#be misgendering me on PURPOSE and i don't want to have to deal with that

[sureuncertainty]

i’m trying so hard to just rip the bandaid off and come out as trans to my family but IDK HOW TO PHRASE IT AND I CAN’T CALL THEM AND TELL THEM i’ve been trying to come out for literally years now and i never know how but they’re coming to visit next month and i have to tell them by then bc everyone here calls me percy and it’s kinda dumb that I haven’t told them yet at this point, like they probably KNOW ALREADY but I just can’t seem to do it I just freeze up I just can’t oh my god, at this point it’s hardly even anxiety (although that is part of it) it’s also just... FRUSTRATION at not being out and not being able to be, like I wanna change my name on social media and get my personal instagram account back, I wanna just be open, i just literally don’t know how. 

it’s been like 5 years since I realized I was nonbinary, I’ve been using the name Percy irl for like 2 years now, I’ve been not using my birth name for even longer, I live on my own away from my family and my entire community knows me as trans and I’ve put this off long enough but at this point it’s not going away and my parents probably KNOW already I just need to tell them so I can change my name on social media and not have them be like what. i just literally genuinely do not know fucking HOW like do I be casual about it? do i send them a text? Email them? I cannot do it over video chat or over phone, like I literally just Won’t if i try to, I have so much trauma from the last time i came out but THIS IS JUST RIDICULOUS AT THIS POINT I GOTTA TELL THEM HOW DO I DO THAT I’M A FUCKING ADULT AAAAAAAAA

if anyone who is an adult trans person who came out to their family late (as in after they moved out of the house completely) has any advice for me please please please help me I am begging (but only if you fit those criteria, otherwise I don’t want any advice you have i’m sorry) 

(and if anyone tries to tell me “you don’t have to come out!” or whatever, save your breath PLEASE that’s not what i’m asking at this point it’s fucking STUPID that i’m not out to them as trans and I’m TIRED OF IT I’m tired of living a stupid double life i just want to be able to be myself fully and then if people don’t like it they can get out of my life but i’m tired of not telling people)

#win rambles #this is incoherent i'm sorry #i just.... need need need need to tell them it's like..... burning inside me it's so frustrating #i know i need to i just don't know how #and i don't even know what i'm scared of!!! of them being disappointed in me? they already are they've been since i came out as bi forever #ago and moved across the country with my partner!!! #i think i'm mostly just worried they're gonna be offended that I dont' use the name they gave me #and also there's the whole they still kinda think i'm christian thing #which idk how to even APPROACH that whole discussion #i think maybe also part of it is that when i'm not out to them it's fine if they misgender me but then once i come out to them then they'll #be misgendering me on PURPOSE and i don't want to have to deal with that #anyway i'll probably delete this later it's super personal but if anyone has advice please

[izzyspussy]

Rating Ted Lasso Characters Based On If They'd Respect My Pronouns (Correctly)

Roy "We Stayed At GAY Til 3AM And Then We Had Crepes With Some Drag Queens" Kent: 11/10 no fucking shit. He would defend me from misgendering also, even if we weren't friends. He's the very embodiment of that guy who fought the trans guy and then fought the authority figure who scolded him for hitting a girl.

Nate "Genius (Code for Autistic)" Shelley: 11/10 are you kidding. If only quarantine had happened in his universe he'd have pronouns too. Also his girlfriend obviously already does.

Jamie "Prettyboy" Tartt: 11/10 duh. No, he doesn't know off the top of his head what part of speech a pronoun is, but only because nothing in the universe could matter less. And much like Roy, if he saw someone else being contrarian for the purposes of being a prick for absolutely no earthly reason, he would be eager to do something about it.

Keeley "Just The Tip" Jones: 11/10 did you see her. Never have I personally received more solidarity than from (butches and) full tilt Barbie Girl femmes like Keeley. She may be cis and she wears "women's" clothes, but she's still doing drag every day. She gets it.

Colin "Right by This Pink Triangle?" Hughes: 11/10 obviously. He would be so good at not making a big deal out of doing it correctly himself or correcting others, because he knows what it's like to just want to live your authentic life without being a spectacle.

Coach "You Should See Him In Drag" Beard: 11/10 which you should've guessed. Look at him. Look at him with your heart. You know he has pronouns you've never even heard of that he takes out for special occasions.

Ted "We Don't Not Care" Lasso: 11/10 why is this even a question. Practically the entirety of Ted's goals in life are to be respectful and kind and help others do the same. Sometimes that's hard and he fucks it up, but this is easy. C'mon.

Sam "Social Justice Warrior" Obisanya: 11/10 like. Obviously. I have nothing else to say, like. Obviously. Obviously.

Bumber-"Impending Class War"-catch: 11/10. If anything, given the opportunity, he would encourage me to have more pronouns.

Dani "Joy" Rojas: 11/10. These are getting very simple now, and require less and less explanation. He promotes joy. What else do you want.

Rebecca "Ask Your Daughter What It Means" Welton: 11/10. She's a cutthroat and a genuine feminist. She doesn't care if a bunch of freaks are scared of strangers' genitals, and she's certainly not going to let something so petty get in her own way.

Jan "I've Run Out of Fun Epithets For Everyone And He Wouldn't Mind This Unfun One That's Blunt About That Fact" Maas: 11/10 of course. There's no logical, moral, or social reason not to, and there is a wealth of evidence supporting gender affirming behavior.

Isaac McAdoo: 11/10. And he would (unnecessarily) instruct all the other lads to do it too. He might struggle with it at first if we had known each other previous to my transition, but not out of malice or negligence, and once he got on track he'd stay there for life.

Leslie Higgins: 11/10. He's a jazz musician with ten thousand gen Z children. He knows at least as many trans people already as any natural member of the queer community.

The Rest of The Lads: 11/10. We all know this to be true. Next.

Georgie Tartt: 11/10. Have you seen her son. She's prepared for this.

Sharon Fieldstone: 11/10. Have you seen her do her job. She's good at it.

Dottie Lasso: 9/10. Her heart's in the right place and that matters! She is inescapably Midwestern in both the good ways and the bad ways, though.

Jake: 8/10. Have you seen him do his job. He's bad at it.

Rupert Mannion: 6/10. He's a trans inclusive misogynist lmao. He also will treat correct pronoun usage as a privilege if he gets butthurt enough.

James Tartt: 3/10. He'd respect a trans man who performed masculinity to his standards, but he is definitely afraid of girlymen and women who are better than him (most women).

#jack facts #ted lasso #hc #i do vague sir but i do not vague at you sir #also yes i do know beard and bumbercatch's first names but i thought this was funnier

[oddballwriter]

Moon Boys with a Trans Reader

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Warnings: some mentions of dysphoria and transphobia from others 

Author’s Snip: I just had this idea come into my mind randomly last night and I almost got up just to write it but it was already hella late and I'm working on trying to wake up early for my upcoming semester. Thankfully I managed to remember just now so I'm writing it now.

I’ll shut up now. Enjoy! And don’t be afraid to request.

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Steven Grant

Our sweetie man <3

I know I always say this but I feel like with Steven, but I feel like learning something and researching something about you or what you like is sort of a love language/show of affection and caring

So when he meets you (or you come out as trans to him) he takes time to learn some things so that you can feel more comfortable and also works on saying things properly like getting your pronouns right and the like

Steven always compliments people but he makes sure to compliment you the most. You always hear the words "beautiful/handsome" and "lovely/dashing" coming out of him

If he ever sees you looking at yourself in the mirror to check your outfit and you look slightly unsure about how you feel about it then he comes up behind you says you look great in it

If you ever feel dysphoric and have one of those days where you just don't feel like your body is reflecting who you are right, he understands in the best way he can and consoles you

"I still think you're beautiful/handsome. And it's okay if you aren't feeling that way today. You'll always be great to me."

If anyone misgenders you or uses the wrong pronouns while he's with you, he politely and quickly corrects them. He doesn't want to formulate it like they did it on purpose, he just does it quietly

He will, however, although not a fan of confrontation, tell someone to act properly if they're causing problems

Marc Spector

He's also really great

Marc takes a bit of time getting used to everything but that's just because he wants to make sure that he doesn't do anything that hurts you or makes you upset

He tries his best to help you with dysphoria and any other issues that you deal with as a trans person

"You're a woman/man to me. And, wow, are you a pretty/handsome one."

The flirt seems a bit out there but he's trying to help you by letting you know that your identity is valid to him and that he sees you in that light and always will

Not afraid to break someone's nose if they call you something nasty or say something

This man would get into a full on fist fight for you and he means that

Marc hardly speaks how he feels, except for when he thinks you look pretty and hot, which is all the time. The only emotion he voices is his attraction to you

In case someone does a double take because you don't have a corresponding voice to your appearance yet, he looks at them with a stern "What? You have a problem?" face

Jake Lockley

Marc would get in a fist fight with a transphobe... but Jake would get in a knife fight

Jake takes it upon himself to protect you if need be. Not saying that Steven and Marc wouldn't protect you too but with Jake all he really knows how to do outside of be your loving boyfriend is be a guard dog

It's his Ken job /j

If you ever feel dysphoric he places you in front of a mirror, points at your reflection, and goes "You know what I see? A hot ass woman/man. And I get to see her/him all the time."

He buys you a lot of things. Like clothes that you enjoy, perfumes/cologne, all the things you could want and make you feel more like you

Flirting comes naturally to him and he frequently calls you pretty, of course in Spanish and english

Makes it clear to everyone that you're a woman/man and if someone says something then we've already established what he'll do

#moon knight #moonknight #moonknight x reader #moon knight x reader #steven grant #marc spector #jake lockley #steven grant x reader #marc spector x reader #jake lockley x reader #transfem reader #mtf reader #transmasc reader #ftm reader #trans reader

[lilybumblebee]

I hate little pieces of people misgendering me because I don't wanna make a big deal out of it by correcting them but also I don't want that to either seem like what they said was correct, or that I'm a bitch about it or something

My math teacher said "thank you sir" in like a silly voice when I handed him my test. Like that doesn't matter, but he made a mistake but I didn't wanna be weird and say something especially since he was already talking with other people.

Or I was part of an example along with another girl for smth in a class yesterday where the teacher was reminding us about control and experimental groups and refered to us in the third person and she repeatedly used they/them for me. Obviously that's not really misgendering but it feels like ignoring my gender. It actually felt really really weird in the moment cause she said like 5 sentences back to back using they/them for me right after repeatedly talking about the other girl with she/her. It made it feel like she was distinguishing that we have different genders or something.

My psychology (the teacher I was talking about) certainly wouldn't misgender me on purpose but it just feels not great, especially since that class is mostly women already and it's easy for me to feel like I'm not actually one of them, if that makes sense.

I feel like when I don't dress specifically obviously feminine I just look like a dude with makeup, even though I'm wearing makeup and a fishnet shirt with a visible bra I'm still read as masculine

I feel like a whiney bitch but I just want people who *know* my pronouns to just magically stop slipping up.

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #transgender #transfem #vent post

[space-station-nursery]

🛰️⸝⸝Welcome to the Space Station Nursery 🪐

☆ ・Personal info ! ˖ ˒

🦊Little Dipper︰Hi! im Finn, also Finnegan, finny fox, fishy finn, and more to my closest friends and moots! Im 21 and my pronouns are They/Them! My timezone is CST. I like Bubby, jay, baking and cooking, playing games, reading (by myself and with bubby) making decor stuff and making custom things! Blues clues !!! if you see a blues clues ask from an anon, its probably me.

Dislikes︰I HATE Bugs, bugsbugsbugs. Being confronted(confrontation), purposely being misgendered, having my boundaries disrespected, bubby or jay being purposely misgendered, bugs and uh-…. i think thats it lol

🦌 Big Dipper︰Hi im FD, im 21 (22 in august) and my pronouns are He/Him. My timezone is MST. I LOVE BABI BEAR, our friends, gaming, cars, anything that has moving parts, reading and watching crime stuff, watching movies and playing games with babi and our friends, and really love the flash as well!

Dislikes︰I dont like icky people coming to talk to babi and i (i dont really like talking to people in general), People misgendering babi or my friends or being rude towards them, and i dont like when people disrespect my boundaries I also dont like the idea of sitters because so many people in the community that we have encountered have bad intentions, but there's nothing else i can think of rn

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🦊 Little Dipper︰I am a flip-leaning regressor, regressing from 0-4. I am a sleepy but bubbly regressor, mostly using items like pacifiers. Despite my trauma, I can regress for small periods of time while assisted, but its a great start and hopefully when FD and I live together it'll boost my regression more!

🦌 Big Dipper︰I am Finns CG, and I love my babi bear! I do everything I can to make sure they feel safe and comfy here when regressing, as well as when they aren't

Sitter views︰We do not see sitters as something either of us would want to be apart of unless it was us sitting for/being sat by someone we know very well. My current sitter is @sleeplessjunkie Who generally just regresses with me when bubby is gone while we play games !!!! We will either talk a lot or not at all, and thats ok bc talk is hard! (we're both autistic)

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[gerdy-sertorius]

Alright, Kris's gender. Never a more divisive argument within the fandom in the least, nothing so fond of devolving into a blazing fury of ad hominems. The general consensus among the fans of the game is that Kris is clearly and canonically nonbinary. They are referred to with exclusively they/them pronouns and has had zero signs of gender other than that. With that, the retort from the opposition camp is generally that he (and it is always "he") is supposed to be a self-insert for the player, in that we can relate to him more. After that usually comes the devastating rebuttal in that they are not mean to be a self-insert, as that would directly contradict what looks like it is going to be the main theme of the game -- the freedom that they lack. At that point, the argument is generally over, with one or both sides expanding on their arguments no more than repeating their initial theses. My goal is to explain my opinion on the matter, and, more importantly, provide my reasons for believing that it may well play more of a role than we thought before. It is quite clear that within the lore framework of the world, Kris is non-binary, or at the very least goes by they/them pronouns. We never seem to disagree upon that point. Where the heated arguments begin is the purpose. Does Kris use they/them because it is part of their character, and as such using anything else is misgendering? Or is it rather that it's done for a purely meta reason, to make them easier for SI purposes? In that case, using alternate pronouns is not only available, it's encouraged. Despite everything, I would say that I fall into the latter camp. For now. For now. For now. Let me see if I can't explain why.

I am a massive proponent of the "Spookydood" school of thought in that the game is made for casual players first and the mega-fans second. And, quite frankly, the casual players aren't going to notice that Kris is referred to solely by they/them. It's not something that's made a big deal out of, not in the least. And for the vast majority of them who do notice, they're going to default to the SI theory. Not because they feel like misgendering is BASED and TRAD, but rather because they haven't spent over twelve thousand hours of their life studying this sort of thing, intricately going into every single detail of the dialogue. That is, they're going to assume that Kris is whatever gender they want Kris to be. Like a player. Like someone who is in control of this world, like someone who is Kris. Yes, it's clear that Kris is their own character, that such freedom is important. But throughout it all, with the exception of a few moments, that's within the subtext. It's not something the game is hammering you in the face with. To the casual player, the major theme of the story is the beauty inherent in escapism, of Kris and Susie, two disliked individuals otherwise, finding a world where they're liked, where they don't have to worry about real life. The freedom theme is in the background completely.

Yet that freedom theme is there, and in all likelihood will be the most important theme in the story. It's the great Fox twist, like the Flowey moment in genocide where he perfectly mirrors your own actions. So there is shown a divide for Kris. One that the fans, the theorists will speculate on, will hype around, will dive into the mysteries of the chapter. But once again, for the casual fan, it isn't magnified, seen as more important than the central conceit, that being how much these characters love exploring Dark Worlds and meeting all of the wondrous and wacky personalities within. But insisting upon they/them pronouns, refusing to accept anything else, all that does is sharpen the divide between Player and Kris. It doesn't matter that Kris is an SI. It matters that they're perceived as one, for the increased effect of those who haven't played every single fangame under the sun. And that is where the issue lies. Now, this is not in any way meant to hurt non-binary representation. If you want to take Kris and make him a symbol of that movement, go for it. Relate to them, engage with all that. Once again, I will stand by the idea that they're canonically non-binary and as such can be that icon if you so choose to relate to them. Representation is important, I understand how nice it feels to have that. But insisting on that only takes away the payoff when it is eventually made clear as crystal within the game that they are their own human being. And I do think that Fox is going to take some steps to explore Kris having their own gender within the coming story, as a way to show the deepening divide between Kris and player that I'm sure will be something building throughout the story.

Now, to figure out what role that plays in the story. I actually think that it will exist as a major plot point and hold a dual purpose within the story. But let's not get carried away. First, I must justify why I believe it would exist as such a plot point. *Ahem*. I believe that it will be a major event in the story because... it would be really cool. Thank you, thank you, thank you very much. Now I can get to the fun part. In all seriousness, I do think that it has been set up to at least a minor extent, and my Toby-addled brain cannot handle a minor hint as anything but super huge lore complications. So allow me to begin. Note: I will be rehashing old ground here, forgive me. I wrote this section like a week later. 

As I alluded to in the above section, I think that one of its primary purposes will be to serve as a way to divide Kris and the character. Presumably, the player will be referring to Kris using whatever pronouns they use, because Kris is the protagonist without a clear gender, a silent one at that. There's no reason not to establish one's own framework upon them. That's the point of escapism, right? That's the theme of the game, right? Losing oneself in another world, and all that. By playing into the self-insert main character, we are engaging with the themes of the story, we are doing what the game wants us to do! And we would be right. We are doing *exactly* what Toby wants us to do. We are playing right into his hands. And then the bait and switch that has been built up is complete, the little twitches of the carpet becoming a full on rug pull. 

For Kris will show themselves as their own character, with not just their own personality, their own thoughts, their own desires, but also their own *identity*. In the truest sense of the phrase, they are them. You have nothing to do with that, you are an imposing force from another world, a hijacker. Who knows, you could be doing it for a good reason, for preventing the Roaring against a Knight who would attempt to end the world. You could just be a trespasser who can get away with it because you are above the laws of this world, you could be the one who really ends the world. But they are their own character nonetheless, and you are a foreign body, nay, *in* a foreign body. 

And with that sense of identity, with that inevitable "found self", there needs to be a wedge to actually show a difference between us and Kris. So I do think the pronouns are going to accomplish that. Whatever gender you put upon Kris, what you thought to be their self because it was *yourself*, that is not going to continue with  Kris, resentful and angry, finally free of your grasp. And one of the first things they are going to do is to declare their own self, one that you have not been able to erase. They have their own gender, diametrically opposed to the idea that you can change who they *are*. They are not you, they want absolutely nothing to do with you, you are simply standing in their way to freedom. And so they drive that wedge in between themselves and you, they make sure that you fully understand that there is not one, but two parties at play. 

And the thing is, that idea of a scene is quite flexible. It can be triumphant, a broken teenager finally free and able to express themself for the first time in what feels like forever. It can be sinister, Kris finally capable of going on these grand adventures once and forever with no consequence to the fate of the rest of the world. It can be bittersweet, Kris understanding that you helped them do whatever grand task needed to be done, but never able to forgive you for your intrusion. But Kris will declare their freedom in a fundamentally climactic way, and I believe that reference to their gender is entirely the final crash into the senses of the player, denying any semblance of projection onto Kris the player had. 

But that is not in any way groundbreaking. It’s pretty clear since my opening that such a sort of thing is what I always intended to expound upon. It’s been a theory in at the very least niche circles of the community for a while, although I like to think I put my own unique spin upon it. No, no, that is not the meat and potatoes of this (it is, but I need a third act twist). I have never seen anybody bring this up with regards to the theorization of a certain character (some might even call him the best one) that provides insight into the Kris gender paradigm. 

I am, of course, talking about Ralsei, the Prince of the Dark. He is viewed by the vast majority of the community to be Kris’s ideal self, the personification of Kris’s desire to be someone better, someone very similar, in fact to his brother. But I don’t want to latch onto the brother thing. All that stuff, the family drama, it doesn’t sell anymore. We all understand it, heard it a thousand times, we want something fresh. Something juicy. And I believe I may have just the thing. What is more important is that Ralsei is who Kris wishes to be. Once again, I am hammering just how mainstream a point this is within the community. You will hardly find a soul who disagrees. 

Yet there’s something curious about that, and I’m sure you’ve figured out what I’m talking about by now. And that is that while Kris exclusively uses they/them pronouns throughout the game, Ralsei does not. In fact, he is solely referred to as masculine by everything in the game. He is the Prince of the Dark, he is constantly using male pronouns. Despite what the fandom of 2018 would like you to believe, Ralsei is completely and totally male. And if he truly is Kris’s idealized version of themself, that raises a metric ton (notionally, of course, I would never use the metric system) of questions. Most importantly, wouldn’t it be *so* funny if Kris’s arc at the end of the game does in fact make him male in line with what he truly wishes he could be, and all of the radical folks who get after you for misgendering Kris were actually doing the very thing they set out not to do? Literally so Delphine, it would be the best thing to happen to the fandom since the release of Yellow. …I’m joking, of course. I’m not, Toby, please make this a reality.

But that leads me to an interesting conundrum. Is Kris attempting to sequester their feelings on being male because they don’t feel comfortable exploring their own gender? Or is it that Ralsei, this idealized version of himself, one so similar to the golden child Asriel, an unattainable goal? Is Kris fantasizing that he could, in the end, be male, wishing for it so, but unable to change his own identity? Despite my inherent need for the former, I will admit that the latter is likely a more compelling story, so I’ll be focusing on exploring it here. I’ll note that this is very similar to the feelings a lot of LGBT folks I know have gone through, and I have no doubt that this is the case for a larger sample size than that. Heavens knows that in a fandom as LGBT heavy as this one it could touch at least some sort of nerve. 

Ralsei is kind to Kris, loving, even to a dangerous degree. Entirely willing to be stepped upon in service of Kris’s happiness, quite literally. That is combined with a consistent refusal to engage with negative emotions, to simply avoid them. What happens when you combine that with a teenager going through massive amounts of trauma from their very will being ripped from them, and as good a reason as any to build resentment? Ralsei is the very culmination of everything Kris cannot be. Ralsei is a constant reminder of Kris’s failure as a citizen to Hometown, as a child to the family that took them in out of pure kindness. Ralsei is a broken mirror to Kris, something that only shows how out of place Kris is, something that only shows Kris the wretched state they are in. 

Kris is already clearly uncomfortable with Ralsei as is, and that is throughout the exhilaration that they already feel while going through the Dark Worlds, while having the time of his life with his best friend. What happens when that begins to break down, when right down to his gender, Ralsei is the ultimate unattainable goal. Not only that, but Kris directly does the one thing Ralsei gets deeply serious about and starts a new dark fountain. There is no turning back from that. Kris not only failed his own life, but he also failed his idea of literal perfection. 

I know I got sidetracked, but you’ll note in both of these, the gender is only in service of other themes. I think it will be important, absolutely. But I think that Toby’s a good enough writer that he won’t make it cringeworthy, that he’ll make sure to keep the themes sincere while still maintaining their relative value. Everything is in service of everything, and I hope the same goes for Kris’s gender and its consequences. 

#deltarune #kris #ralsei #had this on my mind and finally wrote it up #JOE MANY LIBERALS

[headlamprey]

Sooo today I made a trip up to the Franklin Mills mall to try to do a survey with my friends, then hang out while there. I NEED to post about this, because OMFG I was not just immediately misgendered but then purposely misgendered multiple times by the staff at the survey place!!?!! They were SO INCREDIBLY RUDE!!!

The front desk lady didn't want to deal with me at all. I walked up and immediately she said Oh, we don't have anything for females. I was like thats fine because I am not a female!

This definitely messed up some circuits in her brain, because her original reaction was to IGNORE ME while going about her other business.

I stood there, waiting for her to come back to talk to me. Agh! but she was very clearly trying to pretend I didn't exist. So I asked, Hey so you don't have anything for females but I'm not a female so could you explain what's going on right now? Could you please explain? And YES I ASKED "Is this because I'm queer?"

She went over to her manager who was RIGHT NEXT TO ME and loudly misgendered me while saying I was complaining about being non-binary. Which, no, that is not what I was even doing, I was asking a question. AT A SURVEY PLACE. ANYWAYS. She continued to misgender me very loudly for well over a minute so I piped up with a Hey by the way you are still calling me "she"! More being ignored while now both of the employees of this place are PURPOSELY MISGENDERING ME?

I really was there just asking questions and waiting on friends and having these people be incredibly callous and smug and rude within a few feet of me. The manager did absolutely nothing besides be rude and the entire experience was so fucking CRINGE.

I left without causing a scene cuz uh. I really just wanted to eat ramen with my friends. Since the survey people decided to be transphobic ass hats, my one friend did pay for me thankfully.

Still, this shit makes me sick.

AND I KNOW LONG POST BUT

1749 Franklin Mills Cir #159, Philadelphia, PA 19154

That is the address where the two transphobic employees freaking treated me like shit on the bottom of your shoe.

Feel free to fucking bother these people, they were really awful and need to learn you can't just BE LIKE THAT WITH PEOPLE OMFG.

I'm tired as hell so I'm going to look more into it tomorrow, I don't think they should be allowed to treat people that way, and I'm glad it was ME since I'm a hardened old bastard myself. But seriously, if you are considering trying to get a few bucks? This place mostly just wants white "men". Oh yeah, I noticed that too. Since I was being ignored and standing around waiting to have a conversation, I had the time to notice a lot. Seriously, fuck them, I'm goin to bed and I will be kvetching about this a lot more later 😤😤😤😴

#franklin mills #philadelphia #queer rights #also uh #fuck north east Philly #THINGS ARE SO VERY WRONG OVER THERE

[prjctstarfall]

I don't have a personal nor safe place I feel comfortable giving my response so I'll state it here.

Hi, I'm Sheepie/Sheep. The creator of the 2 callouts on this blog as well as being Torchic. I wanted to be shielded with that alias so I could post without Star saying I was back to stir the pot. There is another moderator here since I don't have the mental energy to go through inboxes and information myself and posting information only Sheepie knew would get me found out. I still shake uncontrollaby when the mention of Star is made and the past few days have taken a major toll on me. That said as events have transpired I feel more than safe to let it be known although I still feel weird sending an anon for the other moderator to post on my behalf.

I'm well aware of the apology doc and my feelings on it are a jumbled mess. I never thought I would get any sort of closure, that I would always have to live in the shadows and in fear of her. Not that Star would take any form of accountability. With that said, the doc leaves a lot to be desired. Her apology doesn't come close to healing the many emotional wounds she had left but I never was expecting that much in the first place.

I'm glad she apologized and cleared up the issues with my gender identity. Since recieving that screenshot last year everyday has felt like who I am as person doesn't matter to people. That something stuck to the first part of my rules and even in my Discord's about me were just so ignorable. I don't fully know why people use she/her for me considering my very first mun name was masculine leaning (Garret/Garry/Joker [persona weeb era lmao]) and I had that identity for years. I'm glad and in some sense validated that she was never purposely misgendering and that cap was just misinformation Loke had sent to me to get a rise from me. And I am incredibly remorseful that I didn't double check that information.

Having my vents shared was never really that big to me, in comparision to the countless other things you did that hurt me, it was just painful that you always jumped to aggression with me when I had opened up about how it is something I cannot handle. It hurts that in any of the situations you had been aggressive with me you never apologized for that fact and made it all out to be my fault. In some cases it was, back then I was dealing with countless mental health issues and took everything incredibly personally. That is my own fault and I have been working on it, I'm still a broken person but I feel as if I'm getting better. I was the one constantly apologizing even when it was your actions that hurt me. I didn't have a backbone and it always felt like I was doormat to you.

But you made me feel welcomed and were there for me when I was exoeriencing something I will keep private, so I had become attached and turned a blind eye to countless things that I truly shouldn't have. How you would say mean things about other muns, how others wrote their characters, how people shipped, etc. I turned a blind eye because I was scared you'd get aggressive or that you would turn around and do the same to me.

What I didn't know is that you already were. You apparently talked about me a lot / ragged on my ocs in the same breath that you said you loved them, and that truly hurts and it still hurts to this very day. You were someone I loved and cared for, who I stayed up to talk and plot with. I enjoyed are small talk and threads. Our ships are something I still have a hard time recovering from as they meant the world to me... And it was a hard decision to cut you off.

I should have had a proper conversation with you back then but I was a coward. I got upset and blocked you out of the blue. And I think deep down I wanted you to feel even a fraction of the same amount of hurt as I had. That was wrong and uncalled of for me and it is something I deeply regret to this day. I wish we could have ended things amicably instead of letting our feelings spiral out of control to the point it took us almost 2 years to even get this far. A lot of things and feelings could have been avoided if we had been civil.

If there was any good that came out of this mess, it cemeted who my true friends are. Who cares about me most at the end of the day. I was able to become closer to Daisy and I got to reconnect and meet a lot of people. People who like me were victims of you or were victims of Loke. They are people I love and deeply cherish to this day. And I guess I should be thankful to you for that fact, even if it is a fucked up one.

I'm glad that you are healing and trying to make amends for all the hurt you have caused. And although I can never find it in me to truly forgive and forget. I can at least forgive you for the things you did apologize for. I hope one day there is a chance for us to fully talk and settle our differences as I am no longer the scared Sheep I was back then. But that time will come after you've taken a break and worked on yourself. Even if you have hurt me to the moon and back I still genuinely hope you are able to find happiness and not be used by the people around you. You are a victim too and you deserve to heal and be treated with respect.

I hope you can find friends who love you and won't mock you for your mental health. I don't think we could ever be friends again but I will root for you to do and be better.

I'm not sure if this blog will remain active, that is up to your behavior, Star. If you continue to hurt others I and plenty of others will still hold you accountable. But for now I am taking a step back to enjoy the positivies in life and I think you and everyone else should as well.

To others who aren't Star, hi and hello. Thank you for reading this far. I want everyone of you to knkw that you are loved and you are cherished by someone. I never want to call this drama as it belittles the feelings of everyone who was hurt, but reading the post between all the blogs is draining so be sure to take care of yourself.

And if you are Loke, who assumed that just because you wrote a half assed apology and shared misinformation that I would stop documenting you and help with you trying to knock Star down. Surprise surprise, get fucked. You are an i credibly disgusting individual.

Remember to stay hydrated and take care everyone, this is Sheepie signing off.

Touch some grass today

[centuriantalevevo]

Scaramouche heavily defending Nonbinary! Reader

TW: Misgendering, transphobia, self doubt, slurs. Read with caution

ALSO FORGOT TO MENTION @strawbxrrytiger because you wanted to me tagged in a post i ever made WELL I GOT SCARA X ENBY READER DONE LMAOOO

Note: this will be using MY definition of nonbinary which may not be the same as everyone else's. Do not try correcting me as I'm using my own definition and my own experience and feelings of being nonbinary to make this, if you don't like it you can read something else or bear with it. I don't mean to sound harsh.

Scaramouche meets (y/n) and miraculously gets close to them.

At one point they trust him enough and finally come out to him about being nonbinary, he doesn't fully understand it at first so they explain it

"Basically, I'm neither a man nor a woman. I basically have no gender- you could call it null I guess. Non being not and binary being made of the things- these two things being man and woman. So; not made of two things, man and woman."

"Oh... So... you don't feel as though you're a girl exactly, but not a boy either. So does that mean you don't know? Or you genuinely just don't feel as though you're either gender?" "In a way. I do know, I know for a fact I'm not a boy or a girl. Whenever I'm referred to as a boy or a girl, it just feels very weird.. it's uncomfy. I dunno how to explain- like.. your skin crawling? Maybe a numb type of feeling?"

"So... you don't want to be called he or she?" "No, I want to be called by they, because that's what I am." "So... are you changing your name then?" "I already did. When I met you, I introduced myself with the name I go by now, and not my deadname."

"What's a deadname?" "A deadname is a name that a trans person went by in the past, your birth name after you change it to something else. It's generally really rude to deadname someone or expose someone's deadname and can even be dangerous. Deadnaming someone and it just being a GENUINE accident, and you instantly correct yourself; that's fine! That's acceptable because we all forget and we have to get used to change, same thing with pronouns. So if you accidentally call me the wrong pronouns the first few times, that's okay. Just correct yourself and move on, it's not too big of a deal until you deliberately do it on purpose." They explained and the harbinger nodded, "What if I hear someone call you the wrong pronouns?" "Correct them. If they ignore that and continue on doing it with absolutely no regard to what you said, do whatever you want. If they correct themself and apologize, all is good."

Scara was always a relatively fast learner so he picked it up pretty quickly and when he DID accidentally misgender them, he corrected himself faster than the speed of light.

He was the most supportive of everyone- surprisingly enough.

The issue was Dottore and the Tsaritsa. The tsaritsa just didn't give a shit and Dottore was Dottore.

Dottore found it stupid and refused to listen, but no one take him seriously when he says its not possible because remember he's a psycho doctor. Literally does unethical shit. So... yeah.

When Dottore first misgendered them, Scaramouche corrected him. But he rolled his eyes and didn't listen, and when he continued doing the same thing, Scaramouche almost beat his ass- he had to be held back.

He never really respected the Tsaritsa, but the moment she and her minions dismissed it and disrespected them over it, any form or respect he ever had for them was GONE. And he was this close to taking down a god.

He was always wary after that and WAS ready to throw hands with anyone who disrespected (Y/N) because of it. He's attacked multiple people for it.

He always makes sure to validate them and reassure them if he feels they are at any point feeling self doubt.

He actually got them a flag. They told him about the flag and stuff a long while back but thought he'd forget all about it.

He didn't.

He surprised them with one during Pride month.

They cried out of happiness.

He also got them the trans flag for Christmas!

He got them a "they/them" pin in case they wanted it

Scaramouche ACTUALLY went as far as to kill some of his subordinates because they dared to fuck with (Y/N)'s identity. Some subordinates misgendered them and he just fucking clapped them- the majority if the subordinates didn't dare to test them after that. The newer and cockier ones will try but they're shut down instantly. Be it by death or not.

He helps them get hormones if they want them, he helps them with everything he possibly can.

Considering his position of power and his money, he's able to buy them anything they need.

They want a binder? He can get that.

They want to get on hormones? He can get that

If the certain place (Y/N) lives at isn't accepting, he'll move them somewhere else, somewhere safe and accepting.

Put Scara in our world and he will have.... a ball to say the least.

Considering he's willing to kill, he'd probably annihilate half of the population if he finds who is transphobic and shit and who isn't.

Let him see the US government- I can promise the government will no longer exist after he's done-

America: exists, Scaramouche: Not today bitch

Suddenly America is the most accepting place in the world and has laws protecting the LGBT

I wonder who did that- did they have a change of heart? (Spoiler alert: no, Scaramouche just killed anyone who opposed him, making even the government afraid of him)

He borderline killed Dottore once for misgendering them and stuff.

As you can see, Scaramouche is incredibly protective and said trans rights at all costs

He's willing to commit war crimes for LGBT rights bro-

He'd love Scandinavia /srs

"Hey, Scara? Can I.. uhm... tell you something?" "Hm? What is it?" The harbinger looked up from some sheets of paper he was going over. "It's... really important... and I'm telling you because I really trust you..." They said and Scaramouche nodded, signaling to continue. "I'm trans, nonbinary specifically." They said and Scaramouche tilted his head. "I know what trans is, but what's nonbinary?" He asks as (Y/N) sits down in front of him.

"Nonbinary is... basically the lack of gender. Literally being not made of two things, man and woman. Non, not; binary, made of two this, these two things being man and woman." They explained, "So basically I have no gender, in layman's terms." They added and he nodded slowly, "So... that means you use... He? She?" He asked, and (Y/N) shook their head, "I use they/them. Gender neutral pronouns." "Isn't that... Isn't that plural though?? I'm sorry, I'm a bit confused." He said with a look of confusion and (Y/N) laughed a little.

"It's alright! Yes, they/them is plural but it can be singular... Say, you see someone drop their weapon, and you don't know the gender of the person... What woud you say? Saying 'he or she dropped his or her weapon' takes too long, and there's simpler ways to say it." They explained and Scaramouche thought for a minute, "They dropped their weapon?" He responded and they nodded, "Yep. 'Hey, THEY dropped THEIR weapon' 'My friend is pretty cool, I think you'd like THEM', there are a ton of examples for when someone uses they/them in a singular context. But a comment joke that nonbinaries make with people saying that it's plural is something like 'I'm actually 300 rats in a trenchcoat', or literally just any thing with a big number and a trenchcoat." They explained with a small smile.

"So, do you go by another name then?" "The name I told you when I first met you is the name I go by now. My deadname doesn't matter anymore." They told him and he blinked some, "deadname?" He asked, "A name that I no longer go by. The name your born with is considered your deadname when you change it. It's really rude to deadname people or reveal someone's deadname, hell it can be dangerous." They said, "Why would anyone even do that? What's the point? What do you gain from that?" He asked and (Y/N) shrugged, "Some people just wanna be horrible... There are transphobic people, there are people who hate us for simply existing." "If I find put anyone does anything like that to you, does anything transphobic, I WILL kill them. Very brutally, actually." Scaramouche said, his voice went threatening for a moment.

"There is also a completely separate thing called enbyphobia. Transphobia is just prejudice and shit against trans people as a whole but then we have enbyphobia." "Why?" "I'm about to tell you. Basically, some trans people don't even think nonbinaries exist. Some say they aren't actually trans, and are looking for attention or trying to be special. They call nonbianaries tenders. Trans tenders are an entirely different conversation for a different day." They explained Scaramouche nodded, "wait wait... People actually are prejudice against their OWN demographic?!" "Unfortunately... It's... it's a crack house sometimes, Unfortunately. Sometimes the LGBT community is... a shit show, to say the least. But that's just the loud ones. As they say, the bad ones are always the loudest." They answered and Scaramouche sighed, "of course.. no community is perfect."

The day passed but eventually Scaramouche asked another question that had been on his mind. "(Y/N)," "Ya?" "So... you're nonbianary and only want gender neutral word usage right?" He asked and they simply nodded. "So what honorific would you use? Instead of Miss, Misses, and Mister..." He asked and (Y/N) nodded, "Good question! I prefer Mix, that's abbreviated like M and X. But pronounced as Mix." They explained, "Alright... What about.. for example, I'm dating you. What would I call you?" He asked, trying to hide the small tint of red on his cheeks. "Um... I personally prefer enbyfriend. There IS joyfriend but I really hate that word, it just sounds really weird. You can also use partner, lover, significant other, stuff like that." They responded with a small smile. "And for family like they'd use... Sibling, or child? Or grandchild? Wait what about replacing aunt, uncle, mom, dad, niece, and nephew?" He asked, "Oh! Yeah, child and sibling. I also like demon spawn for comedic purposes. For replace mom or dad, I like nomi. I originally thought nobi but that might be hard for little kids to say. There's also ren, parent, I really like parental unit- once again for comedic purposes." They said with a little laugh and Scaramouche chuckled a bit.

"For aunt, uncle, niece, and nephew... I don't know, truthfully. One day I'll figure that out. Oh, for instead of God or Goddess, I like Goddex!" They added with a grin.

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That's all I can think of rn forgive me- however Scaramouche x Nonbinary! Reader SUPREMACY!!!

#halo; random shit #genshin impact #scaramouche do the fandango #scaramouche headcannons #scaramouche genshin impact #scaramouche #scaramouche x reader #genshin scara #scaramouche fluff #scaramouche x gn!reader #Scaramouche x Nonbinary!Reader #nonbinary reader #reader uses they/them #tw// misgendering #tw// transphobia #we love an ally #Halo; Genshin Impact

[the-kindest-soul]

Hi, I don’t really have a name, it's hard to explain. But you can call me Squirrel or Soul (~ 💚). I also have a stream partner who is a demon, his name is Neo but he also gets called Bat/Soul! (~ 🩷)

Here's a link to places you can find me!

And this is who drew my pfp: Dorimi0016 on IG

My tags are #KindSoulFanart #TheKindestSoul and #TheKindestSoulVT

I also have #KindSoulNSFW but will not reblog from it on this blog. If you get a like from a "TheVillainousSoul" however, that is me :3

I'll also reblog other Vtubers stuff here if I see anything I enjoy!

Have a nice day!!! ~ 💚

Important stuff under the cut!

This blog is strictly in character. (Except for this segment. Under this cut) And will contain fake scenarios, like "went to a cafe", it's just for funsies.

I switch between two models, one of a human Squirrel hybrid that came from a video game and one of an incubus.

If you recognise my art I have a few other blogs, including one @thevillainoussoul

Rules:

* I am trans man, please use the correct pronouns (he/him) for me. Thank you. Repeated purposeful misgendering will be blocked as well as "jokes" and other mean comments.

* Be nice and respectful. I'm not here to deal with any drama within the Vtuber community. The only times I'm okay with talking shit is with companies. Like, idk, Nijisanji (definitely random exmple).

* It goes without saying but, don’t promote your own stuff. The only ones allowed to do that are friends of mine who I hang out with regularly.

* No backseating on streams unless I specifically ask for help.

* Don’t ask to be a mod. Mods are people I trust, I won't just trust a random person I don't know. Even if I'm a small streamer/YouTuber.

* Sexual jokes/comments are to stop if you are asked to. I'm not your friend or your partner, I'm here to entertain. Do not flirt with other viewers or comments. (Some joking is fine but back off if people get uncomfortable.)

* Don’t ask to play a game unless I'm stating I'm playing with viewers in a tag on the stream. Don’t count on this happening, I just play with friends usually.

I don't know how big the Vtuber scene is on Tumblr, sadly where it's the biggest (besides YT and Twitch) is on Twitter and for several reasons, I don’t want to go on that hellsite again. But I do appreciate any support I get here regardless. That's it, thank you for reading this. ~ 💙

#envtuber #vtuber #TheKindestSoul #TheKindestSoulVT #intro post #vtuber introductions

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

I often have a hard time with intrusive thoughts, and have for the most part learnt to deal with them or at the very least talk myself out of an episode that's been caused by them. Recently though I've been really struggling when it comes to the queer community and I've been horrified that I may be secretly transphobic or that I'll unintentionally hurt someone by misgendering them.

I've been on tiktok the past couple weeks and I've seen a lot of discourse about people that are trans or gender fluid or trans masculine and there was a video that said "When she says she thinks I'm a real boy (update, she did not)" and in the comments somebody had said "do they actually see me as a boy or have they just memorized my pronouns".

And since then I've had this fear that what if I'm like that? What if I meet a man who underwent transition and in my head I still sort of see them as a female even though they're a man? Or what if I meet a woman and vice versa? I'm not a transphobic person, I don't want to be and honestly don't feel that I am. But day after day it's been just thought after thought "what if I'm secretly transphobic? What if I'm fetishizing people that are trans? What if I misgender someone? What if me being inexperienced in dating makes me a horrible partner or friend because I wouldn't get it?"

I know in my heart that trans men are just men and trans women are just women, there's no other way to slice it but then I start thinking and then I feel like I wanna die because what if it's a lie? What if I'm just secretly this queerphobic transphobic person and all it takes is something to happen and then everyone will know? But the thing is I'm not! I know for a fact I'm not! I hate my brain

Hi anon,

It sounds like consuming this content has led to some kind of impostor syndrome where you worry about being transphobic. There's a stark difference between accidentally hurting someone (a genuine mistake) and hurting them on purpose, and I imagine you would know which you would be in any given circumstance. I think as soon as some attention is paid to the grey area, it's easy to overthink and worry about the impact of our actions regardless of our intentions. And while it's great to be mindful of how we may hurt others even on accident, there's only so much guilt to carry over a genuine mistake.

We all have implicit biases. We all have thoughts that sometimes conflict with our values and beliefs, and just because we have these thoughts don't inherently make us bigoted or harmful. It's about what thoughts we choose to act upon and manifest into physical reality - that's all that matters.

To answer your other questions more directly, fetishizing trans people is something you'd probably be quite aware of if it did apply to you. If you misgender someone on accident then you correct yourself and carry on. If you have concerns about dating a transgender person, being in an open and caring relationship with them is the best way to work through any discomfort or uncertainty. The only solution to being inexperienced with dating is to try dating more.

If anyone has any comments or suggestions, feel free to add on. Otherwise, I hope I could help and please let us know if you need anything.

-Bun

#mod bun #trauma talks #tw transphobia

[sevenaldzdramashit]

Hate shit continues you did it GG, CWH

I was too stupidly naive to believe it's possible to avoid wasting our energy and time on this.

Yes, I'm also tired of everyone hating each other, that's why when you messaged me(and fooled me for hours on my own streams before and after that) I was so disgustingly polite and still grateful for good things in the past, even though I should have just ignored you.

I knew "just block" doesn't work though, that's why I responded hoping we could have the last conversation to clarify everything and actually stop it.

Also you weren't blocked anywhere but in Sky, because I thought we could discuss things privately if needed, without public wars. You blocked me on Twitch though so I couldn't even respond on your message there. You didn't have to make an alt account to go on my streams and waste my time, you could just message me privately, this entire time.

I politely said "we have mutually exclusive opinions" but in fact your opinions are harmful and invalidate Gilorien's victims(almost everyone in the community preferred to not care about, prioritizing fun over people).

I said "you and Nai hate each other" but in fact it's you wishing them to drop dead and rot, misgendering them constantly, insulting them in the most disgusting way, etc.

a message you called "weird cryptic bullshit"

It's fair they lost the patience with you at some point. They don't deserve being treated like shit, and no one should be surprised by their appropriate reaction to it.

You did all of that to my partner, never apologized, made an alt account to chat with me on my streams pretending you're a random person, you keep invalidating and insulting Gilorien's victims, you lied to me and made fun of me - if you genuinely wanted to be friends with me after that, I don't understand what meaning the word "friend" has for you. It's obvious now it wasn't genuine, but I cant understand what purpose all of that served.

Obviously I would never "agree" to be friends, but I was too nice to you and I wish I wasnt.

I said it was hard to hate, but I definitely do hate you now.

So yes leave us alone, and leave the victims alone, you've done enough.

You have some nice online friends who hopefully can support you after this terrible rejection, and you have your hobbies(thanks for spoiling mine btw) that can help you cope.

Leave us alone, we have enough shit to deal with already.

I don't want to put any effort into this ever again, and I HOPE I won't have to do it.

* * *

(Btw, you don't accept trans people - you should know your ex "best friend"(aka me) was a trans guy at the time)

[alright-gay-two]

My mom sent me a text with the word "folx" in it and I haven't responded because it's making me want to combust. I cannot think of a polite way to ask her to never send me a gender neutral word with an x thrown in it for no reason ever fucking again because it's making me go feral.

Idk I'm just thinking about when i came out and I didn't want to and everything went to hell and the only thing I asked is that they make an effort to use my pronouns and they said they would try. And then my dad literally never tried (he sent texts to my mom about me that would have they in it like once and she a billion times and my mom would show me and be like see look how HARD he's trying!!!! Like ma'am he's trying to get back on your good side after he fucked up the dogs face and then refused to let you take him to the vet because they would think he's a dog beater ((he was)) so forgive me if I'm not feeling the love for something he's preformatively doing for only you to see) and my mom uses them sometimes and then mostly just says my name a lot and throws a she in there when she's said Katie too much in a sentence. Like you could just use my pronouns like I asked you to when I came out to you 7 years ago instead of sending me words that are already gender neutral but with an x (to be inclusive!!!!! :-) ) so you can feel like you're showing you support me without having to commit to the thing I asked you to do to support me

Anyway its getting me thinking about how I literally never directly tell anyone my pronouns because I don't want to experience being misgendered on purpose and once I break that seal it's like. Cool that you're not putting an effort in. It makes it impossible for me to want to maintain any kind of relationship. But lately there have been people in my life who I'm not expecting to use my pronouns because I've (purposefully) not told them and they've found out through other means and started using them anyway and it feels uh. Really good. Which has me thinking maybe I need to reevaluate my stance on never telling anyone my pronouns directly?? And the more I'm thinking about it the more it's like. Fuck. Did I really let myself get so beaten down by a fear of rejection and disregard for the bare minimum that I've packed it away in a neat little box and tell myself it's fine because no one can hurt me if it's in the box!! :) but at the same time it just feels exhausting to have to bring out my pronouns with every interaction and then hope I don't get hurt. Idk I'm working on uh. Being able to do things that make me uncomfortable with my therapist and like. Trying not to pack everything away as soon as I get nervous that it could potentially hurt me and this feels like something I should be able to advocate for but. It's in the box. The box is safe. I can't be upset with people misgendering me if they don't know they're doing it and everything gets to stay nice and safe and unhurt in the box. Every time I feel my soul shrivel up a bit more I just break it off and put it in the box and it doesn't matter that everyone will always think of me as a girl because the box is redirecting the feeling of rejection that I cannot deal with. The box holds on to all my trust issues and keeps them safe. And this probably has nothing to do with the ongoing issue I have with my parents not using my pronouns after being the only people ive directly told "it is important to me that you put an effort into using my pronouns" and being so shitty when I came out. That one hasn't been able to fit into the box for years now

[space-station-nursery]

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Babi's Name, age, pronouns┊・𓂃 Hi! im Finnegan, but prefer to go by Finn. Im 20 (21 on Jan 18th) and my pronouns are They/Them! Babi's timezone┊・𓂃 CST! (or central standard time) Bubby's Name, age, pronouns┊・𓂃 Hi im FD, im 21 and my pronouns are He/Him Bubby's timezone┊・𓂃 MST (or mountain standard time) Boundaries┊・𓂃 Please don't ask either of us to be your Little/cg, we are engaged and are not looking for romantic or platonic littles/cgs. Dms are open for anyone +16 or -26 (i had a bad past with older individuals on tumblr). Listen when we say "No!". If you would like to be moots/friends, please at least interact with our posts, its incredibly uncomfortable to have random txts from people asking to be friends that just followed 3 minutes before.

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About Babi┊・𓂃 I am a flip leaning regressor, and regress to about age 0-4. I am a sleepy, but bubby when regressed! Sometimes i go nonverbal, but i use a pacifier almost all the time. There is a ton of trauma surrounding my regression and it was very hard to regress. Now, with the help of bubby there is hope! I can only regress for small periods of time, and it needs to be assisted but its a great start and i hope that when we live together it'll boost my regression more! About Bubby┊・𓂃 I am Finns CG, and I love my babi bear! I do everything I can to make sure they feel safe and comfy here when regressing, as well as when they aren't Views on sitters┊・𓂃 We do not see sitters as something either of us would want to be apart of unless it was us sitting for/being sat by someone we know very well. My current sitter is @sleeplessjunkie Who generally just regresses with me when bubby is gone while we play games !!!! We will either talk a lot or not at all, and thats ok bc talk is hard! (we're also both autistic)

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What is a DNI? These are "Do not interact" boundaries, this means that if your blog meets any of these criteria you may be blocked\banned\removed from a persons socials. Below are my DNI's so make sure to read them!

・Are anti-agere/agedre(or petre/petdre), an NSFW blog/"SFW" kink blogs like Dd!g/abd!/md!b and other variants. Are an 18+ only blog, Terf, etc. Anything that you would not show a child does not belong here ・Bigoted individuals or peoples that believe in Anti-LGBTQIA+, Pro-ana, Pro-SH, Anti-recovery, MIKs or MAPs, Extreme left/right views, Pro-life, Pro-war, transmed, Pro-mia, Anti-Neos/Xenos. ・Over the age of 27. While you could be a regression blog, and completely SFW, individuals over the age of 27 can become a trigger due to my PTSD. Minors are always welcome, although we will most likely not follow back ・Are a blank blog. This means no banner, profile pictures, posts or names. Blogs like those tend to become a problem and we dont wish to deal with it

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Babi likes┊・𓂃 Bubby, jay, baking and cooking, playing games, reading (by myself and with bubby) making decor stuff and making custom things! Blues clues !!! if you see a blues clues ask from an anon, its probably me. Babi dislikes┊・𓂃 Bugs, bugsbugsbugs. Being confronted(confrontation), purposely being misgendered, having my boundaries disrespected, bubby or jay being purposely misgendered, uh-…. i think thats it lol Bubby likes┊・𓂃 BABI BEAR, our friends, gaming, cars, anything that has moving parts, reading and watching crime stuff, watching movies and playing games with babi and our friends, and really love the flash as well! Bubby dislikes┊・𓂃 I dont like icky people coming to talk to babi and i (i dont really like talking to people in general), People misgendering babi or my friends or being rude towards them, and i dont like when people disrespect my boundaries I also dont like the idea of sitters because so many people in the community that we have encountered have bad intentions, but there's nothing else i can think of rn

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┊Schedule・𓂃

✩⸜⸜ Mood/Stimboards ✩⸜⸜ Text post (tips, links, etc) hosted by babi or bubby! ✩⸜⸜ Wear or tear! (W.O.T) ✩⸜⸜ Worksheets ✩⸜⸜ Journal // QOTD hosted by bubby ! ✩⸜⸜ Pos quotes/affirmations

These have no specific Dates, they will be posted as we see fit! Each post will be sent between 12pm and 1pm (don't know when that is? find my timezone above)

┊Anons・𓂃

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Carrd:┊・𓂃 TBD

Pronouns page:┊・𓂃 finns page here!

Instagram:┊・𓂃 Agere insta!

Twitch:┊・𓂃 Finn's twitch! || Bubs twitch!

Snowflake Nursery Discord:┊・𓂃 Nursery!

Dino Lovers Discord:┊・𓂃 Dinos!

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#✩⸜⸜Babi posts 🐠 - For posts by Finn #✩⸜⸜Bubby posts 🏎️ - For posts by Bubby (FD) #✩⸜⸜Bubbys happy homework 🦖 - For worksheet posts #✩⸜⸜Nursery Positivity 🌻- For positivity/affirmation/Selfcare posts #✩⸜⸜Finns funs 🖍️- For all mood/stimboards and other funs #✩⸜⸜Agere reports 📢- Reports about users that break DNI or are unsafe for the community #✩⸜⸜Babi answers 🚂 - For answers from babi! #✩⸜⸜Bubby answers 🌵 - For answers from bubby! #✩⸜⸜Nursery Asks 🔥 - For ask posts/answer posts for multi usage! #✩⸜⸜Reblogs 📖 #sfw age regression #age regression #agere community #sfw agere #age regressor #autistic agere #age re safe space #agere blog #age dreaming #agere #ageregression #age regression blog #age regression caregiver #age regression community #agere aesthetic #agere boy #agere caregiver #agere cg #agere little #agere sfw

[zx-yourmother-xz]

hyperspecific moderatelyselfish rant for ME. please scroll away unless you want to cringe. bullying allowed

after a while you learn to stop looking forward to your mid-winter birthday. everyones busy for fucking christmas because its apparwntly been christmas for the last two months and a half. thatd be okay. theyve got plans already or something. we cqn do something else. but you're already feeling bad.it's bad enough that literqlly two of your twenty-ish friends show up . 95% of them don't even message you. if you werw doing even slightly worse than you were now you'd recede back into a state of depression. youd go apeshit and assume that your friends hate your guts . youd cut yourself off from the outside world if you could but you CANT you have a future to plan for. so you get back to it and eventually you forget it even happenwd and thinking about it again really is pointless becausw you know ot just makes you feel bad but every now and then you entertain the thought that everyone born in the late winter hates their birthday. or maybe its because of you being jewish amd never caring about christmas or maybe because you dont really know how to socialize or you're overestimating the number of friends you have. or maybe its your personality. maybe they dont like you maybe you come on too strong or. you hide parts of yourself when theyre just learning about you and THATS the part theg like. and then they learn more about you and you open up and get weird and then they get sick and tired of you. maybe you should recede into your middle school persona where you were quiet and well-behaved and normal and ""shy"" and only celebrate your birthday at home where nobody else can acknowledge that it happened. maybe youve known them 6 years but you dont know any of their favorite colors or anything. maybe its nobodies fault and youre overreacting but SURELY they would message you. they wouldnt forget your birthday. you wouldnt walk up to one of your closest friends and go "whats my birthday" and theyd blank and then you ask them "whats rachels birthday" ans they answer perfectly in a second and a half and you and rachel share a birthday. you wouldnt be just a little bit pissed that this same friend had 18 people over, including you, for their late-winter birthday. you wouldnt have a friend who was available on the day cancel last-minute because they were afraid theyd get kidnapped. even though nonobody kidnaps groups of people and by canceling you aare making us more likely to get kidnapped. and last-minute was 8 minutes before midnight and the first message that was sent to you on the date of your birthday was "i'm sorry but i just won't go" and also this is your closest friend who is in your school that also misgendered you and then called you weak just a few minutes earlier. and rhat friend has a late-summer birthday rhat 5 people showed up to and messaged her about. the whole idea of a birthday has never sat right with you. why do you deserve a celebration for living. you live every day and nobody carws. if you walk around and it's your birthday and you'reacting proud and walking tall nobody assumes its your birthday they just assume you're an asshole. you wonder wbat would be different if you were born in the spring. when everyones forced to be at school so you know that's where they are and they cant make up excuses to get out of it. it's not your fault. it's theirs. selfish assholes. they don't care about you. they never did. they can't bother to send you a two-word message. or maybe they didn't send it on purpose because you're an awful person. it's not their fault. it's yours. stop antagonizing them and victimizing yourseld you fucking baby. is this really all about your birthday? nobody fucking cares. youre overreacting. you'll hsve 80 more. calm down. if you say you never saw the point of them, why are you making such a big deal? is it because you're a terrible person? or becausw you only said you didn't care about birthdays to make up for the fact that you're sore that nobody cared about yours? should this post have stayed in drafts? definitely. do we need to have a talk about oversharing on the internwt? attention seeker

#rant #WORLD'S STUPIDEST RANT #its like a poem that tries to have too many themes #whatever who cares

[manjuartx]

‼️Hey! before you enter my page, READ the RULES in this post.

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•You MUST be over the age of 19 to follow me, anyone without an age in their bio will be immediately blocked. And if your account seems suspicious, you'll be blocked. I'm not comfortable with minors trying to sneak their way into adult spaces just for nsfw art and shit.

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