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Thank you @thedupattaknowswhatsup and everyone who got me to 250 reblogs!

"These fatal fantasies

Giving way to labored breath

Taking all of me

We’ve already done it in my head"

- Guilty as sin? by Taylor Swift

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Communication is the key of a good relationship. These guys had explosive sextual tension, undying live,complicated history between them,but when it came to communication, they failed at it, damn it. With times they learned to a degree.But it is the tale of that time when they were in the very nescent stage of establishing communication between them.

But in these scene admist of their angry screaming they heard each other like never before.

From Arnav to Khushi

Rituals and customs didn't matter very much to Arnav, but they mattered to khushi.Arnav slowly came to realization that their elopement and his lack of faith in traditions and custom had prevented khushi to have a proper tradition marriage with all the rituals that she always dreamt of.So,to rectify this situation, the atheist and Gamophobic Arnav agreed to have a fully traditional marriage with proper rituals and customs only for khushi.And not only he learned about the rituals of marriage probably from the internet but also he tried to participate in them despite of clear discomfort. And his respect for her faith brought khushi immense happiness.

Yes,rituals and customs had meanings to him because they had meaning to khushi and khushi held the ultimate meaning in Arnav's life.

From Khushi to Arnav

It was always a great confusion and reason of many of Arnav's heartache that he thought khushi didn't feel for him or didn't feel as much as he did. And admist the all betrayal that was the reason of Arnav's heartache was that she might not feel for him at all and worst she was in love with someone else. That confusion cleared out during kidnapping when khushi risked her life for him. But for a traditional girl like khushi to go against her religious values was ultimate proof of love for her. And she would do that gladly for Arnav.For her love is religion. She had gone against her religious values for Arnav and she would do that again gladly and yes,his feelings had meaning to her.This girl would do anything for his love. Nothing was more important than his feelings and whatever he wanted had utmost meaning to her.As she was not sure of his feelings before,she was fearful to share intimacy with him.She wasn't afraid anymore.So,she gave herself to him in all the sense of this mortal world without any religious marriage.

My Scattered thoughts (9/?)

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I put a spell on you, Now you are mine

( I put a spell on you by Annie Lennox & you put a spell on me by Austin Giorgio)

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just want to keep this masterpiece in my timeline.

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"These fatal fantasies

Giving way to labored breath

Taking all of me

We’ve already done it in my head"

- Guilty as sin? by Taylor Swift

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Janam dekhlo mit gayi dooriyaan Veer-zaara(2004),directed by Yash Chopra

Reality vs Dream

One Man's Reality is Another Man's Dream

Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon & Veer-Zaara

(Part 01 / Part 02)

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Dil mein magar jalte rahe

chaahat ke diye

tere liye , tere liye

Veer-zaara(2004),directed by Yash Chopra

Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon & Veer-Zaara

(Part 01 / Part 02)

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She's got you high (song by Mumm-Ra)

Mr. & Mrs. Raizada

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I will drown with this ship, thank you.

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Let's talk about some heavy stuff. I don't mind watching something problematic as long as it is portraited as such.

When I watched this episode then and even now I don't find it out-of-character as some might find,I had reason I'll discuss. did I find it problematic? yes,sure, he was not reading her body language right,she was terrified. was it portraited as problematic? yes, I never felt that the show was trying to romanticise this situation inspite of the romantic music. Because the music and the song was for Arnav only, not for them as a couple.If what he intended to do was successful, then I would have a problem with it. To my understanding,Arnav was having a different types of turmoil in his mind.

I will talk about two things.

Arnav's abandonment issue

Arnav's PTSD

This was the episode that was telecasted on 13 august, 2012. I have a post highlighted many days that have the probability of being the last day of their contact marriage, mainly because it was fun. And also if anyone watched IPKKND now,they have no way to tell which is the last day as no character mentioned it.But since 2012, the episode where he said 'I love you, damnit' was the last day of their contact marriage as canon for me.So, I watched this episode and still do with the mindset that it's the last day.

Arnav's Abandonment issue

Arnav was terrified of losing people he loved,that didn't need any explanation.That fear came from losing his mother, who he loved most.Also because his mother left him instead of staying alive for his sake. Arnav had been on a emotional roller-coster ride since the moment he met khushi. He fought so hard to not fall for her,but end up doing the very same thing that destroyed his parents. That day on terrace, among many thing, he lost the girl he loved as well. That's a different kind of pain.the person was not dead,she was even his wife,but to him he lost the girl, he loved and dreamt to have a future with. That marriage was as painful and toxic for him as it was for khushi.

Then against all odds,he got her back again,which was very short-lived,his fear almost came true,she stopped breathing. just notice what he was kept chanting '' you can't do this to me ''. And then he continued to go through situation where he could lose her again and again.He started to feel detached from her.

And then he just got her back home by using all the tricks in his arsenal - trying to be vulnerable, threat,manipulation and what not.I think Arnav understood to a extent the reason behind her leaving home under the guise of buaji's illness,as she couldn't live in a house where everyone is bothered by her.He understood that khushi was making herself responsible for everyone's pain and punishing herself as such.Remember how he was having a conversation with a sleeping khushi about how di would understand.Then he tried his level best to make her comfortable in his home,to make shantivan her home too.All the gifts were indication of that,then return to her fav bed side,trying to establish her status in his household.

But return of dadi and her defiance to accept khushi,surely bothered Arnav to a great extend.She started to antagonise khushi with every chance she got. And the clock of contact marriage was ticking.Even if it was not the last day, how dadi was trying to throw khushi out of the house, At that point if khushi again tried to leave Arnav,it would had been very difficult for Arnav to get her back again.Then khushi started talking about their marriage not being complete. I got a feeling here that Arnav was planning something for convincing khushi of his love, but with return of dadi, returned his PTSD,that rendered him unable to perform what he was planning.But if they consumated the marriage, then it would mean a great deal to khushi and she would not leave him if she accepted him as her husband.I think he became desperate here. And as khushi best responded when she was challenged to do something, he selected that method to achieve his goal. So, in the last day of contact marriage, he tried to consumate their marriage. And together with his triggered PTSD, the situation in hand became very messy.

Arnav's PTSD

It was established in the show that when Arnav is triggering his untreated and unaddressed PTSD reared it's ugly head and he ended up doing terrible things.

I just see a pattern.If his PTSD was not triggered,then he would have been patient and more in-tune with khushi just like he was on bachelor night.

But this post isn't a justification of his action. I just understand why he did whatever he'd done that night like I understand why he tore her dori the very first time he met her. He was absolutely wrong in both situation.

I just feel very bad for both Arnav and khushi in this episode. Bitwa just wanted that one thing in his life to go smoothly. And khushi wasn't letting it happen,so he was very angry at her.And on the other hand the dadi, who was very essential for him in his childhood just kept pestering him.And khushi, oh baby, God bless you. Just a few days khushi, then you wouldn't need any proof of his love,you would be so sure of that.

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Nafrat paas aane na de, mohabbat door jaane na de.

Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon? | 2011-2012

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Hold me close by Hammy Brown

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Iss Pyaar ko kya naam doon and bollywood (songs not included)

PART - 03

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Iss Pyaar ko kya naam doon and bollywood (songs not included)

PART - 02

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Iss Pyaar ko kya naam doon and bollywood (songs not included)

PART - 01

PART - 01 / PART - 02 / PART - 03

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Color my world with hope of loving you

Mr. & Mrs. Raizada

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Haq, Hosh, Haya aur Hum

One of the sweetest Rabba Ve’s in the show. It has everything that is quintessentially them. The slow realization of a moment. They way it simmers and sinks into their muscle and memory. A moment suspended in time where very little exists outside their bubble. Her hesitation that stems from shyness and uncertainty of it all. The blatant desire in his eyes that speaks a lot of love and longing.

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