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these tags being used as a reaction image is just another example :|

Can I say something is it finally safe to say that I don't find the popular trend of white people on this site who aren't muslim saying inshallah for jokes funny and I never did

#why is saying by allah you people are dogs making the post funnier explain that #if i asked them to read it would they do an accent

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right now nothing makes me angrier than someone saying they dont have the energy to think about palestine and the genocide in their life. oh youre tired? busy? not donating is one thing but just ignoring a goddamn genocide because it makes you feel sad :( it makes me so goddamn furious

#free palestine #''i have a lot on my plate right now'' i bet you do. i bet you have a lot going on. #and this isnt from a ''oh the rest of us who talk about it are busy too'' point #but how dare you look at the suffering of these people and these children and look away because you just cant deal with it #they cant turn their heads. they cant look away. have some goddamn respect integrity and decency #palestine

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I hate you epitome of innocence being represented with blonde hair I hate you lightness representing goodness I hate you "angelic features" automatically being read as blonde hair and blue eyed with pale skin I hate you whiteness as the default for morality I HATE YOU I HATE YOU

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pet peeve when someone draws the mystery gang to be quote unquote inclusive and diverse and the only thing changed is shaggy is black now. no matter how much shaggy is my fave like dude if youre gonna make it inclusive make the characters who arent the "funny dumb basically a stoner" guy also poc. and no making velma some kind of asian doesnt count

#girl are you that ignorant. make the dumb weed guy black make the smart homework girl asian? really? thats it? #sigh

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imma be honest i wonder how many of the people who make suicide jokes on here have been affected by suicide outside of their own suicidal thoughts. when someone you care about offs themselves and/or attempts to, seeing some 24 year old tell another 24 year old to kill themself is just... not funny. not in a "not funny. cried" way just like ... :| ... k. scrolls past

#suicide ment #this isnt an anti kys jokes post its just a yall arent as funny as you think you are post

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why do i get the sense that yall only care about media criticism when it comes from white ppl

#cause when poc (black people) say it its bitter and overreacting. but when white people say it its objective and a good point. #anger. rage. #god op this is suh a good post THANK you

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As a black lesbian Iiterally hate how the butch/femme thing got twisted the reason it was bad for (non-black) lesbians to say they were lesbian exclusive identities was because that's erasure of black LGBT history and silencing how much those identities mean to us as a community aka fucking ANTIBLACKNESS not because lesbians are a literal oppressor of bi people and gay men black peoples was the main ones tryna explain how and why this was fucked up but y'all forgot about the antiblackness part within a week

#seriously as if gay black men & trans women werent having butch queen and femme queen balls #i mean is it a coincidence that lgbt people who are against these kinds of integration and intersectionality are mostly ... white? 🤔 #seems like theres an underlying reason why you want to keep people strictly with their ''own'' and no shared labels or. shared anything. 🤨

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femininity and masculinity are flavor enhancers to eachother. the easiest way I can describe that is how girls in their boyfriend's hoodie are decidedly more feminine, and a guy wearing nail polish could look even more tough and masculine because of it.

like even in the most cisgender of terms they do not repel or exclude eachother, in fact they complement eachother super well. & thats why genderfluid & bigender people are so hot

#genderfluid #bigender #femininity #masculinity #gender #trans #transgender

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ok real talk small pet peeve of mine again. just little things. white trans ppl things. not gonna credit the artist cause i dont want to draw negative attention to them, this drawing is hella cute & relatable

yeah that drawing is so cute funny and relatable! but also! im kinda sick & tired of seeing "average trans people" always have caucasian features. cause its not the first time im seeing this for SURE.

should i get this mild annoyance at 2 hairstyles in a meme? nope. but im gonna talk abt it anyway. ok bye

#its so nitpicky. but its just. oh right thats transmascs & transfems are seen as people who are white. #and it annoys the shit out of me sometimes #this isnt saying cancel anyone who draws a white trans person. definitely not cancel the person who did the drawing that i enjoy so much #but i am saying as the trans community? we can do better. we can and we should #i normally hate the word 'normalize' and other izes but fr we have to start knowing that trans people are people of color #more than just 'black trans women are the founders of the queer community <3' posts likes and reblogs. #its just. it gets my goat. #lgbt #lgbtq #queer #trans

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Actually sexual and platonic relationships can coexist a lot of u have just been convinced that the final result of all sexual relationships is a romantic one. Sometimes u can just fuck ur friends and it’s fine. Hope this helps

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someone asked me a while ago about some of the challenges of being in a qpr, and it was a really good question so thought I’d share with the class:

from my experience, the challenges are really just the advantages flipped. the biggest advantage of a qpr is that it’s so open and undefined. there are no rules except the ones you mutually decide upon—the definition is so broad and a qpr can take so many forms that honestly no two are the same. it can be specialized to suit any needs, and it can shift and change at any time to match a change in those needs!

however, this means there are no guidelines. there’s no template like there is for a romantic relationship, with a set of steps that signify greater intimacy at each step. each qpr must be collaboratively built from the ground up, and manually adjusted to fit you and your partner(s) wants, needs, and boundaries. you may do your steps out of order, something that is considered a ‘step back’ in a traditional relationship may be a step forward for you, or you may have no steps in common with other relationships at all!

and this means: a LOT of communication, at every step, and often more than once in order to make sure that things are working as they should. you need to be comfortable communicating and setting boundaries openly, honestly, and without judgment. and that’s hard! it takes a lot of practice, and it’s impossible to be perfect at it all the time. you’ll make mistakes, your partner(s) will make mistakes, and that’s ok!

it’s also nearly impossible to predict what the relationship might look like until you’re in the thick of it, and that can be scary! you have to be able to trust that you’ll find something that works, which means trusting your partner(s) to listen, communicate, and follow through themselves. and that if your needs/wants/boundaries change, even months or years down the line, that they will be respected and taken into account

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i know ppl on this site love to clown on the term "queerplatonic relationship" but like how else am i supposed to describe that id wanna spend the rest of my life with someone with physical contact & sex & total emotional availability & technically romantic gestures & maybe get married & knowing eachother better than anyone WITHOUT being strictly romantically attached to eachother, maybe flirting around for fun still being possible. i know to others thats just an ideal friendship or romance but idk if its a cultural thing but that is not what a friendship / romance looks like usually.

#qpp #aspec #aromantic

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some of u got meme brainrot esp when it comes to racism and antiblackness (let me explain)

#'were just making fun of them!' youre buying off your guilt of not taking any real action against antiblackness #not doing anything at all is part of the problem. but this takes it to a whole other level #its so performative but not even performing and faking it for black people's approval? #its like arts and crafts in your white online circle where everyone can go haha nazis silly! and patting eachother on the back #do they forget that these semantics genuinely kill real black people?? and that its not just a funny image for laughs and put text on???

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there's a huge problem with trans people being associated with whiteness on this website & its never more clear than when someone says shit like "transmascs are seen by cis people as victims and must be protected" or worse "trans girls are part of the incel to catgirl pipeline"

#like no. black trans men arent seen as victims. quite the fucking opposite #black trans women werent racist to cope with their transness on 4chan in their youth. #its just annoying #trans

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so i think the reason that the gay male blue white green flag is mostly (if not only) popular among young trans gay guys who probably don't pass well, is because the "gay man" flag is also the queer flag and if they were to use that others might think they're just queer people instead of gay men. & idk its not just a flag that confirms they're homosexual, the flag explicitly states they're a gay man. i think that might be important

#mlm #lgbt #gay flag #mlm flag #mlm pride #mlm memes #ngl im not using that flag. i take pride in being percieved as queer instead of a neat little box label #but if some kid wants to put himself in that box and hiss at anyone who dares say he doesnt belong there? i can only approve #the toothpaste flag... honestly go for it gayboy.

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You can still get COVID if you're fully vaccinated though, but the chance of getting it is much lower. Even with a full booster vaccine, it doesn't stop you from getting COVID it's just that the chance of getting hospital-ill is much lower. You can still get knocked out for a good couple weeks though. So his concerns about paid leave and testing are definitely justified imo.

I think this guys point is less like 'be nice to unvaccinated people' but more like 'just because the White House released a snappy zinger statement doesn't mean that we are at all prepared for the Omicron variant because our health infrastructure is still crap'

Again I'm not surprised at all by the crocodile tears and rending of garments coming by from anti-vaxers about the white house statement. What I can not fucking figure is why anyone who isn't in that club would have any kind of problem with it.

#my country entered a full sized march 2020 style lockdown this weekend because of omicron #luckily i already bought christmas presents :) i dont like ordering stuff online in a lockdown cause its just such pressure on the workers #our ics are full. surgeries are being postponed because theres too many middle aged men with covid to handle #people have been waiting for months for surgeries that would allow them to get out of bed but they cant get them cause covid patients #and the booster vaccines havent been fully dealt out yet #so this is a major national issue right now #i wouldnt be surprised if it was an issue in america as well. but i didnt google it so idk #i also dont have sources for the first paragraph i just watch press conferences by our health committee. my source on it is jaap van dissel #and my fully vaccinated and boostered professor who got covid and was too sick to teach so we had a crappy substitute teacher for 2 weeks #not too weak to show up to school but too sick to even give online lessons in his own house. which was a shame cause his ethics class is 🔥

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i feel like i never really see affirmation anymore for bisexuals who don’t have a preference, for bisexuals whose fluidity is constantly changing, for bisexuals who simply do not want or care about categorizing their attraction to every gender. as a bisexual i hate getting asked “what do you prefer?” because it forces me to simplify my complex relationship with my sexuality. it’s also a biphobe’s insidious way of asking “so are you actually straight or actually gay?” people can also use whatever label they identify with, but when you try to push the “bi means gender plays a factor into your attraction/you have a preference” definition, you are a part of the problem. you’re making people who identify as bi hyperanalyze their own sexuality. bisexuals do not need to think about who they prefer. i’m just tired of seeing every single post on social media about bi people being in relationship to preferences.

preferences are just not something i think about. i know i love everyone and that’s all i need to know. and i want this to be affirmation to anyone who is bisexual. you are not some meter in a scale. you don’t have to make a bar graph to explain your attraction to different genders. you can love everyone point blank full stop. your experiences will always be more important than having to define yourself. just live your bisexual life and keep being perfect 💗💜💙