#auditory processing lag

[red-erroring]

One of these days im gonna accidentally and unironically ask a real live person to put on subtitles

#soft spoken #auditory processing lag

[thistransient]

Currently perishing of anxiety because my dad is visiting tomorrow. I tried to dissuade him from coming for an entire two weeks. He proceeded to buy tickets and then ask me if he’d left enough time for his layover. I pleaded for some sort of direction in formulating an itinerary, he refused to express any preference beyond ‘not taking [him] to a rubbish dump’. Maybe I shall bring him to the Beitou Refuse Incineration Plant Observation Deck just for the irony.

#i did not get hired for that job and honestly i'm mostly relieved #there was like 10% generic sting of rejection when reading the extremely vague email #which i only figured out based on its length and the presence of a character for regret in there somewhere #and 90% thank god my auditory processing lag and i don't have to actually host a radio show

[coolcarabiner]

can i be honest with you guys. in 20 dollar nosebleed i really thought he said vermin and jet lag like i’ve thought this the entire time idk why. but it’s just occurred to me literally now that it’s uh. it’s permanent jet lag

#auditory processing fails again!!!!! #idk why i just rolled with vermin and jet lag i was like idk it’s fall out boy that seems right :) #fall out boy #posts

[sadiewayne]

"adhd isn't a disability"

breaks down over trying to start tasks until he deadline is stupidly close

unable to do basic chores unless it's like 4am and then the whole damn house gets cleaned

speaks too fast

tangent and tangent and tangent. makes social situations hard

literally unable to stop themselves from interrupting people mid sentence (and the constant "*interrupts*- sorry, please continue")

knows what they want to say, cannot find the words, even if it's something basic

auditory processing disorder (pretty common with adhd), like how do you explain that you can hear but your brain has minecraft server lag and the chat will appear soon

hyperfixations, and people thinking they are special interests when they are not (they are short term, literally stops you from basic care like eating and drinking when in) edit: it was brought to my attention this comes across like special interests are easier to live with which is not the case, please do not take that away from this post!!!

impulse purchases making bank accounts cry

all or nothing. not hungry to pain. don't need to pee until pain. you get the picture

cannot sit still, like actually can't, constant moving and shuffling which people think would be cute but actually just pisses people off

doesn't have a fidget toy, not bc they are popular but bc they would have to put it away bc dylan over there got a fidget spinner and has been loudly playing with it (dylan is neurotypical)

cannot do anything if there is something else to do that day, must wait

just stfu it is a disability

#written by an adhd person at 4am bc they cannot sleep bc brain go brrrrrrrrrrrr #but not brrrrrrrrrrrr like cute #brrrrrrrrrrrr like a ch-47 chinook #that's a helicopter #adhd #actually adhd #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #neurodiverse stuff #adhd problems #adhd things #actually neurodivergent #holy shit 10k

[notabled-noodle]

normal vs disordered: auditory processing

normal: not being able to hear someone properly when it’s noisy or you’re “in the zone”

not normal: not being able to hear someone properly when you’re looking directly at them

normal: putting the subtitles on if it’s in a different language or the actors are being quiet

not normal: not being able to hear what actors are saying unless you have subtitles there

normal: mishearing someone when they’re talking too fast or mumbling or saying unfamiliar words

not normal: you have times when it feels like everyone around you is speaking a different language

normal: you can’t make out all the lyrics in a song the first couple times you hear it

not normal: you’re resigned to the fact that song lyrics will always be a mystery to you (unless you google them)

normal: it takes a couple seconds to realise someone is talking to if you’re currently doing something else

not normal: your brain feels like it’s “on lag” when taking in auditory input

if your hearing is otherwise “normal” and yet you’ve always struggled to understand what people are trying to say to you — that’s likely to be an auditory processing issue. it usually comes along with another disorder, such as autism or ADHD or SPD

#normal vs disordered #apd #auditory processing disorder #auditory processing

[sleepdeprivedsimp234]

Heeyyy, long time no ask, whats good? I feel it’s obvious what I want but got any NJ hcs spare? If not I will also take Delaware and/or Rhode hcs. Thank you :D

I’ll give ya all three since I’m kinda bored rn lol :3

New Jersey:

He has an auditory processing disorder. His brain quite literally lags /lhj

Almost all of this man’s clothes have flowers that are either on them or go with them (like an accessory)

I feel like he definitely loves dried fruits and trail mixes (probably cuz that’s what he takes with him everytime he fcks off into the woods with him)

He’s somehow the only one of his brother’s that DOESN’T rely on coffee/tea/energy-drinks to survive. And he won’t tell them his secret.

Was absolutely 100% a jock in school, but make him really awkward and actually nice-ish? I say nice-ish cuz it can turn to him beating someone’s ass in less than a second.

Delaware:

Okay- so obviously this man is old as hell (not really, he stopped aging at around 34 in human years)

There are plenty of old man teases and jokes to go around, including the "what do you think of porridge?" question. And to that question, he has 100% answered that he actually really likes porridge, UNIRONICALLY. And then just stood there wondering why whoever asked him the question (Florida or Coco probably) is laughing their ass off 💀

He owns a bunch of chickens and calls them his children.

This man does not know how to do the whole technology thing

He’s actually pretty sweet compared to other NE states. Not quite "NY-If-He-Wasn’t-Traumatized" level sweet, but still sweet.

Rhode Island:

Is WAY. WAY. WAY. Stronger than he looks. As in, has thrown and pinned Texas, could throw and/or pin Alaska but doesn’t have interest in doing so 💀

Anyone could still punt his tiny ass like a football though ✨

I feel like he definitely gets away with a lot of free/discount kids meals. Does he get teased for it? Yeah. Does he care? Absolutely not.

Him and Del are the husbands ever <3

Has the biggest "COME AT ME BRO 👹👹👹" energy istg

#welcome to the table #welcome to the statehouse #ben brainard #wttt #wttsh #wttt new jersey #wttsh new jersey #wttt delaware #wttsh delaware #wttt rhode island #wttsh rhode island

[dragongirlbunny]

also on the topic of tabletop rpgs i hate how autism makes them significantly more difficult/stressful than they need to be like

a) i already have a hard time knowing when it is appropriate to interrupt people

b) auditory processing issues plus needing to filter everything through "how would my character react" plus actually finding the right words to speak means the lag time between the GM or a player talking and me forming a response is so wide that it's almost guaranteed that someone else will have already responded

c) it causes me to be absolutely atrocious at open-ended prompts and downtime and the like because i have to shift gears from "objective-oriented" thinking to creative thinking which is at best slow and at times impossible if i am too focused on a given objective/task/goal

#point C especially is why i prefer pf2e over 5e and also why i'm not a huge fan of rules-lite games #i need a Options to select from #if something is too open ended my brain just kinda spins uselessly #and by the time i come up with something another player is already rolling to enact their plan

[theforesteldritch]

I was talking with someone who’s Deaf earlier and somehow we got to me explaining how frustrating it is when people say they wish they were intersex because they think it helps validate being trans or whatever, and he made a really great comparison. I have auditory processing disorder, and he’s Deaf, and he compared it to if someone with auditory processing disorder said they wished they were Deaf to validate their struggles and so people would take their struggles seriously, or to ‘explain’ why that’s the way they are, when really that’s not how it works. And yeah, exactly! There might be some overlap in some experiences there but they’re different things and not only is there a misconception that you would be taken more seriously as one vs the other but you don’t need one to validate your experience and struggles with another. My auditory processing disorder doesn’t need an ‘explanation’ (that doesn’t really explain things because it doesn’t work like that), I still have problems understanding what people are saying, like there’s a lag between hearing it and understanding it. Being Deaf is a different thing and my auditory processing issues are valid regardless of my hearing, so it would be kind of gross for me to say I wish I was Deaf to try to ‘explain’ my auditory processing. In the same vein, my being intersex isn’t an ‘explanation’ for being trans and doesn’t make it easier, in fact sometimes being intersex makes it impossible for certain transition things, so someone saying they wish they were intersex because it would ‘make it easier’ or would ‘give a reason’ for being trans just doesn’t make sense and is kind of gross. The reason you’re trans is that you’re trans, and s those lines of thinking, that intersex people are more ‘biologically nonbinary’ or ‘biologically trans’ are just wrong and reinforce the same essentialism that’s hurting both of our communities.

#moth rambles #intersex #intersexism #trans

[selectivechaos]

got a sort-of story.

i realise now that a thing people who can speak do, is that they give verbal cues for basically everything, they do it so liberally as well because it so easy for them. so it kind of shocks me how shocked people will get when i just walk up and hand them things. like, they can see me approaching, they can see the object in hand, they can see that i am passing it to them, and often they know exactly what whatever it is is. but because i haven't told them verbally, they feel confused; or actually, they feel like they should be confused.

and i get it, am not critiquing it; it's just what their brain is doing, just think it is funny and sweet.

another thing, is that majority of people are used to others making eye contact with them. it's a social cue before a person speaks. and they can see my lips moving, but their ears need time to catch up because there's a lag in auditory processing when they haven't registered via eye contact that am going to speak. and even as am speaking, i think they still can't quite believe it because their brain is going: but he's not looking at me, is he speaking to us? even though there's no-one else in the room.

again, nothing wrong with this. just find communication so interesting/ especially when it goes wrong, because that's like my forte :) 🌹🌹

#communication #social anxiety disorder #social anxitey #mental health positivity #someone called me a secret agent bc i slide bits of paper to people silently. wear sunglasses indoors bc of the bright windows. and speak i #hushed voice without eye contact. and honestly i respect that image /half joking #social cues 101i know and observe all /joking #selective mutism #situational mutism #sm tag

[incarnateirony]

convo in server:

(friend)— Today at 4:50 PM my favorite (not completely serious) take is adhd dean truthing with auditory processing lag and he hadn't actually fully processed what cas said until he was gone

Villain Enthusiast — Today at 4:53 PM this is the most relatable take people: are you listening me: im fkING TRYING

(friend) — Today at 4:53 PM dean, coasting on voice tone and conSTANTLY DISTRACTED BY THE BANGING ON THE DOOR: why does this sound like a goodbye?

Villain Enthusiast — Today at 4:54 PM SDKFJSDKF kdjFKSJDFs

#supernatural #spn #destiel #15x18 #15.18

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

TW: emotional abuse

Hello. I have a version of the 'is it bad enough' question that people ask about abuse. My husband began to speak to me harshly about a year into our marriage. He never calls names or starts fights, but he speaks louder than he needs to, and gets frustrated with me very easily. I think I have a slight processing disorder, as sometimes it takes me a few moments to understand what people are asking me. It's not a huge lag, and I don't think anyone else even notices, but he begins loudly repeating his question at me. It makes me feel bad and I am never comfortable around him any more. I have asked him to stop but he says it is 'just him' and goes on doing it. I am a very easygoing person and no one else gets easily frustrated by me or speaks sharply. I am including family, friends, and strangers. My husband says he never gets angry with me but he ACTS angry. But again, no names, no insults, just a loud insulting way of speaking. I really want to leave him at this point. But when I look up articles to read about emotional abuse, I can't honestly say that he ticks off any of the boxes. Is this my own inner problem I should deal with? Is it a big enough thing to leave over?

Thank you so much

Hi anon,

I'm so sorry to hear about what's been going on. Please know that you don't deserve to be treated this way and you're not alone. Yes it is "bad enough" although there is no "bad enough". You deserve to be treated with patience, especially if you have auditory processing issues, and the person who is supposed to love you should be a prime example of that. The aggressive way that he speaks to you and behaves to you could count as emotional or verbal abuse.

I'm curious if you've talked to him about this before, although it's hard to say how well that would go. Regardless, it could be worth finding a time when you're both available to sit down and explain how his behavior makes you feel, focusing on "I" statements like "I feel frustrated/scared/lesser when you get short with and yell at me." Then the conversation could pivot towards problem-solving, asking perhaps what happens in those moments for him and what he could do differently to treat you better. If he loves you, he will commit to making an effort to treat you with respect. Depending on how safe you feel, it could also hammer it in to set a boundary such as "If this behavior continues, I cannot stay in this relationship."

It could be a big enough thing to leave over if you've tried talking it out and nothing has changed, or if you simply feel like you've had enough. It's ultimately up to you whether you want to stay or leave and it's important that this decision is left up to you to make because it's your relationship and your life.

If anyone would like to make any comments or suggestions, feel free to do so. Otherwise, I hope I could help and please let us know if you need anything.

-Bun

#mod bun #trauma talks #tw abuse #tw emotional abuse

[lovedthestars-toofondly]

notes on the auditory processing issues post blowing up so far

- my activity page is lagging like it never has lagged before

- people going “oh is that why I’ve never experienced catcalling?!” in the tags, I am SO sorry to have brought this to your attention, have a cat picture as an apology:

ID: Prim, a grey cat, on her back with flailing limbs, chasing after a wooden ruler. She’s reaching for it with her front paws and her pink tongue is sticking out. She’s inside a wardrobe made of light-coloured wood. She looks ridiculous.

/end ID

- people going “yet another thing indicating I may have adhd lol,” I am extremely Not A Professional but you very well might and regardless of whether you do it might be a good idea to look into some ADHD coping strategies and see if they work for you. you don’t need a diagnosis or anything, if you find them useful, they’re for you.

- some stories about catcalling that are frankly hilarious

- some that are just vaguely depressing, if only because of how many there are

- people who ask about the rhododendrons, I love you

- people who find the rhododendron addendum, I am kissing you directly on the mouth and naming my firstborn after you. I might end up writing this damn thesis solely because of y’all

- to the two people who thought “rhododendron” was a geometric shape - may you never have problems with your teeth may you always wake up with your back entirely free of pain may traffic lights turn green as you approach them. thank you

#crow talks

[garlic-but-gay]

Y'know what i think would be neat? In a cyberpunk dystopia, i think there should be geurilla virus warfare that isnt reduced to "oml im gunna hak!" Like, tell me youure putting a zip bomb in someone's auditory processing chip to lag it. Tell me you shut off your bad guy's liver fans or whatever. Technology has its limits and drawbacks as compared to flesh, and i think theyre just as nuanced and interesting as its advantages

[tabitha2]

Note: If you don’t have time to watch these simulations now, please bookmark this post. Experiencing, even a to a small degree, what it is like to be dyslexic is so important!

Simulation 1 – Read like a dyslexic

The first simulation is from the PBS web site and simulates what it is like for a dyslexic to read. Click here to try the reading simulation.

How did that make you feel? Could you feel the frustration of figuring out the words? How was your reading comprehension? I know for me that I was trying so hard to decode the words, that I couldn’t remember what I had just read. Sound familiar? How eager were you to read after this experience? I know that I, an avid reader, didn’t feel it was worth the effort to read the passage. If you thought that was eye opening, try this next simulation.

Simulation 2 – Write like a dyslexic

Writing for dyslexic students can be difficult. Try writing quickly with your opposite hand. I found the comments of the people participating in the simulation very telling. This simulation illustrates how important having accommodations are in helping a dyslexic student to achieve success.

This short video clip is from the documentary How Difficult Can This Be? by Rick Lavoie (may be available from your library) and shows how an auditory processing lag can affect a child, especially in a classroom. Basically an auditory processing problem is just what is sounds like. Auditory information is not processed efficiently so understanding from hearing is delayed. I know that in our home, before we understood what an auditory processing disorder was, it was typical to become frustrated with that child, just as the video clip illustrates, because the child appears to not be paying attention or taking the lesson seriously. NOTE: This video clip has been removed from YouTube but I am leaving this section up to encourage you to look for this video Fat City How Difficult Can it Be? at your local library or purchase via Amazon.

Simulation 3 – Reading in front of people

One of the greatest fears a dyslexic has is being asked to read out loud in front of people. After watching simulation 2 you know how hard it is for a dyslexic to read. Imagine reading in front of others, especially in a room full of people who misunderstand dyslexia.

Hopefully, you have a better understanding of what it is like to be dyslexic now. Understanding leads to compassion and our dyslexic students need that.

Dyslexics learn differently. We as parents and teachers need to educate ourselves about how dyslexics learn and how to motivate these bright, creative kids to push past their daily difficulties and access their substantial higher order thinking skills. Dyslexia does not need to be a disability if the the teacher understands how dyslexics learn and the right teaching methods are used.

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[frobby]

having bad auditory processing feels like playing a quicktime event with lag

#It's so hard to not just be like 😐😐😐😐 when someone says something I wasnt expecting #Sorry I wasnt in listening mode and am currently dropping frames

[ruvviks]

8, 15, 25, 31, 35 and 43 for artyom and sascha!

YIPPIEEEEE thank you so much for these AUAUAU i've missed talking about them ;w;

for housekeeping reasons: this pairing is romantic!

8) what do the like best about their partner?

artyom loves how considerate and kind sascha is :) sascha has been through a lot and is still going through a lot but despite all of it he's still so gentle. very tired, sure, and he can definitely be a little distant and VERY quiet, but he's just. a sweetheart and i am holding him in my arms

sascha loves how enthusiastic and energetic artyom is! artyom is very passionate about science and magic and loves to ramble and infodump, and it's so endearing to sascha; he loves to just sit around and listen to artyom for hours and hours on end :) <3

this is also why they just. they work so well together idk!!! sascha is more quiet and reserved though still passionate about the things he likes, while artyom is more extraverted and shares the same interests as sascha so they always have something to talk about and they just. complement each other very well. i'm having so many emotions about them oh my god

15) how adventurous are they?

VERY adventurous >:) they're essentially traveling the world with their adventuring party right now! they both love seeing other places and meeting people from different countries and cultures, and they also don't shy away from an adventure in a deep forest or a cave system or a dungeon or something like that

when it comes to their relationship specifically, they're a bit less adventurous (except when it comes to the bedroom but i'm not gonna talk about that right now LMFAO). throughout their entire lives, they've actually always been each other's constant so to say, and they like the predictability and reliability that comes with that! so they're not quick to try and change things about their relationship in an adventurous way, they prefer to just go with the flow and see where they end up together :)

25) how much time do they spend together? do they share their feelings, or hold things in?

artyom and sascha essentially spend every breathing moment together. they're both however not that great at talking about their feelings! haha! it's mostly been fine because they're so tuned in to one another they Rarely need to talk about stuff, they just follow their intuition and all is well. however, especially later in their story and after they officially become a Thing, they learn they Do kinda need to talk about things and that's when they start doing it more. it's a messy journey because they both haven't really been taught how to communicate properly (artyom was mostly left to his own devices back when he still lived at home and sascha was a gifted kid so everyone assumed he just Knew how to do Everything) but hey they're learning together and that's what it's all about <3

31) do they finish each other’s sentences? pick up any phrases or habits from each other? know when the other is hiding something?

artyom finishes sascha's sentences all the time but that's also mostly because sascha speaks very slowly and artyom talks so so fast LMFAO he generally knows exactly what sascha is thinking of so that's why he can do that

the other way round, sascha cannot finish artyom's sentences because artyom speaks and thinks very fast whereas sascha. well. he's hard of hearing with pretty bad auditory processing issues so his brain just kind of lags behind, it's already a miracle he can follow artyom's rambling in the first place LOL

sascha has picked up a lot of habits from artyom. artyom is very expressive with his hands and also stims a lot, and it's become so normal to sascha he's kind of doing things like that too nowadays <3 artyom has picked up less habits from sascha because of his um. pretty static composure most of the time. and also when we're talking about routine habits, artyom doesn't easily create new habits for himself so he wouldn't "just" pick something like that up from sascha

they're both terrible liars as well, so it's pretty easy to tell when they're hiding something. however, they're both also pretty oblivious so there's still a big chance they get away with it LMFAO

35) do they bring out the best in each other, or the worst? do they have a fatal flaw?

generally speaking, they bring out the best in each other. their brains are so tuned in to each other and they're both so smart, they can come up with the best and most creative and brightest ideas together (which they do!!! a lot!!!!!) and they clearly love each other so much and let that love for each other fuel them and motivate them in everything they do

however, they are definitely also a little bit too dependent on each other. it's something they're working on, and while they don't mind being apart and actually Can be apart from each other, it becomes very clear in their behavior that they still rely a LOT on each other

a good example of this would be the fact that artyom mostly makes decisions with his heart, whereas sascha mostly makes decisions with his head. it would be best to have a good mix of the two available at your disposal, but because they've become so comfortable relying on the other doing what they do best, whenever they're not together they're just. kind of missing that part of their judgement. and that prevents artyom from thinking rationally about things when he's alone, and it prevents sascha from understanding others' perspectives better when he's alone

43) do they talk often? what about?

they talk. all the fucking time oh my god they never fucking shut up LMFAO they were put next to each other in fantasy secondary school because their teachers hoped it would make artyom more quiet when he's forced to sit with the quiet kid (sascha) but no. it only made him louder. and it made sascha loud as well. bless

they mostly talk about science, magic and history a lot because that's their specialties and their fields of study :) artyom also reads and learns a lot about random things (whatever his brain is zoomed in on at that moment) which he will occasionally infodump about as well! sascha is less of a talker but he's a good listener, and he absolutely also has his infodump moments <3

pairing asks!

#asks #mutuals #morvaris #ask:in life and death #pairing asks #if you're noticing parallels between these two and misha and vito no you don't <3 #i kinda created all of them at the same time and ended up reusing some stuff but. it's Different enough i think #i'm going into very different directions with some of the stuff so it's fine actually <3 #anyway! my fantasy science boys i love them so much #sascha is a historian actually. not a scientist. well actually they're both still students. hm. it's fine