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there’s nothing more romantic than someone choosing to learn you. flipping the pages in your soul delicately and digesting your chapters with an open mind no matter how difficult or uncomfortable some of your moments read, treating each bookmark with no judgment, but pure love.

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idk I just personally think that getting chills from music is the best part of being alive. like when a song is so good you can feel it in your whole body. that's why I'm here.

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If your goal is to normalize gender-nonconformity you’re gonna have to accept that some people will fuck with gender as hard as they can while still being unequivocally, 100% cis and that is okay. There’s no egg to crack or callout to write. This is a good thing actually.

#gender fuckery #notrnm

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There are certain kinds of language “mistakes” that are really good, actually.

Today, I asked a 14-year-old to tell me about her country (China).

She came out with the sentence, “Beijing is the capital city and Xi Jinping is the….. um………….. capital person!”

Clearly, she didn’t know the word for president or leader in that moment, but she knew exactly how to use the vocabulary she had to communicate her point.

Years ago, when I was living in Wuhan, there was a snow flurry. I hadn’t taught my second grade class weather words yet. We were doing a unit about food and drinks in the fridge. A kid, who didn’t know the word for snow, pointed to the window and said, “Outside is… refrigerator…. water bottle.”

Anyway, those are the kinds of kids whose English abilities will function in any situation, whether they’ve learned the words and grammar to deal with it or not. Those are the kids who could know literally ten words of any language and somehow make it work for them.

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"you can't ship that, it'll never be canon!"

look, when I was your age, we shipped characters who never even met in canon. uphill. both ways. in the snow.

#fandom #notrnm #😂😂😂😂 #shipping

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Listen to me. Listen to me. Listen to me. Listen to me.

I know there is a lot of discourse (tm) around this right now but listen to me

sometimes you do just have to lie to children.

#children #parenting #tiny humans #notrnm

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@chasingshhadows wishing you some of Parker's Christmas spirit. She doesn't need...quite as much as she has haha.

#!!!!!! #parkers enthusiasm for Christmas is peak #leverage #leverage redemption #notrnm #thank you Riley 🥰

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#science! #the more you know #cool things #notrnm

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JOE KEERY as STEVE HARRINGTON STRANGER THINGS 4

#😍😍😍😍 #my colors 💜💚 #steve harrington #stranger things #pretty things #yummy things #thanks ked #notrnm

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ADHD is a disability. I know this. Nobody else around me does. When I say I can't do something, I don't need tips, I don't need encouragement, I need you to believe me. I need just one person to believe that I'm not lying when I say I am unable to do something because of my literal developmental disability. No more "just push through", no more "try harder", no more "I did it and you can too", because I am absolutely sure that in this moment I am unable to fucking do it! Please believe me for once. Please.

#sometimes we just need grace #adhd #adhd things #notrnm

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support group for niche blorbo appreciators

#🤣🤣🤣🤣 #fandom #tumblr #i fucking love this trashsite

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i don't want characters to be good or right i want them covered in blood

#it's true #notrnm

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I just had a non-smutreader read some of my smut for me, and their response kind of blew my mind.

I was told it was ‘too personal’ and made them uncomfortable. Now, it was pretty tame and this is a person who I know enjoys watching porn on a regular basis, so it wasn’t the subject matter that was uncomfortable.

They said it made them feel like a voyeur, watching a private moment that they weren’t supposed to see. That if they came across this in a novel they would skip forward because they didn’t need to know the private details.

They said they prefer porn because it’s less personal.

This is almost the complete opposite of the way I feel. Sure, porn can be ok now and then - but it just can’t compare to the emotional connection you get with well-written smut. I want the characters to love each other, or at least have strong feelings about each other. I want to know how good this feels to everyone involved. I want the backstory. I want the emotional connection.

Smut is good because it’s personal.

#👀👀👀👀 #iiiiiiiiiiinteresting #smut #fiction #notrnm

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#ephemeral things #human experiences #quotes #love this #notrnm

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Sometimes it is your fault.. Sometimes you don’t listen well enough, you’re selfish, you’re rude and you aren’t always right. Sometimes you fucked it up and tbh that’s okay. It happens, learn from it, apologize and keep it moving. Just because you fucked up doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Don’t dwell on it

#important things #humans #notrnm #growing up #thinky thoughts