#of men losing their families

[cherrytraveller]

sorry that i've deprived you all of a wip preview, anyway; deity-fies your local bad future mystic magic nuke

#wip #rottmnt #rottmnt mikey #future mikey #once again failing the 'dont draw f!mikey crying for once' challenge #im sorry he's just so great to dramatify #the one with the most heart....carrying all the grief and rage #something something the violence it takes to be this kind #SOMETHING SOMETHING MIKEY BEING THE SPIRIT OF WAR #of slaughter you ask? the spirit of war tactics and strategies? of murderous victories? of warmongering triumph? #the spirit of war is a tragedy #the spirit of war is grief of mothers losing their sons and daughters #of men losing their families #of wailing children wandering battlefields lost in the carnage #the spirit of war is ravaged homes and plundered people #its the cries for mercy and waning hope and tearful terror #there is no glory in this spirit #only grief. only rage. how dare you call upon it #sorry i went on a tangent #i have like. all this handcrafted lore of my F!Mikey that i havent dropped on any of you yet #so i might look a bit unhinged #[SHAKES VIOLENTLY IN PLACE GROWLING AND FOAMING AT THE MOUTH LIKE A FERAL CHIHUAHUA] #okay im normal again #<- lying

[wasyago]

old men

#i dont know anymore guys #didn't know what clothes to give finn so he's just wearing whatever #a family can be an old guy who lost his wife but not his passion for living. a pirate who spent half his life in prison and is scarred by it #and another old guy who doesn't remember himself or those around him and slowly losing grasp on life #and their three traumatized children. a panda. the fourth traumatized child. a little boy they kept on the ship. the ship. #the riptide crew is so funny. why are three of their people pensioners. #hopefully when they save arlin he will also join the old men polycule #technically he was already in it. they just weren't old..... i need to listen to the blackrose oneshot eugh #jrwi riptide #jrwi earl #drey ferin #finn tidestrider #my art #sketch

[suffarustuffaru]

so i talked a bit about reinjulisuba on this blog in the past like in this one ask but now ive made a quick and easy diagram summarizing their whole deal <3

#rezero #re:zero #natsuki subaru #reinhard van astrea #julius juukulius #arc 5 spoilers #THE REZERO BOY DRAMA IS INSANE 😭😭 they are so mentally ill knwdjdnd #reinjuli having not one not two but THREE brain chemistry life altering first meetings is fucking insane #julius is always cursed to have the worst first meetings of his life with random twinks #and julisuba being so stuck in astrea drama is so horribly funny 😭 theyre honorary family members at this point #THEN THERES REINSUBA BEING FREUDIAN….. #im never not losing my mind over them #i need to make a diagram with otto included in it also bc it gets EVEN WORSE… #rezero boy drama is crazy as always. theyre all deranged in different directions. i hate these men #reinhard knowing that reid is Like That and never telling/getting the chance to tell julius is the cherry on top 😭😭 #i need a 100k slow burn reinjulisuba fic STAT. im begging on my knees #also julisuba being into each other but also reinhard (platonic or romantic) but also admitting OUT LOUD that reinhards a monster. im crying

[s0fter-sin]

09 soapghost au, ghost was a member of soap’s unit before roba and they were together until he was taken. when he comes back and takes up the ghost mantle, simon riley is declared KIA and the hope that soap had let kindle in his heart that he’d come back to him dies. he throws himself into training, into becoming captain so he won’t let down another soldier the way he let simon down

then he recruits ghost to the 141 and ghost sees how much he’s changed, how much harder he is; slow to smile, never relaxing and he realises how much he fucked up by never reaching out. he’d thought he’d be better off without him, without the shell of the man he used to love but he’d done nothing but hurt him

after the close call with shepherd, soap wants to get right back into it, wants to hunt makarov down for almost getting his sergeant and lieutenant killed and ghost is yelling at him to just take it easy and heal first when soap snaps back, “i can’t lose anyone else! not again!” and ghost just rips his balaclava off, showing his face for the first time in years…

and soap says nothing. he just looks at him, completely unreadable. ghost clenches the balaclava in his hand, waiting for anything; even injured, soap can still pack a mean punch and he’s waiting for it, almost hoping for it… but he still does nothing. just stares

“well? c’mon!” he growls, stalking in closer. “let me have it! tell me how pissed you are! that i left you alone! that i ruined you the moment i touched you! that you regret ever fucking looking at me! scream, shout, say something!” until he’s leaning over soap’s chair, chest heaving

soap’s hand lifts and ghost can’t help his flinch before planting himself, ready to be struck, longing for it, to be punished the way he punishes himself-

soap’s hand gently cups his cheek and he freezes, breath catching as his thumb caresses the snake bite scars on his lip; feather-light and reverent. just like he used to

“you’re as beautiful as the day i lost you”

#i am not immune to the romantic scene of all time ft mr stoic how to train your dragon 2 #og soap is Young for a captain #like even if we arent given a canon age hes still like 30s maybe 40s if were pushing it #i dont know a lot about military shit but that seems young to me #so just soap who let himself become cold and focused everything on forcing himself to be better faster strong to protect everyone #until he finds himself as a captain of his own elite unit #handpicking men #and if he loses a single one it will be unequivocally his fault bc he chose them to be here #even ghost #this man that has no history beyond a few years of military service #no name no family even getting his blood type out of him was like pulling teeth #but sometimes #sometimes his complaints ring just a little too familiar #the way he holds himself tugging at his memory #even the way he idly flips a knife when waiting to be called in to interrogate someone #he doesnt dare to hope not when hope has never gotten him anywhere before #but then ghost takes the balaclava off and his walled off heart beats anew #coming out of my cage and ive been doing just fine.txt #we’re a team. ghost team #talk to me ghost #soapghost #ghostsoap #john soap mactavish #simon ghost riley #ghost cod #soap cod #ghoap #09 soapghost #09 ghostsoap #save post

[autumnwoodsdreamer]

Boba Fett 🤝 Sabine Wren 🤝 Din Djarin

Going through an unbelievably traumatic past, losing your family, getting cast out, throwing yourself into bounty hunting, but ultimately finding a new family and choosing to be good and kind despite everything

#boba fett #sabine wren #din djarin #the book of boba fett #star wars rebels #the mandalorian #was thinking about what little boba went through in clone wars (sent to prison? with hardened grown men? at 11??!?) #and that linked to thinking about sabine (all that stuff that happened with the duchess and the acedemy? yeah. she was like 14) #aaaannd that led to din (little din losing his family at like 7?) #and yeah it hardened them. they all ended up bounty hunters on their own (for a while) #but they found family and friends and they care? poetry. it’s poetry

[teflar]

All this struggle to get Yashiro to accept him and to accept himself is wearing him thin. Let it go, there’s no more you can do Doumeki.

#I think that’s why I took such a long break from this man he’s #I couldn’t and I still can’t see how they can reconcile in anyway that is meaningful #saezuru tori wa habatakanai #I love Doumeki deeply but I have felt that meeting Yashiro and falling in love with him is probably the worst thing that happened to him #especially after what he went through with his family #perhaps they can waste ten or twenty years and meet again when they are old men with nothing to prove or lose

[dramarants]

Wanting more homoeroticism in the tension between the show’s leads as the narrative introduces greater intimacy and higher stakes between them, especially in a landscape that lacks queer representation who isn’t a villain or dies within one or two episodes, but also recognizing that core values/motivation for these characters lie in their relationships with one of two major female characters in an on screen sausage fest where the only other woman is a morally reprehensible femme fatale and erasing and/or vilifying female leads in favor of conventionally attractive males is a common practice observed in fandoms that’s rooted in misogyny and justified under the guise of rejecting heteronormativity, thinly veiled double standards, or claiming the woman is simply not interesting enough and not wanting to bolster that mindset

#the worst of evil #you know who’s not interesting enough? haeryeon!! bibi’s acting the hell out of her and slaying while doing it #but idk anything besides she’s willing to subvert her dad for dick and values money over everything else #and also she’s hot which is great for me!! but also the male gaze #and I also get it - we don’t know much about euijeong in her limited screen time besides her relationships to junmo/kicheol #but she is given so many traits that are silently conveyed like compassion and bravery and sacrifice #she brought a fucking gun to her date with kicheol like the conflicts and motivations here are SO JUICY #her exasperation guilt and despair with the investigation; esp after listening to the voicemails #what’s the self respecting thing to do; do I still love my husband if he loses himself; can I continue a game I never wanted to play #at the cost of my life or my family’s life? #even though a lot of her choices are for her marriage she’s using whatever agency she has in her own terms #kicheol works to be an honest man and make a difference partly bc of her #not trying to place the burden of fixing men on her but ignoring her impact in the boys’ lives is wild #ship whoever you want hate whoever you want but don’t deride a woman just cuz ‘she’s in the way’ ya know #all this being said; kicheol bringing junmo home after he RAMPAGED seemingly on his behalf - literally who else is doing it like them #the yearning all around - I get it now; we need gangster mob!throuple to get any shit done around here (and for all 3 to stay alive 🫣🙏) #but the reality next week is gonna be so so bitter

[solradguy]

This isn’t Johnny discourse but it is kind of discourse about the discourse about him balding (which he isn’t).

What would it matter if he took off his hat and he was a shining beacon?? The dude canonically fucks (well not canon-canon but I feel like there’s implications of fucks-ing)!! At the most, he would be a Pitbull reference and that would be cool because good for Daisuke. Listen to Timber by Ke$ha (feat. Pitbull).

It kind of felt like they were making jokes at the expense of people loosing hair. It’s like that thing where you shouldn’t make fun of people for ‘X’ because then your friends who ‘X’ will know you think that about them.

John E is cool. I think he’s lame but he’s cool.

-A concerned Jellyfish Pirate

Idk anything about Pitbull, to be honest, but my GOD does he look like he's having the time of his life in the Timber video hahah Been a while since I heard that song...

Anyway, Johnny totally fucks. There's no way a man that toned, running around shirtless all of the time, with that slight yeehaw accent, couldn't find someone DTF with the tiniest bit of effort. He's absolutely gettin it rofl He could still get it if he was bald too, or receding.

I've complained about it on here a bit already, but yeah I don't think people making fun of Johnny because they think he's losing hair realize that a lot of people in real life are going to lose their hair as they age, and their jokes at Johnny are also jokes at these people. It's not even just an issue cis men can have either, everyone's hair thins with age, some just more (and sooner) than others. To make fun of someone, fictional or otherwise, for losing their hair is digging a trench to fill with future self loathing at one's own hair loss. And hair loss in >2023 isn't even that bad anymore!! There are so many ways to manage and style it now.

Johnny's a babe. Big fan of his "dad trying too hard to be cool but is actually somehow still really cool despite that" energy

#asks #Among the death threats I got on Twitter for the Brisket <3 meme 1 year anniversary post were a bunch of transphobic insults towards me too #And at least two of them were insults about how I was gonna go bald because I'm a trans man lol #I felt kind of bad for the cis guys that left those comments because all the (cis) men in my family were hairy bastards well into old age #T on its own doesn't just make all your hair fall out. It follows genetics just like naturally produced T does #Some trans men will lose their hair and some won't. I probably won't until I am VERY old #So them making fun of me for that told me that: 1. They're very afraid of losing their own hair #2. They think everyone else is afraid of losing their hair too (or that everyone thinks it looks ugly. Which is untrue) #3. They think that trans men are especially susceptible to hair loss #I've had a mohawk for about 7 years now. I am very familiar with the shape of my skull and wouldn't mind just going full bald #When it gets that thin and I decide to buzz it off I'll be sad about it for sure. But it absolutely will not be the end of the world #I'll go full Rob Halford haha Going bald is a non-issue #Unrelated but I love Johnny's EN dub accent in Strive so much because 'watered down yeehaw accent' is the only accent I can do well lmfao

[mikesbasementbeets]

weird vibes in here, bro

#the first one sorry i'm losing it #that scene hits me more every time i watch it... mike tells el she doesn't need hair (boy coded) that she's still pretty (nancy coded) #says he's happy she's home (family/my-parents-will-adopt-you coded) then leans in to kiss her and dustin bursts through the door with #GUYS #men mike. boys. GUYS. #mikesbasementbeets posts

[mummersblade]

I wonder if Sansa never mentioning/thinking of Old Nan across all the books goes in hand with her inability to comprehend things for their ugly reality, reverting to pretty songs and the ignorance they signify instead.

Meanwhile the other Stark POVs are all thinking of Old Nan's stories as recent as ADwD. Arya recounts her stories about Hardhome when apprenticing with the HOBAW and providing information about the wildlings, Jon thinks about the ice dragons from Old Nan's tales, and Bran likens her stories with the ones shared by Bloodraven.

Old Nan contextualizes their settings. Arya thinks of her stories about Harrenhal when she is imprisoned there, and Jon thinks of her stories when he tells Ygritte about Queenscrown being named from Queen Alysanne on her visit to the Wall, and the same place for Bran and the Reeds. What more, Old Nan prepares them for monsters and magic.

Old Nan's stories (as remembered by Bran, Arya, and Jon) are brutal and terrifying. They are of frightful and oft forgotten things. They memorialize that which others may wish to forget. Juxtapose this to Sansa, who does not once think of Old Nan or recall any of her stories, despite her obvious love for 'the songs.' Clearly Sansa only cares about the romantic, happy songs, or at least the ones that make tragedy pretty. The naive ones that never confront the ugly side of things; not the Others, not the North far beyond the Wall, not the magic of the First Men, all of which the other Starks are connected to one way or another by ADwD. Sansa, who represses and revises and romanticizes (see: the unkiss, Arya as the sole source of blame for Lady's death, poisoning Robin), cannot fathom the horrors that are due to arrive in all their apocalyptic doom, which is another reason why she is entirely unqualified to have any leadership role in the face of this enemy. It's in the same vein as Arya's crypt story with Jon scaring the young kids; Sansa's instinct is to run from the supernatural.

#I should make a compilation of old nan's stories cause going through the searches for this brought up a lot of good ones #arya knowing about hardhome from her but also the titan of braavos eating highborn girls #arya knowing that in winters old men go off to die alone from their family to give food to the younger generations #jon thinking of the ice dragon speaks for itself lol #Bran and his experiences with the magic of the distant north related to Old nan's stories #canonbran #canonarya #canonjonsnow #asoiaf meta #rambles #asoiaf #I'm losing my mind over this now tho like Old Nan has been preparing them for their magic and their fight against the Others #because they LISTENED

[menalez]

no one will ever convince me that divorce is bad after i saw how happy my mom was after her divorce. She has new hobbies, goes to metal concerts, is so much happier. All the men yelling that divorce is bad because their parents got divorced when they were 13 anf they got depressed from it. well. Have you tried growing up. You werent a toddler when ur parents split cmon. Your mother is a person too and she shouldnt have to give up her entire life for you

my parents got divorced several years ago while i was doing my bachelor's and tbh id rather they are divorced rather than forced to remain together for the hell of it. id rather the divorce rate is 100% than one woman being forced to stay in a marriage shes unhappy in

#in my country they literally ruled against women initiating divorce bc they claim women are too emotional and irrational.. #ive seen 2 close women in my family have to go thru so much abuse and lose so much just bc they couldnt divorce their abusive husbands #abusive men use these laws to their advantage. they use it to get whatever they want out of women #one of them cant even see her children. her abusive drug addicted husband who doesnt even spend time with them has custody simply bc hes a #man*

[fortes-fortuna-iogurtum]

sometimes you read something for a fandom you were crazy over years ago and you encounter one of the ships you loved back then and you just think “yeahhhh…. this is still great :) way to go younger me you were so based about this actually :)”

#anyway I still care a lot about Obitine apparently #their respective commitment to their respective ideals and moral codes… the way they love each other more than life #(literally. they’re so willing to die for each other.) #and yet that never leads them to violate who they /are/ or who the other person is #Satine is willing to never see him again rather than ask him to leave the Order. he is willing to leave the Order all she has to do is ask #they are able to rest in their love for one another bc they know the other loves them in such a way that they would never ask #for their compromise #idk this makes very little sense it’s 2 a.m. I’m delirious I have church in the morning but I wanna rewatch some Clone Wars now #hfhfhfhhdhdhdhehdhdhdhfbbdsjsjfhfj #gurt says stuff #edit: wait actually this is so funny—bc I just realized that Din Djarin and Obi-Wan are quite similar in a lot of ways #so the parallels here are incredibly funny to me for some reason. the Kryze women just have a Thing for reserved men who are #completely devoted to their religious values and would do practically anything for their adopted family huh #(ftr I don’t know if I ship DinBo or not but I do understand the appeal and I am open to the possibility of the writers play it right #still bitter about losing Cara tho. bc I was SO curious to see how Misters Filoni and Favreau were going to develop that #n I had a vague suspicion based on my knowledge of how Filonis brain and stories work that ~something~ may have been meant to happen there)

[kareenvorbarra]

hmmmmm ketil anime backstory bad

#it adds nothing to the story and interferes with his character progression imo #the point of ketil is that nothing that bad has happened to him until now. he's done everything right and it's always worked for him #and when it goes wrong he completely breaks down and makes all the worst decisions for everyone around him #also it ruins the conversation between sverkel and arnheid :( which is so good and understated in the manga #all he says to her is 'it's your decision' and 'i wish i could help.' manga!sverkel genuinely feels for arnheid. she's a real person to him #but anime!sverkel bringing up ketil's sad backstory when arnheid is going through all that just feels super insensitive #obviously ketil has nothing to do with arnheid losing her family and he didn't enslave her himself #which imo is part of why arnheid has been able to accept being with him! she knows she could have ended up with someone much worse #but like. he owns her. she has to devote her life to him whether she wants to or not. #it feels super gross for another character (and the story in general) to direct her/our sympathy onto ketil in that moment #her son was murdered so that she would be more desirable to men like him! this scene should not be about ketil's pain! #(also the line about why hjalti was killed was conspicuously absent from the anime which takes some of the teeth out of the whole storyline #fandom musings #vinland saga

[rig-a-rendal]

white supremacist "TRAD[gender]" rhetoric drives me insane because like obviously they're referencing a false dichotomy between sexes that comes from a false history but. for the sake of realism. do you truly believe that working-class men throughout history have NEVER known how to cook or "keep house"? like. just trying to think through this logically.

do you TRULY BELIEVE tenant farm women were NEVER out working in the fields? do you ACTUALLY THINK landlords were SO concerned about feminine delicacy or like. the ~fair complexions~ of their exploited workers that they'd give up ANY potential profit to preserve it???

I love to break it to you actually. in the real world most of our survival actually depended on everyone doing anything they could so we'd make it to next spring.

#like historically speaking. a farm PROBABLY could not survive “no women allowed to participate in the wheat harvest" #because the wheat would lie in the field and rot and your landlord would lose money and the entire family would starve #vice versa they probably couldn't afford “no men allowed to clean 😠” because then the livestock would die in their own filth and the #kitchen would choke and #surprise #everyone would starve #like real people?? in the real world???? simply cannot afford to be that sexist. #noura talks anthropology

[aroacettorney]

perhaps the reason why aup ended like *that* is because it was not supposed to have a happy ending in the first place, but sayren didnt have the guts to deal with readers' backlash for when they finally kill off the main character so a half baked happy ending is what we get 😔

#for a happy ending of a story to be narratively satisfying the characters gotta actively work hard for it #this happy ending feels empty because quite frankly speaking ludger did nothing to deserve it #he has zero character developments from the beginning to the end and has always been the same #well except for his emotional state getting worse over time #bc instead of making any attempt at all to healthily address it like a mentally mature 40yo adult he let it swallow him whole #(not that im necessarily blaming him but its quite frustrating to see him remain unchanged if aup is meant to be a redemption story) #his OPness is inherent #his genius is inherent #(this is not to say he isnt hardworking / only relying on his inborn talents but the author repeatively failed the 'show dont tell' checks) #(bc it was only implied in the past and we've never truly seen it in the canon present timeline either) #his kindness is inherent #ngl dad!ludger content doesnt appeal to me as much as dad!edgeworth cuz the latter is the fruit of the character's growth and hard labor #while the former is well... its just who he is #usually i love found family content but in aup it bores my mind out bc his interactions w the students + owens are so static & predictable #it was heartwarming at the moment of adoption but later on i find it as tedious as reading generic established romantic relationships #was it because of the lack of tensions and conflicts i wonder #they all became his yes men and no one ever actively challenged his unhealthy mindset or behaviors #anyway id have been more interested if he recognized his biases/favoritism/prejudices towards some certain characters & worked to change it #but welp. that would require character growth which is too much to expect from him ig #he has learnt quite nothing from his journey and tbh aup would ironically feel more meaningful if it ended on a tragic note #ofco i got noblesse'd again 😔 #would i kill for aup to have a happy ending? yes #would i rather have a sad ending over the half baked and empty good ending we get? also yes #if it must burn then let the whole world burn. cuz at least it would be more much memorable and impactful that way #and i wouldnt have to feel this disappointed and lose all of my interests in one of my only two beloved aroace MCs in aup </2 #rant

[confusedfeelsfangirl]

Turns out my therapist was right. Making that pathetic wizard blow up did not fix my broken heart. 💔 #RIPGale you didn’t fix anything but at least you were there…

#this was one of the things me and my friend same up with to cheer me up after being rejected by my crush #as if it wasn’t sad enough I also am losing one of my best friends over this stupid boy problem #i only like like 3-4 men on this whole planet why did he have to be my friends ex fwb ??? #confusedfeelsfangirl rambles #gale dekarios #gale of waterdeep #rip gale #bg3 #in this situation Gale is the spiritual successor of the numerous sims families I drowned in the pools w/o ladders