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"the patriarchy hurts everyone" does not mean "therefore the patriarchy benefits no one". Discussions on here regarding misogyny have become stagnant or perhaps even regressive. I get y'all are scared of looking t*rfy but avoiding the problem won't make it go away. It's also dangerous to think only transphobes talk about such an important issue.

Misogyny is still rampant among leftist circles and it shouldn't be excused just because you find the targeted woman annoying or mean. Sometimes you got to bite the bullet and not laugh along with the guy making sexist jokes, even when the woman he's aiming them at pisses you off. Women and other marginalized genders are still suffering. They're still facing high rates of sexual assault, harassment, mental illness, domestic abuse, and poverty. Stop looking away just cuz it makes you uncomfy.

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It is horrifying (and unfortunately unsurprising) how many people's feminism goes out the window when it comes to bi women. Everybody's all 'stop victim blaming' and 'teach men not to rape' until it comes to bisexual women and then it's 'well what did they expect by "choosing" to date men'. It's all 'men are responsible for their own actions ' but bisexual women are somehow responsible for lesbians getting harassed and assaulted by men. Women shouldn't be defined by their (male) partner until it's a bisexual woman in which case not only is her entire sexuality should be dependent on said male partner but she is irrevocably tainted by them. It really is remarkable

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Merry christmas bisexuals ily

#bi positivty #bi posi #bisexuality

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idk where else to put this cause i hate talking about it to friends because i have run this situation into the ground., but its also been very hard to process and accept in myself and i just need it out somewhere.

anyway i dated a guy long distance September to mid November and the first red flag was he got really upset when id just have bi colors or flags or make jokes about being bi occasionally but i sort of dropped it cause he seemed understanding once i explained my point if view and granted this was early early in the relationship.

Anyway then it became him getting worried about me being friends with guys and him “asking” me not to hang out with them and getting mad if i tried to reassure him so it got to the point i flat out had to be distant from any guy friends even gay guy friends cause “they could secretly be into women.”

then it became asking if my female friends were bi or gay and getting mad if they were and interrogating me anytime i did so much as play a valorant match with one. Then it became “well all girls kind of swing that way” and since im bi im not really allowed to hang out with anyone cause i “might cheat.”

Then he’d get angry if i was hanging out with friends irl after work and my phone died cause i had been working all day and him accusing me of cheating anytime id hang out with friends despite never having had sex never, having had kissed anyone since the second grade.

Slowly but surely he’d reassure me that i could have friends but it was much easier to just distance myself from everyone but him so i didnt risk the anger and the yelling and the accusations of things i never even thought of doing. There was also the threats of him raping me over and over and tying me up so that he didnt have to worry thinly veiled as just kinky but being brought up anytime he was angry with me for having friends. It was easier to stay hoke then argue about the fact that life360 or snapmaps had me at a weird place cause my phone service was bad and didn’t update right.

and idk it feels weird i think cause it was long distance to consider it abuse even emotional but then the people around me are so adamant it was and so worried that 1. he knows where i live and 2. if i would have were to ever see him in person he would probably harm me.

And idk why that if a friend told me the same thing i would also be adamant it was emotional abuse but when i think of it myself it feels like it wasnt or at the most i deserved it.

And it makes me nauseous to think that this all falls in like and is exactly where the statistics about bi peoples’ abuse comes from. We are considered untrustworthy because of our bisexuality and sometimes it just snowballs and how so many of my bi siblings have gone through and are going through much worse. And its hard to accept that it counts because of the distance

And ig its weird to be sick that i am now part of those statistics if i really sit to think about it and how at the same time people debate biphobia and violence about bi people on twitter.

And anyway idk i have felt like kind of a shell of myself and truthfully many of my friendships haven’t recovered from the distance i created and i cant blame them but its just shshshssh

i hope my future relationship endeavors treat me better and i hope for the safety and healthy relationships of all my bi siblings.

#biphobia #vent #personal #bi misogyny #also if i see another person say its cause we date men when i see lesbians say the same shit towards bi women about us being cheaters or #fake gay ill lose my mine #bi violence #also like this dude got mad at me for talking with my roommate when i was on call with him #tbh tho thank goodness for my irl friends who saw me come out of the freezer at work after crying #and began to pry out of me what was going on #then talked me into dumping him cause like shshsh #i genuinely think he wouldve raped or done worse to me if thag had gone further and we ended up visiting each other

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hello fellow bi women anyone wanna kiss????

#mine #bi #bi women

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I have a website about bisexual books now! 💗💜💙

I’m covering books which usually don’t make it onto lists of bi representation so if you’re underwhelmed by YA or tired of reading exclusively US literature, this might be the site for you!

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honestly annoyed by the argument that the only reason it's okay for straight/cis people to create media about lgbt people/play lgbt characters is because they might be closeted or questioning or whatever. it's weirdly self-othering to imply that your existence is so foreign that the majority of society wouldn't be able to depict it in any way worth doing, but some of them might just be temporarily unaware that they're actually part of the outgroup so we might as well let them. the quality of a piece of media and its capacity to be handled badly or end up outright offensive is not inherently tied to whether or not the people that make it match 1:1 with its content.

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I already reblogged a post with links to abortion funds. But I would like to specifically mention the Yellowhammer Fund.

They serve the deep south, aka one of the regions that will be greatly fucked over by the Supreme Court’s ruling. Please consider donating to them if you have the means to do so.

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bisexuals i’m giving you some freshly baked brownies rn <3

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Hi Grace! Do you have any advice or can you point me where I can get advice on coming out as an older adult? I’m not in my 20s anymore and want to come out to my family but the thought really scares me. I’d appreciate any help, thanks!

I came out in my early twenties so I don’t have a ton of personal advice for you unfortunately but I do have some respurces I found online of people discussing it!

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With that said, I am so so proud of you taking those steps. I do think in general coming out you need to mentally prepare yourself for if it doesn’t go well, think positively but definitely prepare. Like hope for the best expect the worse kind of thing. Also know that this is a part of yourself that is a privilege for others to know, that you are giving a gift to them by being willing to share something you’ve kept so personal so long, so I think its good to think about what would make you most comfortable and happy. Some people like subtly coming out and mentioning it offhandedly or bringing a partner to a family thing and some people like setting up a conversation or surprise. Do what makes you feel happiest safest and most comfortable!

Also keep in mind coming out is never a one time event. Because of heteronormativity, everyone is assumed straight until proven otherwise and so you might be coming out to people the rest of your life if you choose to but again it is your info to share when and how you please. Personally, I don’t tell a lot of people for me if it comes up it comes up but thats whats true to me as a person that works for my environment and my situation and that might not be the case for you! Coming out varies person to person so much.

Again, I am so proud of you that you have gotten to a point of self acceptance in order to come out! I wish you all the best and hope this is helpful! if anyone has advice feel free to add on ❤️

#coming out #lgbt #lgbt+ #ask #answered #anon

[divinebisexualgoddess]

With the reversal of roe v wade, I see a lot of people being angry with republicans which yes, but I think we also need to be angry at democrats.

The entire establishment is trash and democrats specifically have kept our rights as some sort of bargaining chip to get us to vote for them over the other guy because they’ll “protect our rights.” Meanwhile they have had super majorities and the ability to codify roe v wade and other, on the table, supreme court decisions and have not done so, putting our rights at risk so they have a bargaining chip to get more votes thats why your email is flooded with vote dem and get the republicans out of office.

democrats play the nice guy but are just as sinister in that they make no effort to actually protect our rights when they have the power to because they know that once those are off the table its much easier to vote third party and clean out the establishment. you should be as angry with your democratic representatives as with the republicans because they had the power to prevent this and chose not to so they could use our rights as a bargaining chip to secure their seats in future elections and now its fucking us over and will likely fuck over even more people as time goes on

#us politics #roe v wade #supreme court #scotus #like not to be a doomer but they are absolutely going to look at obgerfell and #and loving next since roe v wade set the precedent for that #we are in for a very bad series of events #and the people who say they will protect us are too consumed with keeping power to actually use it #fuckinh cowards

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A.S.S. squad is for the bisexuals. Happy Pride Month! ❤️💜💙

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May all Bi people experience gentle and nurturing love whether it be from their partner their family or their friends and especially that love from themselves. You deserve gentleness and kindness and softness. You deserve safety and security and happiness

#bi positivty #lgbt positivity #bi men #bi women #just thinking about how sweet my boyfriend is #and how much confidence and acceptance ive gained for myself since letting my guard down to be loved #tho i have every intention of marrying him if tuings didnt work out for whatever readon i know ill come out of this relationship happier #healthier and more at peace with myself as well as more confident and i hope to always do the same for him #hes my best friend and the love of my life im so lucky and hapoy and i just wish that everyone can experience that #and i believe everyone can

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y’all really had bisexual femmes and butches feeling like they had to write out a six page mla format essay on why they feel like they should use have the right to use those identifiers and you felt no shame in harassing and chasing off those who rightly told you that you have no say in how they label themselves like we ain’t never going to forget that lol