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Had some good luck at the thrift store this week! I was nominally looking for a dress to my friends wedding but found these instead

I’m obsessed with this light purple summer dress and want to wear to wear it everywhere all the time but it’s currently snowing 😭 ready easy breezy beautiful summer park days. And it was only 8 dollars. I love the lacy back and it’s padded with enough support that you don’t need a bra. It’s probably too casual for a wedding, but maybe depending on what the dress code ends up being, but also I just want to wear it now haha

I also love the long sparkly dress which is almost too formal for the things I go to, but at 13 dollars, sparkly purple and fits me perfect I had to have it. I probably want to add something to the straps to hold my bra straps in place, they’re covered but just barely, and I’m thinking about getting it hemmed to make it more cocktail but it’s just pretty! It’s way more sparkly in person than the full photos captured. It could work for a wedding or my work holiday party especially if I get it hemmed. Or I just leave it long and be extra haha. It’s not that fancy of a dress

#thrift store shopping #I usually do too much online shopping #but need to remember that it can really be worth the time to go thrift stores #cheaper and better for the environment! #this was also at a local Colorado thrift store so extra fun

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It hailed so much at the barn yesterday!

I luckily managed to finish my ride before it started but I got hit on the way back to my car and it hurt! And one even left a mark.

And driving home it sounded like I was getting shot and I kept almost flinching as my car was getting pelted. It wasn’t even big hail for Colorado but it was still pretty nuts. I should check my car for dents.

#pony was really good #a little bit extra forward with the storm but we’ve been working on forward so it worked out #she still listened really well and was good

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If we discover alien life, what will it  look like?  We have no way of knowing, but the hunt for extraterrestrial life can now include purple bacteria, according to a group of astronomers who are recording the chemical makeup unique to the lavender-hued organisms. These microbes may have dominated Earth early on in our planet's history and are well-suited to emerge on faraway worlds that circle dim red stars smaller than our sun, a new study suggests. The latest cataloging effort is in part "to create a database for signs of life to make sure our telescopes don't miss life if it happens not to look exactly like what we encounter around us every day," study co-author Lisa Kaltenegger of Cornell University said in a statement. "Purple bacteria can survive and thrive under such a variety of conditions that it is easy to imagine that on many different worlds, purple may just be the new green."

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My therapist asked me Tuesday if I thought part of why I keep debating whether to stay with my boyfriend or not (for those who missed it I broke up with him in March and then got back together a week later because I hadn’t actually given him a chance to respond to or change to the things I was unhappy about) was because I struggle with my making decisions in general.

And wow did that hit me like a ton of bricks. Now I’m no chidi from the hood place, but like I do agonize over a lot of decisions. (See my recent flight angst and every meaningless poll I’ve made here.) and it sounds weird but it was deeply relieving. It’s nice to know where a lot of the angst comes from. It also explains in part why the idea of breaking up with him feels like it would be a relief, because then the decision would be over and I wouldn’t have to make it anymore (in addition to the schedule relief) whereas staying together is more ongoing decision so the decision angst continues.

And not that that means we won’t break up still in the future, there’s a reason for the doubts after all but it’s nice to identify the source of some of the comfort and that it’s an okay source. Removes some of the meta worry (being worried about the angst, don’t have to worry about being stressed about the decision if you know you’re just stressed because decisions are hard)

She also brought up how we can’t ever be 100% sure of anything and that it’s okay to have things not be perfect.

So know I have made myself a little decision making spreadsheet to help me track how I feel about my boyfriend and whether or not I want to keep dating him. The hope being to stop the doom spiral from anytime something slightly upsets me and deciding that must mean he’s the worst for me and I need to break up with him and die alone. Because that’s not helpful or representative really of whether he’s a good fit for me or not.

And maybe it’s slightly neurotic to rank how feel about interactions with my bf, but I love me some data. And laying things out clearly to really see patterns. And see what’s actually happen verses getting distracted by doom spiraling (or conversely letting one good moment (or good sex and all those feel good hormones) ) over shadow the rest

#chaos rambles #I love me some spreadsheets #and also therapy #therapy is good #I doesn’t feel like a good sign sometimes that dating him more or less drive me to therapy #but therapy is good for everyone anyway #and first relationships as an adult are hard

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My flight comparisons have gotten out of hand. I both really want to just buy a flight now before prices can keep going up, and want to wait until next Wednesday when I get more cc card reward points so I can buy my number one flight choice. I could pay 70 dollars for 2000 points and buy it now, but that feels ridiculous when I’ll get what I’ll need Wednesday and that’s so much for so little points. But then I started worrying about my connection in my number one flight since it is just over 2 hours in Newark before flying out. But I wouldn’t have to do security or customs or anything so it’s fine. I wanted to just buy my flight out now and back later when I got more points, but the flight I most want back is only available as part of a round trip and not one way??? Even though all the other options are one way for the same price.

#why are flights so complicated??? #also why are one way international flights just as expensive as one ways?? #it makes no sense to me #flights are so hard #my therapist said tues

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Everyday I see my pony I become a little bit more obsessed with her 😍😍😍

She’s just so perfect in every way

#I let her graze in this spot so I can look at the sunset and take pictures #I made her bring her head up briefly for the ear shot #she didn’t love it but the mouthfuls of grass immediately after meant she overall had a great time #she’s just so good!

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Ugh. And then I find the perfect flight in miles, leaving Saturday at 5pm and arriving in Porto at 1pm AND THEN between tonight and this morning the price goes up by 4K points and now I am literally 170 short 😭😭😭 I would’ve had to have transferred over points from my cc to the airline so at least I hadn’t done that yet only for the price to go up. But so annoying.

Because making decisions is hard.

So I am looking to book flights to portugal. I’ll be doing a riding trip second half of the trip and just exploring portugal beforehand. My friend is joining for the riding and exploring Lisbon, but I’m going to go earlier and do Porto by myself. She is currently looking to arrive in Lisbon on the mid morning of November 6.

I am looking to leave on Nov 3 (flights cheaper on Sunday than earlier in the weekend) but I can’t decide if I want to fly into Lisbon or Porto.

I have three main flights that I am considering all for about the same price.

Leaving at 11am on Sunday, ~4:45 layover in Toronto, arrive Lisbon 9:20am on Monday.And then take a 3.5 hour bus to Porto.

Leave at 4 (or 6)pm, 4.5 hour layover in France (or two hours but maybe seems tight), land in Porto at 3:45pm on Monday

Leave at 4:30pm, have a 45min layover in Munich (!!!! Is this even possible? A terrible idea?) and then arrive at 12:50pm on Monday.

And then a fourth bonus, on a different airline than my friend would use (so different flight back), and less used by me so not as good for points or whatever.

Leave Saturday at 6pm and land in Lisbon at 3pm on Sunday. (With a 2.5 layover in London). For about 50 more.

I’d love to just land at 1pm in Porto on Monday but not sure if the extra two hours is worth the stress of the tight layover. I think I’d get to Porto sooner than almost 4 with landing in Lisbon and taking the bus, but again it’s a fair bit of hassle. Bus rides can be nice when you can look at the window and whatnot but I’ll also have to go back the same way so seems silly if I can just go to Porto directly for the same price. I’d love go a day or two earlier but the flights are either 200+ more expensive and or involve multiple stops.

And then for all of them I must decide whether to go with basic economy or pay the 200 extra for full economy. I don’t need a checked back there (could get one on the way back for 75 if I got too many souvenirs), could pay for seat selection if I really wanted to. But I’m nervous about the limited ability to change or modify the flight. The three United flight all let you do it for a few, but the fourth flight just says no changes 😬 but also 200 bucks.

So which flight?

#why is this so hard #I really just need to pick one #this why I hate planning things

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Now with pictures!

In order flight 1 and 2 top row, 3 and four bottom

Because making decisions is hard.

So I am looking to book flights to portugal. I’ll be doing a riding trip second half of the trip and just exploring portugal beforehand. My friend is joining for the riding and exploring Lisbon, but I’m going to go earlier and do Porto by myself. She is currently looking to arrive in Lisbon on the mid morning of November 6.

I am looking to leave on Nov 3 (flights cheaper on Sunday than earlier in the weekend) but I can’t decide if I want to fly into Lisbon or Porto.

I have three main flights that I am considering all for about the same price.

Leaving at 11am on Sunday, ~4:45 layover in Toronto, arrive Lisbon 9:20am on Monday.And then take a 3.5 hour bus to Porto.

Leave at 4 (or 6)pm, 4.5 hour layover in France (or two hours but maybe seems tight), land in Porto at 3:45pm on Monday

Leave at 4:30pm, have a 45min layover in Munich (!!!! Is this even possible? A terrible idea?) and then arrive at 12:50pm on Monday.

And then a fourth bonus, on a different airline than my friend would use (so different flight back), and less used by me so not as good for points or whatever.

Leave Saturday at 6pm and land in Lisbon at 3pm on Sunday. (With a 2.5 layover in London). For about 50 more.

I’d love to just land at 1pm in Porto on Monday but not sure if the extra two hours is worth the stress of the tight layover. I think I’d get to Porto sooner than almost 4 with landing in Lisbon and taking the bus, but again it’s a fair bit of hassle. Bus rides can be nice when you can look at the window and whatnot but I’ll also have to go back the same way so seems silly if I can just go to Porto directly for the same price. I’d love go a day or two earlier but the flights are either 200+ more expensive and or involve multiple stops.

And then for all of them I must decide whether to go with basic economy or pay the 200 extra for full economy. I don’t need a checked back there (could get one on the way back for 75 if I got too many souvenirs), could pay for seat selection if I really wanted to. But I’m nervous about the limited ability to change or modify the flight. The three United flight all let you do it for a few, but the fourth flight just says no changes 😬 but also 200 bucks.

So which flight?

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Because making decisions is hard.

So I am looking to book flights to portugal. I’ll be doing a riding trip second half of the trip and just exploring portugal beforehand. My friend is joining for the riding and exploring Lisbon, but I’m going to go earlier and do Porto by myself. She is currently looking to arrive in Lisbon on the mid morning of November 6.

I am looking to leave on Nov 3 (flights cheaper on Sunday than earlier in the weekend) but I can’t decide if I want to fly into Lisbon or Porto.

I have three main flights that I am considering all for about the same price.

Leaving at 11am on Sunday, ~4:45 layover in Toronto, arrive Lisbon 9:20am on Monday.And then take a 3.5 hour bus to Porto.

Leave at 4 (or 6)pm, 4.5 hour layover in France (or two hours but maybe seems tight), land in Porto at 3:45pm on Monday

Leave at 4:30pm, have a 45min layover in Munich (!!!! Is this even possible? A terrible idea?) and then arrive at 12:50pm on Monday.

And then a fourth bonus, on a different airline than my friend would use (so different flight back), and less used by me so not as good for points or whatever.

Leave Saturday at 6pm and land in Lisbon at 3pm on Sunday. (With a 2.5 layover in London). For about 50 more.

I’d love to just land at 1pm in Porto on Monday but not sure if the extra two hours is worth the stress of the tight layover. I think I’d get to Porto sooner than almost 4 with landing in Lisbon and taking the bus, but again it’s a fair bit of hassle. Bus rides can be nice when you can look at the window and whatnot but I’ll also have to go back the same way so seems silly if I can just go to Porto directly for the same price. I’d love go a day or two earlier but the flights are either 200+ more expensive and or involve multiple stops.

And then for all of them I must decide whether to go with basic economy or pay the 200 extra for full economy. I don’t need a checked back there (could get one on the way back for 75 if I got too many souvenirs), could pay for seat selection if I really wanted to. But I’m nervous about the limited ability to change or modify the flight. The three United flight all let you do it for a few, but the fourth flight just says no changes 😬 but also 200 bucks.

So which flight?

#flights #just outsourcing decision making #plus polls are fun #who doesn’t like voting on things #just trying to optimize my life and vacation

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Had fun at my friends wedding this past weekend! I decided on the new dress thank you to all who voted.

The only real downside to night was losing my pretty purple bow from dancing too hard 😭😭 I tried to find after but it was totally gone. It’s sad because I took the time to bedazzle it all special (and I get attached to things and hate losing them) but I guess I will just have to get more new even sparklier bows now 🤷‍♀️

And also my shoes broke 😭😭 they were really old (like bought them when I was 12 old) so I figured it was a possibility so brought back ups in my car. They were just so pretty though! I will maybe try to fix them. It’s a good reminder though that even if you don’t use things they will go bad over time, so use your nice things when you have a chance

#I literally never wore those shoes for the first decade I had them #sigh #but it was a beautiful wedding #they had a really adorable choreographed first dance #it was precious

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So making decisions is hard and I can’t decide what dress I want to wear to my friends wedding this weekend.

My new dress I got at goodwill for seven dollars and is great, BUT it’s a much better fit for my other friends wedding in august with how short and summery it is and it just matches her vibe better tbh. And is maybe too short for semi formal/cocktail at a classic wedding venue vs the summer wedding in the mountains.

The Christmas dress I wore this Christmas to my work partyand I already have pictures in it, and it might be too wintery. But it is all different people.

My former wedding dress feels springy and honestly would match the vibe of this friends wedding perfectly and I don’t have any recent pictures of it BUT I wore at last summer at a wedding with almost all the same people I’m going to be seeing this weekend.

So I’m torn.

In order: new dress, Christmas dress, former wedding dress

#ugh descions are hard #I could find a whole new dress for the august wedding too #I have time #but this one is perfect for it #I could go hunting at one more thrift store Friday morning too #really any of them would work so I should relax #but I don’t relax #there’s no overlap of people between the two weddings so I could just wear the new one to both #in theory I would then have double pictures #but I forgot at my last friends wedding so who knows

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Hey! Really out of the blue ask but I play for the purple womxn college team in Colorado (and got absolutely burned up line by several Barbies at fright flight) and was wondering if you have any recommendations for mid-level women’s club teams in Colorado to play with this summer? Thanks!

Hello!

In rough order of competitiveness what I would consider the mid-level womens team in Colorado are:

Small batch, denver/Boulder, lost game to go last year. Two practices a week plus pods fairly intense/hung ho vibes

Kelp, Boulder, new this year captained by two (former?) quandary players and a former Molly brown player. Two practices most weeks plus a pod. Really emphasizing trans inclusion

Jackwagon, Boulder, usually skews younger a lot of college or recent grads. Practices or pods twice a week, no weekend practices. More chill vibes

Lower level womens teams are

Train wreck, Fort Collins

Cosmos, Colorado Springs. I think I saw they have all open practices.

And then there’s lots of good mixed teams!

Upper level

Love tractor, broomfield, I think only one practice a week but I’m not sure.

Flight club, Denver, two practices a week

Trash, denver, two practices a week

Mid level

Green Chiles- denver, my team so obviously the best, one weeknight practice

Space ghosts, south Denver/highlands ranch, one weeknight practice

Lower level, all one weeknight practice, I think all do open practices for women or any woman who has played before can probably make

Strangers, Boulder

Keeps, Boulder

Mixed greens, Colorado Springs.

And then there’s shame in Fort Collins which doesn’t have open tryouts and usually Ozul in Fort Collins which has varied wildly in competitiveness over the years.

#hope that helps! #let me know if you have any other questions or want to know more about the teams #all teams can be found fairly easily on Instagram #and they all follow each other so once you find one you can find them all

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I feel all over the place and not in a good way

My pony wasn’t feeling very well yesterday so I’m worried about her and worried if I did the right things for things for her and just all of it

Me and the bf had a fight Sunday and we mostly made up but I’m still so unsure of everything and want to just not sometimes

There’s so many frisbee things and I’m trying to prioritize my whole and I don’t know if I’m doing it right

My kitchen is still a mess from last weekend and if that isn’t just a summation

I supposed to do a girls day with two friends tomorrow but one of them canceled cuz her grandma is sick, but now I see that her and the other girl are skiing together with their bfs today and like I’m feeling some kind of way about it. Especially because we made these plans literally over a month ago. And idk it just hurts my feelings that she would prioritize hanging with the other girl who she skiis with all the time, and not see me ever, and also the mountains are like two hour drive verses being in town and (presumably) closer to her family stuff.

My riding also said she thinks that I correct her a lot and hurt her feelings sometimes so she thought I was ironic that I was upset that my bf does that to me. And like I had no idea that she felt that way. And I’m having a hard time thinking of times when I’ve corrected her. I’ve asked for clarification on things, and we give each other feedback on riding sometimes, but not usually unprompted. So I guess that’s a thing I need to figure out and am feeling bad about.

Idk it just feels like everything is a little bit wrong. Too many negative feelings and stress and not enough solutions.

I also still need to do my taxes, make a dentist appointment, make a doctors appointment, want to make a hair appointment, want to hire a gardener, (but I reached out to the person who did my hair last time, and the gardener who previously did weeding for me who I wanted to work with again and neither got back to me so it’s not even my fault that I’m behind there but it is my problem.

And my kitchen is a mess. And I’m behind on my strength workouts but I’m so tired and need a nap for like a week.

#ugh #just everything ugh

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I don’t know if it’s just been too long since I’ve trained someone or if I’m just too used to knowing all the things or if this kid is actually just dumb as a rock, but dear lord training this new hire is so frustrating.

He also asks almost no questions but always like to go “oh oh I see I understand now” when I explain something that he just got wrong. And it’s like do you now? Or are you just saying that? God it’s so annoying like I hope it makes sense after I just told how it works but if it doesn’t you need to say so and if it does you don’t need to act like it’s a giant light bulb going off.

I am so annoyed. And I now it’s a lot to learn on a new system and he graduated last year so it’s too be expected really but god it’s so frustrating. Also stop telling me about how you didn’t get enough sleep or enough coffee or forgot to eat and that’s why you aren’t remembering things. My god.

#I am officially cranky old lady now #poor kid #but also could you just learn things maybe?? #or try to learn things??? #ugh

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Easter weekend!

Fun food and a horse show

The horse show did not really go the way I wanted but at least we looked good! My bf came which was lovely and he took video but unfortunately he’s clearly not used to videoing horses so he missed some jumps and it’s all far away, but it was mediocre at best so it’s fine.

The jump standards were cute tho! Bunnies and butterflies. And Luna had a cute Easter bonnet and briefly wore my friends hat. I also made birds best cupcakes for the show too! I just wish that the little chocolate eggs weren’t so expensive (they were four dollars for a bag and I need two bags)

And then I made bunny pancakes and duchess potatoes for Easter Sunday. And this was Friday but this was a delicious tiger themed drink from a local Chinese place

#Easter #weekend fun #so much fun shaped food #and mediocre riding #but I survived #and such it goes

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2024 New Years goals check in!

I made my goals a little after the new year and then forgot to post but here they are with their current progress

2 goals for four life areas(because it’s the year 2 4, yes in ridiculous): fitness, fun, for others, friends and bonus function

Fitness

Trail ride four times -one short loop post lesson on 3/23

Ten pull ups- did six!!

Fun

Camp 3 times

11 intentional whimsical moments (can be anything) (built a snowman, made cornbread into ghosts and flowers, fun heart shaped hair, bunny pancakes for Easter)

For others

Volunteer ten hours (three hours at food bank)

Make four calls to government (an email counts as a quarter)

Friends

Host 3 things, organize 6 (hosted book club, organized and hosted galentines)

Mail 8 letters/presents (dad birthday present)

Bonus

Function

Fix dry wall cracks

Hire Gardner - emailed for quotes

Don’t wear socks or underwear with holes -bought more socks and underwear and have been throwing away the holey ones

I am most proud of my pull up improvement as that was a goal last year and I never made it past two, and now I can do six!! I was better at working on it earlier but I’ve been keeping up well with doing some sort of pull ups at least twice a week and usually three and sometimes four times. And I’ve made progress, yay!

Still more to go but making good progress!

#new year goals #new years resolutions #2024 #March update