#exists in my palace of autism (my brain)

[homophobicwarios]

Sometimes when Sir Chloe has a QnA via Insta I remember that they probably didn’t have like a master plan for writing I Am The Dog as a codependent narrative and it just happened and like they just wrote gay little songs n slapped ‘em together.

#rian’s slay compilation #I think there’s definitely an ongoing theme and I think mayhaps toxic relationships play a role in it but I think the master plan only #exists in my palace of autism (my brain)

[lakesbian]

Do Brian & Aisha & Alec for the blorbo bingo obviously :p

alec:

almost everyone but me is wrong about him. gnawing on wildbow's leg like a rabid dog for dropping the ball in the gender and sexuality department. there has got to be SOME reason i like him so much but i have no idea what it is. did not expect to care about him even remotely but his death put him in my brain forever against my will. i can make him worse. and will hypothetically sometimes for fun. he is chilling on the couch in my mind palace in perpetuum. i want to take him out for ice cream as a special treat. the thing is that i Would say "alec did nothing wrong" as a somewhat facetious rebuttal of the fandom spaces that think he's an ontologically evil cunt for being sexually abused when he was 12 but the same people also genuinely believe he did nothing wrong in his interlude and subsequently i cannot say "alec did nothing wrong" without sounding exactly like said people. so i compromise with "alec did 2 things wrong and the things redditors think he did wrong are none of them," which technically isn't true either, but captures my intended sentiment close enough. i love him forever

aisha:

ilove her forever. she's done nothing wrong in her entire life, ever, at any point in time. i wish her existence was pleasant and easy. please stop putting her in situations. alec is my favorite in a "inexplicable bout of autism" way but aisha is my favorite worm character in a "favorite with all inexplicable bouts of autism aside" way. i wish ward was about aisha. fuck vicky i want an entire book about aisha. everythign ever should be about aisha. extremely underrated undersider. i wish i was autistic about aisha instead of alec so i could inspire an Aishaposting Renaissance on wormblr instead of just an alec one. we should set wildbow's car on fire once for every Wildbow Moment involved in the writing of aisha laborn. also i should clarify. most worm fandom takes about the undersiders are incorrect in general, so i'm defining "fandom" here as just wormblr and not the broader worm fandom--wormblr generally understands miss aisha laborn imo

brian:

every time i think too hard about the way wildbow fucks up writing brian i morph into a man literally too angry to die. there's soooo much interesting shit there and then he just fully forgets to make any of it relevant. Gnawing On His Leg Like A Rabid Dog. i Love brian he's one of the top characters ever. there's something about an exceedingly normal guy who isn't Actually normal but Thinks he is because everyone else is so much weirder than him that's so funny and endearing. i wish his life didn't suck so much but also i love watching how much it sucks. we should all post about him more. i intend to get a phd in brian laborn upon worm reread.

#ask #worm spoilers #scarf don't look #i forgot the lost potential square was there #imagine its checked for brian

[sera-cb]

I don’t want to be a rude boy but Twitter Discourse is completely destroying my brain on this and I need a venting hole of some sort.

There is a lot of discussion and debate about “social scripts” presently.

The idea is that these scripts can help folks with conditions like Autism navigate certain social situations more easily.  (This is really good!)

The issue is that most of them seem to be written in ways that a recipient would likely find to be super unnerving or even outright terrifying, which is sort of a problem when half of them exist to ask if your emotional state is stable enough to deal with some rough shit right now.

I’m 100% for having a societal standard of not dumping all your problems on someone without a shit given for where they’re at as a person at the moment, I think that’s stellar. Just maybe don’t do THIS SHIT:

NO. NO I AM NOT. THIS SOUNDS LIKE YOU ABDUCTED MY CHILD AND I’M ABOUT TO RECEIVE A RANSOM NOTE. PLEASE RECONSIDER YOUR WORD CHOICE.

YOUR REQUEST FOR CONSENT SHOULD NOT BE WRITTEN IN A WAY THAT IN ITSELF CAUSES ANXIETY TO THE RECIPIENT.  PEOPLE SAYING AS MUCH SHOULD NOT IMMEDIATELY BE WRITTEN OFF AS “ABLEIST”; THEY ARE GIVING YOU VALUABLE INFORMATION.

I get it, I’m on the spectrum and social nuance can be a confusing eldritch nightmare, but sometimes you’ve gotta take all the hard feedback and pick out the useful information, and the useful information here is that what you’re writing is setting off a lot of alarm bells.  I’ve seen defenses of it saying things like “Yeah, how dare we use thoughtful, considerate language,” but I can’t call your language either of those things if their end result is triggering a flight or fight response.  Intentions aside, it’s failing at its job.

It sucks that people are bandwagoning onto making this the next “TRIGGERED” meme or “if I need to ask for consent every two seconds it ruins the mood” -type argument. What ideally would be happening is that we’d all help each other come up with ways to make this kind of thing less unnerving, for those who can navigate all that social nuance to help those who can’t, and it’s garbage that that’s not what’s happening.  I am completely on board with that much.

What I’m not on board with is this idea that anyone with a problem with these examples going around are immediately ableist for reacting negatively.  Some of what I’ve seen is some real uncanny valley shit, or something like the above that just has its own weird threatening aura.  I’ve got the condition you’re trying to assist here, and even I can tell you that much.

Folks are latching on to the “are you in the right headspace” thing like that’s the problem when it’s really not.  That’s actually pretty solid imo.  There’s other ways to phrase it but it does the job fine. Asking someone for the state of their mind palace is quirky and fun but probably not appropriate for every mood, so it’s good to have headspace as a catch-all.  You could also be like “are you feeling up to [x]”.

“Information that could possibly hurt you,” though, holy shit. That’s the worst possible wording I’ve ever seen for bad news. That sounds like you’re asking permission to bully me, like if I say yes you’re gonna come back with “You’ve got a tiny dick and your wife left you for me, fucknuts.” And then I’m gonna be sitting there, tiny dick and all, just like “I mean this is kind of my fault for saying yes, I guess, in a way.”

So like let’s put my money where my mouth is and explore some potential alternatives, shall we?

“Hey, I’ve got some potentially upsetting news. I’d like to share it, but it could genuinely like ruin your whole day, here, and I don’t want to do that uninvited.”

“I know you have a history with [insert thing here], but I’m dealing with some things and could use your advice if you’re up for it.”

“I know you have a history with [insert thing here], and I thought I’d let you know that there’s something happening on the news / on social media that might upset you, so like... brace yourself before you go on there, just a heads up.” (This isn’t a consent prompt so much as a polite warning, but it’s pretty considerate imo and the other person might appreciate the thought and warning.)

“Yo, I know some shit that’ll 100% make you cry in a real bad way, but I think it’s important for you to know it. Please let me know when it’s a good time to tell you something genuinely pretty awful. Sorry in advance.”

Please do not use this or the “information that could hurt you” text as some weird get out of jail free card to be a huge asshole. That does not help anyone and honestly does make writing something for this very specific kind of “I know something fucking terrible” prompt genuinely difficult, as it’s almost impossible to make it shithead-proof.  You shitheads ruin everything for everybody.

Anyway that’s just me exploring ideas.  Like I said, in a perfect world we’d, like, assemble and revise a list or something to have out there as a resource so that people could navigate this sort of thing with less difficulty without reading as something unintended.  Because that’s the important thing to note with the criticisms: Many of these do not read as intended.

Anyway I’m gonna crawl back into my little hole from whence I came now.

#venting #autism #social scripts

[transboyurameshi-blog]

For the love ask meme: link/sidon

Who said “I love you” firstSidon wanted to say it first but he was scared of scaring link off so imagine his surprise when one day, he looks up and sees scraggly one heart tired link who's coming back to the palace after a long trip and sees the food Sidon left out and just smiles all tired and signs I love you Who would have the other’s picture as their phone backgroundIt is canon link is a shutterbug, but you know that vine of the guy seeing the cat just, existing and being like "holy shit, hOLY shit, beautiful *whispers* tenoutaten" that's Sidon @ link tbh so I'd say Sidon Who leaves notes written in fog on the bathroom mirrorLink likes doing this because his selective mutism makes it really hard to tell Sidon "I love you" in the morningsWho buys the other cheesy giftsLink sees all kinds of stuff when he travels that he buys because it made him think of Sidon and runs back with it to him so delighted.Who initiated the first kissLink did because Sidon was being cute and tripping over himself trying to ask Link why he never got with his sister and link was like "let me show u u cute fuck" in his head and kissed him.Who kisses the other awake in the morningSidon gives Eskimo kisses to wake Link up as gently as he can and only if link needs to be awake otherwise he let's his hero sleep.Who starts tickle fightsOh I'm pretty sure it's canon that that's a totally Sidon move.Who asks who if they can join the other in the showerSidon did and Link got all flustered but nope turns out Sidon just really wanted to help wash his hair and help him relax.Who surprises the other in the middle of the day at work with lunchSidon once said he absolutely loved Links cooking and now it won't stop, he tries every new recipe, his stomach is literally always full send help it's all so delicious. Who was nervous and shy on the first dateI actually like to think Link was, because social interactions would be par for the coarse for Sidon being royalty meanwhile link is screaming in his head "!!!!!!!!WORK DUMB VOICE TELL HIM THANK YOU !!!!! NO STUPID CHASING A KEESE IN THE MIDDLE OF A DATE AND KILLING IT ISN'T NORMAL !!!!" and Sidon just smiles and tells link he's cute and link is like "goddess help me I am weak"Who kills/takes out the spidersSidon did once for Link because it was a fuckinf big spider and it reminded link of something he called a redead? Either was most spiders don't bother him but he let's Sidon take care of them because he loves making Sidon feel good and letting him rescue him.Who loudly proclaims their love when they’re drunkAmazing how alcohol can make your brain go "selective trauma and autism based mutism? what's that? I love mY FISH BOYFRIEND EVERYONE"