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[kitkitkittycat]

And i love love, i have always loved it. I have dreamt of romance. And fucked up my relationships because I did not understand myself when I was a teenager. But I do want to be loved

Just had the sudden realisation that none of people who've shown interest in me would love me if they find out I am asexual. Nor any of my past lovers. None of them would stay around if they really processed the fact that I am asexual. Maybe they'd flirt with me hoping my asexuality doesn't mean I am asexual towards them, because maybe they are different, I am after all still talking to them, why would I if I was asexual?

And these are the thoughts that go around my head whenever I try dating. It's exhausting

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Just had the sudden realisation that none of people who've shown interest in me would love me if they find out I am asexual. Nor any of my past lovers. None of them would stay around if they really processed the fact that I am asexual. Maybe they'd flirt with me hoping my asexuality doesn't mean I am asexual towards them, because maybe they are different, I am after all still talking to them, why would I if I was asexual?

And these are the thoughts that go around my head whenever I try dating. It's exhausting

#asexuality #queer community #acespec #ace problems #ace pride #ace flux

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Sometimes I wish asexuality and aromanticism weren’t so often lumped together in online communities. Obviously, I would never begrudge an aroace person the right to tag both of their identities in a post about, well, both of their identities. But as an ace person who isn’t aro, sometimes I wish I could scroll the ace tag and see more things that were JUST about being ace and not about being aro.

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"critic hoping to be remembered wouldn't fare well" is a wild fucking line and I love Hozier for it

#hozier #unreal unearth #unheard #fare well

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in jujutsu kaisen we don't say "i love you" we say "if you die again i will kill you" and "love is the most twisted curse of them all" and i think that's beautiful

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YES

like i immediately fell in love with Farewell the moment I heard it. It's such a beautiful expression of really letting yourself just grieve freely I just love it so much

I think Fare Well deserves so much more hype... I mean how can you ignore lines like 'joy disaster come unbound here, i deny me none ' or 'kitten cozy in the engine type of wouldn't fare well' or 'i'll take any solitary pleasure that was sorrow in disguise'

I like Too sweet but honestly other 3 songs are much more beautiful and meaningful

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Do you think Satosugu.... in Pride and Prejudice? 👀 Listen Megumi is Jane and Itadori is Bingley

#satosugu #fanfic #pride and prejudice #but who will be mr darcy #gojo satoru #geto suguru #yuji itadori #megumi fushiguro

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best friends

song is seven by taylor swift!

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I made a couple of flow charts for the ace and aro spectrums! Not meant to be taken 100% factual- you know yourself better than a basic flowchart. They’re mainly just for fun, though they can also be a good start for anyone questioning!

(Free to use as long as you keep my url on them and aren’t making money off it!)

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asexuality is not an inconvenience. it isn't a burden to change your conversation topics to avoid making a sex repulsed asexual feel uncomfortable or unsafe. it isn't about you if an asexual romantic or life partner does not want to have sex. it's none of your business if an asexual person has frequent sex, or makes money off of their body or sexuality. it's not an attempt to manipulate you when an asexual/aceflux person has fluctuating levels of sex favorability, neutrality and/or repulsion.

someone else's asexuality isn't about you, it is not inherently overstepping your boundaries. forcing the asexual person to cope or deal with things that make them uncomfortable or go against the way they want to live their lives is overstepping their boundaries, and people need to accept this.

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Diversity win! The horniest person you know is on the asexual spectrum

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Yes, I’m asexual, but feeling sexy, attractive, etc. is the biggest confidence boost ever

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Even after all this time and awareness, it feels like asexuality is still not treated like a proper sexuality. Recently had a girl tell me that she was at a place where she ‘felt so asexual’ because all the other girls were so beautiful and guys were ignoring her because of it. She didn’t know I was asexual and I didn’t take offence (I know she didn't meant it in a malicious way) but it does feel uncomfortable that people are using ‘asexual’ in lieu of ‘unattractive' or 'lacking sexual appeal.' It's really giving 90's/early 2000's slang of using 'gay' to mean 'lame.' Even shows like Brooklyn 99 which took immense pride in being progressive with their comedy, had an episode where one of the characters says "Oh, and I'm sorry if we implied you're both asexual nerds who can only be friends with service animals."

I have mentioned this before also, when I talked about how I feel like people are more comfortable erasing the identities of canonical aro/ace characters in media but act like it's unacceptable with other sexualities... but it does feel like asexuality (and aromanticism tbh) are still not considered 'real' sexualities. In the case of shipping fictional characters, I understand there is nuance to that issue and so don't want to get into it, but it does kinda add to my point.

Why is it that people treat asexuality like it's not a sexuality? Why is it that when I come out to people I'm met with insistence that I'm wrong about my sexuality, that I'm 'self diagnosing' (it's not a medical condition), that I'm probably 'just inexperienced' or haven't 'met the right person' or have a hormone issue? Why can't people just accept that it's a sexuality like any other??

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I found you. Finally. 💜

Cs_ao3 - https://twitter.com/cs_ao3/

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So true

having to tell people hozier is the ‘take me to church guy’ instead of ‘the intimate irish singer that sings of oppression and religion and devoted love’ is our lowest point as a society

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Does anyone want a Sad Taylor playlist? I am sad and want to share it with my people