#I just want to feel validated by these specific people

[olderthannetfic]

https://www.tumblr.com/olderthannetfic/750548921882918912/i-know-this-is-insanely-politically-incorrect-of?source=share

From what I've seen, the cis queer boys who pull the "ewwww, fujos" thing tend to be ace/aro, not gay.

Ace boys* have a lot in common with trans boys. They are both only nominally welcome in any queer space that isn't expressly made for them and them only, and they are both told that their identity isn't real, isn't acutally queer, and just generally isn't valid. They both often end up in places (like Tumblr) where being a boy or man of any kind is considered immoral and dangerous to women and "real" queers. And they are both told that being the kind of boy they are is antithetical to masculinity, and that this is a good thing.

Asexuality is considered inherently soft and weak and feminine, and ace boys are told that this makes them Better and Purer than "real" men, in much the same way trans boys are told that their bodies make them both not actually male and morally superior to cis boys and men (and whatever other identities are getting lumped in with cis men this week, usually trans men who pass too well or trans women who wear cargo shorts, but that's another rant).

It's not surprising that someone who is marginalised and invalidated within their own communities, at an age and life stage where they're only just figuring themselves out, would be the sort who would fall for this stuff.

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So how it's shaped is there's a group (Tumblr queers) you want to earn recognition and acceptance from, but they don't like you and tell you you're not good enough for them. The group claims that XYZ random thing (yaoi) is inherently harmful to a third party (gay men), and that thing is kinda squicky to you.

And you see a path to acceptence and group membership shining clearly. Reject the yaoi! Make a huge scene about how it makes you (a more socially acceptable and morally pure version of "queer man") feel weird when you think about the dirty terrible other people who enjoy yaoi! They'll see that you aren't a filthy fujo with a woman's sexuality OR a gross and ugly queer man, you're a pure and wholesome and soft and nonthreatening boy. They HAVE to accept you now!

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Which is all a very long way of saying that marginalized and ostracized boys tend to fall for purity police traps because they don't have the experience and context to know any better and because they're desperate for validation and community.

*I'm saying "boys" because I'm specifically talking about young people here and not talking about adult trans and ace men.

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[dog-park-dissidents]

How do you fight the urge to be a “normal, palatable” queer? I’ve had this awful urge to shove other trans ppl, specifically those who don’t conform to cishet standards of gender the way I do as a binary man in order to get cis people to accept me as “one of the good ones” and maybe validate my gender. I’m so fucking starved for recognition of my gender, especially from cis ppl, that I truly feel like if I was promised to be the token tranny by doing Kalvin Garrah shit…. I can’t say I wouldn’t say no. And it feels fucking gross. I know that any recognition would be as the token t****y and would only hold as long as there are ppl who conform less before they start coming for me, but this deep part of me WANTS to be seen as normal among them, even for a brief time .

Oh yeah, it's tempting. Getting relief from being othered, from not fitting in, just being able to breathe. Any time you're able to put on a mask and pass as typical, whether it's gender, queerness, neurodivergence, whatever, you get this weird kind of rush, and this sense of comfort that you're finally doing it, you're normal, everything is fine.

It never lasts.

You can fight that urge by trying it, by getting good at it, and then after the euphoria wears off, seeing how hollow it makes you feel. If you turn yourself into somebody you're not just so people stop being shitty to you, you don't end up happy.

The only way to be happy is to build a community of weirdos like you who actually do respect you. Surround yourself with so much love that acceptance from cis people doesn't matter anymore.

[theamityelf]

I've been thinking about the proposed What If AU and your idea that Junko had the Remnants of Despair catch Makoto. Because his luck interfered with the Killing Game before it could begin.

And my mind suggested this unhinged direction:

Makoto's luck spreads to his classmates. It messes with the Killing Game and keeps them alive. (What it does to other people is a different matter.) As long as they're alive, Junko won't give any orders about killing him.

Plus, it would be one of the outcomes that she likely wouldn't expect. The deviations are extreme and out of left field that most often they surprise her. They capture her interest.

Some of the Remnants of Despair become resentful because she's getting distracted. Her attention is on her classmates, when they don't even understand her vision, and when the Remnants have so much chaos to deal with because of Makoto.

I don't know if this could be in character. I just think it could be an interesting story.

This is definitely fascinating. If Makoto's luck starts to protect his friends, I feel like it means his friends are going to be essential to his survival. Like, for his luck to say "Not one of these guys can be lost," is a pretty amazing concept, seeing as they canonically died despite how much he didn't want them to. But! It's also valid, and maybe more fun, to just not deal with the implications in terms of the way his luck seems to work in canon. We can just let the luck be chaotic and confusing, if we want, lol.

I think maybe the most fun/satisfying way for this to manifest (and a good way to make sure the characters have a way of knowing that it's specifically Makoto's luck doing it) would be if any hardship that occurs in Makoto's life is directly corresponded by a similar bout of luck for his classmates. Like, maybe the ceiling suddenly leaks on Makoto, drenching him and his dinner in water, and a few hours later, a ceiling leak at Hope's Peak wakes one of his classmates right before they would have been murdered in their sleep. Stuff like that. Of course, only the Remnants would be able to observe such a direct connection, unless Junko is still in contact with them.

And I fully believe the Remnants got jealous of Junko's clear preference for her own class!

#danganronpa #makoto naegi #danganronpa if #junko enoshima

[statementlou]

why do you talk about Louis using blue and green signalling as if it isn't about Harry, that what the blue and green are- do you not believe in larrie?

short answer for the reading challenged trolls to cut down on asks yes I am a larrie, not that anything is wrong with not being one. But longer (much more interesting imo) answer: We know H and L were together, but no one really knows if they are still or again- I personally mostly believe that they are, but I get why people don't think so and can't see any reason to get pressed about it. But you make a solid point- blue and green and certainly things like Louis wearing the H shirt don't potentially signify anything other than larry right? Well that's what makes it so interesting to me- I kind of don't think Louis IS using those things that way! As my recent anon pointed out (and I agree) he wants people to think he is Freddie's dad, he is not presently trying to be perceived as gay in the face of people trying to force him in the closet- he is in charge of his image and is choosing to publicly put forward that he is a guy who got someone pregnant and dates women. And I do think him and H are together, but I don't think he particularly wants to talk to us about that, if that makes sense? But I believe he does want to connect with his beloved fans on a more personal level, to revel in the acceptance and love and shared wink, I know you know I know, me and you until the end, our eyes meet, together we're the greatest- and I think he uses the larry imagery to do that, rather than to talk about his relationship. I could do this for days he gives us SO MANY examples to choose from but just to pick one: the all blue and green lighting for All This Time. Think about it- if he actually had images of a rainbow flag on the screens at his shows or waved one or something, it would make the articles and press and be a whole thing and revive every rumor ever about him in every tabloid! But if he makes the entire lighting and screens for a song blue and green (or wears a shirt with a giant H on it or any of the other one million coded things he does), well so what? No journalist would think a thing of it, nothing to see here- but the larrie majority of his fanbase hears him saying "you were right about everything and yes I am gay and I love you for seeing it" and go completely bananas! It's fucking ingenious tbh, SBB at his finest! And the fact that the song he chose for his current unhinged bluegreener fest was All This Time was for me the thing that really cemented this theory for me; I know some people disagree, but to me that song reads as being about him being closeted and his public life and the fans and choosing this lighting for that rather than for like We Made It or something really feeds my conviction that he is bluegreening on main as a way to tell us that he is gay rather than to tell us anything about his personal relationship. TLDR yeah I DO think he is signaling, a lot, but I don't think it tells us anything about the status of his relationship with Harry or anyone else and the reasons I think they are together don't have anything to do with Louis' stage lighting choices, but also that means I don't think it makes sense to say he's not signaling anything ever because you don't think they're together; both can coexist and I think it's just weird to act like he's not making pretty clear choices

#yeah yeah like I said I know some people disagree and think ATT is about harry #but that's true about literally anything he's ever written (which is annoying tbh) and I just don't agree ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ sorry #none of us know for sure! your take is as valid as mine! but this is mine #SBB #this is just about Louis harry blue greens and other things like mad too but with him #well I don't feel the same tbh #I think he is talking about Louis specifically much more often #but then his situation around what people think and what he wants them to think is different so there ya go

[isan0rt]

See, here's the thing that kills me about the popularity of the nonbinary Xion headcanon, is that Xion was not assigned male at birth before she transed her gender.

She was assigned agender at birth.

Xion is constantly getting misgendered throughout all of Days, and it visibly upsets her every time, but crucially she is not being misgendered by being called 'he'! She is being misgendered in a dysphoria-causing way by being referred to as not having any gender, let alone the gender she knows she has (which is girl). She has a full-blown crisis when she finds out she was not born a girl. The narrative also positions everyone who refers to her with non-gendered pronouns as doing active harm to her or as being villainous in that moment; Saix constantly calling her 'it,' DiZ scoffing at Namine using "she" to refer to Xion. The narrative is clear that what is upsetting and dysphoric to Xion is being referred to as having no binary gender, even moreso than being forced to become masculine, which only becomes an added layer of dysphoria at the very end of the game.

That being the case... WHAT is the deal with why it is so popular to misgender her in the exact same way? She's a girl. She transed her gender so hard she forced other people to literally see her as a girl even though her physical body was a doll's.

- Is it that this fandom doesn't think she 'passes' well enough, so she can't really be a girl like she says she is?

- Is it that this fandom thinks that even if she says she's a girl, her body doesn't have female sex characteristics so she can't really be a girl, she must be what her body dictates she is?

- Is it that she's not demure and soft like the other two girls with her face, so she can't really be a girl like them? That girls don't have open and assertive body language?

- is it that she was born from Sora, so she can't really be a girl because her origin was a boy and she must be somewhere in the middle?

- is it just an empathy gap, where people can't identify with a trans girl and need to make her less trans somehow? An inability to square the idea of choosing a binary gender on purpose? An inability to see why she would choose to be a girl specifically? Is it the thing where so many people in fandom right now can't get invested in characters unless they're "just like me frfr" and so she can't be a trans girl?

What is it?? Why is the ONE canon trans girl not allowed to be a trans girl? When there is an entire cast of characters to otherwise choose from whose narratives are not SPECIFICALLY ABOUT being trans and a girl? I simply do not get it.

#wanted to clarify my stance here that the tags on the last post i reblogged were not like. #discouraging the idea of non-binary headcanons generally #but like it's a problem with THIS CHARACTER SPECIFICALLY and the trend just seems. so unexamined #i don't think anybody is being malicious i just think people aren't thinking #the validation of 'vibes' as in 'idk i just have a gut feeling but i don't need to examine this at all' has i been a net negative for fandom

[lale-txt]

for every “there is not enough content of x” i grow an additional middle finger

#i was having this conversation with friends and a similar one with another friend #like i get it. i get the feeling of wanting to READ a fic and not write it yourself #but the current air in fandom to me often feels very demanding #something something expecting everything to be catered to your liking #without even considering that one could just do it themselves #like write that oddly specific fic you want to read yourself #indulge yourself #let it reach the right people and inspire someone else to follow along #it’s really easy when you think about it #idk i have a lot of scattered thoughts on this #also about the implications of ‘content’ itself #like it’s something easy to consume that will never fully fill you #and puts involuntary pressure on writers and artists to just throw out stuff chasing some validation they never get in return #cw vent #i guess??? #lale.txt

[autisticlee]

that feeling when you get advice from someone who you know is well-meaning and has good intentions....but it's just the most allistic, neurotypical, and/or abled advice you have ever heard and completely invalidates the point you're trying to make about why you struggle to do the thing in the first place.

they're telling you to "do it in this specific way that is completely opposite of how you physically/mentally work" for example, make eye contact/read people's facial expressions and intentions! but you're autistic. initiate verbal conversation and don't be shy! but you're nonverbal or semispeaking. get out of the house more and participate in these physical activities! but you're physically disabled. Just Be Yourself! but you have DID/OSDD/other personality disorder. etc.

i'm sorry. I know you're just trying to help. I appreciate it, really. but it's all things i've heard before and none of it helps me specifically. I have tried (maybe even still try out of habit) and learned I can't just do those things. they don't work for me or cause more issues. practice isn't the issue. not everyone can simply willpower through everything. but thanks for trying 😔✊️

#autistic #autism things #autism #actually autistic #adhd #audhd #neurodivergent #disablity #disabled #too tired to tag other thinhs sorry thats all you get #lee rambles #that feeling when you also just have to pretend to accept their advice and move on because people get so upset when you dont take it #i lesrned if i tell people their advice doesnt suit me and my unique circumstances then they feel bad that they didnt help #they want you to do it anyway. even if you cant. pretend you do or say thanks and move on. but it gets annoying hearinf the same stuff #over and over. more expectations on you. more pressure to do things in ways everyone else can but you cannot... #when will the advice be lee shaped? when will it be just for lee and consider all my circumstances? #why is telling the person giving advice their advice wont work fkr me bad? why cant they change their advice to fit the issues i face? #when im asked for advice and someone hits a deadend while working it out i try to help solve that so they can find a way around #but everyone else expects me to grow a bulldozer out of my head and ram the wall down instead of helping me work around it #i crush their fragile ego by saying their advice doesnt work and they get upset instead of adjusting it to help solve the specific problem #its exhausting because they become one of the many problems i have to deal with then 😒 #no im not “making excuses/dismissing you/not trying” im trying. your advice sucks try again. and my problems are valid!!!!!! accept it!!!! #anyway. genuinely appreciate people wanting/trying to help but sometimes its such inappropriate advice i dont know how to respond

[dykeinthedark]

venting in tags about gender n shit (long as hell) (u can comment and talk 2 me as always :3)

#okay so i got a really masc haircut about a month ago and i know it's just a haircut but holy shit has it changed EVERYTHING for me #like.... i've always leaned masc except 1) before i came out 2) when i was actively in love with someone who i knew liked femmes #and they always described me as a fem. because that's what i showed her. because i wanted to be with her. #but lowkey whenever i'm in a not-impressing-anyone raw-dogging-life-no-crush era i always resort to a very masc style #like masc being my default and i'd only lean fem to impress people whether it's for love or peer pressure in a specific setting #like ''dressing up'' has always been a form of drag to me. like something i HAD to do to fit in or impress my parents (scott favor core) #but ever since this haircut i've realized... i could just BE masc innately like i really don't have to be womanly if i don't want to #which i usually don't. again i have only ever dressed fem for other people. but it's not even being masc that attracts me on its own #it's like. being masc in a distinctly lesbian way. as in whenever i look in the mirror i don't wanna be like a Guy i wanna be a dyke. #like lesbian as a gender identity too sort of thing honestly. okay i've been waffling but basically i sort of want to call myself butch #but i don't know if i like... can?? if i'm allowed to??? #everyone always says it's MORE than just wearing boy clothes and not wearing makeup and having short hair (which i already do all those) #i mean i've always id'd as genderqueer because it literally just means gender weird and i experience gender in a queer way #what's probably the most telling is that my friends (all queer) CALL me a butch lesbian #like every time they do i feel really internally validated. it's not just my clothes but my personality too ig is what people tell me #i have a higher pitched voice relatively speaking but apparently the way i talk is quote ''very clockably into women'' #which?? gender euphoria asf. my best friend specifically he (gay trans guy) always uses butch to describe me very intuitively #people have also noticed that i ''transitioned'' in all aspects except hormonally. like ppl have commented and noticed my masculinzation #but at the same time i always feel rly haunted by my ex relationships because one wanted me to be more masc #(she's the one who came out as straight and would treat me like a man) which i didn't like and i didn't like playing up being fem either #bc now it feels like she (butch) won't believe me if i called myself butch too bc she remembers me being femme #idk i feel like there's her voice in my head all the time that sees everything i do through her eyes (i'm lowkey still in love) #i feel like even though this comes so naturally to me i must be putting on a performance #even though i've actually read stone butch blues and done research into the history and i truly love and id with the culture like i rly do #that im still just a sad imitation of a butch lesbian and can never really be a part of it because i used to enjoy dressing up sometimes #like it's so stupid but can i still be butch if i wore a dress to prom and i think i looked good in it?? #even though i was envious of my friends who wore suits?? that i used to try goth makeup?? that i liked long dresses?? #that i enjoyed stacked necklaces and rings on every finger??? #and tbh ALL OF THAT CAME FROM A CONCIOUS EFFORT TO FEMINIZE MYSELF IN JUNIOR YEAR OF HIGHSCHOOL WHEN I WAS 16 #because omfg it was 2 months before junior prom and i was worried that i was too masc and wanted to get comfortable with being fem

[on-wednesdays-we-eat-the-rich]

i know this is a thing that Literally Everyone says, but some people really do need to stop viewing their personal headcanons as Facts.

#listen. i get it. #i am in no way saying you're wrong or that you can't have those headcanons #you can have whatever headcanons you want #but if they're not canon then you can't really get mad when other people have different ideas #because people interpret things differently #this is sort of aimed at a post i saw just now but i didn't want to say this directly to that person #their post was basically about fandoms always putting aro/ace-coded characters in relationships #which is a completely fair point #but it was specifically about aroace *coded* characters with one (1) canonically ace pairing #i feel like the point would have worked better if it was about more canonically aroace characters #rather than characters that they just headcanon as aroace #because again: your headcanon is good but that doesn't mean it's canon #and it doesn't mean it's the only headcanon anyone can ever have #anyway i thought it would be better if i just made this a General Message for the General Public instead of targeting specific people #because that feels kinda rude #and i know i explained about the specific post that caused me to make this post so that might be contradictory idk #all i'm saying is just because you think a certain character is whatever doesn't mean everyone else thinks the same #and it doesn't mean everyone else's ideas aren't equally valid

[kjzx]

I've been thinking a lot about my sexuality these last few years, I'd even say sometimes obsessing to an unhealthy degree, and I think I've come in terms with the fact I almost certainly am bisexual and denying that is pretty lesbophobic and frankly dumb in many ways, and mainly cruel towards myself. Gonna be reading up on internalized biphobia and whatnot

#Turns out men around me just suck #And men that are thirsted over most of the time do too #Alright they don't meet my preferences** #No toxicity here everyone's valid #I have had my reasons to think I'm gay and I don't think I was that 'delusional' (idk a better way to say it) thinking that I am gay #But the more I move forward the more I realize I'm just lying to myself #I don't have to date men or be interested in what most people think is attractive in men to be bisexual and that's alright #I am a little disappointed in the way bisexuals are treated in certain lgbt+ spaces specifically chronically online ones #Is it cringe to admit that the thing that broke the camel's back was a fandom meta post where the author said that people in fandom #can't tolerate bi characters/HCs because the idea of a character having history is repulsive to younger fans that want there to be one and #only love interest. Or smth along these lines. That resonated with me. I have no clue why tho. I don't have much history with anyone myself #Aside from a homoerotic childhood friendship or two (celibacy sweep) #Not just that there were a lot of good points made but yeah. Fun things #I have a feeling I'll continue obsessing over this stuff #Obsession grind never ends babyyy 💯💪 #It does feel nice to admit to things I like without feeling like I have some sort of reverse religious trauma #the center of it being one ultimate queer experience and if you've straighted you're condemned to be seen as a straight by gays #for all eternity #Bisexual #Bi pride #//rambles

[anti-transphobia]

If anyone wanted to know what it's like to be a trans person not aligned with masculinity online, I've had such a huge issue with both cis and transmasc people calling me dude and then arguing about it when I asked them not to that I had to set my nickname in discord servers as "don't call me dude/man/bro". That wasn't enough so I changed it to be in all caps and set my overall discord display name as "DONT CALL ME DUDE/MAN/BRO". Within a few hours I was @ed on a server I never talk in, a server where most of its members never talk because it's a mod development/compilation server so people are there for information and that's it, by an any pronouns trans person who hasn't spoken in that server in a YEAR and talked again specifically to misgender me

#from cis people it's like whatever but it's like transmascs and afab nonbinary people feel personally offended whenever you say #that you don't like to be called dude/bro/man etc #id expect it from the cis but trans people should get it!! like come ON #'i use it regardless of gender' is no excuse bc it's still a gendered term #like just because there are situations where its more normal to call someone that at the same time there are ones where its clearly gendere #like. 'my guy'. people say that 'gender neutrally' #but if you call someone a guy outside of saying that theyre going to assume someone is a man. and rightfully so! #so why is it so outrageous that i wouldn't want to be called that in a different slang context? #i use 'girl' gender neutrally. i will call everything and everyone a girl. i call my nine year old brother 'girl' #guess what i specifically dont do though? use it for transmascs or nonbinary people #if someone has she/her pronouns listed its probably fine and if it's not im okay being corrected #but like. if calling someone 'girl' isnt okay even when the person saying it is saying so regardless of someones gender #then the same applies for masculine terms #idk im just tired of giving other trans people basic respect and then being constantly targeted by people who want to argue that something #is gender neutral #specifically because they come from a position where being called those things is validating #ofc the ppl not trying to distance themselves from masculine terms are okay with being called them #like. that's fine. but please listen to other trans people lmao

[sugar--pain]

Kinda tempted to go back to identifying as aromantic but from the perspective of "I have chosen to love everyone that I have dated. I can choose to stop." but I don't know how well that would go over.

#I mean easily parts of us can identify as such just not collectively #so i guess that's why I'm saying it here #like. it's not wrong #some part of my brain has always decided that for whatever reason loving someone was in my best interest. #and only then did I develop interest Like That. #Usually we would like someone and want their attention want to be their friend and they'd develop interest #and we'd adjust to match their energy because they wanted that from us #for a while we argued amongst each other #that it wasn't valid if we didn't agree. pondering if this is ever valid #i saw people say it was popular to say that we don't choose to love #but i just don't relate to that #i know exactly how my brain works. and i can successfully convince it to love someone. and i can successfully convince it to stop. #i don't think being calculative is wrong #and honestly i think our feeling these things aren't genuine just because we can control it. it doesn't seem fair. #i'm fully capable of love. and there's nothing wrong with me deciding to love because it seems like it'd benefit us both. #and if we're already feeding each other anyway i just don't see anything wrong with accepting what's happening. #i don't like the expectations that get pulled with it. #i want to be able to independently decide what and when i want. i don't like labels. #i like that we're an anarchist but not everyone can even be on the same page about what that means #i know we left the aromantic community because they got too specific and a lot of ideas became too stiff and twisted in to reactionary #misunderstandings but how long can we keep leaving communities and cutting ourself off in to something nebulous #because of a problem that'll folllow us no matter where we go? #i think we can define ourselves any number of ways #i don't think any of them are wrong #bigger fools than i have claimed identities that were more maligned than my own #and when it's inevitable who's to say it's wrong #we're all who we are at the end of the day. these words can't contain or quantify us #they can be shortcuts but they can't define us #this is just how i live. it's about give and take #vv

[lord-squiggletits]

I think one of my least favorite takes on Optimus annexing Earth is the surprisingly common opinion "he should've just left Earth alone and minded his own business because they didn't ask for help," not because it doesn't have truth in it but because it's a massive oversimplification of the whole situation and seems to pretend that Optimus annexing Earth was just completely stupid and had no reasoning whatsoever.

Like, it just bothers me when people talk about it as if Optimus leaving Earth alone would've been the not-bad-guy thing to do despite the fact that the Decepticons were literally about to try colonizing Earth again under the command of a guy who was literally from the Golden Age generation that made colonizing and genociding organics popular, Galvatron. I mean Galvatron was literally there saying "so when are we going to kill these fleshlings" and even being a Functionist asshole to Soundwave's cassettes. The last time the Decepticons invaded Earth in All Hail Megatron they killed literally a billion human beings. Are there seriously people in this fandom that are out there believing with their whole ass that "Optimus should've just ignored the openly genocidal Decepticons returning to a place they had already tried to colonize just a few years ago because it's none of his business and the humans can handle themselves" like what.

#squiggposting #and this isn't even getting into the fact that like there was that one titan buried under earth's surface #or the enigma of combination being there #are we not going to talk about how bad of an idea it is for cybertronian technology to just be left in the hands of other civilizations #with no supervision or input from cybertron whatsoever #there was an entire fucking tyrest accord made specifically to ban cybertronians from sharing their tech with other races #which megatron broke btw when he spread mind controlling guns across earth specifically to cause chaos #like i'm not saying that the sentiment of 'they didn't ask for help to be forced upon them' isn't valid #but i feel like saying 'lol optimus should've just not gotten involved' is incredibly naive at best and stupid at worst #ppl will be like 'noooo idw op is evil because he annexed earth he's not a real OP he's shittily written' #bro optimus was following one of his most core personality traits which is trying to protect innocent lives #from the imperialistic factions of his own species. the fuck do you people mean that idw op sucks #is it bc one of his positive character traits was turned into a double edged sword that also makes him flawed and make mistakes #and you just wanted OP to be your unproblematic g1 daddy who never does anything wrong? #i need to do a reread of barber's side of phase 2 to cement my opinion and remember the exact sequence of events #but mfs act as if optimus doing that had no reasons behind it whatsoever and as if he had any good choices in that scenario #(then there is the sub faction of idw op haters who kiss idw megs' ass simultaneously but that's a rant for another day lol) #mostly what gets me isn't the fact that people don't like optimus' decision #but the fact that so many ppl completely disregard and refuse to consider the context around that decision #and they just go 'oh he just sucks' as if that's the end of the story lol

[crabussy]

RRARAAAAAAAAAUUAUUAAGHHHHH

#ITS 12AM AND I HAVE BIG EXAMS TOMORROW #and people are taking my lighthearted post far too seriously and claiming some pretty awful things about my intentions #???????? I'm just some 17 year old who thought housetrucks were interesting #and recognised that they're likely the only kind of accommodation I'd be able to afford once I'm an adult #like YEAH YOUR POINTS ABOUT ROMANI APPROPRIATION ARE VALID and I am willing to listen. I know its frustrating #but also I've looked into the history of housetrucks within nz and the people who first built them? #they just built them out of necessity. not to mimic or romanticise romani suffering. I can't find any mention of romani inspiration #I SPECIFICALLY included photos of NZ HOUSETRUCKS ONLY and not romani wagons or similar because #a lot of new zealanders live poorly and have to resort to that lifestyle. SOME new zealanders live in housetrucks just because they can #but I guarantee you it is a very small amount because they're extremely inefficient and dangerous to live in #the only reason I was posting about them with such excitement is because I'm ecstatic about maybe being able to afford a home before I'm 40 #ranting about this in the tags and not in a reblog because goddd dude I don't want to look like some racist prick or something #to the person who reblogged the housetruck post with the stuff I'm talking about #if you're looking through my blog for whatever reason #I understand what you're saying but man that wasn't my intention at all #I'm a burnt out mentally ill IB student who made that post to cope with escapism #I didn't make it to erase romani lives or your culture I just made it because I need a hope for a liveable future #houses in new zealand usually cost over a million dollars I literally just want to look forward to living somewhere #warning bells in my mind right now please please don't twist my words it's 12am and I'm stressed out of my mind #god I feel awful I need to sleep #sick of being on the internet I am so so careful to be as respectful and careful as I can about topics #only to be accused of using gentrifying dogwhistles to appropriate a marginalised group of people ????? #for sharing photos of new zealand specific housetrucks and calling them 'kiwi culture' #I did not mean 'kiwi culture' as in 'invented by and owned by new zealanders' #I meant it in the same way that fish and chips are 'kiwi culture'. obviously we didn't invent either of those things. they just happen to b #a regular part of aotearoa life. RARHRHGHHH #fuck man I'm too worked up over this I never meant to be shitty or appropriate anything I just like housetrucks #I'm going to be a wreck tomorrow I'm too anxious to sleep #so sorry to anyone who bothered to read all of this #just needed. somewhere to put it

[aresmarked]

#i cannot be normal about this for the foreseeable future#god what the fuck#the way that we're shown how intensely of a formative experience that was for so much of how saria is as a person now#she's intelligent and studious because she had to learn how to fix her own things when she was early elementary age#she's strong and learned to fight because she learned that no one would stand up for her and protect her other than herself

#she severely represses her emotions because she was taught that expressing them made her weak and useless#she was repeatedly told to stop crying when she was so#so young#that she's internalized the idea that crying is a pointless expression with utterly no purpose

#and yet#YET#despite everything her father did to temper what he thought was weakness and irrationality out of her#the MOMENT someone (Silence) talks to her and smiles at her like she's a person capable of kindness and empathy#and asks her to come and visit a sickly little girl for no real rational purpose other than to make her feel better#Saria agrees immediately#because Saria IS still kind and she still DOES have feelings no matter how hard she represses them on the surface#and Silence saw through that and treated her as such and it's evident just how much meaning that held for Saria#with how she continues to be so sentimental about the feather that Silence gifted her to this day

#and ultimately when Saria is confronted with the same situation that her father was so many years ago#when her child is sobbing and wailing and desperate for her to comfort and protect her#despite how she was treated as a little child#despite everything about what she was taught and how it shaped her whole life#she realizes that what her father said to her was wrong and harmful#and makes the choice to REFUSE TO DO THE SAME TO HER OWN DAUGHTER  (via @lateralmeristem​)

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Giving these tags their dues in their own post because they are so right and did invoke the cry rule

#arknights #arknights spoilers #and i don't want to detract from them so let me just add here #i think the wording ifrit uses specifically Gets saria because she invokes the word 'bully' #and in that moment #she hits the core of why bullying cuts so deep #why it cut her so deep #people who are bullied are often made to feel that they are the reason they got bullied #that something about them did this #more bluntly: #that it's their fault #but when she sees ifrit crying #and recalls what ifrit's gone through #saria recognises the falsehood that lies at the heart of that idea #and so she validates ifrit's fear #as meri says (pardon the gaffe): refuses to deny ifrit's need for assurance of safety and care

[genderqueer-karma]

what the fuck i didn’t expect to cry just now. it’s so amazing how you can connect to people you’ll never meet.

#yo it's d :) #💙♾️ #rant incoming -> #okay so if i’m being honest being a black fan in mana/mdm/mm spaces is actually kinda isolating sometimes if i’m being honest bc a lot of #western fans are white people. that’s just the truth. and like i’ve been sorta subtly ‘bullied’ (lightheartedly) for years over my interests #misaligning with what is typically ascribed to black people. i know it’s silly to let it get to me but after a while that shit wears you out #that being said. i was watching the mdm 2007 paris show bc i wanted to see a specific song real quick. the video pans over the crowd and obv #it’s white people as far as the eye can see. shocker. however. then it gets a bit closer to the stage. not too close. but sorta. right there #is a black fan. they stand out a bit. besides their skin being brown their hair is also in cornrows! a protective style!! at an mdm show!!! #seeing them in the crowd caused me to be overcome w/ emotion. i felt so instantly connected to this person across time and space from a two #second clip of them. and of course i shouldn’t cry about it but knowing that hey. i’m not alone out here and that we’ve probably had similar #experiences is so……? it was so easy to suddenly put myself in their position. a person that looks like me in a room full of people who don’t #god. #i hope they’re doing well nowadays and that they still rock out to mdm. i hope the feel incredibly valid in their blackness. #HOLY SHIT WE BELONG IN THE SCENE !!!!! WE BELONG !!!!! #I BELONG !!!!!!!!!!! #dev rants