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so after talking about this with both neurotypical and neurodivergent irls i'm actually curious, as a person who can't mask to save my life:

*While I am mainly seeking answers from other people with autism, answers from people with other neurodiversities that have "noticeable/stereotypical" behavior patterns would also be great!!

I know that there's gonna be a lot of sampling bias here but I think I just wanna hear from others like me. idk i've never run a poll like this before

feel free to elaborate in the tags if you're comfortable <3

#it really depends on how my mental and physical health are doing #if i’m in pain or haven’t slept well i’m more irritable and can’t emotionally regulate or mask my symptoms as well

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is it weird that i like to spend the night at my best friends house even tho im in my late 20s now i guess??? i feel like some friends wouldn’t mind but the person i least suspected to be weird about it is being fucking weird about it rn

#actuallyautistic #autistic #neurodivergence #adhd #late diagnosed

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learning lately that a lot of confidence is about owning up. like "yeah i'm a little addicted to my phone right now" or "yeah i'm not really over this person yet" or "yeah i still get pretty anxious in crowds" just saying anything at all but then following it up w "but i'm trying to get better" and being super nonchalant and unaffected. so powerful. you would literally be undefeatable in the face of even the most judgmental person. no one can judge you for things you already know about yourself and are trying to improve on. the trick is to know yourself from the inside out, to hold yourself accountable, and to actively improve every day. like that is literally the secret to never feeling like you're at the mercy of somebody else's judgment

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Please stop using disabilities you don't have as comparisons.

I saw a video trying to explain that autistic people don't make eye contact because it can be painful for them (good, this is true) and telling them to "just do it anyway" is ridiculous, saying "you wouldn't tell a wheelchair user to "just walk, its better for you" so don't tell autistic people to just make eye contact".

But people do. They do all the time. It's well documented that doctors will withhold their ok for patients to get a wheelchair (which is needed unless you're paying out of pocket, because insurance and most public disability services like the NDIS need proof from a doctor). I've known people who can hardly walk and are having to fight because the doctor still insists it better for them to walk, even if it's painful and sevearly limiting their quality of life.

Then in the comments, someone pointed out that people do say that to wheelchair users (good, this is true) but then continued on by saying "unless you just don't have legs" which is just as bad as the origonal.

I had to fight to get my first wheelchair as a double leg amputee, and every wheelchair since then I've had to justify not wanting the "better option" (prosthetics) to the government so they'll approve me for the funding. Doctors and even strangers too, all want to know why I'm not walking, why I'm not using prosthetics all the time. When I go on trips with my family I'm told to "just walk" so they don't have to pack my wheelchair. at my own graduation from university I was chastised by the organisers for not bringing my prosthetics (because wearing them was exceptionally painful back then and i hadnt worn them in nearly 3 months. I had asked before if this would be ok. they knew) because the venue was accessible but not the part of the venue the graduates were in. On the topic of university they also put my class in the only non-wheelchair accessible room and held meetings i was expected to take part in, in the non-accessible lunch room. When I complained, I was told to just use my legs for a few minutes so I could get into my classes. Being an amputee with no legs didn't shield me from these experiences either, it often made it worse.

I have all 3 of the disabilities mentioned (autistic, wheelchair user, amputee). If you don't have the disability you're using for a comparison, don't use it. Please

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reminder that donating just a few $ to gofundme campaigns actually helps, you don't have to donate huge amounts if you don't have the funds, every little bit is useful. give $10, $5, even $1. it all adds up. don't scroll past because you think you can't help. help in your own capacity. donate a dollar. share and speak up.

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Moment of silence for all the heat sensitive disabled ppl as the world actively tries to kill us this summer

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I think the reason a lot of leftists struggle with disability justice is that they haven't moved past the concept that discrimination isn't bad because it's objectively "wrong." yes, sexists are objectively wrong when they try to claim women are dumber than men. yes, antisemites are objectively wrong that jewish people are inherently greedy and run the state. yes, racists are wrong when they try to claim that white people are the superior race. and so on.

but then with disabled people, there are a lot of objective truths to the discrimination we face. people with IDs/LDs do fall behind and struggle with certain concepts. physically disabled people are often weaker and less capable of performing demanding tasks than able bodied people. many of us with mental illnesses are more reckless and less responsible. a lot of us are dependent on others and do not contribute much "worth".

and guess what? disabled people still deserve a place in the world. disabled people still deserve the supports they need. because they are people, and that should be enough to support them and believe they deserve a place at the table.

if your only rebuttal against discrimination is its objective inaccuracies, you are meeting bigots where they are at. you are validating the very concept that if and when people are truly incapable of being equal to the majority, that means they are worth less. this causes some leftists to then try to deny the objective realities of disabled people and/or become ableist themselves.

your rallying behind marginalized groups should start and end with the fact that people are completely worthy of life and equity, because they are fellow human beings and that should, frankly, be enough.

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hey

i just wanted to say that its ok if you thought that you'd be better / okay by now "at your age" and you're just not yet.

its okay if you might or do need meds forever

its okay if you need help to do daily activities

its okay for you to ask for help

you are not a burden to those that love you, and there are a lot of people that do even if they don't tell you as often as you might want them to

you are a light that this world needs. the people who love you need you. find one reason. if that reason stops working, you find another. any reason will do. it doesnt matter how big or small.

and remember, all ACTUAL emotions last less than an hour if you let yourself feel it, and then do something to 'GET IT OUT' like walking, or writing about it, or dancing in your under wear, or crying in the shower. let yourself feel it. and then show it that it's time to go. let it move through and out of you.

i believe in you.

#mental health #therapy #actually mentally ill #actually autistic #disabled #ptsd #anxiety #adhd #autism #audhd #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #mine

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my mom: my daughter can't be autistic, she never leaves her room, hates noise, is weird as fuck around all my friends and kids her own age, is a terrible baby sitter, and gets good grades because i threaten her with violence if she doesn't perform to my standards

#mine

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guys, it’s weed

they should invent an adhd medication where the side effects are frolicking smiling vibing chilling & being happy

#mine

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im buffering

#autistic feels #mine

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realizing that sticking to the "do it bad" "do it scared" mentality implies theres also a "do it bored"