#so i won't empower them further by letting their influence transcend their presence

[uncanny-tranny]

The reality of being a survivor is that the person or people who hurt you might just get to live full, rich lives and leave you behind. It's a perverse feeling, and it's true that that is fucked up. It feels like they still control you even when they're out of your life, and you feel trapped. However, you still deserve to be happy, to be fulfilled. Your life hasn't ended because they stole parts of it. They will never truly be able to take the essence of who you are.

Remembering this has taken the edge off of this thought. I won't ever give my abusers that power over me ever again. They never fucking deserved that.

#recovery #abuse #abuse tw #abuse mention tw #you can ABSOLUTELY grieve and be furious. you are entitled to those emotions and i think you're right to feel that way #but don't for a second buy into the idea that you don't deserve a good life. you DO. they fucked up and that's no reflection on you #you deserve so many good things #like... i do wish i could sit down with my abusers and fucking lay into them. but that's not possible #they're living their lives without a single thought as to their actions. they probably don't care that they ruined my life #so i won't empower them further by letting their influence transcend their presence #and that's HARD to do. it take effort and it's a daunting task #i don't blame people if they find that hard to do or think about #but i want to remind you that one day it might be easier. you'll get to a good spot #i believe in your ability to heal however that looks for you