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androdetective · 8 months

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Tulio is autistic as shit (to me) here's why

Kinda a long thing I have many thoughts. I understand he's an exaggerated character and all that and I don't think he was actually intended to be autistic. I am just very autistic especially for this moron

-Okay so he seems to have a hard time realizing people's feelings and if he's hurt them. He will say what's on his mind to people even if it would seem mean to the average person. This gets him into trouble sometimes and usually rightfully so. He's not bad for not having the greatest social awareness, he's just an asshole bc he's tulio. Whenever he realizes that he has hurt someone he cares about, he ends up genuinely caring and wanting to make it up to them. Implying he didn't want to really hurt them, he just has a hard time figuring out the impact his actions have on others. This is a common experience some autistic people have. Autism is a big spectrum and one of the symptoms is low empathy. (Whether it be emotional, cognital, or other forms of empathy) Low empathy does not make an autistic person bad, nor does it mean they'll steal candy from babies or some shit, it just means they have social difficulties with people and they can be a super nice or normal person or however else. However, this is tulio, he's an asshole bc he chooses to be. Also note that there are times where he is mean on purpose. This is also tulio just being tulio.

-Adding on to the last point of social difficulties, he is very impulsive and says the first thing he's thinking to people. Even if it comes off as super mean and blunt. Which gets him into trouble. Being very blunt is another symptom and can add to social dysfunction.

-Tulio can be oblivious with people making fun of him, especially with sarcasm. This happens often when Bodoque is with him and he starts being sarcastic. Tulio doesn't always catch on to Bodoque's tone and can think that Juan Carlos is genuine with his words. This also happens with other people and can lead to embarrassing moments for him. Not only does he have trouble with tone but misunderstanding phrases. He also has trouble understanding people's intentions, whether they're good or bad. Which can lead him to thinking someone innocent is deceiving him. Or even thinking someone clearly shady is trustworthy. Which has led to trouble for him.

-Another thing is that he has very exaggerated movements, tone, and emotions. Just like having a monotone voice and being unemotetive, the opposite is true. He has big reactions to things that arent that big and exaggerates his words a lot. Tulio chooses to speak with formal language too. He speaks with his hands and even body.

-Stims a lot. Sometimes he will mimick and repeat others. If he sees something bouncing or moving around, his eyes will follow and his head will sway to the movement. Quick example off the top of my head was when Mario Hugo was swaying on that noose (very specific example I know) he swayed along to it. He also taps his fingers on surfaces and adjusts his tie. (Ik that's more likely attributed to his vanity, but it's a common stim so)

-He has a very limited interest in very niche things. He really likes ties. To a point it seems excessive to others. He tends to get bored with things that don't interest him and has trouble paying attention to them. Which can cause him to ignore others. And even forget someone or what was going on in the situation. With his interests, he really likes to talk about them whenever he can. Similar to info-dumping. Even to people that don't care to hear about his interests. He possibly might not notice they don't care.

-He does not like unconsented minor changes. Check the entire show.

That's all I can think of. Maybe I'll add to this later who knows

Tulio Triviño is just like me fr 👆

#31 minutos #tulio triviño #by the way i type can you tell im autistic lmao #i liked writing this #kinda wanna write like this with tulio again except with n/pd symptoms #except i worry people will be too weird about it :/#nero writing

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lesbianspeedy · 1 year

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can I hear about the mia and ollie similarities whenever you have time...

theyre blonde :( thats it :( okay but ACTUALLY LETS GET INTO IT

They're loud assholes to people who need to be yelled at, but theyre actually hella introverted.

Mia "i think fast i talk fast" Dearden will mouth off at villains and batman, and take the piss out of people she loves. BUT she wasn't exactly shown to have like a friend group at her school (she was shown to be popular. but we only see her specifically interact with one person), and was extremely nervous to join the titans, not because they intimidated her, but because she didnt really...want to be there. She'd rather be with people she knows. She spends most of her time practicing archery, even before she was speedy. The only time we ever saw her go out anywhere was on a date with Dodger. And I will be pretending for the sake of this post that all of this is bc of character stuff and not just bad writing!

Similarly, Ollie "goateed loudmouth" Queen thrives when he's alone, he prefers it, he rarely spends time with people outside of his family or close close friends. He'll rant and rave at leaguers and cops and capitalists and villains all day long, but he's at his happiest and most content when he's alone, and often when on the move too, this man cannot sit still he is like a fucking shark he will die if he is in the same place too long but thats unrelated to this post.

As is pretty much a requirement to be in the arrowfam. Neither of them are here to fight the big alien threats you take on while being in the league/titans. They're here to save the little guy and fuck up capitalists. They have both seen the worst of society on the very opposite ends of the spectrum, Ollie with the rich, Mia with those the rich forget or ignore. I don't think I really need to add an example of Ollie here considering thats like his main this if u know anything about him. But look heres mia thinking abt it in her first titans issue.

Now with coping mechanisms they're a lil different, Mia tends to isolate and stay in one place. Ollie will isolate but fuck off somewhere. Accidentally walk to canada. That sorta thing.

(pls ignore how terrifying bald ollie is)

They also both mask their emotions and deflect with humour when around other people, they don't want others to have to deal with their shit, they don't want to burden them (hence the isolation, this also often leads to them imploding in on themselves). Heres my most favourite example of their similarities ever (yes I will continue to post and talk about this specific thing every 3 weeks and no one can stop me) I do owe Hester my life for this

Now heres the best part. They both did this a lot right. And yknow what that led to? Learning and growing and being there for each other :] Now im going to be honest we dont really see this growth in vol 3 bc judd winick is incapable of writing character development but! Phil Hester is here for us once again with his story in the 80th special and this part specifically <3

Also once again a whole arrowfam thing- neither of them give two shits about their secret id lmao. I choose to believe Mia is so flippant about hers bc she so easily realised Ollie was GA that she just went like. Yeah sure I won't give a fuck either, it's clearly working for him.

oh and they both like musical theatre, hate batman and are homophobic**. sad. **not actually thats just an in joke in fandom

#mia dearden #oliver queen #ollie queen #long post #arrowfam #listen this isnt. worded the best #not very concise or articulate #but like u get it #u get it #pls get it #theres some more stuff but im not in my big brain mode rn so i cant word it right #anyways #green arrow #dc comics #them teehee #THE HOMOPHOBIC THING IS A JOKE DW

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berrieswherewelie · 1 month

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What are some Servamp ships/headcanons you have?

That's a really broad question, which is dangerous because I love to hear myself talk, but I'll try and answer as best as I can!

Generally I like a lot of ships; I like most of the more common ones in this fandom and you can convince me of (almost!!) anything if you're passionate about it. But there's some I love more than others!

Speaking in broad terms I enjoy Servamp/Eve ships especially. I like the power dynamics of the vampire who holds the power and the human who holds the leash; and they're all so well-written in the manga that it's hard not to get invested in their complexities. A Servamp and their Eve complete and complement each other; and there's something really sexy about a bond that manifests in both a physical chain and a mental/emotional link.

I also love Servamp/Servamp ships! Especially now that we know a bit more about their past (though most of it remains shrouded in mystery, which is intriguing in itself). The Servamps are really the only ones who can even try and understand what it is like to live as they do, which I think gives their relationships the potential to be so rich and bittersweet; and since they're a varied bunch you can get so many flavours by combining them.

My favourite Servamp/Servamp ship - so much so it gets a paragraph of its own - is Jeje/Lily. They can be extremely sweet; they've known each other for centuries, they're so very comfortable around each other (especially in the extra materials), their aesthetics go amazingly well with each other. They can be extremely sad; they're both tangled up in a scheme that resulted in Lily (more or less) causing the death of a woman Jeje loved, and though the paths that took them there have yet to be unravelled, they're most likely quite dark. They are polar opposites, with an immaculate repressed/slutty dynamic that I love deeply; they are the same in their shared disdain of their long lives. They're also both very pretty.

On kind of the other end of the spectrum I also love Touma/Tooru. I think Touma's disdain of Tooru and his general way of being an asshole are so much fun to write! But I struggle to give them depth, so I don't really manage to write long or meaningful things about them, and most of it is just hatefucking. I love it when my friends talk to me about them, though, so I can fill them with some substance.

My favourite Servamp ship, finally, is Lisono. I should not go too in-depth about why I love it, because I've already been yapping for way too long, but the relationship canon gives them is the most beautiful and complex in this manga, and rife with love and conflict, and I love spinning it beyond what we're shown, into what they might be like in the future. I am so excited to see the culmination of their arc!

(Since I am a smut-focused account, I also think they're the most interesting sexuality-wise - Misono who is inexperienced as can be; Lily who carries significant trauma with him.)

#lisono #toumatooru #jelily #i think that's the ship name for jeje/lily but i'm not sure #also so sorry for talking forever #i'll try and make another post with some headcanons because i just used your ask to waffle on about my favourite ships forever #and that's not even what you asked for

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pfenniged · 1 year

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Hi, first of all i wanna to tell you that you do pretty good job. I love your posts. I just wanna aks you if you would be nice.I wanna know Why Lewis Nixon hate Buck?What i heard its only because Buck was sport guy? And if you have some information about Grace Nixon. I read your post about her and i think she was amazing i want know more about her. I would find some information by myself but i found only few information about her.I am from Europe and i dont have so many book i have only three about easy E in my own language. I not good in english. I hope that not rude from me write you.

I would understand if you dont answer. Please keep going what you do. 🥰😍

Hey there :)

First off, absolutely no problem writing to me, and thank you for your kind words <3

So to address both of your questions:

1) Lewis Nixon "hates" Buck: Lewis Nixon "hates" Buck in the way that I think a smart, more intellectual guy, would hate a "jock." The sources I've seen don't seem to elaborate on it more, but from my reading of it, Lewis Nixon was always more a prep school, smart, rich kid who spoke several languages, and therefore, probably didn't like someone who HE saw as only getting opportunities or benefits coming from the fact that he was good at sports (This is a bit ironic, coming from Lewis Nixon, because we all know he was like, so rich he actually had a TOWN named after his family, but there you go). So what I always understood from it, Lewis "hated" Buck because he didn't see being good at sports or being an outgoing, sporty type, as something that should be rewarded. AKA he was one of those guys who was like, "Why do people worship jocks? All they do is run fast."

On the other hand, Buck also didn't like Lewis, from what I understand, because he probably thought he was too "high and mighty" being a rich guy looking down his nose at him, when to be fair, Buck wasn't just "good at sports." He played with Jackie Robinson, who was the first black player to play in professional baseball in America- he broke several athletic records- he could have played professionally in a multitude of sports from what I understand. To be short: He was talented, and was probably annoyed that Lewis was like "YEAH YEAH YOU RUN AND HIT A BALL, GREAT, ANYONE CAN DO THAT."

So I think both of them were just a clash of personalities- both more dominant, big personalities, but on opposite ends of the spectrum- Lewis having a big personality but being known for his mind and being sarcastic and smart and witty, and Buck being known for being a leader and sporty and athletic.

I found this post by @winnix85 that lays out more examples than I knew of here from Buck Compton's book. From what they say, it might be because Winters didn't gel with Compton either, therefore, Nixon as Winter's best friend doubled down on being an asshole to him. But from what I see it's all down to personalities clashing, and not just one incident. I feel it's that thing where we all have coworkers where even if they're not the worst person in the world, you're like, "They're kind of weird/off and we don't gel well together, even though there's nothing objectively terrible about them." That's sort of the vibe I get- they were coworkers who didn't really fit together, but also took the opportunity to poke back at each other if they got the chance (Especially Nixon. Which is kind of petty, but what can you do).

2) Grace Nixon:

I wish I could provide you more information on Grace Nixon, but literally everything I got in that post was actually randomly from her obituary posted online, which was presumably drafted by her/ with her consent before she passed, or by her family members who obviously loved her. I just compiled it into a dumb list for the post of all the amazing things she did.

So I don't think there are any GREAT sources on her besides that (in any language, including English), but I'm happy they provided that amount of detail in her obituary, because it really paints a picture of what a fun and resilient lady she was. I think only someone like that could have both kept Lewis Nixon's attention, while also being strong enough to call him on his bullshit when he was behaving badly (Like he was with Buck, and most likely in his first two marriages (whoops)).

Anyhow, hope this answers your questions, darling, and have a great day!

#hopefully this makes sense #xoxo #personal #band of brothers #hbo war #history #real life band of brothers #lewis nixon #grace nixon #buck compton #remadorkaaa

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kidflashimpulse · 2 years

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Fully admit that I was never a BB fan to begin with but the annoyance is exemplified when Bart isn’t highlighted for having good leadership nor trauma. He can clearly take charge when needed while still listening to other’s opinions. And (not to sound like I’m comparing) has probably suffered so much more, has probably had to see so many loved ones die in his time. Restraining so much not to rant lol. Hope it’s fine to dump this : P!

omg!! My first anon!!! HELLO thank u for coming into my asks and sending in your rant I appreciate it and i’m always SUPER happy to hear peoples thoughts on things :D <3 No worries on restraining urself, feel free to say whatever is on your mind :)

warning: this is pretty much an essay oops

Honestly, I at first wrote an essay in response to this especially regarding the parallels between Garfield and Bart, because they're definitely there and super interesting to discuss. But I felt like I was gonna be dumping this ask with my own rambles and unasked for think piece and didn't want to stray too much off topic lol.

Basically, I totally understand where you're coming from anon and the biased side of me entirely agrees! Its kinda ridiculous that we don't get to see these aspects of Bart being highlighted which essentially serve as a foil to Gars Phantoms arc.

I think its also a complete waste of an opportunity (yes I understand there are time and work constraints on creating a show, but of course, I believe there is always a way especially with how YJA prides itself in balancing a multi-plot storyline), that the parallels in Gars and Barts characterisation weren't explored. Because otherwise, it leads to the type of frustrations that both you and I feel on this topic, because theres no on-screen resolution of it.

Like you said, its not a comparing game. But we really can't help but do a side by side comparison when they have been two characters that have basically been linked since season 2. When Bart first appeared, BB was one of the first people he properly met and “fought” lol. They're also the closest in age among their generation of heroes. Then theres the whole Outsiders plot, with Bart obviously supporting Gars initiative and by the end of season 3 at the ending clip Bart was joking with BB. The two are clearly good friends, considering their history, and whilst BB was trying to work through his trauma its almost ridiculous that we didn't even get a mention of Barts input on his situation.

But im kinda going off topic here. My point in relation to your post is, there is very much a basis for the parallels between the two to be drawn. So its not unreasonable to compare the twos history. Ive read people on the young justice discord also very reasonably compare the two and what they mentioned that I entirely agree with them on is that Garfield is clearly particularly sensitive to death.

Which is very hard for someone in a field of heroics and all that. Especially as a team leader.

Bart is clearly on the opposite end of the spectrum, pretty much desensitised to death clearly cause of his original timeline.

Now, I find BB being sensitive to death very on par with the shows rendition of his character. He started out as an innocent, open minded, animal loving kid. Hes vegetarian (possibly vegan I can't remember) and really easily warms up to new people in his life for the sake of found family. He is sensitive and empathetic that way, which I believe is a prerequisite for his powers too as he has no problems to easily take on any creatures form.

I used to be a fan of him from Teen Titans (lol) and I read a lot of his comics when I was a kid, and honestly, a lot of iterations of his characters throughout all these series, both comics and cartoons (TT included) he is often annoying and a douche bag in one way or another (arguably a poor portrayal of him, or maybe it really is just him because its so common lol). So him not being a massive asshole, in fact being this some what naive and sensitive guy in young justice, is definitely a welcomed breath of fresh air.

So when I try to be “unbiased” I recognise that with all the tragedy that BB has been through, its fair for him to act the way to he has throughout Phantoms.

I think this “objective” fact, that different people react in different ways, could've easily been demonstrated by drawing explicit parallels this season between the two. Bart is known at this point in the show to have an incredibly traumatic childhood and I think involving him in this plot could've showcased more how subjective the experience of trauma responses can be and actually explicitly showcase that Gar is sensitive to death which I think would've helped the ppl both on Tumblr and the YJ reddit who were not particularly impressed with BBs phantoms arc, to be more sympathetic to him. Because I think having opposite sides of the spectrum, really sheds light on one another.

However we are left with the two parallels not being connected this season, with the outsiders not so much as being shown a second of their reaction to Barts disappearance and him not being shown for a second in Gars Phantoms arc. Its annoying. And frustrating. But it is what it is. And just gives us more excuses to come up with whatever interpretations we want to fill in the blanks they gave us.

Its cool that we got to see Barts independence, resilience and capabilities, especially considering his background this season (despite the way too many times hes been nerfed this season lol) and it would've been so many times more satisfying if we saw its context within the rest of the Outsiders. But who knows, if the show gets renewed or maybe even in the comics, we might get a glimpse of all these things. Anything is possible lol.

So yeah, I kinda went off track and still wrote some kind of essay. Welp, my bad lol but I very much found ur ask super interesting and inspired all this lol and hope I addressed some of ur frustrations which I agree with.

p.s My personal headcannon based on what has been shown of Bart in the show, especially his desensitisations to death is that he really isn't as traumatised as people often express/expect him to be. Doesn't mean he has zero trauma, or doesn't have his issues, or his childhood didn't fck him up a bit, I feel like anyone growing up in some kind of post-apocalyptic wasteland will be messed up one way or another. But definitely not in the classic trauma response way which Gar was shown to go through this season. I feel like the resilience that Bart has shown throughout the seasons makes a lot of sense for someone who has survived what he has so that's why im not really on the same camp of the people who say that they would like to see what Gar has gone through, for Bart. Because ultimately, they are two different characters and these kind of journeys aren't copy and paste, nor is it realistic to be universally applied to everyone. Which is why I would have again, appreciated the parallels to be more explicitly linked and Barts story to be more highlighted this season.

On a semi-unrelated note, I am literally writing a fic right now on Barts messed up worldview as a result of his growing up in his OG timeline (in a some what light-hearted) way. Because of all the lack of Outsiders this season I was inspired to try to write a one shot on some of their team dynamics and I think ppl naturally think Bart is weird (its both an original comics and in show constant which I appreciate) so I wanted to explore this weirdness a bit. So for anyone who is interested in this, I should be posting it some time this week! For zetaflash fans, theres some sprinkled in there too lol and for Blue and Bart besties 4 ever fans, there some of that in there too lol for those who don't care feel free to ignore lol

Again, apologies for basically writing the story of my life, but then this also shows, feel free to rant anytime for however long u want ! My asks are open!!! (and not broken, all this time I thought maybe I did something wrong so that's why I didn't get any so im so happy anon, thank u again for ur message! <3 :D)

#YJ asks #bart allen #impulse #kid flash #Garfield logan #beast boy #young justice phantoms #young justice #young justice invasion #zetaflash #that's at the end just an fyi that im working on a lowkey one cause I had writers blockfor my main one im sorry y'all I am also working on #A Night In to those who are interested #I apologise again for the delays

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newgeht · 2 years

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(I am sorry in advance for the spam)

rate [pairing] from 1-10 and explain why: helsie, erastice, holy x feather, weiszguna, eraser x weisz, valkyrie x kurenai

Don't worry!!! It's not a spam, we need some more light on each and every one of these ships! They are sailing!!!

This post is going to get long-

Helsie: Uhm.... Enemies to lovers!! Need I say more! I am going to be biased because it is my favorite shipping trope. Especially since the two seem to be polar opposites in their demeanors and yet so similar in certain aspects. They are both playing to their strengths within their respectable Oracion Seis crews and yet, marred by their terrible pasts. Unlike Elsie, Holy has the more tame demeanor and it creates an interesting relationship dynamic. 11/10

Weiszguna: This one also goes in my fave trope, kinda. Thus far their interactions are great within canon setting and I can see Weisz embracing the new culture he was flung into with Laguna by his side. Just opening his eyes to the spectrum of sexuality and gender since he is just an old geezer but Laguna seems to have an old soul themselves. I can also see them denying their feelings for one another due to their outward facades. Until Shiki or Kleene tell them to kiss! 9/10

Erastice: One amazing counter to Jelsie. Although we know little of Eraser's overall canon character, his confidence and smarminess would counter the stick up Justice's asshole. The pessimism versus optimistic characteristics reflect upon one another so well and would create the slowest of slow burns. Like it would take them months, maybe years to know that they are pining for one another. Eraser more than Justice sadly. No love until he locks Elsie up. 11/10

Holy x Feather: Ahhhhhh!! Girlfriends. It was difficult to come up with some thoughts for this one as I don't want to think of them so similarly to Erastice. I do believe one of Feather's faults is not knowing her own true feelings due to the complications of her eg and thus making it hard to make connections. Holy is flirty with almost everyone and makes it hard for Feather to understand her true intentions. At the end of the day, they're just cute blubbering idiots who don't know how to optimally convey their feelings. 8/10

Eraser x Weisz: Ohhhh,,, a rarepair or would it be crack? First thought was two assholes who aren't afraid to get down and dirty. I can see many secret rendezvous and a tricky situation they won't be able to get out of. Friend with benefits to secret boyfriends to getting caught??? It would be quite the scandal. (Can I dub this Ereisz??) 8/10

Valkyrie x Kurenai: HOW DID I NOT THINK OF THIS FIRST??? A little bit of Annaleen vibes but not quite. There's a lot of angst swirling around due to Homura and I highly doubt either of them would be able to ever commit to a true relationship. I can imagine them being lesbian co-parents; where Kurenai only gets Homura and under supervision at that!! Without Homura in the equation, these alluring ladies would have a powerful dynamic. Rulers of the Aoi cosmos, maybe?? Also the knight x royalty dynamic pops into my mind. Just because of the scandal of it all, I love how foul and angsty this ship could be. 9/10

#edens zero #ez #weiszguna #helsie #erastice #eraser x weisz #holy x feather #valkyrie x kurenai #idk why it took me so long to do this omg #i couldn't get my thoughts together and wrote some of them multiple times to pull it all together and condense it #newg's musings #watcher-ofthe-sky

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bargainmatinee · 2 years

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Bodies Bodies Bodies

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Here's another one where I disagreed with the critics, but this time the I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. General consensus seems to be that "Bodies Bodies Bodies" is pretty damn good, but I was severely underwhelmed. Billed as a horror/comedy, I found myself neither frightened not laughing. More of a mystery/thriller, but I didn't think it was a particularly successful attempt at that genre, either. A cast of completely despicable characters gave me no one to root for or care about. And yes, I get that was the point. It's satire. They're supposed to be assholes. Just didn't work for me. To be fair, the ending was pretty great and almost salvaged the whole thing, but I just wish the buildup had been as strong.

#movies #bodies bodies bodies

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nygmobblepot-trash · 2 years

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I know I've said this a thousand times but I don't care. I will remind people until the end of time.

What I really appreciate about Nygmobblepot is that they're complete opposites of each other. Ed is the brain, cold and calculating. Facts are facts and no amount of hope or willpower will change them. Oswald is the bloody and beating heart. Who cares about the odds? I want this and nothing will stop me. They're on opposite ends of the spectrum completely, each dialed to 100 on a 10 point scale.

But that isn't to say they aren't devoid of having those opposite traits. Ed can feel things, including love (which seems to be the hardest for him), he just locks it away. He thinks they hold him back, in reality he's scared of getting hurt or beaten (not physically). When Oswald sets his emotions aside he gets shit done. He lets his opponent think he's nothing, nobody, but in reality he's just buying time until his plan clicks in to place. In a game with moving parts and tons of players he still comes out on top because he's just that good. Unlike Ed, Oswald doesn't chose. He can't control his emotions... at all. Even when his brain is screaming at how dumb an action is he goes with what he feels.

And when they're together oh God it can be great... or awful. When the writers stop making up stupid reasons for the two to be fighting, they're a power house. Together they make a functional human being. The two extreme ends of the spectrum can be useful in certain cases. Sometimes you gotta listen to your heart sometimes its your head. Oswald about to be an impulsive asshole and get a world of hurt? Simple. Ed holds him back with reason. Normally reason never works on Oswald. His emotions are all too powerful, but he and Ed understand each other. When Ed says to stop there's a damn good reason. And most of the time Ed finds away for Oswald to get what he wants just at a later date or in a different way. It works the other way too. When Ed becomes too detached its Oswald who reminds him to check to see how he's feeling.

We got a little bit of this towards the end of Gotham. Ed killed the dummy and his ex assistant knowing damn well there would be consequences if they were left alive (or because of jealousy, but that's another post). Oswald cared for the man too much to do it himself. Ed even made the argument when Oswald got mad. Oswald knows who Ed is and why he does or doesn't do anything.

The opposite happens with the submarine. Oswald chooses to stay and help fight. Ed tries to use logic but Oswald knows in his heart this is right. He tells Ed to do the same and leaves. Ed eventually does this and realizes his place next to Oswald. He argues that its only because you need two people to pilot the sub. We find out later this is false as Ras's daughter escapes with it.

I just wish we could've seen more peak character development Nygmobblepot. They know each other to a T and are completely done with betrayals. They trust each other 100 percent.

#gotham #edward nygma #nygmobblepot #oswald cobblepot

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yourstreetserenade · 2 years

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I really enjoyed that Galentine's/Valentine's fic I posted a few weeks back so I opened up a doc with all of my other fic ideas and now I'm almost itching to jump into one of the random AUs I've always wanted to write

Like I had this one idea about brittana as radio hosts at the same station. They're both successful but their shows are at opposite ends of the spectrum. Santana is like a female Howard Stern of sorts, obnoxious and crass, she occasionally has a stripper on as a guest, is always asking her celeb guests questions about their sex life. An asshole but because it's Santana it's somehow charming. Her show and her on air persona would rely on sex appeal.

Meanwhile Brittany's call in show would focus on relationships and how to navigate them. She believes in love and intimacy.

Naturally this shock jock au Santana would find Brittany's show utterly nauseating because who needs love and intimacy and feelings when you can just have orgasms. Brittany on the other hand doesn't really get the appeal of orgasms without emotional connection because according to her orgasms are great and all but they're way better with feelings. They view sex and relationships in two very different ways.

They have different time slots so they're not really competing for ratings/listeners, but they love riling the other up. Every time they pass each other in the station hallway there's witty slightly flirty banter. Brittany chides Santana over some especially salacious remark she made the previous day, Santana hums in approval because "so you listen to my show on a regular basis, do you? Mm, noted" and of course Brittany balks because as if. There's lots of back and forth, and it isn't always Santana with the smart lines, because Brittany would definitely keep Santana on her feet with her own observations. "You play up this sex appeal angle because you know it sells but you know what I think? I think you're scared shitless of being vulnerable in any real way", things like that.

They get under each other's skin and then wham, bam, feelings. Maybe some very minor miscommunication somehow, somewhere. Santana realizes there's more to life than meaningless hookups, and Brittany realizes there's more to Santana than her crass on air persona. Bing bam boom.

#idk it could be cute and fun #i know i have like three WIPS that i haven't touched in ages but #i kind of want to play in a quick little one shot au

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highlifeboat · 2 years

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U kno i cant see elena n max with the other sisters but i can see mel with them

Max with Bela would not work out for several reasons (a big one being their complete opposite ends of the sex drive spectrum lmao), and I feel like Cass and Max would be just... toxic, I guess? I feel like Max would just poke at Cass' anger issues and Cass would be constantly threatening their life.

I could maybe see Elena with Dani, I feel like they'd be a very soft relationship, but I can't see her with Cass. Like I just don't think they could get along in a lovey kind of way for whatever reason.

But Mel? Universal girlfriend material.

MeCassa? 'asshole character finds the one person they're soft for' trope? Starts off rough but turns very sweet, we love to see it.

Belony? Friends to lovers for sure. Very wholesome. Sex? Don't know them. And the HIGHT DIFFERENCE! Amazing.

Meliela? So soft, so sweet, Dani would be hyping Mel up all the time and trying to make her blush (and maybe leaning into that mommy kink a little lmao) They'd be very "Flirty Person x Awkward Person" trope.

#asks #anons

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Without saying who, why do you not vibe with your least favorite driver on the grid?

I'm going to exclude M*z***n from this because of course he's the worst and we all should know why we don't vibe with him.

I think that even tho I have a mostly chill view about the drivers, i have my faves, the ones i overall like and the ones i don't really care for either way, there's a couple i simply don't vibe with because of some of the stuff they do and the amount of stupid privilege they exhude. Like don't get me wrong ALL of those men are extremely privileged and live in a different "reality" from most other mortals, but some of them just seem to be even less self aware, they live in their bubble where what they do is okay and if it isn't then they don't care because well, the bad stuff doesn't get close enough to them to burst that bubble.

I don't know if I'm making much sense here, but what I'm saying is if you are so high in your secluded existence that you don't realize when something is wrong when you are a fucking adult man, then sorry I don't like you.

Also another one because i know his political views are at the total opposite end of the spectrum and I'm sorry I don't vibe with supporters of fascist parties.

But still I like to keep a mostly neutral view here even from the ones i don't like that much because at the end of the day I WILL call any one of them when they're assholes, doesn't matter if they're my fave, and we only know what the silly social media lense shows us so 🤷

Anonymously message me one thing you’d like to know about me. I will answer anything.

#god this got long #i dont think it would be too hard knowing who they are #but basically i love some. i like most of the grid. i dont like a couple but still will be neutral except when theyre being assholes #except the egg. fuck that guy.#thank you so much for the ask #anon im sorry it got so long

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animentality · 6 years

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I love when someone sends me a message calling me a racist or whatever and then instantly blocks me cuz they're too much of a coward or too disingenuous to actually have a conversation with me

Really love that internet vibe where you don't want to talk, you just like to pretend youre right by using simplified rhetoric and black and white half-baked political slogans.

It's one of the most endearing qualities of Tumblr, and most social media, I would say.

I may be an asshole, but Christ, at least I'm not the type of person to leave Anon hate in someone's inbox or send angry hate filled messages to people and then block them cuz I can't handle the backlash.

I apparently live and breathe backlash.

And I never do anything purely because I'm worried about it.

Respect it or don't, but at the end of the day, I know what I'm about, and if you can't handle a conversation with someone about an opinion you don't like, then it's just a sign of the times that human beings have forgotten what it's like to be challenged by an opposing opinion.

And that's how we got to where we are today.

Divided nations, extreme opposite ends of a spectrum, and no compromises or discussions.

Love it, guys, keep it up.

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ofcaramelandcoffee · 6 years

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Based on my experiences so far and what I know, I'm not too fond of tru.scum/trans.med :/

I'm sorry but if you invalidate anybody's trans-ness on the basis of whether or not they have gender dysphoria, or invalidate ANYONE lgbtq+ for any reason whatsoever really, then I don't even want anything to do with you

There's a whole frickin spectrum out there, and with it, there are an endless amount of experiences and feelings regarding certain subjects that tru.scum/trans.med argue against. And if you're gonna fight that without even bothering to listen to their stories or even trying to understand, even so much as to stalk the tag JUST for that sweet, sweet discourse? Well that only marks you as an asshole

There are trans* people without gender dysphoria. There are people with gender dysphoria. Gender is a social stigma forced upon the masses for the benefit of suppression or to make trans* people seem less than human. There are those who transition and those who don't. There are even those who partially transition. Their reasoning is their own and not something you can police

You can use whatever the hell pronouns you feel comfortable with. Many languages have or have had that. Gender identities are numerous and can be found in so many different civilasations and beliefs. Nonbinary, and nonbinary trans* exist, such as myself

I don't feel comfortable considering myself 100% male, and am over a year through transition. Hell, I even feel extreme gender dysphoria and plan to have top surgery and a hysterectomy, though the hysterectomy is mainly because I hate the pains of periods. Yet I don't like identifying as solely transmale/male because that's not who I am

On the opposite end of that, I know amazing trans* people and don't wish for hormones/transition for their own reasons, such as those who fear of losing their singing voice or those who despise gender norms

There are aces, aros, and pans. And no, neither bi nor pan are transphobic. Pan (like my husband) is an attraction regardless of gender identity. Bi (like myself) is an attraction to two or multiple gender identities, and they may differ from one to the next. Both exist, whether it's a romantic orientation or a sexual one

And since this apparently seems to be such a controversial topic, trans and gay ARE umbrella terms. Language has developed into such, whether or not you're happy with it. Dictionary results haven't caught up yet, but it usually takes a while for official dictionaries to include ANYTHING new. Furthermore, queer is a valid term that can be used by queer individuals. It was a slur. But before that, it belonged to the community. We took it back. Of course, there are those uncomfortable with using the term for themselves, and that's okay

I'm aware that not all tru.scum or trans.med believe all what I've argued against above. But from my experiences, those topics - and more - have come to light

Stop gatekeeping. We're supposed to be supportive of one another, not telling someone they're not trans enough because of your own experiences

Each experience is each person's own, and you can't tell someone they're wrong for reflecting on themselves and discovering who they are. If you do, then that's just outright abusive. This is coming from someone who was mentally, emotionally, and physically abused by someone really close to me, always trying to change who I am to better fit their own mold of who I should be. It went on for well over a year, almost every single damn day, and I'll be damned if I let it happen to myself or anyone else

I'm trans. I'm nonbinary. I'm bisexual. I'm gay. I'm lgbtq+. I'm proud

note: I will not tolerate outright hate or ridicule. I'm always game for civil conversation but if I see any replies/reblogs with insults or claims of people not being able to identify ad they do, I will simply block and move on with my life. I have my own life to live. I don't need that kind of negativity in my world

#lgbt #lgbtq #nonbinary #trans #transgender #i put the dots in the names of these people bc i don't want my post to be in the tag

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bluewatsons · 6 years

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Sabra Embury, Are We Too Quick to Call Everyday Assholes Narcissists?, Vice (August 17, 2016)

Vice: It seems the label "narcissist" is more ubiquitous than ever, used to describe every power-hungry egomaniac.

Kristin Dombek: My hunch is that the popularity of the word, as an insult, or a citizen diagnosis, these days, is partly about a fear of the internet itself, where it spreads. About how we have to deal with so many people so quickly, without being able to test who they are behind the images and words they put online. More generally, the commonness of the term these days is an example of the dominance of psychological language in our everyday ways of relating to others and thinking about ethical problems. It worries me that we've come to use psychological diagnosis in a very unexamined way in everyday conversation, as if it's scripture, as if its categories are clear and true, and we can just fit people into them. Historically, that kind of language has often had an agenda, under the surface.

Vice: For those who are unfamiliar, what's the difference between a narcissist and a sociopath?

Kristin Dombek: People must ask the internet this all the time—"Is my boyfriend a sociopath or a narcissist?"—judging by the number of posts on this topic on relationship self-help sites. Neither a narcissist nor a sociopath can give real love, people tend to agree about that. But while both are just tricking you and using you, or so the story goes, narcissists are more focused on getting affection and attention they need to maintain a grandiose, vain self-image, while sociopaths don't even give a shit; they're just trying to get power and win. The narcissist might drop you and then keep coming back to try to persuade you that he's actually cool and perfect, and that it's you who is the problem; the sociopath might just take off when she's done. The studies that claim to show narcissism is actually increasing are not convincing to me, so I got interested in the question of why narcissism [has become] one of our most common fears about other people. Fear of narcissism is a little different than fear of sociopathy or psychopathy; it's about fakeness, and performance, about the possibility that someone can seem to have a warm, charming surface, but under the surface, total absence of empathy, total emptiness.

Vice: And that emptiness is definitely more nurture than nature, right?

Kristin Dombek: There's a total lack of consensus in the psychology literature I've read. But dating self-help sites tend to present it as a natural thing, like an essential category--Some people just don't have empathy. You can feel better about your ex-boyfriend because he's essentially a narcissist, he's not capable of love, he'll never change . It's not that he chose not to feel empathy for you, he's not capable of empathy at all. You were fooled . The commonness of this story makes me suspicious.

Vice: Just as there's a spectrum of autism, do you think there's a spectrum of narcissistic personality disorder? Or do you see it working in stages--early inward versus full-blown zero-empathy monster?

Kristin Dombek: These are huge questions. If you look across the subfields of psychology, there's a good deal of disagreement about whether narcissism is a thing we are or a thing we do, if it's better defined as a clinical condition or a spectrum, a thing in the brain or a thing at all, a permanent and untreatable lack of empathy or a condition that can be healed. The lack of consensus is so great that the American Psychiatric Association came close to removing "narcissistic personality disorder" from the last edition of Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders . And yet there are hundreds of websites about toxic and fraudulent romance that dispense advice about "narcissists" as if the term is clear-cut. I've read enough to become a committed agnostic. When the word comes up in my head, it feels more useful and accurate to think of it as a thing we do—as a thing I do, and have to work against doing, and a thing others do, and I have to work to understand them. In other words, since the word is there, shouting at me, when I do something shitty or cold, or someone else disappears, I'm trying to make it more flexible.

Vice: In the debate of who did what wrong, I guess it's all pretty relative.

Kristin Dombek: There are assholes, of course. But yes—my hunch is that I'm fascinated by the way these diagnostic terms shape our stories about romance, gender, sexuality, generations—our feelings about the culture and condemnations of whole groups, like millennials. And worried by the way the word "narcissism" helps us fetishize our own empathy, as if "we" always have it and "they" don't.

Vice: You say that Freud argued that narcissism, at its base, stems from an instinct of self-preservation, especially when dealing with cold, cruel, or violent parents. Is this at all related to the type of narcissists who are constantly posting selfies?

Kristin Dombek: The social psychologists who warn of a narcissism epidemic today, citing selfie-posting and so on, actually believe that the thing they're calling "narcissism" comes from too much parental attention and coddling; they think narcissists have too high self-esteem—which is the opposite of what Freud thought. Are they talking about the same thing, even? I'm not sure. But no, we'd better hope that all people who post selfies are not necessarily people with personality disorders. Selfies are shared and shared for the sake of contact. I've noticed that some of my most wildly generous, empathetic friends post the most selfies. Why is this? It seems too simple to claim that anything that is expressed through self-representation is necessarily self-absorbed or vain. Sometimes selfies are posted for vain reasons, sometimes for no good reason, and sometimes for important, generous, even revolutionary reasons.

Vice: Speaking of revolutionary self-representation, you briefly mentioned novelist Karl Ove Knausgaard and the success of his memoirs being treated, by some, as a symptom of all this.

Kristin Dombek: What Knausgaard has done is mysterious, isn't it? Knausgaard has been called narcissistic, and many have cited the popularity of the memoir genre as a sign of a cultural shift toward narcissism. But this doesn't make sense to me. For every one person who writes a memoir, there are multiple people who read it, right? In the case of Jeannette Walls or Cheryl Strayed, a gazillion people. So even if Jeanette Walls or Cheryl Strayed were narcissists for writing about their lives (and there's just no way they are, or their books would be boring and non-revelatory and people would not love them as they do), then what about all the people who are reading their memoirs? It's hard to imagine cold, non-empathetic, entirely self-absorbed people caring enough to read hundreds of pages about someone else's life. My point is that maybe it's not the "I" that's the problem; maybe the "I", as a mode of expression, in image or writing, or music, for that matter, can be humble or tyrannical, generous or attention-seeking, conservative or revolutionary, and so on.

Vice: Is there a common "tell" you've noticed among people with full blown NPD? From all your research, have you noticed an ability to meet people and see characteristics of NPD emerge sooner than later?

Kristin Dombek: There are many posts suggesting "tells," ways to test people and diagnose right away. I'm more trying to learn how not to do this. Diagnosis can protect you from being exploited. Also, it's fun, sometimes, to talk about with friends. Maybe I'm a spoilsport by worrying over it. But there's a structural similarity with every kind of bigotry, everything that causes the horrors we see in the world--to put people in a category first and then decide how to treat them. I think most professional psychologists would agree we should be more cautious. The APA, this week, published a message to its members not to be tempted to diagnose certain political figures from afar; there's a standard that's been in place since 1972, the Goldwater Rule, that forbids diagnosing people you have not examined yourself.

Vice: Do you believe a symbiotic relationship between empaths and narcissists exists? That the empaths are "consumed" and emptied so that they too eventually become narcissists themselves, like some vampire apocalypse?

Kristin Dombek: That's a story that's told, again and again, online. And it's a compelling one—it must be. The thing is, everyone ends up, at one point or another, thinking that their partner is the narcissist, and they are the empathetic one, right? There are all these moments over the course of an ordinary relationship when your partner (or parent or boss) can look evil, and when you do, to them, too. In the book, I'm trying to tease apart that vulnerable moment when we fear the other's selfishness, and the way our habit of diagnosis overdetermines the moment, encourages us to label things as mental illness when we might be better off sitting in the difficulty without deciding what it is. What happens if we let the psychological language go, and the moral language, without labeling it "selfishness" or "vanity" or, especially, "pathology"? What if, in other words, we're able to let their actions not necessarily be about us? I think there's a lot of sweetness in the moment just after that, sometimes, when we accepted one another's temporary self-absorptions, and them, ours.

Vice: The age-old wisdom that says don't take things too personally.

Kristin Dombek: That's the joke that fearing narcissism always plays on you—when you start calling others assholes, you're giving up on them, and then you're one, too. You're interpreting the actions of others only as they affect you. So while that story about the vampire apocalypse can be true of some relationships, its popularity tells a deeper story about being human, maybe the deepest one. When others look more selfish than we do, that's often the moment when we're most stuck in our own position, mistaking it for the center of the universe.

#narcissism #labels #interviews #personality #psychology #the way we live now #self-esteem #selfishness #other people #other peoples' problems #society

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