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#reminder

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How ya doing my mutual? (Im pretty sure your still a mutual)

Hello moot! I’ve been sitting on this ask for over a month because I wanted to have something nice and fun to say but that is just not how life is going right now so here we are.

It has been a hell of a limbo between work and health issues but on the upside I have been enjoying the Stardew Valley 1.6 update (not very far in yet). Otherwise the angst is truly angsting.

How about you?

#house-rat #asks #dragongames

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Child!me: *oblivious to the abuse I’m experiencing*

Also child!me: *writes a story about a kid locked in a basement who’s not allowed to so much as look out the window because they’re told the world is apocalyptic and dangerous and they’re safer down there*

#it is wild the way my brain processed things while still being in complete denial #childhood trauma #child abuse #house-rat

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Estranged child culture is being afraid to google yourself because you don’t even want to think about what information your abusive family has access to.

#if my work location comes up i will genuinely cry #so i’m just not gonna think about it and hope it’s not there #cyberstalking #cptsd #house-rat

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Call me single-use plastic the way I’m disposable.

#the emo be emoing #emotional flashbacks #possibly triggering #cptsd #house-rat

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Can people stop equating hygiene with morality? I genuinely don’t care if someone’s poor hygiene is due to simply not trying or caring rather than a disability. I don’t want to hear about smelly gamers or white people not washing their legs or anything else. I don’t care. Shaming people for it accomplishes nothing and only demonstrates that your allyship and support for disabled people is conditional on us being “disabled enough”.

We hear you when you complain about these things that you call gross and disgusting and repulsive. The way other people choose or don’t choose to care for themselves and their own bodies is frankly none of your business, and if you truly cared about changing things you would focus on education rather than shame.

#hygiene #cleanliness #ableism #house-rat

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Endlessly disheartening and frustrating how leftists who are overall critical of the ways society fabricates and controls our collective values and ideals still continue to swallow the gospel of fatphobia hook line and sinker.

#but this one is different #this is the thing that is actually bad #totally not influenced by billions of dollars in marketing and bias and prejudice #fatphobia #house-rat

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It feels like so many people’s support for diversity breaks down when that means diversity within a group rather than between groups.

Diversity is great until you have to confront the multiplicity of experiences shared by people who use the same labels as you. It’s all good until you have to accept that your experience is not universal or even generalizable to your group. It’s fine until you can’t relate to someone you expect to.

Whether it’s discussions of queerness or disability or whatever the fuck else, I really wish we could all come to a point where it is not a threat that other people who are like you can still have vastly different experiences. No group is a monolith. Please please please consciously embrace those differences instead of telling people they are “wrong” or “diluting the meaning” of whatever.

#anti exclusionist #diversity #house-rat

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I keep seeing that post going around about the irony of an article titled “The growing inaccessibility of science” being stuck behind a paywall and this is maybe a ridiculous nit to pick (which is why I’m making this its own post) but the article itself isn’t about its inaccessibility from a material standpoint but from a linguistic standpoint.

Like the entire article is an analysis of the jargon used in scientific journals and other scientific literature and how it has increased significantly over the 20th century, making research findings intelligible to a smaller and smaller niche. Its methodology is a little iffy but the conclusion is that there’s been a dramatic loss in forms of scientific communication that are intelligible to the general public. You can read the entire thing here, it’s a short paper.

(Also just as a fun bonus fact: part of the methodology involved creating a scale to measure the lexical difficulty of a given text; the lowest ranking was farm workers talking to dairy cows which scored -59.1 on the scale).

#science writing #science communication #house-rat

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Hello! I am a queer ex-muslim child! Also I likely have adhd. Can you tell me your experiences? (Also when I say queer I mean afab neptunic demigirl) {2e means twice exceptional I can give you a link to learn more}

https://www.davidsongifted.org/gifted-blog/twice-exceptional-definition-characteristics-identification/

Hi! Not sure what specifically you’d like to know more about but I realized I was queer and became ex-Muslim as an adult so you’re already way ahead of where I was on that front!

I grew up in an abusive family and managed to escape after graduating university. It was only after I had the space that I was really able to fully re-evaluate myself and my beliefs and start to heal from everything and build a fuller sense of self.

I hope you’re in an okay situation and that you have some kind of support, whether it is family or friends. And I hope as you grow you can create an independent life for yourself where you’re accepted for who you are and are free to express yourself however you want.

My inbox is open if you have any questions or need advice!

#asks #ex muslim #about the rat

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It baffles me how common the opinion is that polyamory isn’t queer because “cishet(endoallos) can be poly”. Like? Are we really going to pretend that polyamory isn’t by and large a deviation from societal norms? That poly people don’t continue to experience many of the same systemic issues that other queer people do (marriage equality is only the start). Even if every individual in a polycule is not queer in any other way (which oftentimes isn’t the case) that doesn’t make allying ourselves with them and acknowledging the very real oppression and erasure they face any less important!

The amount of queer people who are against polyamory and actively make fun of poly relationships is staggering and a little gross ngl

#it is wild to me to hear this same rhetoric from people who ‘support aces and allos’ #LIKE DO YOU REALLY? #are you sure about that??? #polyamory

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The co-option and watering down of the fat liberation movement into a way to assuage the fears of straight-sized people is honestly fucking tragic. Reducing “body positivity” down to an issue of self-esteem and self-acceptance erases the very real systemic oppression and violence that fat people experience.

Like, yes! We all deserve to feel good about ourselves. But to pretend that is the only issue is laughable and contributes to the continued marginalization of fat people.

So much “body-positivity” just boils down to, “You’re not as fat as you think!” and only serves to reinforce fatphobia. Your before-and-after slouching photos are fatphobic. Your reassurance that, “Everyone has a pouch there! That’s where your organs are!” is fatphobic. Your comparison of different jeans that are all different sizes in different stores but all fit the same is fatphobic. Anything that’s meant to reassure thin people they’re not fat is fatphobic. Anything that fails to acknowledge that some people actually are fat is fatphobic. And you can’t be “body-positive” and fatphobic. They are mutually exclusive.

#it all makes me want to scream #fat is not bad fat is not bad fat is not bad #fatphobia #body positivity

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Love how “progressives” have circled back around to “there are two races: indigenous (magic nature people) and colonizers (evil mutants).”

#the two genders #performative self-flagellation and uwu they can do no wrongism is not it #racism #decolonisation

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Gender is a dessert bar and I’m not hungry

Gender is a dessert bar and a lot of people think the only two options are cake and cookies but there's actually a shit ton of different desserts. you can get more than one, you can not get any, you can mix them together, you can do whatever you want. And if you turn around there's a whole pizza making station. The options aren't limited. Do whatever makes you happy

#gender #agender #trans

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Okay but unironically this is why there was such a focus on making sure you are insulated from “secular culture”. It’s easier to convince people that living in sin is this horrible depraved thing if you ensure there is minimal contact with them and you can paint what they do as grotesque and awful as you like. The main fear of secularity was the fear of it being normal. And that’s why high-control religions thrive off isolation and concealing information. You can’t tell children about sex or queerness or whatever other debauchery, not because they ���won’t understand” but because they won’t automatically have the response of hatred and revulsion you need to actively cultivate.

#ex religious #ex muslim #religious trauma

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Can’t figure out if my discomfort with certain compliments re: my appearance, intelligence, and general skills is a moral scrupulosity thing or a regular thing.

#like does it make sense that i feel bad when complimented on something i haven’t work for? because it feels like i didn’t earn it? #and it just makes me feel gross because it’s implying i’m better than others or should be appreciated for something i had no say in? #or is that projection and punishing myself for no reason? #help #moral scrupulosity #house-rat

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Call me Kd the way my dissociation is constant.

#the audience is niche for this one but i hope it finds its people #puns #biochemistry #dissociation #cptsd #house-rat