#and now I think I'm agender

[trans-enby-culture-is]

Trans culture is changing your labels, and not being sure if you're confused about the right lable, if your identity changed, or if your gender fluid.

#93

#trans enby culture #i went form identifying as #agender #to identifying as #androgyne #then identifying as a #trans man #or maybe #transmasc #and now I think I'm agender #so maybe I was always right and I'm just #genderfluid #send help #trans #transgender #nonbinary #enby

[will80sbyers]

kinda wish I didn't open the "hey you're actually non binary" door because now being thought about as one or the other gender too much bothers me sometimes and before I could ignore that and now I have more difficulty not thinking about it and I know that no one in my family or country will ever respect that anyway so the reality here is that I have to just get used to that annoyance

#non binary #nonbinary #agender #I guess I'm lucky that it's not worse at least #but... I thought it didn't change much and I think I was wrong because it's actually bothering me when this happens now #do not like this at all

[optiwashere]

why do you make so many characters who aren't trans into trans? /gen

Why do people in other fandoms ship canonically straight characters in gay relationships?

Why do we gravitate towards gay fiction in general?

Why does anyone do anything in fandom spaces?

It's fun. It's freeing. It's validating. In smut, it's hot. It's relatable when someone is like you, even if you do like works featuring characters that are unlike you. Because I read plenty of non-trans F/F and (gasp) F/M in original works and fanfiction alike. I write all of that too!

But nothing is quite like trans F/F to me, be it t4t or otherwise. So every character's eventual fate is sealed. At least one (1) of my fics will feature them as trans, and that's a guarantee.

I know it rubs some people the wrong way for reasons that are sadly fathomable, but that just makes the petty side of me more likely to write all their faves as trans women. Especially in roles they find uncomfortable. I want those people specifically to be uncomfortable with their own biases about the nature and vast spectrum of trans experiences.

To other authors, especially trans authors: make everyone trans. Doesn't matter if it's to make a woman a transmasc dyke or a demiboy or agender, or to make a man a trans woman or trans man or genderfluid. Or to make either nonbinary! Just do it. Make yourself happy with it.

Don't let your mind hire an inner cop that polices your freedom of thought*

P.S., Author mute as a feature exists on AO3, so I advise folks learn to use that.

#hey you can ask me things! #random rambling about writing #trans stuff in fic #*and I say this as someone that struggles with that A LOT A LOT #I have so many thoughts about fandoms and the weird double-standard over making characters trans vs. making them gay #also: I'm now thinking about agender lae'zel and it is quite a thought in my mind

[nonuggetshere]

I'm gonna continue with the requests later, but I also felt the need to doodle my two PVs with a little bit of gender on the side

They're both still very much genderless, but because not every non-binary/agender person will have the same perception/feelings regarding their gender and won't have the same gender presentation, I decided to mess around with it a little

Hallow is genderfluidv(though after some consideration I realised agenderflux describes them more accurately, but oh well, these labels don't even exist in their story so who cares), they're non-binary but their alignment fluctuates between fem-leaning, masc-leaning, something in-between and neither. They're fine with any terms and pronouns but mostly go by they/them.

Luna is genderfae/transfem, their gender fluctuates between agender and fem-aligned non-binary. They mostly go by they/them and gender-neutral and feminine terms, they're fine with she/her and some neopronouns, but any masculine terms and pronouns are a big no-no for them. Currently, I'm considering making them an enby lesbian, but that might change in the future.

#spooky arts #hollow king au #I swear this is the longest I've ever spent considering what labels would describe a character. I myself have a weird relationship with #labels so I only ever think about what people would a character be into and how their gebder 'feels' like and never go into details #I spent like an hour looking for a term that could describe how I imagined Luna's gender LMAO #Hallow is mostly me projecting. Luna is 75% me wanting to explore a situation where the pure vessel comes out as trans after they're found #out that they're not hollow. And 25% spite for all the people who call them he/him #So you know how some enby lesbians describe their gender as like. The only connection to womanhood they feel is their attraction to women? #That's kind of the vibe I get from Luna. They're enby just very sliiightly titled towards womanhood #They're also a teen and in a scenario where all the different AU hollows interact they'd bond a lot with Hallow as the only other person #who went through the same confusing gender feelings as they are going through right now. #They're kind of like 'man I wish I was a girl sometimes so I could be called princess and wear dresses' 'you know you can just do that #right?' 'I CAN?' #Also even though they're fine with different pronouns I'm still just gonna be using they/them on my blog for them. Bc I know some people #are weird about Hollow's gender and refuse to acknowledge theyre enby or keep misgendering them 🙄 I don't wanna add to that #We give a little bit of gender fuckery to the vessels though. They deserve it. #But yeah I still wanna be clear. Their genders fluctuate in alignment but they're still very much agender/genderless. Please don't treat #them like binary people 😭

[thereallyreallylatebird]

Help.

#last time it was about if I'm bigender #now I'm considering if maybe I'm agender? #not like fully i think #but like on that spectrum #idk #i like being a woman #but it also feels not fully me #maybe I'm in my head about this too much #it doesn't usually bother me at all #but still #sometimes it feels like a label someone else forced on me #and sometimes it's fun to play into it #and I'm somewhat feminine even when I'm not doing that #but sometimes i just feel so disconnected from it #thereallyreallylatebird

[squishosaur]

Consider: Fem!Jamiazu as Kuromi gf x My Melody gf dynamic. No I don’t know anything about sanrio characters, I just know the aesthetics of the two characters and how they are almost opposites. Anyway hopefully you understand this because its so silly to me

-Snake Anon

considered :3 i think jamil would also keep a diary of 10,000+ instances where azul was mildly irritating.

#i actually do Not like kuromi and my melody i think they are too overhyped #i think azjm could be. stitch and angel though. #thing filled with rage and calmed by the power of friendship and understanding and pink thing that has a siren's song and was flirty before #but then fell for that other thing. and they were both created evil but got better 👍👍👍 #but idk i haven't seen lilo & stitch in such a long time #i do think kalim could be lilio but that's off topic now #also i did not change their designs just to make them girls. because azul is already a girl to me. #jamil is agender to me but noooo oneee caaaares #BACK TO THE KALIM TAG I MISSPELLED LILO I WAS THINKING ABOUT LILIA LOL SORRY #um #askbox! #my art :> #doodles #snake anon 🐍 #azujami #SORRY I DIDN'T FORGET YOUR ASK THE OTHER DAY I WAS SAVING IT FOR WHEN I FELT UPSET SO I COULD DRAW AZJM AGAIN & FEEL BETTER #didn't work i feel like a hater rn sorry #i'm upset lol #but not at you snake anon never at you 💞💞 #twst #yeah i don't feel like this is worthy of me maintagging them

[aeide-thea]

what if this year i gave up on even gesturing at ""passing"" and instead embraced the world of weird unisex natural-fiber garments available on etsy 🤔

#like. they have unisex wool so-called harem pants!! #(i want to do more reading abt different cultures' versions of men's/unisex drop-crotch pants but a ten-second google was weirdly unhelpful #(actual info drowned out by listicles basically. will have to find some real books or something) #(specifically i like when they're almost a triangle‚ as opposed to like‚ just really full-cut trousers that look more western) #i have gotten so much flack from my family over the years for liking that style of pant #(which like. okay. you think it's ugly. i get that but like. WHY do you think it's ugly.) #(is it perhaps possible yr taste has been shaped by western standards.) #and i stopped wearing the summer-weight pair i used to have when i started vaguely trying to pass #but like. lately my gender feelings are mostly 'i'm an agender gremlin creature and i'm gonna wear some androgynous clothes about it' #which mostly is like. men's joggers with a hoodie if we're being honest #also some baggy cargo pants with a hoodie. every once in a blue moon the hoodie gets swapped out for a baggy wool sweater. #but i gotta say i kind of love the idea of baggy dropcrotch pants (also with hoodie) #and now you tell me i can even get my winter wool freak on about it?? amazing. #anyway we'll see but i'm having fun looking at all the unusual-by-normative-western-standards woolens etsy wants to show me #feels good feels organic etc (but like. in many cases literally lmao) #sartorial #journaling

[the-furies]

ok hear Me out. hypersexual/hyperromantic aro/ace aplatonic person whom also enjoys Socialization whom may also be lovequeer & loveless. is that Okay .

#pk;m encyclopedia🔵 #yes the identity crisis continues. hush #i can word thoughts on it better though so I did . yippee?? #'is that Ok' the answer is Yeah bc i experience it but I'm looking for validation anyways . like. #it's fine to be contradictory right. #???? #it's complicated and Messy and Confusing and Odd and QUEER and that's just . the #what I've felt since Existing here and finding these terms Yesterday made me emotional And then panicky bit #I'm fine now. ahsjfjskskd #just. gestures. I'm not like. Doing Anything Wrong By Existing Thid Way. Right? #fuck it add another a in there for agender i don't think my gender matters much ever. [lighthearted]

[natureless-creatures]

tw for transphobia, and completely off-topic vent but I gotta get this off my chest. So I came out as non-binary and instantly lost friends and relatives blocked me,,, it just... hurts because people apparently care more about the fact I have pronouns and being mad at the fact I exist, instead of not being transphobic. And it's suddenly incredibly lonely. People were fine with me when I pretended to be a cis woman and now that I've finally come out it's like they suddenly hate me. Lol. Anyway trans rights are human rights and if you disagree with that pls reconsider because I just want to exist in peace pls <3

#vent #replying is okay though! #nonbinary #trans #I'm still going through the gender crisis #and have been for the last 2 years at least #but non-binary kinda encompasses it all #for myself in this scenario at least #I think I may be gender fluid but I've been questioning that for ages now #like sometimes I'm like #yes i am agender #and other times im like... ok sure fine call me she idc #ag oog ag the gender crisis #anyway I want to drink the gender fluid

[despite-everything]

pretty sure i'm a gay man right now and honestly it's been funny. all of a sudden these men who i found objectively attractive but i wasn't attracted to them are now the hottest people alive and i've never wanted anyone more

#idk man the gender stuff in the past couple years has been pretty interesting #especially as it relates to my sexuality #i think i've got it figured out now though (9 years later...) #i'm genderfluid and my sexuality also is fluid #i've just noticed my shifts in gender happen more frequently now and i understand it better #but it's been fun to discover esp with the sexuality thing. i'm a gay man rn but i was a non binary lesbian a few years ago #and most of the time these past couple years i've been pretty agender and bisexual #anyway. its fun. but i am so insanely attracted to a very different type of person these days than i had been before #tree talks

[inkmaze]

this might be niche as hell but some nb transmascs 🤝 some butches ?

#txt #does this make sense? #not a lesbian. not a man. #is transmasc but in the sense where i still connect w butches/etc hard out but am also perceived as a dude #does this make sense. #im NOT a dude im NOT a woman im just me hanging out n sometimes i vibe w things #and bc of REASONS i super connect a butches etc #obvi i dont id w/ the lesbian label etc but also feel weird calling myself a man etc #[<- has had a beard for like 2 years now and keeps forgetting that ppl think im a dude bc of it] #anyways. genders weird #rereading my tags. also connect w gay men etc so in short being non or in the middle is weird!!! but also!!!! labels whomst needs em #I'm comfy w calling myself nb/agender/etc but also these like connecting threads? wAH #BUT TO REDIRECT.... 🤝?? #[rereading post for the 5th time] ik gender and sexuality are different just fuckin flow w it for once in ur fuckin life #IN SHORT.... 🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝 solidarity regardless #similar issues problems etc etc #IN SHORT; i personally connect w both butch lesbians and effeminate gay men. idk what 2 tell u other than im a nb bi.

[ybcpatrick]

i was tagged by @trans-asmodeus in this SUPER AWESOME song title q&a!! thank u charlie xoxo mwah

choose an artist you like and use the names of their songs to answer these questions as closely to the truth as possible!

ARTIST CHOSEN: FALL OUT BOOOOOOOY (ofc)

what is your gender? i don't care

describe yourself: reinventing the wheel to run myself over

how do you feel? champion

if you could go anywhere, where would it be? just one yesterday

who is/describe your best friend: the last of the real ones

your favourite time of day: golden

if your life was a tv show, what would it be called? lake effect kid

what is life to you? the kids aren't alright

relationship status? miss missing you

what do you fear? heaven's gate

i'm gonna tag uhhh @thnksfrthmmrs @thekidsarentalright @clandestine-rabbit @the1312daysofchristmas @softnsquishable @infintyonhigh @omegalomania @ibidflash @whimsagoth @setting-in-a-honeymoon and EVERYONE ELSE who wants to play :)!!

#shut up kell #tag games #pls make ur own post if u play! #THIS WAS SO HARD BUT SO FUN #for explanations: #i am agender i ain't got one of those #picking a title to describe myself was v hard but i simultaneously have a massive ego and a curse upon my luck/well-being so it seemed apt #i feel GOOD TODAY #i'm a very nostalgic sort of person. i'd go back in time for a day. just for a while #very simple megan is the last of the real ones and she is everything 2 me #golden hour! #i'm from southwestern ontario ie right near the great lakes #the kids aren't alright it's self explanatory #i am single and better off for it but im also a romantic AND a chronic romanticizer (which is a word now) #and i fear whatever might come after. but it'll be okay i think

[fandom-space-princess]

weird to me that the pronouns I used to use for myself no longer fit me. I didn't grow up expecting that to be one of the things about myself that changed. but then it did. it's just... I don't know. I'm not a woman, but I was a girl. it's strange to think about.

#i didn't have a word for being agender growing up. i was raised in such a way that the concept itself was not made accessible to me. #but even if it was I don't think I would've applied it to myself earlier in my life? #i have neutral emotional attachment to girlhood but it was definitely a thing I experienced. for both good and bad. #i think mostly I'm just glad that identity is mutable and I feel comfortable with mine as it now stands #fsp speaks

[prodigaldaughteralice]

microdosing on exploring my gender by keeping the she/they pronoun pin I bought at the con on my shelf and not wearing it

#pd alice personal #lmao I don't know what I'm doing #I feel like I can't talk about also being not a woman because I also am a woman #so it's like #oh I'm not ACTUALLY any kind of nb because I do also align with womanhood #but I simultaneously align with other things and with nothing #I generally think of it as somewhere in the general area of genderfluid/genderqueer/genderweird #and I feel like if I say out loud that I'm also a they there'll be an expectation #that I will either eventually become exclusively they #or ''have been wrong'' and go back to just she #it's weird to me how the discussion around nonbinary-ness has kind of started to turn it into a Secret Third Thing #like becoming a trinary instead of a binary? #and I'm genuinely happy for my nb friends who are agender or otherwise feel like they're Not Men And Not Women #I'm just over here in my genderfluid corner like #''but I am a woman right now... I might not be tomorrow... or in an hour...'' #yes I'm a lady yes I'm a gentleman yes I'm a creature #fuck if I know

[spacedykez]

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#the otter splashes #gender things #anyways feel free 2 ignore this its just ramblings #gender feels Strange now #i feel like im some sort of genderfluid/genderflux bcz rn i just feel like if i'd been amab i would be chill with that. im chill with bein- #afab though. like i don't particularly Care? if that makes sense? sorta like eh yeah sure im here. dunno what gender i am im just a person #i feel more comfortable with feminine stuff but it feels like it's more because thats what i've always known? #i don't really feel That connected to it though either #i'd rather just be kinda neutral. i like the idea of feminine pronouns but not neccessarily she/her #definitely not Just she/her #but she/her doesn't feel wrong or bad or anything #i just don't want to use ONLY she/her #i guess that's agender? but i don't know im not Always like this #my feelings on it keep Changing and it makes it really hard to figure things out #also like. genderfluid/genderflux are under the trans umbrella and. i don't know if i'm exactly cis but i also don't know that i'd say i'm- #trans? like? i do identify with my agab and i don't have any social dysphoria or anything #its more like. i don't think my gender is fully Female or Just Female but Female isn't wrong? #should i tag this with vent post? its not really a vent post i'm not really that bothered by this at all #more of an Observation

[noxtivagus]

looking at my rentry is kinda embarrassing help

#🌙.rambles #i ended up rambling T_T #anyways though hmmm #i think. i'm on the non-binary spectrum #bcs it's leaning somewhat still to female bcs personally yh i'm that biologically n personally it sticks but #demigender's not rlly it. not the flux stuff either. not exactly agender though #maybe just. unlabeled T_T or just under the nb spectrum fr #omni though for like. omniromantic for sure n i don't really want to talk abt the yk bcs i'm not rlly sure abt YEAH HDFLAKFDJ 😭😭 #maybe. maybe slightly on the aro spectrum too like demiromantic but i honestly have no idea #on the topic of orientation n gender n stuff i'm so sorry #i accidentally told me mom once that you're not straight 👍 I'M SORRY SHE DOESN'T JUDGE BUT I STILL FEEL BAD #i will say no further than that bcs i give details it may be obvious to them if ever they see this hdlfajds #oh n. sorry i just default to referring to ppl w 'them' T_T well. at least here for the sake of anonymity sobs #my mom's always been like don't get a bf don't get married early n stuff n like ofc i'll prioritize my studies that's my plan too #but i guess that desire for yk manifested through fiction huh. haha. T_T #nyways my mom asked smth abt ^^ n i'm so sorry my reflex was to automatically say you're not straight. #SORRY. I'M REALLY SORRY 😭😭😭😭 #i mean despite the jokes n the vibes i do believe them when they'd insist they were straight (sorry for the jokes though) #now though i think. they've been somewhat questioning it so #hang on. that's too much i'm rambling oh no #i just feel bad bcs yeah sure person i'm talking abt does have the vibes i just hate to assume n. yeah #SHLDN'T HAVE DONE THAT HDFKALSDJF STUPID REFLEX bcs of my parents i just. naturally have that. #idk aversion to romance despite how different it seems w fiction idk man it's so annoying not my parents' faults but it's just #i'm just like this bcs it internalized i guess. or smth :^) #besides idk for sure with them ^^ but #in general i think. yk hehe i just vibe w ppl who aren't entirely cishet so i think they're cool ^^ n yh a lot of those kinda ppl cool #like. Oh my favorite charas. there's zero. n the leveilleur twins.. biologically if they're m/f they can't be identical. #they should be fraternal unless like idk so. 🥺🫶🏼 #nyways Yes i've just been thinking about being on the enby spec bcs of zero honestly help it opened my eyes to smth