#only mutuals should interact

[stuffedsand]

innocent voting kazui every day is not enough i need a gun

#LISTEN #hes silly and deserves an inno vote #also like #idk man i wouldnt blame him for wanting to conform to society #esp since hes like. a different generation where discussion around not being straight was not as common i dont think #esp not in asia! it still aint common here #but yea i think the silly old gay man should be innocent voted cmon guys #kazui mukuhara #milgram #also reminger that you can vote once a day cuz god have i been doing that #also sorry my dear mutuals i have literally only been rbing milgram these few days whoopsies #ill go reblog smth else later but also inno this cat for me ty <3 #i love interactive fiction but i dont want mahiru to die <3 #anyways extra thing of the birthday TL convo???? sir that so fruity???????? you dont say that shit to a friend cmon #oh also like. idk as much as he was wrong for proposing to his wife not much he can do to change that #he knowwws we dont have to tell him #i rather im be unchanged than have a dead person yk #anyways sorry again mutuals im insane #came out of “i dont make original posts” prison for this

[cinnamon-phrog]

A mutual reblogged a pr*ship post and their dni is now neutral. Unfallowed. Bolcked.

#see if i joke i don't CHOKE. on my tears. because this just keeps happening #i'm so scared to interact with mutuals for this exact reason #most i've made have either left me. became toxic over minor differences or become a degenerate. #which is sad because i really enjoyed this friend and all those friends before they or i cut ties #but this kind of shit is unforgivable to me. i've had bad experiences with a friend turning out to be a pr*shipper #everyone flocked to me to fix their traumas but i had talked to that person often. it hurt a lot. they harassed people who harassed them #i was only 15. and i was threatened but what the hell is a sheltered kid SUPPOSED to do back. i wasn't taught shit #people in their fucking 20's were trauma dumping to me in dms and sadly still go to me when they catch wind of this person- #'i need support' you need to get offline. please. just block and ignore. i'm tired. #i should not have had to be babysitting adults and older teens when i didn't know what half those words were at the time. #months ago i did something stupid when i was at my limit and mirrored the pettiness i saw. i was told i would drive someone to suicide. #over saying the person was a bit mean and bringing up some posts i thought they made #i did apologise when i got it wrong. but got threatened with the person possibly killing themselves in my inbox. #this person and the pr*ship person were famously at eachothers' throats #i do not stand by the pr*ship persons' actions. their opinions on the other person were honestly right though. the only thing i agree with. #once again i complain about proshits and gatekeeps. the two are almost as bad as eachother to me #or at least two awful sides that have affected me and my ability to make friends online. #so that's what this remined me of.

[yutaleks]

Hi aleks, sometimes I feel like, no one wants to connect on this social media site? Idk. The like to rb ratio is depressing. I mean, I’m grateful that people are liking my posts. But like. I wanna hear what they think too, ya know?

not sure if you are a writer im guessing from the wording of this ask that you are. but I think it's a bit hard these days to get the level of interaction that you may be asking for

depending on what fandom youre in or what character youre posting about or what trope youre writing etc etc the size of the audience will change. like I already know in my mind if im writing something that is more geared towards stereotypical heteronormative relationships that will get much more interaction than something that is subversive. or if im writing a fic for a popular character that will get much more interactions than a not so popular one.

But at the same time, coming from someone who used to write for a very popular character, I have to say that the grass is not always greener? As in, I think there is a difference between quantity and quality of interactions. If im writing something that I know a core base of people who follow me will like, I know I will most likely get at least some sort of interaction from people who typically enjoy that content. I find that interaction to be more meaningful, especially if it's something I enjoy talking about. vs, if I write something with a bigger 'audience', perhaps there will be more reblogs but the back and forth interaction does not happen. that person will read the fic, reblog or leave a comment, and then be on their way. It does not create this relationship where you end up having a back and forth conversation or becoming mutuals or anything like that (at least, in my experience).

Like if I post a fic that EYE enjoy, and I get ten comments from lovely people, that means more to me than a hundred interactions on a fic I didn't put my whole dick into. ya know?

idk where im going with this. I guess I wanna say if you are passionate about something, and you receive even a few bits of feedback, that will feel so much more rewarding than trying to 'chase' the feedback by writing things you think others will enjoy. and I think too that people will be able to tell when you are writing something that you feel passionate about.

im of the opinion that you can't force people to reblog and interact with your work. ive seen every excuse under the sun for why people wont reblog. but I think if someone feels as passionate about something as you do, they will overcome whatever shyness they feel to come tell you that they appreciate what you are doing

#idk if what I said makes any sense but #I think coming into Tumblr as a writer its okay to want a better rb to like ratio but don't feel discouraged #there is a lot stacked against you right now #no one that I know uses the tags anymore cause they are full of spam #so sometimes the fics that appear on the dashboard are just mutuals reblogging each other. and as a newbie those circles are hard to get in #so someone with no writer mutuals and no following... their posts wont be seen by anyone with significant pull/reach #I would say that I think 'bigger' writers on here should at least try every once and a while to peek into the tags and boost writers #that are new / starting out and making genuine efforts to write #I wont explain but I think when you've been on here long enough you can tell who is posting in the tags for 'Tumblr clout' and who I postin #fic bc they genuinely are passionate about it #but I know most writers on here only read whatever they see on their dash #if people actually stopped spamming the tags with nonsense and the tags were more useable I think we would all use them more... ironic #anyway. I personally always try to reblog fics with comments and check the tags every once and a while for fics to read #I think that is best practice for writers but I know not everyone does that... #in the same vein #i think if you put effort into being a good reader consistently. writers with larger followings will notice / want to be mutuals and help #boost your writing to the dashboard #writing fic is a community that takes genuine effort to grow #TLDR: be a good reader and reblog fics and interact with writers. write things that come from your heart. interactions will follow with tim #*time #long post #ϟ asking aleksandria

[itspileofgoodthings]

me to Nina yesterday: explaining how due to a headache and exhaustion I wasted away the end of my afternoon just watching Ryan Gosling interviews

Nina, instantly sympathetic: and I completely understand that, a valid thing to do

#the thing about Nina is that most of the time she not only hates my coping mechanisms she also plain doesn’t understand them #one of the many tensions of our relationship #but she was just 100% like yeah. I fully get it #and it made me feel so much better #my relationship with Nina the work of a lifetime because the moments of mutual understanding are so rare #but so powerful when they happen. and it takes years to discover that sudden gold #(my mom is often so troubled by our relationship. she’s just like (whisper voice): do you guys even like each other) #because we’re just SO sparks fly (antagonistic version) in many of our interactions #and it’s just like. YEAH. We’re just going to have an intense altercation and clashing of opinions viewpoints values and perspectives #at least every other day. LOL #but we will navigate it! #no one on the planet I smooth things over with as fast as Nina. it is lightning-speed reconciliation #because we both move on so quickly in the same way. in that the mood will just lift #we got in a fight the other day. Nina left and stormed out. 10 minutes later I get a text going #‘I’m sorry Maria. I should not have said that about your mother’ #which made me laugh because we weren’t fighting about our mom. She just likes to quote Jacqueline from ever after sometimes out of context #and my mom was on the couch watching me like ‘you’re reconciled???? It’s over?????????’ #because my mom a) is so different from both of us in the speed she processes in and b) has no sisters #0 sisters. 4 daughters. and she still isn’t used to it lol. because my mom’s strength and weakness is that she never gets used to anything! #ALSO Nina told me the other day that I’m the one that taught her to apologize because I would just make her do it when we were kids #not to me but to other people! I would just sit there and explain how verbal acknowledgement of wrongdoing would make things better #and she was always like ‘ughhh I hate it so much. FINE’ because she always does want to make things better #anyway this SHOOK ME TO MY CORE. Because I never thought Nina actually internalized any of the things I’ve said to her ever lol #and she was like ‘yeah you gave me that good habit’ #(I love apologizing. Love to put it into words and I have an intense need to do it immediately and thoroughly) #(tbh it’s only with time that I’ve come to see that other people do not work that way. and need more time. and are not just — #instantly comfortable putting everything into words especially the hard things) #(because it’s not like I’m always driven by more charity and compunction. I just ducking HATE unresolved things not put into words) #(so it helps me feel better. and sometimes you just gotta learn to not say it right away if it’s only going to make things worse #(or learn to say it in different way without words. that actually communicates the sorrow. And that can sometimes look like giving space!)

[wyrm-with-a-why]

Anything emo I said/say over the next week ignore that shit I’m on my period

#I literally just started freaking out like I’m such a boring person #but then I realized why #ignore the vents and shit it should be over in a week #depression isn’t real only period #I probably won’t be interacting on sad/edgy posts for the week cuz ill overreact and cry #sorry mutuals I swear ily I’m just a baby

[catboymitosis]

I hope I'm your mutual you don't give a fuck about. I hope you feel nothing when you see me in your notes. I hope you can never be bothered and keep forgetting to block me. I hope you deactivated. I hope we both deactivate.

#no deeper meaning to this other than i think this would be a funny mutual dynamic to have #they should invent divorce procedures for people you only interact with on social media

[primowishes]

//Personally I think ppl should be more chill with just hard blocking ppl. Get away from the idea that it's some moral condemnation or even than it means that the blocked person did something upsetting or anything like that. Morally neutral action.

Like I'm not saying "your friend upset you so you can just block them out of nowhere and they aren't allowed to be upset" obviously. But if I see someone who mildly annoys me that I simply do not want to see, whether on my dash, in my follower list, or in the tags? Who tf cares if I block them? "They didn't do anything bad enough to block them over" who tf said they had to? It's enough to simply not want to see or interact with someone.

#ooc #it's why i hard block instead of soft blocking #aside from memory issues (i don't want to unfollow and unknowingly refollow them) #like i decided that i didn't want to interact when i blocked them and i'm unlikely to decide otherwise so??? idk why i would only soft bloc #ppl can feel whatever way about it like they have the right to feel upset by it and all #but is it THAT more upsetting than breaking mutuals in general? and why SHOULD it be if it is? #dumb cultural aspect of social media the ideas that ppl have over blocking

[janesociety]

can i ask what’s like the rule of thumb when it comes to tagging your mutuals in events/celebrations? should i ask before tagging someone? is it rude to tag someone i don’t interact with a lot? idk how to go about this😭😭

#like should i only tag people i’ve had like specific interactions with?? #is it weird to tag someone i haven’t interacted with much?? #i feel like i have so many mutuals i never interact w but would really like to #is it weird to tag them? #i’m probably overthinking it #janie rambles ⋆｡°✩

[magnusbae]

I occasionally like to remind that I follow only very few people but I am always open for interactions and asks regardless of us being mutual or not 💞💖

#I get very easily overwhelmed by my dashboard haha #I mostly follow people who post very little and or tag meticulously #honestly my following really has nothing to do with anything #believe me I know people who regularly interact me by icon and name #and whenever I see a familiar icon leave a like or tags in a reblog im like ahhh here you are <333 #i know there's this decade old stigma that you should only really interact with mutuals but thats so not true #so theres that yes #buns.txt

[sojirosteacup]

*my country's drama fandom wondering why our new wave of kdrama fans focuses only on the wholesome romances and ignores/doesn't see heavier/serious themes even IN the dramas they watch and fetishizes Korean men like they are perfect kdrama characters despite not many current dramas having perfect male characters to begin with*

Me: *remembers the twitter fandom two years ago policing people who watched morally bad™ and toxic dramas, creating a category for Bad Cringe dramas you can't talk about unless it's to criticize or make fun of them and calling people abuse apologists for liking villains, morally gray characters or toxic™ ships* damn, I wonder why

#i know this is not the only root of the problem #there are lots of middle aged women getting into dramas and becoming koreaboos #and our country has a big problem with literacy #but the local fandom is part of the problem too #they would accuse people of being abuse apologists for liking stuff like strong woman dbs #and debate if was morally right to like a character every time a new drama came out #fuck you guys #you made your bed now lie on it #they probably still do this btw #idk bc i don't interact with the fandom since 2021 after a mutual said meteor garden fans should get abused #and it got at least 3 likes before i said fuck this shit and deleted my acc #discourse #probably gonna delete later #btw i'm not north american this is not about american kdrama fandom

[hartmannyoukaigirl]

thinking abt this one interaction i had w my aunt where i said that i was involved in alot of drama and met rlly horrid ppl online and so she went "ooooh so thats why you say you hate people! of course online people are terrible!" ...compared to the actual angels irl who instead of being manipulative and hypocritical took the direct way of, yknow, physically bullying me and stealing my stuff and making even the teachers turn on me. yes. wow. what a difference. it's like im in hell comparing between torture demon #1 and torture demon #2

#idk chief i think religion and ethnicity has nothing to do with it maybe #the human nature is to be the biggest most entitled rudest narc i think #no bc this ultra religious girl who used to have the quran memorized and all was the one stealing my stuff. girl ? ? ? HUH #hypocrisy is one of the biggest sins in islam too lol like lmao 💀💀 not even joking it is a huge deal #yeah sure they were kids but i was too and i didnt deserve any of that so they should kill themselves actually + never forgiving that #i dont understand how children stupidity can lead to personal bitter bullying like huh??? and why did their stupidity seem to affect only #me? #eitherway #idk point is i love tumblr and talking w mutuals and the silly interactions here and lowkey wish 99 of all people ever to die and go to hel #sorry for the vent ish post i never do this i prommy

[lakesparkles]

I wish I was more... used to Tumblr? Like, I basically only enter here to check if there are new posts on tags I follow, see my notifications and to post, but I don't interact or see other blogs much. I'm writing this here to motivate me to change it and spend more time on here in general!!

#I have so many cool mutuals here and I'm so sorry I never interact with your posts #I think my big mistake was to make two seperate blogs for art and reblogs #I should have only one #it would be easier #but now it's too late ig

[alildritten]

Y’know. I’m in the middle of writing a scene with two important background characters that I’ve never put together before in a scenario.

… Let’s just say I now have a new favorite duo out of my characters for this story.

#the names are gemma and blaze for those that now (only my mutuals) #*know HECK #the story is called crystalline and no it is not found anywhere i should post stuff of it #i should also get back to writing haha #poor blaze is just trying to interact like he normally does and everyone is just being so awkward #hes just like. ‘‘hello nice to see you how are ya’’ #‘‘uh. decent? …’’ #‘‘.. wwweeeEEELL. MMKAY NICE TALKING TO YOU’’ #but its a little bit more awkward silence than that #he evens mentions it to gemma and shes just like ‘‘oh sorry…’’ and blaze doesnt know what to do #mentions they keep apologizing and shes just like its only been 3 times??? #that is 3 TIMES TOO MANY IDK WHAT YOU WANT ME TO SAY EVERYONE IS BEING AWKWARD TODAY IT FELT LIKE MORE #hehe poor guy ive literally just explained the entire scene im writing #well #also ive learned i love having blaze do this little ‘‘wwweeeeEELL!’’ just because #that is now a part of his daily speech. no one is surprised when he does it again #leaving a room. ‘‘wwweeeEELL! It’s been fun. ima head out’’ #everyone says goodbye to him. he is the main character of my background characters #actually. he IS the main character. just not the one the story follows #anyway ive rambled on now ima continue writing AAA-

[grimmjowjaegerjaquez]

Remembering the brief period in my life when i was obsessed with ashido, the only filler character with rights bc kubo originally planned to include him in the manga but had to cut him for time

#bleachposting #maybe its time to think about him again since i think about arrancar and hueco mundo so much #maybe its time to make him interact with the rest of them super begrudgingly #hey soul society we found one of your guys living in our basement. yeah he couldnt figure out how to leave. yeah for like 100 years. #do you want him back or. #listen i think hed be kind of upset to see how many parallels he has with the arrancar #wrt being stuck in survival mode for so long and trying to figure out how to be a person again #like can you see it. can you smell what im saying. #and also more frustrations he tries to ignore regarding his zanpakuto still not telling him its name #and it wont until he kind of. accepts some things about himself. #also maybe he should have cool fights with them and gain a mutual respect. listen. im right. #i remember wanting to make an rp blog for him #and it did exist briefly but i was so nervous about it #i dont think i ever advertised it on my other blogs. does it still exist?? did tumblr ever nuke it?? i cant remember the name #anyway during my brief obsession with him i projected on him super hard and made him trans. why? because. i could. #will i keep him that way? probably. just in a different way. #he hasnt had to deal with normie societal expectations in a long ass time. gender is whatever to him. thog dont caare. #he may have been holding onto the duties of a shinigami as a last straining tether to his sanity but like. that shit is going to snap. #its just a matter of when. and only THEN will he be able to move forward i think. instead of just being stuck the way he is. #like yeah he is literally stuck since shinigami cant make gargantas. but he is also metaphorically stuck. see it writes itself. #APPARENTLY HES IN ONE OF THE LIGHT NOVELS AND TRAINS A BABY CIEN?? THATS SO CUTE WTF

[fangaminghell]

It would be hilarious if Erin thought Flynn was younger than her. Like she doesn't know how or why she ever came to that conclusion but she just assumed it! It doesn't help that I imagine Erin is pretty tall, even without the heels ( maybe that's why her and Imani became such fast friends. They both are the tallest among their friends/j), and Flynn is a shorty.

And then when the two finally start talking to each other ( since they have seen each other multiple times before this and yet they never really talked to each other), and at some point Erin slips that she thinks Flynn is younger ( which again is hilarious because this is Erin we are talking about), and Flynn just goes " huh? I'm 19. How old are you," and Erin's brain just short circuits. I don't know why this is so funny to me, but it is.

Erin: ......I'm 19.

Flynn: Oh hey, we're the same age....wait you thought I was younger?

Erin: ......yeah.

Flynn: .......Erin, we've seen each other so many times-

Erin: I KNOW-

Erin made Flynn swear to not tell anyone, especially Imani. She will not hear the end of it.

This might be a little ooc of Erin, especially since I doubt she would have that big of a reaction, but it's funny.

#i'm contemplating if i should have Erin and Flynn know each other since childhood #obviously not personally. their worlds are far too different for them to interact #but maybe the library was their safe space? a mutual hiding spot even if they didn't knew each other #i can imagine Flynn appearing less and she gets older due to her parents constantly pushing for her success #which meant they didn't really give her enough time for herself #so trips to the Library wasn't as often as she wanted it to be #only up until she got to Axis High where she finally got some more freedom #though by then route 9 was her go to spot due to less people #so yeah #oc: flynn 🌺 #pokemon rejuvenation

[starswallowingsea]

Every single one of those posts that tells people they should at least reblog some of the stuff they like has the replies FILLED with people saying that you can't tell anyone what to do and like. yeah i guess there's always been lurkers on here but like. you realize the people saying this are doing it because they love the culture on this site and don't want to see it taken over by people who refuse to engage with content in a meaningful way.

you don't have to reblog every single thing you like (and hell since reblogs are now something that can be turned off, sometimes you cant) but like. you should reblog some things. whether its memes or fanart or fanfic or informational posts or whatever. you could also try to start a gimmick blog that posts a specific type of content and you can utilize the tags to get out there since plenty of people do check general tags on this site. you can also have side blogs if you want! which can be themed around specific things! this is also a super common thing!

you're new here so you're still feeling things out and trying to get your foot in the door so just start reblogging content and following people. i know some of you are looking to gain a big following really quickly but tbh growth on this site is incredibly slow so you have to be patient and you have to put in the effort to get real people interested in following you, and your reblogs can say a lot about you

#like its so weird to me that some of you are soooooo adamant about not reblogging things like what do you get out of this #if you want to make friends on here people have to think there's a real person behind the url #and being a blank blog is not going to inspire confidence in other users #and i need to reiterate that you dont have to reblog every single thing you see but you should reblog some of it #i get followers sometimes who have reblogs going back like two years but there's only like. 10 reblogs total #which is also something i dont understand unless they have smth somewhere saying #they use a sideblog as their actual main which also happens sometimes #shout out to eri and reede who ik have done this #its just so baffling 2 me conceptually like i get being nervous but u just gotta jump into it #once you start interacting with content you'll find other users who will follow you and interact with you #and then you can make friends and mutuals! #also you dont have to be mutuals w someone to reblog something from them #im mutuals with maybe a fourth of my followers and like 60% of the people i follow im not mutuals with #and i still reblog from non mutuals and my followers who arent mutuals still reblog from me and thats FINE #thats how things SPREAD #tumblr is an active social media site. you have to put in the effort to enjoy your time here #shay speaks #ok2rb