#every part of these was a huge pain

[spockandawe]

i ate'nt dead

Here's a VERY mediocre midnight picture where i managed to lose the reflection on the foil i was photographing while catching it for every other book on the table, but! BUT! I haven't forgotten this all exists. All the binderary books are ready to photograph, as soon as I can scrub the green paint from my fingers, apply new polish to the nails, clean a table, and find a few minutes when I'm not running late for a meeting. This year has been.... so tired and lethargic, but simultaneously, so overstuffed and frantic. Honestly not super into it!!!!

#the other two thirds of my books are on a table across the room #an impossible gap to cross #yes this is misvil at least.... v3. yes i still have all of them. no I haven't finished tooling v2. what about it #this one tho.... so teeny tiny #i should have turned my own tooling graphic into the cricut covers for these tbh #jk im not weeding that #i am NEVER doing half-legal again if I can help it #every part of these was a huge pain #except the snake leather that was a doll

[puppyeared]

is this your card? ♦️♣️♥️♠️ it isnt but you dont wanna hurt his feelings

#this was supposed to be a warmup but i got carried away.... i havent drawn in so long that its been hard to focus orz #im testing a new brush for fun. again.. i think i can use this for clean lineart..?? im surprised i went as long as i did with the #narinder brush honestly... but i wanna try something new so here we are again #if i could get my shit together id love to draw a model of his van because i have smth really cool in mind..i was looking at pictures #of old wooden caravans like the horse drawn ones and i wonder if i could combine that with the shape of an RV #i like the ones with a door at the rear bc it kinda lookslike a train caboose.. maybe he'd get someone to weld him a custom ride!! #idk how intricate and detailed i can design it without making it a pain in the ass to draw every time BUT i have a general idea #it would probably have a door on the side but idk if itd flip down to make a stage or upwards to make a roof?? and then theres a #curtain behind it where he would come out and do his show methinks.. ive been looking at pictures of camping vans on pinterest for ideas #i dont think he LIVES in the van since i mentioned his home is an old run down theatre when he isnt on the road. i wanna draw that too #but the RV should have enough for long travels like a bed and cabinets..? maybe a net hanging on the ceiling where all his props go #id like to think of ideas for a hometown.. toronto has a huge entertainment district so it would make sense for him to live there #although id also love to base parts of it from vancouver since id love to go back and visit </3 #..would there be furth names for those places?? nyancouver... clawronto... whinnypeg (like a horse whinny)... #pawson creek.... purrlington... otterwa.. i love coming up with names lol #my art #myart #my oc #oc #sleight #laikas comet oc #fan character #fur #furry art

[definitelynotshouting]

Can I ask, since you mentioned agreeing 'even if under duress' - how did the Watchers convince Player Grian to join them in hunger au?

So take this with the specific grain of salt that ive never watched Evo directly (but have friends who have ((thank you wren)), so i know tidbits via osmosis from them), but my thought has always been that the riddles the Watchers gave the Evo Players were all tests used to measure cleverness and intelligence-- the whole point of them attempting to copy the mind of a Player into a Watcher larva in the first place was to try and avoid the insanely high infant mortality rate their typical juveniles go through, bc they dont understand their own limits enough to even know they have them yet. So they needed a Player they knew they could instruct and who would listen to them, and, well. Grian, for all he was rebellious and outright defiant of the Watchers, still solved their puzzles and only had to be punished once before he stopped trying to mess with them

What ive always pictured is after the dragon fight the two main elders of the Watcher colony finally revealed themselves to Grian properly-- i have this crystal clear image of the two of them hovering above and next to the central end island, looming over Grian, and like, these guys are big. HUGE. A good 5x bigger than the ender dragon itself, at LEAST. It would be hard not to feel insanely intimidated by that, honestly, especially when there are two of them side by side, blocking your entire view of the End from that direction.

Anyway picture that with the context of these two giant floating winged worms youve never seen before, who have demonstrated their powerful ability to manipulate code in a way you cant.... telling you that they have chosen you to become one of them. Thats an immense amount of pressure, both from flattery and fear, especially considering theyve punished you before for defying them. I like to think even then, Grian balked a bit, and while i dont have exact dialogue beats here, i know the Watchers continued putting that pressure on him (likely while leveraging his friendships too-- like ive always said, if Grian hadnt been chosen, BigB wouldve been, and i can absolutely see the Watchers offering to take him in Grian's stead) until he finally caved and accepted their "offer" of joining them.

Unfortunately, he didnt find out exactly what that entailed until it was far too late.

#shouting speaks #asks #hunger au #evo watchers #watcher!grian #grian #evo smp #tldr they pressured tf out of him to do it #through both flattery and also leveraging his own fear against him #he was a Player after all. they were likely bumping his mood post-dragon fight to make him more suggestible #the most painful thing abt this to me is that the Watchers still werent being deliberately malicious here like #with the way they viewed Players this was NORMAL to them #they just. didnt rlly consider them as much more than food/hosts for their young. in their eyes the Watcher that emerged was different #than the Player it had hatched from #even though it had Grian's mind memories personality and stats #every day i feel shrimp emotions abt this #the horror he went through..... and they never once thought of it as torture #they never once regarded Player!Grian as something that needed to know what was going to happen to him #bc it was normalized to them. yeah sure Watcher juveniles hatch from Player hosts thats NORMAL thats part of their life cycle!!! #the only new thing is this one would still retain the Player's mind #it was a fucked up science experiment basically and grian wasnt told ANYTHING before it actually happened to him #sobs and cries ohhh grian i fucked you up SO BAD huh #also huge shoutout to my friend wren for giving me a little context while i wrote this and confirming my ideas slotted in #rlly well with existing canon. character understander status continues to stay intact im winning #txt

[foolishnpd]

I perceive that I'm getting ignored (I'm not really) and I want to scream and kill everyone about it

#lilyroaring #npd safe #I guess it's like. the equivalent to perceiving abandonment in bpd? #doesn't have to actually be happening but even the perception or thought of it might send you splitting #my soul is a stone statue and every time I get ignored #a thousand little demons start smashing it with hammers #and babey I am ready to crumble #it's just this horrible aching pain and void feeling in my chest #I'm being ignored I'm being ignored I'm not getting attention don't I deserve that attention #why are you ignoring me why aren't you paying attention to me now #what's wrong is it my fault did I not speak perfectly was I not perfect enough #am I not trying hard enough to be worthy of love anymore #and it either turns into an internal crash of self hatred #or a split where I despise and look down on whoever dares to ignore me #..... I'm not even being ignored there's no reason to be worked up about it #I would like to give an honorary thank you to my mother for always literally ignoring me #surely that's not a huge part of the problem here :))))

[tswwwit]

Had a very funny thought in my head of bill successfully getting a cult started at some point between reincarnations just bc he’s bored. By coincidence dipper gets reincarnated into a kid who grows up in said cult and bein all culty n stuff. When it’s finally time for bill to pick up his human he’s low key annoyed that dippin dorks all culty. Problem is immediately fixed when dipper remembers everything and goes back to normal.

The experience becomes a very funny story at dinner parties where dipper cringes and bill thinks it was a wacky time. I imagine the cult gets broken up by dipper bc i want to give them a happy ending too.

Oh boy, poor, poor Bill. It's one thing for Dipper to pretend to be subservient - that's all fun and games, not real. But a version of Dipper where he's actually, sincerely, bowing and kneeling before Bill? That gets a full on 😬 Sure, he likes weird! This is certainly that!

But it's like. The flipped version of Dipper watching Bill cheerfully working at a soup kitchen, or tenderly nursing a baby bunny back to health or something. Not what he should be doing. Bad. Just so wrong. Man, he's gonna be glad when his feisty little guy gets his brains back

Also contains: One confused Dipper, whose 'god' is actually really... annoying?? And for some weird reason, it seems to make said 'god' happy when he finally gets fed up enough to be bitchy about it.

#answers #Bill's equal parts amused and annoyed - it'd be hilarious if it wasn't happening to *him* #As it stands he's just gotta wait for things to sort themselves out #Bill's gonna keep his hands to himself at the outset this time #Something about the idea of trying to seduce Dipper when he's like this makes his organs feel squirmy in a bad way #It's kind of cute having a 'servant' that he just kidnapped. The cult was pretty cool! #He's much *less* thrilled to see the impact it's had on his defiant stubborn husband. The brains are there but they're full of delusions #Again something he would typically like but he's always loved that Dipper liked the *real* Bill. That's not what he's seeing now #Where's that insight?? The fond exasperation?? Where's him calling Bill an asshole and smacking him then kissing him anyway??? #Watching Dipper shrink back and shut his mouth makes Bill disappointed every time. What a pain. #It's frankly a huge relief when Dipper starts getting snappy and petty again; Bill's gonna be *extra* annoying just to encourage it #He knew nothing would keep Pine Tree down for long 😌 #Dipper here going 'I should theoretically be worshipping this guy but he's an ASSHOLE and furthermore a huge goddamn dork.' #Torn between wanting to smother Bill with a pillow and kneel in a different way #Frantically googling whether it's weird to wanna murder your own deity and or seduce him. Can you do both.

[latenightsundayblues]

Im testing out actual rendering on some OC doodles rn and NOBODY TOLD ME IT WAS GONNA BE THIS HARD😭😭😭😭

#i dont even think it looks ugly its just that it took me like a quarter of my brain to do the most basic part of it #i have such huge respect for artists that actually go through this slow painful process EVERY TIME #im already exhausted and I STILL GOTTA DO THE HAIR?????? #gonna go back in time and slap the pencil out of baby me's hand so I choose some other hobby and avoid this heart gripping anguish

[panvani]

And like kind of the thing with Vincent's character is that right up until the end of Pandora Hearts Vincent continues to be framed in this inscrutable, dehumanizing manner that seeks to moralize even his act of suicide to the end of encouraging that suicide. And he knows this! That's why he reveals his intent when he does, because he understands his suicide will still be interpreted as an immoral act! But the thing about this suicide is it can only be interpreted as selfish if you interpret suicide as a response to agony as a selfish act, and even Vincent's agony is a moral one*! Vincent does not evaluate his own pain or abuse as it relates to him, he is consistently only able to express emotional anguish when he frames it around the hurt of others! Waaaaah!!!!!

#logxx #Like we KNOW Vincent was abused but kind of the crux of his character is he is unable to comprehend his abuse #As informative to his emotional pain #Cuz a huge part of his chaeacter is believing he engages w things Objectively and Without Emotion #Then having a nervous breakdown every time he's forced to acknowledge that his behavior is entirely motivated by emotion #The thing about his suicide is it can only be interpreted as selfish by arguing that Vincent has moral responsibility #Over subconscious thought and emotion #Which is completely nonsensical and also THE BELIEF THAT MADE THE PROTAG SUICIDAL #AUGHHHH

[herbalsingularitea]

Venty stuff in tags ignore me I’m just screaming into the void about chronic pain/illness

#I road home with my mom from work yesterday and she just straight up asked how I was going to cope working full time #when part time takes such a huge toll on me physically #cause after working just 8-5 I’ll be bed ridden in pain for a good 12 hrs afterwards #she was like “listen I know you want to get a full time job but can you actually handle it? #BIG sigh #I feel so trapped cause idk man maybe I can’t handle that but do I really have a choice????? #I wish I could go to a doctor and get help and documentation so I can apply for disability at least #but hey guess what? I need healthcare to go to the doctor #and hey guess what else? I need a full time job to get healthcare #I’m in pain every day and so so so tired and I just want to work like everyone else and make money to fund my stupid little dreams #@ life hey throw me a bone dude I’m trying to fucking hard giving 110% every day and ain’t shit paid off for over 2 years #moss vents

[guinevereslancelot]

was trying to figure out why the hr guy lied abt why i was being fired and i just realized its bc it's illegal to fire me for asking for a reasonable accommodation for a disability or medical condition lol

#i could file an eeoc complaint and sue themmm but that sounds like a hassle #i even have in writing the request to change to part time due to my health #but im sure it would be a huge pain and go nowhere and its a small town as well i dont want to make problems #esp since im starting my own business right down the road #also the owner is a multimillionaire and would sue me to oblivion for defamation or something probably #but i will wait a month or two so they dont know its me and write them a bad google review 😌 #bc their product quality sucks and they overcharge for disgusting moldy plants after they pay us shit to pick off the moldy leaves and ship #i spent all week picking thru gross moldy mealy bug infested plants trying to find ones that looked ok (after removing gross leaves) to ship #for $76 a tray!! #and for a slightly dif version of the plant each gross plug is like six dollars #and they come in trays of 51 i believe #they also do this with the edible plants btw #last week i was picking out the slimy moldy leaves of the basil so they could ship it to be distributed to every hannafords in the region 🤢 #anyway their quality is so so awful and gross the owner is only rich bc he was born rich #despite his self made man backstory that he completely made up lol #i wanna namedrop them but i dont want to get sued #dont buy basil at hannafords if you live in new england tho

[pepprs]

i do not want to get out of bed omfg. this week has been so fucking insane im exhausted but we have aprogram tonight until 7 and i have to facilitate and there are a million things to do today

#but i got my p*riod and cotaught on tuesday and broke up w my counselor on monday and a few days before that redacted redacted so im ph #physically and emotionally exhausted but we have this program tonight until 7 and then 2 trainings tomorrow andi have like 2 meetings inbetw #between those. and i just want to sleep and/or lie down w a heating pad bc my cramps have been brutal this time around. literally could #barely get work done on tuesday bc i was in AGONY and forgot my heating pad and no one could bring it to me from home but it s like i have n #nowhere on campus to lie down or get checked out or anything bc im not a student anymore so i need to just writhe at my desk (<- i have one #of those now finally btw 🥹💗) and jusf hope i don’t pass out. and i didn’t but it was so bad and im not recovered from it yet. idk. #everything is so much. there are some intense and in some cases horrible things happening. iwwish we had time to pause and process them and #that we weren’t so tired and stretched all the time. i wish we didn’t have all these pressures to worry about. i wish we could just have #time to love each other and check in truly and to support each other bc we are friends before we are colleagues methinks and i jsut want us #to be ok and happy and rested and healthy. idk. augh #delete later #purrs #also i think i am not normal when it comes to cramps btw. i think maybe it might not be normal to be in this much pain. or maybe im just #weak or have a low pain tolerance but i feel like it’s a lot worse than it used to be + i get cramps at Other times too and it’s ummmm bad. #ask to tag #like how absolutely insane that this is a huge part of my life and i feel like i can’t even talk abt it and it’s so embarrassing but it #literaly is like.. every other week im scared that im gonna be unable to function bc of pain but i literally say nothing at all and just smi #smile and pretend im fine and barely talk abt it. i don’t think that’s good or normal. and i think ppl should talk abt p*ripds more so it’s #not as weird or bad or gross or cringe whatever to talk abt being in pain and to accommodate urself or whatever despite other ppl knowing #abt it. cringeeeee augh i don’t want to be one of Those people but like. it’s bad and i fucking hate it

[piplupod]

it is officially most definitely below -30 celsius today 😭

#gotta finally boot up the space heater fdsjkl i've been making do with heated blanket but my fingers are starting to get stiff and pained #bc of how cold it is #ooch ouch i hate this part of winter #its not like. a huge issue or anything. just kind of annoying fdsjkl #like i hate dealing w it every year bc i do not enjoy bundling up esp when i have to go grocery shopping and wait for the bus fdsjkl #pippen needs 2nd breakfast

[dykesbites]

:( i feel so drained and empty today

#yesterday was really rough #yall know i was forced to quit winterguard well. i still am allowed to teach my old high school colorguard and we had a comp yesterday #the group that i used to be a part of was also there #seeing all my friends performing without me being a part of it was. really fucking painful #they were all nice to me but like. nothing will ever make this better. #they were all great they hugged me and let me cry and i miss them so much #had a huge scream cry sesh in my car after it was all over #i havent told the kids im not marching anymore and i just dont want to let them down #idk i feel like such a failure #and im going to have to see my winterguard group at every single competition that my kids go to #im dreading it i cant keep bawling at every show

[froqgy]

105%ing hk didnt rly feel like i was which was cool

#like near the end i went to get every grub and then complete journal entries which was the most #like. the latter was the modt checklist thing i did #but i didnt have that much left from careful exploring and also really huge part was #having a tour guide LOL (thanks roger again). i think playing hk knowing nothing has its merits #and likr u can explore on your own but some stuff is a little too painful and ir obscure to #figure on ur own without help so i much preferred that. also fun for both sides to react :-) yelling and banging my fjsts #so im glad i did nearly all i could've in a first run . sooooo much fun #good hollow night everyone 🛌

[misterradio]

wow david hasselhoff has a weird voice compared to everyone else

#watching this jekyll and hyde musical WOOOOOO #everyone seems to be doing an english accent except him #original nonsense #ohhhhh facade is such a good song for the theme of personal/private life grr grrr grrrrr it makes me wish tgis musical had more of that the #THEME. Instead of saying that the two parts of human behaviour are good vs evil. AUGH #''well You dont have to deal with this behaviour. he's marrying Me not You.'' LOL #every time anyone is introduced we say their name like HI POOLE. HI JOHN. #this pacing is so fast.. The dialogue and singing... AHHH #slow down please. #(shrek they dont even have dental voice) they don't even have bitch bitch bitch. #OH MY WORD HE LIT SOMEONE ON FIRE AHHHH made me yell out loud . AMAZING #''love is worth forgiving for'' yeah but if this dude is THIS hot n cold with u then there is a huge problem ... #hyde evil pained laugh in front of utterson kind of swag actually ::-) #YAY WE R DONE..!!!!!!!!!! #It wasn't the Anthony warlow concept album but it was pretty good I guess LOL #It made me wish the pacing was better . And some of the moments I rly liked in the album weren't there #But it is cool to have more context for stuff going on ::-) #I think I like the way warlow paced some of his dialogue more ? esp when he was transforming and sh-t #Also lisa/emma got way less screen time than I thought she would 😔 SAD #okay other than that the music was fine and it was a fun watch ::-)

[neverendingford]

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#tag talk #I lie a lot. to other people. to myself. I don't really lie here (usually) because I don't have an image to maintain but like... #I don't always even recognize the lies in telling myself. I retell stories to make myself seem clever and smart #retell interactions to make people take my side in the matter. and it even works on me sometimes. #I've always wanted to be the hardboiled loner. independent and happily isolated from others. #and to an extent I am. it helps when you despise most people you meet. when you find them inane and simple. #but I play it off like I'm somehow cool and aloof when in reality I'm alone because I hurt so much around others. #I have such a hard time identifying with others. I genuinely feel estranged and alien. #it makes me immune to caring about their pain. which can be useful I guess. but that's still not great. #I think part of my desire to be- and questioning of being aroace is in part a desire for independence. #because I have been wildly romantic before. I was head over heals for my first boyfriend (still my best friend). #I wrote them poetry. left love notes around their house. cooked him food and went on dates. and I did enjoy it. felt natural and good. #I just... that happens so rarely. this is the first time in almost ten years that it's happened again. I have the capacity. I have the want. #but I just... I don't click with others. I don't get along with them. I interact with to know them and then I start to loathe them. #I've gotten too many followers here and I go through their blogs and I get an idea of who they are and there's at least five of you I hate. #and I'm getting awfully close to reaching the annoyance threshold because I don't mind you existing but I need it to happen somewhere else. #I don't get paid to exist in the same space as you so we don't even have a functional relationship. #anyway. I dislike being lonely but I constantly feel a visceral disconnect between myself and others and it aches every single day. #adhd meds and hrt are doing huge things to help me be happy with myself. which means I need people less. I can exist alone. #but it doesn't remove the need. doesn't fill the void. it remedies one problem but emphasizes another. #and I'm not used to wanting someone. I want things From people but I don't want Them. except now I do. I want this person. #and I'm so out of my depth because my play is usually to keep distance. engage politely. get the company I need and then retreat. #and I want more than that here. I was about to say “I'm afraid of fucking it up” but I'm not. that's a cliche that my mind auto filled. #I know I won't fuck it up because I understand her and I know my own abilities. but I'm afraid of what this means for me. #will this work loose something in my own mind? Will I become more painfully aware of my own needs? Will loneliness hurt more? #I know I'm moving again in a few years. I'm staying with my brother for the foreseeable future so I know this won't be long term. #so if I can figure this out in the next year or so then maybe I'll be more prepared the next time we settle somewhere. #idk. my mind has been in overdrive processing this for the last three weeks. I feel noticeably more tired because of it. #I'm just so preoccupied with trying to figure out this new part of me that's only shown up once before.

[circusclownproductions]

seeing a lot of videos that are like “I didn’t know babies couldn’t have water” so here’s an incomplete list of things you need to know before having a baby

- the obvious, they can’t have water bc milk is incredibly high in water already so excess water leads to over hydration

- babies cannot have honey until 1

- if ur breastfeeding your kid and saving excess milk, make sure you label what you pumped in the morning vs at night bc your body produces different melatonin levels throughout the day and giving your baby daytime milk at night can make them more alert and fuck up their sleep schedule

- idk why ppl keep saying this but swaddling your babies or getting them those baby straight jacket things is not abuse. It chills them out cuz it reminds them of the womb

- babies have a dandruff like buildup on their head called cradle cap, and it’s very easy to deal with and remove with just some baby shampoo, a gentle scrub brush (MADE FOR BABIES!!) and a comb. It does need to be removed tho cuz it can be very painful after a while. This can also continue to happen late into toddlerhood it’s normal

- you have to clean out the creases of your baby’s skin and hands and feet they WILL collect dust😭😭

- you cannot bathe your baby until their umbilical cord naturally falls off. Use a warm damp rag until then

- tummy time is actually very important

- your baby might have a misshapen head at first (not all the time but sometimes) this will either sort itself out or they’ll need a corrective helmet ask your doctor

- I wouldn’t recommend having your baby leave the house very much until they’re at least 6 months old, especially if they’re born near cold and flu season cuz the common cold can kill a newborn

- you’re not an awful horrible person for having postpartum depression and it’s always a million times better to let your baby cry a few minutes longer than normal while you regain your composure than to freak out and give ur kid shaken baby syndrome

- you’re not an awful horrible person for giving your baby formula milk either

- don’t put shoes on your baby it’ll compromise their toe box and balance

- babies put every single thing in their mouths

- the easiest way to burp a baby is to hold them straight up (spine straight) and hold their head a bit higher

- always support their head they barely have necks

- if your baby fights away food, fights tummy time, vomits every single time you burp them, is gaining or losing an unreasonable amount of weight at a time, wheezes after eating, or goes red after eating, chances are they’re probably allergic to the type of milk they’re eating (again ask a doctor but these are just some signs it’s not just colic)

- they will wobble a lot when learning to do things but you gotta fight the urge to help them every single time cuz they gotta learn

- they’re not always spitting out baby food cuz they don’t like it they just don’t know how to eat. Like they don’t know how to push food down they only know how to stick their tongue out so be patient

- babies craniums are broken up into three parts at first that later fuse together, this is to help make birthing easier but it results in a small EXTREMELY sensitive spot in the top of their head that has no protection. This puts their brain at a high risk. Always protect their soft spot

- read to your baby!! Get cute bright colorful sensory books with sight words and read them to your baby it makes such a huge difference in their educational growth and will help them acquire a love for reading early on. And talk to them never shut up just say whatever comes to mind all the time this will strengthen their vocabulary growth also.

- babies poop like a lot. A lot. an unreasonable amount. Bring back up clothes and more diapers than you think

- no pillows or stuffies in the crib and only use a muslin blanket unless it’s especially cold to prevent suffocation

- babies kick reflexively until they’re out of their newborn scrunch (they stay womb shaped for a while) and if your baby is crying and pushing at the swaddle try letting them flail around for a minute

- consoling your baby is not spoiling them ! They need comfort and they will learn to self soothe on their own

- singing lullabies actually works, they can recognize your voice a consistent place of comfort from the womb and the cadence of lullabies is literally engineered to create a calm headspace

- for the love of god do not get boring ass beige toys. Colors are important for their neurological development

- babies are very responsive to praise from a young age so be as supportive of them as you can

- babies get constipated a lot and you have to do like tummy massages to help ease their pain the easiest way is to lay them on their backs and hold one foot in each hand, kick their feet like bicycles, scrunch up, and then stretch their legs out

- holding them on your hip too much will not cause bow legged-ness if your baby is bow legged that was always gonna happen

- they drool so so much and you have to get bibs for them so they don’t get chest eczema

- don’t use scented products on their skin cuz their skin is sooo much thinner than ours

- when your baby first starts sitting on their own never walk away from them without setting up a nest of pillows and blankets around them. Even minor head trauma can mess them up sometimes

- this one is kinda morbid and scary but sometimes babies just die out of nowhere and it’s no one’s fault or anything it’s called sudden infantile death syndrome(SIDS) and it’s about 1.3k deaths on average per year in America so not super common but still very real. 90% of these deaths happen during the first four months however edit: apparently it’s bc of an enzyme deficiency which at the very least you can take steps to try and prevent

- smoking and drinking during pregnancy WILL affect your baby and your breast milk and also might contribute to SIDS cases

- babies sometimes have a big red mark on them somewhere called a stork bite immediately after birth but typically it goes away

- babies can’t see very well for a while after birth and they’re VERY wobbly so they’ll typically bonk their head into your chest and face a lot while trying to support themselves

- female babies might have smth similar to a period the first few days after birth, this is because of the hormone transfer that happens during the birthing process and the days leading up to it

- male babies get random erections for the first few days after birth(hormone transfer again) literally do not be weird about this it’s a baby

- things like weaning your baby onto solid foods, potty training, weaning off pacifiers etc, can actually be directed by the baby and will happen naturally will minimal guidance from the parent(some guidance is still necessary) although I would do individual research into baby led weaning for food to prevent choking

- get those chewy feeding pouches to help with weaning

- the most random things will scare the hell out of your baby don’t take it personal 😭

- baby carriers are life savers (tulas are one of my favorites)

- once babies hit toddlerhood they’re tougher than you think, and a lot of their reaction is based on YOURS. they’re always going to be looking to you for how to react to a situation. Remain calm and if they’re ok they’ll calm down but if they’re genuinely hurt they’ll keep crying

- babies will most likely get ridiculously attached to an inanimate object and you have to keep this thing intact at all costs until they’re old enough to abandon it or they will throw a FIT. I got a lemur plushie from a zoo once and every single one of the kids has bonded their soul with it until about 6 years old and once a month I have to stitch him back up

- don’t compare yourself to other parents. Maybe your kid isnt getting grass fed wild caught north Atlantic cheerios but at least they’re fed. If your kid is alive and healthy and happy you’re doing a good job

- you will need 3 car seats, an infant seat, a grow with me toddler seat, and a booster seat

- getting a good diaper bag is a MUST

- the hair a baby is born with will most likely all fall out or they’ll get a bald spot on the back of their head where they sleep cuz their hair is so fragile and thin but once it grows back it grows back thick

- get like 20 muslin blankets so you always have a backup when the main ones are covered in spit up

- the babies grip IS stronger than yours (keep your hair up and keep pets away best you can)

- your best bet for your teething baby is a pacifier you can put your finger in so you can massage their gums and some chewing toys numbing cream can be dangerous and should be used sparingly

- go ahead and come to terms with the fact you’re gonna have to use a Frida Baby to manually remove snot

- babies can get hair and thread wrapped around their toes and fingers that can cut off their circulation try to make a habit of checking

- don’t hit your kid please it’s nothing but trauma and fucked up coping mechanisms from there pls empathize with your child they’re a person too

- be careful not to pull too hard on their arms and legs(like during play or holding their hand while they walk) and NEVER pick them up by their hands this will very easily cause dislocation

- they might have a little tooth like callous on their lip from their pacifier. This does not hurt them and it will go away but it may hurt during breastfeeding

- breastfeeding will make your boobs different sizes

Yeag that’s all I can think of rn but yk i Will add as I remember stuff ppl are also adding things I forgot in the tags in case you’d like to look thru that as well <3

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