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coolkoalameditation · 9 months

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What Are the Most Common Behavioral Disorders in Children?

The most common behavioral disorders in children are:

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).

ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects children's ability to pay attention, control their impulses, and be still. Symptoms of ADHD can include fidgeting, talking excessively, difficulty staying on task, and being easily distracted.

ADHD is often treated with meditation, therapy, or both. Medication can help to improve attention and focus, while therapy can help children learn how to manage their symptoms and develop coping skills.

Check out Guided Bedtime Meditations for Children with ADHD and Anxiety

Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD).

ODD is a behavioral disorder characterized by a persistent pattern of uncooperative, defiant, and hostile behavior towards authority figures. Children with ODD may often argue with adults, refuse to follow the rules, and deliberately annoy others.

ODD is often treated with behavioral therapy. This type of therapy helps children learn how to control their behavior and develop better coping skills.

Conduct disorder (CD).

CD is a more serious behavioral disorder than ODD. Children with CD often engage in aggressive, destructive, or criminal behavior. They may start fights, steal, vandalize property, or hurt others.

The CD is often treated with medication, therapy, and behavior modification. Medication can help to reduce aggression and impulsive behavior, while therapy can help children learn how to manage their emotions and develop better social skills.

Autism spectrum disorder (ASD).

ASD is a developmental disorder that affects a child's communication and social skills. Children with ASD may have difficulty understanding and responding to social cues and may have restricted interests and repetitive behaviors.

ASD is often treated with early intervention services, education, and therapy. Early intervention services can help children develop their communication and social skills. In contrast, education and therapy can help them learn how to cope with their challenges and live a fulfilling life.

These are just some of the most common behavioral disorders in children. Many other behavioral disorders exist, and each child will experience symptoms differently. If you are concerned that your child may have a behavioral disorder, it is essential to talk to your doctor. They can help you assess your child's symptoms and make a diagnosis.

Early diagnosis and treatment can help to improve your child's quality of life. For better and traditional treatments introducing a bedtime meditation like Cool Koala can be a game changer.

Read More: Sweet Dreams: A Mom's Guide to Solving Bedtime Behavior Problems

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audiovisualrecall · 7 days

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And now ma is in a Mood

#ages ago they booked a rental for everyone to come to the cape in July and now shes worried that my sisters will kill each other #and I'm like they will barely have to spend any time together just a dinner together once or twice maybe and not start a fire #at bedtime! thats all! most of the time we will break up into our own little groups to do activities #she wont have to spend her vacation dealing with their explosions #seriously me and steph and her hubby will go do some kayaking and me and steph will go bikeriding and the bro in laws can chill on the porch #oldest sister can hang with parentals on the beach or can go touristy stuff w her crew #ma and dad can hang with any of us or at their house there and we can come over in various groupings #bro in law can go take nephew to go-karts or oldest sistsr can #i can hang with parentals or on the beach or any groupings of us can go for a walk any time #lunch can be separate as long as we communicate and no one is left lunchless #dinners the same. like we dont Have to do Everything as a whole big group every single day we're there yknow?#but shes unhappy shes annoyed with the two of them but imo it was mostly oldest sister and bro in law #like steph over-reacted once time in a bigger way that was annoying yes. but that could have been allowed to be moved on from #but oldest sister was apparently Too annoyed by it??? and by steph's complaining in general abt small things?? idek #like steph moved on from whayever made her react and have a mini meltdown. but #oldest sister sees Any reactiveness or mini meltdowns from steph as her Not Trying and loses patience #meanwhile i can see the difference like steph has made a lot of progress that i can see #and part of that is she understands WHY she reacts now bc she realized shes adhd and that reactiveness is part of that #like its not something shes deliberately doing wrong. its a way her brain is wired. and she can use methods and tips from her therapist to #manage her reactivity and process it and not react as badly?#like thats a big deal #and oldest sister doesnt care to see the difference and that hurts steph too (hello rsd i understand you)#somehow theyre both different with ME and my reactivity. bc I'm the youngest so 'baby sister' privileges idefk

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my-autism-adhd-blog · 9 months

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Hi! :) I was wondering if you have any info on autistic, ADHD, and/or AuDHD people adapting to change... specifically, I just watched a video from an autistic person who said that autistics can't help but meltdown when their fav. products get discontinued. I know some people commented that they learned to adapt a little more over time, but lots of autistic people agreed about that. I wonder if AuDHD people like the routine/same products, but when forced to change, they might be anxious, but still not mind trying out different things?

Hi there,

I found an article giving some tips on how to help with transitioning

Big Transitions

1. Have a Transition Day

After a vacation, schedule a transition day before going back to work. Use this day to ease yourself back into your normal life. Unpack, buy groceries, do your laundry, nap, etc.

If you are currently used to flying home at 10pm and getting up for work at 7am the next day, spending one of your vacation days as a transition day might feel like a ‘wasted’ day. However, it will help you feel organized and ahead of the game.

2. Use Checklists

Write checklists and use them! They guide you through all the actions you need to do without having to think too much. Have a ‘going on holiday‘ checklist and a ‘back from holiday’ checklist. On your last day at work, write a list of items you are working on. When you return, that list will allow you to dive right back in, rather than needing a day or 2 to figure everything out.

Small Transitions

3. Plan Your Day

Every evening, plan the next day. Then first thing in the morning look at your plan. This mentally prepares you for the events of the day and minimizes surprises.

4. Prepare

Before starting a task, gather everything you will need. This is helpful for 2 reasons:

Physically because you have everything at hand and don’t have to keep hunting for items,

Mentally because in order to prepare you have to think about the task and visualize the steps etc. This primes your brain for the task ahead and is the perfect transitional activity.

5. Buffer Time

Schedule at least 15 minutes in between appointments or activities. This gives you the chance to reflect on what you have just done and mentally prepare for the next task.

6. Structure

Create structures and routines so your body get used to doing things at certain times. For example, you can have a morning and a bedtime routine and do your weekly groceries at the same time. You might resist it at first; however, these habits make transitions almost effortless.

7. Countdown

Abruptly stopping an activity is difficult and jarring. Having a countdown is helpful as it gives you advanced warning that it’s time to wind down.

Set a timer to let you know when you have 15 minutes left then 5, and then zero.

If you have a tendency to hyperfocus, you might not hear the timer, which is where plan B comes in! Use the loudest alarm you have and put it in a place where you will have to physically get up to switch it off. Once you are up, it will be easier to move on to your next task.

8. Train the People in Your Life

Train the people in your life not to interrupt you. It is easier than it might seem.

Tell your family or co-workers that you are going to be working on X for the next 3 hours. Ask them if there is anything they need to tell you before you start. Then tell them what time you will be available again.

9. Getting into Gear Ritual

Sitting down to work on a task that involves focus and concentration can be the hardest thing for a person living with ADHD. It can cause a lot of resistance and procrastination.

The full article will be below if you want to read more

I hope this helps some. Thank you for the inbox. I hope you have a wonderful day/night. ♥️

#inbox #inbox reply #inbox is open

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spicedwatermel0n · 8 months

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if you're uncomfy doing this then please disregard this (your comfort is important to us ^^ please dont fret) but any hcs on... Sector V's parents??

Ohhhh boy... Chuckles

TW for death, abuse, neglect, transphobia, ableism, etc

Nigel's parents are the best by far. They don't always understand things but they try to! Monty is very supportive of Nigel being enby

Hoagies dad is dead. He died during a botched surgery when he was 6 and it's a very touchy subject for him because after his dad died, his grandma started hitting him and blaming him for it. His mom is admittedly better than some, but she does nothing about the abuse her oldest experiences because she's afraid of her own mother. She also denies that he's autistic and doesn't exactly act kindly towards his sexuality. She knew Wally before he transitioned so, because her mother does it, in an attempt to please her, she deadnames and misgenders him. She also drove the "boys don't cry" mentality into his head, which ended up making him able to cry in complete silence and only do it in private. All of his friends think he never cries, but he actually does it very frequently and very privately.

Kukis mom is narcissistic and doesn't want to get help for it, and her dad is overly emotional and will flip out and argue over very small, inconvenient things. If she asks her dad anything, even if it's just to go outside, she'll be met with an angry sigh that makes her feel awful. She tries to act happy and innocent all the time to protect herself from these things. She also knows how to cook, clean and repair things because her parents will neglect her and tell her to do things herself.

Wally's dad is everything you'd want from a dad, but is currently in a situation where he can't divorce because if he did, he'd become homeless. His mom isn't the worst per say, because she does have "good days"... But she manipulates her husband into going against their oldest and constantly denying facts. She believes her oldest is a psychopathic jerk who needs to be arrested (especially whenever he has autistic meltdowns). Sometimes she locks Joey's door if Wally shows he's angry because she believes he'd hurt his little brother (he would never do that and it upsets him that she thinks that). She sends him to boarding schools all the time over his inability to do work (caused by dyslexia, dyscalculia, and ADHD that she denies is there) and calls him lazy. She'll embarrass him in front of guests or his friends by mocking his inability to keep his room clean "because you're lazy" (he's actually depressed and it's kinda her fault). His dad will slip in and read him bedtime stories, hold him and sing to him to comfort him and try to assure him that once he can leave her, he will, and that he hopes he doesn't believe what she tells him. At the very least, both are supportive of him being trans (mostly because his mom wanted a boy anyways) and bisexual.

Abby's parents are definitely on a level that Nigel's parents are. They aren't flawless, though... They don't recognize how manipulative Cree is to her little sister and it's kinda taken a toll on Abby. They also deny she's autistic, by saying, "you're just a little weird, and that's okay!" which breaks her heart every time she hears it. She is expected to excel in school and it stresses her out so badly

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sunflower-kisses · 2 years

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A definitely cheeked his adhd medication yesterday after being told therapy wasn't his choice to make. When he came home he was not his normal self and was straight up obnoxious and all over the place. But he swore he took it. David will be sweeping his room later today.

L had an epic meltdown/freak out. Instant rage when she found out there were consequences for lying to David. This kid wiped her butt and threw the crap covered tp in the trash. Aiden saw it and told David. He asked she swore she didn't do it. Later I went up to help her brush her teeth. I asked if she knew anything about it and that's when she tried to act dumb but admitted it was her. I asked why she wasn't honest when we asked the 1st time and she tried the whole "I forgot I did it" thing. She "forgot" literally 2 minutes after it happened. So I told her since she lied and wasn't honest she could use the rest of time until bedtime to play but tablet time was up. She dropped to the ground and tried to beg. I told her no and she got up really aggressively, stomped onto the stool, grabbed her tooth brush and gave me a death glare.

I told her that's not appropriate and she could head down to sit at the table. At which point she looked like she was ready to stab me with the tooth brush so I took it. She stomped away screaming "I hate you" "you're the worst"and "it's not fair I have to live here with people like you". Then proceeded to sit at the table and push herself away from it because she didn't want to be there. 🙃🙃 David delt with her for the 1st bit. Then told her she wasn't leaving the table until she spoke to me properly.

I was starting to feel bad that my dad said he wanted them back and were slowly talking about the process of them going there. It's one of those things where it's going to happen, likely before my due date, but we haven't set it in motion or told the kids. I was starting to feel bad about it because they seemed like we were all back on track. And then shitv hits the fan all over again. And we're just tired. We don't have the energy for it. And when the baby comes things won't get better by them getting even less attention.

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magsstore2 · 3 months

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At its core, ADDitude champions informed and empowering content. Gone are the days of stigma and misunderstanding. This magazine delves into the complexities of ADHD with scientific accuracy, expert insights, and real-life stories. Parents find solace in practical strategies for managing meltdowns and nurturing positive behaviors. Adults with ADHD discover new pathways to productivity, organization, and self-compassion. The magazine tackles difficult topics like co-morbid conditions, medication choices, and societal barriers with empathy and nuance.

But ADDitude doesn't stop at information. It fosters a sense of belonging and shared experience. Its pages come alive with personal narratives, humorous anecdotes, and insightful reflections from individuals across the ADHD spectrum. Parents laugh together at bedtime routines gone awry, while young adults find validation in relatable stories about academic struggles and career triumphs. This shared vulnerability becomes a powerful tool for breaking down isolation and igniting hope.

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whitedatura · 1 year

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After 2 or 3 years of bringing up my concerns at her annual appointment, I finally made headway with the "please figure out what is going on with my daughter's behavior because I do not think this is typical" by scheduling an appointment solely for behavior/mental health.

Weirdly enough (/s), my instincts were correct and a 10 year old should not be having 2 hour long meltdowns over bedtime or putting away her 15 books and should be able to follow a routine to get herself ready in the morning/at night. I got brushed off at the annual appointments because she does well in school but at our follow up tomorrow I'm 99% sure she's going to get an ADHD diagnosis and hopefully some sort of medication to try, because none of the behavior/check-in systems we've tried at home have been effective for longer than a couple days and something has to give (preferably no one's sanity.)

I've been researching & watching Dr Barkley's webinars on the topic and my god I hope we at least make some headway because we cannot go on like this, please please let something help.

#personal

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hargrove-mayfields · 3 years

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I see Billy as v adhd so glad someone else sees it, but the character that gives be the biggest autism vibes is Jonathan

yes absolutely! have this bit of ramblin’ because I was just gonna talk about this and it turned into a whole thing!

Joyce always knew, always had the suspicion that her boy was special. From the way he didn’t start talking until after his baby brother did, and the way he walked around on his tip-toes, or only liked to be read the same bedtime story every night, but she could never do anything to get advice or help with him. Because Lonnie couldn’t stand even the suggestion that their son turned out like that, and she never had enough time or money or freedom of her own to do much about it besides as much research as she could at the library.

Jonathan recognized just as easily that he wasn’t like his peers, but only really because of the things his dad said about him. Joyce had tried her damndest to instill in him that he just did things his own way, but not even the words of a loving mother could entirely outweigh the hurt Lonnie did on purpose, and he keeps a lot of that nastiness with him.

Even after his mom divorces his dad, for the longest time he tries really hard to stifle everything about himself. His interests, his quirks, his emotions, anything that made him who he was, because he feels like they aren’t valid anymore.

It’s in that way that gets himself into a lot of meltdowns, but it gets so frustrating for him because they aren’t satisfying. There’s no outpouring of emotion to clear his head, no intensity to accommodate for the way he’s been bottling up these things, it’s just getting a little teary eyed and sensitive to his surroundings for a while. Because he’s deliberately trained himself not to have an outlet, it’s like there’s this perpetual feeling of discomfort, physically, mentally, emotionally, just itching under his skin.

What finally breaks the damn is Will. Of course he’d always heard the horrible words that were thrown around about his brother, the ones his mom taught him were dangerous and hurtful but that other people, even his friends, would use all the time, and really he’s just curious, wanting to know why they call Jonathan names when he’s the coolest, most supportive brother in the world.

It’s when he tries to explain to him that there’s just something different about him, a gift if he went with what their mother called it, a damnation if he he’d have asked Lonnie, that you couldn’t see or touch, but that people tried to use to hurt him anyways, that he just breaks, because of one simple question that his little brother asks in response.

Why?

Meaning, why did that mean they didn’t want to be his friend? Why did they hurt him because of something as silly as that? Why did anyone let them get away with that?

And the thing is, he doesn’t know. He never has. How can he even begin to explain the evilness that was out there in the world to innocent Will when he’s never been able to understand it either?

So he cries, and he shakes, and he rocks, and he lets everything he hadn’t let out for years pour out in that moment. It’s exhausting, it basically puts him at a mental standstill, but it’s good. And he starts to make the connection that, if he doesn’t hold it back, even though there will still always people who will be mean and unforgiving and call him mean words, he could make himself feel better if he didn’t cover it up.

That’s a realization that’s really important to both of the Byers boys, because maybe Jonathan can’t answer Will’s hardest questions, but he can tell him this; that if the other kids don’t want to be his friend, that just means the real ones were still out there waiting for him; if they tried to make fun of him, it was because they didn’t understand him, but he doesn’t need them to; that they may get away with it because he is different, but he’s also happy, and loved, and stronger than them regardless.

And when he finally hears the word autism, that key to what he’d been feeling, when the Wheelers’ little girl gets diagnosed, it’s freeing. It’s lifting that burden off of his shoulders of just being different, an outlier, an anomaly. He’s not what his father said about him and he’s more than just not normal. He is Jonathan Byers, and he is autistic.

#answered #strangebrainrot #jonathan byers #ej writer #scuse me for this little projection fest lol dont mind me #I actually usually find it really hard to write jon #i like him and wish the writers treated him much better because i wanna be more invested in him and struggle to #because like idk he just doesn’t get a lot of interesting storylines to me?#like I couldn’t care less about st3 with him taking pictures of rats while Nancy is being a girl boss #but yeah I’d say it’s likely he definitely is autistic #him and max and dustin and holly are like all canon autistic in my mind #sometimes i throw billy in there too just bc i know more abt autism than adhd and vibe with billy with sensory issues!#but i 100% agree #kinda funny that I’m posting this rn bc currently I have an anon sitting in my inbox calling me ableist for the b&m thing I posted yesterday

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judge-her-not · 6 years

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So far today I’ve called two different doctors to make appointments for myself and Poppy to be screened for ADD/ADHD. I’ve done so much reading recently on how it presents so differently in females than in males. Her anxiety and bedtime meltdowns. Telling me she wants to be happy but doesn’t know how. Telling me she can’t turn her brain off. Her sensory processing issues. And, of course, this led me down a rabbit hole of looking up symptoms in adult women and, well, here we are. So I did one of the things that makes me THE MOST ANXIOUS and called some doctors. My appointment is next week on the day I had initially scheduled my ten week pregnancy checkup. Instead of a baby, I’m getting some speed. Life, man.

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theworldoffostering · 7 years

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You are doing such a good job with your kids. They are very lucky to have such an involved parent who is so open and approachable. My siblings and I had a lot of emotional issues but had to suppress them living in an Eastern European home where feelings were taboo to show and especially talk about. I'm always so glad to see parents who encourage kids to express themselves.

Awww thanks anon!

DS is giving us a run for our money.

He did have a meltdown tonight, but not a full blown rage. He was pretty angry. He was able to tell us he needed food. We got that for him but he continued to fall apart. I think it’s the noise that gets to him (it bothers me too). You guys, the baby screams ALL the time. He’s not screaming because he’s crying, he’s screaming because he wants something or he’s frustrated or annoyed. Is this normal? I can’t remember in my continual state of too much stress and sleep deprivation. It is so stressful to listen to and just adds to the chaos in a small home with several young children.

After DS went to his room I brought his food into him and he said he wanted to be left alone. He was getting sassier and I was getting angry so I let him be and just continued on with dinner. It is critical that DH and I are calm when DS is raging or about to. At any rate, he came out of his room about ten minutes later asking if he could go outside and scream. We gave him other options looking for a compromise. I was a little nervous the neighbors would call the police if they heard him screaming in the yard. He agreed to go in the basement and screamed and stomped his feet. Then he came up and apologized for his earlier behavior and seemed okay afterwards. I said that I thought some quiet space would be good. He agreed and asked to play cards on the porch. DH played with him for twenty minutes and is putting him to bed now. Victory?

He raged at least three nights this week after having four or five days in a row where he didn’t.

He had fasting blood work done last week and we got the results yesterday. His cholesterol is high! He’s ten. What the what? His overall number is 218. Apparently that may be a daily from his abilify and antidepressant interacting?

We tried to get into see a new psych. Wait list is six months. Not sure what to do next but desperate to get him off the abilify. We moved his dose today from dinnertime to 12:30pm. Hoping maybe that will help since he seems to struggle most between after school and bedtime (4-7pm). He was taking it at night because it made him sleepy. Wondering if maybe all of his meds wear off by the afternoon (he takes the antidepressant and ADHD medications in the morning around 7am).

His current prescriber wants us to go back to the 5mg dose. We are very reluctant to do that. Thinking if we can’t manage this week we may try him at like 3 or 3.5mg but then we have to figure out how to cut the pill up accordingly. In addition to the high cholesterol, he's gained a good 15-20 pounds since November when he started the medication. He's always been tiny so that's a lot of weight for him. He's gained eight pounds alone since February. Sheesh! It would be so awesome to have a decent provider on board so we weren’t doing this alone. Google is awesome, but not as great as an actual doctor who will work with you and wants to see your kid be successful.

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coolkoalameditation · 10 months

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bpdsafespace · 7 years

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My story

I’m Julia

(personal blog, writing blog) and I have borderline personality disorder (BPD). I also have attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), major depression, and generalized anxiety disorder (GAD).

My journey with mental illness started in fifth grade, when I was diagnosed with ADHD. I’m not sure if ADHD classifies as a “mental illness,” but it was around this time that I realized I was different. I had a really tough time paying attention in class. I got caught up in my emotions a lot. I let little things bother me, and they’d bother me all day long. Though I fit a lot of the criteria for ADHD and still do believe it was a correct diagnosis, I also realized that there was something else there. Something else that ate at me. But I also thought mental illnesses and disorders were something to be ashamed of. I remember my mom forcing me to take my ADHD medication and me telling my pediatrician that adderall wasn’t doing anything for me. I was taking 20 mg of adderall at 10 years old (which, at 22, makes me wired) and saying it wasn’t doing anything so they’d take me off of it. I didn’t want to be different. I just wanted to be like everybody else. So I pretended I wasn’t dealing with anything. I shook it all off.

In ninth grade, my moods became unbearable. I remember screaming at my mom, telling her “there’s something wrong with my brain.” Crying and crying and crying. My room was a mess, I was falling behind in school, I had no friends, and all I did was wallow in my self-pity. I was always sad, it felt like. Nothing was getting better. This was the first time I saw a psychologist and a psychiatrist. They diagnosed me with major depression and GAD.

I hated therapy and I hated my therapist. I switched around, trying to find a facility that would let me see a psychiatrist and not a psychologist. I was taking 100 mg of Zoloft, an antidepressant that also helps with anxiety. I couldn’t tell if it was helping because some days I’d feel great, while others, I’d be spiraling out of control. I’d go from “I’m getting better!” to “Nothing is helping. Nothing will ever help. I will never get better.” One day, I stopped seeing a psychiatrist and taking my meds. Then I went through a break-up and went on them again. Then I went off of them.

Then, when I was 18, I fell into a really “amazing” relationship with a partner I loved with my whole heart and soul. I couldn’t be without him; even a minor separation made me feel it right in my bones: I felt abandoned, so alone. I relied on him for validation. I held his opinion on a pedestal. He was always right. If he didn’t like me, I had nothing. I did everything I could to please him, so much that I was never pleasing myself. But I thought he was the most amazing person in the entire world. It was worth it. Until he did something minor that made me feel rejected and I would go OFF on him. At times, I thought he was the worst person in the entire world. My feelings about him would switch back and forth between days, even hours, even seconds. He wouldn’t answer a text message. He’s leaving me. I would have breakdowns when he dropped me off before his friends because we didn’t have any alone time together. I would get so mad he was choosing them over me. He’d talk me out of killing myself all of the time, stay awake past his bedtime to make sure I was okay, but when he fell asleep, I would lose it. He doesn’t care about me. How can he just fall asleep? It didn’t register in my mind that he had to be up at 5 am and he was exhausted. I thought he didn’t care about me. I realized this was a example of “splitting.”

After researching BPD, I realized my now ex was my “favorite person” (FP). I depended on him for my happiness. He was the only thing that made me feel good some days. Having him made me feel like the luckiest person alive– when he validated me, I never felt better. When he called me beautiful, I felt on top of the world. Like nothing could bring me down. Everything was amazing. But being with him came with so much pain. When he didn’t choose me first every single time. When he cared for his friends or himself. And when we broke up, I lost it. I completely lost it. I was so suicidal. Constantly. He left me for someone else. I KNEW he was going to leave me. I was right all along! I should have listened to my gut. Nobody likes me. Nobody’s ever liked me. He never loved me. He is a horrible person for doing what he did. I hate him. I started going to therapy again. I was getting better.

But then I ran back to him because I loved him. But I hated him. But I loved him. But I hated him. Who was I without him? I needed him. I don’t need him; I don’t need anybody. I hate him. Don’t leave me again. This was around the time I self-diagnosed myself with BPD and started cutting. I ended up punching my ex in the face because he hung out with his ex-girlfriend without telling me. Not even hooking up or anything. He just hung out with her and it made me feel so rejected that I punched him in the face and told him to never talk to me again.

Then I started seeing another guy. He became my source of happiness. I started spending all of my time with him. I started neglecting my school work to go to the bar on weekdays just to spend time with him. We got in a fight over something stupid and I brought up my BPD. He just got more mad because he thought I was blaming everything on it and made a Facebook status about me without mentioning my name. I got so mad, I told everyone on Facebook he was a drug dealer, mentioning his name. I was in the middle of class. I ran out of class and started bawling in the stairwell. I was so upset, I called my parents. They thought I would kill myself if I drove myself home so they came and picked me up.

I went back to a psychiatrist and psychologist. I told them about my insane moods, how one tiny thing could send me into meltdown mode. How I once tried to swallow a whole bottle of pills because my parents wouldn’t let me go to my friend’s house. How I was cutting and thinking about suicide a lot. I was afraid for myself. And I was afraid for others. Nobody diagnosed me with BPD. I had to actually ask my psychiatrist about BPD before he said, “yeah… I could definitely see that…” and put me on an antipsychotic (Risperdal, 1 mg then .5 mg), as well as Wellbutrin (75 mg twice a day, then 150 mg once a day) for depression.

Today, I no longer take Rispersal (it made me feel way too lifeless) or Wellbutrin (it didn’t do anything) and I am currently not seeing a psychiatrist. Unfortunately, my copay is $65 and I don’t have the kind of money to search for someone who is going to be good for me. I’m not in a very good place these days, so I made this blog to cope. Please share your stories. I’d love to learn about you, relate to you, and answer your questions about BPD.

#read more

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lindelwamamba · 4 years

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Covid-19 has brought significant changes to our daily living, alterations of which are very uncomfortable for many human beings, especially to this magnitude. Thankfully, you and I are amongst a majority of the population, blessed at the very least with the basic yet integral capacity, to maneuver such challenges, perhaps not with absolute coolness, yet we nonetheless maneuver. Because we are generally fully functional, our ability allows us the possibility to adapt to survive: shopping once a week as opposed to every other day, video calling loved ones instead of informal gatherings, texting and calling beloveds as an expression of utter warmth, in lieu of regular visits trademarked by tickles and hugs. All to make it to the next day, week, and beyond. Adaptability.

And yet, for all our supposed challenges in this world today, I imagine our realities are incomparable to the permanence of individuals diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and related special needs such as Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD), whose linear logical capacity is severely compromised, or whose “common sense”, as referred to by the ordinary man, does not resemble that which we can relate to.

Restricted, repetitive behavioral patterns often manifested as insistence on sameness, inflexible adherence to routines, and or ritualized patterns of behavior are among the defining features of Autism Spectrum Disorders (American Psychiatric Association, 2013), whilst children with Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD) tend to suffer from difficulties with completion of activities, short attention spans, careless mistakes, and an inability to carry out time consuming tasks.

On a day-day basis this is seen as:

· Eating specific foods only

· Sticking to certain times and wanting to visit the same places repetitively

· Meltdowns (described as ‘an intense response to overwhelming situation’ by National Autistic Society)

· Careless mistakes

· Disruptive bahaviours

· Limited delayed gratification

Given the world’s current and intense battle with the Coronavirus pandemic, families in the world abound have been required to almost entirely adjust to the new actuality that includes extremes like the complete sudden closure of all schools, working from home (or not working at all), physical distancing (a term since preferred by The World Health Organization, as opposed to social distancing, which seems to suggest social disconnection from family and loved ones) and travel limitations, to mention but a few

Our beloved nation has not been spared of the challenges brought about by Covid-19, leading our National Government to enforce the aforementioned restrictions and some, with the objective of protecting every individual as best we can, and in turn, the Nation. Resultantly, Parents have found themselves compelled to fill multiple roles, interchanging between parent, teacher, therapist, and playmates too, to lighten the weight of our current predicament for ourselves and those we are nurturing.

Expectedly, given that these roles are normally shared between multiple people on a regular week day, repetitively, commanding these tasks can and likely does push most parents and guardians, to the limit and often beyond, in these times. Additionally, undoubtedly, and most noteworthy, the adjustment to entire responsibility for a child with special needs, is incomparable to life in our largely regular households today, given that it primarily requires thorough commitment, patience, awareness, supplementary to the constant challenges and demands now required from parents

This is proving to be unfortunate (to put it mildly) for children diagnosed with such neurobehavioral disorders. As April, known as ‘Autism Awareness Month’, comes to a close, this article serves to address the needs of parents, how they can try and facilitate transition to the current living conditions, whilst reducing the number of meltdowns in relation to negative responses towards the alterations of routines. Worth noting is that, these difficulties with coping are not always attributed to shifts in patterns. These may be due to unmet sensory needs that parents would have been taught about during the different therapies a child may have attended, namely Occupational Therapy, Speech Language Therapy, Behavior Training etcetera. Rehabilitation services are strongly advocated for, given that the ultimate goal is ensuring that the child acquires skills to live in a community safely and independently amidst disruptions to his/her daily schedule.

A few strategies parents can use include:

Having open communication and explaining using simple language (like one word/broken down phases), picture/videographic/situation cards of what is currently happening, and also of why they need to stay inside safe spaces. Communication is generally understood to be verbal, but some of our children are able to comprehend better what is being said to them using the alternative videographic and picturesque means as mentioned above. These genres assist enlighten the children to the current gravity of our reality, and simultaneously temper down unrealistic expectations of resuming activities they had been engaged in before, and grown used to. Principles of repetition can be employed on a daily basis, wherein as parents you explain and retrain them to understand that they will be home for the foreseeable future. We recognize the challenges that accompany these severe health defects, and therefore appreciate that communication with each child will vary.

·Creating a routine schedule using visual pointers at home for your child, allows them to be aware of what needs to be done, and limits an element of surprise. Routines are also a great strategy to use to teach social demands which society requires from us on a daily basis (a practical example is knowing what time I need to wake up, so I can make it to work on time)

·Having sets of activities that will fill in the spare time and being present to do these activities with your child for intensive interaction, with the use of over-exaggerated facial/verbal expressions that will provide learning opportunities (social interaction) for your child through having them mimic your actions. Examples being singing song together, playing cars together, building blocks, and lacing beads.

·Ensuring consistency in the child’s repetitive home activities (like mealtimes, bedtime, and shower times) as would similarly be the followed during school seasons. Furthermore, monitor that they get adequate sleep as lack thereof may contribute to their agitation during the day.

·Continuation of learning so children continue to progress with and improve on skills they had attained whilst at school, and therapy sessions. Additionally, reaching out to your school to find out what programs for supporting continuation of learning could be implemented, and also communicating with your therapist about how you can continue with therapy at home, would help. Where possible, it is advised that the use of home programs that are reviewed weekly/fortnightly are used.

·Parents working at home experience difficulty in attempting to juggle work and parenting during the day. Therefore when possible, a family approach that incorporates delegation of roles between parents, siblings, and helpers may also assist with limiting the demands of caring for a special needs child, enhancing coping strategies amongst family members.

·Encouraging active participation with roles and tasks around the house to achieve balance between structured activities that have academic goals and unstructured activities that promote independent self-care.

·Ensuring that children have periods for relaxation, and breaks in-between activities is important to get great participation.

·Play is a big component that is used in therapy to ensure that your child’s sensory needs are met, and this is done through knowing their sensory profile so they get sensory input the whole day. Asking your therapist to assist with a sensory diet (free play/tactile experiences/circle time/feeding) that can be implemented at home, ensures your child is consistently receiving sensory feedback throughout the day, which is very important for energy regulation.

Composure, communication, taking an hour, moment, a day at a time, as well as working as a collective, whilst consistently maintaining and implementing preventative health guidelines as advised by the relevant health authorities, will see us overcome, then thrive.

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erraticfairy · 6 years

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Parents Guide for Disciplining Kids with ADHD

Receiving our son’s diagnosis of ADHD shed light as to why standard parenting advice wasn’t really working in our home. Understanding our son’s non-neurotypical condition enabled us to be more effective parents as we researched beneficial parenting techniques for children with ADHD.

For those parents who have been struggling to discipline their children with ADHD, I will go through the research we found which revolutionized our parenting practices and helped our son improve his behavior.

Discipline Starts with the Parents’ Personal Discipline

The behavioral foundation for any child starts in the home, and this concept goes double for a child dealing with ADHD. In a study found in the scholarly journal published by the Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Clinics of North America, researchers identified that dysfunctional parenting practices were often the key to changing common problem behaviors in children with ADHD, such as:

Struggles with homework which extended to forgetfulness, constant reminders needed, inattention, carelessness, and disorganized.

Lacking the independence to follow a daily routine on their own, noncompliance with chore duties, resisting bedtimes and morning routines.

Aggressive behavior and outburst aimed at siblings and parents.

What the study particularly noted was that the parenting practices which did not work for children with ADHD were centered on the parents who handed out punitive, power assertive, and/or inconsistent discipline. To help parents move away from this form of discipline, the researcher recommends behavioral parenting training to help parents learn better ways to work with their children who have ADHD.

Lastly, an observation I found interesting was made by researchers who published their research in the Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry. They discussed the link between a father’s lack of parenting consistency and its strong association with a child’s inattentive ADHD symptoms.

It was posited that as fathers generally have less of a caregiving role, they need to be even more conscious of their parenting practices. As inconsistency will not only trigger negative behaviors in the child but also add to the stress of the mothers, who are often the main caregivers, consistent discipline from both parents is vital to help a child with ADHD become more disciplined. As a father, this study made me re-evaluate how well I was supporting my wife as a co-parent and partner.

Reinforce Positive Behaviors and Ignore Negative Outburst

To begin altering less effective parenting behaviors today to improve the effectiveness of your discipline efforts, you will need to focus on reinforcing positive behaviors rather than reacting to negative behaviors. A study from the Behavioral and Brain Functions scholarly journal found results which indicated that children with ADHD respond even better to positive reinforcement due to their brain’s higher sensitivity to seeking rewarding stimuli.

This result can be confusing for parents, who ask why the child with ADHD is misbehaving if they really want rewarding stimuli. However, what us parents perceive as a reward is different to a child with ADHD.

For their highly active minds, any form of engagement is a rewarding stimulus. Say the child throw a fit over doing homework, and the parents engage in punishment with time-outs or privilege removal. The child with an ADHD has already had their reward as their brain has received the engagement it craved.

Instead, it is recommended that parents ignore these outbursts as long as no one is endangered. Once the child has calmed down, re-engage with the child. If they continually find no rewarding attention for their outburst but the parents focus on actively praising positive behaviors, children with ADHD will naturally begin to focus on expressing the desired behaviors. Many behavior modification programs focus on this form of discipline, as it has been highly effective in creating change.

One Effective Solution for When the Negative Behavior Cannot Be Ignored

While children with ADHD may be wired to seek high levels of stimulation and activity, it can become too much for them, and they will experience a meltdown in their ability to regulate themselves. To assist your child during this time, parents should provide a safe place for their children to regain their mental and emotional composure.

This time-out/quiet place should not be used to punish, or it will become ineffective. Instead, present it to your child as a time and place where your child can process their feelings. The area should be distraction-free to allow your child to focus on processing their overwhelmed feelings. Working with your child’s school district to develop an individual education plan (IEP) can also ensure that your child has a place like this when at school.

Lastly, while researching how to discipline a child with ADHD, I saw that many studies noted that children with ADHD often had co-morbid conditions, such as Oppositional Defiant Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. As you work on implementing strategies, I would definitely recommend you investigate if your child had any additional issues which may help you understand how to provide appropriate discipline for their needs.

Resources:

Conditions & Diagnosis: Attention Deficit Disorder & Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADD/ADHD). Retrieved from https://helpyourteennow.com/attention-deficit-disorder-attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-addadhd/

Ellis, Brandi., Nigg, Joel. (2009) Parenting Practices and Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder: Partial Specificity of Effects. Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, 48(2), 146-154. Retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2827638/

Fosco, Whitney D., Hawk Jr, Larry W., Rosch, Kari S., Bubnik, Michelle G. (2015). Evaluating cognitive and motivational accounts of greater reinforcement effects among children with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Behavioral and Brain Functions, 11(20). Retrieved from https://behavioralandbrainfunctions.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12993-015-0065-9

Jacobson, Tyler. An Honest Look at Behavioral Modification Programs for Troubled Teens. Retrieved from https://psychcentral.com/blog/%E2%80%8Ban-honest-look-at-behavioral-modification-programs-for-troubled-teenagers/

Jacobson, Tyler. How Parents Can Navigate Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Retrieved from https://psychcentral.com/blog/%E2%80%8Bhow-parents-can-navigate-oppositional-defiant-disorder/

Pfiffner, Linda J., Haack, Lauren M. (2014) Behavior Management for School Aged Children with ADHD. Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Clinics of North America, 23(4), 731-746. Retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4167345/

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sunflower-kisses · 2 years

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A definitely cheeked his adhd medication yesterday after being told therapy wasn't his choice to make. When he came home he was not his normal self and was straight up obnoxious and all over the place. But he swore he took it. David will be sweeping his room later today.

L had an epic meltdown/freak out. Instant rage when she found out there were consequences for lying to David. This kid wiped her butt and threw the crap covered tp in the trash. Aiden saw it and told David. He asked she swore she didn't do it. Later I went up to help her brush her teeth. I asked if she knew anything about it and that's when she tried to act dumb but admitted it was her. I asked why she wasn't honest when we asked the 1st time and she tried the whole "I forgot I did it" thing. She "forgot" literally 2 minutes after it happened. So I told her since she lied and wasn't honest she could use the rest of time until bedtime to play but tablet time was up. She dropped to the ground and tried to beg. I told her no and she got up really aggressively, stomped onto the stool, grabbed her tooth brush and gave me a death glare.

I told her that's not appropriate and she could head down to sit at the table. At which point she looked like she was ready to stab me with the tooth brush so I took it. She stomped away screaming "I hate you" "you're the worst"and "it's not fair I have to live here with people like you". Then proceeded to sit at the table and push herself away from it because she didn't want to be there. 🙃🙃 David delt with her for the 1st bit. Then told her she wasn't leaving the table until she spoke to me properly.

I was starting to feel bad that my dad said he wanted them back and were slowly talking about the process of them going there. It's one of those things where it's going to happen, likely before my due date, but we haven't set it in motion or told the kids. I was starting to feel bad about it because they seemed like we were all back on track. And then shitv hits the fan all over again. And we're just tired. We don't have the energy for it. And when the baby comes things won't get better by them getting even less attention.

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psychotherapyconsultants · 6 years