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[dragonflymage]

It was a process that took several years, but more often than not I don’t like people very much. I’m not rude at them, of course. I’m as pleasant as manners and politeness may dictate, but geez, I just don’t have the patience or the stomach for being in the presence of mean people or obnoxious groups anymore.

I don’t assume that everyone is a good person because they aren’t.

I’ve reached a point where if someone is a creeper, I stay away. If they are closed-minded and ignorant, I stay away. If they are drama-mongering drama flouncers, no thank you. If I see them screaming at and slapping their children in stores or kicking someone’s car because a parking space they wanted was taken …I mean, seriously? Something isn’t right there.

My tipping point is … life.

I’m tired of people shooting up schools, abusing and killing their families. The mega-thieving corporations are cruel and tiresome. The disgusting government rulers couldn’t care less if the taxes take a third or more of your paycheck.

Why would I wish to hang around with people like that? They are off my radar.

I’d rather snuggle with my adorable INTJ and my kitties in front of the fire. I’d rather stay home and read while fixing up my home. Honestly, most of the planet can take a flying leap for all I care. They may have their own reasons, excuses, and stories behind why they do what they do, and that’s all good. 💗💗

Yes, I do have a loving heart. I just have no need for crap in my life anymore. I know what I like and what I don’t like. And what I don’t like are most of humanity. I guess I’m not a floofy-poof INFP? *shrugs*

As much as I’d like to, I can’t save this world. I’ve helped some and I still do. Yet I’ve been so much happier and at peace since I’ve made the choice to cut out that toxicity and negativity from my environment. My depression has lifted and I’m enjoying life more than I ever have.

So, withdrawing from humanity was a healthy choice for me. 😊

Thanks for the question! 🌼🌼

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[dragonflymage]

Absolutely!

One of an INFP’s traits - loves to ponder limitless possibilities. This means whenever an idea, person, or situation enters their horizon, an INFP will usually dwell, daydream, and imagine what it all might mean for them and the universe.

This tendency to read between the lines and dig into hidden meanings comes naturally for this inner-pondering type.

Have you ever watched a story on the screen and imagined all the potential paths the plot could take? Or glanced at a person at the bus stop and come up with interesting tales behind who they are and what their journey is?

I’ve taken this a step further if I’ve felt that someone might be potentially dangerous. Because you never know what unseen intentions lurk out there on this world.

I’m also good at noticing details, when things are moved in a room, and filling in the blanks when someone intentionally leaves information out while they’re talking. My thoughts instinctually pick up cues and body language pretty well from people. I may not always know the reason why someone is questionable in the moment, but I always pay attention when I get a tingly spidey-sense. 🕸

When I’m watching a mystery, I have to force myself not to think too hard because I hate figuring out the ending and ruining the surprise. It doesn’t really bother me too much. But what’s the fun in reading or watching a story if you can usually guess the ending? 😩

Anyway, INFPs can definitely be detective-minded. It’s kind of a natural trait and many probably don’t even realize they’re doing it.

Thanks for the question! 😊

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[dragonflymage]

I don’t consider myself “normal” by Society’s standards

Here’s a list of things that would make me seem normal (not that these apply to me)

Married to or dating someone of the opposite physical gender

Belonging to a religion or at least taking in a service during a holiday

Doing whatever it takes to fit in

500+ friends on social media

Accepting all news reports as truth

Spending more time out of the home than in

Talking with everyone I meet

Accepting routines

In a relationship with someone who makes me unhappy

Taking part in at least one social event a week

Following the money trail to true happiness

Working at a job I hate

Never questioning authority

Involved with all the new fads

Knows all the latest Hollywood gossip

Happy to be blissfully ignorant

Conforming without hesitation

Accepts a belief or statement because everyone else does

Always looking a person in the eye while talking to them

Considering myself a patriot of the country I live in

Basically, I’d appear normal if my behavior didn’t attract any attention that made me seem ‘weird’.

I’d be like everyone else.

*shivers* No thank you. I like my unnormal, weird self. 😋

Thanks for the question. 🍵

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[dragonflymage]

I love using MBTI profiles with my characters. I don’t necessarily need to match their behavior exactly to the Type I’ve chosen for them, because personality is fluid. But it’s so much fun to imagine what my character would do if I changed their personality.

Let’s say I’m wondering how one of my characters would respond to a particularly stressful situation and I know they’re an INFP. Well, I definitely know they’re an Introverted Feeler, so that would rule out a ton of possibilities right there. Instead of being loud and reactive, maybe they’d turn inward and dwell on the problem before responding.

I use MBTI descriptions not because I can’t imagine my own ideas for them, but it helps me to keep track of what they would and wouldn’t do or say in spontaneous scenes. And if I attach a different Type to each of my characters it keeps them from looking too much alike.

It’s part of the background creation I love putting together for my stories. 😄

Thanks for the question! 😊

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[dragonflymage]

Sure. I believe that.

There’s at least Severe and Minor agoraphobia.

Severe would be agoraphobia that lasts for years or even someone’s entire life.

Minor would be agoraphobia that lasts a short time or randomly comes and goes.

I also believe there are varying levels within the Severe category.

For instance, if there were actual categories like Severe and Minor, I’d be in the Severe category.

Yet, the intensity can vary. I’m not always experiencing an anxiety attack when I walk out the door - or at least a visible one. Perhaps, 1 time out of 3 attempts I can get out there without the strong need to turn around and lock the door.

Usually, I dwell on an appointment for days beforehand. I’ll envision possible conversations, how I might answer potential questions, make a list of what I could wear and what I need to bring with me, and the route I’ll take to reach my destination.

Sometimes that can help me walk out the door and accomplish my goal.

Other days, even if I try to prepare, the anxiety will be too overwhelming and I’ll need to cancel or reschedule.

Or if the appointment is important and I can’t cancel, sometimes what happens is I’ll get landed with a heavy dose of derealization, which slows down a lot of the world around me. Derealization may make it easier to endure leaving home, but it’s a super struggle to remain in the present while it’s happening.

I’ve had people comment to me “oh, you must be getting better at going out, huh?” While I’m constantly reminding myself to focus on my goal and the anxiety might be swallowing me alive.

And I’m thinking, ‘my agoraphobia isn’t going away just because I happen to have a confident day or am able to hide it better than usual’. It also leaves me feeling self-conscious because they pointed out something different about my behavior. Thankfully, I’m no longer around those people.

So, yes, there are levels to agoraphobia because I’ve experienced them. There shouldn’t be just one broad Agoraphobia label that assumes the experience is the same for everyone. It isn’t.

I hope this helps. Thanks for the question. 😊

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[dragonflymage]

This is one of those generalization questions that can only be answered with “no”. Because there’s no way to reach every single INFP all over the world and ask them if they are “overexcited”.

What’s being assumed here - All INFPs have emotional overexcitability or are excessively excited. That’s nice.

A better question would be: “What might cause an INFP to appear overexcited emotionally?”

Now that is a question I can attempt to answer.

I think this depends on the point of view of the person gauging the INFP’s emotions. Not that I think it’s really anyone’s business… 😜

I’m a bit touchy when it comes to someone attempting to judge how I choose to express or not express my emotions. If I’m not harming anyone, why does it matter?

If the person trying to judge my reactions dislikes emotional displays, they’ll spot a single tear and say that I’m too overexcited or exaggerating.

Just because that person is unable to feel deep emotions in the way I feel them, doesn’t mean my honest and genuine emotional response is too excitable.

I mean, you’re trying to compare emotions with the most feelie of all emotionally feelie types. It isn’t a fair comparison, since there is no comparison.

Sure, you could try to compare an average INFP’s emotional intensity to some other Feeler type while unhealthy, but that isn’t a fair comparison either. Because a healthy emotionally-driven INFP is not the same as another Type expressing intense emotions in an unhealthy manner. 😐

Emotional expression isn’t automatically unhealthy behavior.

Anyway. Back to the question.

Situations that may cause an INFP to appear overexcited emotionally

Stress, anxiety, exhaustion, fear

Being forced to do something they don’t want

Depression

Excitement over a happy event

Relief

Watching a sad movie

Feeling comfortable enough to be their true self

…really any sort of situation can create an emotional response, positive or negative.

Though usually, INFPs tend to hide away most of their emotions until later. So I feel that if you’re in the presence of an INFP broadcasting their feelings all over, then that INFP is probably not in a good place right then. They probably need a break to escape whatever situation they’re in. 😟

My answer- Ultimately, if you’re witnessing a highly-emotional INFP (unhappy, loud), the reason is probably stress. If you’re witnessing an INFP who is happy, talkative, silly, and super charming, the INFP is comfortable in your presence. There’s nothing excitable about it. 😉

I hope this helps! Thanks for the question. 🌺

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[dragonflymage]

That’s easy.

There are two ways to turn me into a scary-ass cinnamon bun. 👿

Hurt someone I love. Going back to age 9, my younger brother and I went to the same school. He was a quiet, sensitive Introvert who lived in his own world. Kids, behaving in the nasty ways they sometimes do, would tease the ever-loving crap out of him. They did it because once they pushed him too far, he’d shout at them to leave him alone, his face red and tears on his cheeks. They seemed to find this funny. 😢 Whenever I heard him, wherever I was in the school, I’d rush over. If I was indoors, I had books or folding chairs in my hands. If it was outdoors during recess I had rocks or branches. I’d charge over screaming for them to get away from my brother or I would kill them! I’d lift whatever I carried and threaten to use it until they ran off. He was the one person in my life that I would rip apart the crust of the planet to defend with my last life’s breath. Don’t ever mess with people I care about.

Continually invade my personal boundaries. If I’ve warned someone more than once, more than twice to stop poking me, getting in my face, grabbing me, or knocking a hat or bag off me - especially if they are angry… they better frikken run. I can not stand it when my boundary bubble is interfered with. The more threatened I feel, the more my fear will intermingle with anger and I will rage at someone until they keep their distance. No, I do not want to be grabbed and pulled somewhere. No, I do not appreciate your jabby finger poking me in the arm because you feel it proves your stupid point. If you can’t keep yourself to yourself I am more than willing to defend my being and possibly harm you in the process if you haven’t already buggered off in fear of my dragon rage. 😠

Those are two instances where I will turn into a scary beast in order to protect myself or someone I care about. I will not tolerate bullies and abusers of any sort attempting physical harm in my vicinity. 💗

Thanks for the question. 😌

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[dragonflymage]

I have a short list of Introvert essentials. 😊

Make a list of what you like and dislike in relation to others and try to stick to it. Such as, is it okay if someone touches your arm while they talk?

Figure out how long until your socializing energy runs dry and remember for the future. If you can only tolerate 2 hours in a group of people, then don’t push yourself too hard if it will only stress you out.

If someone oversteps your boundaries, let them know. If you don’t like it when someone sneaks up and covers your eyes from behind, say something.

Cut out people who taunt you for being an Introvert. Introversion is a personality trait. If your friends repeatedly say your quiet lifestyle is unhealthy or call you lazy, you honestly don’t need them in your life.

Thanks for the question! 🌼

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There are so many obvious red flags such as rudeness, bullying, and deceit. But I’m going to talk about behavior that’s a little harder to recognize.

Passive-aggressive behavior.

You know when someone makes a comment and it sort of sounds like a compliment, but there’s something else going on with what was said? You can usually tell by how you feel. If you’re confused or feel weird afterward, it was probably a dink being passive-aggressive.

Here are some examples

“It’s a shame we can’t all be so artistic / have money to throw away.” That’s not a compliment. That’s a comment meant to make a person feel bad about themselves.

“Well, aren’t you lucky to have no responsibilities and all these good things happen to you.” This can be towards any positive event in another’s life. It sort of sounds like it’s supposed to be a good-wishes remark, but it actually isn’t. It’s a mean comment from someone who doesn’t know how to feel happy for other people.

“No offense, but…” “…you really don’t know what you’re talking about.” Or “…I can’t stand when ‘those people’ talk.” I absolutely despise this one. It’s rude and makes no sense. If a person doesn’t want to offend someone, saying “no offense” in front of an offensive remark doesn’t remove or excuse the bad behavior. It isn’t a pre-apology and you are not excused. You just look like an idiot bully.

“I don’t mean to…” “…sound rude, but that hair color looks awful on you.” This one goes along with #3. Again why even say anything if you already know it’s rude or that it might hurt someone’s feelings? Because it’s usually intentional.

“I wish I…” “…could sit around at the computer at home all day (about remote work), but I have to commute through traffic to and from an office every day.” Or “…had a decent home-cooked meal, but I know you’re sooo busy lately.” I have nothing else to say except “guilt trip much?”

“Oh! You wanted that done TODAY? Cuz you only said to clean the car parts from the driveway, but you didn’t say when.” Give me a break. This is that ‘pretending to be stupid’ thing that is so tiresome. Because if they truly wanted to help and honestly didn’t know when it should be finished, they could have asked. This is an abuse tactic, hidden within a ploy at being stupid and lazy.

“Thanks in advance.” Really? I see this in the workplace. It seems harmless because someone is saying thank you for your future efforts. But it’s also sort of forcing a person to do what it is they asked or assuming a person is going to do it since they already thanked you for it. Whenever I see this in a message, all I want to do is delete them or bump them to the end of the stack.

“I hope you don’t mind but…” This comment is super cringe-worthy because it means they’ve already gone ahead and did whatever it is. “…I’ve borrowed your car.” Or “…I ate that dessert you were saving.” Or “…I copied your notes.” Not only is it doubtful this person can be trusted, but their behavior removes a person’s right to say no. They couldn’t be arsed to ask someone directly, so they snuck around, going behind someone’s back and did it anyway. All because they couldn’t risk hearing the word “no”.

Of course, there are many different variations. And the passive-aggressive behavior depends on tone. For instance, a person could genuinely not realize a chore needed to be done right away and may not be trying to be annoying.

If someone remarks with various of the above, I’d be a little wary about their intent, and would probably keep a distance from them.

Thanks for the question! 😊

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[dragonflymage]

That sounds difficult. I don’t know if anyone could remain in a productive state. Unless maybe they were a workaholic or pumped up on caffeine. 😏

I’m not sure how it is for other INFPs, but if the work is something I don’t want to do, I have to seriously force myself to stay focused. More than if I were busy with one of my hobbies. Maybe that’s normal for people though?

With my hobbies, I can work on making a soundscape forever. I love it so much. I usually try to finish a new one in 4 to 6 days. When I wrote this, my current theme was pirates. 😄 (It’s now Autumn and Winter💖)

My work ethic isn’t necessarily the same as staying in a productive state.

My work ethic for my job involves-

Always logging in to work on time

Staying within the allotted time parameters while working

Keeping far away from drama situations

Rarely taking time off 

That’s it. Easy peasy. Then I’m as productive as I am within those personal guidelines, usually above average.

I’m the most productive when I enjoy what I’m doing, so I watch or listen to videos and music while working. Then my mind doesn’t wander too much. I find that I work better when something is playing in my headphones. Otherwise, the absolute quiet makes the day drag on.

As for rewards…? Hmm…

Finishing a work shift and logging out is a good reward for me. Knowing I have tomorrow off is the best reward! 😍

Thanks for the question. ☕

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[dragonflymage]

Sure. Personally, I think that INFPs have great potential to be amazing writers. They can draw on their imaginations to create descriptive scenes, and visualize locations and conversations between characters. Like Tolkien.

But, yeah, the potential for writing doesn’t mean a person will like it. Just like some people like cinnamon and some don’t. Or mushrooms. Or those nummy Smarties candy thingies… 🍬

I love to write, which is probably obvious. 😅 I began writing a diary when I was young, and also wrote down my dreams in a dream journal. I write stories and fanfiction. I write all over the place. I can’t stop! LOL

I’ve found that writing is the best way for me to translate my emotions into words, so they aren’t floating around in my head like a gelatinous mass of writhing stormy feels.

It’s okay to not like writing. We’re all different people with different life experiences.

Thanks for the question. 😊

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[dragonflymage]

INFPs are discussed online quite a bit. So are INFJs and INTJs. It’s probably because they are some of the lesser common types and many want to know more.

A few reasons—

People want to know more about the less-common types

INFPs enjoy learning more about themselves and take part in such discussions

People hear about an MBTI type that’s usually compared to a cinnamon bun and have to find out what this means. 

INFPs lurk all over the internet

Are INFPs really a bunch of pure snowflakes?

No one can possibly be that idealistic

Someone encountered an INFP in their natural habitat and must find out if they are all that ‘weird’ 

That’s all I can think of right now. Thanks for the question. 😄

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