#IM STILL ALLOWED TO COMPLAIN

[star-mum]

Rant

i have been stressed, overwhelmed and always exhausted for days, if not weeks, on end.

So, I dont really care if not wanting to spend money and time I dont have to go fucking bOWLING 7:30 PM THE WEEKEND BEFORE A SEMINAR PRESENTATION MAKES ME A SHITTY FRIEND

#happy bday tho #like im sorry im so jaded and reclusive but GOD PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE #we had to say almost 2 hours standing in a hot stuffy space for that FORSAKEN CIENTIFIC JOURNEY SHIT #i literally cannot take this anymore #there were so many ppl just stuff there like a pack of sardines I have to yell for someone right next to me to hear me #AND i had to repeat the same lenghty explanation like 5 different times #i know end of semesters are chaos incarnate but tHIS IS NOT NORMAL #im always tired and annoyed #and it takes me FOREVER to write shit thats supposed to be easy #I DONT HAVE TIME FOR FUCK ALL #OR EVEN REGULAR HOBBIES #I LITERALLY SIT IN FRONT OF THE COMPUTER FROM THE MOMENT I WAKE UP TO THE TIME I GOTTA GET READY FOR CLASS #YEAH IM COMPLANING EVEN THO I DONT EVEN HAVE A FUCKING JOB #YES I KNOW I HAVE MUCH EASIER THAN A LOT OF PEOPLE #INCLUDING PPL IN MY CLASS #IM STILL ALLOWED TO COMPLAIN #i literally do NOT know how ppl do this on top of a full time job #jesus fucking christ #Hydration Reminder: keeping up with star-mum but everytime I have the sudden urge to start bawling my eyes out you drink some water ! : D #should I be in therapy? Yes. #Should I propably be going after an adhd diagnosis? ALSO YES #guess what the clinic was meant to call me back to lmk if they had opening and I only noticed they hadnt after 3 fucking months #which... helps my point but its also VERY counter productive #star is a bad friend :p #star rants

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

yet another little Treat for myself! do i have a problem? maybe!

#got two lil jars As You All Can See to transfer the hearts into #and then i caved and got myself some snowflakes because i need some stress relief tonight!!! #sprinkle hours sprinkle hours- #photos from the bog #soon i will have Four little sprinkle jars on my shelf! #ohhhh and letti has discovered their refilled scratching circle... #im so glad i was able to go into town and get her a new collar PLUS! scratchy wheel #UPDATE! SHE IS LAYING ON IT! THE QUEEN APPROVES! #actually allow me to gush about her she's such a polite little beast #i had to put her new collar on #and she 1) came when called 2) jumped onto the stool and sat when asked 3) stayed perfectly and Patiently! still as i put the collar on #AND adjusted it! #she didn't complain or squirm one bit! #she let it happen and when i let go she stayed put and politely waited for a treat (or two! we indulge here!) #she looks so fancy... #i still dont know what happened to her other collar! the pendant was so nice! #now she has a shitty fish one </3 #but her collar is a lovely blue with gold sun/moons on it #i thought it would compliment her lovely white & caramel fur! i was Correct!

[nimauradrawsthings]

I made a new spidersona almost immediately after seeing Across the Spiderverse. I made a video about it on TikTok and it went viral and BOY HOWDY do I wish it didn't.

#the amount of fat phobic comments i got was insane #also people complained about it being cringe #like an adult isnt allowed to have harmless fun #its wild #im still getting those comments #spidersona #pastel spider

[zarvasace]

I've been doing my hair in full, tight ponytails more often thanks to a new-ish custodial job, and recently discovered that the practice broke some of my hair around my face into wispy pusedo-bangs. I resolved to do more braids instead and complained about it to my sister.

"Well," she said, "that's just a Long Hair Experience (TM)." (I'm paraphrasing, she doesn't speak like a meme.) At the time, I replied with "yeah, I guess" but after thinking about it, I think I would say something different.

I do a lot of things every day: fail to get out of bed on time, get dressed, figure out how to do my makeup for maximum impact and minimum fuss, make food, buy food, decide what to spend my time on... A lot. I don't call myself very busy, but I do fill my days with things I consider fairly important.

A message I hear over and over again is that what I do is "enough." As a visual artist, I recently got into a conversation with another artist about how I posted something they found very good and I'm not allowed to talk about how I don't think I'm very good anymore. I think there's truth in sentiments like that—what is "enough," anyway? You do need to be happy with your work. You need to enjoy what you do.

Still, that conversation left a bad taste in my mouth. I like what I make, but I want to be better. What I do might be fine. I can be satisfied with that, and not just in art, but I also... don't have to be.

I choose to be satisfied in a lot of things. I don't really work to improve my music skills because I can do what I want with what I have. I don't look up videos about how to be a better driver or a better cook. I don't worry about the zipper of my combat boots rubbing into my long socks, because I decided to not stress about it. I do consciously try to improve my art and writing skills, though, because I'm not satisfied with where they are.

In the same way, I'm always finding little things in my life to do more efficiently or with more precision. I changed my handwriting because I didn't like it. I decided to pronounce my Ss a little differently. I'm currently making an effort to wear more tights because I like them.

People often tell me that I (or my work or whatever) am enough, and I only disagree because "enough" is a flawed concept. In the spirit of the encouragement, I do agree. I can be happy where I am, with the skills and habits I have. But, like I said, I don't have to be. If I don't like something I do, I can change it. I don't have to settle for any reason.

I guess the point is: you can do just as much as you want. Happy with your stick figures? I'm glad! You go! Unhappy with them (as everyone tells me they are when they see a drawing of mine they're impressed with)? You can learn to do better, if you want to!

In my case, I don't like the little wispy bangs. Sure, it's a Long Hair Hazard, but I don't have to be satisfied with that. I don't like them, I can do something different. It doesn't have to be dramatic. I like my life overall—at least the things I can control—and I'm pretty sure it's because I've made a lot of little decisions to improve it in ways I care about. I think I've figured out that I can control a lot about my daily life, and I'm happier because of it. :) I'm going to keep doing more braids in my hair.

TL;DR: You get to decide how good you are at something. You can keep improving or stop where you are, and either is valid. You get to decide what's important to you. Don't listen to haters.

#i speak from the coffin #sorry ive been having a lot of thoughts #long post #sorry if this doesnt make sense i still feel half asleep #inspired by someone telling me i could be so much better at the organ if only... #and that person teling me im not allowed to complain that i dont feel like a good ejoigh artist because they liked my art

[aquared]

looking at my sprites from like a couple months ago is crazy because i look at them and then look at my new ones and think God those suck im so glad i got better at art ( even though its been like . 3 months )

#short-time improvement is crazy i love it #this is some thing im good at clearly #also dont say anything about my old sprites #ive complained abt old art before and been told ‘ oh but its really good though !’ i didnt i DIDFNT ASK !!!! #even if its not that old #still upsets me a little !! #actually when im complaining abt stuff i make in general #like i am never fishing for compliments if im dissatisfied with something i dont really want my opinion changed on it #snyways thats your aquared fun fact of the day #you guys are allowed to like my own stuff new or old just dont convince me to like it ! #thoughts directly from my brain edition #here i go talking again

[skiploomz]

how can someone be both anti inclusion AND anti exclusion?

#u realise policing the right way to be queer and excluding ppl for their identity IS exclusionism u get that yes u understand it right #somehow both dni male lesbians and female gays AND transmeds and anti xenogender ppl???? am i going insane. #how can u b pro xenogender yet not understand that sometimes multigender ppl will be lesbians and men at the same time #or that someone can transition to be a woman but still feel comfortable with identifying as a gay man #like these are very simple concepts. how can u be anti transmed and pro telling trans ppl how theyre allowed to identify? ur a transmed. #vent #complaining #discourse #SORRY im not trying to start drama this just perplexes and infuriates me

[rakkuntoast]

i swear if qforever doesnt get a nice and healing reunion with richas and tallulah i am exploding that server myself

#txt post #cw caps #a shit ton of caps in the tags #HOW HARD IS IT TO WISH THIS CUBITO SOME FUCKING HAPPINESS #EVERY TIME I REMEMBER ABT FOREVER CUBITO I FEEL AWFUL MY LITTLE GUY HASNT HAD A BREAK IN SO LONG #MOSTLY CUZ PEOPLE CONSTANTLY GIVE HIM SHIT AND ISOLATE HIM SINCE HE'S THE FUCKING PRESIDENT NOW AND DONT EVEN TREAT HIM AS MUCH OF A FRIEND #ANYMORE AND JUST HOLD HIM AT ARMS REACH. HE FEELS ALONE AND HOPELESS #LITERALLY THE ONLY PEOPLE THAT STILL TREAT HIM LIKE THEY TREATED HIM BEFORE THE WHOLE PRESIDENT THING BULLSHIT IS HIS DAMN FAMILY AND PHIL #AND MAYBE BAGHS TOO I CANT REMEMBER #man feels like no one trusts him anymore cuz hes “part of the feds” when he's not actually as involved as people make it seem #literally the only official mission he has ever done for the feds was the whole go to the nether get lost lmao L bozo #his position in the federation can literally just be reduced to the one who represents the islanders as a whole in the eyes of the feds #like god every time someone refers to him by his actually name instead of “the president” an angel regains its wings #cuz yeah he has to carry the burden of his position but that doesnt mean im not allowed to complain that everyone is pushing him away for i #like fuck. phil telling him that he trusts him and cares about him before forever went to the nether meant the fucking world to him #“phil nailed it down in the minute what was happening. im glad i can rely on him” <- not verbatim but like. cmon

[sollucets]

i have to go to urgent care 🥲 please think of me fondly i am so so so bad at doctors

#even now im still trying to get out of it in my head #(its already scheduled) #i dont think ive ever had to go alone so im being a big giant baby about it #(on top of. yknow. the pain) #so please allow me this small complain #im going to do it im going to be brave but Oh God It Sucks #heres hoping i wont have yet another ‘no idea what’s going on here!’ ass doctor visit bc i think that might break my spirit #rowan chatter #tbd

[jinstronaut]

doing this cc wrapped has made me realize just how many of my sets are between 100 - 200 notes. like that's my average notes per set (re: jin a day specifically)

and that's wild all things considered lmao

#i never ever ever complain about notes bc usually i dont care but like #ive been doing this series for over a year #and cc's complain all the time when their sets arent getting enough notes but its still over 1000 at LEAST #and mine are...... all consistently under 500 and i say nothing #makes you think !!! truly a thankless job !!! #esp considering ive been doing the member set a day the longest since jin left first #and i rly just dont ......... get anything for it lmao #not that i Need anything bc its a way for me to cope while hes gone and its done a rly good job at keeping me happy + occupied #but like lets just get for real for one second..... this is fucked up lmao #how is it i can do this for over a year and get literally Nothing #and im also Not allowed to complain about it ever #can we all just recognize that can we just collectively agree this is fucked up please #OVER A YEAR. a set a day for OVER A YEAR. #for the sets to get 100 notes. MAYBE #like????????????????? #idk !!!! i didnt Invent the concept of course but like lets just !!! #be for real !!!!!!!!!! that my series tho its been the longest is also the smallest in terms of notes !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! a lil wild !!!!!!!! #anyways ill delete this i sound bitter but like im just #you try making hundreds of THOUSANDS of gifs #even when ur working 60+ hrs a week still finding time to make gifsets #for them to get literally Dirt #its demoralizing beyond compare #.txt

[ink-asunder]

I'm dying over the fact that the royal family is so adamantly denying that King C has prostate cancer and is instead refusing to state what kind of cancer he has. Like. We weren't born yesterday, he Obviously has prostate cancer. And my problem isn't that they're denying it. My problem is that they should not have been sharing such personal medical information (several days ago when they said he'd been admitted to hospital over prostate issues) to begin with. Like, period, actually.

#british royal family #king charles iii #king charles lll #tw medical #and dont get me wrong. get the crabs ready etc. i am a crab rave abiding party. #i think it Would be bad for uk citizens to endure another period of mourning because i remember ppl complaining abt things shutting down? #also its nauseating to see them spend so much money on funerals and coronation. so im lukewarm abt him dying rn. #but like regardless of how scummy he is i really think ppl need to make up their minds abt how we talk abt sensitive medical issues. #like either we're spilling everything to destigmatize or we're allowing privacy for the sake of dignity in front of the whole world. #like fucking make up your mind royal family. #anyway we can still have fun with this because its kc3 and he sucks so crab wave away my dudes 😘 #🦌

[the-kipsabian]

reminder that the reblog button is free to use

#feeling it tonight tbh #ive been trying to work on these gifs so much tonight. its been a whole day long process tbh and i still have so much to do #and then my notifs are full of likes #im just #i know im in no place to complain but. lmao its discouraging as shit i think im allowed to say that #i know im doing this mainly for myself but... #anyways. back to the grind i guess #night is an absolute mess on main

[lunar-years]

Anyway any time people extensively criticize Keeley even if they’re saying things that are basically reasonable, if they don’t spend equal time on Roy’s fuckups I start itching to bite.

It’s this EXACTLY tbh because like. Those of y’all who have been following me for a minute know I LOVE discussing these bitches flaws like I absolutely do love unpacking that HOWEVER… i think this one-sided business is very unfair and also like. Genuinely a bad interpretation of the show? People are either watching with their eyes closed or in extremely bad faith or something because ??? These characters are all good people!!! They fuck up but they are not like, irredeemably bad for each other because they…both suck-ass at communicating, lol. And I sincerely hope some people aren’t building their real friendships and relationships off a tit-for-tat scorecard of their mistakes, because that’s very goofy.

“Well Keeley was dismissive about the end of Roy’s career [one time in one conversation]!!!” Well yes, and then she proceeded to *checks notes* stand by his side during the hardest transition period of his life, gently encouraging him to carve a new path for himself but also not pressuring him into doing something he wasn’t yet ready for??

“Roy booked 6 weeks in Marbella without even considering Keeley’s new job!! Clearly this shows he’s inconsiderate and unthoughtful about her career and priorities!!” Well yes, Roy was being an idiot scrambling to save a relationship he knew was dying. Even so, one episode prior he knew exactly what Keeley needed to hear when she was doubting herself before her Vanity Fair shoot, because it’s obvious he thinks she’s fucking incredible and he has so much belief in her ability to succeed!!

Like idk. No one is saying anyone has to ship them, but some of the complaints going around feel very manufactured to uphold other ships and characters when their favs were out here doing the exact same shit!! Like let’s step back for a second, idk

#asks #roykeeley #i saw a post today complaining that people blame roy for the end of the relationship. #which in itself I completely agree with! it’s weird that fandom gave Keeley immunity in all that when she also made mistakes!!! #but then they went on to say roy didn’t actually do anything wrong because god forbid are people not allowed to break up w someone now? #and in my head i had to be like. woahhhhh. woah. let’s back up now. #i think breaking up your committed relationship of over a year with (seemingly) no honest explanation #to the point where she thinks it might just be a break not a break up #as you’re sitting down to tell your niece about it #is still a shitty thing to do lmao #like both things can be truth!!!! im shouting about NUANCE from the rooftops!!!! #ted lasso

[navysealt4t]

can we please talk more about queer anger. im so fucking sick of being so angry and having no where to put it. im allowed to be fucking angry with the people and society that failed me

#everytime i talk about the loneliness and shame and anger there ppl who defend everything #everytime i complain about my parents the response is ‘they’re trying their best!’ #well their best still left 12 year old me crying alone at 3 am wanting to cut herself open. so their best isn’t fucking enough! #im allowed to be angry i had to question what was wrong with me my entire life because society failed me #screaming. i want to kill something. im allowed to be angry when my existed is outlawed and called sinful everyday #vent #someone let me write poetry rn.

[kirafesmaichuu]

hi. can we not forget about the pit. please dont forget about the pit. please the pit is very important. mention it im begging.

#in a ctubbo way because he couldn't let himself cry after his execution because everyone already had things on their plates #he wasnt allowed to be mad right? because techno was forced right? because techno is their ally #but he cant be mad about it. hes not allowed to. #it doesnt matter if he gets hurt even when it will haunt him to the end of his days #or in a ctommy way because wanting to stand up for your beloved best friend is apparently the wrong thing to do #it will get you beaten up and close to death by your friends murderer #or maybe in a ctechno way because hes allowed to hurt from that experience. he genuinely says it hurt him #all while treating it as water under the bridge when it comes to ctubbo. “get over it” #the victim shouldnt “hold grudges” #throwback to the time techno said cclingy should get “over it” (refering to ctubbos execution) #all while saying in the same breath how he is still so so hurt of having to kill ctubbo #and complaining to ctommy about the kid not jumping in to support ctechno during the festival #at your grown age??? you want for a teenager who mind you is in a “kill on sight” list to protect you?? who is also in his last canon life? #and then he has the audacity to get mad at tommy for defending his friend #i just. cant. #yeah im turning pretty ctechno neg

[eddiegirls]

Not me going through that blog and using it as a blocklist lol.

LMAOOOO I KNOW RIGHT

#the fact that they need to be explicitly told that they're not allowed to do things such as: 1) change jee-yun's name #2) make hen talk like a caricature of a Black person #3) make characters of color into villains for no reason #and even with those concrete examples they're STILL getting asks from ppl complaining about the anti racism rules. it's just wild #i don't read much fic tho so i'm curious if anyone has thoughts - are these specific things problems in 911 fics? they were all mentioned.. #im just like.....what the fuck is going on.....but obviously it's not that surprising #ask #anonymous

[hella1975]

‘you’re all i got, cousin’ crying over richie of all people. can this day get any worse

#IF I SAID RICHIE IS ONE OF THE MOST COMPELLING CHARACTERS ON THE BEAR WHAT THEN #THIS SHOW SAID NO TWO DIMENSIONAL CHARACTERS!!! #he’s still a dick tho. love him #hi i had a hellish day. being on ur period plus working bank holiday saturday lunch rush? no a slaytastic combo #saw unprecedented levels of twatism today night actually be my worst shift at this place ever #god fr saw me posting positively about work lately and went girl BE QUIET and u know what it’s crickets from my end from now on bossman #this is the first time i could NOT snap myself out of a mood bc of a customer like it was a hundred little shitty interactions #of being spoken to like utter shit and then one table just pissed me OFF like complained to my manager the works and if it had been that on #it’s own it would have been fine but it had already been building and i was like no. im done #got asked if i could stay on until 10 and i wasn’t even polite about it i just went ‘FUCK no’ #almost cried on the bus home. humiliating. immediately got in an argument w my mum. thriving tbh #and then went ‘now is probably a bad time to watch THIS of all shows but oh well’ and weirdly it’s actually calmed me down bc I’m reminded #this is a universal struggle and it isn’t just me being a little bitch lmao. still sucks that my job literally consists of #‘whoever can tolerate being spoken to like dirt for the longest without snapping will get shifts :)’ like why is this behaviour allowed #why do i have to regularly day after day be disrespected and treated like im not even a person. for MINIMUM FUCKING WAGE #blowing the restaurant up im so fucking done man #the bear #hella slaves to capitalism