#whether from society at large or within the lgbtpa+ community itself

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me @ bi & pan people apologising for being "straight on main" (or however its phrased) for expressing attraction to another gender: ...love yourself

#there are lots of bi & pan ppl feeling Not Queer Enough due to this mentality #its sad that we've been made to feel guilty no matter which gender we're feeling and/or expressing attraction to #men or women or nonbinary #theres always at least some No You Can't Do That #whether from society at large or within the lgbtpa+ community itself #in general (and within reason) people shouldn't feel bad about who they're attracted to #whether from other ppl or from ur brainwashed insides theres these nasty ideas #''don't be attracted to this gender cuz its sick and wrong and immoral'' #''don't be attracted to this gender because it makes you not gay enough to be accepted and Basically An Oppressor'' #''don't be attracted to this gender because ur bi not pan and bi means two'' #and other various levels of dumb and irrational ideas #also i'm not picking on bi and pan people for our/their internalized biphobia & panphobia #im saying its a problem and and none of us should have to feel that way #and we're all valid and Bi or Pan Enough #believe me i know that feel #even tho i know better and im damn PROUD of being bi #i STILL get the bad bi feels from time to time #and thats due to biphobic views that go around society and culture #so it worms into the brain #even if it doesn't make sense #its a thing #and its sad and problem and thats exactly why posts/messages of positivity and validation are NOT stupid and useless thank you very much! #this is a bi & pan post but when it comes to feelings of self-loathing and invalidation #i'd say thats a mood that most of the community can relate to