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so. moving is going great

#poor Muriel #good omens #go fanart #ineffable partners

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i want 60 thousand votes by next thursday

#almost halfway there #polls

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This has caused great debate among my math friends so I think it needs tumblr's input

#i love how 60% of us want to marry equilateral #and then the 3rd choice is kill equilateral #anyway #definitely marry equilateral #kill scalene #that leaves fuck isosceles by default #polls #geometry

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But it does.

#ao3 stuff

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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

#good advice #relationships #friendships #mental health

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Add your culture/region in the tags if you want to! Anon is slavic and never knocks.

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We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

#polls #us american #always knock

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Twitter users are defending their right to assume Picasso was a renaissance artist. Tiktok users think watching any film made outside the US makes you a snob. “Replace classic lit with YA and fan fiction” discourse is flourishing. I think we’re just living in anti intellectual times.

#forever reblog

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Reblog so everyone can hear what they need.

#polls #writing advice

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Things I’m learning about All For the Game fans: a lot of y’all didn’t grow up with a cheese drawer in your fridge and it shows

#polls #i know nothing about aftg #but yeah #i have a cheese drawer #i also keep deli meats in it #but it’s still the cheese drawer

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Miss Congeniality (2000) ↳ Dir. Donald Petrie

#april 25th #miss congeniality #the perfect date #tumblr holidays #april 25

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#polls

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you wouldn't last an hour in the asylum where they raised me

#yessss #scans daily #my wasted youth #boostle

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#snerk #philosophy #the trolley problem

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lmaooo

#bureaucracy exists for a reason #red tape exists for a reason #every newbie who thinks they can improve things by streamlining them #needs to do their damn research first #cybertruck #tesla

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Hey, happy Earth Day! Who wants to talk about climate change?

Yeah, okay, fair, I kinda figured the answer to that would be "ugh do we have to?" What if I told you I have good news though? Good news with caveats, but still good news.

What if I told you that since the Paris Agreement in 2015, we've avoided a whole degree celsius of global warming by 2100, or maybe more?

Current projections are 2.7C, which is way better than the 3-5C (with a median of 3.7C) we were expecting in 2015. It's not where we want to be - 1.5C - but it is big, noticeable progress!

And it's not like we either hit 1.5C and avoid all the big scary consequences or fail to hit 1.5C and get all of them - every tenth of a degree of warming we avoid is going to prevent more severe problems like extreme weather, sea level rise, etc.

This means that climate change mitigation efforts are having a noticeable impact! This means a dramatically better, safer future - and if we keep pushing, we could lower the amount of global warming we end up with even further. This is huge progress, and we need to celebrate it, even though the fight isn't over.

It's working. Keep going.

#climate change #good news

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guy who is definitely not about to fall into a surprise midday nap with an aftermath worse than a hangover: it seems like a really good idea to lay in bed and get cozy under the blanket as part of my plan not to fall asleep. I do not know why.

#do it do it do it

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#nice