#don't @me

[checkuu]

#my art #fanart #genshin impact #La Signora #Fatui Harbingers #illustration #so yeah #I love her #I am predictable #don't @me

[frevandrest]

Look who's here:

#don't @me #never had a physical copy of it #frev #robespierre

[ecoamerica]

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[dcgal814]

Daxton Endgame

Why a Daxton endgame makes the most narrative sense and completes the arcs of these characters.

DEVI

Devi starts the show literally praying to the gods for a boyfriend. She wants to “shed her old identity” as the girl whose father died and became paralyzed. Paxton is described to be one of few “who raised her spirits,” and it was her desire to see him that helped her stand from her wheelchair. Paxton becomes part of her quest to heal and to “finally fit in.”

In S1, Paxton’s interest in her helps her to feel better about herself, like when he told her she looked “cool in that outfit.” But she’s so dependent on it that she makes questionable choices to keep it, like ditching her friends during their time of need.

By the end of S2, Devi’s self-esteem has grown enough that she is able to end things with Paxton if they can’t be public about their relationship. At the start of S3, they’re dating, and she walks into Sherman Oaks with the official boyfriend she started the show praying for.  But this time, when given a choice to support another woman but risk her relationship, she chooses to support another woman. 

Although she’s grown and has the relationship with the “boy of her dreams,” we quickly see it doesn’t “solve all of (her) problems,” like Dr. Ryan says. Devi doesn’t feel good enough for Paxton because no external thing can give her the internal healing she still needs.  In S1, Devi fantasized about Paxton telling her she has “the beauty of Priyanka Chopra with the incisive intellect of RBG,”  and even though Paxton basically tells her all these things in S3, she can’t believe him. 

By the end of S3, Devi is able to let go of Paxton the dream, and obsessing about a future where she finally fits in. S4 will likely be about her continuing to come into her own, to live in the present, and to heal -- and her arc would come full circle in finally feeling good enough for Paxton and being able to accept all the love and care he has for her. 

PAXTON

Paxton starts the show as the most popular guy in school “because he was dope at swimming...and kinda pretty” -- things that came naturally to him without hard work.  And things that made Devi like him from the very beginning of the show, without him having to do anything but say yes. 

But when he gets to know her more, he likes her.  

It’s also hard though because she does things that hurt him, and her mother also does things that hurt him. So he tries to distance himself to protect himself. 

When he loses his swimming career, he tries to get into college by cheating, feeling that Devi “owes” him. Rebecca helps him realize that nobody owes him anything and if he wants to succeed, he’s gonna have to work for it. And he does. He works in school and improves his grades.  He also has to work to keep a relationship with Devi, which he didn’t have to do at the start because she was already so into him.  She pushes him outside his comfort zone, and he has to grow to not lose her.  He faces his fears of being judged for getting back together with someone who cheated on him and in confronting his past mistakes with women.  

Although Paxton validly understood that Devi wasn’t ready for a real relationship until she worked on herself, he admits to Fabiola that he also wasn’t ready to be with someone as complex as Devi. But by the end of S3, Paxton has broken up with Phoebe because he needs someone who challenges him.

His arc would be most complete if he actually has to work to get back with Devi, because she’s no longer obsessed with the dream of him, and actively seeks out the emotionally complex relationship he has with Devi, which Lang has already confirmed in saying Paxton “is definitely still vying for Devi’s heart.”  

The show has set up their arcs perfectly to come back together.  Just as Devi would finally be ready for Paxton, Paxton would finally be ready for Devi.  When Paxton finds the candles and lamp scarves, Paxton asked Devi why she never did any of those things for him, to which she replied because she was worried he’d think she was lame. But Paxton never thought she was lame, even from the very beginning of the show. It was Devi who thought she was lame, but now is ready to just be herself -- and be herself with him.  Even though Paxton always liked her, he was not ready for a full on deep relationship with her. But guess what bitches, they both finally are and it would be SO DAMN BEAUTIFUL 😭😭😭 PLEASE LET US HAVE IT. Paxton would finally get all the candles and lamp scarves he deserves and Devi would finally get someone who loves her for all her emotional richness.  

And when the last part of the dream finally comes true -- when Paxton tells her he loves her -- she might just believe him ❤️ 

Now, as for...

BEN

Ben starts the show as a lonely, ambitious boy who derives his esteem from his achievements, and bullies his competition, who is usually Devi. They certainly push each other academically but not always in ways that actually make them better people overall. If he can achieve enough, he hopes he will get into Columbia and finally make his dad proud of him.  His primary S3 arc was realizing how his relentless pursuit of achievement was literally making him sick, and hearing from his dad that he was already proud of him.  We see him learning to let go and focus on his health versus winning, even telling Devi “I’m trying not to get hung up on what other people are doing” when she challenges him about why he’s not fighting to win Debate Team.  Ben’s arc would be most complete through his relationship with Margot -- not Devi -- because it’s Margot who helps him to "chill out” and “try to find an emotional connection.” It’s Margot who helps him connect with the part of himself that is “sad and bruised,” and “lonely and exposed.” And it is with Margot and in confronting his insecurities that he may actually, finally, find the healing he so clearly needs.

All the set up is there, but...whether or not we’ll actually get the ending they deserve is, unfortunately, a completely different story 😩😩😩 Which is why it’d be so heartbreaking if it didn’t happen. Not just because I love Daxton. But because I love this story and want to see it get the ending it’s built up to so beautifully. Not to mention, Daxton is iconic as one of the first romantic relationships on TV between two Asian American teens.

I told myself I should prepare for the worst to avoid a debilitating depression, and yet here I fucking am writing this post. Because I just love them. I mean, LOOK AT THEM 😭😭😭

Thank you @seeyoumondaydevi @jackpearcsn @emmanelson​ for some of these screenshots and gifs

#thank you for coming to my ted talk #don't @me #let's all stay in our lanes and share the road #who's gonna need a support group after S4 #i believe in this relationship #team paxton #daxton #nhie #never have i ever #devi vishwakumar #paxton hall yoshida #devi x paxton #paxton x devi #mine

[sparkles-oflight]

In the newest Bojan story he's clearly next to Kris.

#joker out #don't @me #you know it's true #that's Kris' shirt

[sorenkingsley]

I wanted bi Buck and hate Ed*ie so I feel like I won specifically.

#text: rambling #don't @me

[cinamun]

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#ts4 #indya #black simblr #simblr lovefest #I SWEAR I LOVE IT HERE #sometimes lmfao #yes the baby is twerking #don't @me #ts4 story #sims 4 story #ch18

[runawaymun]

i’m a QPR Samfro (aroace frodo bi sam truther) person with one exception: the Bakshi LOTR.

Bakshi Samfro are boyfren-boyfren and they Fuck nasty. 

#i'm speaking my truth here ok #don't @me

[xxlovelynovaxx]

This was sent to a sysco/urse confessions blog but

Y'all scream that the reason we can't prove this is because it's unethical to traumatize children. But first of all, traumatizing children would only prove that trauma CAN cause it. You could never control for enough variables in a group of kids that are not being traumatized even if you COULD do that to prove that any disordered systems that formed in the control group weren't from trauma. Scientifically, they literally do not have enough evidence to be able to ethically claim that traumagenesis is the ONLY cause of disordered systems.

Not to mention, you can be an endogenic system that HAS trauma AFTER formation. This doesn't directly contradict what this person is saying, but I'd be willing to bet a year of income that they believe you can't be endogenic and have OSDDID.

But do you have proof that DID can never be genetic? That it can never be caused by a neurological malformation that occurs during fetal formation? That a head injury can't replicate the physical neurological patterns and cause identical symptoms (dissociative symptoms similar to OSDDID due to brain trauma* have LITERALLY been observed!)?

*I know this is not what you mean by trauma, so don't play games about this.

Aside from invalidating systems that formed from stress that THEY don't consider traumatic, anything the human brain can do in response to psychological stimuli is by definition possible to be replicated by the brain under other conditions! Whether or not the brain typically does may vary, but even if 99 percent of the time a stimulus causes a brain to restructure in a particular way, there WILL BE EXCEPTIONS because brains are weird like that.

This means spontaneous, endogenic formation of disordered systems is possible. This means formation due to brain injury or fetal malformation is possible. This means formation due to genetics is possible, and can even be traumagenic, which would make it mixed origin! Or did you forget that generational trauma is largely genetic?

I mean, insisting that it can't ever form outside of trauma is just unscientific! Psychology is largely self-reported, anyway. If multiple people who are diagnosed with OSDDID claim not to have childhood trauma, throwing that evidence away because "you either have trauma and don't remember it" or "you're not actually a disordered system then" is just confirmation bias!

Psychology is not neurology. It is not absolute. It is a study of self-reported subjective internal experiences. If even ONE SYSTEM claims to be experiencing disordered symptoms and not have trauma, we can't discount that because we believe it's not possible.

Yes, of course the amnesia and repression of traumatic memories makes it hard to be sure. But just like it's wrong to deny that people have experienced trauma, it's wrong to deny that they haven't, and wrong to deny the symptoms they are experiencing in that case.

Just... if we can't ethically prove something scientifically, we also can't insist that it is true. Even if it is likely, it's a theory, not a law.

Until such a time as we can positively identify traumatized and nontraumatized brains, as well as disordered and nondisordered systems by neurological means such as brain mapping, with a near 100 percent success rate, we cannot claim that all disordered systems are traumagenic as absolute truth.

We could just... stop being pluralmisic and actually LISTEN to disordered systems about whether or not each of them, "individually", have trauma. How about that?

(individually as in each individual system, tbc)

#I have DID #don't @me #like half my amnesia is a result of adhd I stg #because not only has trauma worsened my recall #but adhd makes it less likely for the memories to store right in the first place

[toss-a-coin-to-your-stan-account]

staff: our april fools joke this year is a silly feature that doesn't really do anything but give you a button to boop other users! they have to opt-in first though :)

me:

#mine #tumblr #boop #don't get me wrong I love booping but. hm

[frevandrest]

What I learned today (thanks to @robespapier ): Coucy castle is 14 km (3h on foot) away from Blérancourt.

It means SJ would have to go all that way for a "private time" with Thérèse. Now, we don't know if it really happened in the castle, but that rumour seemed to be well-established and the castle is said to be a go-to place for amourous meetings of locals.

And I know teens will do an effort to make out, but 3h of walking (+ 3h to go back) sounds too much. How fast on a horse? It really sounds like they could have picked a more convenient spot.

#unless sj was like #i want to do it in a ruin of a medieval castle #j/k #don't @me #but i honestly thought the castle was like 15-20 minute walk #fun #saint-just #therese gelle

[faeriekit]

"This fic was ai generated—" Cool, so lemme block you real quick

#the ethics are whack but more importantly you didn't even want to write it?? who is it even for?? not you? not me? #you didn't even have enough interest in the premise to take a crack at it?? then who cares? #please don't populate in my search results I'm looking for things that people wrote because they liked something #ao3

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

#yeehaw #1k #5k #10k #posts that got cursed. blasted. im making these tag updates after... 19 hours? #also i have been told it should say speech loss bc nonverbal specifically refers to the permanent state. did not know that! #unfortunately i fear it is so far past containment that even if i edited it now it would do very little. but noted for future reference #edit 2: nvm enough ppl have come to rb it from me directly that i changed the wording a bit. hopefully this makes sense #also. in case anyone is curious. though i doubt anyone who is commenting these things will check the original tags #1) my friend did not do this on purpose in any way. it was not intended to distract me or to hit on me. im a lesbian hes a gay man. cmon now #he felt very bad about it afterwards. i thought it was hilarious but it was very embarrassed and apologetic #2) “why didn't he use 🫵🏼?” didn't exist yet. “why didn't he use 🆗?” dunno! we'd been using a lot of hand emojis. 👌🏼 is an ok sign #like it makes sense. it was just a silly mixup. also No i did not invent 👉🏼👌🏼 as a gesture meaning sex. do you live under a rock #3) nonspeaking episodes are a recurring thing in my life and have been since i was born. this is not a quirky one-time thing #it is a pervasive issue that is very frustrating to both myself and the people i am trying to communicate with. in which trying to speak is #extremely distressing and causes very genuine anguish. this post is not me making light of it it's just a funny thing that happened once #it's no different than if i post about a funny thing that happened in conjunction w a physical disability. it's just me talking abt my life #i don't mind character tags tho. those can be entertaining. i don't know what any of you are talking about #Except the ppl who have said this is pego/ryu or wang/xian. those people i understand and respect #if you use it as a writing prompt that's fine but send it to me. i want to see it #aaaand i think that's it. everyday im tempted to turn off rbs on it. it hasn't even been a week

[mayhemchicken-artblog]

in the hour or so it took me to draw this op turned reblogs off

#art #artists on tumblr #bitches will say ''in what context are these colors pretty'' #and then post the delicate hues of sunlight filtering through the leaves of a forest in late springtime #edit: censored the other op bc some of yall are starting to scare me and i don't want them getting harassed #and as long as im here. stop telling me it's the shrek colors i know it's the shrek colors #everybody and their mother has already mentioned it's the shrek colors

[rongzhi]

English added by me :)

#douyin #video #tiktok #cats #the last guy's name being 'DON'T MIND ME!! (WASN'T ABLE TO NAB ZHOU SHEN CONCERT TICKETS SO I'M ACTING CRAZY VERSION)' really adds to it

[taffywabbit]

they should invent a new type of "staying in bed for 2-3 hours after you wake up repeatedly opening and closing apps on your phone" where it makes you feel awesome and energized and emotionally fulfilled

#buny text #I'm fine i've just been staying up too late playing bg3 the past few nights #and then wanting to wake up before noon so my parents don't say anything rude to me so i end up getting less sleep to facilitate that #and it's catching up to me #i feel like this explanation maybe undermines my previous statement of 'I'm fine' a bit but I'm fine i promise #look at my lop posts boy

[beaft]

a small child came into the café today and asked to buy a chocolate truffle. he tapped a credit card on the reader and it did not go through, mainly because it was not a credit card but in fact a junior cinema pass. i gently explained he couldn't use that to buy things in shops and he looked so gutted that i was like "...but just this once you can have it for free, don't tell my boss though" he said thank you and walked out with his truffle and as he went i heard him chuckling to himself and saying "yes..... yes!!!!!" like the sickos comic

#slightly dotty child or world's most precocious scam artist? you decide. #i asked where his parents were and apparently they were queuing for a table at the restaurant across the street #he even pointed them out to me #so don't worry this was not an unsupervised bébé #be shh now #containment breach