#but even if they were neurotypical that helps ME

[kasumingo]

So tired of mfs going "everyone wants to be lgbt/neurodivergent now!! stop using our language!!"

it's as if the internet gave people ability to explore themselves and realize there is something going on, especially when they congregate together in groups that share those traits

It’s as if these words describe their experience and helps them in one way or another

#txt #worst thing is that on twitter dot com posts like above get thousands of likes #also idk about you but normalizing terms and symptoms made me safer in public/group settings #because i rarely get asked why i act like i do #or why do i do things i do #because it has been #wait for #normalized! #idgaf if a 'neurotypical' uses a term like 'going nonverbal' #i don't know everything about their lives #they might be undiagnosed neurodivergent themselves #it's a spectrum #but even if they were neurotypical that helps ME #as a neurodivergent #to be more relatable and understood among people #i no longer have to use NT language to make excuses for myself #if they understand what those symptoms are #and that people go through these things #also i strongly believe there are more neurodivergents in this world than people think #because ND is not just disorders #it's anything that alters your brain #it's mentall ilnesses #it's trauma #so people you'd consider NT DO go through symptoms that people born with disorders do #but sometimes it's temporary or not as intense #so shut your hell up about others maybe

[giantkillerjack]

My first time watching Glass Onion it was obvious that Miles' speeches were bullshit, but I still searched for any hidden meaning there might be.

The second time is a different experience though because every time my brain starts to search for meaning, I feel like Benoit Blanc discovering that no, there is absolutely no hidden meaning.

It's bullshit it's all nothing nothing nothing! It is just how you end up talking when everyone reacts to your self-aggrandizing word vomit like it is actually wisdom.

Also, legit, when Miles gave his stupid bullshit speech about what the word 'disruptor' means to him, I shit you not I was like holy shit am I back in business school right now?!

Miles must have given speeches like that at 100 business school graduations, goddamn.

Like, the motherfuckers really do sound like this. We didn't have any billionaires come, but we had a lot of millionaire guest speakers in my classes, and they fucking talk like that.

They all think they're rugged capitalists, but they're just glass onions!

#original #glass onion #it's just. business school prepared me really well to succeed in the business world as a straight white neurotypical #able-bodied cis man with a large network of very wealthy friends and family #I really would have killed it if I wasn't a queer autistic cripple! #even the best teachers seemed incredibly unaware of the enormous privilege that they were assuming in their students when they taught #but they basically presupposed you had infinite energy and savings and a disturbingly large number of my classes were just #lectures about pushing as hard as you can no matter what #they used Starbucks as an example of an admirable case of somebody who persisted in going to 150 investor pitches before being approved #and like. how many people do you know who have enough savings to schedule plan and attend 150 investor pitches? #how many people do you know who could set up even 12 through their connections? #where are those savings coming from? where are those investor pitch meetings coming from? those aren't easy to get!! #but none of this was ever mentioned it was just awesome that the guy kept trying I guess. #I have a sneaking suspicion that if I were to have dug deeper into some of the examples we were given that a lot of those #real life businesses probably started with a big big loan from somebody's parents #I was listening to the show you're wrong about which is a really good podcast and Michael Hobbs was like #anytime you see an article glorifying someone's financial success especially at a young age you should control F for 'parents' #because chances are you will probably see the word 'parents' somewhere next to the words 'million dollar loan' #anyway college is a scam. the community aspect was incredibly cool but I don't see why we as a culture need to only be able to access that #kind of community when we are paying a scam Institution a shitload of money for Educations that aren't helpful for the majority of us #if College was free then people could actually study things that are useful or fun for them #I took most of my courses just to fill out my major too. the point wasn't to learn it was to graduate. #and then it turned out that if you're disabled in the way i am it doesn't matter if you have a college degree! #but I'm sure miles would say I just need to pull myself up by my bootstraps. and that's why I'm glad his life got exploded 😌 #andi kept him around for his money - why else would he be there when no one even liked him?? #he was the bankroll #one time I swear to god we just had the guy from American Psycho just a real ass Patrick Bateman #it was wild watching that movie later and being like ???? I know this guy! #outside of the actual murder scenes everything in that movie is not exaggerated in the slightest those bitches really are like that #like my parents are not 1% level rich so there'd be no giant loans but they are rich. it'd be stupid to act like i didn't benefit from that

[caffeinatedopossum]

Ed recovery with autism and adhd is so weird.

Like I'll either forget to eat lunch entirely or I'll forget when I ate last and end up eating lunch 3 seperate times instead.

Then sometimes I have to literally ask my girlfriend if I'm hungry because I don't fucking know what my body is feeling ever and she's usually like "Yeah you should eat".

Then when I go to prepare food it's like:

Me: okay body so how much food do you want

Body: hm...m... food...?

Me: yes food. But HOW MUCH

Body: uhh... s e v e r a l

Me: WHAT DOES THAT MEAN

And then I end up making too much for me to eat (thank God I'm allowed to not eat all of my food now- I hated that rule so much growing up) but its still so goddamn confusing skgjfjfhff

#wrong #anyway im incredibly thankful for my girlfriend who is so so patient and supportive #the amount of help and support i never realized i need is actually insane #like i genuinely cant function without help because of my autism (and adhd to a lesser degree) #idk its just really nice to not only have help but not feel like i should be ashamed of needing it either #oof i forgot the other thing that happens when i make food is that i prepare it and then by the time its done cooking #i dont even want it anymore -_- like wtf? i literally was JUST hungry #or i wont feel hungry but then as soon as i go to bed and cant make food because everyones asleep #and the lights are all off and im all cozy and sleepy #THEN im starving. my body has the worst timing ever sometimes istg #still not as bad as before recovery though #ive just elected to be a lot more patient with myself #i used to compare my recovery to other peoples never understanding what i was doing #but the truth of the matter was those people i was comparing myself to #had only had eds for like 2-5 years. which is still bad of course but its not applicable to my scenario #they were also neurotypical and cisgender which i also couldnt relate to #the thing is i never learned how to eat properly. before my ed i still wasnt eating enough #because my parents were neglecting me #i only know hunger and i never learned how to eat properly or what being nourished feels like #that means i have to not only relearn things but learn them entirely for the first time #i have to learn what hunger feels like and what being full feels like and when it is and isnt ok to skip a snack #its just really hard learning these things for the first time ar 20 years old #and once i acknowledged that- that it was really hard for me- i think i felt a lot of relief #like im struggling but it makes sense that i am and i wont always feel like thia #one day i will heal. i just needed a little help

[endothermic-rain]

There are hundreds of writing guides on writing Neurodivergent characters, but where are the guides on writing Neurotypical characters? I think I would benefit from one of those.

#Girl help the blorbos are DIVERGING. #It's so funny that this keeps happening. It's a bit annoying but also validating. #Reminds me of how years ago I was doing all this research on ADHD and Autism and slowly discovered that all my Ocs were Neurodivergent. #Unintentionally. Neurodivergent. And then it hit me. #“I think this character who's based off of me is Autistic. Wait a minute.” #My kids snitched on me and I didn't even know. I diagnosed them and they diagnosed me back. #Anyway how do you write Neurotypical characters? Is that even possible? It sounds impossible. #Text #Rain's Rambles

[depressedstressedlemonzest]

Me watching Youtube videos on a gun show seeing guns.

Husband: What are you looking at? guns? You want a gun? We can get you a gun, you getting me a gun? I like guns, but if you're getting one or wanting one we need to test some out first.

Me: No, I'm looking at a gun show

Husband: why?

Me: I'm writing something

Husband: what now?

Me: Ian and Mickey.

Husband: What are the gays up to now?

Me: They're going to an army surplus store and I need ideas as to what they're going to buy.

Husband: They don't sell guns at an army surplus store jackass.

Me: This one does

Husband: How about they go to a Pawn Shop? It's more realistic, you write really well, have some realism and accuracies to your fics.

Me: My line of thinking was in Stranger Things Season 4 they go to The War Zone to get guns and weapons and shit and it's an army surplus store.

Husband: Then they're wrong.

Me: No, in the show they go there to get supplies, but that show is set in the 80s so maybe they had it then.

Husband: Maybe they did, but it's now and they don't sell them, pawn shops on the other hand sell guns and weaponry and all kinds of shit. But then you get into gun reform arguements and you don't want to deal with that bullshit from your readers.

Me: Well Mickey is known to have guns so it's not a surprise.

Husband: Of course not, he probably knows another gay person down the street who sells guns.

Me: I bet Sandy does sell guns.

Husband: Good Lord who the fuck is Sandy?

Me: Mickey's cousin and Debbie's girlfriend.

Husband: Is anyone on that show straight??

#he tries to help #even if he doesn't like the fact that years later I"m still obsessed with these two #too bad husband #he calls my gallacrafts gay paraphernalia shrines #I told him he'd like MIckey if he actually watched the show #and he's like 'the redhead'? #I was like NOOO THAT'S IAN #my disappointment was palpable #then he reminded me Good OMens was coming out with season two soon #and I told him to be ready to have those gays all over the house too #which to be fair they already are #the problems of a neurotypical cishet husband #if he were ND he'd have fixations too #gallavich #ian gallagher #mickey milkovich

[yay-depression]

the repressed neurodivergent experience of thinking “no one will ever love me with all of my neurodivergency the way i love them with their neurotypical-ness.”

#me my whole life: got made fun of for exhibiting ND traits among other stuff #me in middle school: well if i simply pretend i am neurotypical people will stop disliking me for being ND #spoiler alert: i was not very good at faking neurotypical-ness #me now: very very good at faking being neurotypical to the point that i am perceived as having very few distinguishable traits #my family my entire life: you are weird (aka neurodivergent) stop being weird #my family my entire life: if i simply do the thing that my child hates maybe they will grow out of hating it #another spoiler alert: no the FUCK i did not #tldr my entire life i’ve essentially suppressed most of myself to make the people i love comfortable bc that’s what they wanted from me #and in response they routinely ignore some of my most important boundaries and still try to act like they’re helping me #my therapist keeps telling me that one day i’ll get a family even if it’s found family #because sometimes found family is the best kind of family #but no one i’ve met is willing to actually put up with who i am as a person and not abandon me #every non-familial person in my life anytime i’ve shared deeply personal things with them: nope no thank you goodbye #and the deeply personal things were always just like ‘i’m actually pretty insecure in friendships and i feel deeply lonely’ #it wasn’t even traumadumping bc they always seemed fine with that!! bonding over shared trauma was like a group activity #and then anytime i was like ‘hey could i maybe get some validate that y’all don’t hate me?’ everyone would be like #no. why would you need that we never said we hated you stop being over dramatic #my dad pulled that last one all the time!! except he added the ‘how could you even think i hate you when i’ve been nothing but good to you!’ #come to think of it my friends did a lot of that too actually #anyways i have a core belief that i’m actually just unloveable and people just tolerate me and it’s been confirmed repeatedly

[everony]

I hate being complimented for my independence or initiative because I'd rather do things myself than ask for help.

Like, wtf do I say? How the hell am I supposed to respond to that?

"Thanks, it's a trauma response" ????????

#autistic #adhd #i dont understand how neurotypicals can see someone whos clearly struggling to get everything done but not asking for help #and just go 'wow i wish my kids were like that' #like no??????? you dont?????? #its called hyperindependence babe #it comes from growing up with an undiagnosed mental disorder and learning disability #and it means that its physically hard for me to ask for help #not because i dont want to ask for help for macho bro reasons #but because i was considioned early that even when i ask for help im not gonna get any #because clearly im just not trying hard enough #add on social anxiety and you have another mess entirely #so now im an adult who just doesnt ask for help even when im struggling because for most of my life i was told that i dont need help #i just need to put more effort into whatever im doing #this still happens too #3/4 of the time when i ask for help im ignored #either because people are aware that i *can* do it despite me asking because i dont have *the time to do it* #or because everyone else understood and did it without help so clearly im just not trying #i nearly lost it at one of my uni professors when they told me to 'just try again' when the first thing i told them #was that id spent the last 8 hours trying and struggling because im not understanding what im doing wrong

[fortes-fortuna-iogurtum]

it's so interesting to me that mental health and neurodivergence have long been interests of mine, and I've always looked at them from an "outside" perspective. not in a sense that I've looked down on them or thought they were "other" or anything like that, but I've just... always thought they were something I had no personal connection to? something that I had a mostly-academic interest in and no real ties to lived experience with.

but in the last few years, I've come to the slow realization that... I think mental health struggles and neurodivergence possibly run in (both sides of) my family?? and most of my extended family from previous generations would NEVER admit to it because they come from a time and culture where those things are kept very private and just not something you talk about. 

but like, I'm fairly certain that OCD runs through one side of my family. I know that tics/Tourette's do. I suspect that AD(H)D might as well. I also know there's at least one cousin who's already been diagnosed with autism, and I can see pretty clear autistic traits in multiple other family members on that same side of the family, including myself and my mother (some of the reasons I think this: I was speaking in full advanced sentences at about 18 months old, reading college-level literature at 8-9 years old, and at different points had to have sit-down conversations with my parents about needing to make a deliberate effort to make eye contact and refraining from "compulsively" talking about and comparing everything to a special interest. I was actually formally banned from talking about one media series I loved for a whole week, because it was literally all I talked about, and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do at that point in my life. I struggled a lot with twitches/tics and repetitive behaviours when I was young; I still find it very easy to lapse back into those behaviours if I'm stressed or tired.) 

my mom has struggled with significant depression during various points of her life, as have I. at least one of my sisters has social anxiety; I suspect that my father does as well. I know one family member who likely has PTSD (due to experiences during military service) that's never been dealt with, and another (who was the victim of a violent crime) probably does, too.

and it's just... I've struggled to apply any of these labels to my own family because there's nothing official there. no doctors have assigned any titles or labels to us. I don't want to be the person who takes one college-level psych class and suddenly starts diagnosing everyone they know. but somehow, everything makes more sense when I start to look at the people around me, the ways they've been raised and have learned to operate in the world, and the ways that have in turn affected me, through these lenses? suddenly, we aren't just bizarre and dysfunctional, but our dysfunction has a rhyme and a reason.

and most importantly, I start to see hope. I see where the struggles and sins of my family members don't have to be repeated, where help can be asked for and received, because suddenly the real problems at the heart of all this mess have been uncovered, and instead of just trying to muscle through to prove my own worth, to show that I am worthy of a place in this world without needing any "special favours," I see where I can ask for grace and compassion and love and receive it.

#idk maybe none of this makes sense? #but I heard a family member say recently that another family member is incapable of showing affection #and that the same is true of their parent #and I worried that it might be true of me. that maybe people who could someday love me are destined to always be hurt and let down #because I'm incapable of showing love like they've said those others are #but... struggles to show care and affection in ways that other people (neurotypical people) can understand and accept #is a very common autistic trait #and so this all makes sense if there's a possibility that the people in question here are on the spectrum? #and not only does it comfort me that we're not just messed up. we're not just aliens or freaks or broken. #but there have been other people who have lived this way. and people who have lived with them. #there have been many people who have loved and been loved by autistic people (and people with other mental/neurodivergent issues) #and so maybe if I can just understand myself and the people who have created me as I am... maybe I can do life better than they did? #maybe I can avoid experiencing and inflicting some of the hurt? #and maybe I can reach a hand back through history and try to help them too? and if they're not around anymore #or if they can't really be helped like that #maybe at least honouring them by acknowledging them and trying to understand them and who they were... maybe that's worth something too? #neurodivergent #adhd #autism #idk even how to tag this y'all #2 a.m. ramblings with gurt are back #I may delete this in the morning but for tonight... #for tonight I just need to say all this and get it out of my mind so I can sleep

[enigma-absolute]

get loved, nerd

;;

#enni answers #get-loved-nerd #managed to hold back a category 5 'tism moment in public and shopping with mom. held myself from getting overwhelmed #managed to keep my cool more until we got home. proud of that at least. so now I'm just letting the waterworks gush out in my room #it's been... a lot. finished my script but feel unappreciated by my more 'numbers-and-science' family members #(and i'm not even consciously sure what WOULD make me feel appreciated - planning to try and make a list on it may help though) #(mom's SO neurotypical that she reckoned new shoes and bras were a show of appreciation [my apologies but I can't find it there]) #doesn't help that i'm hormonal during shark week and mom's ALSO going through her own BLOODIER Shark Week AT THE SAME TIME #plus a shoulder disability on top of that affecting her work as a dentist... #i think i just really need this one. and a second. sorry for the big vent gang. I Am Just. Going Through It.

[neil-gaiman]

Hi! Sorry to bother. I’ve written this and deleted it several times, but hopefully my words work. I just wanted to say thank you.

I grew up in an *extremely* fundamentalist church and surrounded in that culture. There was a lot of abuse and trauma connected to the church, especially because I was the only small kid there that wasn’t male nor neurotypical. I ran away when I finally left for college several years ago - but it’s something that I still have nightmares about.

I spent a long time dealing with the PTSD/depression, religious trauma, and deconstructing/questioning the programming. I’m still dealing with it, but working on it. So it goes.

I just wanted to say that I appreciate you, Terry, and everyone who’s put so much effort and love into the Good Omens series. I know it sounds silly, but it’s been weirdly helpful in dealing with the religious trauma.

The idea of it being an “institutional problem” instead of me somehow doing something wrong, that maybe it’s not sinful to tell someone ‘no’ or question authority, that being human isn’t bad, etc - these were things that I didn’t even consider possible growing up. It’s comforting and encouraging to see those things in the book and on the screen.

Thank you.

I'm glad.

[tanksarefluffy]

Watching Ziva be completely unaffected by Gibbs coma and getting ragged on for not having empathy and the she meets him after he wakes up and is still unfeeling and then just bursts into tears while they’re talking

She’s just like me fr fr

#anyone else go through that phase where they thought they had aspd or schozoaffective disorder cuz they didn’t feel feelings #and your mom just casually told you you didn’t have empathy #and cuz you only knew the demonized version of aspd you thought you were gonna be a serial killer #but it turned out you were just super depressed and thought you were fine cuz you didn’t wanna kill yourself anymore #but you actually were super fucked up and had a breakdown on the last day of junior year after 3 years of no emotions #and only way after you regained emotions you learned that the idea that no empathy=being inately evil is actually not true and super ableist #or was that just me #anyway related hard #i headcanon ziva as some trauma response disorder #that woman is not neurotypical #i also hated myself for struggling with empathy #i hate when people act like not having empathy is what makes you a person #being alive is what makes you a person #and i get that the point is that you should help others regardless of your own benefit #but people always phrase it as empathy being crucial to that when it really isn’t #i used to feel tremendous guilt whenever i helped someone because I wasn’t feeling the correct emotions #we need to stop pretending empathy is crucial to being a good person #being a good person depends on your actions #even now i struggle with empathy but that doesn’t stop me from comforting people #i know i do feel empathy but i struggle identifying it #and i hate that that makes me feel less human #anyway #ncis #ziva david #yes i realize this is an old ass show #and only 40+ yos watch it #but idc cuz i like laughing at the fake forensics #anything related to bitemarks is fake #also most things relating to hair #neurodivergent

[zarafey]

My mom literally makes me so mad sometimes. Now she's mad at me for "being mad at her because she talked to me while I was reading something on my phone" and going on this whole rant about how I and my sister never talk to her anymore etc. And then I explain: no mom I'm a little frustrated because I just explained why the coffee machine is not working properly and said I'm going to fix it and then you went, did something completely different to the coffee machine and then asked me if I think the coffee looks better now while staying in front of the coffee machine so I couldn't even see the coffee.

#Well maybe I would talk to her more if she actually showed any interest in my interests #Like she vents to me about all the clients and her sister and everything all the time and I sit there and listen to her and everything #But if I were to say anything about my games or something she's just like: ugh that again 🙄 #Like... Think very hard why me and my sister talk with each other at the dinner table but not with you #Also I literally spent an hour yesterday talking about thriller movies with her and now not even 24h later she's saying we never talk #Like... I love her and everything and I know why she's so angry today and it has nothing to do with me #But still... #It's hard being the only one in this household who knows stuff about adhd when my mom also experiences a lot of symptoms #We're all just a bunch of people with emotional dysregulation who all don't know how to properly handle that so fights always blow up #Me over here like: mom you should read this book to 'understand me better' #The book: a self help book for adults with adhd #My mom: yes I will do that! :) 'forgets the book exists the moment I leave the room' #My sister is the most neurotypical-ish person in this household and she's the one who had a special interest in Pokémon since she's 7 😭

[silenceinternalmonologue]

thinking about how i just... never complained about anything as an undiagnosed autistic kid. i was dressed in button-down shirts that made me feel like i was choking all day to the point i could only think about that and corduroy pants that filled my ears with nothing but the sound of the fabric rubbing between my thighs all day. i was fed food whose texture made me feel sick. i was scolded for being strange and rude when i was going out of my way to be nice or helpful. 

but i never brought it up. when i had tantrums or cried, it was always about tiny unrelated things that set me off after all the stress had built up. i knew that these experiences were uncomfortable, but seeing no one else around me complain about them just made me assume that life was meant to be kind of painful in those ways. 

even today it barely crosses my mind to tell people when i don’t like something, and i’m quick to accept requests that are actually too much for me because of the idea that everyone else can do it. ironically, most neurotypical people are much better at saying that they don’t want to do something, even when this is often due to something as simple as not feeling like it as opposed to me who is struggling due to sensory, executive function, or socializing issues. 

i wish i had learned earlier that it’s not just good, but also necessary to tell people when something is hurting you. that you’re both allowed and supposed to take action to make life less painful for yourself, especially when that pain isn’t going to earn you anything. i wish i was able to make requests for my own good without automatically feeling guilty for being ‘selfish’. 

#autism #actually autistic #late diagnosed autistic #sensory issues #sensory overload #internalized ableism #ableism #actually neurodivergent

[nihilistem]

adhd study affirmations + tips to stray from discouragement by a stem student with adhd.

you’re not always going to be consistent. you’re not always going to be motivated. you’re not always going to be efficient. and that is okay.

edit : thank you so much to whoever blazed this post. It means the world to me.

and the fact that you even got this far is an accomplishment in and of itself. In this line of work, people aren’t always the kindest to neurodivergent people especially since our symptoms can often hinder our performance academically.

if you’re good to go after reading the above, I’ve also made a post regarding adhd study tips that I haven’t seen anywhere else. (Part 2 is here!) But, if you’re burned out like me, feel free to keep reading.

honestly, these might serve a bit more as reminders because they’re kinda simple but even I needed this, so, here we go.

do not seek advice from anyone neurotypical unless it genuinely helps you. I cannot tell you the amount of time and tears I could have saved if I just considered the fact that just because popular self-improvement tips or study techniques didn’t work for me, it doesn’t mean I’m stupid or useless. It simply means our brains isn’t motivated by the same things neurotypical ones are, and therefore a lot of popular self-improvement videos or study tips aren’t going to work for you because 90% of the time, they’re not designed to work for neurodivergent people. So if you’d like to seek help in this area, look for tips and videos that ARE for neurodivergent people.

you might experience burnout a lot more than others. again, that is fine. if this doesn’t apply to you, great! Feel free to skip to the next tip/affirmation. If this does apply to you, read this carefully; if you’ve had any sort of streak in studying right now, chances are you know at least a portion of your studies were led purely on interest, curiosity or even novelty, as these are what keep us engaged in our studies. Knowing this, it is natural for you to experience burnout more frequently than others due to the possible hyperfixations that have been forming around your work. If you get burned out, please remember to take a break for a day and make sure it is efficient. Like your studies, your breaks are the key to having efficient study sessions in the future. So please treat yourself, especially if you’ve been working extra hard!

do not admire studious fictional characters unless it genuinely helps you or they too are neurodivergent. I know this technically could have been thrown in with tip number 1 but I felt like this tip alone is so important, because nowadays I see a lot of study tips with the title, ‘how to study like (insert studious fictional character here)’ and when I look at the post it kinda repeats the same few study tips I see all the time like ‘stay organized’ or ‘time block your day’ and I feel like admiring fictional characters who do things that don’t work for you can be damaging for your mental health, because we’re already told by neurotypical people all around us that we’re slow or lazy just because we don’t do things the way they do, and I think idolizing neurotypical people that make us feel bad at the end of the day just further promotes that kind of toxic thinking.

expect that a routine/schedule/technique that has been working for a while now may not continue to work in the future. things will always have to be new for us to be interested or engaged, that being said, if you expect this in the future you won’t be frustrated with yourself because you already had this in mind. It doesn’t mean you’re not smart. It doesn’t mean you’re lazy. It doesn’t mean you’re useless. It just means that you’ve done what you could, and now it’s time to move on to another routine/schedule/technique.

keep doing the things you love alongside work. I find that because our symptoms may cause us to fall behind on our studies, we tend to neglect our other needs as human beings just to make up for the fact that we simply do not learn or pick things up the same way neurotypical people do. Your hobbies and interests need to be part of your day, just as your studies do, even if you may take longer to learn things or remember important concepts in your studies. Neglecting your hobbies or interests can lead to even more frequent burn outs and even a relapse in depression and anxiety, so please take care of yourself and recognize that you need and deserve these things just as much as anyone else.

regularly discover what works for you on your own. here’s the thing; neurodivergent or not, no two brains work the same. Of course it is good to try out advice or tips you find online because they’re backed up by experience, but they’re backed up by that person’s experience with working with their own brain. So naturally, you need to find what works with your brain. Be open to trying everything, even the tips that are discouraged like listening to lyrical music while studying. That was the only way I learnt that this tip actually does help me at times, even when many people have said that it negatively affects your focus.

that’s all I have right now guys, I think I’m experiencing burn out or probably falling back into depression again so more than anything this also served as a reminder for me, but I really hope it also helped you guys nonetheless.

As always, tell me if you guys would like more posts like these and I’ll be happy to make more <33 please take care of yourself guys, and remember that your studies is just one aspect of your life. There are other aspects that need your care and attention too.

#science #stem #study #study hard #study motivation #studyblr #studygram #studystudystudy #biochemistry #chemistry #adult adhd #adhd stuff #adhd tips #adhd #adhd study tips #adhd brain #adhd studyblr #adhd struggles #adhd things #living with adhd #actually adhd #adhd problems

[drchucktingle]

Is there a reason you didn't include an acknowledgements section in Camp Damascus?

yes actually, as man name of chuck i have spent a lot of time FINDING MY IDENTITY through masking and unmasking. in early days there were many more layers hiding me away and it took a while for me to understand WHY. over the last ten years buckaroos have very much seen me find myself through art, accepting and talking about my sexuality, neurodivergence, and gender.

there is ALWAYS a layer to protect my privacy, and to allow myself room for POETRY. example i like to give is that if i post 'i pet a dog today' i might have actually pet a cat, but everything i say is true is some sense. in the early days that truth was stretched farther because even i did not quite understand it my dang self, and it has been my journey to strip away as much of this mask as possible (sometimes called removing my skin) and BECOME MYSELF on this timeline (which is something i have always talked about)

if you have been following chuck for the last decade you will see my older posts were much more abstract and difficult to parse, they reference themes that i have since come to terms with, and this journey to find myself is WHY i have been able to do this. some could say it was the journey of a reverse twin adapting to their new timeline, others could say it was the journey of a neurodivergent artist allowing themselves the freedom to find a healthy expression and conquer their chronic pain from constant neurotypical masking.

FOR INSTANCE this is why i am wearing buckaroo suits on tour now, an outfit that is more true to the INNER ME. i used to answer interview questions with metaphor and now i just answer, only hiding certain details when i need to. i talk less about figures in my life back in billings who were REAL IDEAS and PARTS OF MYSELF but sometimes not flesh and blood or ghostly buckaroos. this is my trot, and this is why i am so strongly against gatekeepers in the buckaroo community. i have been becoming myself long before i knew what that meant.

so when it came time for acknowledgments i realized i would have to acknowledge buckaroos who helped along the way but also ABSTRACT IDEAS who helped along the way, symbols and themes that i have since decided i wanted to leave behind. it was important to me to create a new era of my expression where those abstract layers are respected but also stripped away. i have to respect the inner truth i am trying to cultivate, for way of my mental health and also my physical health.

so i DID write out acknowledgments and sent them to my buckaroos privately, then i said please do not include this in the public book. these days i want to hide behind as few layers as possible, that is my artistic journey now. buckaroos were very respectful and supportive.

very quick before we finish, there was one other small and important reason. i am so sincere ALL the dang time it is kind of my natural state to get very emotional and thankful, that i kinda thought 'i am going to give myself space here to NOT stress out over this for once'. i am constantly thinking about acknowledging others and i LOVE this part of my trot, but doing it in a way that is so defined and specific and maybe even performative (gotta write your acknowledgments now bud. HAVE to do it) felt at odds with my inner way.

anyway thank you for this very good question what a dang treat to talk about this detail and how much it means to me to find truth in my inner trot.

#chuck tingle #tingleverse #acknowledgments #camp damascus

[hello-nichya-here]

Did Sia insult topic of autism somehow?

Oh honey, it's sooooooooo much worse than that.

Sia wanted to make a movie about an autistic girl that manages to connect to people/feel safe and confident through music. So far, nothing outrageous, just a simple concept that would obviously put Sia's music front and center while doing something nice and educating people on autism.

There was controversy about her not casting an autistic actress as it would have been nice representation, but she could have totally gotten away with that since, come on, hollywood hasn't even figured out Rain Man isn't exactly true to life, they're not ready to have an autistic person playing an autistic character. Baby steps.

The real problem started when Sia started promoting the "charity/support group" that was helping "educate" her on the topic to make the movie. The "charity" in question was Autism Speaks - which is absolutely HATED by the autistic community for things like:

1 - Spreading the myth that autism is a mental illness that one can develop/catch like the freaking flue and potentially be cured of, instead of a neurotype, aka something starts in the woomb and cannot be "cured" because to do that you'd need to replace someone's entire nervous system, which is impossible.

2 - Using that myth to get outrageous amounts of money from people so they "search for a cure" - that doesn't exist and will never exist because curing autism is biologically impossible, AND despite the fact that the overwhelming majority of autistic people don't even want to be "cured" (plus, since said "cure" would essentially mean giving the person a new brain, it leads to the question of "Would I even be the same person, or would that just kill and replace me?")

3 - Using the myth of "We don't know what causes autism" (we do, it's genetic) to, of course, get MORE money from people so they can "do research to find the missing puzzle piece" (if you ever see autistic people complaining about a puzzle piece being used to represent the condition, that's why, it was started by Autism Speak's massive disinformation campains).

4 - Falsely "confirming" things like soy milk cause autism with one of the world's most ridiculous "research", losing only to "vaccines totally make kids autistic, buy MY vaccine instead, guys, I am totally not an unbelievably biased person, it's ALL the other doctors/scientists lying to you. GIVE ME MONEY!"

5 - Pushing the narrative of "autism is inherently a tragedy" to distract from the fact that all the money they waste on stupid shit could be used to help autistic people and their families. Instead, they focus on creating more and more panic, making parents in particular despair even more - to the point that one of their "awareness videos" includes a mother talking about how she wants to murder her autistic daughter and then kill herself... while sitting right next to said daughter.

6 - Promoting ABA "therapy" - which was created by the same guy responsible for the attrocity that is gay conversion "therapy." Both have led to unbelievably high rates of confirmed PTSD and suicidal ideation in patients (victims), and ABA in particular has been compared to literal dog training. Very fitting since it was created by a guy who famously did not believe autistic people truly counted as thinking, feeling human beings, and said as much several times. Despite that, it is still praised by some utter bastards because "it makes the patients act less autistic when they're not crying in the corner or trying to jump out a window"

So yeah, working with these guys is a genuinely horrible thing to do since they're basically a scam/hate group pretending to be a charity - and people were STILL willing to give Sia the benefit of the doubt, since Autism Speak uses all their resources to make sure they're the first thing people see when looking up how to help autistic people.

Lots of Sia's fans, both autistic and allistic, warned her repeatedly, politely, that she needed to supporting them IMMEDIATELY as their goal was the exact opposite of the one she claimed to have - aka raise awareness through an accurate portrail of autism. People were even kind enough to name organizations like ASAN as replacements to help her fix any damage done to the project.

And instead of being a decent human being, Sia decided to cry on twitter about how the mean retar-I mean, autistics were bullying her even when she was so kindly using them for her vanity project.

Because yes, that's how the movie turned out. An unwatcheable piece of garbage, with the autistic "character" being so fucking bad even the people who actively use "autistic" as insulted being offended on our behalf - and of course, she was used just a prop to show how awesome Sia's character was.

Seriously, it was so bad the actress playing the autistic girl was sobbing in between scenes because she knew how it was horrible and she didn't want to insult anyone, but Sia is literally her godmother and helped her career by putting her in nearly all her music videos so she felt obligated to go along with it.

So yeah, fuck Sia and fuck Autism Speaks.

#asks #sia #ableism #autism speaks #actually autistic #aba therapy