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[tanushree]

5 Monkeys and a Ladder

5 monkeys were placed in a cage as part of an experiment. In the middle of the cage was a ladder with bananas on the top rung. Every time a monkey tried to climb the ladder, the experimenter sprayed all of the monkeys with icy water. Eventually, each time a monkey started to climb the ladder, the other ones pulled him off and beat him up so they could avoid the icy spray. Soon, no monkey dared go up the ladder.

The experimenter then substituted one of the monkeys in the cage with a new monkey. The first thing the new monkey did was try to climb the ladder to reach the bananas. After several beatings, the new monkey learned the social norm. He never knew “why” the other monkeys wouldn’t let him go for the bananas because he had never been sprayed with ice water, but he quickly learned that this behaviour would not be tolerated by the other monkeys.

One by one, each of the monkeys in the cage was substituted for a new monkey until none of the original group remained. Every time a new monkey went up the ladder, the rest of the group pulled him off, even those who had never been sprayed with the icy water.

By the end of the experiment, the 5 monkeys in the cage had learned to follow the rule (don’t go for the bananas), without any of them knowing the reason why (we’ll all get sprayed by icy water). If we could have asked the monkeys for their rationale behind not letting their cage mates climb the ladder, their answer would probably be: “I don’t know, that’s just how its always been done.”

This story, whether real or a fable, captures a pervasive theme in many organizational cultures: We tend to do things the way we’re told they’ve always been done without questioning or revisiting the reason behind it, even long after that reason ceases to exist.

Do you feel like a caged monkey in your current work environment? Here’s some advice as it relates to organizational culture: Next time someone tells you “that’s not how we do things”, ask them why. ...!!!

#Tanu

[tanushree]

Right Place will make you feel Appreciated 😀

A father said to his daughter 🤠 "You just graduated, this is a car I bought a while ago... It is a few years old. But before I give it, take it to a car dealer in the city and sell it , see how much they offer.”

The girl came back to her father and said: "They offered 1000 euros because it looks very old"

The father said: Hold it and take it to the 2nd hand car dealer.

The girl returns to her father and says: "The pawn shop offered 100 euros because it is a very old car and lots of investments are needed to drive it again"

The father asked his daughter to join a passionate car club with experts and show them the car.

The girl drove the car to the passionate car club, turned and said to her father: “Some people in the club offered me 100,000 euros because it is a rare car that is in good condition, with great capabilities and super difficult to find.”🤗

Then the father said, "I wanted to let you know that you are not worth anything if you are not in the right place."

If you are not appreciated, do not be angry, that means you are in the wrong place. "Don't stay in a place where no one sees your value 😉👇."

[tanushree]

Why to live if everyone dies one or the other day and forget the memories and all things of them go in vain???

That's the way of life...... Hope of array... Before you leave this world leave a spark where ever you go... you will be remembered/living in people's mind even after leaving the world.....

#StayPositive

[tanushree]

Mental Health.....!!!!

How do our relationships impact our mental health?

Our relationships are closely connected to our well-being, and they can impact us in helpful and unhelpful ways.

When we say relationships, we mean all kinds – with our friends, our families, or our well wishers – and even with ourselves!

To know things like:

✍️Why it’s important to be your own best friend

✍️How to deal with difficult relationships and have better connections 

✍️How you can be a good friend to others and support their mental health...

4 Tips on building positive connections:

Tip 1

Listening is essential to understanding and connecting with others.

When you’re having a conversation with someone, put distractions (like your phone!) aside, ask follow-up questions, and summarize what you’ve heard. 

Tip 2

Making an effort to understand what someone is going through is an important part of building positive relationships.

Try asking yourself: How might they be feeling right now? Was there a time that I felt the same way? How can I show kindness and be helpful? 

Tip 3

You can’t always control the way others behave, but you can respectfully let them know what’s on your mind.

It might not be easy at first but try expressing how you feel and saying what you need or would like the other person to do.

For example, “I feel ___________ right now, I need /could you please ________.”

Tip 4

Remember, disagreement and difference are not the same things as being bullied or harmed. If you are ever feeling unsafe or hurt in a relationship, try reaching out to a trusted friend or adult for support.

Asking for help isn’t always easy but it’s a sign of courage and a way to take care of yourself.

So, Stay Strong... Believe in yourself & Be a good friend to the one in need..... We never know what the other person is going through in the phase of life.....

#Stay_positive #Tanu

#tanu #mentalstrength #mental health #positive thoughts

[tanushree]

The Thread of Relationships

After the death of a jeweler, his family was in grave trouble. They did not have enough money even for food. One day, his wife gave her son a sapphire necklace and said - "Son, take this to your uncle's shop. Ask him to sell it and give us some money."

The son took that necklace and reached his uncle's shop. His uncle looked at the necklace thoroughly and said - "Son, tell your mother that the market is very slow right now. If she sells it after some time, she will get a good price." He gave him some money, and further said, "come and sit with me at the shop from tomorrow."

So, the next day onwards, the boy started going to the shop every day, and there he started learning how to test diamonds and gems.

Soon, he became a well-known connoisseur of diamonds. People started coming from far and wide to get their diamonds tested.

One day his uncle said, "Son, bring that necklace from your mother now...tell her that the market is good now, you will get a good price."

Taking the necklace from his mother, the young man tested it himself and found that it was a fake. He began to wonder that his uncle was such a great connoisseur...why didn't he inform them?

Leaving the necklace at home, he returned to the shop.

Uncle asked, "Didn't you bring the necklace?" He said, "Uncle, it's artificial... But why did you hide this from me?"

Then his uncle said, "If I had told you it was fake when you had first brought the necklace to me, you would have thought that I was only doing it because you were in a difficult situation.

Today when you yourself have the knowledge, you know for sure that the necklace really is fake. At that time, it was more important for me to take care of the relations than to speak the truth."

*The truth is that, without knowledge everything we think, see and know in this world is wrong. And because of this, our relationships become a victim of misunderstandings which then lead to rifts, and our life starts falling apart*.

_The invisible thread by which relationships are tied is *nourished by love and trust*_.

"Don't leave someone's side at the slightest strain in relations...

It takes a lifetime to make people your own."

#Tanu

[tanushree]

Damaged souls still have worth✍️✍️

“A shop owner placed a sign above his door that said: ‘Puppies For Sale.’

Signs like this always have a way of attracting young children, and to no surprise, a boy saw the sign and approached the owner; ‘How much are you going to sell the puppies for?’ he asked.

The store owner replied, ‘Anywhere from $30 to $50.’

The little boy pulled out some change from his pocket. ‘I have $2.37,’ he said. ‘Can I please look at them?’

The shop owner smiled and whistled. Out of the kennel came Lady, who ran down the aisle of his shop followed by five teeny, tiny balls of fur.

One puppy was lagging considerably behind. Immediately the little boy singled out the lagging, limping puppy and said, ‘What’s wrong with that little dog?’

The shop owner explained that the veterinarian had examined the little puppy and had discovered it didn’t have a hip socket. It would always limp. It would always be lame.

The little boy became excited. ‘That is the puppy that I want to buy.’

The shop owner said, ‘No, you don’t want to buy that little dog. If you really want him, I’ll just give him to you.’

The little boy got quite upset. He looked straight into the store owner’s eyes, pointing his finger, and said;

‘I don’t want you to give him to me. That little dog is worth every bit as much as all the other dogs and I’ll pay full price. In fact, I’ll give you $2.37 now, and 50 cents a month until I have him paid for.’

The shop owner countered, ‘You really don’t want to buy this little dog. He is never going to be able to run and jump and play with you like the other puppies.’

To his surprise, the little boy reached down and rolled up his pant leg to reveal a badly twisted, crippled left leg supported by a big metal brace. He looked up at the shop owner and softly replied, ‘Well, I don’t run so well myself, and the little puppy will need someone who understands!!!!

When you change the quality of your thinking, you change the quality of your life, sometimes instantly. Just as positive words can make someone smile or a well-timed humorous quote can make someone laugh, our thoughts react to the world in real-time.

You have complete control over only one thing in the universe — your thinking.... Stay Positive....Stay Spirited 👍

#Tanu

[tanushree]

How to Overcome Workplace Negativity

Negativity runs rampant in an office environment. Whether you’re feeling low on your own accord or catching some heat from your boss for something that went wrong, it’s incredibly easy to get caught up in a dark cloud of negative thinking. 

After a bad experience, it’s common to seek out a place to vent. We spend time recounting each moment to anyone who will listen, hoping this regurgitation of the situation will be therapeutic and make everything better. But, could all that negative talk actually lead to more issues? 

A study in the European Journal of Work and Organizational Psychology suggests that not only can those temper driven conversations after a negative experience at work lead to more negativity, but it can hinder your performance for at least a day after it happens. 

We’ve all had those moments. A boss or coworker does something to agitate you and then you feel the need to tell another coworker, a friend, or a significant other. Imagine constant streams of negativity flowing from you to people you care about. It happens. Work life bleeds into home life and then suddenly brings down everyone and everything around you. 

So, how do you combat this attitude of negativity?

Simply learn to keep those negative thoughts to yourself. It may sound a bit unnerving if you are in a habit of sharing your feelings every time something goes awry, but silence is power during these times. 

Now, this isn’t to say that you should hold on to those negative moments until they are grudges that come steaming up once they’ve reached the boiling point. Instead, this same study says it’s all about being a good sport. 

Having an attitude of “sportsmanship” is defined as “tolerating less-than ideal circumstances or minor workplace distractions and discomforts without complaining.” The study suggests that “avoiding negative conversations immediately after a negative event can promote better psychological adjustment.”

Get back up, dust yourself off, and come back stronger.

When you’re facing frustrating moments, don’t get lost dwelling on the problem, refocus your attention and get back to work. A few things that can help include writing down your thoughts and throwing away the evidence or taking a few moments to meditate and let go of those feelings.

With that attitude of sportsmanship, you can actually improve your productivity, workplace happiness, and be more apt to stay in your position – or maybe get that promotion you’ve been seeking. It can even help to cultivate a more positive work environment by influencing the people around you.  

The best advice I ever received from an executive leader was this simple phrase: keep your head down and work hard. He had twenty years of experience in that company and I knew that these words would come in handy someday, so I put them in a little corner of my mind for when I’d need them again. 

Thankfully, I saved them because there were many times when I needed to pull it out of its little organizer drawer in my brain. There was a particular supervisor I worked for that made decisions that caused headaches, tears, anguish, and endless days of agony for many of his employees. 

He’d call us into a room where he’d ramble about why we were doing all the wrong things and needed to shift to another project to fix the mess. It would take a few weeks to reset our course of action, bin all the work we had done and setup a new plan.

I could have yelled, or cried, or challenged it, but in business, you have to learn to pick your battles wisely. I would recite in my mind that phrase – keep my head down and keep working. I avoided engaging in negative talk with my coworkers, put on a smile at the end of each meeting, and encouraged everyone to get to work as fast as possible.

After several rounds of this routine, my supervisor finally gave up trying to break us. We became more collaborative and the positive attitude encouraged him to listen to us more openly. We were able to finally complete a project with success and no one quit in the process. 

Agonizing over the situation

Realistically, there is nothing that can be done when someone, usually your boss, decides to pull a project after putting in hours of work. If the boss says to do it, then you must. Spending time agonizing over the situation only results in having to stay late to catch up or in someone breaking. Plus, that released negative energy only leads to feeling unmotivated and makes it much harder to accomplish anything.  

While bucking up and moving on from a negative situation never feels good for the ego, it will feel great long term. It does get easier over time. Plus, you’ll be an inspiration for others to continue working hard and make the team stronger for that in the end. 

#Tanu🤗

[tanushree]

Problem is every where, every part of life, small child also have problem but they can't tell just cry and adjust there problem. In this world we have problem but we not able say anything, every one is busy ,person don't have a time for listen our problemss. Just adjust the life..

Hi.....!!!

It all depends on how you carry your mindset towards the situations that occur in your life..... Sometimes even small disturbance appears to be huge problem... But give it some time and think.... You will definitely find solution when your mind is at peace...

[tanushree]

Hi Tanu sree, what do you think a low esteemed girl should do to be as confident as you are?

To be as????

Can you please complete your question

[tanushree]

#Forallthestrongwomen

Dear Empowered Woman,

I know it hasn’t been a smooth journey to get to where you are today. And some days, it still feels like an uphill battle. But here’s the thing: you’ve come so far from day 1, and until today, you continue to move forward rather than back – even if taking that next step forward requires you to exhaust all that strength from within.

People may not see it, but the truth is that you’ve gone through so much, sacrificed those precious hours of sleep and even cried yourself to sleep during the difficult days. But despite everything, you soldiered on. You always kept your focus on your goals because you ultimately know what you want. And hey, you’re well on your way to turning all those dreams into reality – slowly but surely.Every time you fall, you choose to pick yourself up immediately rather than feel sorry for yourself, because sometimes being strong is the only choice you have – especially when you wish to make progress and grow. Unfortunately, some people would love to see you fall. They’re the ones who write off your dreams and make the nasty comments about how you’re too strong / muscular / independent / fierce / loud / crazy / (whatever else that might have been thrown at you).When those mean words get hurled at you, it hurts. And sometimes, you might even let them make you feel like you’re inadequate, or simply not doing well enough. But despite the scars and heartache, you rise above it all every time – because you refuse to get knocked down and pushed around. This is the reason why you radiate a special kind of strength, and have that flicker in your eyes. Everybody knows what you’re capable of, and that there’s nothing you can’t do.So don’t ever feel ashamed about your strength, independence and power. Instead, keep your head high and shoulders strong – most importantly, always be true to yourself and never stop being your bold, brilliant, beautiful self.

The world is yours.

#Tanu😊

[tanushree]

How will India lockdown play out for economy????

The government announced a nationwide lockdown for 21 days, which is likely to bring all economic activity to a grinding halt.

“The third round effect will likely materialize, as these shocks transmit to the rest of the economy, i.e. corporates facing a hit on bottom lines. Weaker firms will face cash flow shortages and workers will face pay cuts or retrenchments. This, in turn, can create a vicious cycle of lower corporate capex and weaker consumer demand.......

Our FY 2021 BSE Sensex EPS growth estimate is now 10 per cent, down 20 per cent from mid-February.

Here is how the situation might evolve from here on for the domestic economy in different scenarios.

SCENARIO-1

In case the situation worsens in India and globally, there would be further selling in domestic stocks, and India’s GDP growth may drop to 3.5 to 4 per cent levels even as the global economy slips into recession.

SCENARIO-2

In a rosy situation, the virus will be contained in India, and the shutdown would not extend beyond April 15.

In such a case, “we would be gradual buyers in equities. Indian economic impact will be limited and FY21 GDP target will be 4.5-5 per cent. But the March quarter impact will be severe.

SCENARIO-3

In the third scenario, the virus will be contained in India, but the crisis would worsen globally. In such a case, Indian equities will outperform and India’s GDP would grow at 4-4.5 per cent amid a global recession.

SCENARIO-4

Lastly, if the situation is contained in India and globally, Indian markets may outperform. “We will be aggressive buyers in such a scenario at current levels. There would be manageable economic impact on India and the global economic slowdown will last 3-5 months.

There is also a case for RBI to intervene to alleviate the pain of borrowers and lenders either by allowing forbearance of loans or for changes to the bad loan recognition norms from 90 days to higher, in addition to some form of backstop financing for NBFCs.

[tanushree]

This is for all the girls listening to music that reminds them of their current situation. Who hide their fears, hurt, pain and tears under the smiles, laughs and giggles on a daily basis. The girls who wear their heart on their sleeve. The girls who pray that things will work out just once and they'll be satisfied. The girls who sceam and cry to their pillows because everyone else fails to listen. The girls who have so many secrets but wont tell a soul. The girls who have mistakes and regrets as a daily moral. The girls that never win. The girls that stay up all night thinking about that one boy and hoping that he'll notice her one day. The girls who take life as it comes, to the girls who are hoping that it'll get better somewhere down the road. For the girls who love with all their heart although it always gets broken. To girls who think it's over. To real girls, to all girls: You're beautiful the way you are.... Please don't let yourself down for some lame Guys.... Who dosent even know the girl life or the pain which his mother went through while giving him birth.... Waste of sacrificing your feelings for such people..... The only thing they know is to "CRITICIZE" a girl who's independent, tough to look and difficult to handle..... No matter what Cheerup and be proud to lead a girl life

#Tanu

[tanushree]

The cockroach theory for self development

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.

She started screaming out of fear.

With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.

I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand............LIFE.

Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!

#Tanu

[tanushree]

A young lady sat in a bus. At the next stop a loud and grumpy old lady came and sat by her. She squeezed into the seat and bumped her with her numerous bags.

The person sitting on the other side of the young lady got upset, asked her why she did not speak up and say something.

The young lady responded with a smile:

"It is not necessary to be rude or argue over something so insignificant, the journey together is so short. I get off at the next stop."

This response deserves to be written in golden letters:

"It is not necessary to argue over something so insignificant, our journey together is so short"

If each one of us realized that our time here is so short; that to darken it with quarrels, futile arguments, not forgiving others, discontentment and a fault finding attitude would be a waste of time and energy.

Did someone break your heart?

Be calm, the journey is so short.

Did someone betray, bully, cheat or humiliate you?

Be calm, forgive, the journey is so short.

Whatever troubles anyone brings us, let us remember that our journey together is so short.

No one knows the duration of this journey. No one knows when their stop will come. Our journey together is so short.

Let us cherish friends and family. Let us be respectful, kind and forgiving to each other. Let us be filled with gratitude and gladness.

If I have ever hurt you, I ask for your forgiveness. If you have ever hurt me, you already have my forgiveness.

After all, our journey together is so short!

#Tanu

[tanushree]

Do you know how powerful you are?

Being encaged in our comfort zone, often we tend to forget the potential we are blessed with. This bird had been in a cage for a long time and thus had forgotten its ability to fly high. But no captivity and not even the power of time can take our potential away from us. Yes, it may be hard and may take a lot of effort. But most certainly we can fly high (based on our individual capacities of course) because that’s what we are meant to do.

And our greatest fortune is when we have those whose words, example and inspiration can free us from the cage of our complacency (like the people in the video who freed the bird from the cage).

After that, it’s our journey. We have to keep flapping our wings until we realise the magical power we have been given. Keep flapping, keep trying! You can fly. Try, try, try and one day you will be able to fly.

Isn’t it amazing also to be surrounded by those who want us to fly and celebrate when we can than by those who don’t want us to and are insecure by our progress. Choose your company wisely.

[tanushree]

For all the hearts that got engaged in mechanism of life....

you have only seen a reflection of what you appear to be. who you really are depends on the places you find yourself and the people you get lost with, not your waist size or the skin you’re wrapped in. you are a construction site; a work in progress; not your disability or weakness. hair grows outrageously, and out of control; a natural disaster we all survive. you might feel pretty obnoxious or incongruous sometimes; individually we’re all different, but together we create an exquisite bouquet of flowers.

So live laugh and love your life😀

#Tanu

[tanushree]

Things You Would Hear If Girls Took Dowry

What if the roles were reversed?

We’ve all been told that dowry is part of our customs. While the legal ties to this system have gone, even today, there are many who pay a dowry in the form of ‘gifts’.

These aren’t just pretty gifts in boxes with bows on top, but expensive cars, plots of land or customised houses.

There is usually a gathering before the wedding between the two families – calculators and long slips of paper passed from one side to another.

The bride’s family sweats nervously and has a calculator ready. There is a selfish uncle somewhere who is trying to squeeze in his new Fossil watch onto the list. The young couple dare not speak up. This is our custom, you see.

What if the roles were reversed though?

1. “You need her to look like she did on her wedding day? Her makeup costs 15,000 per month. This marriage will last another 50 years? You do the math.”

2. “You want our daughter to stay home and have babies instead of working? This is the cost of her education throughout her life. Please reimburse us.”

3. “When she’s having the baby, she will be made to live in our house, so for that, I will send you the electricity, water, grocery and wi-fi bill too.”

4. “My wife spent years teaching her how to cook, so please pay the fees for that to my wife now.”

5. “She’s our only daughter. You live far away. It only makes sense that we need a new car to come see her often.” 

6. “Throughout the ceremony, our family needs to be dressed really well, so make sure we have designer clothes made ready to our size.”

All in all, the dowry system today seems to be changing, with more women going out to work and the bride and groom paying for their own weddings. The notion of dowry still lingers freely in society, though.

Perhaps no one should get married till dowry is eradicated.

But that’s against our customs.

#dowry