#this shouldn't be controversial

[faithfromanewperspective]

you know I love calling out hierarchical, exploitative, abusively conservative beliefs and behaviour but today a snippet of a podcast (bare marriage if you're curious) made me realise just how alone and traumatised and ashamed and unable to connect with yourself you'd have to be to even think half of these things are okay? you would genuinely have to know no better, have felt no better yourself. and that is a tragedy. for one, because no one should experience that. for two, we have a whole generation of society all around the planet basically, if not several generations, for whom this is normal. for three, the damage that gets done when you don't even have the compass for better. and finally, because so much of this stems from Christianity. the very religion where God wrote themselves into the story in order that humanity could experience the kind of love that fully sees you and validates you without pretending not to see your faults but going to a great length to love you in them, love you the kind of way that opens up your eyes and your heart and changes you so you can do better. and yet, so many people seem to think they have experienced this while being the exact same kind of depraved as before? it hasn't sunk in, has it? those who need it the most cling to it so tightly but don't let it seep in fully, don't let their hearts be softened and take the steps towards healing and we all suffer for it.

#punk christianity #progressive christianity #this shouldn't be controversial #but i think the crisis is emotional awareness #and ofc this does not discount mental health services #i'm more referring to the people who think they're above those too #which they absolutely are not and they absolutely need #and that's why i think yes we can call it out. but we can't get rid of a bunch of shitty traumatised people #so we have to look deeper. see them worthy of love (though doing detestable things to those who also are) and act accordingly #silver bridges #strategies to save the world i guess #decolonise christianity

[the-guilty-writer]

This is a not-so-gentle reminder that when you use the small text it makes your content inaccessible to people with low vision, visual processing disorders, dyslexia, migraine, etc.

Aesthetic is cool. Accessibility is cooler.

#spencer reid fanfiction #criminal minds fanfiction #the guilty controversial writer #this shouldn't be controversial #I could go on and on about this

[thebirdandhersong]

infidelity arcs make me want to cry. like my dude. you're MARRIED. what are you DOING. "but it's sooo dramatic! it's so angsty! it's so exciting because it's forbidden!" you know what ELSE it is? IT'S WRONG

#i know this is a bit of a controversial take in hollywood. but maybe you shouldn't cheat on your spouse

[stopthatfool]

Consistently shocked by the idea that people think Bradley Rooster Bradshaw is chill and laid back. He’s actually shockingly unchill. He is the opposite of chill. He did not inherent any of his parents chillness. He’s a loser who’s too invested in everything.

Like ya hi I’m Bradley "Rooster" Bradshaw and I cut off my remaining family, surrogate father, and support system for 15 years cuz he pulled my naval academy papers because he didn’t want me to die like my biological father and because my mother wanted me to be free of the navy’s confinements and to exist outside of a system that physically uses me for their own power and political gains— gains I will never experience and feel for myself. A system that sees me as no more than a number, a soldier, something easily replaceable, as a body to be sacrificed in a war that i did not start nor will i finish.

“Bradley's chill.” No he’s not. He’s a beast. He’s a 30 something year old man whose entire purpose revolves around holding a grudge and proving his surrogate father wrong. This beast who literally said this to his surrogate father— "No wife. No kids. Nobody to mourn when you burn in." Beastly. Ghastly thing to say. 15 years and he still hates the guy who's been there for him since day one. He’s a guy who refuses to even begin to understand where Mav was coming from or to even think of what his mother wanted. He’s evil. And I love him.

Hi I’m Bradley "Rooster" Bradshaw and when someone brings up a well known, easily accessible fact that my father and surrogate father used to fly together I will try to cause physical harm against them and my friends will have to physically hold me back. I’m Bradley Bradshaw and I was willing to put my entire career on the line (the one in which I put my family aside for) so I can attack and beat this guy up.

I love his big ol’ Bambi eyes… he’s evil and fucked up and he’s not chill. Yes he wears jorts and tropical shirts, but that just means he’s gay and a fucking liar. Just cuz he looks like some surfer dude does not mean that he’s actually laid back like one. He’s lying to himself— trying to convince himself he is something that he is not and never will be. He is unchill. He’s lame. He has undiagnosed anxiety and it physically expresses itself through anger and loserly-ness. He cares so much to the point of self sabotage. He will always be unchill, no matter how much he tries to change that fact.

Y’all ever want to cradle a grown man in your arms? (graphic design is my passion)

#comic sans #is this controversial #debated about posting this.. i've been sitting on these thoughts for a hot minute... but i gotta share #also this isn’t a call out to anything/one specifically. like i mean this. i just felt like making fun of him. #it's mostly just an excuse to talk about him and make that stupid photo #i shouldn't have access to photoshop #also not saying that hangman was in the right in that scene #just saying that if Bradley were actually chill… he would’ve reacted differently #like sure bradley's chill about what coffee he drinks in the morning or if lunch plans change #but he’s unchill about everything else #top gun maverick #top gun #top gun rooster #bradley rooster bradshaw #he's so annoying i lub him #bradley brad bradshaw my beloved #stopthatfool's adventures with photoshop #computer now riddled with blurry pngs #fuck it posting this

[lunamond]

Genuinely insane to me that there are Targ stans claiming that the Targs, an incestuous family of former slaveowners of a colonial empire, came to Westeros and were corrupted by the evil eViL Andal culture and religion.

Like what??? The Andals and the faith of the seven are absolutely not without their own systemic issues (nor are the first men) BUT to argue that the rulers have been corrupted by the people they conquered is INSANE.

#anti targ stans #hotd #a song of ice and fire #anti targaryen #show!danys girlboss moments anf hotd really rotted peoples brains #like maybe the incest bloodmagic slaver people using wmd are NOT good people #this take shouldn't be controversial

[hindahoney]

If you're like "yeah of course I support Jews!" But your support stops at regular Israeli civilians, even children, who died in a terrorist attack, you don't support Jews and you're fine with us being murdered when we're at a coffee shop

#literally just regular people #youre fine with jews being killed just say it #yeah i know im opening myself up to some bullshit here #but im tired of seeing innocent people killed and wanting to speak about it but then #i have to ask myself 'but thats controversial to say' #it shouldn't be controversial to say i dont support anyone dying in terrorist attacks #jumblr #judaism #jewish #frumblr #oh and if youre a jew who thinks this way dont even fucking talk to me

[queeraliensposts]

If y'all don't believe that transmascs experience misogyny let me tell you something that happened recently.

There was a post that was essentially making fun of "pick me gays", where they were saying that "I don't watch rupal's drag race, I don't like being called "gurl" and I don't do *insert stereotypical gay activity"". And in that post I commented that some people don't like being called "gurl" or "girl" because it makes them dysphoric and you shouldn't label them a "pick me" because of it. The responses I got for that comment were SO hostile for the sake of my mental health I had to delete the comment. Some people even tried to PURPOSELY trigger my dysphoria.

In that same post a cis man said that he prefers men who are masculine and he shouldn't be shamed for his preferences, and EVERYONE agreed with that.

If you don't see the hypocrisy IDK what to tell you.

#for the record I don't think people shouldn't have preferences #as long as you're not INSULTING people that don't fit said preferences there's nothing wrong with that #I also prefer mascs but I'm not gonna insult fems for being fem #what I am saying is that if someone saying 'please don't call me this' is more controversial to you than “I'm not attracted to these people” #you need to check your priorities #I have more right to my boundaries then you have to your dating preferences #this just proves that in a bio essentialist society people will be offended by those who are percieved as women setting their boundaries #if you are offended by a trans man saying “please don't call me girl” but you're not offended by a cis man saying “I prefer mascs” #you have some transphobia and misogyny to unpack #lgbtqia #trans #ftm #transmasc #gay #trans men #transandrophobia

[coochiequeens]

Common sense is returning.

James Crisp, EUROPE EDITOR 13 April 2024

Dr Hilary Cass said children who think they are transgender should not be given any hormone drugs at all until at least 18 CREDIT: Yui Mok

Belgium and the Netherlands have become the latest countries to question the use of puberty blockers on children after the Cass Review warned of a lack of research on the gender treatment’s long-term effects.

Britain has become the fifth European nation to restrict the use of the drug to those under 18 after initially making them part of their gender treatments.

Their use was based on the “Dutch protocol” - the term used for the practice pioneered in the Netherlands in 1998 and copied around the world, of treating gender dysphoric youth using puberty blockers.

The NHS stopped prescribing the drug, which is meant to curb the trauma of a body maturing into a gender that the patient does not identify with this month.

In Belgium, doctors have called for gender treatment rules to be changed.

Research into impact

“In our opinion, Belgium must reform gender care in children and adolescents following the example of Sweden and Finland, where hormones are regarded as the last resort,” the report by three paediatricians and psychiatrists in Leuven said.

Figures from the Netherlands and the United Kingdom show that more than 95 per cent of individuals who initiated puberty inhibition continue with gender-affirming treatments,” the report by P Vankrunkelsven P, K Casteels K and J De Vleminck said.

“However, when young people with gender dysphoria go through their natural puberty, these feelings will only persist in about 15 per cent.”

The report was published after a 60 per cent rise in the number of Belgium teenagers taking the blockers to stop the development of their bodies. In 2022, 684 people between the ages of nine and 17 were prescribed the drug compared to 432 in 2019, the De Morgen newspaper reported in 2019.

Pressure is also building in the neighbouring Netherlands to look again at their use. The parliament has ordered research into the impact of puberty blockers on adolescent’s physical and mental health.

Dutch protocol

The Telegraph understands that the Amsterdam Center of Expertise on Gender Dysphoria, where the protocol originated, is set to make a statement on the use of puberty blockers next week.

“I too thought that the Dutch gender care was very careful and evidence-based. But now I don’t think that any more,” Jilles Smids, a postdoctoral researcher in medical ethics at Erasmus University in the Netherlands, told The Atlantic.

Attitudes in the Netherlands have hardened against trans rights, with a bill to make it easier for people to legally change their gender being held up in parliament.

The Cass Review said that the NHS had moved away from the restrictions of the original Dutch protocol, and researchers in Belgium have also demanded those restrictions be reintroduced.

Belgium is regarded as one of the most trans-friendly countries in Europe. A minister in the government is transgender and people have been able to legally change their gender without a medical certificate for the past five years.

But the hard-Right Vlaams Belang party is currently leading the polls ahead of national and European elections in June.

It has called for “hormone therapy and sex surgery to be halted for underage patients until clear and concrete research has been carried out.”

‘Greatest ethical scandals’

In March, a report in France described sex reassignment in minors as potentially “one of the greatest ethical scandals in the history of medicine”.

Conservative French senators plan to introduce a bill to ban gender transition treatments for under-18s.

On Monday, the Vatican’s doctrine office published a report that branded gender surgery a grave violation of human dignity on a par with euthanasia and abortion.

Finland was one of the first countries to adopt the Dutch protocol but realised many of its patients did not meet the Protocol’s strict eligibility requirements for the drugs.

It restricted the treatment in 2020 and recommended psychotherapy as the primary care.

Sweden restricted hormone treatments to “exceptional cases” two years later. In December, Norwegian authorities designated the medicine as “under trial”, which means they will only be prescribed to adolescents in clinical trials.

Denmark is finalising new guidelines limiting hormone treatments to teenagers who have had dysphoria since early childhood.

In 2020, Hungary passed a law banning gender changes on legal documents.

“The import and the use of these hormone products are not banned, but subject to case by case approval, however, it is certain that no authority would approve such an application for people under 18,“ a spokesperson told The Telegraph.

In August, Russia criminalised all gender reassignment surgery and hormone treatments.

#Belgium #Netherlands #cass review #Using caution when giving children hormones shouldn't have been controversial in the first place #Dutch protocol #Amsterdam Center of Expertise on Gender Dysphoria #Attitudes haven't hardened against rights for trans people the public just wants a common sense approach to the issue

[the-mcyt-crackships-brackets]

Also just a heads up, sorry if anyone submitted them already but we won't take any submissions for Wilbur Soot or a canon variation of Wilbur Soot, and everytime you will ask for him, it will be counted as one submission for shelby shubble

#after the controversy we really don't want to associate with that guy anymore #like to hate to the ones who were fan before we can understand why is character was appealing #but we shouldn't support him even with dumb ships #mcyt crackships bracket #admin speaks

[cxanthos]

*ahem* For the love of GOD The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes is not a love story.

People who interpret it as one...why? Did we read the same story?

#coming back to this blog with some spice #even though this shouldn't be a controversial opinion #argue with a wall #seeing all these edits like 🥺 poor coryo lost his love #do not infantilize him #he is a villian #and i love him for it #and you can ship him and Lucy #im not hating on that #but when it comes to the canon material ... i just lose my mind a little #coriolanus snow #lucy gray baird #the ballad of songbirds and snakes #tbosbas #tbosas #thg #the hunger games #sam is losing their sanity

[owlcracker]

omg 😭😭😭 seriously how do you fuck up this bad. the first one is so frustrating because how is his robot eye crying 💀 I always hated the way they drew matt it just frustrated me so much

#ty for sending these in they are amazing 🙏🙏 #i live for slandering this comic because the whole thing is just so bad...... #obviously they wanted to do the end style but it just looks so bad 💀 #how was this comic approved by eddsworld #reminder to my followers that u shouldn't support this comic because it is very controversial there's a tumblr acc where u can read abt it #👍👍 #ty for asking!!!!!!!!!!!!

[queerstudiesnatural]

#some of these shouldn't be controversial tbh #like s7 IS good #sam IS queer #misha collins is NOT hot #(sorry that's mean if you find him attractive good for you and good for him <3) #rain posts #polls #spn #supernatural

[queenlucythevaliant]

Usually, even a non-Christian knows something about the earth, the heavens, and the other elements of this world, about the motion and orbit of the stars and even their size and relative positions, about the predictable eclipses of the sun and moon, the cycles of the years and the seasons, about the kinds of animals, shrubs, stones, and so forth, and this knowledge he holds to as being certain from reason and experience. Now, it is a disgraceful and dangerous thing for an infidel to hear a Christian, presumably giving the meaning of Holy Scripture, talking non-sense on these topics; and we should take all means to prevent such an embarrassing situation, in which people show up vast ignorance in a Christian and laugh it to scorn. The shame is not so much that an ignorant individual is derided, but that people outside the household of the faith think our sacred writers held such opinions, and, to the great loss of those for whose salvation we toil, the writers of our Scripture are criticized and rejected as unlearned men. If they find a Christian mistaken in a field which they themselves know well and hear him maintaining his foolish opinions about our books, how are they going to believe those books in matters concerning the resurrection of the dead, the hope of eternal life, and the kingdom of heaven, when they think their pages are full of falsehoods on facts which they themselves have learnt from experience and the light of reason? Reckless and incompetent expounders of holy Scripture bring untold trouble and sorrow on their wiser brethren when they are caught in one of their mischievous false opinions and are taken to task by those who are not bound by the authority of our sacred books. For then, to defend their utterly foolish and obviously untrue statements, they will try to call upon Holy Scripture for proof and even recite from memory many passages which they think support their position, although "they understand neither what they say nor the things about which they make assertion."

St. Augustine, De Genesi ad Litteram, emphasis mine

#listen. i know some theistic evolution proponents like to point to this text and try to claim Augustine as one of ours #and i know that's disingenuous #he was writing in the fifth century for crying out loud #what i AM saying (and what many who mire discerningly point to this text are saying i think) #is that it's important to consider the how Christian knowledgeablity and intellectual honesty is viewed by the secular world #for every YE creationist proclaiming that the fossil record is unreliable #there's someone with knowledge on the subject scratching because they know that's simply not true #and subsequently writing Christianity off as a religion of dogmatism and ignorance #now listen. this isn't to say that Christians shouldn't hold controversial positions regardless of what the world says of them #but if you're going to hold those positions around secular folks who may be open to the gospel #you had darn well better think about how you're representing Christ and His Church #that's how I read this passage #and I see it as a serious warning to anyone (me) who wants to talk about Scripture and the mechanics of the natural world in the same breath #all truth is God's truth #pontifications and creations #these tags are riddled with typos but fixing them would be a real pain sorry

[existennialmemes]

US Presidential Election 2024:

Fascism: And we'll be really excited about it!

Or

Fascism: But we'll be really remorseful about it.

#leftist #us politics #leftist memes #I'm not interested in choosing between genocidal fascists #a statement that shouldn't even be controversial #and yet #gestures vaguely #to the US #Trumpers and VBNMW folks do not interact #or do so i can block you

[mermaidsirennikita]

k saw these comparisons on Twitter so I'm cribbing a lil here to be clear but I'm not saying that the Bride special edition cover... and to be clear, Bride IS a different book, it is not as dark or as carnal as Hunger (though it does have darkness and it is pretty carnal at points, it's just that it can't really beat Lachlain chasing Emma down in the woods and making her ride his face in the mud before he mounts her from behind in literal beast mode) but like...

These are both books about alpha werewolves forcibly paired with seemingly weak and fragile vampire heroines they consider the enemy, with mating bond scent stuff, and while I personally find the Kresley werewolves to be much more WEREWOLFY, the Bride werewolves are arguable more wolfy, because they do actually transform into wolves and have knotting

so I just need to know how we went from one flavor to the other.

people of the jury, would you ever guess that the second book pictured has the dialogue "you smell like you just came; I need to eat you out"? on the other hand, does the dialogue "do not run from one such as me; you will not get away and we like it" fit the first cover? because I think it does

(and also, I will repeat, we all have our opinions, but the level of detail that went into these two covers just can't be compared; Leni literally did the same face on the guy on the Next of Kin cover, whereas you can literally see homeboy's fingers digging into her flesh in Hunger, and the mood is conveyed PERFECTLY)

#sorry sorry this is just one of the most irritating romance controversies ever #and then when you bring a book like a hunger like no other into it #and a cover like the hunger cover #romance novel blogging #people are defending these covers and the trend and the artist's response like their lives depend on it #when they would NEVER (and shouldn't) do the same for an author giving the same response to critique #and i do just think that because it's PNR #because you can very directly compare it to the iconic hunger cover #(which i own thank you secondhand bookstores) #because in some ways you could point to bride as a 21st century response to 2000s-era PNRs #the camel's back did break lol

[chirpsythismorning]

There’s something sort of patronizing and damn near infantilizing about the way stans (specifically stan twitter), will take something that isn’t that serious, or even is very serious, and will twist it as much as they possibly can, for pity and engagements.

I remember when that lie detector interview with Millie came out last year, and toxic stans of hers made it their mission to accuse the guy in the video of disrespecting Millie, when really it was all a bit? They were rushing to make posts saying, “this is so messed up! she doesn’t deserve this!!” And it’s like?? Are u guys serious rn??

And then there’s all that fucked up shit that happened with that grown ass man who groomed Millie and how a lot of hardcore stans of hers were making plot-twist edits with that horrid ig live he did??? All of that shit blew up and went beyond what it ever should have, and part of it was because a lot of those same toxic fans were out there low-key promoting a very private matter, for clicks???

Right after this happened, she deleted all of her old instagram posts (I think she’s returned recently), and still doesn't allow herself to be tagged in anything (again mostly hardcore fans there), and it’s pretty obvious to me that it's because at this point, not only does she have to watch out for people that hate her for no fucking reason and who actually mean to harm her, but she ALSO has to avoid so-called fans constantly acknowledging all the negativity surrounding her, for attention, with the guise that they support her.

Because like, do we seriously think she deleted all those sentimental posts from her past, to spite people that hate her?? No she did it to punish the so-called fans. That's the place where they could connect with her and she made a boundary that she couldn't let them into her life like that anymore.

Fans took something very serious, like as serious as it can fucking get, and were making it about stan wars. Anyone and everyone who makes one joke or one comment needs to be called out and brought down. Like it's just so obsessive and unhealthy and I get that a lot of these kinds of fans are children, and so there isn't much anyone can do. But still, it's ridiculous.

I support the notion that we should be calling out harmful behavior/language. But it eventually gets to point where it's like, what even is the point? Is there a point anymore? Or are we just speaking to speak, when no ones even saying anything? Are we seeing one negative comment and blowing it out of proportion as if everyone is saying that, to gain pity? Because it starts to get ridiculous.

In reality, people are gonna say what they want. Everyone with access to internet has the affordance of posting shit anonymously without any repercussions. That’s unavoidable. And these same people aren’t going to just be enlightened by someone calling them out. More often than not people like this want to upset others in the first place. They want a reaction. And so by constantly acknowledging their existence, and fixating on it, we're giving it to them.

And now ever since Noah has come out, we're sort of seeing something similar happening with him.

While he is getting unwavering support from a lot of people in his comments, there's undeniably a disgusting amount of homophobia being thrown at him as well.

And then somewhere in the middle of that spectrum, we have people making jokes, INCLUDING Noah.

And yet, the tag has suddenly went from unwavering support (as it should), to obsessing over any and every post/comment/joke that can be interpreted as somewhere between sarcastic, uninformed, mildly offensive and downright offensive, and we're acting like it's the end of the world.

There's no denying that all of this is overwhelming. It's a lot. And I don't blame people for speaking up when they truly feel that it's necessary. It's only natural to get defensive when you think someone is being wronged/harmed and you want to do what's right.

But again, to what point is it truly necessary to keep bringing attention to every single thing we come across that falls somewhere on that spectrum near negative?

Right now this space is filled with the negatives, even if it's coming from a good place. Do we think that Noah or Millie or any of the cast want to have to be confronted with negativity from all directions, even from the people that claim to just be fans trying to do the right thing?

It gets exhausting.

And now we're just seeing this stan twitter behavior create one big mess of delusion, with toxic Millie stans calling Noah a white sexist misogynist because he liked a TikTok referencing his coming out and the homophobic Millie meme?...

Is Noah only allowed to be open to unwavering support right now? Can he not make light of the situation, or are we just imagining that he's sitting there victimizing himself because of any and all of the negatives being thrown at him, that are never going to go away, no matter what he says or does? Because I honestly think that's the opposite of what he's doing or would even want to be doing.

And same with Millie, I don't think she sees anything and everything happening to her, and everything anyone is saying, and allows it to bother her anymore. Because how could she?? That kind of shit drains a person of their sanity.

Noah is out here not only liking TikToks joking about his coming out, he's still liking byler edits, still commenting on fans posts with a lighthearted positive attitude. He even mentioned Will in his post, so obviously he doesn't mind people making some comparisons between him and his character.

And yet here we are dwelling on everything negative we can get our hands on.

It's important to realize that the cast has seen the worst of the worst. And you can see that it's affected them. You can see they went from fairly public public figures to almost entirely private public figures, only interacting with fans when they have to, because they know a good portion of the trauma they experience comes from the fans themselves who just don't understand boundaries and common sense.

The most delusional aspect of all of this is that toxic stans are 100% convinced Millie and Noah hate each other... like they fully believe this lie they've told themself based on videos they've seen of them? Like they genuinely think they know her better than she knows herself I guess???

Now, I do want to say that I understand partly where these fans are coming from. Millie has went through absolute shit with this fandom. And it's mostly because she herself is known for saying stuff that causes people outrage. Whether it's a joke or a comment, that clearly just came off the top of her head, they'll flip it to something negative and use it as ammo to hate her. She doesn't deserve that. And I know a lot of her fans are coming from a protective place because they're so used to people hating Millie for no reason.

But even still, I don't think they realize they are a part of the problem themselves. And we are too whenever we allow ourselves to focus on the negatives, letting it practically consume us.

That sort of shit can make a person feel hopeless. 1 negative comment can outweigh 100 positive ones. And so imagine that by a scale of about a billion?

Again, I know a lot of fans mean well, but if you just take a moment to think about it, like really think about it, you'll realize that your energy would be much better directed elsewhere.

Instead of making dramatic intense posts that focus on all the negativity, BE THE POSITIVITY! Be someone that actually makes our community redeemable. Because again, we're no better than the worst of the worst if we're giving them all the attention, making the very people we're claiming to be supporting and defending, even more miserable.

And don't be surprised when s5 promo rolls around or any other event involves Millie and Noah interacting in a public forum, where they'll inevitably make jokes about all of this, arguably just as offensive as the ones we're getting worked up over right now

#stranger things #noah schnapp #millie bobby brown #tiktok #byler #i feel like this is controversial but it really shouldn't be #dude i remember when people were joking about mike looking at angelas boyfriend during the rink o mania scene #and milkvan stans on twitter were full serious #you’re shipping Mike with El’s abuser #who is shipping who? what?? like can we not just exist and talk about things without it being the most serious take on the planet?? #or during noah's live recently he kept getting questions asking if he was friends with millie/the other cast or if they hated each other #and it got to a point where he was like #what is this? millie is my friend i'm friends with all my castmates #you guys are jut always trying to find the tea or stir the pot when there's nothing there #it's all just drama for the sake of drama and it's no wonder they don't interact with fans anymore #don't even get me started on bylers who get really condescending at random comments millie makes in interviews #it's not that serious i promise you #not to mention a lot of this stuff happened when they were kids so kids saying whats on their mind and being ripped apart for it is so? #gross #remember your online experience is whatever you want it to be #set boundaries with yourself if you have to #lord knows the cast is