her dad for a decade. shes all alone.) #so she has black bandages on her hands in all her appearances after b.irth b.y s.leep #it's not that the wounds havent healed—it's that she doesnt want to be reminded of how weak she is. how much of a failure she is #just a pathetic little girl who didnt deserve her title of Master anymore. she's very sad for that decade. it's bad. #eventually when she does reunite with her best friend shes scared to take the bandages off. a.qua shouldnt have to see that side of her... #a.qua tells her that theyve been best friends since they were kids. theres nothing to hide. #it's not until a.qua sees those hand scars that they begin to date. theyre childhood sweethearts! theyre very cute together!!! so gay!! #i love her sooo much! theyve got a lot of baggage with a.qua being trapped in the Realm of Darkness for a decade and Ash being all alone and #struggling with a horrible case of survivor's guilt but. they make it work. they always have ever since they were little kids. #i really like my k.h s/i!!! hope you like her too hehe! also her k.eyblade is green and red and silver and named Starfire #but yeah. red/blue couples for the win! especially when theyre a.qua/ash- #a.qua gets down on one knee a couple yrs after k.h3 and they get married a wee bit after that #their kiddo is super cool too! name is violet (she/they) and they're the coolest key kid on the block hehe! #anyways yeah. good morning-

[freebooter4ever]

The tech guys are hanging out in my office again and chatting about $10,000 week long vacations like this is normal.

#Journal shit #Ah yes the life i gave up to be a grunt 3D generalist working on the lowest of the low entertainment \o/ #A lot of my friends here get mad at my dad for not being supportive #And i myself get frustrated at him for being insulting about my general life failure #But like....he has a point #I dont think he needed to treat me like yesterdays trash over it but #He was right i probably should have taken a programming job #But poor dad he got saddled with a child who is stubborn and tragically not financially motivated like at all #I mean he is the exact same damn way i feel like my dad forgets that it was just me and him for four years there #I saw how he lived without certain influences and he did not give a crap about status or money or fancy things #It wasnt until the rich bitch came along and started making him like...update his furniture every few years because *style* #and making him buy new designer coats every year so he doesn't embarrass himself in front of the other volleyball parents #Im just saying prior to the introduction of Steves Wife to our family these things just didnt exist to us #It does greatly entertain me that Steves Wife is not allowed to come to the ohio farm because everybody agreed that she just... #Could Not Handle The Poor #Anyway thats my dads idea of a vacation going to visit grandma on the farm this summer #And two guesses he and grandma will just sit around reading and doing puzzles and watching tennis #Pretty much exactly what i did when i went on vacation to visit her #I want to ask my dad if you think i am a failure what do you think of yourself i am exactly fucking like you for better or worse #Well i mean except i also did a lot of drawing of hockey players and grandma would lean over my shoulder #Saying things like *he looks like a nice young man* #yes grandma and he also racks up the penalty minutes like you wouldnt believe

[kxllerblond]

not relevant since she's an npc and also dead (rip) but the more i really think about it in passing the more im positive Lisa (clark's mom) was comp-hetting it thru life and was actually a lesbian the whole time and didn't really realize it until after she had clark.

#ig havin a demon baby and getting cold water splashed in the face that the supernatural world exists can do wonders for ur sexuality journey #i wont think too hard on it cuz it makes me sad that she never found a long term wife #and how it was probably because she kind of had it worse than clark #in the sense she needed a /mortal/ partner but also #needed someone to be able to share clark and that freaky part of her life with and she just never managed to find someone that #fit that. MAAAAN the Thompson's out here batting 2-2 in terms of failure loser but really hot queers #with super bad luck with their love lives

[worm-wood-words]

Too tired to write but also can't stop The Scenes™ from playing out in my mind.

#bits about Arvel's healing magic and also the man in the bar healing Kahn's broken bones #i mean it's not perfect and it's painful for both the man and Kahn for different reasons but it does work in the end #also just sort of trying to flesh out the healing magic in my head. for most people who have it (mostly loethan) it's close #range or on touch. depending on the person it might hurt or drain the caster too and they might have to be able to see #the specific injury or at least where it is (such as when the man in the bar has to cut into Kahn's leg and arm to see his bones) #it almost never works on nerve damage. never on organs except maybe internal bleeding or injuries so severe the organs are #exposed. (basically just trying to say it won't heal organ failure). so it's pretty much best for broken bones and cuts. works better the #more recent the injury was. technically has the ability to regrow limbs but that's most likely never shown. (torn between whether #or not veren gets his arm regrown or a prosthetic. probably prosthetic since he lost it years ago) #doesn't work on illnesses or poisoning or stuff like that. that's still the domain of alchemists. also since on the areas it shuts #does. I'm not retyping that. on the areas it does heal its just rapid cell regrowth which most of the time is fine. but then there's #Arvel. who can do it both on touch and at range and uses the whole rapid cell growth thing as a method of torture. add the whole #light minions thing and the fact that his abilities include a rapid healing factor on himself (and that unlike a lot of people #his abilities work rapidly on others and he can easily get over any drain it has on him) #and yeah it's understandable why Len loses the first fight and why a lot of people don't stand up to him much. even his wife who doesn't #have powers at all ends up progressively more afraid of him. like the only way to possibly wound him in a meaningful way is to get the #drop on him and find some way to inflict severe damage on a vital spot and keep whatever you used to do that inside of him long enough #for him to eventually not be able to heal around it anymore. i don't know just thinking about how he's such a twisting of typically 'good #guy' powers. like his main things are light and healing he should be the hero or like high up supporting cast but nope he's just #trying to subjugate everyone and rule the whole damn continent because of a might makes right ethos and the fact that he does #certainly have might on his side #maggot original

[bumblingbabooshka]

An Argument with Love

#voyager ensign au #this is an au in which T'Pel is the ship's second doctor (assists the EMH) and also ex-Maquis #T'Pel has suggested that they get married and Tuvok declined #in this au of course they have different fiancees who are both absent #and since they're both still ensign-aged they haven't met them before - but Tuvok has a photograph of his potential wife in his room #which T'Pel Noticed #Tuvok and T'Pel clash a bit in the beginning because he was a spy and she's Maquis and he doesn't see the logic of that #I think they have a lot of debates which grow longer and less volatile as the months wear on - until they realize they like each other. #VERY much. #Tuvok doesn't really love his fiancee in this au - he's met her like twice (and she isn't T'Pel) #he just doesn't want to be seen as a failure or less Vulcan #T'Pel gave up on getting married a long time ago (since she joined the Maquis) since she knew her spouse would break off their engagement #Tuvok is wearing makeup bc there's literally nothing else I can do to show he's not the same age as he is in canon #No worries though...they DO get together of course <3 #T'Pel cuts her hair and everyone's like o hfuck they ABSOLUTELY broke up #but when some brave soul asks (Neelix) she says that they just got married #it was a private ceremony~ (Janeway is screaming) #Tuvok #T'Pel #Tuvok/T'Pel #comix #bea art tag #Tuvok art #T'Pel art

[embalmerandphotographer]

gamers i know this sounds like a long shot, but i have this theory that ada might be orpheus and alice’s daughter

#identity v #the themes of ada and emil’s story… #ada’s whole body of work and the implication that she’s faked her name #the way it would paralell emma and leo to have ada dealing w nightmare #AND ​the issues of parentage and lies and failure in the og game group #the girl in the photograph actually has brown hair #and i keep looking at ada’s hairstyle and also her beta designs (which looked waaay more like alice tbh) #also listen… her whistle. her WHISTLE why was it a whistle when the flute is SO central to the meta narrative #emil’s memory problems are so similar to orpheus’s and if ada wanted to figure out how to save her parents (or at least her dad) #he WOULD make the perfect candidate for her tests #also like… alice’s child version is NAMED memory and ada’s life’s work is to BRING BACK memories just saying! #this is of course me assuming that alice deross is the actual person memory is based on- #-and that alice was orpheus’s wife or at least that they had a child together at some point #i also think it’s possible that alice isn’t dead she’s just also trapped in the manor and that’s who ms nightingale is under the mask #i very well could be wrong! but it’s my pet theory #⚰️

[medievalwife]

up late reading the ikessar falcon (sequel to the wolf of oren-yaro) i love this series sm i feel like i’m falling in love with fantasy again 🩷

#the series is really blowing my mind like at its core it’s classic high fantasy with typical scenes of combat and political intrigue #but then it also expands on the protagonists role as a queen and mother and wife and warrior human being #*and human being #in a way that a lot of fantasy books don’t? she’s also unconventional in so many ways and honestly a girl failure 😭 #i love her and the series sm i already know im going to want to eat glass when i finish the series

[lakewood-plaza-bimbo]

chickening out of attending the local fiber arts group like the scared little bitch of an asshole i am

#anxiety #FAILURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #fiber arts :( #i was almost gonna force myself to go i really was its one bus away but then i learn my wifes coworker tested positive and now im like fuck #has my throat been sore all day or is it new i cant tell who knows #wifes negative but what if the test is wrong what if i got it and she didn't somehow (i am immunocompromised) #(and also under some kind of curse tbh)

[palipunk]

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[taahko]

MARCILLE: So I was wondering...what kind of person is your wife?

ESPRIT DE CORPS (Easy: Success): She'll never be satisfied with bare minimum answers. She wants to know more about you, to connect with you on a genuine interpersonal level.

LOGIC (Easy: Failure): This is obviously not what you want. You are an impenetrable fortress of solitude, and she should respect that.

PAIN THRESHOLD: Also, it's an embarrassing subject.

AUTHORITY (Medium: Success): Well fuck that- Chilchuck Tims does NOT get embarrassed, especially not in front of a mere Wöman. You absolutely cannot tell her the real truth about your marriage and how it ended. It would harm your professional reputation. You've got to redirect this line of questioning.

1. "I'd rather not talk about my personal life on the clock."

2. [Drama- Legendary 14] "What about YOUR love life, Marcille? Have you met any cute boys lately? Tell me about all the cute BOYS you're into, Marcille."

3. Simply ignore her question and hope she doesn't ask it again.

4. [Suggestion- Challenging 12] Lie convincingly about a less embarrassing situation than your wife leaving you and moving in with your daughter. It's very important that whatever lie you come up with is less interesting than the real story, and puts you in a good light to protect your reputation and maintain your professionalism.

CHECK FAILURE!

You:

#shut up aggie #dungeon meshi #chilchuck tims

[gorotic]

love being a bit stupid and playing sudoku having no fucking idea how to play

#also playing solitaire after im done this. both online because i found a website #i could be someones loser failure wife losing at sudoku but i cant feel a thing