#esp in the same colorway

[sinnnners]

there is something so profoundly sad about looking at unidentified persons on NAMUS and the only photo they have is of their shoe.

#the shoe is usually covered in mud #but if that's all you give the public?? a picture of a dirty ass shoe?? a fucking size 9 women's puma? how many fuckers have that same shoe? #esp in the same colorway #white/grey #softfoam+

[violentviolette]

Jack would you say it's common for people with NPD and people with BPD to attract eachother? A girl I'm into just told me that before me go any further I need to know about her BPD dx and I've already dated 3 people with BPD before her. The people I've dated weren't aware of my diagnosis until we got close enough for me to trust them enough to tell them and only one of them told me about their BPD right at the beginning. So this is definitely a pattern for me. Is this a thing in general?

honestly I think it definitly is, my best friend has bpd and we literally mesh so well its like were different colorways of the same smash character lmfaoooo

but I think its that npd and bpd are just really similar in ways that make it easy for us to understand one another and vibe

like both are rooted in deep insecurity and fear of abandonment and neglect, which means that our investment and energy levels usually line up because we're looking for similar things, as opposed to other pds whose needs might clash.

for example ppl with bpd tend to want to keep very consistent and frequent contact with the ppl theyre close to in order to build trust and feel secure and reassured that they aren't being abandoned. this jives well with ppl with npd who usually sooth those same insecurities in the same way, we tend to see constant contact and reaching out as reassurance that we are still wanted and loved.

so since we both like to form long-term bonds that stay consistently high investment with lots of reassurance that we are loved, wanted, and not being abandoned, we tend to end up gravitating towards eachother more frequently

whereas if u took either of those needs and paired them with someone with schiz PD or aspd, those needs would clash really hard against eachother, esp for ones where ppl require lots of space and downtime and have an inability to tolerate others for very long

obviously individual people vary and there will always be people who dont fit those generalizations but I think it is something that exists and i think it makes sense when u breakdown where ppls symptoms come from and what their needs are

#jack.speaks #anon #npd #bpd #npd tag #bpd tag #cluster b personality disorder #cluster b

[crochetandcrossbones]

I impulse bought this yarn (Loops & Threads Chameleon in Strawberry Cheeseback) at Michael’s over a year ago now. It was ridiculously on sale so I wiped them out. (I’ve posted some hats I made with the same yarn.) Since I got enough of this particular colorway, I figured I’d make myself a blanket. But first and foremost, I need a pattern.

I had some time this weekend & surfed ravelry for a bit to find something that sparked my interest. Then (while binge watching Dragon Prince, Russian Doll, and Sisters) I made up some swatches to see what each pattern looked & felt like as well as how they worked up.

The first pattern – Heartbeat Ripple by ByMimzan – I actually found back when I first got the yarn, but I don’t think the pattern had been translated from Swedish yet, so I struggled A LOT... and eventually gave up. For this one I didn’t follow the exact instructions and made a bit of a messy start, but I think it conveys the feel/structure of the pattern. It’s worked in chains and v-stitches, but also skips a row downward instead of simply working in the previous row, which can get a little tricky, esp with my usually high tension.

The second – Lacy V-Stitch Ripple by Stitchery Projects – Is an interesting lace pattern that looked lovely in the colors in pattern pictures and could make for a visually interesting texture in a blanket. It’s a lighter sort of pattern, also made with v-stitches and chains - and all stitches are made in chain spaces after the foundation row which is kinda nice, since this yarn isn’t the most cohesive.

The third pattern – Jacob’s Ladder Ripple by Stitchery Projects – is so visually interesting. I love the ridges and the sharp angles it produces. I don’t even really mind the sort of gaps that are left in the peaks. However, it works up with large chain spaces that are then linked and pulled together to create those ridges. I like the finished project, but I’m not sure the hassle is worth it while it works up. This pattern would also probably work better with denser yarn.

#project #personal #long post / #crochet