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karak9 · 5 years

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Another stupid long post about how I don't know my own fucking gender

This is honestly just copied and pasted from a yt comment I made on an older vid and I figured I'd share it here bc tumblr loves this shit I guess lol. God damn I've been questioning my gender for so long and ik rn im prob not still in the best position to be thinking about deep life shit like where I am mentally and im dealing with a lot in my life and also very insecure about potentially being trans bc a lot of my friends don't seem like they would be very accepting and my bf is only really into girls. I asked him how he would feel if I was nonbinary or looked like a boy and he just said he wasn't totally sure but he's only attracted to girls :c he's the sweetest bf in existence and im honestly so afraid of losing him, so aside from obviously not wanting to deal with all the other trans shit, I definitely hope im not trans bc I don't wanna lose him. Anyways, ill start with my childhood I guess. I was always super tomboyish. My older sisters (im the youngest sibling btw) were always p tomboyish so maybe I kinda got it from them but I kinda felt like I was more tomboyish than them? I felt like I was the most boyish girl I knew, like even meeting other tomboy girls in elementary school I felt like I couldn't really relate to them or like they couldnt relate to me enough idk. I also remember once making up a song about being like so tomboyish that I was basically a boy or something along those lines and sang it to my best friend at the time who I copied like all the fkin time (it honestly wasnt healthy lmao I didn't have good parents, also I think I started making up songs bc she did that and I wanted to like impress her), but she thought it was stupid and weird so I just forgot about it and moved on. I was embarrassed to even enjoy playing with dolls or play dress up games online and was determined to play masculine games like runescape (even tho I ended up doing girly shit in runescape anyways lmao) and considered myself one of the guys. In 5th grade when I started needing to wear a bra I absolutely didn't want to, tho some girls in my class thought it was weird I didn't wear a bra when they found out and that made me more insecure about it, but since then I've p much only worn sports bras. I have bought some more normal bras bc I wanted to look attractive in them for my SO or whatever but I still highly prefer my sports bras and can't stand wearing the other ones unless I have to bc my sports bras aren't clean lmfao. I always hated talking about genitalia and breasts n shit but that could just be bc of how I was raised and how my family was always so strict and such radical Christians and anything sex related was a sin, idk if its dysphoria or not. I've never rlly liked my chest and hated showing cleavage like so god damn much and still do but maybe that's the same thing or maybe I just want smaller boobs and that's it idk??? Like I'd want to appear to have a completely flat chest at least, idk if I'd want to actually like have a guy chest or not? Also huge issue with ppl seeing me naked or touching my boobs but again idk if that's gender related or just a normal issue I have. Tho I had a friend in high school (a girl, a very weird lewd girl) who would occasionally grope my chest randomly and it wasn't a huge issue but kinda made me uncomfortable and more aware of my chest. I really like when I wear big hoodies or when I lean over so my shirt kinda poofs out and it looks like I have a flat chest underneath. Though im not super uncomfortable with my boobs, like normally ill want nothing to do with them but I don't mind my SO touching them especially if they're really into it. I wouldn't say im rlly dysphoric about between my legs either, like yeah I think its weird and I hate monthlies and stuff but I think that's normal. I think if i woke up one day and had a dick I would be fine with it, I'd prob even enjoy it tbh lmao. I once had a dream that i was, well, a male dog like,,, ya know, with a female dog, and not to sound weird af (hey we were both dogs ok) but I think i kinda enjoyed it? I don't really remember any other dreams where I remember actually having a dick or feeling it but I've had several dreams as a male person, but p much all of them were like, I was seeing through a character's eyes or smth, not really that I was a guy, so idk if that's normal. I have the same dreams about being other girl characters, I'd say its split about 50/50. Because of this game community im in, a lot of ppl assume im a guy, and a lot of people still think im a guy and I haven't really bothered to correct them but idk if I find it more enjoyable bc its funny or if I enjoy not being referred to as female for once. I'll admit I feel most comfortable referred to as they/them, like without a doubt, if I could go by only 1 set of pronouns for the rest of my life it would be they/them. But ik that's not enough to call myself trans. I definitely wouldn't want to be 100% male. Like if I imagine myself as a grown man vs a grown woman id prob choose to be a woman. I don't like my voice but I think that's mostly just bc I sound 10 years younger than I actually am, and wouldn't really want a deep/masculine voice. Like a "tomboy" voice would be fine if that makes sense? I don't want facial hair or want to have a masculine body, I like that I have curves and soft skin and small hands. Personally I like my hair long bc its soft and people love it, but sometimes I kinda wish I had short hair and could pass as a boy. Like I'd wanna be a typical cute kpop boy ngl lmfao. I like the whole cute androgynous/feminine boy look and wish I could pull it off. Tho I also like really girly things sometimes and am okay being seen as a girl, i just want to be cute and attractive. Ik whether im trans or not I like being a mix of feminine and masculine, tho I admit in the past I've been kinda insecure bc I used to be super sure I was nb and thought me liking girly things and wanting to still havd long hair and wear girly clothes made me seem like "not trans enough" or whatever. But i guess here I am questioning myself again anyways. If I am nb, it sucks that ill never really be able to be openly myself and all but I've accepted by now that I kinda have to pick a binary and choose what I want to be seen as for the rest of my life, and im ok with being female. There are some things I dont like about my body whether they're really gender related or not but I can't afford to transition and wouldn't like most of the effects of T and am afraid of surgery and not sure I want top surgery enough to ever get it anyways, but I think if we lived in a perfect world and I could magically change my body at will and I wasnt afraid of judgment or being unattractive or whatever, I'd probably want to look androgynous and itd be cool to be able to change my genitalia at will lmao. If I had to choose 1 genitalia over the over I honestly have no idea what I'd choose but I have no desire to ever get bottom surgery, at the same time tho I honestly wanna someday get surgery or w/e to never be able to get pregnant. I just could not handle pregnancy or giving birth and I don't even like babies and breast feeding sounds awful so if I ever have kids they will be adopted 100% and most likely be older and like not newborn babies lmfao, babies are honestly so weird to me and they stink and cry and they're so fragile and im so afraid of like dropping them when I hold them lmao. But I like my nieces and nephews and I like being the cool aunt (is there a gender neutral version of aunt/uncle?) who lets them use my art supplies and helps them do fun stuff even if I get tired of them sometimes lol. Idk if that's gender related either but yeah I guess. This if kind of a more recent thing but I often say I'd make a great bf kinda as a joke bc of how I am in relationships like being the stereotypical sweet bf type who makes things for their partner a lot and wants to be their knight in shining armor and their protector and all that, but again prob not rlly trans related lmao just thought I'd throw that out there I guess. So when I was 17 was when I really started getting into trans stuff, prior to that I mostly just learned from my parents that trans ppl were "against god" and all that bs, and eventually started realizing lgbt+ isn't as bad as my family said and later realized I was bi. But anyways I met an agender person online when i was 17ish and I'd never heard it before and thought it was really interesting and asked them how you know you're agender bc after hearing their explanation of it i thought it described how I felt, but ofc they weren't transmed and just described it as being like a deep feeling or whatever and since then i started calling myself agender (and switched between a few labels but basically nonbinary) until my transmed friend told me I was ridiculous and that I wasn't trans, and honestly he was a huge dick but im a huge pushover lmao and I thought well he's trans so he must know what he's talking about, and though I felt discouraged about it I stopped calling myself nonbinary. Then I began questioning it again after not too long and basically since then I've been questioning my gender off and on. I'm now 22 and god I fucking hope im cis but also I feel like a part of me doesn't want to be cis if that makes sense?? Idk if that's because I don't like being a girl for some weird deep reason I don't know about despite being pretty sure I've gotten a lot of my feelings and their reasons behind them figured out, or if it's because I am trans and dont want to force myself to pretend im a girl 100% forever. At the very least, whatever the fuck my gender is, I want to continue going by they\them wherever I can and pretending to be a boy to strangers online and I'd love to cosplay male characters and bind and occasionally just dress masculine for the hell of it and probably wear sports bras for the rest of my life. I feel like in a way I cang possibly be trans because I can live with all of those things and be fairly comfortable still being seen as female for the rest of my life. But idk, I have bpd and other mental shit so sometimes im not great with my feelings (tho I do try really hard to identify all of my feelings/emotions and stuff) but at the same time bpd can cause weird identity shit so maybe its just a weird mix of a bunch of crap and im not actually trans but just weird and tomboyish enough to question my gender for 5 years and still be unsure. Also I know a lot of ppl suggest talking to a therapist/psychologist/whatever professional and trust me I would love to but I can't currently and am unsure when ill be able to bc they're expensive and I live in the middle of fucking nowhere so finding a decent therapist around where I live rn is going to be very difficult. Also, I have fucking crippling social anxiety lmao like I'd be so afraid to open up about this stuff even to a professional. So if anyone could suggest anything online that could help that would be amazing

#Trans #nonbinary #nb #genderqueer #gender questioning #transmed #pls help me lmao I hate my brain sm #also im so sorry if this post is scuffed af #im on mobile #its 4 am I cba

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bckttwlsn-blog · 5 years

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hello friends n baes ! im el & this is my lil bean beckett !! he’s very soft n sensitive so pls approach him with caution n love. if u like this post, expect me to IM u immediately cos i’ve no chill :))))) and bc i’m super excited to get to know y’all!!! if tumblr IM isnt ur thing (bc it sure as hell isn’t mine) then y’all can hit me up on discord @ not enough scotty 🤪✌🏼#1968 also ignore any typos bc uh im not pERFECT OK >:-( thx y’all xoxo

.・゜゜・introducing: harry styles as beckett wilson, a twenty-four year old bullet journaling/art youtuber

STATS ✷ WANTED CONNECTIONS ✷ PINTEREST

B A C K S T O R Y

so my dear beckett was born n raised in birmingham, alabama where being a ~*~proper gentleman~*~ was bsc drilled into him from the moment he could walk & talk. expect a lot of “y’alls” from him but don’t mistake him for a cowboy bc he is pRIM AS HELL

he’s also sensitive as fuCK but trust me when i say that he was told to hide that kjshda imagine him at 4 and feeling a lil emo bc his favorite corner in the sandbox was taken but knowing he isn’t allowed to cry ?? ouch !

he never really felt like he clicked with his peers but that didn’t stop him from trying his best to fit in ?? tbh from about high school his motto was “fake it till ya make it”

and fake it he did !!! beck played sports, did well in school, and went to the university of alabama (rollLLllLLll tide !) just like the rest of his peers . this bitch even joined a fraternity ,,, ya it was that deep

though his passions lied in the arts, he decided to go for a degree in law; something that could bring great prestige to the wilson family, who were known to raise lawyers out the wazoo akjsdhk

his parents were proud of him and he had a good life, so he continued to lay low and follow the crowd

but somehow the desire to start a youtube channel, something super out of the ordinary for good old bham, won over his need to be seen as normal

but that didn’t mean he was abt to put it all out there oh no no !! he made the youtube account “how to art” (shut up ok he was duMB ,, and he still is tbh) in 2012 and posted videos of anything under the sun: animations, portrait time lapses, random sketches - you name it ! but all without his face or any indication of his identity

he slowly but surely realized that he had a niche following that especially appreciated his bullet journal videos and he began to specialize in those, perfecting his calligraphy and doodles as he went on

it wasn’t until he graduated in 2014 and was participating in a gap year that he changed his youtube name to “beck’s bujo corner” and became a more active and involved youtuber, including non-bujo related videos where he just talked abt being an artist n stuff (omg #facereveal KJADH)

not to be dramatic but he’s handsome and he has a slight southern twang and he’s good at what he does ,,, of course he got more attention after all of that

long story short he uhhHHhhhhHHH never applied to any law schools :///

C U R R E N T L Y

ok so beck came from money and so that plus all of the money he was making on youtube made it easy to move from la (and hide from the disappoint from his parents askdjh who made it known that they were noT OK WITH HIS CHOICES but also love him too much to cut him off)

moving to the big city meant vlogging bc he felt like he actually had exciting content (like come on: “sleepy day in birmingham!” vs. “country boy takes on the big city yeehaW !” u already know which one u would choose)

he’s now live in la for about 2.5 yrs and while he’s enjoying the hell out of himself, he sometimes finds himself at a crossroads

he’s grateful for the life he gets to live bc he gets to be himself and practice his passions everyday, but sometimes he rlly do be sad bc his life is NOTHING like he imagined it would be when he was a kid

his relationship with his parents is still iffy bc even tho he’s been on youtube for a while, he hasn’t rlly been considered an ~*~influencer~*~ until the past few yrs. he’s working on it day by day but his fans don’t know that bc (for the sake of his family’s prestigious image) he’s pushing the “perfect family” narrative

honestly he’s just the king of self sabotaging himself, so expect him to do dumb shit a lot and then beat himself up for it for ages and then ... repeat !

tbh if u made it this far ur the realest bith i know ... so thank u <3333

#vlogintro #did i proof read this ? no #am i still gunna post it ? yes #are my tags working ? no

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