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underthebtree · 7 years

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Are you so focused on OUTCOMES that you forget to enjoy the journey that is YOUR LIFE?!

As you weave the rich tapestry of your life, are you aware of where your FOCUS is as you move through the world?

Are you focused on getting from A to B to get the next thing done? So caught up on automatic pilot that you miss the whole journey? So caught up in DOING the ‘to do’ that life itself is passing you by?

Are you able to enjoy the process of life, having a connection to your life as a journey that is happening RIGHT NOW, having confidence that you are heading in the right direction for YOU, and that you WILL ultimately arrive where you are MEANT to at exactly the right time?

Where is your focus?

Are you focused on the CONTENT of your life, the things that are happening or not happening and your subsequent reactions to this, OR are you able to focus on the PROCESS of your life; the journey that is happening NOW and being able roll with what is happening now, recognising that it is all part of your path, the rich tapestry?

As I write, talk and share my message more and more, I am finding that I am making little confessions about myself as I go, ready for another one?

This is a biggy, so strap your seatbelt on!!

OK, so I am a bit of a ‘Treky’!! For those of you who don’t know what this is, it basically means that I grew up to love Star Trek, with my favourite being ‘Star Trek: The Next Generation’. This, I have no problem blaming my Dad for, and he would happily accept this blame (and then ask, ‘What about Dr Who?’ But that is another story!!). At this point in my life there is nothing to be done about this EXCEPT to embrace the wisdom that I have gained from being a Treky! So here goes:

In the ‘Next Generation’ there is an alien race called ‘The Borg’ who are supremely powerful and they move through the universe with the catch cry “RESISTENCE IS FUTILE!”.

This was an extremely scary thing for me when I first watched it – AHHHH, no resistance!! But as an adult I can start to see the merit in this approach to life:

What is happening in your life:

Is happening now.

Is happening anyway.

It just IS.

It is happening.

Resistance is FUTILE!

And just so as not to fully plagerise the wisdom of ‘The Borg’ I would like to add to that; not only is it futile – it directly CAUSES much of our suffering.

To resist what already IS sends the message to youself that

What is happening NOW is not OK

What is happening now is WRONG

And this can lead to:

This must MEAN I am doing something wrong.

This must MEAN that I am not doing it right

AND

This must MEAN something about me, my relationships, my future!

This MEANS I’m DOOMED! (well that might be a bit dramatic but you get my point).

But, does it have to?

I do get to ask you, as you are now questioning your model of the world, does it HAVE to?

Does it have to mean all of these things?

Does it have to mean that all is going to hell in a hand basket?

Or could it be just ONE stage along the journey, that if it were to be embraced, or resistance were to settle, it is then that you could SEE THE WAY THROUGH!?

We are much better problem solvers when we are relaxed, open, and in flow – but this is so often NOT our state. It just isn’t.

Resistance, while it may be futile, it most certainly our most basic and natural reaction when we perceive something to be WRONG, and thinking we need to FIX it is the most natural response!

So what is an alternative?

So what would happen if you could begin to accept for yourself that resistance is futile?

Not just put up with or tolerate the problems in our life, that is endurance NOT acceptance.

We can accept the problem (this is already happening after all) AND recognise that we want things to change, we can do both with the right mindset.

I love this poem on acceptance and share it with you now as a way of offering up an alternative:

ACCEPTANCE.

THIS IS HOW IT IS.

NOT HOW IT

-Was

-Might have been

-Should have been.

NOT HOW I

-Wanted it to be

-Hoped it would be

-Planned it would be.

I ACCEPT THAT THIS IS HOW IT IS.

-Now I get on with my life

in a positive way.

Author Unknown

This is such a supportive poem and I encourage you to print it off and keep it handy. Learning to put down the fight approach to life, and move towards acceptance of the things that we can’t change, really frees us up to focus on the THINGS THAT WE CAN CHANGE – and this is where life really can start to change!

Remember that Bodhi starts with you

Toni-Anne

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Disclaimer: This information is in no way intended to replace psychological treatment should you be suffering from clinical depression and anxiety and be in need of personalised, individual therapy. This information can be used as an adjunct to your therapy and you can feel free to raise it with your therapist should you have one. If you are in any way suicidal, please contact your therapist or emergency support services.

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