#Gotta include that disclaimer because this is the piss on the poor site

[bisexualseraphim]

Possible spicy take but I’m so bored of people crying ABLEISM!!! whenever someone has a controversial opinion such as “hi I am a service worker and I feel dehumanised when all you do is stare blankly at me or bark your order at me please smile and say hello”

As an autistic person who until just 2 years ago was so socially anxious I couldn’t go outside alone, if you’re an adult and you can’t even give someone a quick smile and a “good thanks how are you?” that’s not poor social skills due to autism or social anxiety, that’s you being a prick.

It is the absolute most basic human decency and manners to fucking smile at someone and say hello and if you’ve made it to adulthood without learning that then someone deeply failed you. It takes 2 seconds and costs absolutely nothing. Yes you may find small talk or whatever uncomfortable, but most people do and it’s just a part of life that you’ve got to learn to deal with. Being a bit awkward or uncomfortable isn’t trauma. You don’t have to tell your whole life story when they ask you how you are, but don’t just fucking ignore them. And tbh associating neurodivergence with acting like an asshole is ironically one of the most ableist things you can do

Also, I see a LOT of people daily who just walk up to service workers and go “CHEESEBURGER” without a “please” or “hello” and I know that 90% of people aren’t autistic adults who were never taught the bare minimum social skills so don’t bullshit me with that excuse. You all just want any reason to be mean or rude and it’s gross

*NOTE: This post is obviously not talking about non-verbal people or anyone else who may struggle with the simplest general conversation due to disability. It’s about people who are capable of having a normal social interaction with for example friends, but then use neurodivergence as an excuse not to treat others with basic decency

#Gotta include that disclaimer because this is the piss on the poor site #My entire childhood I was like a deer in the headlights when someone spoke to me #But I’d still smile and engage with them because I was capable of doing so and wasn’t a little arsehole #I mean ffs I order on apps and use self checkouts because I’d still prefer not to talk to someone #But when they DO talk to me I will at least be polite even if I’m not feeling it #You don’t have to pretend to be sunny and chatty you just have to treat them like a person #Why is that apparently too difficult for so many of you #rant #neurodiverse #neurodivergence #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #autism #social anxiety #retail #service industry #hospitality #text post