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#and she got. idk flustered i guess? like i think she interpreted that as me being like antagonistic towards her? i’m not sure
cowlovely · 2 years
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#ivy.txt#personal stuff in the tags (not vent technically! positive vent?)#i think my mom has really gotten better in regards to mental health/disability shit?#and i’m honestly very pleasantly surprised#like. last week she and i got into kind of an argument#where she was asking me if i want a job in the future/when i think that might happen etc#and i was like well. i mean technically no i don’t WANT a job that’s actually the last thing i want#but if that’s the requirement for living at home then i will get a job eventually yeah. with therapy i will get to that point eventually#and she got. idk flustered i guess? like i think she interpreted that as me being like antagonistic towards her? i’m not sure#and she basically just lectured me for a few minutes until i got upset and left#i thought we were kind of just going to ignore it until we inevitably had the same argument months down the line#but earlier tonight she actually apologized to me?#she was like ‘your mental health is always my number one priority#and i don’t want you to feel like i’m pushing you into things when you’re not ready—if you ever even are ready!#i don’t know that you’re ever going to have a typical job and that’s okay. you’re fine where you are.#and i know sometimes i fall into the trap of what society expects of you and of me as a parent#but i don’t need to pass that onto you. i know you’re dealing with enough as it is and that isn’t fair.’#that wasn’t even all of it but that’s like. practically verbatim?? and idk i’m just shocked like.#i’m crying a bit rn ngl because i’ve been so stressed about this 😭#uh. this week she and my dad also finally accepted that i’m autistic (and that my dad is also autistic) so i am! overwhelmed!
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hashtagartistlife · 5 years
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I gotta disagree with that anon. Like I said irregardless of how it's used in context (it's just the connotation of the word that it's not used except for really serious case. Unless the writer had used it in ironic sense it would had made sense. Like in what sense does the word "notorious" or "cunning" sound positive unless they are used for the sake of humour. I'm guessing Chinese isn't really anon first language otherwise they would have had understood that
Anonymous said:Also the “context” of Rukia flinching and being visibly uncomfortable with it isn’t really helpful. And this explanation of it being a hyperbole given the extreme negative connotations of the word doesn’t fit either (would you anon ever in English use “someone having a mental breakdown” as someone who’s flustered? No right because it sounds so morbid and like you have million better ways to describe that so why on earth would you go there?). Even withing the context it’s still the same.
Anonymous said:Moreover if it wasn’t obvious by Rukia’s behaviour (her flinching,her visible sign of discomfort) I think it’s pretty clear that the word was used literally and not for sake of a hyperbole because that’s not how you use hyperbole anons especially not in this sort of situation.
Anonymous said:Just like you said in Korean that phrase is too heavy to be used like that same case here. And idk about that anon Rukia looks quite unhappy on the cover (compare it with the same look Ichigo gave her in 423 when she was fading away the mouth trying to smile but the eyes conveying the sadness; resulting in a bittersweet picture)
Also my apologise to that anon I had just come back from an exhausting Uni lesson and seeing my mother tounge being used like that did something to me but that’s still no excuse to come off as rude I humbly apologise to them (and to your for spamming again;-;
No need for apologies for spam! Like I said, I’m enjoying the Discourse lmfao I’ve got popcorn and I’m very entertained rn my inbox is popping
I will say, though, I think you and other anon are arguing completely separate points now that I’ve got both of your opinions. I THINK other anon is saying that yes, ok, that word may have negative connotations but given that it would make No Sense for matsubara to write a negative scene about RR in a novel that’s literally explicitly about the RR marriage, it HAS to be taken in a positive connotation and hence, it was clearly only being used as hyperbole. So I don’t think that anon is denying that the word has negative connotations, just that given the context of the whole novel it should be taken as positive hyperbole. 
Which I don’t disagree with. Like, OBVIOUSLY at surface value it should be interpreted as positive. Just like OBVIOUSLY at surface value the final two chapters of Bleach show that everything is perfect and peaceful and golden and domestic and Absolutely Nothing Is Wrong. (One chapter is LITERALLY titled ‘a perfect end’. Like, I think i can figure out what sort of interpretation we’re SUPPOSED to have for this ending.) 
But like I said in my response to the other anon….. me writing a murder scene in a novel and slapping a ‘sunshine and picnics’ genre on it doesn’t MAKE that murder scene NOT a murder scene. Kubo writing two chapters of an ‘’’’’ending’’’’’ and slapping it onto a story that clearly hadn’t ended yet doesn’t magically finish the story up for him. I get where the other anon is coming from, but I think they missed the point because we all KNOW what the ‘’’’official’’’’’ interpretation of the whole ending of bleach IS. We just like nitpicking all the weird bits that don’t make sense out of it because we’re bitter and, let’s not lie, this is kind of fun in a vindictive way lmao 
but once again, thanks for the additional input! 
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& then how does each character act when theyre like attracted to someone or crushing on someone, aka which one is the biggest gay disaster lol
you think there could be just ONE?
lucille i think would have a hard time developing feelings for anyone unless there was REALLY a lot of trust involved, and even then she might just... shut down about it for awhile idk. she just wouldn’t know how to handle approaching a relationship in a... safe, comfortable way, so once she REALIZED she had feelings for anyone it would take her awhile to work through them and trust them. so not a lot of... explicit or sappy stuff, if anything she might be kind of avoidant about it for awhile. that’s just where she is in her development rn, there’s still a lot she’s not good at handling.
glory... idk it depends on who the other person (dragon) is, but she’s so no nonsense that i think she would kind of inherently dislike admitting she has Softer feelings for someone. it’d be easier if it was someone like deathbringer, who she can kind of clash and banter with and sort of build a flirtation on that without having to admit too much or express stuff that’s more vulnerable. if she had feelings for someone she didn’t quite have that dynamic with, she’d be... idk. potentially a bit more clumsy with it. probably still deflect a lot with sarcasm but it’d be a bit more awkward because she’d have to attempt to not point it at them DIRECTLY,
kara is a bit, well, EMBARRASSINGLY obvious about it. she tends to get nervous when she’s crushing on someone -- she stumbles a lot more and gets kind of overly giggly and easily flustered. it’s just... not subtle when kara is developing feelings for someone.  that doesn’t necessarily mean she’d act on them right away (see james, because that situation was complicated, or rey because even though they both Knew how each other felt, there were a lot of factors that made acting on that immediately not such a great idea) but she usually doesn’t bother being too secretive because it’s obvious anyway. if she does want to pursue someone, sometimes she’ll do nice, cutesy things like getting them flowers or w/e
siobhan... smh. you would expect siobhan to be kind of a prickly asshole who’s constantly in denial, but actually when it comes to romance, she’s not savvy enough for that. when it comes to those kinds of feelings she tends to be so ???!!! because what?? genuine human connection??? and being at that kind of loss makes her sort of impulsive and clumsy; like she’ll act on her feelings because it seems like a good idea at the time and then she’ll REEL BACK and immediately decide it was a mistake and kind of go in unproductive circles so because part of her wants that connection, but the other part of her doesn’t want to trust anyone with that kind of vulnerability. winn was a pretty good example of all this stuff in action.
caitlin can be a liiittle bit oblivious, honestly. someone expressing romantic interest in her is probably something she wouldn’t notice unless it was VERY direct, and she also doesn’t examine her own feelings enough to realize that kind of thing until a bit late in the game, in most circumstances. but assuming she did that eventually or the other person was just, earnest and open about how they felt from the get-go, she’d be... well, idk. probably a little withdrawn? maybe even discouragingly closed off; definitely at least hesitant. romance, as it turns out, has never worked well for her, and she’s definitely not eager to leap back into it. but honestly it’s not really a priority for her anyway.
sara is, well, sara. she’s smooth as fuck. and also kind of a shameless flirt who doesn’t see much reason not to indicate that she’s attracted to someone when she is, although she’s also... conscious of the other person’s feelings and good at not coming on too Strongly. the hang-ups start to occur when she’s not just idly attracted or “crushing” but starts to become aware of more serious feelings, because THEN she doesn’t know what to do and kind of tends to mishandle things. sometimes that manifests in being sort of evasive the way she was with snart, and sometimes it manifests in just being a complete, uncharacteristically clumsy disaster like she was with ava. depends on her willingness to confront/pursue things, i guess. she still manages to be a little bit of a flirt even then though
bramblestar.... bears the curse of being a male character written by the erin hunters, and thus any time he’s attracted to a Woman™ (meaning female cat, but like trust me, that gets across the mood better) he is KIND of an oblivious idiot about it. he can’t read those kinds of hints really well and gets really ??? when he accidentally, inevitably makes a situation worse by saying something stupid. he likes things to be... obvious and upfront, and when they’re not he just gets kind of confused. thank god squirrelflight tolerates him.
heather... well, just look at her entire history on denny! she actually used to have a bad habit of when she was actually attracted to someone, picking on them a little more and giving them the Wrong kinds of negative attention, but on denny she’s grown out of that and it’s more just... idk. she knows the traditional cues and expectations and patterns to follow when it comes to guys, so she can be very forward and direct with them (although ratchet has managed to disprove a lot of her expectations), but she’s... less experienced in admitting her attraction to girls. and on top of that, her feelings for veronica are PRETTY deep by now, so that’s even less she knows how to handle. so up until now she’s kind of tackled a lot of it by just... i’m gonna be completely honest, interpreting a lot of what happens between them as just being normal for very close friendships. gals being fucking pals.
madeline is... fairly traditional about this kind of thing. if a little impulsive. yeah, i think that’s fair to say. she’s pretty good at determining what she wants and then acting on it, i wouldn’t even be surprised if she was the one who initiated things in both of her previous serious relationships, because she doesn’t see the point of wasting time or dancing around things or anything. BUT again, she is impulsive, driven by her feelings first, and sometimes that can lead her into making stupid decisions, like the brief affair she had back home.
badgerstripe has never really had particular, obvious crushes or feelings she’s been aware of before, soooo she’d be kind of... cautious about navigating them at first? she’s the type who’d want to feel out a situation like this very thoroughly before even considering acting on it, which would probably involve a lot of her second-guessing the other person’s feelings and her own. she’d have to make sure her doubts don’t do that kind of self-sabotaging thing they do, but if she got past that i think she’d be... tentatively optimistic? curious? willing to pursue something and probably hitting a few of those fun little “first love” roadbumps as she did
trish is used to leading a pretty... publicized dating life, so she kind of has a tendency to be careful and deliberate and linear about how she treats her feelings for someone and all the stuff she does afterwards. like, if she lets it be anything less than Pretty in the public eye then the tabloids will usually go nuts, so there’s a lot of... casual dating and going through the motions and trish kind of preparing herself for the inevitable blow-up it’s going to end with. some of her stuff with laurel has been treading new ground for her for obvious reasons, and also because it isn’t public in the same way, and she doesn’t necessarily expect it to end disastrously because... it isn’t that serious! right! at least she’s partially right because they are gonna end things on good terms, which will be a nice change for once, but.
anya isn’t really good at examining and becoming consciously aware of these kinds of feelings. it’s also important to note that she was robbed of that like... period of teenage development where people kind of test the waters with this sort of thing, so she retains a lot of that teenage... defensiveness or stubbornness about it. she doesn’t like admitting her feelings because it’s a bit embarrassing to her, so she’ll dance around that kind of thing, but often give herself away by paying a little too much attention to the other person, even if it means frequent bickering or nagging or acting like she doesn’t like them (see: dmitry).
and dolores is in the tricky position of being someone who... doesn’t usually lie to other people or to herself if she feels strongly about them. BUT romance is really complicated for her right now, so depending on the circumstances she’d probably hold herself back a little until she figured out how to be a little less... way and conflicted about it. but apart from that, she’s usually pretty reasonable about it. she’s a bit careful about gauging how the other person is feeling and how genuine that is buuut she herself is usually pretty warm and sincere with people she has a lot of affection for, sometimes even playfully flirtatious like she used to be with teddy. in short, she might not do anything decisive about her feelings until she’s sure it’s what she and the other person want,but she’s also not especially secretive or oblivious.
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artswaps · 6 years
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Thoughts on Lance’s vlog:
So, admittedly I don’t pay as much attention to Lance as I do to Keith or Allura. With Keith’s vlog, I’d pretty much figured out 99% of what was said about his character by myself already; the only real revelation I got from it was that his mother left.
Whereas with Lance, who I don’t think about as much, his vlog had some stuff in it that gave me a slightly better understanding of some aspects of his character? I know there’s some people who are disappointed it was so girl-centric (for lack of a better term?), but I actually really loved it and found it cute as hell, and I think I walked away from it with a little bit more love for Lance than I what had before.
First and foremost, this is just a personal-opinion post, not a rebuttle or anything. But if anyone has their own thoughts, I’d still love to hear them!!
First of all, about the difference between vlogs: Lance isn’t as introspective a person as Keith is. There’s no way he’d sit in front of a camera and start self-reflecting and unloading all his insecurities. Obviously Keith didn’t even mean to start doing that himself, but Keith overthinks things and is very self-aware & existential, and one thing just led to another. Lance is different; Lance postures. He puts on a show. He doubts himself sometimes, but doesn’t really internalise his insecurities the way Keith, Allura or Shiro do. He doesn’t dwell over it outside of his lowest moments. Maybe in comparison to Keith’s vlog, Lance’s felt underwhelming to some; I didn’t feel that way, I loved it a lot! The difference felt in character to me, and I still came away from it feeling like I learnt something new about him. It made me want to pay attention to him more, I guess.
Here are a couple of things I personally found pretty interesting about the vlog itself:
Lance likes Allura. He’s genuine in his affection and admiration for her, more so than I’d originally assumed; it’s not just a flimsy crush and him flirting with her just because she’s a pretty girl, anymore. And no, I’m not looking at this through shipping goggles, because I really don’t care about shipping.
Maybe he does find flirting fun- but to me, the difference between what was showcased in the vlog being something that “reduces Lance to a stereotype” and it being something genuinely interesting that adds to his character, is that Lance is looking for an honest connection with the girls he’s flirted with. He’s not just messing around; he values love! He values finding those connections! He’s in love with love and wants to find someone special, and maybe he can get distracted by that sometimes but like... he’s a teenager lmao. The point I’m trying to make is that his intentions to me don’t read as frivolous. It’s important to him; it might not be his biggest priority, but finding love is something Lance values.
Also regarding that last point, it’s worth mentioning that seasons 3+4 did see Lance mature on the flirting front- he’s reeled back a lot, and to me he seems a lot more focused on what’s important in the bigger-picture sense. Others have pointed out that he’s the only one of the lionswap trio that introduced himself as the Paladin of the lion he’s currently flying, and some people have read that as him being “desperate to feel like he has a place on the team”. I’m... a little dubious about that, tbh. Y’all are obviously free to interpret it as you want, but personally I felt like it was actually an indication of how his confidence has grown. Obviously, insecurities don’t disappear overnight, and his talk with Keith wouldn’t have magically solved every issue with self-doubt Lance has. But I honestly believe that becoming the Red Paladin has been really good for Lance, and he’s become more self assured and confident about what he has to offer to the team. Even in the show’s canon, he’s been voicing his opinion more readily, calling shots more often (whether or not they’re listened to by Shiro is another discussion entirely hmmm). I think he did walk away from that talk with Keith with some sense of validation and assurance. To me, him calling himself the Red Paladin felt like him owning that. It made me really proud of him?? He’s doing so well. It’s positive character growth, and I’m sure that it’ll be touched on more thoroughly in upcoming seasons. For now, it’s still definitely happening in the background.
And my favourite thing about the vlog; Lance can get really embarrassed about admitting his affection for people out loud, even just to himself. I’ve always thought that’s kinda why he claimed he didn’t remember the “bonding moment” with Keith in season one; that was a really touching moment the two of them shared, and he was embarrassed about it, so he treated it flippantly. At the time, I was a little miffed by it; It was something that was important to Keith, and in dismissing it so casually he unintentionally hurt Keith’s feelings. I never held a grudge against Lance for it, but I also wasn’t really thinking about Lance at the time (I was too preoccupied about what the situation meant for Keith lmao). Seeing that trait of Lance’s come up again similarly in the vlog under a different, softer context- him saying “Yeah Allura’s pretty great” and immediately getting all blushy and flustered and backtracking like “NO WAIT I MEAN I’m pretty great and she’s obviously totally into me hahaha oh god how do I delete this” was.... so goddamn endearing. He uses flirtatious posturing and sarcasm and pretending to be some kind of smooth-talking ladies’ man to hide how genuine his feelings are. He pretends he’s totally confident about Allura’s feelings for him being reciprocated because he’s embarrassed about how much he cares about her. I’m not even sure if I care all that much about Allurance as a pairing, or if I’d be all that invested in seeing any kinda of romance subplot being played out in canon; romance just isn’t my jam. Their steadily growing friendship is much more important to me, personally. But , just as a character trait in general, just seeing how flustered Lance can get openly admitting that he has any kind of genuine feelings for someone was hhhh so real- and seeing him immediately try and cover it up with his usual posturing, going back to that whole “putting on a show” deal, was very in-character and just.... idk man, it just kinda bugs me that it’s being dismissed by the fandom as “stereotyping/not giving us any insight to his character” when personally it was something that really endeared him to me.
Seriously I know it wasn’t what people were hoping for, but I really loved the vlog guys. I can’t pinpoint exactly what it was about it, but it made me love Lance just a little bit more than I did.
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