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LGBTQ Muslims have and always will exist—we aren’t haram and we aren’t alone.

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Happy Lesbian Visibility Week and Chag Sameach to all of my lovely Jewish dykes

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people say bpd is the modern female hysteria but hpd is basically "evil slut disorder" and diagnosed 4x more in women

#:/ #mod carina

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Happy TDOV and Ramadan Kareem to my Trans Muslims out there!

And sending religious solidarity love to my Trans Christian siblings! Happy Easter!

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Special shoutout to those who are sober on Purim, for whatever reason. I know it can be awkward not drinking when moat other people are, but you don't need alcohol to have a good time!

Chag Sameach!

#mod carina

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Sending my love and support to neurodivergent/disabled Muslims this Ramadan.

Muslims who can’t fast for health reasons. Your health always comes first. If you need to eat due to medication, diabetes, ED recovery, or any other reason, it’s good that you’re doing that. There’s so much more to Ramadan than just fasting.

Muslims who struggle with remembering salah or reciting Quran. Disabled Muslims who can’t perform the movements of salah the way that other Muslims do. Nonverbal Muslims who can’t pray or recite with mouth words at all.

Muslims who are immunocompromised and can’t go to things like taraweeh or iftar or praying in the masjid. I know that it’s isolating, I hope you’re able to still enjoy Ramadan and find community. Please keep yourself safe this month and always.

Muslimahs who can’t wear hijab due to sensory issues.

Muslims with sleep disorders who struggle to wake up for Fajr.

Muslims who struggle with addiction to alcohol, drugs, substances in general. Your addiction is not your fault and having addictions is not haram.

Muslims who are told that mental illness isn’t real, whose issues are swept aside.

I also want to give a special shout-out to queer Muslims. Muslims who are not able to present as the gender that they are. Muslims who don’t know which side of the mosque to go to. Muslims being pressured to find straight relationships, who have to hide their real relationships or the fact that they don’t want a relationship at all. Muslims who are out and proud, Muslims who are closeted. It goes the other way too. Muslims who face Islamophobia within the Queer community. Allah SWT made you just the way you’re supposed to be, you are not haram.

Shoutout to reverts as well, especially reverts who don’t have a Muslim community. Maybe no one around you even knows you’re Muslim at all. Maybe you’re eating and fasting and praying alone all month, but that won’t be forever. You’ll find your community.

Remember: “With hardship comes ease.” It’s okay if Ramadan is not an easy time for you, things will get better. Allah SWT tests those that He loves the most. You are not alone this month, you are never alone.

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Honestly, I don't think there's anything wrong whatsoever with not feeling "negative" emotions such as grief, guilt, etc. What matters is how you DEAL with the situation, not how you FEEL about it.

For people with ASPD, SZPD, autism, certain psychotic disorders, NPD -- pretty much any disorder that may cause low empathy or flat affect -- it's just a fact of life we don't always (or ever) feel those emotions. (And of course there's way more disorders and symptoms than the ones I just listed, and of course some people who DO have those disorders CAN feel said emotions!)

If you hurt someone and don't regret it, that by itself does not make you a bad person. In fact, if you hurt someone, and want to amend the situation and not hurt that person again IN SPITE OF not feeling guilt? That's amazing. That's amazing and, in my opinion, very selfless.

If you don't feel grief after a loved one dies it doesn't mean you're an awful person who never valued them. As long as you stand by the people who DO feel grief, and offer them comfort or space or whatever, then it's fine that you don't feel it, because you're still being compassionate to those who do.

Honestly even if you feel annoyed or irritated or what have you at the people who are hurting, even that isn't anything shameful, because again it's about what you do, not about how you feel.

Maybe I'm just making defenses for my own ASPD self, but it really doesn't seem like a problem to me. Feelings are private, after all, actions and reactions are what's public, so it matters how you treat others, not how you feel about said others.

Statements like this might make empaths uncomfortable but I stand by it. No one is a bad person just for the way that they "feel", not to mention that a lack of remorse/guilt/sadness/etc is itself a symptom of many disorders and a common trauma response.

#mod julien #actuallyaspd #empaths hate us when we mask but also when we dont #either way they don't trust us and go out of their way to vilify us #but somehow the evil sociopaths are always the problem

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NPD + asexual culture is I don’t want to have sex or be touched like that but I crave the idea of being desired

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#mod Julien #NPD #asexual #aspec

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extra love to trans people who have to go by their dead name around their families for the holidays

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aroace npd culture is getting so annoyed when people say “oh romance/sex/empathy is what makes us human” ITS LITERALLY NOT ITS YOUR FUCKING DNA IS THAT SO HARD TO COMPREHEND KAREN??????

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this is half culture/half an ask looking for a label (like, an attraction label, not a diagnosis)

NPD culture, in my experience, is being demiromantic and only experiencing attraction to people who you know like you. . .for the most part. sometimes i get crushes on superiors who i dont know at all, and quickly lose that once i realize theyre not as amazing as i thought i was.

Is there a term for this? Generally, my attraction actual friends is 'genuine', but I still experience the occasional crush to someone who i dont know at all and I only like them because I look up to them from afar. Are there labels for this specific experience, or even just a general label in which NPD messes with your attraction? Superior-romantic,maybe, lol, idk.

heyo! i looked around a bit and you may like narcaro? also maybe reciproromantic but i'm a little less sure about that one. regardless, feel free to describe and label your orientation however you see fit :)

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what neurotypical abled people cant seem to get into their heads is aids and medication dont stop people from being neurodivergent and/or disabled. hearing aids dont stop deaf or hard of hearing people from being deaf or hard of hearing, it just makes hearing easier mobility aids such as canes or crutches dont stop people with arthritis, chronic pain, or just general mobility issues from having arthritis, chronic pain, or just general mobility issues, it just makes getting around easier

pain medication doesnt stop people with chronic pain stop being in pain (specifically in the long term), it just makes pain management easier

fidget & stim toys and fidget & stim jewelry dont stop people with anxiety from having anxiety, adhd-ers from having fucked up exectutive function, and autistics not being able to automatically regulate emotions and sensory responses, it just makes dealing with them all easier

various adhd medications doesnt make people not have adhd anymore, it just makes it easier to regulate their executive function.

anxiety medication doesnt get rid of anxiety, it just makes it easier to deal with.

white canes and sight specific service animals dont stop blind people and people with sight impairments from being blind or having sight impairments, it just makes living with them easier.

trauma and emotional support specific service animals dont stop people from having trauma and emotional issues, it just makes dealing with them easier

anti-depressants dont stop people with clinical depression from being depressed, they just make it easier to deal with by stabilizing mood.

immune suppressants dont stop people with any autoimmune condition(s) (such as crohn's, psoriasis or psoratic arthritis, rhumitiod arthritis, myasthenia gravis, fibromyalgia, ect.) being affected in any way affected by their autoimmune condition(s), they just make living with the condition(s) easier.

medication and aids arent magic. they dont make the disabled and/or neurodiverse person not disabled and/or not neurodiverse, they dont entirely cancel out the thing they are used/pescribed for, they just make it easier to exist in a world where whats considered "normal" or "independant" or "a regular human being" doesnt automatically include them.

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One thing that helped me to realize I’m demi is when I realized that for us demi people, attraction is not formed until a strong bond exists, BUT that “bond” could be ANYTHING!

For example, demisexuals can feel sexual attraction without a “romantic” or “platonic” bond, and demiromantics can feel romantic attraction without a “sexual” or “platonic” bond. Sometimes the “bond” is just admiring someone from afar for reasons that aren’t sexual/romantic/platonic at all, we just admire them, period!

Especially for us neurodivergent people — maybe the person is our Favorite Person (for instance) or someone else we cling to for ND-related reasons. Maybe we experience limerance, maybe the person is our special interest, maybe we have Erotomanic Delusions related to the person. Either way, that could easily be a bond, even if the bond is caused by neurodivergence.

Even if it’s not an ND thing, a “bond” can absolutely be one sided. Hell, maybe the person we develop “attraction” to can be as simple as a favorite online mutual! Either way, if the “bond” is a prerequisite for the “attraction,” we’re still valid in being demi.

If you read the lesbian comphet masterdoc, there’s a bullet point that essentially boils down to “I assume any positive feelings [towards men] are attraction.” I strongly believe that a similar things exists with us demi-spectrum people, regardless of gender. We assume any positive feelings are sexual/romantic, even if they aren’t. And even when they ARE, it doesn’t necessarily mean we were mutually close with the person before, it just means WE held them near to our heart, for whatever reason.

#demiromantic #demisexual #mod julien #asexual #aromantic

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aromantic npd culture is not understanding romance, not relating to romance, and not enjoying romance unrepentantly. like i literally do not care <3

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Shoutout to aros, especially loveless aros, who experience limerence! Limerence is typically viewed as a romantic attachment, but that's not always the case. Even aros who DO experience "romantic" limerence are valid too, of course. Limerence is very common in a lot of neurodivergency and personality disorders. It doesn't invalid anyone's orientation!

#aro #aromantic #loveless aro #limerence #neurodivergent #mod rock

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cluster b poc and indigenous folks, youre not the angry black/brown stereotype, your existence and reaction to trauma isnt any less legitimate than a white person with a cluster b disorder. you deserve to feel safe and understood like any one else would

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as an aro with npd, i feel like my internalized arophobia is reallyyyyyyyyyyy not helped by my npd because like. i have zero romantic attraction whatsoever, and zero ACTUAL desire for a romantic relationship, and i’ve been like that for like 6 years now. so i’m very confident in being aro, but at the same time, i feel like i’m weird or broken because of it. all of my favorite shows, despite being queer-friendly, treat romance like a cure to all ills. my dad accepts me being gay but when i tell him im aro he says it will probably change. so all i want to do is date someone…… but that’s where my npd doesn’t help because i so badly want to manipulate someone. i want to date them, make them have feelings for me, and i wouldn’t mind doing that. i wouldn’t mind pretending to have feelings for someone, faking all my feelings and interactions with them, just so i could tell others i have a partner to make them see me as cool, worthy, and queer enough. i will not manipulate someone like that because my moral code is strong enough, but i still wish i could. it sucks being aro with npd sometimes.

#this is really relatable wow #mod julien #NPD #aro #aromantic