cl0ckworkqueerness

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

as a child, my hair was long, golden, and beautiful. it shone in the light, it was the perfect amount of wavy, it could be styled in any way i wanted, and everyone in my family loved it.

everyone except me, of course.

i could never put my finger on why, but something about it didn't feel right. i didn't take good care of it, i always let it get in horrific tangles to the point where it would take HOURS just to get it to look somewhat presentable. not only was it painful on a physical level, but it was painful on an emotional level for a reason i wouldn't understand until later.

i would braid my hair, telling my mother it was so i could hide the tangles, but really, i'd wear a hat outside and tuck my hair into my hat, just like trixie from my favourite episode of fairly odd parents. i would put it in a ponytail so that i'd forget it exists if i couldn't get away with hiding it totally.

when my mormon father found out, he threatened to shave my head entirely. a thought i wasn't super opposed to at first, until he described it like something out of a horror movie. "i'll use a sharp razor on you", he'd say, "i'll shave all your hair clean off, you'll be ugly, you'll be hideous, you'll look completely bald. and who would ever want to be friends with a bald girl?"

threatened by the prospect of being alone forever, i settled to fake pride in my hair. it was beautiful, i told myself. even if it was inconvenient, even if brushing it hurt me, even if looking at it made me want to throw up, even if the idea of styling it to look "beautiful" made me feel uglier than i ever would be if i *did* shave it all off.

i was never allowed to cut it short. the only reason that would ever even be brought up was as a punishment, as a way to get me even further isolated from my friends than i already was for reasons unrelated. the existence of my long hair was the only reason i had any friends to begin with, i was told. it was the last thing keeping me from being ugly.

and what girl forced into girlhood wouldn't want to be pretty?

I'm so tired of seeing transmasc's suffering downplayed

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

this. all the way this

trying to define "safe genders" and "unsafe genders" (let's be honest, i shouldn't even say "gender", bc these types of groups still view the proximity of safeness of an individual's gender as "how much testosterone do we think they have in their body", but for these purposes i will) will always lead to exclusion and neglecting the safety of trans people.

trans women, and people these groups perceive as amab, experience this in the sense that they're always being watched to see if they are "trans enough". are they on estrogen? do they even WANT estrogen? how well do they know their own gender? how close are they to masculinity? are they comfortable with certain parts of their body that "aren't acceptable" for women to have, like facial hair or penises? are they ABLE to medically transition, even if they want to? are they "enough" of a woman to make cis women with unchecked transmisogynistic mindsets feel "safe"? if the answer to any of these questions is "no", they'll be distrusted at best, and outright shunned at worst.

trans men, and people these groups perceive as afab, suffer because of this, too, but in this case, we're being watched to ensure we don't ever become too trans. are we on testosterone? do we want to be on testosterone? do we have or want facial hair? do we dress, act, or appear in a way that aligns with the masculinity of a typical cis man? are we uncomfortable with being called a trans boy over a trans man? god forbid, are we transhet? if the answer to any of these questions is "yes", oftentimes we can be shunned from these groups, or asked to leave, or be called cutesy nicknames in order to make us feel more palatable to the transandrophobes in those spaces.

this also intersects with plenty of other bigotry, too. just to name a few examples:

racism and antiblackness. if someone is a black person with any perceived masculinity, those people are often profiled as "dangerous" and thus someone to be avoided and kicked out of the group. black trans people experience a disgusting amount of racism from the trans community, and groups like this (even if they claim to be inclusive) target black trans people at a startling degree.

fatphobia. think about how often people who are perceived as fat men get shit on, get called perverts or predators, etc. simply for existing. this happens everywhere, not just in queer spaces, but when someone is looking for a place with solidarity and support and they get called a "neckbeard weirdo discord moderator" or anything else, that completely defeats the point of having a fucking support group, doesn't it

transmedicalism, too. i don't have much to specifically say about this that i didn't already say or imply, but basically if you're determining whether or not a trans person belongs in a queer space based on if they have the funds and ability and family support and willingness to transition then you're just straight up a classist and shitty person. transness is not defined by someone's body, it is defined by the person and the person alone.

those are just a few examples. i could go on for as long as i can list every type of bigotry, but the point is, allowing this kind of behaviour to slide, even if you say it's "just cis men", even if you pinkie promise that your group is different and it's just an "ew men" thing and it's TOTALLY feminist this time, you cannot confirm who is and is not a cis man just by looking at them. your discomfort with masculinity is NOT contained to cis men, no matter how much you want to say or believe it is. unlearn that terf shit before it poisons your entire brain beyond repair. you are hurting trans people.

Like my big problem with the whole "NO CIS MEN" specific policy that's so socially enforced in queer spaces (not like you putting that under your nudes or whatever the fuck, but the specific fear and ostracization of cis men as threats in trans groups online and irl) is that that policy is necessarily and unavoidably going to target trans women.

Its going to target questioning and closeted girls who are looking for a space to crack their egg. It's going to target out and proud transfems and amab nb people who are looked at with suspicion as just "faking it" to get access to "resources" or in order to take advantage of and assault the "real queer people" who are always necessarily assumed to be afab, petite, and only ever capable of being victims instead of perpetrators of abuse. And it covers up and hides the actual abuse that takes place in these places because abusers in these spaces are going to be inherently looked at as innocent because they are not cis men.

You can bring along your cis girlfriend to the trans support group but if anyone dares to bring their cis boyfriend then they're ignoring others boundaries and endangering the group. This group is for "women and femmes" but if that femme has a penis or facial hair then their really just a rapist in disguise. Damn has anyone noticed that everyone here only knows about what testosterone does to your body but no one in the room can define what "anti-androgen" means.

I've seen this play out time and time again in my damn near decade of experience in this community, on and offline. And it's especially painful whenever I see another trans woman talking about how all cis men need to be kept away for everyone's safety because it just feels so "fuck you got mine." I was able to do the right make up and voice training and get on hormones early enough that I'm only viewed with a little bit of suspicion. But this is overwhelmingly enforced by afab trans and nonbinary people who think they're feminists cause they get mad when a man says "bitch" but will absolutely never question why they view people with vaginas as inherently safe and people with penises as inherently dangerous. I'm sick of it

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

Having your pfp show on your blog makes it so your header says "TERFs please can bully you"

gets the message across either way i think, thats funny tho

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

trans people, by our very nature, are "sexual".

there is nothing we do that is not claimed to be for sexual gratification. we cannot seek pleasure, or happiness, or relief, even of a sexual variety, without being claimed as a predator, or perverted.

we cannot exist without being accused of existing for a fetish. and that fetish is being ourselves.

trans people, by our very nature, are "violent".

we are sick, cruel people, and we are always doing and saying terrible things to the poor cis people who accidentally happened to wander into the wrong conversation topic, or who were just trying to defend themselves.

we are always the persecutors. we are always the executioners. every word we say could be spun as a threat, and even when they can't, our poor little victims can still blindfold themselves and pretend like we're acting out in violence, in a case completely uniquely horrible to them.

these are the areas in which transmisogyny thrives.

it's not exclusive to transmisogyny, of course, but that is what it feeds the most. transmisogyny is fear. fear of danger that isn't really there. fear and disgust.

to my fellow fighters for trans men, with whom i always stand, i ask you please to stand by the trans women on this site as well, especially now but always. transphobia is always present, and is especially present in tumblr staff, and what's going on right now is undeniably transmisogynistic.

i have also seen posts about how "transandrophobia truthers" are adding to this sitewide transmisogyny. this is not true, at least not in a broad, all-encompassing sense. anyone who truly cares about all trans people, as i do in my fight to bring transandrophobia to light, should care about this right now. if they don't, they never cared about us to begin with, either.

focus on the sick fucks who decided it was okay to hide deep transmisogyny behind both a corporate veil and a thin mask of innocent victimhood.

tell everyone affected that you're there for them. do not let tumblr staff get away with sweeping this under the rug, as they'll eventually try to do. be angry. to all the trans women, trans men, all trans people, all cis people, all people who care about the liberation from gendered discrimination, sex discrimination, gender roles, and anti-trans hostility of all kinds: we need to fight this, now. together.

how can we explicitly fight it? i don't know. but at the very least, if nothing else, then please offer your hand in solidarity, in support. being targeted by a site's staff can make one feel very alone, very isolated; if that's what the perpetrators want, we can't let them have it.

#transgender #transmisogyny #transphobia #tumblr staff #trans #gender

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

thinking about this: i don't know of anyone specifically who takes this perspective, but i sincerely hope there aren't people out there who think every single queer character (or hell, real life person) needs an explicitly defined label, said outright and with all clarity, in order to be "truly queer" or "good representation"

like... bro. speaking purely about setting and timeframe of a story, depending on when and where a story takes place, queer identity can be structured entirely differently, or not at all. queer culture, as you know of it, is just that: culture. it changes over time, it adapts to its environment, it can evolve into entirely separate things. and sometimes, those cultures don't necessarily need identities and labels that are clear-cut and worn on one's sleeve

hell, you could argue that enforcing those types of labels on anyone is completely ignoring just how complex human gender and sexuality truly are

someone doesn't need to explicitly say "i'm bi" for them to be bi. someone doesn't need to explain their entire life story as a child to "prove" they are trans. the display of queerness could be as simple as a woman holding the hand of her wife, her childhood friend, her affair partner to get away from her marriage with a man she was forced into. it could be as simple as the knight taking off his shirt and showing his chest wrapped tightly in bandages, explaining it away nervously as "just some terrible battle scars". it could be The Noble One, who dresses in a manner in which all traditional gender presentation is lost and The Noble One's body is obscured, and The Noble One shall only be referred to by the title of The Noble One.

queerness doesn't have to be outright stated to be just as real as the ones that do outright state it

besides, if you're so wrapped up in the fight for "good representation" then you're setting yourself up for disappointment. humans are flawed, humans can be queer, therefore queer humans are flawed. you don't need to hunt for palatable queerness, because you really only need to look just around the corner for queerness in general

and if you're worried that there would be debate on whether or not that person is actually queer, or what that queer person's identity truly is or would be, then you're focused on the wrong problems. those people would debate regardless of whether or not it was explicitly stated. and those people cannot erase the true nature behind a character or an individual, even if it wasn't intended by the author

#queer community #lgbtqia #queer representation #queer rep in media #rambles #sorry if thsi is worded weird im like this 🤏 close to falling asleep

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

hey. hey. look at me. not every m/w relationship is non-queer. a lot of m/w relationships are queer. there are a lot of ways to be straight/hetero and queer. being a dick about it does not help anyone. all it does is make transhet people and bi people and ace/aro people and other hetero queer people feel alienated. if the only joke you can think of is "man and woman kissing is bad and being gay is good!" you need to come up with a new joke

#this is about a random tumblr post i saw

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

the internet has polluted queer discourse to the point where actual queer people need to defend their rights to exist all over again because some people decided they wanted to be quirky or say a "hot take" that is literally just a very clearly uneducated opinion on why [insert queer identity] isn't "queer enough" actually, as if that has a fucking meaning

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

i want to make it clear that there is a difference between gender essentialism and "TERF rhetoric". gender essentialism can be used in TERF rhetoric, and much of what TERFs say does boil down to gender essentialism, however gender essentialism is used by many, many more people than TERFs. i'm going to explore how essentialism, specifically gender essentialism, is used and overused, and how it destroys all debate forums it touches

essentialism, by definition, is the idea that:

objects of interest can be categorized into a fixed number of groups

an object of interest must belong to exactly one of these groups, and its status in this group is immutable and inherent

because it is inherent, there must be some inherent qualities or traits of the object of interest that puts it in that group, and because it is in that group, it must have certain qualities because of its status

(notice that point 3 is circular reasoning, or to put it with an abstract example, "this thing has XYZ because it is in group A, and it is in group A because it has XYZ")

essentialism can apply to any number of things, and it is a highly simplistic view of any subject with very little-- if any at all-- room for nuance and grey areas. it's often used to explain complex ideas to people who are inexperienced, for example, explaining that "dogs are dogs" and "cats are cats", without explaining how dogs and cats may be related on an evolutionary tree, and that at some point, what became a dog and what became a cat were the same thing, nor does it explain the different varieties of canines and felines

in most cases, having an essentialist view of a complex subject is decent enough for someone to get a basic grasp of the concepts. if you pursue the subject further, then this view will be challenged and, with more in-depth and open-minded study, inevitably torn down. this is fine for most topics, specifically those that don't come up in everyday life, things that don't impact most people, and you don't need to think about on a regular basis in order to be a well-formed individual

however. where essentialism fails is in complex and ever-present subjects that do require regular thought. subjects like morality, human rights, and, of course, gender are examples of subjects that incorporate themselves into our everyday lives, especially for the people who do not benefit from an essentialist view of these subjects. ideas like "there are good and bad people and there are things that make people inherently good or bad" are textbook essentialism: moral essentialism, to be specific. cartoonishly maniacal and corrupt monsters don't actually exist in the real world, but in the minds of some (especially children, who are often taught moral essentialism for their own protection), there actually do exist mustache-twirling supervillains petting black cats in their giant swirly chair that are all in cahoots with one another. but viewing the world this way is not only inaccurate, it quickly becomes harmful as soon as the question of "what makes a bad person, bad?" gets asked. i would personally give the answer of "doing things that hurt people on purpose for no good reason" to a child. but the answer, to an essentialist, must be grabbed from an inherent, immutable trait (or set of traits) from a certain group of people. do you see how this could easily become a problem?

okay, i'm gonna finally bring this back to gender. based on everything, gender essentialism is the idea that people can be lumped into different categories of gender, and that people in different categories have inherent, immutable traits because of their status, and have their status because of these traits. i shouldn't have to explain why this is bad, but in case it isn't clear, gender essentialism is a reductive view of gender that does not allow room for the incomprehensible amount of variation and self-expression that happens within the human experience. it's basically using the logic of a child in the context of a large debate with professionals. it would be laughably naive if it wasn't so damaging

but far too often, talking about gender essentialism is exclusively confined to discussions of trans exclusionary radical feminism. while, yes, gender essentialism does come up a lot in this type of radical feminism, by no means is it the only ideology to rely on gender essentialism

their specific application of gender essentialism involves the incorporation of bioessentialism, or the idea that biological features of an individual (in this case, as it relates to sex from a perisexualnormative[1] point of view) mean that they have inherent traits and qualities about them, or that someone's sex itself is a prerequisite to fitting into either of the gender categories laid out by gender essentialism. this is especially damaging to trans people, as it means gender is based on sex and sex is immutable, and also to intersex people, who are categorized into one sex that may not reflect the actual nature and complexities of their sex, or of their identity. the incorporation of bioessentialism in this way has gotten trans exclusionary radical feminism a lot of negative attention, and for very good reason

however, many people choose to only tackle the bioessentialism, and ignore the gender essentialism, which is not only the underlying problem, but also pops up in so many different places with just as much harm done

gender essentialism is also found in those andrew tate-style radical misogynists who claim that women (or, specifically with the incorporation of bioessentialism, which is also incredibly common, "females") are inherently subservient to men because they are women, and that men are inherently superior to women because they are men. that men are inherently strong, and women are inherently weak, and that men are meant to work and get laid while women are meant to carry children and cook and clean. that anyone who does not follow this pattern is a failure, and may even deserve terrible things happening to them because of this deviation from the "traditional" norm

gender essentialism is also found in the radical feminists who hate all men, including trans men, and love all women, including trans women. it's found in the philosophies that claim that all women are inherently pure because they are women, and all men are inherently corrupt because they are men. that anyone who does not fall into a strict "man vs woman" binary must align themselves with one or the other, or that all people who do not fall into this binary are essentially "man lite" or "woman lite", or that they're all also inherently pure because they are not men

gender essentialism is also found in the teacher who responds to a case of bullying with "boys will be boys", or the ones that say "girls always gossip", or the ones that say girls can't show their shoulders because "boys can't control themselves" or that they "shouldn't look like a whore"

gender essentialism is found in the kids who get made fun of because of which aisle they play with toys from

gender essentialism is found in the idea that girls and women shouldn't do anything "gross" or "dirty" because that's what men do, and men shouldn't spend their time properly cleaning themselves because it's "gay" or "feminine"

gender essentialism is found every time you roll your eyes and go "ugh, men" or "ugh, women"

gender essentialism is everywhere, and ignoring it anywhere ignores the very real and very awful underlying problem that plagues gender discussion to this day

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[1] i... don't know if this is a word? i'm trying to convey the idea here of being perisex/endosex/not intersex, is "the norm" and that anyone who doesn't fall into that norm, i.e. intersex people, are somehow broken/in need of medical intervention, lesser, insignificant, or otherwise othered. i've tried looking for a similar term and came up with nothing, if anyone from the intersex community can help me out i would appreciate it a lot

#gender #gender studies #trans #transgender #gender essentialism

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

[trigger warning: mention of sexual assault]

the specific breed of queer queerphobia is just as if not more frightening than non-queer queerphobia, specifically in this case as it relates to acespec/arospec people (terms which will hence be combined into "aspec" for the sake of clarity, see the tags for a quick note about this)

if it's not already clear from my posts, i am very supportive of the silenced, erased, and shunned parts of the queer community. i involve myself a great deal in breaking down the walls that queer people have decided to erect in order to determine who does and doesn't get to call themselves "queer". nothing breaks my heart more than seeing other people who experience the world in a way starkly different from perisex, allosexual, alloromantic, cisgender, heterosexual people, get shunned from a family who also experiences the world in such a difference way, simply because it's not different "enough", or not different in the way they want to be different

aspec people will always unquestionably be queer, regardless of anything else that would or wouldn't make them queer. period.

aspec people should not and should never need to "justify" themselves to attend pride, not just "as an ally", but as someone whose relationship with romance and sex (the act) differs from what is expected of a "normal" person. they are inherently different, they are inherently queer. full stop.

aphobia exists, regardless of whether or not you follow your blatant bigotry with "no it doesn't". you cannot erase your shittiness by following up your shittiness with "by the way, I'm not being shitty". and if you know you are being aphobic, and you are proud of such a thing, rethink the way you see queerness as a whole. you are a vile human being, and should unlearn the oppression olympics. you not only are an athlete in it, but you are the obstacles. you are the fucking problem.

aspec people regularly face discrimination and harassment for being aspec. the comments of "why do you refuse to give me grandkids" and "maybe you just haven't found the right person yet" and "you're broken" and "you're going through a phase" have all been said about gay people, about lesbians, and about aspec people. aspec people face violence for being aspec. aspec people face corrective rape for being aspec. aspec people face crocodile tears claws that intend to "help", aspec people face blood and claws that intend to hurt, aspec people face real, visible hatred. and even if they weren't "oppressed enough", WHICH THEY UNDENIABLY ARE, 1) there isn't an oppression goal someone needs to hit to become valid, and 2) queer people should not be defined by the oppression we face, anyway.

"b-b-but what about cishet asexual people!!!" i have never seen a sentence less scary in my life. cishet people can be queer, you know? cishet people can be intersex (if they choose to identify as queer), cis people can be asexual and aromantic, pericishet people can in fact be demisexual and heteroromantic, and guess what? they're still queer. they still differ from what's "normal". they're still allowed to pride, because pride is not meant to gatekeep.

pride is meant to celebrate our differences, to fight against those who try to suppress us, and to unite those who feel crushed by the heel of normality.

so don't fucking do their job for them.

#not gender related #asexual #aromantic #acespec #arospec #aspec #acephobia #arophobia #aphobia #note: #i don't know when i saw this or if this person was being serious but i saw someone say that ''aspec'' is actually used to refer to the #autism spectrum and should not be used for ace/aro people and instead should be replaced with acespec and arospec? #as an autistic person who is autistic in such a way that makes it literally impossible for me to mask this is absolutely stupid. #i have NEVER seen this used for autistic people however i HAVE seen it been used as a ''correction'' for ace and aro people seeking #community and support from one another. #i don't know if that's still a thing people say but just in case anyone does: No

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

gender critical theory would be so fucking funny if not for all the real harm it's caused

it's essentially the gender studies equivalent of believing in the flat earth or that humans psychologically cannot have any thoughts that are not related to food or sex (the act). it's like going up to a microbiologist and saying "erm.... actually........ germs aren't real because i can't see them". it's like asking why the government can't just print more money to get out of debt

just straight up closing your eyes and saying gender isn't real and that only sex matters, or that sex inherently and immutably determines gender, is such an immature shamelessly malinformed approach to discussions of gender that it's actually kind of funny in a very morbid way that this is the perspective that's getting some of the most attention when it comes to discussions of gender

it's like giving a middle schooler with a D in biology the primary speaking role at a convention of high-level biology researchers. absolutely comical

#if we turn them into clowns we get rid of their power

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

oh and also both of these women are in love for those of you keeping score. these are MY hypothetical women and I get to decide if they kiss each other

gender to me is far more than just "man" or "woman" or "both" or "neither" or "secret third thing" or whatever else. someone's gender cannot and should not be described with one word alone

explanation: think of two women for me really fast. one of these women is a butch, super strong and presents in a relatively masculine way, maybe she ties her hair up, maybe he also uses he/him pronouns for himself, maybe you'd find her most happy with a flat chest or even wearing a packer / having a penis, while still being undeniably a woman

now imagine the second woman as someone who's more interested in handicrafts, who wears softer neutral-toned dresses and jewelry, with their hair tied up in a fancy arrangement. maybe they want to be cottagecore, maybe she's a nonbinary woman, maybe she takes hours to put on makeup every day because that's what makes her most happy. also undeniably a woman

these two are women, but saying they're the Same Gender is... pretty misleading, isn't it? saying someone is a woman says very little about their gender, their desired expression, etc. this is why categorizing gender with one-word boxes fails: chalking these two up to just being "women" loses so much of the nuance that comes with being human

because these two hypothetical people are very different, but they're still both women

same goes for anyone else with any other descriptive word. because that's really what words like the ones listed above are: adjectives, not immutable categories. the second we lose sight of that is the same second we lose sight of what makes humans different, both from other species and from each other

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

gender to me is far more than just "man" or "woman" or "both" or "neither" or "secret third thing" or whatever else. someone's gender cannot and should not be described with one word alone

explanation: think of two women for me really fast. one of these women is a butch, super strong and presents in a relatively masculine way, maybe she ties her hair up, maybe he also uses he/him pronouns for himself, maybe you'd find her most happy with a flat chest or even wearing a packer / having a penis, while still being undeniably a woman

now imagine the second woman as someone who's more interested in handicrafts, who wears softer neutral-toned dresses and jewelry, with their hair tied up in a fancy arrangement. maybe they want to be cottagecore, maybe she's a nonbinary woman, maybe she takes hours to put on makeup every day because that's what makes her most happy. also undeniably a woman

these two are women, but saying they're the Same Gender is... pretty misleading, isn't it? saying someone is a woman says very little about their gender, their desired expression, etc. this is why categorizing gender with one-word boxes fails: chalking these two up to just being "women" loses so much of the nuance that comes with being human

because these two hypothetical people are very different, but they're still both women

same goes for anyone else with any other descriptive word. because that's really what words like the ones listed above are: adjectives, not immutable categories. the second we lose sight of that is the same second we lose sight of what makes humans different, both from other species and from each other

#gender #gender studies #humanity

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

no, i am not "exempt" from a "worse" kind of oppression. no, i am not "exempt" from facing violence and vitriol and deep hatred simply for being trans. trans people should not be fucking defined by the hardships we face anyway. we should be defined by nothing but our own words and no one but ourselves

gonna make a whole post about this later because it deserves way more than just a one off post about "haha so this sucks right guys?" but i fucking HATE the labels "TME" and "TMA" and if you use them i'm going to assume you have a lot of internalized transphobia and/or you have nothing of value to add to actual in-depth discussion of trans issues

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

gonna make a whole post about this later because it deserves way more than just a one off post about "haha so this sucks right guys?" but i fucking HATE the labels "TME" and "TMA" and if you use them i'm going to assume you have a lot of internalized transphobia and/or you have nothing of value to add to actual in-depth discussion of trans issues

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

not discourse related whatsoever just something that's interesting to me

i honestly think it's really obvious that a lot of autistic people like myself would be trans, given my interpretation of gender. autism gives me a hugely different perspective on the world compared to allistic people, and it means i see pretty much everything different. and if gender truly embodies the perception of the self, then it only makes sense that autistic people won't view their gender in the same way an allistic, cisgender person would

in a similar way, being autistic for me personally means less of a desire to "fit in" in the same way an allistic person might, even an allistic trans person, allowing me to explore much more of my identity than just "i'm a man" and leaving it at that. it allows me to not only develop a more in-depth sense of self, but also to develop a theory about humanity as a whole

(of course being autistic also sucks because i have to deal with chest dysphoria AND sensory issues stemming from my chest but that's besides the point lmfao)

these are just my experiences, too: it blows my mind to imagine, with the vastly different points of view different autistic people can have, what that means for them as well. like, these are just my experiences, imagine what other people experience (if you have anything to add please feel free to i'd love to hear)

#trans #transgender #autistic experiences #actually autistic #autistic trans #trans autistic

[cl0ckworkqueerness]

See an exorcist

this is so funny to me because you could have said anything, like "therapist" or "priest". but you chose an exorcist of all things

anyway the demon possessing me is so chill his name is frank and they're agender and making out with me rn. sorry you can't have what i have