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[smiles-advice]

Hey, this is really awkward for me to write, but I really need advice.. my parents do the deed while they think I'm asleep.

And the problem is that happens a lot. They had 3 whole days to do it while me and my sister were at school, but they decided that in the evening when all of us are on the same floor would be the best time! And my mom is pretty loud.. it makes me so uncomfortable, and I don't have any headphones nearby. I can't tell them tomorrow, cause it'll just be awkward, but I can't not tell them cause it'll keep happening.

Ik this may sound pathetic, but I have been on the verge of tears bc of the sounds and how uncomfortable it makes me feel. They could literally wait for like 6 hours and my sister and I are in school again and they have the whole house to themselves.

Should I talk to them? If so, what should I say?

-📠 anon

hiya love,

gosh I'm sorry. that must be so uncomfortable for you, and such an awkward thing to bring up.

I'm sure it's going to be an embarrassing conversation for everyone involved but it'd be best to let them know. I doubt they want you to hear and so I'm sure they can find a better time for themselves.

I really am sorry, but well done for messaging me, that can't have been easy.

Good luck with your parents

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[smiles-advice]

things got in the way of regular posting, I'm sorry.

we had a family loss and the funeral, I had a theft/burglary, a cold bug went around the house (still here tbh), thrush and I've been throwing up a lot which is odd.

maybe tmi but meh, I'm here and i am trying

I'm so sorry yall

I feel awful for being gone so long, things are just not good 😅

I've deleted the asks in my inbox, they've been there for months and it's far too late now, so I'm very sorry.

I will be trying to be back, posting again. I'm very sorry

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I need some help...

I have periods of time (could be from 1 minute to over a day) where I either feel like I'm not real, everything else isn't real, or both. At first it was every once in a while, but now it's gotten a lot more frequent, to the point where it makes it difficult for me to do anything. It's really bad, and I can't even look at the sky anymore without feeling like I'm going to throw up. For a while, it was manageable, but now whenever I look at an object I feel like something's off; it's either too detailed or not detailed enough, a slight shade different than it "should" be, doesn't look like how I remember it to be, etc. I think it's going to keep on getting worse, because earlier today I couldn't even look at my reflection. There's just a voice in my head now that tells me that nothing is real. I don't even feel like I am actually in my body, I have a constant headache all the time, and I can barely remember my name. I think this started happening because I've consumed so much media (for example, books, webtoons, TV series, movies, sometimes even daydreaming), but now the only way for me to get my mind off of feeling like nothing exists is to consume more media, which then furthers the problem. I really don't want to be alive anymore because my brain just hurts all the time. Any suggestions on how I could try to fix this?

hiya darling,

gosh that's a lot. I'd recommend seeing a professional and taking my advice with grain of salt.

it sounds a lot like disassociation to me, which apparently a lot of people experience after all of the covid lockdowns, and the endless scrolling on so many apps.

try a social media detox maybe, it may seem like it's not helping at first, but perhaps you need to get back in touch with real life. go outside if possible, find a really pretty, all natural spot, and try and go there regularly.

and find some affirmations that help ground you, like "I am real and I am alive". or "life is happening and I am a part of it". whatever helps you.

I seriously would go talk to a doctor, but I hope this helps a bit

Best of luck and lots of love 💞

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I don't really know how to start this off, but here I go; I'm kind of stuck in a situation where I don't know what to do. A while ago, me (15) and my cousin (14) were discussing how our lives were going and how we both have had thoughts of suicide. This led to her showing me a scar on her wrist (that she had cut). Now, as much as I'd thought about it, I have never cut myself before so I was somewhat in shock when I saw it, especially since she's younger than me. She told me why (her mom had almost hit her, and they get in fights a lot, plus some other stuff), and then said that now she is going to therapy with her mom. Personally, I wouldn't want anyone to tell my parents about my depression, but I've started getting worried for her recently. Before the school year began, one of my peers committed suicide and made me realize just how real my depression, and other people's depression is. I am scared that she might kill herself and I don't know what to do. I'm also scared that if I were to tell someone, she would hate me. I really don't know if I should tell an adult or leave it be and hope therapy helps her.

hello darling,

I really would suggest telling someone, a trusted adult, maybe your parent or hers. perhaps encourage her to tell her therapist on her own first, but if you're worried/concerned, then telling somebody is a good idea.

I'd also recommend talking to someone about your own feelings. maybe see a therapist yourself.

I'm really proud of you for not harming yourself and for caring about your cousins wellbeing. look after yourself my love,

Best of luck and lots of love 💞

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[smiles-advice]

when i was a kid (like idk how old i have trouble remembering my childhood but prob around 6-8) i "let my intrusive thoughts win" so i lived at a apartment and my cat would serve in and out of the bars of the balcony and i pushed her off. she was fine she wasn't hurt just frightened but it was a long fall. i feel so horrible. im 13 and idk what to do i feel so much guilt. i dont want to be crazy i js want to be a normal kid but idk im js not

hiya darling,

kids make mistakes, they do silly things, and I think the fact that you feel guilty and awful about it says it all.

you aren't likely to repeat it are you? so maybe therapy might help you deal with any intrusive thoughts you have or just help you cope with any guilt or regret that's remaining.

I hate the word 'normal', it implies that you're abnormal and you aren't. maybe you aren't like everyone else but that's okay. that doesn't make you bad or strange my love.

lots of love to you 💞

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[smiles-advice]

I'm so sorry yall

I feel awful for being gone so long, things are just not good 😅

I've deleted the asks in my inbox, they've been there for months and it's far too late now, so I'm very sorry.

I will be trying to be back, posting again. I'm very sorry

[smiles-advice]

Have you ever fucked up and have any emberessing memerois ? As for me i have, ok so theres this time when tumblr was banned from my country , i was pissed so i wrote very aggrisive email to tumblr 💀 and i really regert it but the time has passed and thanks to allah nothing bad happned 😩 but i learned from my lesson lol also theres was this when i had a huge ass dizzy spell , so i was in the bus and i have fall from the bus when it door opened 😩 and theres was police officers (my mother told me this cus police told her what happned ) anyways yo gurl has startred to sing under influence 💀 like really sing it 😩 i usally dont remmber anything when this happens but thats was the only thing that was stuck with me imao

Tw: dizzy spells and mentoins of police

God I go through every embarrassing thing I've ever done every night lol, I think my lifes just one embarrassing memory.

being passionate about something is good, maybe your email made all the difference! and you can't help dizzy spells, so I wouldn't be too embarrassed about either of these things lovey!

(also I'm sorry yall, ik its been a while)

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[smiles-advice]

Idk tbh i would of hit the block button 🤣

reasonable 😅

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[smiles-advice]

omg i was sent that christian anon message as well! i think they just spammed as many people as possible. idk i ignored it🧍‍♀️

lmao I was sent two, so I figured I'd answer one and hope itd be the end of it 😭😅

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[smiles-advice]

Dear,

Brother / Sister in Christ,

We at Sola Fide Deum like to invite you to our YT channel community,

Where It contains Bible verses, and messages and ends with a prayer, which will not take more than 2 min of your time every day.

We like you to Subscribe, Share with famly and friends and help us grow and reach the word of god to people in faith.

you can find us by:-

www.youtube.com/@solafidedeum

Or search on YT

Sola fide deum

Thank you for giving the most presses thing in this world that is your time and may God bless you.😇

Extremely sorry if this ask disturbed you in any way.😔🙏

hello,

I'll keep this short, I'm not an atheist but I don't believe in Christianity anymore. if anyone wants to check out your channel, they're free too, I hoovered won't be.

hope you're well, have the day you deserve 😊

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[smiles-advice]

My mom was recently injured in front of me. She’s okay. Thank goodness. It doesn’t help that I recently lost an aunt of mine. I also remember a time when my mom was sick. That was a scary time for me. Feelings of sadness and grief have came up for me. I’m dealing with PTSD and trauma. How should I deal with this problem of mine?

hiya love,

sorry for the wait, things are difficult atm.

talking to a professional, or to the people directly involved, could help. writing things down, to get them out of your head, can help too.

you're allowed to be upset or worried or afraid, just don't dwell on these feelings.

lots of love ❤️

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[smiles-advice]

Hiii should i break up with my partner on the last day of school after they told me that they loved me and I didn’t reciprocate their feelings (this was through test). For context they told my that they had feelings for me a month ago and i had feelings for them but i didn’t know what they were so i asked them to keep our relationship a secret but they already told some of their friends. They apologized for it but i kinda felt pressured to be in the relationship. The person that i’m seeing is super nice and i did have a small crush on them but those feelings faded over time by the time they confessed the feelings i felt for them was fondness and friendship not admiration or attraction. I didn’t come to terms with it until they told me that they loved me and that they couldn’t imagine me as a friend anymore. I feel horrible because this person is an amazing person and I don’t know why I don’t have feelings for them because they’re great. We agreed to have a trial run and i tried to have feelings for them but i just can’t take it anymore. I want to end it before they fall for me even more but I don’t want to hurt them. I’m worried that their friends are going to make fun of him for dating someone that is “gay” (some people in my school think i’m gay and i also found out during the relationship i was ALSO attracted to people of the same gender) and their somewhat popular so I’m worried that they would get ridiculed. I want to end it quick and in person but they live far away from me so they would have to make a long trip just to see me so i wanted to end afterschool but tomrs the last day of school. I’m srry this is long, i just don’t have anyone i can trust to talk about this stuff.

hiya darling,

I'm so sorry if this has been sitting in my inbox for ages, I've been having such a time of it lately.

if you don't share feelings, then leading them on wouldn't be fair. ending the relationship would be the kindest thing to do for the both of you.

feel free to talk to me whenever, again, I'm sorry for the wait.

lots of love to you 💛

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[smiles-advice]

I'm so sorry guys!!

I've been having issues after issue, and I'm absolutely drained. so I can't and won't make any promises about refilling my queue anytime soon. I'll answer the asks in my inbox as soon as I am able to.

sorry and thank you for your patience and understanding lol.

much love 💛

hiya loves!

so my queue runs out tomorrow, I'll fill it up again soon but I've had some diagnosis issues that I'm gonna have to deal with.

I appreciate yalls patience, I'm here if ya need me 💛

#just me

[smiles-advice]

im turning 21 in a few months and i feel like i need to be this fearless, confident and responsible adult and it is so so scary sometimes because i feel like i shouldn't ask for help and figure out how to deal with all of it on my own... thank you in advance, and for just giving me the chance to write it down <3 🙂

hiya angel,

as a 21 year old, I can relate! turning 18, then 20, was so terrifying for me!

but, I can assure you, you can still ask for help! you're allowed to be confused and need reassurance and help still. you aren't expected to suddenly know everything and be entirely self sufficient just because you're 'an adult'.

lots of love ❤️

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[smiles-advice]

give yourself the time you need to rest and recover

#self love #self care #important reminders #mental health #important

[smiles-advice]

hiya loves!

so my queue runs out tomorrow, I'll fill it up again soon but I've had some diagnosis issues that I'm gonna have to deal with.

I appreciate yalls patience, I'm here if ya need me 💛

#just me

[smiles-advice]

🏵you don't have to be perfect to deserve love🏵

#self love #self care #important reminders #positivity #mental health #important #positive