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morosexualharrow · 4 years

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Oh. My. Fragging. Soul. You! Already! For me! THANK YOU. I have no words. Even that little snippet was EVERYTHING. I really don't mind being called the prosthetic anon lol it's true for a lot of things. I just... thank you??? It's amazing??? It even has Finn in it. Wow. WOW. You're far too kind thank you thank you.

to quote @ambpersand: it ain’t an AU until Finnick Odair shows up! I’ve got a little more for you.He comes to the bar every Tuesday after that. Madge isn’t there every week. Sometimes Delly Cartwright shows up, though not always. It’s a given, though, that Finnick and Annie show up. They were regulars before, mind, but never with quite this much consistency. Maybe they found a babysitter who can handle the kid every week. She isn’t sure. But he’s there, always. In the booth that she’s coming to think of as his, almost. Which is stupid. Especially because he never buys his own drink. Finnick always picks the tab up. She’s clearing glasses on a night when they’re particularly short when Finnick clears his throat to get her attention. “Hey,” he says. “You know Peeta.” She wants to be annoyed, because she doesn’t have time for this right now. Only, Peeta is smiling at her all funny. Like he really is happy to see her. “Hey, Peeta,” she says. “I’m Katniss. I--” “I know who you are,” Peeta says, softly. “Good to see you.”

“You, too,” she says. “I gotta -- work. But, um.” She notices the crutches pressed up against the side of the booth and hates that they make her soften her tone, because she knows he can’t possibly want her pity. But she’s a little softer, anyway. “Yeah. Good to see you, too.” She doesn’t know what he wants from her, but he’s looking at her with this sparkle in his eyes. Like he wants her to keep talking. But she doesn’t have anything else to say, really. “So, you and Katniss went to school together?” Annie asks. “Yes,” Katniss is grateful for the assist. God knows she doesn’t actually have anything to talk to Peeta Mellark about. “Yeah, we were in school together. How do you know him?” A soft laugh from Peeta, here. Katniss twists her head to look back at him. “Annie’s my cousin?” the slight lilt in his voice betrays that he thinks she ought to have known this, which she kind of thinks is bullshit. Does he know who all of her cousins are? She doubts it. “Oh,” she says. “Well. Good for you.” Good for you? She winces at the words. What does that even mean? But Peeta just shoots her this easy grin, his hand cupped loosely around the glass of ginger ale. “I’m . . . gonna go,” she tilts her head back towards the bar. “Uh. Have a good night.” “Thanks.” Peeta’s smile doesn’t slip. “See you next Tuesday.” “Peeta!” Finnick’s voice is full of chastisement and Katniss turns to look at him, bewildered. What? It’s not like they’re not here every week. “Don’t call her that.” A startled laugh bubbles out of her and when she steals a glance over at Peeta, she finds him absolutely beet red. “That’s -- I wasn’t . . . I just meant--” “See you next Tuesday, Peeta,” she interrupts, hoping not to examine the heat rising in her own cheeks as if in answer. . . . Katniss cradles the phone between her ear and her shoulder while she folds her laundry. Prim is only across town from her, but she works such odd hours at the hospital that they practically have to schedule their sister time. Like tonight. Katniss is getting ready for bed just as Prim is taking her lunch break. “So I had to, like, haul this air conditioning unit up the stairs because. You know. Buttercup is wearing fur. He’s gonna overheat if we can’t get the central fixed.” Katniss laughs. “I was gonna say you guys could just stay here until you get it fixed. But I already lived with that nightmare cat once. Never again.” Prim laughs softly. “Buttercup isn’t that bad,” she defends, but Katniss knows better. “Never again.” “Oh,” Prim says, her tone brightening. “I saw Finnick today.” Prim used to be completely obsessed with Finnick when she was a little girl and used to babysit his son. Just horrible, embarrassing crush. He was always so kind about it, which is part of why Katniss has always sort of figured he’s just Not That Bad, despite what he must want her to think, the way he’s always teasing. “Yeah?” Katniss asks. “Yeah,” Prim says. “I guess he and Annie take Peeta to all his appointments.” Katniss frowns. “Doesn’t he have parents?” “Do you really think Genevive Mellark is the kind of mom to take her kid to physical therapy?” Prim asks. “Genev-il Mellark?” she repeats, and it’s not that it’s funny, but the reminder of what they used to call the owner of the bakery when they were kids makes her breathe out a little laugh. “Okay, maybe not,” she agrees. “So, what’s like, his whole deal? Do you know?” “What do you mean?” “I mean, like.” She doesn’t actually know. She just thought Prim might have more information. “I don’t know.” Prim laughs softly. But then, because she’s a nurse and because she’s always been a horrible gossip, she launches into it. Peeta had really planned on never coming home. He was at college on an athletic scholarship, which he lost on account of not being able to wrestle anymore. “I mean, I don’t think I’ve ever spoken to him,” Prim clarifies. “But I guess he’s. I don’t know. Kind of losing his mind.” “Losing his mind?” Katniss repeats carefully. “Just -- I guess he’s lonely,” Prim says. “His friends are all still busy with school.” “Oh.” For some reason, even after she and Prim have exchanged I love you, byes, she can’t stop thinking about Peeta Mellark. So much so that she looks him up on Facebook. Oh. He hasn’t updated the lives in New Haven, Connecticut on his profile. His cover photo is of him and a few other obviously young college kids all crammed into the frame together in front of a waterfall. He’s got his arms stretched wide, a girl on either side of him leaned up against his chest, and this absolutely triumphant grin. She clicks on it to read the caption before she can remind herself that this is weird. Oh. She guesses they hiked for hours to get there. In his profile picture, he’s got an arm slung over the back of the couch he’s sitting on, eyes bright and blond hair messy, falling down over his forehead in soft waves. He looks a little broader than he does now. It’s dated from about a year ago. Not that she’s any better. She hasn’t updated her profile picture since before the midterms. It’s not like she changes. Peeta has changed, though. He’s smaller now. Probably because he isn’t working out all the time to keep his wrestling scholarship. She hesitates for a long moment before she clicks on it, but she ends up sending him a friend request. It’s not weird. At least, not that weird. They did go to school together. He accepts it within a minute, which makes her feel weirdly regretful. Like she was offering him something she can’t really give. She stares at the green circle next to his name -- he’s online -- but she doesn’t message him. . . . She watches on Thursday as he enters the bar, trailing in after Finnick and Annie. His crutches are gone, which almost makes her arch an eyebrow, but then she notices the cane in his hand, the way he’s leaning just a little on his right leg. Finnick reaches a hand out, as if to offer to help him into the booth, and Peeta waves him off. She pretends to stare down at the sani rag in her hands as he approaches. “Hey.” “Hey,” Katniss returns, looking up. She wants to look like she’s just now noticed him, but she knows she’s a bad actress. “You’re not making Finnick carry your drink over tonight?” Peeta laughs lightly. “There’s always round two,” he says. “No, I’ve actually never seen it up here.” He glances around and she tries to swallow back her irritation. Is he really trying to appraise the bar right now? “Dartboard,” he says. “Very nice.” “Well,” she says, and it comes out a little pinched. “We do our best.” Peeta laughs. “It shows.” He’s trying to be charming, she thinks. And it even almost works. But she doesn’t want it to. “So, what do you want?” she asks. “Assuming you’re not just here for the darts.” God. Why is his smile so bright? “I want something stiff,” he says with a little laugh. “But I’ll take a Coke.” “Designated driver?” she asks, half teasing, and regrets it immediately. Fuck. Of course he’s not. Thankfully, he laughs. “God, I wish.” He reaches up and runs his free hand through his hair. She uses the gun to fill a glass and slides it across the counter to him, working to ignore the slight tingle of her fingers when they brush. “Cool,” he says. “Uh. See you around?” “Yeah, sure,” Katniss says, and then she goes ahead and starts Finnick’s drink, because he’s predictable. “You added him on Facebook?” Finnick asks, and she whips her head around, feeling weirdly confronted. So what if she did? “I -- he came up in my suggested list,” she defends. “You’re the one who said I should be his friend.” Finnick grins. “I did, yeah,” he says. “I think it’s nice.” “Does he know you’re pimping him out so hard?” Katniss asks, earning a laugh. “He wouldn’t mind,” Finnick says.

#moon in my glass #modern au #prosthetic anon #im sorry this is not good lol #but it's something

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panstilesstilinskirp · 5 years

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Paige loved Derek. Derek loved Paige. For a while, both of them thought they were in love with each other. But that wasn’t the case. They really did care for each other and after a nearly fatal night after stupidly listening to Peter’s advice, they got closer. Paige told Derek she knew about him being a werewolf and that werewolves were kinda bad at hiding the secret. Derek argued that she was just that perceptive.

Derek didn’t really feel like dating anyone ‘the old fashion’ way and didn’t intend to get into an online relationship either. It just sort of happened. He met a guy Michael Smith online. They hit it off and then began to get flirty and soon Derek was practically obsessed with Michael. But he also felt a bit embarrassed so he kept it a secret from everyone.

Until Michael wanted to meet up.

Derek was hella nervous and decided to bring Paige in. He explained everything and Paige was understanding...until she saw Michael’s profile picture.

“That’s not Michael,” Paige told him.

Derek frowned. “Excuse me?”

“Derek...that’s not Michael. That’s Sheriff’s Stilinski’s son. We do volunteer work at the hospital where his best friend’s mother works...” She said as she pulled out her phone and pulled up a picture of Paige and the Stiles guy, who was Michael.

“I...I don’t understand...No, that’s not...we...Paige, we shared pictures.” Derek said with a blush.

Paige knew Derek was in denial and upset, so she went to her laptop and Skyped called Stiles. He was online and answered pretty quickly.

“Hey, Paige. What’s up?” Stiles asked.

And it was Michael. But apparently not.

“Hey, Stiles...I’m here with my friend, Derek. Do you know him?” Paige asked, leaning away to give Stiles a good view of Derek.

“Hey man. Uh...you’re a Hale, right? I, uh...I’ve helped my dad a few times at big events hosted by the Hales but I don’t think I’ve personally met you? Unless I did? Dude, I am so sorry if I snubbed you or something.” He was sweet. Genuine and sweet and didn’t know him. Derek began to tear up a bit.

Paige moved back into the camera’s focused and smiled at Stiles, “I’m sorry about that uh...Stiles...someone was...catfishing Derek. They were using you to do so. Your pictures.” Stiles went pale. “Oh fuck...dude. I...a while ago my computer got hacked in. Most embarrassing when my dad got involved and noticed the nudes between me and my ex....I am so sorry.’

“It’s okay Stiles...or at least it’s not your fault. But thanks. I think he needed to see this.” Paige told him.

“Yeah...no problem. Sorry man.”

When Paige hung up, she got up and hugged Derek. He cried for a while before he began to ask some hard questions. Like who the hell was really Michael. They decided to go to the meet spot together, but watch it from afar. Thankful to his mother’s training, Derek managed to spot some very worrisome red flags.

Hunters had been waiting ready for him.

This had been a horrible trapped and he’d been getting catfished by Kate Argent.

Derek managed to get him and Paige out of there and tell his mom what had happened. It’d been horribly awkward, but Derek had asked her to meet them at Paige’s house so luckily Laura and Peter didn’t know.

The weekend after there’s a knock on the door and it’s Stiles. Derek’s surprised, somewhat embarrassed, but lets him in.

“So...how’d it go? Paige said you figured out who it was?” Stiles asked.

“Uh yeah...total bitch. Rival of my mom who wanted to hurt her.” Derek answered.

“That’s gross. Well, I’m glad you’re okay...all things considered.” Stiles said.

“Thanks...um, any reason you’re here?” Derek asked.

“Well, Paige kinda encouraged me to come in person and uh...ask if maybe...you wanna go get a bite to eat?”

Derek blinked, “What?”

“Well...I don’t know what Michael was like in writing, but maybe you’d give me a chance to prove to you that this face is of a nice guy, albeit somewhat very sarcastic.” Stiles said with a small smile.

Derek blushed but smiled. “Sure, let me get my jacket.”

“Sweet. You know, we should email Max and Nev to tell them about this if it goes anywhere.” Stiles suggested.

“Is this going to go anywhere?” Derek asked.

“I would hope so,” Stiles told him.

#Teen Wolf #Derek Hale #Stiles Stilinski #fanfic #inspired by Catfish the TV show #paige krasikeva #Sterek

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jooheonies · 7 years

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SinglesMingle.com

Character(s): Reader X Changkyun, bestfriend!jooheon

Genre: fluff, borderline!crack

Warning(s): scientist!changkyun (is that a warning), online dating, bad humor

Length: 3.2k

Summary: In which your best friend sets you up for an online dating site and maybe it’s not so bad when you meet a scientist by the name of Lim Changkyun.

There’s a reason you don’t let Jooheon touch your laptop. Aside from the porn sites (and the numerous viruses acquired from them) he’s not to be trusted alone. You’ve known this since the third grade when he came over for a playdate and ended up drinking a bottle of Elmer’s glue while you went to the bathroom because he was too shy to ask for water.

He can’t be trusted.

So when he comes over a lazy Sunday morning and props his feet up your coffee, pressing his fingertips together as a slow smile stretches across his face, you know something must be up.

“You did WHAT?” You scream, the mug of tea in your hands slipping through unsteady fingers and dripping onto your clean rug. Not that you even notice, what with how much your eye is twitching and your fists are clenching, because goddamnit Lee Jooheon is not to be trusted.

“I signed you up,” he breathes, eyes sparkling with excitement, “for a dating site!” He claps gleefully as he finishes his sentence, dimples deep and smile wide.

You rake your hand through your hair in frustration, eyebrows snapping together. “Why would you do–”

“Because you’re turning into one of those old cat ladies, but with dogs,” Jooheon explains, smile still wide, “and it’s turning you into a real meanie so I think you should get out there.” He furrows his eyebrows for a second and rubs his chin. “Get laid,” he adds as an afterthought.

You glare at him, teeth gritted. “I am perfectly fine being single.”

“Maybe you should try to mingle,” he replies, eyebrows waggling.

Jooheon pulls out his phone, clicking through the fifty tabs he has pulled up on his internet browser.

“So I was looking up porn on your laptop when I came over last week–”

“I told you to stop doing that!”

“–and I saw all the pictures of your dogs that you have saved as your wallpaper and I realized you live a sad, sad life–”

“It’s not sad! I like my dogs!”

Jooheon stops talking, rolling his eyes and shooting you an incredulous look.

“You named one of them Doggo.”

“It’s a good name!”

He wrinkles his nose and drops his phone onto the sofa, crossing his arms over his chest. “It’s a dog and you named it Doggo and you named the other Pupper.”

“Get out of my house.”

Jooheon cackles and scooches closer, nuzzling into your arm, phone back in his grip. “You love me. Moving on, I made an account for you and you’re going to fill your profile in with me or I’m setting you up with Son Hyunwoo from Human Resources.”

You groan, head tipping back to rest on the back of your sofa. Son Hyunwoo is . . . interesting. He once thought the fire alarm in the break room was broken so he set the Hoseok’s cactus on fire to test it. It resulted in the entire office having to deal with a forced evacuation and coming back to the smell of burning cactus and smoke that continues to linger in the air seven months later.

Hoseok held a funeral in the parking lot and cried for two months over the loss, and to this day, he still sniffles every time he sees the corner it used to sit in. Hyunwoo is interesting.

“I’m not going to date Hyunwoo,” you groan, picking at your nails.

“Then let’s get your profile going!” He exclaims, doing a little jig where he sits.

“No, you can’t make me–”

“I used your credit card.”

Your eyebrows shoot up, anger flaring. “You what? How did you even get that?”

Jooheon scuttles to the other end of the couch, hands raised defensively and tosses his phone towards you.

“Woah, man, I’m just trying to help my best friend get laid.”

“Yeah, and you might die before you get to see it happen.”

“Look,” he sighs, grimacing a little as he tries to force a smile on his face, “I think it would help if you just loosened up a bit–”

“Get. Out.” You fling the phone back at him and stand. “I’m cancelling the account so get out, loser. I never want to see you again.”

Jooheon groans and stands, brushing imaginary crumbs off his pants. “You haven’t heard the last of this,” he says, pointing a finger at your face. And with that, he stalks out the door, whistling and swinging his hips.

Unfortunately, it turns out that Jooheon was more or less right. Monday night finds you sitting cross legged on your bed, scrolling through the dating website, singlesmingle.com of all names. You had originally logged on to figure out how to cancel an account but two little pings echo in your silent room when you sign in and it peaks your interest.

The little message box in the corner has a little red bubble in the corner and you wrestle with the decision of clicking on it for a good five minutes before you cave. When you open the page, two users pop up.

Your options are limited to science_is_my_kokoro and hamsta-luv.

The next three minutes are spent with you wondering what kind of fucking website Lee Jooheon signed you up for.

The first message, from hamsta-luv, is creepy, for lack of a better word. It consists of a single smiley face and a tongue emoji. You slowly click the block button next to his username.

The second message is decidedly less creepy, a simple ‘sup’, from science_is_my_kokoro. When you click on his user name, it redirects to his profile page and your eyes flit over his bio as you hunt for a picture, clicking on the read more tab.

His profile picture pops up and for a second you stop breathing and the room starts spinning because good lord this man is gorgeous.

He’s wearing a white lab coat, round glasses perched low on the bride of his nose as he flashes a tight smile at someone behind the camera, dimples deep and eyes sparkling. Your breath hitches as you scroll through his photo album, lips curving into a smile when you find a picture of him cuddling a golden retriever and another one of him sitting in a park, legs wrapped around a tree. You find yourself shaking your head, staring at his photos for who knows how long because what is someone this attractive doing on a dating website and why is he talking to you of all people. It takes a good ten minutes before you can finally calm your heart rate, clicking on the back button and searching for his profile.

This time you properly read his bio, searching for any signs that he may be one of those creepy men you hear about in the news.

I am what I.M, bro. You and I, we fit together like the sticky ends of recombinant DNA. Interests: science, dogs, dog videos, the periodic table of elements.

It’s childish but cute and you can’t help the spark of curiosity that blooms in your chest, prompts you to wonder too many ‘what if’ scenarios. What if he’s not a creepy stalker and what if he really likes your dogs and what if he lets you poke his dimples and–

You inhale shakily and click on his name again, slowly typing out ‘hi’ into the message box. Your eyes read over the message eighteen times to make sure you haven’t somehow misspelled it and you click send, wincing when a whoosh sounds from your laptop.

And then you wait, fingers drumming nervously on your laptop. As you wait, you go to your own profile. What you find there nearly has you flinging your laptop at the wall, already prepared to hunt down Jooheon and strangle him, because what kind of friend does this.

Henlo~ I’m h0t trust me date me im mean 2 my frendos but not 2 my luhvurs Interests: eating, sleeping, hitting people (even my super sweet best friend), and doggos

The profile picture he has set is of the one your mom took of you during halloween in the seventh grade and you’re wearing a giant pumpkin costume with a green stem on your head, braces flashing unattractively in the camera.

Lee Jooheon is not to be trusted.

You’ve spent the last few minutes, kicking at your sheets in frustration and clawing out your hair because you’re doomed there’s no way this cute boy is going to think you’re normal and now you’ll never know–

A loud ping! sounds from your laptop and you nearly fall off the bed as you scramble, squinting at the screen and clicking on the notification above the messages.

From: science_is_my_kokoro

What’s up?

You choke.

Jooheon barges into your apartment the next evening, swinging a bag of beer in his hand and yelling something about ‘best friends night!’ You wave your hand dismissively at him as you continue clacking away at your laptop.

Turns out, science_is_my_kokoro is a cute laboratory geneticist who’s also been roped into this website by a friend and goes by the name of Changkyun. You spent all last night talking to him, first polite and stiff, but as the night wore on, he grew more and more relaxed, eventually spamming you with nine smileys and messages with very poor grammar.

Your conversations consisted of random topics, mostly dogs at first. Changkyun sent you three dog videos and you sent him pictures of Pupper and Doggo. He didn’t hesitate to immediately tease you over the name choice, snarky comments and sassy jokes, but you find that it doesn’t annoy you as much when he does it.

“Hey!” Jooheon whines, poking your shoulder and pouting. “Why’re you ignoring me?”

“Wait. I’m doing something.”

He props his chin up on your shoulder, tilting his head to eye the screen, and out of the corner of your eye you watch as his mouth drops open, a gasp slipping past his lips.

“YOU’RE USING IT? YOU’RE ACTUALLY USING IT?” He asks, voice too loud in your apartment as he lifts his head off your shoulder.

You turn your head slowly to glare at him, hissing, “Why are you screaming? Are you trying to make sure I wind up with a noise complaint?”

Jooheon recoils, clearing his throat, “Right. Sorry. But you’re actually using it!” He squeals the last sentence, body writhing in some strange rendition of a happy dance.

You roll your eyes and look back down at your laptop, lips curving into a smile when Changkyun sends you another message, something about having to study beetles for work.

Jooheon hooks his chin on the screen of your laptop and pouts. “Stop ignoring me. I’m your best friend.”

“Fuck off,” you respond, not bothering to look up at him as you blindly reach over to crack open a can of beer, patting the space next to you and handing him the tv remote. It takes a few more pokes from him for you to close your laptop and finally stop messaging Changkyun.

A week later, you both exchange phone numbers, because lugging around you laptop to talk whenever you’re out off the house is annoying, especially since it requires you hunting down a place with wifi and hogging it just so you can exchange a few words with him. He’s cute, texts you random things during the day, pictures of things that reminded him of you and questions about what kind of cereal he should buy.

You both stay up late nights, rolling around bed and sending each other cheesy texts and sometimes Jooheon comes over with beer and offers to set you up with Hyunwoo because you still haven’t met up with Changkyun.

“I just–” he sighs, rubbing a hand over his face and taking a swig from his can of beer, “I just want you to get laid already, man.”

“Yes, thank you very much Jooheon.” But also you agree, because Changkyun has really nice hands and lips and sometimes he sends you selfies and you can see his dimples and–

You might be in over your head.

In three months, locations are exchanged and, as fate would have it, it turns out you both live in the same city, nearly in the same area. He tells you of a cafe three blocks away, one that has a park next to it that he likes to take his dogs to and you both decide to meet up for coffee.

It’s just coffee.

But then he goes to sleep and a funny sort of panic settles in your gut and you spend the next hour rifling through your closet in search of an outfit. You wind up sitting in a pile of skirts and flowy blouses, frantic thoughts rushing through your mind because what if he doesn’t like you or thinks you aren’t cute or he’s actually a fifty year old pervert who lives in his parents’ basement.

It’s how Jooheon finds you in the morning, curled up in a heap of clothes at the foot of your bed.

“How adorable,” he chimes, clapping his hands, “my sweet little bumblebee all grown up and ready to go out and get laid!”

“I can’t meet him!” You wail, “He’s never gonna like me!”

Jooheon rolls his eyes and pushes you into the bathroom. “You’re going.”

“But–”

“You’re going.”

And that’s how you end up standing outside the cafe in an itchy pink skirt and a loose white blouse. You clear your throat, steeling your nerves as you walk through the door, and you’re not exactly sure what you’re expecting, but the man with the familiar dimples sitting three tables down in a blue button up and black jeans is damn cute and he’s smiling at you and oh god–

“Ch–Changkyun,” you squeak, awkwardly waving as you stumble towards the table.

“Hey,” he responds, pushing his glasses up the bridge of his nose as he stands, nearly knocking over the kid standing behind him. He apologizes profusely to both the kid and her mother, who both send him irritated glares before stalking out the cafe. “You look nicer than that picture of you in your profile,” he says sheepishly, rubbing the back of his neck and smiling.

You laugh, sliding into the seat across from him, “I would hope so, I was only twelve in that picture.” Stupid fucking dating website that won’t let you change your primary profile picture.

“It was cute,” he snickers, propping his chin up in his palm, elbow resting on the table. “I ordered us a vanilla milkshake because I’m pretty sure out said it’s you favorite.”

That was back when you were both first talking, about three months ago.

He hums, turning his head to look at the counter like it isn’t a big deal (it is).

“Do you remember mine?” He prompts shifting his gaze back to you and tilting his head.

“Strawberry shortcake,” you respond without hesitation, fingers coming up to splay across the table top.

He grins and you nearly keel over at the sight of his dimples. “Correct, m’lady!”

When the milkshake shows up, you’re surprised to see there’s only one on the tray.

“You didn’t order one?” You ask, eyebrows scrunched together.

“I did,” he replies with a grin, sticking two straws into the glass. He shoots finger guns at you and winks.

Oh.

You can’t tell if this is moving fast, but when he pushes the glass towards you, eyebrows raised, you find that you really don’t care.

So you lean forward, lips closing around the straw, and reenact all the cheesy summer teen movies you’ve seen, starry eyed and coquettish.

He leans forward, too, and he’s so close you forget exactly how to drink and he smells woodsy, with hints of sugar, like warm naps and fireplaces.

“I’ve wanted to try something,” he announces when you both leans back in your seats.

“What?”

“The woes of onlines dating do not allow me to do so” he sighs mournfully, shaking his head.

“What?”

“Whatever,” he says, jaw setting in determination, “I’m doing it.”

You’ve never been more confused.

“You’ve got a little something there,” he says, pointing at your upper lip. Your eyebrows furrow in confusion because you’ve been drinking from a straw and there’s no way there something on your face.

Changkyun fixes his gaze on you and licks his thumb, leaning over the table to swipe it across your upper lip. You shoot him a bewildered look pulling your head back in confusion.

“What are you doing?” You ask. “We’re using straws, Changkyun, there’s nothing on my face.”

His cool expression melts into a pout and he whines, voice lilting, “Just–okay? I haven’t been able to do anything cutesy because we met online and all I can do is send you memes and hope you laugh!”

Your head tilts back and you laugh, nervousness melting away as Changkyun brings a sense of comfort, of familiarity. He cracks a smile and tries to intertwine your fingers on the table because he ‘saw it in a drama once and it’s cute!’ but you only double over in laughter.

You both leave the cafe ten minutes later because he has a new shipment of beetles coming in and you have filing to get to, but he walks you back home and little butterflies flap in your stomach.

“So,” he says, standing in front of your apartment building, hands stuffed in his pockets. “I enjoyed this.”

“So did I,” you reply, fingers clutching the strap of your purse and you hiccup when he takes a step forward breath fanning over your lips. “Y’know I don’t usually kiss people on the first date.”

He takes step back and furrows his brows. “Oh.”

“But in this case,” you continue, a small smile blooming across your face, “I think I’m willing to make an exception.”

He grins and steps forward again, but this time there’s uncertainty behind his eyes, like he’s scared of doing something wrong.

You both stare at each other for what seems like eternity before his jaw sets in determination and he blurts out, “I’m going to kiss you now, okay?”

You haven’t dated in a while, but you’re pretty sure that’s a fairly unromantic thing to say. It doesn’t matter, though, because when he leans forward and presses his lips to yours, you find that you quite enjoy this feeling. Changkyun’s hands press against the small of your back, drawing you closer and you wrap your arms over his shoulders, fingers playing at the little hairs on the nape of his neck. He tastes like evening walks at the park and fireworks on the river and everything fades into the background as he tilts his head, lips moving softly over yours.

His lips feel better than they look, you note mindlessly, tracing the back of his neck with your fingers.

“So,” he breathes when you both pull apart, pressing his forehead against yours, “are we dating now?”

You gurgle back a mess of cracked syllables and broken words and nod, pulling him in for a second kiss because Lim Changkyun makes butterflies flutter in your stomach and makes your breath hitch.

So maybe, just maybe, you can learn to trust Jooheon a little bit.

A/N: 4am drabbles w nawar i wrote this in 2 hours and hAVE NO REGRETS yes i do what was this i used to write crack does it show

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Page 44. Because I Love Loving You

I was diagnosed October 7, 2015. It was my mom's birthday. I was diagnosed along with my partner at that time. He was 19 back then. When we were diagnosed, He kept crying and crying. It's like it's the end of the world for him. I had to be strong that time. Although I'm also scared of what may happen, I have to tell him that everything will be okay, even if I myself didn't know if it will be. I was not able to express how scared I am, how terrifying it feels and how I am completely disappointed of myself. I even had to attend to my Mom's birthday celebration trying to look happy and trying not to cry.

At that time I didn't know what to do. I don't have anyone to talk to. I know for a fact that I must not get drowned with sorrow and despair as there are other people depending on me. November of the same year, I started my Antiretroviral treatment. During that time, I was with someone. He was probably one of the biggest regret I ever had. he kept me in his home in Pasig but since I was so weak and my body was adjusting to the medication, I didn't he was taking advantage of me. I was so down, emotionally, financially and spiritually. It's like, I no longer want to live in this world. I knew I had to do something. this is not the end.

I went home in North Caloocan and soon enough, my mom found out about my condition. I've had Acute Pneumonitis, Tonsillitis, Bronchitis and Urinary Tract Infection. I was starting to get really sick. All I could ever do is lay down and think of what may happen. What did I ever do to deserve this? Is this what I get from loving someone so much? I have been faithful. I was not a player. I never cheated. I not much into sex and I am not into multiple sexual partners. Why this? I used to ask God if he has plans. I never doubted him on why he ever gave this to me. All I know is that everything happens for a reason.

Eventually, I started to get better. I religiously followed what my doctor said and complied with the treatment. I still have a lot of questions though. I wanna know more about the virus within me. After all, It's me, the meds and the virus. We'll be together forever. I started looking for someone to ask. I searched the internet and saw some blogs. I sent out a message to iamhpositive and asked for any form of support. He then said that twitter is a good place to go to if you are a poz. I also reached out to some american bloggers which has the same virus. From there I started hearing and reading stories about PLHIVs til I came across this Guy on the internet.

His mom died when he was three and his dad died when he was 9. He was then passed from one relative to another. He was treated inhumanely and eventually ran away because he could not take it anymore. I got really serious while reading things about him online. By the time he ran away, he started to live independently. He would ask some of his friends to keep him. Ran some errands on carrenderias in exchange of food. How can someone suffer this much? He then entered being a call boy, escort and would have sex in exchange for money to feed his empty stomach. Despite everything that happened he held on to his education which made me more interested in him. He was able to finish his studies and now able to work. He worked in the BPo industry and lived his life to the fullest by partying from here and there. While reading, I could imagine how happy must have felt like on every party he attended to and that he is finally getting everything he ever wanted. After all, all the hard work paid off. But his sexual life still remained active until he finally heard from a friend that his ex died from HIV. He then started to get sick and opportunistic infections which led him to confinement in the hospital. Even in the hospital the doctor asked him how many men he slept with and said out loud that he might already have AIDS. Eventually, he agreed to have HIV testing and it showed that he is reactive. He experienced a lot of discrimination even from his half sister and step mother. I can't even imagine how hard that was as I have never experienced such treatment in my whole life. Even right now, as I write this, I can't stop my eyes from crying just imagining the suffering he went through. He came out on a facebook post and revealed that he is HIV positive and he became one of the faces of PLHIVs.

After reading the stories about him I tried to get more information and tried to get to know him more. His pictures are all over the internet. His videos, interviews, documentaries and statements. So this is what the boy has become after all the things he's been through. I felt so happy for him. I was thinking if he is finally getting all the love he deserves. Is he happy? I hope he is. I started looking for him in social media. He is the National HIV Ambassador of the Red Ribbon Project. In my everyday life I would try to look at his profile just to see how he is. He looked happy. From his day to day post I get a lot of information about the kind of virus that I have. I felt like this virus is the only connection that I have to him. Days, weeks, months.. I noticed that it's starting to get a little so obsessing. What's so wrong about that? haha! Everyday I would find myself looking at his pictures, checking if there are new updates, reading his facebook post til I realized, We're not even friends in facebook. I tried to find the courage to send him a friend request and when I did, he has already reached the limit of friend invites. What?!!! What a bummer! At least I got to follow his profile. Seeing him everyday in social media gives me this happiness that I really can't explain. I am partnered that time. But I felt like I have fallen in love to someone who doesn't even know who I am.

I guess it was a little late last year when I started doing some moves. I would like his social media post, sometimes I would comment and hope he would one day notice. I started blogging as well. I wanted to write my experiences as a PLHIV as one day I would like to be remembered as someone. Probably a good son, a good friend, a good partner, a kind person, someone who's good at work, a best friend, the best cousin or simply just anyone. I wanna be remembered for who I really am and not be remembered as someone who has HIV. and probably one day when I leave this world they would know that I am a PLHIV too but it never made me less than who I am. I wondered what it's like to have someone like him.

I got busy with my day to day life as work is starting to demand more time. Medo lay low lang muna. After all, pangarap lang kita. I focused on my work and eventually got promoted one after the other. Whenever I feel this emptiness inside, I would look for anything about you. haay.. okay na ako.. laban na ulit. I started to get readers on my blog and they started asking questions about HIV. Uhm.. I'm not really sure if I have the right answers but I know for sure that he does. So I sent him a message and I introduced myself as a PLHIV like him. But as usual he never noticed. Haha! Syempre. Di naman kase ako pansinin. Asa pa more. and I kind of thought that there may be a lot of people like me who's wanting to talk to him.

I saw a post, free pneumonia vaccine. Oh shoot! Will I finally see him? I took the courage to send him a message and he replied! Yey! But... I needed a medical document and my doctor is out on leave.. haaay.. maybe it's really not for me. So I got over it. Maybe it's time I let go. I would never be someone he would notice. I decided to spend a little more time on my advocacy. I wanted to be an advocate in my own little way. Maybe by spreading awareness using this blog. Some of my friends already lost the battle. I wanted to know more about my condition and how to fight it. I volunteered for some work in my own hub. Attending support groups and any other awareness events. I'm starting to find fulfillment in what I do and I really want to keep doing it. Since there's only a few of us in our hub. The activities are not really a lot. I looked for other opportunities for my advocacy. I saw a post from one of the volunteers to fill out a form online to become a volunteer which I did and one day.. I woke up with a few messages on my phone. What the heck?! WTF is TRR ACES?? Wait what?? I saw him as one of the members of the group chat! Holy Shit! I guess this is step one. Then I suddenly slapped myself. Haha! Remember why you're volunteering. it's not about him. it's about the people living with HIV. Stop fantasizing about the guy. haha!

Moving on, i saw another post for a volunteer's orientation. I commented on his post and said that I am interested and he asked me to come. Wait.. it's my dad's birthday! But.. I can't miss this one. So I convinced my mom to move my dad's birthday just so I could attend. Then.. Page 41. ^_^

You look different in person. Good in a way. Your smile is just so humble and your presence is just good. I noticed that I am not that into you anymore. Maybe because My main purpose is really the advocacy. I kept looking at you and then I would look away. I like the way you talk. I like the sweet tone and sound of your voice. It's like the sound of an innocent kid playing around. I like your humor. I like the way you laugh. I like the way you roll your eyes and even when you frown. I like how you confidently discuss in front of us. I like you. I really really do.

So finally you added me in facebook, got to see my messages and chatted. Bakit ngayon lang? Bakit ngayon mo lang ako napansin? Bakit mo ako napansin nung hindi naman ako nagpapapansin? I just know for sure that this is just the beginning. I guess satin nalang siguro yung mga iba pang nangyari. So this is what it feels like. To finally have someone like you. I wonder hanggang kailan tayo ganito. All I know is you make me happy and that I wanna make you happy too. Kahit mahirap, masakit, I guess, you didn't know that you are definitely worth it. Sana in my own little ways, nakikita mo kung gaano ka kaimportante sakin.

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Real Life Love Stories: Valentine’s Day Edition

It’s easy to make fun of Valentine’s Day or try write it off as cheesy—there are all the hearts, chubby cupids, storefronts covered in various hues of pinks and reds. But Valentine’s Day is about more than a dinner out or a bouquet of flowers. It’s an opportunity to do something romantic, to tell someone how you feel, or even take a chance on someone new.

The people in this month’s featured real life love stories from the archives of the online dating site and app Zoosk did just that. All their stories feature Valentine’s Day in some small form. Whether the day gave them inspiration to say hello, became their first date, or was the reason they came together, all these real life love stories wouldn’t have happened without this cheesy, silly little day.

Debby and Robert “Robert works a late shift so he asked if I would still be awake when he got home at 1:00 a.m. I said sure. I stayed up and we talked that night, or I should say morning, for almost three hours.”

I had been online dating for nine months and was beginning to think it was hopeless, when on Feb 9, 2015 I got a message from Robert. We started chatting and exchanged phone numbers that same night. Robert works a late shift so he asked if I would still be awake when he got home at 1:00 a.m. I said sure. I stayed up and we talked that night, or I should say morning, for almost three hours. And we continued to text or talk every night after that. Then, on February 11th he asked me, “Would you, could you, be my Valentine?” Of course I said yes! We had our first date on February 14th, Valentine’s Day, and it was FIREWORKS at first site. It feels so right between us… like we’re supposed to be together and have known each other forever. It’s such an amazing feeling that it’s hard to describe.

Gary and Karen “We met on Feb 13th, just before Valentine‘s Day, which could be an awkward time to begin a relationship, but for us it was perfect.”

While looking for people online, I was initially attracted to the devotion that Gary relayed when telling the story of his marriage and his wife’s death in his profile. I wrote him just to say I was sorry for his loss, and that I wished him well in his search. But then we started writing back and forth—we wrote very honest, heartfelt messages and shared our histories with each other. I travel a lot for work and had several trips to make that delayed our meeting by almost a month, so by the time we met we had written and talked on the phone at length. We met on Feb 13th, just before Valentine‘s Day, which could be an awkward time to begin a relationship, but for us it was perfect. Almost from the moment we met, I think we both knew this was it. We enjoy so many of the same things, and it seems our primary difference is Bears vs. Packers. We are both very loving, optimistic, laid back types of people, and we laugh through our days and our nights. We are both lovers of family, pets, travel, and it seems that each new encounter deepens our love. About 10 days ago we made a formal commitment with a ring. I cannot wait to spend my life with this uniquely amazing man.

Erika and Ernest “It was storming in Alabama and Georgia, but through the rain he came to meet me for the first time.”

I received a message from my soulmate Ernest on February 9, 2014 and I quickly responded. I didn’t even look to see where he lived and lol, to my surprise he lived in Auburn, Alabama and I live in Atlanta, Georgia. That scared me at first but he quickly reassured me. Well, a few phone conversations and text messages later we decided to meet. And on Valentine’s Day at that! He said he would do whatever it took for us to be together. It was storming in Alabama and Georgia, but through the rain he came to meet me for the first time. It truly was love at first sight. My daughter loves him and his son loves me. We don’t always know what the future holds but we know we are together in it.

Jenn and Andrew “I never expected that he would contact someone like me. He seemed so out of my league!”

One day I was scrolling through Zoosk and I came upon Andrew’s picture… He was handsome and his profile looked like he lived an interesting life as a fire fighter and an outdoors man. I liked his profile, but I never expected that he would contact someone like me. He seemed so out of my league! But one day he messaged me and we hit it off. We spent weeks and weeks talking on the phone and staying up late just talking. Then on Valentine’s Day he met me at my job as my surprise Valentine. Ever since then we haven’t left each other’s sides! Seven years later we have a son, a second baby on the way, and our wedding will be in September of this year!

Tammy and Griff “Your partner should be your best friend, your cheerleader, your lover, your hero… Your reason to smile, again.”

After nine years of being alone and raising my son alone, I had just about given up on love. I found the dating site Zoosk and thought half-heartedly… Eh I’ll try it and if anyone answers me that’s worth my time, then maybe… Then one night in February, when it was just creeping in on Valentine‘s Day and I was feeling a little sad, I saw this man’s profile that caught my eye… He said he was a Packer fan or something like that. So, me being the wisecracker that I am, I messaged him and asked, “How did you end up way down here from Green Bay?” I guess my knowledge of sports hooked him, because we exchanged numbers and we talked about pro-wrestling for about six hours straight! About a week later, we had our first date, and the rest is history. We were married in Las Vegas, three months after our one year dating anniversary. I believe a relationship should build and that your partner should be your best friend, your cheerleader, your lover, your hero… Your reason to smile, again.

Doyal and Debbie “It was like the people around us were coming and going in super fast motion as we stayed in slow motion.”

When we first started chatting we just had simple and causal hellos. Then right when I was about to say goodbye Debbie asked me a riveting question… “Do you know the difference between chemistry and energy? Do you believe in a soulmate?” The question resonated with me because I understand metaphysics, quantum physics, and spiritual energy… I just knew I had to meet her. We met at a restaurant and sat and talked for five and half hours. It was like the people around us were coming and going in super fast motion as we stayed in slow motion, not wanting the day to end. Since that day we have never been apart and she definitely completes me. On Valentine’s Day Debbie knocked me out of my mind with a gift. It was a letter that she wrote to my mother (who passed away 25 years ago) thanking her for the greatest gift that she could of ever given her… Me. Debbie put this letter in a helium balloon and we took it up to a mountain and released it to the heavens. She also bought a star and named it Judy after my mother, so when we look out into the night stars we can find her. She has three wonderful children (two with special needs) and I have two wonderful children and we all have found love and friendship with one another.

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Internet Dating Tips and Advice

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Internet Dating Tips and Advice

An online internet dating site is (in my opinion) the easiest way to find a partner in today’s world. With the ever-increasing technology aids, not only can you correspond with someone, but also see them in real-time. It used to be that an internet dating site was a taboo and people just didn’t trust it or the quality of people they might meet. But even so, you run the same risks as if you were to actually meet the person face-to-face. What is the difference? Well, you can’t smell a person through an internet dating site!

This article was written to give free dating tips and dating advice to those who are unfamiliar to internet dating. Or maybe you’ve had a couple bad experiences and are wondering why you are running into “duds”. My dating advice is not aimed particularly at either men or women but looks at both sides. I am not a psychologist or therapists and all dating advice and tips are my personal thoughts found through my internet dating experiences.

So why choose online dating services rather than conventional dating? I’ll list a few benefits:

You’re in the US, you can meet someone from Australia

Find someone in a different state that you would enjoy visiting.

There are Asian dating, Jewish dating, Christian dating, adult dating, senior dating, hiking dating, dog walking dating sites and the list goes on.

Your search criteria can be more detailed, less compromising later.

What hobbies are they into?

What are their turn-offs?

What are their interests

People tend to be more honest through correspondence. You know the true person quicker.

You can still have an online date even if you’re sick.

It’s safe because you’re not in the same physical environment, at least initially.

You don’t need to meet the person until you are totally comfortable. Never meet anybody unless you are 99% comfortable.

The first date or 2nd, 3rd, and 4th should be out in public.

Let someone know where you are going.

Ladies, I highly recommend you bring a friend or double-date!

Do not allow the person to pick you up. Provide your own transportation

Bring defense items – pepper spray, whistle, GPS tracking device. Be careful of bringing weapons that can harm you – knife, gun, clubs…etc

Ladies, even if the date is going well and it’s the 1st date, DO NOT be persuaded to get into a car alone with him. If he is a predator, he’ll get agitated and possibly upset. If this happens, then CONGRATULATIONS you may just save YOUR LIFE and walk away now! A real gentleman will understand your fear and rather spend time with you than miss a party, concert or whatever. Just be sure to let him know prior to the date that you will not leave the initial meeting place with him unless your friend can come along.

Those are just a few reasons and each person will benefit differently based on their character and personality. The precautions would also relate to conventional dating practices and not just internet dates.

So what are some of the drawbacks of internet dating?

Do they smell?

Are they really writing or just cut-and-pasting?

Cameras and lighting can be manipulated to hide certain features (flaws).

The photos in the ads maybe professionally done or retouched and not be a true reflection of the person

As with the benefits, there are other downsides to internet dating that aren’t listed and will vary from person to person.

So who is the best internet dating service? That’s a hard question to answer because there are so many variables and there is no one best service. I say the best dating site is the one you find what you are looking for on. Luckily, most are free to join, although you will get limited functionality and features of the program. But at least you can get an idea of the types or kinds of people who have joined that particular internet dating service. There are more and more online dating services that are specific to certain groups like – people who are in the service, Christian dating, pet lovers dating, and so on. The major dating sites will have these people as well, you’ll just need to sift through the members to find out if someone shares your passions or hobbies. What it boils down to is that the more people to select from, the better your chances of finding a match.

So, does internet dating really work? Yes! It did for me. I live in the US and met my wife who lived in China. We corresponded for 6 months, sent pictures to each other, and finally met when her company came to the US on a business trip. We hit it off and for the next year, she came down to visit and a couple months later I went to China to visit her and meet her parents and family. Keep in mind that it could be expensive to go this route because of airfare and those sort of things. Lastly, she had another business trip scheduled and we got married during that trip.

Marrying someone from another country is not as easy at it seems. There are visa and passport issues, US Immigration forms and regulations, and much more. Most big internet dating sites will have a section to help with immigration issues. Things went fairly smoothly for us and we now have a beautiful 7-month-old son.

Internet dating doesn’t have to be about marriage and it will definitely differ for everyone. Maybe you just want someone to hang out with on the weekends and go to dog shows or a social outing or you want to go white water rafting but your friends aren’t interested. Many people just want to make friends and not really label it as dating, but rather companionship and someone to talk to.

Other people may just want a companion because they are going on a trip to another area and would like a friend or someone to show them around at that destination.

What it boils down to is – What are your needs and wants?

Some free dating tips and dating advice I can offer based on my experience that helped me find the love of my life and also general tips are listed below.

Be honest when you communicate

Speak from the heart, don’t try to be someone you’re not

Sign-up for more than one online dating site

Choose a general “big name” site.

Search Google or Yahoo by typing “dating dogs” or “dating armed forces” or “dating Christian”…etc

Only pay for the sites that you feel there are more than 5 profiles that match what you are looking for, remember most are free to sign up, but you will have limited capability.

Stay away from free online dating sites, you get what you pay for. The more serious a person is, the higher amount of money they will pay to find quality people. That means if someone on a particular dating site has the highest level membership (Gold Member) then they are serious about finding someone. 2nd to the highest level (silver) may be those who are serious but don’t have a lot of money to spend. Anything less is in my opinion “gamers” and just passing time. HOWEVER! In countries or areas that are poor and underdeveloped, they simply can’t afford to pay the membership fee. They are probably using a computer at school, a library, or friends, so you’ll need to be extra patient.

Stay away from ads that don’t have pictures or at least make sure they will send you a picture. Some people don’t want to be seen in fear of their friend’s colleagues or family seeing them on the internet. That’s perfectly understandable, just make sure you get REAL pictures once getting to know the person.

Send and receive many pictures, insist on casual setting pictures and not professionally retouched photos Be patient, if they live in another time zone it can be difficult to call

If they live in another country, get a calling card or use a webcam and microphone.

Since my wife didn’t have a webcam, my phone bill averaged $1200 a month and I didn’t know about calling cards.

Call your phone company and get a plan with better international rates.

There are more options today like VOIP (voice over IP) pc2phone that’s a lot cheaper and the sound quality is much better now also. Ladies, when you do meet, make sure it’s with one or more of your friends even for the first few dates. Safety first and if the guy can’t understand that, then that’s a RED flag!

Ladies, purchase some books on pickup lines, how to seduce a woman and those sort of things. If your correspondence contains many of what you find in a book, then the person may not be sincere. If you’re tired of finding losers, this is your wake-up call to find out why. Men, buy books on how to treat a lady. Buy books on how to seduce a woman, but only use it after you know they want to be seduced by you (later in the relationship). Be Honest! – If you’re serious and want a life-long mate

Be upfront, put EVERYTHING on the table. Too many unexpected surprises will kill the relationship.

Don’t try to be what you think the other person wants. You can’t put on a show forever.

Get a webcam so you can see and hear the real person. Sometimes you get a glimpse of their room. Is it messy? Are there naked people hung up on the wall? It can also be a lot of fun once you are closer and can be more intimate. BE CAREFUL! What you do on camera can be recorded and exposed if things don’t work out.

Make a list of things you absolutely do not like or won’t compromise on. For example, you dislike it when your partner drinks too much, does drugs or things like that. Don’t ask these questions straight out, but have them elaborate when they had a night out with the guys/girls. Just keep a mental note to yourself.

Make a list of the key things you like that make you feel adored and desired.

You like feeling pampered by getting breakfast in bed

You like it when doors are opened for you

You like it when girls pamper you

You like it when girls make you feel special

How does the other person perceive what making someone feel special is?

What is your definition of joy and happiness? Be Honest! I know I keep saying that, but it’s the most important thing!

If you’ve been burned once too many times, do a background check on the person. You can find out if they have been married, divorced, in jail, lawsuits against them, and things of that nature. It costs a little money but can save you years of heartache and disappointment. Some people may feel this is an invasion of privacy or a sign of not trusting the other person. I say it’s a matter of feeling secure and if the other person can’t understand that, then they are hiding something or don’t care about how insecure you may be feeling. Another RED flag! Online dating has evolved to where it’s common place to check on people. Have fun on your date but pay attention to

Do they open doors for you

Do they talk negatively about too many things?

Are their eyes busy wandering rather than focusing on you?

Are there too many lines or quotes from the dating books?

You may want to keep a score card or write down notes immediately after the date. Just make sure you destroy them all when you are exclusively seeing that person. Nobody wants to know they are being compared, but it’s a good way to make sure the person has all the qualities that are truly important to you. To be on the safe side, never ever write down anything relating to sex. The technique can be learned if the person is willing to satisfy you. Talk about it, if they aren’t interested in what turns you on, that’s another RED flag. Let us face it, sex is an important part of a relationship. For some, it isn’t but for the majority, it is. It’s also a two-way street. In order to get, you must give and if you give, you should get. It’s that simple.

Is this person someone you want your family and friends to meet?

And for the last time – BE HONEST!

I hope this article has helped and you feel more secure about online dating. I endorse it 100% and am not afraid to admit that I met my wife on through an internet dating site. It makes me feel good that out of the 200 or so other people that responded to her ad… she picked me 🙂 I firmly believe that internet dating is the most efficient way to start a relationship and meet people.

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Online Internet Dating Tips and Advice

New Post has been published on https://beingmad.org/internet-dating-tips-and-advice/

Online Internet Dating Tips and Advice

So what are some of the drawbacks of internet dating?

As with the benefits, there are other downsides to internet dating that aren’t listed and will vary from person to person.

Other people may just want a companion because they are going on a trip to another area and would like a friend or someone to show them around at that destination.

What it boils down to is – What are your needs and wants?

Some free dating tips and dating advice I can offer based on my experience that helped me find the love of my life and also general tips are listed below.

Be honest when you communicate

Speak from the heart, don’t try to be someone you’re not

Sign-up for more than one online dating site

Choose a general “big name” site.

Search Google or Yahoo by typing “dating dogs” or “dating armed forces” or “dating Christian”…etc

Only pay for the sites that you feel there are more than 5 profiles that match what you are looking for, remember most are free to sign up, but you will have limited capability.

Send and receive many pictures, insist on casual setting pictures and not professionally retouched photos

Be patient, if they live in another time zone it can be difficult to call

If they live in another country, get a calling card or use a webcam and microphone.

Since my wife didn’t have a webcam, my phone bill averaged $1200 a month and I didn’t know about calling cards.

Call your phone company and get a plan with better international rates.

There are more options today like VOIP (voice over IP) pc2phone that’s a lot cheaper and the sound quality is much better now also.

Ladies, when you do meet, make sure it’s with one or more of your friends even for the first few dates. Safety first and if the guy can’t understand that, then that’s a RED flag!

Men, buy books on how to treat a lady. Buy books on how to seduce a woman, but only use it after you know they want to be seduced by you (later in the relationship).

Be Honest! – If you’re serious and want a life-long mate

Be upfront, put EVERYTHING on the table. Too many unexpected surprises will kill the relationship.

Don’t try to be what you think the other person wants. You can’t put on a show forever.

Make a list of the key things you like that make you feel adored and desired.

You like feeling pampered by getting breakfast in bed

You like it when doors are opened for you

You like it when girls pamper you

You like it when girls make you feel special

How does the other person perceive what making someone feel special is?

What is your definition of joy and happiness?

Be Honest! I know I keep saying that, but it’s the most important thing!

Have fun on your date but pay attention to

Do they open doors for you

Do they talk negatively about too many things?

Are their eyes busy wandering rather than focusing on you?

Are there too many lines or quotes from the dating books?

You may want to keep a score card or write down notes immediately after the date. Just make sure you destroy them all when you are exclusively seeing that person. Nobody wants to know they are being compared, but it’s a good way to make sure the person has all the qualities that are truly important to you. To be on the safe side, never ever write down anything relating to sex. The technique can be learned if the person is willing to satisfy you. Talk about it, if they aren’t interested in what turns you on, that’s another RED flag. Let’s face it, sex is an important part of a relationship. For some, it isn’t but for the majority, it is. It’s also a two-way street. In order to get, you must give and if you give, you should get. It’s that simple.

Is this person someone you want your family and friends to meet?

And for the last time – BE HONEST!

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Internet Dating Tips and Advice

So why choose online dating services rather than conventional dating? I’ll list a few benefits:

Millions of people from around the world sign up for internet dating services everyday. Also, there are thousands of dating sites coming online every day. So not only can you find a person to match your needs but also a dating service built around your specific need. You’re in the US, you can meet someone from Australia Find someone in a different state that you would enjoy visiting. There are Asian dating, Jewish dating, Christian dating, adult dating, senior dating, hiking dating, dog walking dating sites and the list goes on. Your search criteria can be more detailed, less compromising later. What hobbies are they into? What are their turn-offs? What are their interests People tend to be more honest through correspondence. You know the true person quicker. You can still have an online date even if you’re sick. It’s safe because you’re not in the same physical environment, at least initially. You don’t need to meet the person until you are totally comfortable. Never meet anybody unless you are 99% comfortable.

The first date or 2nd, 3rd, and 4th should be out in public. Let someone know where you are going. Ladies, I highly recommend you bring a friend or double-date! Do not allow the person to pick you up. Provide your own transportation Bring defense items – pepper spray, whistle, GPS tracking device. Be careful of bringing weapons that can harm you – knife, gun, clubs…etc Ladies, even if the date is going well and it’s the 1st date, DO NOT be persuaded to get into a car alone with him. If he is a predator, he’ll get agitated and possibly upset. If this happens, then CONGRATULATIONS you may just save YOUR LIFE and walk away now! A real gentleman will understand your fear and rather spend time with you than miss a party, concert or whatever. Just be sure to let him know prior to the date that you will not leave the initial meeting place with him unless your friend can come along. Those are just a few reasons and each person will benefit differently based on their character and personality. The precautions would also relate to conventional dating practices and not just internet dates. So what are some of the drawbacks of internet dating?

Do they smell? Are they really writing or just cut-and-pasting? Cameras and lighting can be manipulated to hide certain features (flaws). The photos in the ads maybe professionally done or retouched and not be a true reflection of the person As with the benefits, there are other downsides to internet dating that aren’t listed and will vary from person to person. So who is the best internet dating service? That’s a hard question to answer because there are so many variables and there is no one best service. I say the best dating site is the one you find what you are looking for on. Luckily, most are free to join, although you will get limited functionality and features of the program. But at least you can get an idea of the types or kinds of people who have joined that particular internet dating service. There are more and more online dating services that are specific to certain groups like – people who are in the service, Christian dating, pet lovers dating, and so on. The major dating sites will have these people as well, you’ll just need to sift through the members to find out if someone shares your passions or hobbies. What it boils down to is that the more people to select from, the better your chances of finding a match.

Other people may just want a companion because they are going on a trip to another area and would like a friend or someone to show them around at that destination.

What it boils down to is – What are your needs and wants?

Some free dating tips and dating advice I can offer based on my experience that helped me find the love of my life and also general tips are listed below.

Be honest when you communicate Speak from the heart, don’t try to be someone you’re not Sign-up for more than one online dating site Choose a general “big name” site. Search Google or Yahoo by typing “dating dogs” or “dating armed forces” or “dating Christian”…etc Only pay for the sites that you feel there are more than 5 profiles that match what you are looking for, remember most are free to sign up, but you will have limited capability. Stay away from free online dating sites, you get what you pay for. The more serious a person is, the higher amount of money they will pay to find quality people. That means if someone on a particular dating site has the highest level membership (Gold Member) then they are serious about finding someone. 2nd to the highest level (silver) may be those who are serious but don’t have a lot of money to spend. Anything less is in my opinion “gamers” and just passing time. HOWEVER! In countries or areas that are poor and underdeveloped, they simply can’t afford to pay the membership fee. They are probably using a computer at school, a library, or friends, so you’ll need to be extra patient. Stay away from ads that don’t have pictures or at least make sure they will send you a picture. Some people don’t want to be seen in fear of their friend’s colleagues or family seeing them on the internet. That’s perfectly understandable, just make sure you get REAL pictures once getting to know the person. Send and receive many pictures, insist on casual setting pictures and not professionally retouched photos

Be patient, if they live in another time zone it can be difficult to call If they live in another country, get a calling card or use a webcam and microphone. Since my wife didn’t have a webcam, my phone bill averaged $1200 a month and I didn’t know about calling cards. Call your phone company and get a plan with better international rates. There are more options today like VOIP (voice over IP) pc2phone that’s a lot cheaper and the sound quality is much better now also.

Ladies, when you do meet, make sure it’s with one or more of your friends even for the first few dates. Safety first and if the guy can’t understand that, then that’s a RED flag! Ladies, purchase some books on pickup lines, how to seduce a woman and those sort of things. If your correspondence contains many of what you find in a book, then the person may not be sincere. If you’re tired of finding losers, this is your wake-up call to find out why.

Men, buy books on how to treat a lady. Buy books on how to seduce a woman, but only use it after you know they want to be seduced by you (later in the relationship).

Be Honest! – If you’re serious and want a life-long mate Be upfront, put EVERYTHING on the table. Too many unexpected surprises will kill the relationship. Don’t try to be what you think the other person wants. You can’t put on a show forever. Get a webcam so you can see and hear the real person. Sometimes you get a glimpse of their room. Is it messy? Are there naked people hung up on the wall? It can also be a lot of fun once you are closer and can be more intimate. BE CAREFUL! What you do on camera can be recorded and exposed if things don’t work out. Make a list of things you absolutely do not like or won’t compromise on. For example, you dislike it when your partner drinks too much, does drugs or things like that. Don’t ask these questions straight out, but have them elaborate when they had a night out with the guys/girls. Just keep a mental note to yourself. Make a list of the key things you like that make you feel adored and desired. You like feeling pampered by getting breakfast in bed You like it when doors are opened for you You like it when girls pamper you You like it when girls make you feel special How does the other person perceive what making someone feel special is? What is your definition of joy and happiness?

Be Honest! I know I keep saying that, but it’s the most important thing! If you’ve been burned once too many times, do a background check on the person. You can find out if they have been married, divorced, in jail, lawsuits against them, and things of that nature. It costs a little money but can save you years of heartache and disappointment. Some people may feel this is an invasion of privacy or a sign of not trusting the other person. I say it’s a matter of feeling secure and if the other person can’t understand that, then they are hiding something or don’t care about how insecure you may be feeling. Another RED flag! Online dating has evolved to where it’s common place to check on people.

Have fun on your date but pay attention to Do they open doors for you Do they talk negatively about too many things? Are their eyes busy wandering rather than focusing on you? Are there too many lines or quotes from the dating books? You may want to keep a score card or write down notes immediately after the date. Just make sure you destroy them all when you are exclusively seeing that person. Nobody wants to know they are being compared, but it’s a good way to make sure the person has all the qualities that are truly important to you. To be on the safe side, never ever write down anything relating to sex. The technique can be learned if the person is willing to satisfy you. Talk about it, if they aren’t interested in what turns you on, that’s another RED flag. Let us face it, sex is an important part of a relationship. For some, it isn’t but for the majority, it is. It’s also a two-way street. In order to get, you must give and if you give, you should get. It’s that simple. Is this person someone you want your family and friends to meet? And for the last time I hope this article has helped and you feel more secure about online dating. I endorse it 100% and am not afraid to admit that I met my wife on through an internet dating site. It makes me feel good that out of the 200 or so other people that responded to her ad… she picked me. I firmly believe that internet dating is the most efficient way to start a relationship and meet people.

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