i've been completely unable to have a satisfying orgasm in weeks. i don't know why. or, actually, i do know why. nothing has been able to turn my on in weeks. no matter what i do. very frustrating.
I had the windows open earlier in the living room while it was thunder storming and all I could think about was you riding my strap on the couch, my thighs spread open, your hands on my shoulders coming up and down so slow. I want you to take your time on me, feel me. Show me how much you love fucking me.
i am scared of being intimate with someone. i want to, i really do, but i am scared. i mean, c'mon, i can't go seven years without sex purely by external factors. i haven't pursued it as aggressively as i could have.
i was only ever sexually active for a period of about six months when i was eighteen. i've never had sex with a girlfriend or partner, only ever with "friends." that is to say, people who i was not dating who i met through apps with the intention of beginning a sexual relationship. these people did not treat me very respectfully. they consistently violated my boundaries and had me do things i was uncomfortable with. this ranged from a girl who was so aggressive with me she nearly shattered my teeth when she would pull me in and forcibly kiss me to a girl who ~made~ me top her.
on top of this, i was on some pretty strong antidepressants at the time, so it's not even like i at least got to feel good out of it. essentially, sex was an uncomfortable and miserable experience for me. i have never had a positive sexual encounter nor have i ever had an encounter with someone who i felt was respectful towards me and my boundaries and treated me with care.
i lay in bed often and imagine being caressed. i imagine being held and cared for. i imagine not just "having sex" but well and truly making love, for however corny that sounds. i imagine my partner asking me if it's okay if she touches me a certain way, asking me if something feels good, stopping when i asked her to and checking to see if i'm okay. but i also sit and think about how hard it's going to be to open myself up in that way. i think about how much being vulnerable with somebody else scares me after i was done so dirty in the past. i worry about the pressure i'll put on everything and, if my partner finds out any of this, what kind of pressure they'll be under. i worry that they'll not want to be with me.
so, yeah. sorry. i just needed to get that off my chest.
i make jokes with my friends or whatever but, seriously, if we start going at it there is 100% chance that i am going to call you 'mommy' at some point
In 2024 I'm hoping to get smooched, cuddle, and then have lesbian sex so mind blowing that it forever changes my perception of reality. What about you?