comfortperson

[comfortperson]

i think im in love with my dp and im real scared im going to push him away on accident or on purpose because i need him and i wish i didnt need him as much as i do

Self fulfilling prophecies are a curse, it's very important to remind yourself every reason you shouldt push them away, it's not fair to either of your happiness. Try to communicate in nonaccusitory ways.

Ie "When this happens, i worry that you will (feel negatively/do something negative) because ..." writing these things down before addressing them sometimes helps me slow down, organize and rationalize so I can find a way to address my fears that won't hurt my fp in the process. I hope this advice helps

#your feelings are true and valid and its difficult but beautiful to feel so hard #were here for you and love you

[comfortperson]

There would be nothing without you

🖤🖤🖤

[comfortperson]

Hey, how’s this blog/the mod(s) doing? It’s been quiet for a while and I’m Worried™️

Hello, long time no tumbl. Sarah is here after finally getting back onto my old account. Everything has changed and idk how to check if the other mods still have access. I can't believe how big this thing got and am so thankful so many people are or were able to relate.

And an overdue thank you to my years old friends on here who had been intermittently continuing this blog. I can't much remember who all worked together and wo may still be here but the years I lost my login info I never forgot, and thank you all. I do plan to continue answering new asks, so let's go! 2022 welcome back.

#sarah post #admin post

[comfortperson]

Stay kind during holiday times. Love and thoughts to all.

[comfortperson]

Every word you tell me echos around my head for ages, your offhand annoyed comment becomes a cruel symphony shouted in my brain

#suggestion #negative

[comfortperson]

thank you for being gentle, I needed that right now

#suggestion #positive #submission

[comfortperson]

Nothing I do can scare you as much as it scares me that I’m doing it

#suggestion #negative #submission

[comfortperson]

Do you need to have bpd to send a suggestion?

Nope! This is a place for people with the shared symptoms of a comfort person whether it takes shape through an fp, dp, sp, or whatever words you may use to describe them.

[comfortperson]

Hi!! It’s nice to see you in my dash again 💛💛 I hope you’re okay!!

Hi thanks! This is just one of the mods, I haven’t been in contact with the other two in a while but getting to talk and share research is good for my brain right now so I figured I’d pop back.

#theres hundreds of stories in the inbox

[comfortperson]

hi, i was wondering if there's anything like a crash that comes with dpd? i know people with npd have crashes and people with bpd can split but is there something like that for people with dpd? i really hope this makes sense.

It’s certainly possible! All these disorders can share symptoms and often coexist with anxiety disorders. However, dpd is classified as a cluster C disorder (anxious and fearful) and bpd and npd are cluster B disorders (overly emotional and erratic) so the outlashing associated with a crash is more common in a cluster B disorder (by my interpretation).

[comfortperson]

Remember: You are so wanted, so loved, and so adored

#submission #positive #suggestion

[comfortperson]

what's a dp?

It’s a term coined by people with DPD for someone who has become a place of trust and comfort(check out the glossary for more information!)

[comfortperson]

Is it possible to have more than one fp/dp?

As far as I’m aware it’s possible! It’s less of a rule-based thing and more of a commonly shared symptom.

[comfortperson]

Comfort: the app

After being diagnosed with a cluster B disorder, I started looking into people who were going through the same thing online. After making an alarm app that fell through, I decided to make an app for people with the same experience as me!

Over the last year I made an app called Comfort after the idea of a comfort person, which is inspired by this @comfortperson​ blog!

Comfort is a bot that you can talk to. If you’re feeling like you’re being ignored by your comfort person, send the bot the phrase “TextBack” and you’ll get specialized help!

#positive #suggestion #submission

[comfortperson]

You could hurt me, break my heart, and I’d still apologize for making those feelings toward me develop in the first place

#suggestion #negative

[comfortperson]

You say you won’t leave you say you won’t leave you say you won’t leave, so stop scaring me

#suggestion #negative

[comfortperson]

I don’t understand what it means to need a break from you, and it breaks me to hear you say it

#negative #suggestions