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Yeah, I know "not all aro/aces" and all, but please don't use "not all aro/aces" as an excuse to not explore anything exclusively aro/ace ever. Otherwise any trace of aro/aceness might end up effectively lost to fandom osmosis.

To sum up... If you wouldn't be homophobic that way, please don't be aphobic that way.

#also adding to this how fans where sexuality can be confirmed for censorship reasons #fans will eat up the slightest implication a character is gay lesbian bi pan trans etc erc #(like genshin using the fact a character has the same name as a historical figure that was queer is irrefutable evidence) #but the MOMENT a character has any implications of being aro or ace #they act like it doesn’t exist #or take it as evidence for something else #aspec #asexual #aromantic #tw aphobia #sigh

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Stuff kids on tumblr better relearn

1. You are responsible for your own media experience. 

2. There is such a thing as a healthy level of avoidance towards topics that make you feel unwell or even (in a real-life clinical definition of the term) trigger you - but you are the one to actively take care of what you view.

3. Avoiding does not mean policing others.

4. You have no right to tell artists to censor themselves - you may criticize what others do, you may dislike it, that’s fine - but actively asking for censorship when you could easily unfollow or block a person just makes you look incompetent in your use of the internet.

5. Do not give people on tumblr or /any/ website the responsibility for your emotional well-being. Because these people do not even know you so no, you have no right to ask them to take care of you.

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this too shall pass

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Hard at work at the yaoi factory

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More stories from hell (retail) today I was ringing up this lady and she goes oh I want to do part of this on a gift card and the rest on normal card and I go ok and then she hands me a folded piece of paper. I think oh OK it must be folded around the gift card, right? Wrong. It is a folded sheet of 8×11 printer paper with "$40" written on the inside in ballpoint pen. I go what is this. She says a gift card. I say this is not a gift card. She says yes it is. I say this is a piece of paper with "$40" written on it. She says "well it's a gift card." I say it absolutely is not. I am grinding my teeth. She says well I want to use it. I say you physically cannot do that bc it is a piece of paper. I cannot scan or swipe it. I apologize, as if this is my fault, and not because she is completely insane. I hate it here

#FREEDOM

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Thought this would be funny, so here's a list of books I read in grade and middle school that altered me on a molecular level

Dune. My dad told me to read this in 5th grade because he thought I'd like it. I read it. Not sure if I comprehended it. I definitely learned the word jihad though.

Watership Down. I'll never own a rabbit because of this one.

Warrior Cats and Wings of Fire, concurrently. Self explanatory.

Red Rising. I should not have been reading that in 6th grade.

Acotar. I should not have been reading that in 7th grade.

The Prince by Machiavelli. I was a little bit of a smartass in middle school. I guess I still am.

The Girl with All the Gifts. The ending still hits me like a bat

EDIT! Can't believe I forgot about Animorphs

The moral of the story is that I don't regret reading any of these things, and I'm sure they were better than some of the shit my friends were looking at on the internet. But still...

Did any of yall read something in middle school that, looking back, was actually kind of insane?

#the fire within/the last dragon chronicles #i only have vague memories but what the FUCK was that #trying to recall the plot feels like a fever dream #i need to reread it probably #also wrinkle in time was wild but that’s a given #books

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at least I’m not addicted to fruit flavoured nicotine

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#my name isn’t misspelled but mispronounced #IT IS FOUR LETTERS #it’s so obvious when someone is pronouncing it in a way to make it sound feminine #like no my name isn’t “aiya”. that’s not even remotely close #polls

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"oh, you act so romantic with your friends-" SHUT UP! I CAN ACT ALL MUSHY AND SWEET WITH MY FRIENDS, WHAT'S WRONG WITH THAT!? COWARD! YOU DON'T SHOWER YOUR FRIENDS IN AFFECTION AND LOVE!? YOU'RE WEAK! WEAK AND PATHETIC!

#literally gave a friend a gift in a game she wanted. just because #i even went thru the trouble of getting good colors n stuff

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faggin it up on a friday

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me when i wanna talk about my special interests but i got the vampire autism where you gotta invite me to talk about smth first, otherwise i wont say shit or dont know what to say because i feel like im annoying

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school gym class. you are transgender.

#worst part was it was the (cis) boys that would harass me and my friend (also trans) every single day #teacher actually went to admin about t but they did nothing because they hated trans people #they wouldn’t say it out loud but would not let us have a trans flag in our possession without it getting taken away #progressive school my ASS #only the teachers were nice to us. and even then some of them were weird #mr mckane the shitty school could never make me hate you #oh also we got a transphobe fired #and people immediately complained because he was a nice janitor #like. nuh uh!!!! he called me a devil because i was trans #did i say this was middle school yet #because it was. :3c #queer #transmasc #trans

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no multi option, agonize and choose, no results option, pick one to find out or scroll onward

#toilet paper #do you know how much of a lifesaver that would be #id never have to waste money on toilet paper again #the pen is a close second tho #i never lose pens. idk how y’all do that bc it’s really not that hard #polls

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This is well trod territory for the sdv fandom but,,, farmer is just NOT human, farmer “spends 10 hours fishing, scarfs down 15 pieces of seaweed and gifts you a raw egg out of their pocket” is NOT FUCKING HUMAN!!! That is a little FREAK. Pretending to be human.

And that freak is me and I love this little fictional me

#my farmer ate a junimo once #grilled it and ate it. as a warning #stardew valley #farmer is now my oc slash self insert #get fucked world

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some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

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as someone who has been scarred for life by experiences at gay bars, i need people to understand it's beyond tacky to mock people who want queer spaces beyond queer bars- it's dangerous.

let me explain. i went to 2 of my local queer bars a lot last year, as much as i was able to despite being poor. i witnessed a fist fight that was so bloody that ended up with a transmisogynistic drag queen getting hit in the head with a metal baton. the sight caused me to uncontrollably throw up in the bathroom of the club because of how gruesome it was. they had to close down the club and forard people out the back door because of how out of hand this person got- he was screaming transmisogynstic slurs and phrases at the bouncers were were transfem.

i was also sexually assaulted at these places, i was repeatedly groped by several people who i was not interacting with in the first place who found me attractive and decided physically grabbing me on numerous occasions was the way to get my attention. being femme in a queer bar is dangerous even if the people groping you are gay men.

i am also a recovering addict who dealt with alcohol issues in the past and could be considered a recovering alcoholic. i don't want to be around alcohol. i don't want to smell it. it triggers awful memories and also sometimes makes me consider getting a drink, but i can't have one, because the medications i take will cause a fatal reaction- i don't want to be tempted to drink, because it will kill me.

it's not right to mock someone or call them childish or whatever for not wanting to go to a club. whenever alcohol is involved, people's inhibitions are gone and they will do whatever. this includes fighting. i witnessed several other fights. just because it's a queer bar doesn't mean there won't be fights. and it especialyl doesn't m ean that you won't get groped or assaulted because, like i said, since alcohol is involved and it's a bar, there's a high chance this can and will happen.

queer people are not inherently safe angels to be around by virtue of being queer. there are still transphobes in queer bars. tranny chasers come to these bars. homophobic lesbians show up and lesbophobic gay men show up. drag queens and performers bring their cishet friends and family to support their shows. these are not perfect havens. they are not safe. we should not force other queers to interact with inherently dangerous spaces if these are supposed to be our safe spaces.

also these spaces are not friendly to people with disabilities; wheelchair users have nowhere to go especially when it's very crowded. other mobility aids get kicked and knocked over. neurodivergent people can get overstimulated by the deafening music very quickly. photosensitive people can have seizures due to the strobing lights. people with emetophobia like me run the risk of running into those types of triggers. people who are overstimulated by intoxicated people have no choice but to deal with it. dancing is one of the only activities to do other than drink and not many disabled (or even abled) people can dance for extended periods of time comfortably.

not to mention these spaces are not geared toward aromantic or asexual people at all, either. there is a long list of reasons why bars should not be our primary venues of interaction with one another. they serve a specific purpose- for people who want to cruise- but for the rest of us, it's really crucial that we have spaces that provide meaningful interactions with other queers on other levels of our identities.

some people just want to hang out with other queers in a quiet environment and craft, or shop, or drink coffee, or read books together, or just about any other activity on planet earth, and that's not "lame" or "cringy" or bad in any way- these are extremely normal and necessary parts of human interaction that we all require and crave and it's normal to want to do healthy, domestic things with other queers. we need this in our lives.

please take it seriously when people attempt to create queer spaces that don't involve alcohol and bars. it's necessary for our survival and well being as a community.

#queer

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as someone who has been scarred for life by experiences at gay bars, i need people to understand it's beyond tacky to mock people who want queer spaces beyond queer bars- it's dangerous.

let me explain. i went to 2 of my local queer bars a lot last year, as much as i was able to despite being poor. i witnessed a fist fight that was so bloody that ended up with a transmisogynistic drag queen getting hit in the head with a metal baton. the sight caused me to uncontrollably throw up in the bathroom of the club because of how gruesome it was. they had to close down the club and forard people out the back door because of how out of hand this person got- he was screaming transmisogynstic slurs and phrases at the bouncers were were transfem.

i was also sexually assaulted at these places, i was repeatedly groped by several people who i was not interacting with in the first place who found me attractive and decided physically grabbing me on numerous occasions was the way to get my attention. being femme in a queer bar is dangerous even if the people groping you are gay men.

i am also a recovering addict who dealt with alcohol issues in the past and could be considered a recovering alcoholic. i don't want to be around alcohol. i don't want to smell it. it triggers awful memories and also sometimes makes me consider getting a drink, but i can't have one, because the medications i take will cause a fatal reaction- i don't want to be tempted to drink, because it will kill me.

it's not right to mock someone or call them childish or whatever for not wanting to go to a club. whenever alcohol is involved, people's inhibitions are gone and they will do whatever. this includes fighting. i witnessed several other fights. just because it's a queer bar doesn't mean there won't be fights. and it especialyl doesn't m ean that you won't get groped or assaulted because, like i said, since alcohol is involved and it's a bar, there's a high chance this can and will happen.

queer people are not inherently safe angels to be around by virtue of being queer. there are still transphobes in queer bars. tranny chasers come to these bars. homophobic lesbians show up and lesbophobic gay men show up. drag queens and performers bring their cishet friends and family to support their shows. these are not perfect havens. they are not safe. we should not force other queers to interact with inherently dangerous spaces if these are supposed to be our safe spaces.

also these spaces are not friendly to people with disabilities; wheelchair users have nowhere to go especially when it's very crowded. other mobility aids get kicked and knocked over. neurodivergent people can get overstimulated by the deafening music very quickly. photosensitive people can have seizures due to the strobing lights. people with emetophobia like me run the risk of running into those types of triggers. people who are overstimulated by intoxicated people have no choice but to deal with it. dancing is one of the only activities to do other than drink and not many disabled (or even abled) people can dance for extended periods of time comfortably.

not to mention these spaces are not geared toward aromantic or asexual people at all, either. there is a long list of reasons why bars should not be our primary venues of interaction with one another. they serve a specific purpose- for people who want to cruise- but for the rest of us, it's really crucial that we have spaces that provide meaningful interactions with other queers on other levels of our identities.

some people just want to hang out with other queers in a quiet environment and craft, or shop, or drink coffee, or read books together, or just about any other activity on planet earth, and that's not "lame" or "cringy" or bad in any way- these are extremely normal and necessary parts of human interaction that we all require and crave and it's normal to want to do healthy, domestic things with other queers. we need this in our lives.

please take it seriously when people attempt to create queer spaces that don't involve alcohol and bars. it's necessary for our survival and well being as a community.

#as someone who’s aroace and generally does not like alcohol #i’d rather rip every individual hair off of my body than go to a club #based on what i’ve read it’s like. a prime hookup spot or whatever #and i just can’t deal with that. the idea of someone dating me makes me want to curl up into a ball and cease #and i just have an aversion to alcohol because it tastes bad and the texture is like. slimy water #queer