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Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

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I’m lining up boys

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IF YOURE EGYPTIAN AND LGBTQ+ GET OFF ANY QUEER DATING SITES, THE POLICE ARE TRACKING AND HUNTING PEOPLE DOWN AGAIN. DELETE YOUR ACCOUNTS.

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ICYMI ... peak lesbian pop culture has arrived

ICYMI: We’re at peak queer lady pop culture! “Lesbian Jesus” Hayley Kiyoko’s prophecy about the power of #20GayTeen is coming true, and here’s some scientific evidence to back up this claim:

1. “Strangers” by Lauren Jauregui and Halsey 

Tbh I feel like this queer lady anthem didn’t get enough love when it came out (pun!), so circle back and bump it again because it really is a banger AND they use she/her pronouns the entire time!! (Also I’m definitely not going to stop shipping these two badass women…)

2. The lesbian plotline in “Blockers”

What a shocker… a trailer for a mainstream comedy neglected to feature the gay storyline! It’s not even just a subplot y’all, it’s a full-on PLOT. Wish I’d been able to see this when I was in high school… Might’ve helped me avoid a lot of awkward school dances.

3. Hayley Kiyoko’s debut album

An entire electro-pop album full of sexy songs about sexing women?! Wayyy too good to be true… Thank you, Lesbian Jesus! 

4. Demi and Kehlani get down and dirty

Okay remember when Demi Lovato and Kehlani started kissing and grinding on stage?!?! I’m still recovering… The best part was definitely when Kehlani cleared up any confusion about her role in the situation. 

5. Janelle + Tessa 4ever

The energy between Janelle Monae and Tessa Thompson in the “Make Me Feel” music video was… electric to say the least. We’re living for this beautiful bi storyline. 

6. Cardi B rapping about threesomes 

I literally can’t imagine anything better than Cardi B’s suggestion in “She Bad” — a threesome with her, Chrissy Teigen, and Rihanna?! Shook. 

7. The dancing girl from Missy Elliott’s “Work It” video came out

Okay so Alyson Stoner (aka “Disney Channel” star and the girl from Missy Elliott’s music videos) came out as bi! Yay! 

8. Lena Waithe’s moment

FYI: Lena Waithe is having a moment. From her Vanity Fair cover to her role in Ready Player One and her incredible series “The Chi,” Lena’s the it girl in the industry right now. And she’s doing big things for black lesbian representation. We see you! 

9. Random queer women everywhere

Is it just me or are there random queer women everywhere in TV and movies these days? Used to be we had to project lesbian narratives onto supposedly straight characters if we wanted to feel represented, but now I can’t even keep up with all the queer ladies! “Black Lightning,” “Love & Hip Hop,” “Grown-ish,” “Jane the Virgin,” “Everything Sucks!,” “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend,” “One Day at a Time”… We’re everywhere!

What a time to be alive.

What else did we miss? Comment below.

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A few problems that need to be looked at.

The suicide rate of men being roughly 6 times higher than women.

The drop out rate in schools and education being significantly higher for men than for women.

Men not being able to see their own children due to biased custody courts being against them.

Men accounting for over 75 percent of the homeless populations yet still having far fewer shelters for them compared to women and children.

Men receiving longer prison sentences for committing the same crime as a women, in addition to court biases against men.

Prostate cancer receiving 1/5 of the funding breast cancer receives, despite affecting men at a similar rate and killing many more.

Male victims of domestic violence, abuse, rape and sexual assault not being taken seriously due to societal bias and feminist bias against them.

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What the fuck is with ‘anti-patriarchy’ culture?

Over the past 6 months, on all social media platforms, my feed has been filled with feminist posts and support. And I love it. I love seeing a movement from times of being silenced, to a time of (hopefully eventually) EVERY voice being heard. However this is just the start, and with each post i see encouraging all women to think they are beautiful, and each ‘me too’ campaign that moves across the internet, more issues rise. One of these is the treatment of men following these movements, and one other (out of the numerous) is the belief that speaking out is enough. As more and more people come out and tell there story more and more ‘not all guys, but enough’ posts clutter my feed. This is a mindset that will do us, not only as women or feminists, but the entire population, no good. ‘Not all men, but enough’. What sort of behaviour does that encourage in teens and youth? Not only does it teach young girls that all men are predators, and that we should look down on men, because all they want is sex, but it also teaches young men that all they are is rapists. They need to be better than that, but ultimately that’s what they amount to. I have sat through and unlimited amount of physchologists coming into my school and telling me that I hate myself because men tell me I must. The young men I am peers with, while I may not enjoy the company of all of them are not rapists, simply for being men. This constant bombardment of an unhealthy mindset is provided far less from ‘society’, and the ‘rapist’ and ‘assaulting’ boys I surround myself with, then by a education system, and collection of adults, who constantly tell me that ‘every teenage girl feels self conscious because of pressure from young men’ and that ‘you must be careful of who you hang around with because they could be a predator’. I never feel more supported and beautiful then when I am with my friends, both boys and girls, as I make the choice to be around people who I know support me and think I’m gorgeous, despite their gender or lack thereof. The fact that the same people who tell me to love myself, and are advocates for equal rights, are the same ones telling me that approximately half the population of the world are predators, and forcing me to hate myself is such an act of hypocrisy that I find it near incomprehensible. Secondly, this trend of movements such as the ‘me too’ movement is also setting false standards. While these movements are incredibly empowering and confront some major issues in society in a way that supports people, and allows us to hear lots of people’s voices, with each new movement that flies across my screen, it is also leading to a mindset that talking about an issue is enough. I’m not trying to suggest that there is not incredible work being done, or that these movements are fickle and purposeless, as neither is true, but the larger a build of these I see each day, the more trivial each one becomes, as I know it will be replaced by the next one in a few days. The open speaking about issues from all angles is an incredible start, but now is a time when we can move from using our voices, to using our bodies and presence. I understand the hypocrisy, as I all I am doing is shouting another opinion into the abyss, but as any of my friends will tell you, hypocrisy is a particular strong suit of mine, and doesn’t diminish my beliefs for how we can move forward. I’m not trying to suggest that ever person needs to push charges against there assualter, or everyone should flip off that cat-caller on the street, but almost every individual is blessed with a chance to handle how they carry their crosses, and I’ll be dammed if, since I am fortunate enough to control many aspects of my own life, I don’t carry my cross, and deal with my burdens in a way that will enable me to be the happiest and healthiest person I can.

#feminism #youth #opinions #patriachy #activism #activist #boys #girls #speak out

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All of this! So much gold in one video. 😎

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Also, the fact that we lost a war against emus gives me life everyday

No Australian I know wants to talk about the Great Emu War. Could you give me some insight?

Okay, memes aside, the issue with the Emus is that during the Great Depression, Australian farmers were incentivized to grow more wheat (they were never actually given those incentives though), and this meant a lot of cleared land and artificial water supplies. In 1932 the native emus noticed the good habitat, so roughly 20,000 emus went to the farmland. These emus were pests, eating food, knocking down fences, and so on. The farmers complained to the Australian government who deployed WWI veterans with two Lewis guns in a population cull, believing it would solve the problem and serve as good drill for the Australian machine gunners. Heavy rains scattered the emu population, but Major Meredith was undeterred, attempting to use the Lewis guns on large concentrations of the birds. This was not very effective, the emus would scatter and the guns would jam. Two operations on the 2nd and 4th of November killed only a few dozen of the birds. The Lewis guns couldn’t effectively be mounted on motor vehicles which could not keep up with the fast birds. The emus adapted quickly to the Australians, with large black-plumed males keeping watch and shouting a cry of alarm when the military came near, which made further deployment ineffective. Even when wounded the birds survived thanks to their large mass, and the operation was called off. Later that month Meredith was redeployed, and this time he was far more successful, killing roughly 100 emus a week until 2 December. Eventually, the government decided to instead offer a bounty program for emus, which was much more effective in culling their numbers.

So it’s not really a war, just an unsuccessful population cull, albeit a rip-roaringly funny one. The media at the time cracked jokes about “The Great Emu War.” praising the birds who were clear masters of guerilla tactics. This incident would be rediscovered in the mid 2010′s and became a notable meme that made its way around the internet, leading to such gems as this one:

So there you have it, a short military operation that became a part of meme culture. Your Aussie friends might not even know about this, or they might think that you’re trying to insult their home country, but there’s the story.

Thanks for the question, Anon.

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i have thought a lot about censorship and what is “appropriate”. not a lot of people know this, but lolita was written to show what we allow on our bookshelves: there being no swear words in it meant it was free from censorship. a book about child molestation was allowed because it didn’t explicitly use the word “fuck”. he wrote it to show we don’t really care about protecting children, and it ended up being seen as a romance.

someone once told me - actually, many people have - that lgbt content isn’t appropriate for children. any content. not just kissing. i’m drowned in questions: “won’t the parents have to explain it?” “kids shouldn’t be thinking about sex at this age, or do you think differently?” “what will the kids think?”

at six i saw disney movies. people kiss and get married. i didn’t ask “what does that mean.” i didn’t ask “are those people going to have sex?” i didn’t ask anything, because i was six, and no six year old thinks twice about these things. nobody ever “explained” being straight to me, it was a fact, and it existed, and i was fine with that. why would being gay require a thesis, i wonder.

someone once told me that the one of the reasons people hate lgbt individuals is because they can’t see us as anything but sexual. we’re not people, so much as sinners. that they don’t see love, they see sex. just sex. it’s perversion, not a matter of the heart. only of the body.

i think i was in my early twenties before i saw someone like me. 

how old were you, though, before you saw violence? before you saw sexual assault on tv? i think something like that is only pg-13, and if it’s implied, they can get away with anything. i remember watching things and learning about blood, but knowing sex - sex was what was really wrong. sex was always rated r. sex was always kind of a bad word. i was told a lot that i wasn’t ready.

i had a dream last night that i made a site where people could ask any question they wanted about sex and get answered by a professional. it was shut down in moments because 15 year olds wanted to know if it should hurt, if “double-bagging” was a real thing, if this, if that. we shudder. don’t let the children know about that! 

but at thirteen i had seen enough violence it no longer struck me. i couldn’t say “fuck” but i knew that if you break your femur, you can bleed out internally in under half an hour. in school i wasn’t allowed to write about loving girls because what would the administration think - but i could write about wanting to kill myself and people would say how lovely, how blistering.

i have thought a lot about censorship. sometimes people on this site try it with me: don’t write this, don’t be so nasty. some of it is intrinsic. we know as people with a uterus not to complain about “that time of the month”, we know better than to talk about sexual assault (how shameful), we know that talking about a vagina is somehow scandalous. i can say “dick” and nobody questions me. some people only refer to the bottom half of me by “pussy”. they won’t wrap a mouth around “vagina” like it’s poison to them. even discussing this, that the language halts, that there’s an intrinsic desire to say “girls” instead of “women” - feels naughty, illicit. not for children.

the other day someone suggested i make my blog 18+. i said, okay, it deals a lot with depression and other problems that might be for a mature audience. oh no, they said, that’s not it, i think that’s helpful. i said, okay. so what is it then. well, you’re gay. you write about loving women. and i said, i don’t write about sex often and they said. it’s not about the sex. but wlw isn’t for a general audience. teenagers aren’t ready.

oh.

lolita is recommended for high school and up. i think about that a lot. i know girls who love it, who say it speaks to them on a deep level. it’s beautiful prose, after all. that was the whole point of the novel. something that looked like a rose but was intrinsically awful. i think about how if i was a model they’d want me to look young, thin, prepubescent. how my body would be sold and how through the mall i walk by images of barely-clothed women while mothers cannot breastfeed in public without fear of retribution. 

i think about how i can write a novel about violence and it will be pg-13 but if my characters say “fuck” twice it’s inappropriate. i said fuck three times so far in this post, which makes it only appropriate for adults. 

i think about that, and how my identity is something that people suggest lines up with a swear word. that people shouldn’t talk about it. that it’s a vulgarity. bad for children, harsh, confusing.

fuck. i love women. which one makes this only for those over eighteen.

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It is okay to vote no.

Personally, in this years marriage equality plebiscite, I will be voting yes, in the hopes that in the future I am free to marry whoever I wish. However, not everyone agrees with my belief, and that needs to be more accepted. For years, members of the LGBTQ+ community have fought for freedom in speech and action for all, and so it seems a cruel twist of fate that now, the very action they have fought for is being twisted to withhold the opinions of others. I am by no means trying to justify the inexcusable homophobia displayed against millions of people across the world, as such acts of violence are in no way similar to voting no in a national plebiscite, but it seems an ironic turn of events that the more we revel in freedom of speech, the more only a certain type of speech is accepted. Looking through social media there is an abundance of posts showing support for marriage equality, but even the idea of posting something stating your intentions to vote no is seen as extremely rude, and often hounded once posted. Freedom of speech does not mean agreeing with what has been long tabooed, but means accepting every person, of every opinion. It is not my place to tell someone that their beliefs are wrong just because they are dissimilar to mine, just as it is not anyone else’s place to do the same to me. Unless you are taking malicious action against another person, me telling someone they cannot vote no seems very similar to the past messages of hate and bigotry in the community. It is not my place to tell others how to vote. Every person over the age of 18 in Australia is entitled to vote, and we are doing our nation no favours by reinforcing a lack of acceptance for certain people and their opinions regardless of in which way they will be voting.

#vote no #vote yes #australian plebiscite #australia #marriage equality #lgbtq #opinion #plebiscite #acceptance