#but i am certain that my lovely mutuals - most of whom are aromantic - do not want to hear about the ned fulmer cheating drama

[absurdty]

Honestly it baffles me that my posts/reblogs on here still get a couple notes from old followers (a couple of whom I actually recognise as mutuals on my main blog!).

I’ve gone a long way in learning about the LGBTQ+ community. A lot of the first things I learned, I learned on my feed here.

I was confused by a lot. Part of it was due to the [tumblr]TM way of expressing things, which didn’t exactly click with me even then (though I did try to imitate it - which is why one of my most popular post on this blog feels, to me, like someone else wrote it), but a lot of it was due to my ignorance.

I’ve been trying to learn more ever since. For a while, (and since I initially followed people I knew from my tumblr I feed, I guess I can thank the YouTube algorithm for somehow leading me to these other creators /s) I followed content creators who unfortunately, because of their own hurt, spread negativity within their own communities, and were notably gatekeepers. I believed that even though there were some things they said I disagreed with, I should still at least listen to what they had to say, to better understand the whole of the community. Thankfully, I eventually realised that they actually spoke for a minority, and what harm it could do to participate in giving them a platform.

I guess my confusion is part of why I stopped using this account, but frankly, it wasn’t all that it was. As my former username (acerthanthou) indicates, I created this account to spread ace awareness and positivity. When I first realised I was asexual, I was very scared and in dire need of validation, and by joining the ace community on tumblr, was faced with a lot of welcome positivity. There were and still are some awesome blogs I’m extremely thankful to. I’m saying the truth when I say that I still think about experiences I had on this account from time to time. Still, with time, I eventually found peace in my asexuality, and ace positivity posts didn’t hit as close to home as they used to. That’s why I slowly lost interest in this account.

Still, I didn’t forget it, and since 2019 (I’d say?) have been popping back in every now and then.

More than ever before, I feel involved in the LGBT community. I think through all of the testimonies that I’ve heard and read, even the negative ones, I’ve become able to fully understand where I stand, and again, I’m saying the truth when I say that my position is one of complete love.

It’s hard to put into words how much I love and care about my fellow LGBTQ+ people. This is a community I’m willing to fight for.

It took me a very long time to come to terms with the fact that I was queer. I’ve known I was asexual for a long time, and thought about aromanticism for almost as long, (I am now certain that I am aroace) but didn’t feel comfortable identifying as queer. Despite all the positivity that I felt towards my identity, my internalised aphobia was still present, and I thought that term wasn’t for me, that I didn’t deserve it. Worst part was, I believed that other asexual and/or aromantic asexual people could identify as queer, but somehow... not me?

For years I’ve felt involved in the queer community, but mostly identified myself as an ally, even though I was aroace. Realising that I’m queer too, I’m LGBTQ+ too, whether I want to use this label directly or not, finally helped me understand and feel more valid in my relationship with the queer community. As of today, I’m proud to be queer AND an ally. Honestly, I plan on identifying as an ally forever. Not just because we all deserve to help and love ourselves-- but because this is a beautiful community that I want to protect. Because I think my fellow members of the LGBTQIAAP+ community deserve the world and more.

I want to continue learning about the rest of the community. I will continue to love my LGBTQ+ folks. I will continue to speak out for you and for us.

I guess I can be thankful that it was always easier for me to help others than to help myself. Despite facing a lot of casual aphobia myself, I kept the strong belief that other aroaces deserved better than to be told “okay but you’re not lgbt” everytime they as much as mentioned their asexuality. I don’t mind continuing to fight this way.

I love the LGBTQ community to bits, and have been falling in love with it since I was a teenager and first learned about it. I’m extremely flattered and proud to be part of it myself. Let’s stand strong together... Even if I spend most of my time on tumblr on my fandom blog. I’m still there for you all in every aspect of my life, and I hope you love yourself as much as I love you.

#about: #lgbtq #asexual #aromantic #cw: mention of gatekeeping #cw: reference to aphobia

[foxofninetales]

for the ask meme!!!👉👈

8, because i like it when you talk about fic and books and reading!

(20, if you want to - authors should always feel free to meta on their own work! 😘)

💖💖💖

Thank you, sweetie!

8. Is what you like to write the same as what you like to read?

Honestly, yes – all of the things I’ve read and loved come back in my writing, whether in obvious homages (Gunpowder and Ink especially is a nod to Georgette Heyer and all the other Regency romance authors I devoured as a teen) or just in certain turns of phrase, conscious or unconscious. Probably the genre that I vastly enjoy but use the least would be golden/silver age British mysteries, because I simply do not have the patience to plot out a satisfying mystery. Others show up in possibly unexpected ways: The Fox’s Geometry pulls from the emotion, self-discovery, interpersonal relationships and unreliable narration of works such as Megan Whalen Turner’s Queen’s Thief series and Martha Wells’ Murderbot. Meanwhile, The Language of Flour (and my Kan Jian himself) is very much influenced by P.G.Wodehouse’s cheery young idiots with a heavy side of the straight-man oblivious humor of Keith Robertson’s Henry Reed series. And all my favorites and my writing have some things in common: eventual happy/happyish endings, relationships that rely on emotion rather than sex, and having fun with all the possibilities of the English language.

20. Tell us the meta about your writing that you really want to ramble to people about (symbolism you’ve included, character or relationship development that you love, hidden references, callbacks or clues for future scenes?)

Ooh, fun! While implying a certain depth of thought that… I probably lack.

I did enjoy sticking this sly line said by Wu Xie to Gao Bai in on chapter 3 of Intersection: “I will never, ever touch anything that has had your family name on it." Oh, babe, if only you knew. There are some other lines I’ve snuck in that I’m proud of but can’t say yet because spoilers!

Liu Sang/Zhan Qiling’s relationship in the Intersection ‘verse took me by surprise! I adore Pingxiesang, but my personal takeaway from Reboot is that there’s a significantly stronger argument for Wu Xie’s interest in Liu Sang than for Zhang Qiling’s, so (partly because I'm not good at relationships based on sexual attraction) I wasn’t sure where to get a grip on their relationship at first beyond “Well, if it makes Wu Xie happy…”. I hadn’t even considered how my altered Liu Sang backstory would affect that, until I was suddenly broadsided by the similarities between the two characters that resulted from these changes. I honestly think that’s what I’m enjoying the most out of writing my particular Pingxiesang relationship in this ‘verse, is watching the two approach Liu Sang from different places: Wu Xie has love, but not understanding, Zhang Qiling has understanding but not love. Getting them both to the point where they love and understand Liu Sang, and he loves and understands them back is a long road, but I am so excited about it.

One scene that got cut and replaced from Intersection was the very first flashback in chapter 16. Initially, I had a scene there with Wu Xie as a young child in bed having his mother come in to kiss him goodnight and him seeing her crying (because she’d just found out about the whole family’s plan for his future). I ended up replacing the scene it because it was far too passive, but I regret having to cut her. Poor woman doesn’t even get named in DMBJ canon as far as I can tell, she deserved a fanfic cameo.

Here, how about some Triangle sexuality headcanons for the Intersection universe?

Wu Xie is enthusiastically bi and had a glorious time in college and after before he finally settled down with his partners.

Pangzi is straight and aromantic: he has a number of lovely lady friends with whom he has mutually beneficial physical interactions, but the most powerful relationship in his life is what he has with Wu Xie and Xiaoge.

Zhang Qiling’s sexuality is Wu Xie.

#ask games #writing

[demiromantic-official]

(If it may help, I'm 17 and I currently identify as asexual and homorontic)

I am questionning either I am demiromantic or aromantic.

Months ago, I realised I had a crush on one of my close friend, I told her and she answered that she didn't shared my feelings. I literally cried the rest of the day and was depressed the days that followed.

I get over it in one week or two I think? And we are still friends and we never talk about it again.

However, I find myself absolutely unable to describe what I felt for her, and I heard that people very rarely stay friends with their crush.

So I'm afraid that I might have imagine all of that.

I don't want to offend any aromantic, but I really don't want to be one, I know that some people are happy without any kind of romance in their life, but it is definitely not my case. I really want to fall in love to someone and to spend my life with them. I don't think I would not be happy as an aromantic.

I hope it is not too offensive, and maybe I am worrying for nothing (since I'm only 17 and I know that some people may fall in love for the first time much later) but I needed to talk about this to someone.

This is coming from someone who’s relationship with romance is pretty unconventional ( well I guess all arospec people could say that), but I don’t think the fact that you got over the feelings pretty fast when they weren’t mutual means that you imagined the feelings and I don’t think you (or anyone) has to live by the conventions of “don’t be friends with an ex / crush” if you feel these feelings did not come between you. You clearly felt something pretty special toward her, and while it is a possibility that what you felt was something between romantic and platonic, I think the fact you got over it without any conflict is not the deciding factor for that. I think often feelings and relationships are more smudged than most people realize / experience. I also know several allo people who are friends with past ex’s and crushes whom they were friends with before the feelings and I imagine their relationships and feelings were ‘real’. If you felt your feelings came with wanting to have a relationship with her then it’s possible they were romantic.

I started feeling what I would describe as a romantic draw to a certain close friend I’ve been involved with in a special way, but when he revealed that he wasn’t able to reciprocate at the moment due to something personal but that he still considered me the person most close to him, I realized I wasn’t hurt or bitter at all because all I cared about was being close to him, no matter in what way. It’s possibly a different case for you, and maybe my feelings are in a grey area, but if they are, they are still not quite only platonic because they are different to my feelings for other friends. I share this not to distract from your situation, but because maybe it’s similar to what you felt.

As for your concern: I think you’re being respectful but honest and that’s ok. Something that may help if you do turn out to be aromantic is that many aros have close relationships and partnerships even if these are not romantic in nature, so being aro does not rob one of the ability to have close emotional bonds or of forming a lifetime partnership with someone. If you want to take your time questioning or not explore the possibly of being aromantic at all, it’s perfectly fine. As you say, some people do fall in love later (which isn’t to say that aro people might still be “waiting”), although, most people do have crushes by your age, even if they haven’t been in love. If you feel like exploring this more, you’re welcome to send more asks.

#answered

[ruginite]

ROLEPLAY PREFERENCES SHEET!

PLEASE REPOST, DO NOT REBLOG!  Feel free to add to any of your answers!  The purpose is to tell your partners about the way you write!  For the multiple choice ones, BOLD all that apply and, if you want, italicize if it’s a conditional answer!

– B A S I C S –

NAME: Chicken / Jai to my closies ARE YOU OVER 18?  YES / No IS YOUR MUSE?  Yes / No / Verse Dependent WHEN WAS YOUR BLOG ESTABLISHED? 08/23/16

ARE YOU SELECTIVE ABOUT WHO YOU WRITE WITH ON THIS BLOG? No (anyone) / Semi (most people) / YES (SOME PEOPLE) / Highly (few people) / Private (mutuals only)

ARE YOU SELECTIVE ABOUT WHO YOU FOLLOW ON THIS BLOG? No (anyone) / Semi (most people) / YES (SOME PEOPLE) / Highly (few people) 

IF YOUR MUSE IS CANON, HOW MUCH TO YOU ADHERE TO CANON? Not at all / A little / Some / Mostly / Strictly / NA 

WHAT POST LENGTHS DO YOU WRITE? One Liners / Single-Para / MULTI-PARA / NOVELLA

DO YOU USE ICONS AND/OR GIFS? No / Gifs / Icons / Gificons [mostly just icons though]

DO YOU WRITE ON OTHER PLATFORMS? No / YES (Google docs, Skype, Dis/cord [or well would if anyone would give me their ids lol] )

WHAT LEVEL OF PLOTS DO YOU WRITE? Unplotted / OPEN-ENDED PLOTS (set up a meeting and see what happens) / SEMI-PLOTTED (ONE OR TWO STEPS AHEAD) / Fully Plotted Epics (plotted beginning, middle, and end)

HOW QUICKLY DO YOU USUALLY RESPOND TO THREADS? VERY SLOW (MORE THAN A MONTH) / Slow (3-4 Weeks) / Average (1-2 Weeks) / Fast (Less Than One Week) / Very Fast (Less Than Three Days) [ the reality is i reply as fast as a) real life allows. b) my level of tired allows c) how high the kill threat is if I don’t from my muse.

WHAT TYPES OF THEMES DO YOU LIKE? (feel free to add!) Fluff / Angst / Smut / ACTION  / Tragedy / DOMESTIC / FAMILY / Conversational / Hurt-Comfort 

WHAT GENRES DO YOU LIKE? (feel free to add!) High Fantasy [ i dont know what this means ] / Supernatural / Science Fiction / Historical / Horror / COMEDY / Romantic/DRAMA [ italics because baz is really bad at romance lol ]  / Action / Adventure / Espionage

ARE THERE ANY THEMES YOU’RE UNCOMFORTABLE WRITING ON YOUR BLOG? (not triggers) No / Yes [ there’s like literally one thing im not comfy writing doing so ]

DO YOU HAVE ANY TRIGGERS?  HOW DO YOU REQUEST IT TAGGED? No / Yes [ its in chicken’s rules that if you follow you send me your tags for the following things if you post them : Joker (ANY adaptation) / Spiders / Jack Nicholson / Paul Walker/ ELMO. Not that a whole lot of people bother to do this because they don’t. :T ]

– S H I P P I N G –

WHAT TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS ARE YOU OPEN TO? Romantic / Platonic / FAMILIAL (CANON) [This really only applies to specifc urls with whom i am excluisve except a Clint because i dont really have a clint yet :( ] / FAMILIAL (OCS) [ so long as you talk to me about i and we work out things about it first ]

WHAT TYPES OF PRE-ESTABLISHED RELATIONSHIPS ARE YOU OPEN TO? Romantic / Platonic / FAMILIAL (CANON) [Same stipulation as last answer] / FAMILIAL (OCS) [ same as last answer ]

DO YOU HAVE OTPS? No / chemistry only / Yes 

DO YOU HAVE NOTPS? No / Yes [ both to do with this muse specifically as well as not ]

[***Note that labels REALLY REALLY confuse chicken. Still not a billion percent sure which of the next two sections chicken even IS. So Chicken answered them to the best of her ability for Baz. Just going to note here that : Baz is attracted to both females and males but while he’s not above sleeping with someone he has no connection too (provided he’s drunk and lonely enough) he’s not an automatic fall in love type. It takes time to get past his outer layers. Can’t handle that this isn’t the blog for you where shipping is concerned.]

WHAT IS YOUR MUSE’S SEXUAL ORIENTATION? Heterosexual / Heteroflexible / Bisexual / Homoflexible / HOMOSEXUAL / Pansexual / Demisexual / Sapiosexual / Asexual

WHAT IS YOUR MUSE’S ROMANTIC ORIENTATION? Heteroromantic / Heteroflexible / Biromantic / Homoflexible / HOMOROMANTIC / Panromantic / Demiromantic / Sapioromantic / Aromantic

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE WRITING SMUT? No / SELECTIVELY / YES [ baz has to be kosher with the muse  and Chicken has to be comfy with the mun ]

HOW EARLY IN A RELATIONSHIP DO YOU SHIP ROMANTICALLY? Autoship / During Plotting / After A Couple IC Interactions / Several IC Interactions In / Slow Burn / Never {not open to romantic ships} / Man chemistry happens when it happens

ARE YOU OPEN TO TOXIC SHIPS? No / SELECTIVELY / Yes / Never Tried It - [ like smut chicken has to be comfy with the mun of the other muse ]

ARE YOU OPEN TO PROBLEMATIC SHIPS? (canon history, age difference, complicated, etc.) No / SELECTIVELY / Yes [ This is  a slippery slope. There are problematic ships chicken will not do. but there are a lot chicken will do (and enjoys writing) so long as chicken is again comfy with the other mun. Just ask. ]

ARE YOU OPEN TO POLYSHIPPING? No / Selectively / YES [ HOLY FUCK GIVE ME IT ]

ARE YOU AN EXCLUSIVE SHIPPER? No / Sometimes / Yes [ in the sense that there are certain muses of whom baz will only interact with one specific blog of the canon character. There are reasons for this ( that do not all have to do with him) and if ur curious why just ask privately :) ]

DOES CRACK SHIPPING EVER HAPPEN? No / Yes - I dont know what that means.

– T A G G I N G! –

tagged by: @brooklynislandgirl / @canadianclaws

tagging: @hittcr / @thor-theavengergod / @offorgottenbooks / @the-blackest-spider / @hoouna / @jerseysass / @konokalakaua50 / @thefunmcgarrett / @feliciahadley / @longsilvcr / @mckaytriarchy / @morgansmornings / @multi-mused / @bennogaldaan / @xcuratiox / @cochetsharpshooter / anyone else that wants to honestly consider urself tagged by me :D

#Mind Out of Matter || OOC #𝙶𝚒𝚟𝚎 𝙼𝚎 𝙰 𝚁𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚘𝚗 | que #[ long ass post ]

[yetremains]

Roleplay Preferences Sheet!

Tagged by @sonxflight much to my surprise!

Please repost, do not reblog!  Feel free to add to any of your answers!  The purpose is to tell your partners about the way you write!  For the multiple choice ones, bold all that apply and, if you want, italicize if it’s a conditional answer!

– B A S I C S –

NAME: They call me D ARE YOU OVER 18?  Yes / No IS YOUR MUSE?  Yes / No WHEN WAS YOUR BLOG ESTABLISHED?  05/22/2017

– W R I T I N G –

ARE YOU SELECTIVE ABOUT WHO YOU WRITE WITH ON THIS BLOG? No (anyone) / Semi (most people) / Yes (some people) / Highly (few people) / Private (mutuals only)

ARE YOU SELECTIVE ABOUT WHO YOU FOLLOW ON THIS BLOG? No (anyone) / Semi (most people) / Yes (some people) / Highly (few people) / Private (mutuals only)

IF YOUR MUSE IS CANON, HOW MUCH TO YOU ADHERE TO CANON? Not at all / A little / Some / Mostly / Strictly / NA / As an OC I still bend to the canon of Samurai Jack

WHAT POST LENGTHS DO YOU WRITE? One Liners / Single-Para / Multi-Para / Novella / I’m not picky

DO YOU USE ICONS AND/OR GIFS? No / Gifs / Icons / Yes

DO YOU WRITE ON OTHER PLATFORMS? No / Yes (I write on skype and discord as well)

WHAT LEVEL OF PLOTS DO YOU WRITE? Unplotted / Open-Ended Plots (set up a meeting and see what happens) / Semi-Plotted (one or two steps ahead) / Fully Plotted Epics (plotted beginning, middle, and end) / Honestly just about anything lets me honest

HOW QUICKLY DO YOU USUALLY RESPOND TO THREADS? Very Slow (more than a month) / Slow (3-4 weeks) / Average (1-2 weeks) / Fast (less than one week) / Very Fast (less than three days) / Sometimes as fast as a few minutes or hours, I am a fast roleplayer

WHAT TYPES OF THEMES DO YOU LIKE? (feel free to add!) Fluff / Angst / Smut(only in developed relationships) / Violence / Tragedy / Domestic / Family / Conversational

WHAT GENRES DO YOU LIKE? (feel free to add!) High Fantasy / Supernatural / Science Fiction / Historical / Horror / Comedy / Romantic / Drama / Action / Adventure / Espionage / ( this is like asking me my favorite music, the lost goes on )

ARE THERE ANY THEMES YOU’RE UNCOMFORTABLE WRITING ON YOUR BLOG? (not triggers) No / Yes (there are certain themes that could be rather uncomfortable for me, otherwise I’m open)

DO YOU HAVE ANY TRIGGERS?  HOW DO YOU REQUEST IT TAGGED? No / Yes

– S H I P P I N G –

WHAT TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS ARE YOU OPEN TO? Romantic / Platonic / Familial (canon) / Familial (OCs) / Romantic (OCs) / ( in my rules it says i am complete shipping garbage you have been warned )

WHAT TYPES OF PRE-ESTABLISHED RELATIONSHIPS ARE YOU OPEN TO? Romantic / Platonic / Familial (canon) / Familial (OCs)

DO YOU HAVE OTPS? No / Chemistry Only / Yes ( <- this is only in possible AU’s, because I love development )

DO YOU HAVE NOTPS? No / Yes

WHAT IS YOUR MUSE’S SEXUAL ORIENTATION? Heterosexual / Heteroflexible / Bisexual / Homoflexible / Homosexual / Pansexual / Demisexual / Sapiosexual / Asexual / Attracted to whom ever she becomes attracted too honestly

WHAT IS YOUR MUSE’S ROMANTIC ORIENTATION? Heteroromantic / Heteroflexible / Biromantic / Homoflexible / Homoromantic / Panromantic / Demiromantic / Sapioromantic / Aromantic / Again who ever she is attracted to, she enjoys physical contact

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE WRITING SMUT? No / Selectively(it’s gotta work and have chemistry) / Yes

HOW EARLY IN A RELATIONSHIP DO YOU SHIP ROMANTICALLY? Autoship / During plotting / After a couple IC interactions / Several IC interactions / Slow burn(slow burns are the best) / Never (not open to romantic ships)

ARE YOU OPEN TO TOXIC SHIPS? No / Selectively(mmmmaybe, these usually dont end well) / Yes

ARE YOU OPEN TO PROBLEMATIC SHIPS? (canon history, age difference, complicated, etc.) No / Selectively / Yes (if by problematic you mean angst and pain then yes)

ARE YOU OPEN TO POLYSHIPPING? No / Selectively / Yes(this character is open to the idea)

ARE YOU AN EXCLUSIVE SHIPPER? No / Sometimes / Yes (as I have said, gotta be chemistry and)

DOES CRACK SHIPPING EVER HAPPEN? No / Yes( who doesn’t love crack shipping)

Tagging: Who ever wants to do this!

#ooc #out of character #MUN AND MUSE DETAILS???